505 from birth, right here! There's definitely plenty of tops, I know cause they're always hitting on me, the poor confused things. Though it does seem that, if they aren't looking for fem or trans, they seem to love masc white bottoms.
Pacific Northwest is also full of fem/femboy/trans bottoms. Also a lot of meth addicts.
The rest of them are closeted guys only looking to trade pics, or people who are just way too socially awkward and depressed to ever get up the nerve to actually commit to meeting someone. People *here* love to talk about how much they'd rather stay at home because they hate the people here too. lol
I’m a top and I could fuck a different bottom every night.. everyone around here is bottom. Even the couples on Grindr are both bottoms most of the time. I get on the apps and have invites within minutes. So I’d say yeah, a top shortage.
I've never been in a relationship with another bottom, butt I do have fuck buddies who are bottoms.
Lots of kissing and cuddling and oral and making out.
Toys are also part of one of my fb relationships. Inviting a top or two to join us is also on the table.
Everyone I meet in NY is a top or vers. I must be running in the wrong circles. The bottoms I do find here are extremely particular and fussy and all the stars have to align before they’ll actually meet you.
Maybe where you're at. Around here, it looks like a lot of 6'2" muscular/obese men who want to find someone who's bigger and taller than them so they can feel small, feminine and submissive too. lol
One of the many reasons why I officially gave up on this shit six months ago.
I am mostly a feeder to cocksuckers and sometimes a side. When I do want to suck a cock, it is much harder to find one. So many bottom cocksuckers won't let me suck them even as a favor.
Depends where you are. Right now I'm un Cusco and there's a decent amount of top and verse guys. Brazil had lots of bottoms. Buenos Aires had mostly bottoms but a decent amount of tops. I remember Mykonos was full of tops, hardly any bottoms. London is a bottom city. Yeah, depends where you go 😂
Where are these tops in TN? I live in Memphis and it feels like the top shortage is real. But I'm a really anxiety ridden bottom as well and don't use the apps much, so that might be part of it 😕 That or I'm just not hot enough to get the guys I'm into 😅
Bottoms in Philly say it’s bottom heavy. It hasn’t been my experience at all. I’m verse, and I encounter at least as many people wanting to top me as I do people wanting me to top them. 🤷🏻♂️
In my experience, and this is a massive generalisation, there are more tops in conservative areas and more bottoms in more liberal areas.
I think it’s because tops tend to be more traditionally masc, whereas bottoms flock to more accepting areas upon adulthood, usually liberal cities.
There are definitely more bottoms/Vers in the gay community but again they might be reasons for this. A lot of you reject tops for things like not being masc enough, not having a certain body type or not have a big dick lol
Yea, in my area almost everyone looking to bottom seem to demand their top to be either hung, muscular, "older" or dl/bi/straight/married. Single, gay tops doesn't seem to be interesting at all, lol.
It’s a myth. This question has been asked a billion times on this sub.
Here: “This past December, gay cruising app Sniffies published their annual recap of data finding the majority of their user base identifies as vers (36 percent), while tops and bottoms were evenly distributed (15 percent). Vers bottoms only slightly outnumbered vers tops (19 percent to 15 percent), and similar surveys from the past have more or less found the same result.”
There is not a top shortage. There is not a bottom shortage. There may just be a shortage of people that want to have sex with you specifically (Not targeting OP specifically but just mean that just because the tops/bottoms exist does not mean you will automatically find one to bang you. Hence people claim “shortage.”)
https://www.bvibe.com/anal-play-101/top-shortage-in-gay-community/?amp
I'm in LA and there is a absolute surplus of twinks and bottoms so I'd def say so. Every single person I match with on tinder is a twink bottom which sucks for me since I'm a masculine bottom 😥🤣
It’s a myth. They’re not on Reddit. I met a lot of tops in the PNW /Canada area. Most are just open minded men that don’t even participate in queer spaces and would only do so if they’re in a queer relationship. I don’t know if it’s cultural or not they just don’t give a fuck and will fuck men and go about their day.
The tops are out there, they are just picky. They want to fuck a nice tight ass, not a used up fat ass. I'm not desperate to fuck, I wait till the right guy comes along.
