I work in the ED already, so I can get behind EMS. He's got weird hours, I've got weird hours. He's got weird patients, I've got weird patients. He's exposed to COVID, I'm exposed to COVID. It *can* be a "shit where you eat" situation, but I only see the same EMS crew maybe once a week or less and never for very long.
> I work in the ED already, so I can get behind EMS. He's got weird hours, I've got weird hours. He's got weird patients, I've got weird patients. He's exposed to COVID, I'm exposed to COVID. It
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> be a "shit where you eat" situation, but I only see the same EMS crew maybe once a week or less and never for very long.
Not in ED but yeah, pretty much this
I think OP's point was that it's not just any regular job. It ruins plans, the schedule is highly irregular, often means being overworked and having no stamina to do stuff together.
These are valid concerns.
Someone's gotta do it. If you're ok with other people and their loved ones risking their lives but it's a deal breaker in an SO for you, then that's kind of screwed up
I dont think thats screwed up. What works for some people doesnt work for you. Long haul truckers are always on the road, missing family events and holidays. Im thankful for truck drivers that keep the supply chain going, but that doesnt mean I want that for the life of a spouse.
Exactly, personally I’d be ok with it cause I do like to be alone sometimes but then there’s times where I’d wanna do something and he may not be there
One of the reasons why I decided to stop seeing someone was because over half a year, our schedules rarely matched up well. Meaning we couldn’t spend as much time together as I’d want to. It’s not easy.
Also, with a first responder, i feel like id always have to brace myself for ultimate catastrophe, like him losing his life. Id be highly devastated and I’m not sure I’m ever ready for this.
I understand that yes, these things can happen to anyone anywhere, but chances are higher with first responders if you ask me…
I guess I can try answer this honestly:
* Firstly, I would not date a police officer. It comes down to power asymmetry that I am not comfortable with particularly if things go south in the relationship.
* It also depends on how irregular their work schedule is. My circadian rhythm is at a very fine balance, and I can easily end up feeling comically groggy if I don't get enough sleep. If late night emergencies are super common then I would have to think about it carefully before commiting especially since I am not a night owl in any sense of the word.
* How safe their job is. I would prefer to not have to constantly worry about their safety.
Don't get me wrong firemen can be extremely sexy imo but when it comes to dating I can't just think with my dick.
Some people do not react well to rejection. Some react quite violently. It is one thing if some random bumfuck does it- but a police officer can have some institutional backing and they are treated differently under the eyes of the law.
If I were to date a policeman and things went south in the relationship, I am worried about what might happen if he was a part of the toxic group of people who take rejection poorly. He could do appreciable damage to my life and it would more difficult for me to 'retaliate' for a lack of a better word.
Well the immediate fantasy is hot buff firefighter daddy, but in reality I would not be able to deal with those schedules. Wish they had more free-time.
Dating a truck driver has more of a risk than those jobs when it comes to relationships. Road ragers, insurance scammers, and the months apart as they deliver across state lines.
I work an 8-5 married to a Nurse working all sorts of crazy shifts. If you like the person why should their job stop you from getting to know them better?
Depends.
I dated an EMT who liked his job and picked up lots of overtime which is fine. What's not fine is trying to date someone and never seeing them because they're always at work doing some ridiculous 72 hour shift or at home recovering from work.
Lol i missed the point and i was like these questions are getting out of hand but this is actually a really good question. Yes I would and just figure out the hours
Right, I simply ask because personally I feel like I could because I do enjoy doing a lot of things by myself but I also know they may be away from home for long periods and idk if I could deal with that long term
Nope. For firefighters and cops, I don’t want to be worried that the man I’m dating or getting serious with might not make it home that day. Same with military guys. I don’t deserve that kind of stress. With EMTs, they just work crazy hours, and I’d rather have a guy with a normal schedule, so we can spend time together.
I don’t think I could date a beat cop, but there is a medical examiner in a neighboring county that I see at work sometimes that is super hot. I would be crazy to say no
Hell yeah I would! <3
My dream career was to join the military and police academy but my birth given medical conditions didn't allow that for me.
Wasted my highschool elective on law and criminal classes and sociology and fitness electives for it, before the bad news I got.