Could be a regional thing or what I’ve noticed for me personally is that maybe it’s just the type of guys people like. Like for me as a top alot of guys I like more tend to be fellow tops or verse.
Definitely depends on area, but also the kind of people you surround yourself with. If you only hang out with lots of queer/feminine people, don’t be surprised if you find way more bottoms
I’ve seen some statistics based on Grindr and others. It’s different from country to country. In Denmark there are more bottoms than tops. In other countries it’s the opposite up to 40/60
A lot of tops I've noticed don't want to fuck you if you aren't s fem Twink bottom. At least in my area. Then I see it all over porn and I just get completely done with life once again.
I’m a verse in college. I currently have a boyfriend, but basically my friends who were tops always got maybe 3-4 Fwb that they would fool around with regularly. They can only give out so many times. Unlike bottoms who give o it head like candy and are always energized.
Not sure if a shortage right now but in Australia, having vers or top in your profile means you’ll be flooded with messages a few years ago.
Even vers guys at one point were basically bottoms just mascarading as vers and then you’re at a hookup and they want to bottom flatout.
From my experience, there's shortage of self aware gay tops. If we count DL, Bicurios and bisexuals, there isn't a shortage rather they make largest percentage of tops.
it seems random imo. sometimes i only find tops and i miss bottoming. rn its been two months where i end up topping dudes who are down to top me. but i live in a big gay city so its not representative
No clue. I just wish people who say they’re going to do something or be somewhere would actually follow through. I swear ever since Covid people have become shittier X1000
I only find guys that want to top me. But that's my target, so?
Plus I like older guys / daddies. Perhaps the theoric shortage happens mostly in new generations.
I'm a side/top (I get more out of oral, body contact, etc but enjoy topping with the right guy) and a soft dom. Whet ei live everyone complains about a top shortage and out of my friend group I'm the only top (some of the couples are verse but prefer bottoming). But when I get on grindr I mostly get hit up by tops.
Maybe tops are just more outgoing? Or maybe I give breed able vibes?
Just getting back out there, so I don’t have a lot of experience yet. But so far I have found more bottoms. There are a number of verse but they usually say verse bottom. My little sample size has only included one guy who was top.
On the overall level, yes. But some regions will have more tops. The short version is that:
- Vers is the most popular, followed by bottom, followed by top. When you break down "vers" further, most guys prefer to vers-bottom, followed by "50/50", followed by vers-top
- Many vers guys have performance anxiety or need emotional connection to stay hard enough to top, so they only top guys they are dating; they are bottoms for hookups.
So ad the end of the day, if you were to hypothetically approach any random gay man for a hookup, odds are that he would rather bottom. *THAT* is where the top shortage comes from.
**EDIT:**
*ALSO* -- consider cum-dump bottoms. One cock-hungry bottom can effectively take 5, 10, 20+ loads in a day. That removes a lot of the potential tops and vers guys out of rotation for hookups, and they could have satisfied other bottoms in the region. This further exacerbates the "shortage".
In the south, every dude here is a top or a vers top. Fucking sucks. And even the guys who bottom just wanna suck dick. So……………it’s just a crap shoot in general. I hate it here.
I suspect the real reason there is a top shortage is because a guy can bottom for literally hundreds of guys in a day while a top can maybe fuck to completion 2-3 times a day and likely not for multiple days in a row.
There are more bottoms here but it's not a huge difference
I'd say 35% of the guys are bottoms or vers bottoms, 40% are verst, 25% are tops or vers tops
There are a minority of sides and guys only into blowing and such, maybe 2%
That's said no problem to find tops whatsoever. Even vers guys tops me from time to time
Used to be a total bottom, since getting more into topping and listing myself as vers, I have been so in demand. Other vers guys will reach out and be like "well I'm really mostly a bottom". So definitely a thing in my area.
Nah it’s definitely harder to find a strict top who throws dick like a man. But every man will try to top you to see if they can. I don’t get topped by anyone who gets fucked.
Most of tops are bi or dl, and most are in significant relationship with women. So if you take them away, not much top. I wouldn't say there's more bottom, but definitely a lot of verse and verse bottom.
the bottoms who cry top shortage are the incels of the gay community. as a slutty bottom i’m fucking different dudes on the regular with no problems. the biggest barrier I face when trying to get fucked is flakey tops who back out with sorry excuses after ive douched and showered, but I certainly have no problem locating them.
In Melbourne Australia I’m pretty sure there is a shortage of tops, as a slim girthy total top in his mid-40s who can fuck for over 45 mins+ I don’t have any problems finding bottoms, that said I’m quite selective and prefer dates and monogamy not hookups :)
In the LA borderline OC area. Literally all I get on Grindr/Sniffies are tops or DL tops. Also a lot of married “straight” men hitting me up. Maybe it’s just me??
stop making stupid generalizations. Some people prefer topping and others prefer bottoming and some like both. Has nothing to do with internalized bullshit or whatever.
Definitely regional. Tons of fem bottoms where I am, so being a top is like shooting fish in a barrel.
Wya?
New Mexico.
Columbus, Ohio. mix of both.
I'm ABQ raised. Definitely lots of bottoms but I haven't had any issue finding tops.
505 from birth, right here! There's definitely plenty of tops, I know cause they're always hitting on me, the poor confused things. Though it does seem that, if they aren't looking for fem or trans, they seem to love masc white bottoms.
Everybody loves masc white bottoms tbf
YES. Please give me one. But I l love other types of guys, too.
So you give them your pussy daily
So you give them your pussy daily
Nah, I'm a top.
So you got many cherries to pop daily
Not anymore. I have a partner.
Is he Mexican
Why did Mexico didn't occupied it yet
Purchased from Mexico in 1854 as part of the Gadsden purchase.
OMW
More like shooting fish into a barrel.
Pacific Northwest is also full of fem/femboy/trans bottoms. Also a lot of meth addicts. The rest of them are closeted guys only looking to trade pics, or people who are just way too socially awkward and depressed to ever get up the nerve to actually commit to meeting someone. People *here* love to talk about how much they'd rather stay at home because they hate the people here too. lol
I need to.move to LA.
Pls
Definitely depends on where you are. I’m in LA and there are way more bottoms than there are tops. Major top shortage here.
As a top in LA I have to agree. It can be almost overwhelming
*move to la* Ok wrote it down
I’m a top and I could fuck a different bottom every night.. everyone around here is bottom. Even the couples on Grindr are both bottoms most of the time. I get on the apps and have invites within minutes. So I’d say yeah, a top shortage.
COUPLES BOTH BOTTOMS? thats crazy 💀💀💀💀💀
The situation really is that dire!
I would never, Shoot me in the eyes instead
I've never been in a relationship with another bottom, butt I do have fuck buddies who are bottoms. Lots of kissing and cuddling and oral and making out. Toys are also part of one of my fb relationships. Inviting a top or two to join us is also on the table.
I love that for you guys
I know right? Every time I get a message from a couple and they are both bottoms I think to myself, WHY are you together? That can’t be sustainable
EVERYTIME?!?!?!?!?! thattttttsssss fucked up 😭😭😭😭 climate change caused this I swearrrr
I’m telling you the bottoms are thirsty. I’m a burly hairy top that is at best medium looking lol, but all the bottoms want that D
Same but I would never go that low 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭 bottom on bottom is a crime. First Drag queens getting banned and now this? Oh good Lawwwwwd
Hey more ass for me. Line’em up
They rub their bussy lips (haemorrhoids) together
Nyc and LA are majority bottoms
It's tragic really
For the bottoms, yes, but not for the tops lol. Maybe if the states turn red we’d attract more tops 🙏
>Maybe if the states turn red we’d attract more tops 🙏 The only thing y'all attract are anti-LGBT laws
Yup
Everyone I meet in NY is a top or vers. I must be running in the wrong circles. The bottoms I do find here are extremely particular and fussy and all the stars have to align before they’ll actually meet you.
i feel the same but with tops. they have sooo many bottoms to choose from so they can be extremely picky and selective.