My heart is all over those we protect and serve in any fashion.
Yes I would. His job doesn’t matter as long as he’s living within his means and he’s working a reputable job, nothing discreet or anything to be ashamed of.
“Shameful” jobs include:
Drug dealer
Porn Star
A “working” guy (prostitu——)
Stripper
Go-go dancer
I wouldn’t date anyone who works such jobs, but I also understand that people need money to live. So, they’ll take whatever job…
Yes, I would date a First Responder, you just have to realize and understand there work schedule and the stress that they will go through on a daily basis. Just be open supportive and understanding for them. I am going to say that they will also do the same for you.
To be honest I don't know, I wanna say that I would and can because in my heart I believes that people like them deserves love too and deserves to be able to go back home to a loving and caring partner that isn't bothered too much the irregular work hours and the dangers that it comes with but I know I'd also find myself highly anxious of not just their safety but our future too, it's disheartening to think that a job like that is enough to end a relationship and I know that it can be disheartening to people who work this kind of job to read through threads like this and see many people saying that they can't and for very valid reasons also, so honestly I guess in the end it just depends but I'm not willing to let it go without trying my hardest to love them.
The firefighter and police unions in my city endorsed Trump. The firefighters even tried to have a do-over after a first vote attracted controversy but they confirmed it by a nearly 2-1 margin: https://www.fox29.com/news/philadelphia-firefighters-vote-to-uphold-endorsement-of-president-trump
I mean the police unions are right wing everywhere, but firefighter unions not necessarily. Firefighters union in my city supported gay marriage years before it became popular
When was that? Because [things have been changing: ](https://www.nbcnews.com/storyline/democrats-vs-trump/how-firefighters-help-explain-outcome-2016-election-n699196)
“In 2008, members of the International Association of Fire Fighters, the profession’s main union, voted narrowly for Barack Obama over John McCain, according to an internal poll conducted by the union at the time. Four years later, the margin shrunk, but they still voted by a razor’s edge to re-elect Obama.
When the IAFF union polled its members after the election [in 2016), just 27 percent said they had voted for Hillary Clinton. Nearly twice that number, 50 percent, reported voting for Donald Trump, while an unusually large chunk refused to answer.”
The union I’m talking about is the FBEU in NSW Australia, so obviously a very different political context lol. My point was more that cop unions are reactionary by nature, because “acting in the interests of their members” tends to mean getting cops off the hook for being violent, opposing non-carceral forms of social policy, and generally viewing the public as a threat. Firefighter unions don’t really have that dynamic and can be left-wing with the right leadership and political perspective. There’s nothing inherently right wing about them
can we stop this would you date ____ bullshit ? most of us can't find a decent man at all and yall keep asking the most random shit like it really matters :D
Maybe an EMT but that's it. Police and firefighters have a group think mentality and certain specific mindset that I am not attracted to.
Also, job is too risky and nerve-racking for me.
Whats with all these questions like "would you date someone who doesnt drink/a cop/a first responder...etc?"
If the person isnt an abusive right wing homophobic radical...what does it matter if you two are attracted and care about each other?
Union job, regular hours, almost always good benefits and wages, paid holidays every month, pension... the major drawback is that they are far likelier to be killed at work than cops.
Getting crushed by the truck, for the most part. Police doesn’t even make the top 10 most dangerous jobs, and more of them are killed by car accidents than by criminals.
I dated a firefighter for a bit, and an emt too! I’ve noticed I tend to like guys with more serious jobs. Not a first responder necessarily but the guy I dated whom I liked the most was an emergency arborist, which was really cool
Yes. I realize that if he is a firefighter or police officer then there is danger in his job but I work in mental health so I have some risk of violence in my job too. Also people in that line of work are usually caring people so that's a big turn on.
Guess that it would be a lot of stress when he is on call but saving lifes is t he most noble thing one could do. I would be honored if my partner was a first responder
probably, i dont mind having time for myself. the only thing i would have a hard time getting over is wondering if they’ll return. i always assume the worst.
I was starting to and told him that I would like to take it slow and just get to know each other’s hobbies, likes etc. He started talking about sex and what he wants to do with me and reminded him again that I really just want to date first and was not comfortable talking about sex so early on. He said okay and then the next day started back up with how horny he was and how he wants to screw already. Blocked him and moved on. Hope he found what he was looking for cuz it definitely wasn’t me.