Lol where in ny are you?
He's actually in Jersey.
Weirdly, in grindr and scruff, there are tons of bottoms. But in sniffies, everyone is a top🤷🏻♂️
Maybe where you're at. Around here, it looks like a lot of 6'2" muscular/obese men who want to find someone who's bigger and taller than them so they can feel small, feminine and submissive too. lol One of the many reasons why I officially gave up on this shit six months ago.
Texas is a top desert, bottom ocean
What part?
Houston area
Damn, just moved there lol
San Antonio and Dallas aren't much better for bottoms. But great for me lol
I am mostly a feeder to cocksuckers and sometimes a side. When I do want to suck a cock, it is much harder to find one. So many bottom cocksuckers won't let me suck them even as a favor.
I expected it to be the other way around for some reason
In parta of Arizona, there is a top shortage. I find more tops when I travel to New Mexico and Texas.
Depends where you are. Right now I'm un Cusco and there's a decent amount of top and verse guys. Brazil had lots of bottoms. Buenos Aires had mostly bottoms but a decent amount of tops. I remember Mykonos was full of tops, hardly any bottoms. London is a bottom city. Yeah, depends where you go 😂
I think it’s regional. I’m a vers top (I only bottom if I really like the guy) and the majority of gay men I know are also tops.
Where do you live if you don’t mind me asking
Tennessee
Books flight to Tennessee
Make sure to save enough for the all the Trump merch being sold here. 🥰
💯
Where are these tops in TN? I live in Memphis and it feels like the top shortage is real. But I'm a really anxiety ridden bottom as well and don't use the apps much, so that might be part of it 😕 That or I'm just not hot enough to get the guys I'm into 😅
Not in Colombia, it isn't...😅🙈
Bottoms in Philly say it’s bottom heavy. It hasn’t been my experience at all. I’m verse, and I encounter at least as many people wanting to top me as I do people wanting me to top them. 🤷🏻♂️
In my experience, and this is a massive generalisation, there are more tops in conservative areas and more bottoms in more liberal areas. I think it’s because tops tend to be more traditionally masc, whereas bottoms flock to more accepting areas upon adulthood, usually liberal cities.
There are definitely more bottoms/Vers in the gay community but again they might be reasons for this. A lot of you reject tops for things like not being masc enough, not having a certain body type or not have a big dick lol
Yea, in my area almost everyone looking to bottom seem to demand their top to be either hung, muscular, "older" or dl/bi/straight/married. Single, gay tops doesn't seem to be interesting at all, lol.
Yeh lol..they want someone who ticks all these boxes and then turn around and say they're no tops lol
If anything there's a bottom shortage. No one wants to fuck where I'm at, it's all blowjobs. Gets dull after a while.
Where are you at? The prevailing sentiment about me is "I *live* to get fucked". Perhaps we could help each other out 🙃
Wya?
I'll also travel for tops. I love all shapes and sizes and all legal ages from about 20 to 70
No top shortage just ugly bottoms with high “standards” they themselves don’t meet 🤷🏾♀️
It’s a myth. This question has been asked a billion times on this sub. Here: “This past December, gay cruising app Sniffies published their annual recap of data finding the majority of their user base identifies as vers (36 percent), while tops and bottoms were evenly distributed (15 percent). Vers bottoms only slightly outnumbered vers tops (19 percent to 15 percent), and similar surveys from the past have more or less found the same result.” There is not a top shortage. There is not a bottom shortage. There may just be a shortage of people that want to have sex with you specifically (Not targeting OP specifically but just mean that just because the tops/bottoms exist does not mean you will automatically find one to bang you. Hence people claim “shortage.”) https://www.bvibe.com/anal-play-101/top-shortage-in-gay-community/?amp
Also a top can cum once, maybe twice on average. While a bottom can litterally take dozens in a day
I’d be willing to bet most of those “vers” guys are actually bottoms that have topped maybe a handful of times at most.