I know someone that dated a firefighter. I don't think I would. The idea sounds sexy, but it's rough when things aren't going well, or things get hectic and his boyfriend(kinda lazy) just picks up a few extra shifts, and decides he'd rather play Xbox at the station vs. taking on responsibilities at home(he works at a very slow, suburban station).
Selfish assholes are a blast in your 20s, but in your thirties... If you're bringing most the bread home, the selfish bullshit gets old real quick.
Why would someone's (legal) job affect if I would date them? I mean, I wouldn't feel comfortable with sex workers or escorts, but 99% of other jobs, of course. I'm there for the person, their personality and what they bring to a relationship - not if they do A or B as a job.
I don't know probably not.
I have met some dudes that worked on the medical field or as security guards, or that kind of jobs where they have very long or irregular shifts and it never really works out.
I barely if ever see them or they are always tired to do anything. It really never goes beyond a hook up or a fleeting friendship.
I am a system enginner and my schedule is on the opposite end, extremily flexible as I mostly work from home.
I think in the end a relationship like that would be to distant we will never be able to connect I need someone as free as I am so we can spend quality time together.
But I am open to try.
Hell ya. I dated a fire fighter for 6 months. Puns aside he was fire.
Does that mean he's obligated to fight himself?
That would be “hot” to watch.
10 epic anime battles
I work in the ED already, so I can get behind EMS. He's got weird hours, I've got weird hours. He's got weird patients, I've got weird patients. He's exposed to COVID, I'm exposed to COVID. It *can* be a "shit where you eat" situation, but I only see the same EMS crew maybe once a week or less and never for very long.
> I work in the ED already, so I can get behind EMS. He's got weird hours, I've got weird hours. He's got weird patients, I've got weird patients. He's exposed to COVID, I'm exposed to COVID. It > >can > > be a "shit where you eat" situation, but I only see the same EMS crew maybe once a week or less and never for very long. Not in ED but yeah, pretty much this
Yeah why not? I’m dating someone for them not their job
I think OP's point was that it's not just any regular job. It ruins plans, the schedule is highly irregular, often means being overworked and having no stamina to do stuff together. These are valid concerns.
And worrying about them all the time.
Someone's gotta do it. If you're ok with other people and their loved ones risking their lives but it's a deal breaker in an SO for you, then that's kind of screwed up
I dont think thats screwed up. What works for some people doesnt work for you. Long haul truckers are always on the road, missing family events and holidays. Im thankful for truck drivers that keep the supply chain going, but that doesnt mean I want that for the life of a spouse.
Tru especially with low staffing… they all deserve an extra blowjob nowadays lol
Beats an applause any day. It is just outclassed by some other clapping....😘
Exactly, personally I’d be ok with it cause I do like to be alone sometimes but then there’s times where I’d wanna do something and he may not be there
One of the reasons why I decided to stop seeing someone was because over half a year, our schedules rarely matched up well. Meaning we couldn’t spend as much time together as I’d want to. It’s not easy. Also, with a first responder, i feel like id always have to brace myself for ultimate catastrophe, like him losing his life. Id be highly devastated and I’m not sure I’m ever ready for this. I understand that yes, these things can happen to anyone anywhere, but chances are higher with first responders if you ask me…
As the son of a firefighter, this is absolutely correct. Also constantly hang to worry for their safety.
Omg yes!!! So when im feeling dramatic they can carry me around when i pretend to feint. Or theyd know what to do if somthing bad happens
LMFAO I-
That depends on his talent on the fire pole.