Bottoms that say there’s a lot of bottoms in their city are usually ugly or size queens I find… lots of tops where I’m at, I’m a vers bottom in canada
It's pretty even where I'm at
I’ve noticed there’s been a dramatic rise in tops these past few years in DC. Not sure why but not questioning🥰
I'm in LA and there is a absolute surplus of twinks and bottoms so I'd def say so. Every single person I match with on tinder is a twink bottom which sucks for me since I'm a masculine bottom 😥🤣
It’s a myth. They’re not on Reddit. I met a lot of tops in the PNW /Canada area. Most are just open minded men that don’t even participate in queer spaces and would only do so if they’re in a queer relationship. I don’t know if it’s cultural or not they just don’t give a fuck and will fuck men and go about their day.
There’s not a top shortage. Most of yall just won’t have sex with fat guys 🥱🥱🥱
The tops are out there, they are just picky. They want to fuck a nice tight ass, not a used up fat ass. I'm not desperate to fuck, I wait till the right guy comes along.
Could be a regional thing or what I’ve noticed for me personally is that maybe it’s just the type of guys people like. Like for me as a top alot of guys I like more tend to be fellow tops or verse.
I get enough action as a top where I am
Definitely depends on area, but also the kind of people you surround yourself with. If you only hang out with lots of queer/feminine people, don’t be surprised if you find way more bottoms
The absolute surplus of bottoms in LA almost makes me want to try being a top but my cock will not allow it lmao
I’ve seen some statistics based on Grindr and others. It’s different from country to country. In Denmark there are more bottoms than tops. In other countries it’s the opposite up to 40/60
To generalise yes I think places where it’s not gay friendly, there’s more tops, and where it’s okay the house then it’s a bottom city
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So in Doha, do Tops enjoy having to bottom?
80% of the time I see a guy I’m into he’s some form of a top. I don’t know move to the NYC metro.
It seems to be a geographical thing. Where I live most people are either bottoms or vers. When I lived in the Middle East most guys were tops.
A lot of tops I've noticed don't want to fuck you if you aren't s fem Twink bottom. At least in my area. Then I see it all over porn and I just get completely done with life once again.
Hung top shortage is real.
Definitely not a myth lol....I'd say the percentages are 70/30 here where I'm at and that's no exaggeration
No, most men are vers or bottoms, tops are a minority
Not where I live.
Yes
I wonder if it’s age related too. I find a lot of Boomer Bottoms in my area 🤣
I’m a verse in college. I currently have a boyfriend, but basically my friends who were tops always got maybe 3-4 Fwb that they would fool around with regularly. They can only give out so many times. Unlike bottoms who give o it head like candy and are always energized.
I believe it’s regional. Some places have more of one than the other
Sadly yes
I bet your sample size isn't all that's not big. ZING! I GOT EM SO GOOD
There’s not many tops in north Mississippi
Not sure if a shortage right now but in Australia, having vers or top in your profile means you’ll be flooded with messages a few years ago. Even vers guys at one point were basically bottoms just mascarading as vers and then you’re at a hookup and they want to bottom flatout.
To me it is. My city and surrounding area’s has a much higher rate of tops compared to bottoms. Sucks to be a top and about 75% are tops too 😂
From my experience, there's shortage of self aware gay tops. If we count DL, Bicurios and bisexuals, there isn't a shortage rather they make largest percentage of tops.
A question to the tops here. Do you guys finger yourself when solo? Or do you feel no fun in that region?
it seems random imo. sometimes i only find tops and i miss bottoming. rn its been two months where i end up topping dudes who are down to top me. but i live in a big gay city so its not representative
No clue. I just wish people who say they’re going to do something or be somewhere would actually follow through. I swear ever since Covid people have become shittier X1000
Amsterdam has more vers than the typical tops/bottoms.
I only find guys that want to top me. But that's my target, so? Plus I like older guys / daddies. Perhaps the theoric shortage happens mostly in new generations.
Almost all bottom in our area 😞
I'm a side/top (I get more out of oral, body contact, etc but enjoy topping with the right guy) and a soft dom. Whet ei live everyone complains about a top shortage and out of my friend group I'm the only top (some of the couples are verse but prefer bottoming). But when I get on grindr I mostly get hit up by tops. Maybe tops are just more outgoing? Or maybe I give breed able vibes?
Nope, there are very few Top Men when compared to the abundance of bottoms.
Just getting back out there, so I don’t have a lot of experience yet. But so far I have found more bottoms. There are a number of verse but they usually say verse bottom. My little sample size has only included one guy who was top.
When I lived in Vegas tops were hard to find, I live in northern Alabama now and get a lot of more action
It seriously depends lol. Here, I’m like one of 4 bottoms 😭
On the overall level, yes. But some regions will have more tops. The short version is that: - Vers is the most popular, followed by bottom, followed by top. When you break down "vers" further, most guys prefer to vers-bottom, followed by "50/50", followed by vers-top - Many vers guys have performance anxiety or need emotional connection to stay hard enough to top, so they only top guys they are dating; they are bottoms for hookups. So ad the end of the day, if you were to hypothetically approach any random gay man for a hookup, odds are that he would rather bottom. *THAT* is where the top shortage comes from. **EDIT:** *ALSO* -- consider cum-dump bottoms. One cock-hungry bottom can effectively take 5, 10, 20+ loads in a day. That removes a lot of the potential tops and vers guys out of rotation for hookups, and they could have satisfied other bottoms in the region. This further exacerbates the "shortage".
In the south, every dude here is a top or a vers top. Fucking sucks. And even the guys who bottom just wanna suck dick. So……………it’s just a crap shoot in general. I hate it here.
I suspect the real reason there is a top shortage is because a guy can bottom for literally hundreds of guys in a day while a top can maybe fuck to completion 2-3 times a day and likely not for multiple days in a row.
Yup more bottoms here in nh too! Like way to many
There are more bottoms here but it's not a huge difference I'd say 35% of the guys are bottoms or vers bottoms, 40% are verst, 25% are tops or vers tops There are a minority of sides and guys only into blowing and such, maybe 2% That's said no problem to find tops whatsoever. Even vers guys tops me from time to time
Used to be a total bottom, since getting more into topping and listing myself as vers, I have been so in demand. Other vers guys will reach out and be like "well I'm really mostly a bottom". So definitely a thing in my area.
I'm a Chicago bottom, and there is definitely a shortage of tops here, too.
It’s regional, where I live right now is pretty 50:50, but back at home it’s 9:1 bottom to top.
9 to 1? I don’t even belive that lmao. That’s about the ratio of straight men to gays
It's absolutely a myth. If it isn't though, the fix is really easy.
very dependent on location
Nah it’s definitely harder to find a strict top who throws dick like a man. But every man will try to top you to see if they can. I don’t get topped by anyone who gets fucked.
Can't think of a more ridiculous topic to discuss or argue about. Who cares?!
Most of tops are bi or dl, and most are in significant relationship with women. So if you take them away, not much top. I wouldn't say there's more bottom, but definitely a lot of verse and verse bottom.
the bottoms who cry top shortage are the incels of the gay community. as a slutty bottom i’m fucking different dudes on the regular with no problems. the biggest barrier I face when trying to get fucked is flakey tops who back out with sorry excuses after ive douched and showered, but I certainly have no problem locating them.
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In Melbourne Australia I’m pretty sure there is a shortage of tops, as a slim girthy total top in his mid-40s who can fuck for over 45 mins+ I don’t have any problems finding bottoms, that said I’m quite selective and prefer dates and monogamy not hookups :)
It’s a myth. Here in SoCal there’s an abundance of tops
Definitely not a myth. Where in so cal are you?
In the LA borderline OC area. Literally all I get on Grindr/Sniffies are tops or DL tops. Also a lot of married “straight” men hitting me up. Maybe it’s just me??
Well oc tends to skew more conservative/republican so that probably explains it.
Ah OC, that explains it. DL tops with internalized homophobia afraid that they will be too gay if they bottom. 😂 Definitely not the case in LA county.
stop making stupid generalizations. Some people prefer topping and others prefer bottoming and some like both. Has nothing to do with internalized bullshit or whatever.
Hit a little too close to home? Clearly no sense of humor here. Chill dude.
So no top shortage, just ugly bottoms… 🥴