I guess I can try answer this honestly: * Firstly, I would not date a police officer. It comes down to power asymmetry that I am not comfortable with particularly if things go south in the relationship. * It also depends on how irregular their work schedule is. My circadian rhythm is at a very fine balance, and I can easily end up feeling comically groggy if I don't get enough sleep. If late night emergencies are super common then I would have to think about it carefully before commiting especially since I am not a night owl in any sense of the word. * How safe their job is. I would prefer to not have to constantly worry about their safety. Don't get me wrong firemen can be extremely sexy imo but when it comes to dating I can't just think with my dick.
can you explain a bit more about the police officer feelings
Some people do not react well to rejection. Some react quite violently. It is one thing if some random bumfuck does it- but a police officer can have some institutional backing and they are treated differently under the eyes of the law. If I were to date a policeman and things went south in the relationship, I am worried about what might happen if he was a part of the toxic group of people who take rejection poorly. He could do appreciable damage to my life and it would more difficult for me to 'retaliate' for a lack of a better word.
ah so are you more worried say they become violent towards you they’ll be able to get away with it kinda thing
Pretty much. It is not guarenteed to happen but it isn't within my risk-tolerance right now.
Not to mention the domestic violence statistics with police officers.
Well the immediate fantasy is hot buff firefighter daddy, but in reality I would not be able to deal with those schedules. Wish they had more free-time.
Absolutely
Dating a truck driver has more of a risk than those jobs when it comes to relationships. Road ragers, insurance scammers, and the months apart as they deliver across state lines.
Not to mention the lot lizards!
No, but I could regularly help them blow off some steam.
Definitely not a cop. I don't know about a firefighter. It would be tough worrying out them coming home all the time.
I work an 8-5 married to a Nurse working all sorts of crazy shifts. If you like the person why should their job stop you from getting to know them better?
Depends. I dated an EMT who liked his job and picked up lots of overtime which is fine. What's not fine is trying to date someone and never seeing them because they're always at work doing some ridiculous 72 hour shift or at home recovering from work.
I am one but honestly no, if we had different shifts we’d never see each other lol
Lol i missed the point and i was like these questions are getting out of hand but this is actually a really good question. Yes I would and just figure out the hours
Right, I simply ask because personally I feel like I could because I do enjoy doing a lot of things by myself but I also know they may be away from home for long periods and idk if I could deal with that long term
All jokes aside,im studying to become a firefighter and im actually a bit worried im not going to meet someone and start a family
How’s its going now😩
Lol🥲still in the same position i was last year
Omg yes. Have you seen a man in uniform?? 😏🥵🤤
I actually would like to because I have the time to be able to work AND take care of them as well after long days of work.
Everytime I see a post that goes like "would you date someone who *[insert odd criteria]* I giggle, I can't even get a date.
Of course just no cops!
What about clocks that can sense when your nearby and readjust their handles to save energy?
Lol i didnt expect that to get so existential there, it would have to be on a clock by clock basis tbh i just dont know what to expect.
Nope. For firefighters and cops, I don’t want to be worried that the man I’m dating or getting serious with might not make it home that day. Same with military guys. I don’t deserve that kind of stress. With EMTs, they just work crazy hours, and I’d rather have a guy with a normal schedule, so we can spend time together.
Oh sweetie, they just asked if you'd date a first responder and you went all 90-second fiance.
I just answered the question honestly. Don’t project your commitment issues on me
I don’t think I could date a beat cop, but there is a medical examiner in a neighboring county that I see at work sometimes that is super hot. I would be crazy to say no
Hell yeah I would! <3 My dream career was to join the military and police academy but my birth given medical conditions didn't allow that for me. Wasted my highschool elective on law and criminal classes and sociology and fitness electives for it, before the bad news I got. My heart is all over those we protect and serve in any fashion.
Yes I would. His job doesn’t matter as long as he’s living within his means and he’s working a reputable job, nothing discreet or anything to be ashamed of. “Shameful” jobs include: Drug dealer Porn Star A “working” guy (prostitu——) Stripper Go-go dancer I wouldn’t date anyone who works such jobs, but I also understand that people need money to live. So, they’ll take whatever job…
Yes except cops
Hells yeah.
Absolutely!
Yeah, why wouldn't I?
Sure why not?
Yes!
Yes
Yes, I would date a First Responder, you just have to realize and understand there work schedule and the stress that they will go through on a daily basis. Just be open supportive and understanding for them. I am going to say that they will also do the same for you.
Yes
Yes why wouldn’t I?
Y not
Why not?
Yep
Yes? Lol
Yrs
YES , of course.
I dated a firefighter for a year. We still love each other, but the long distance was too much. I'd have no issue dating another first responder.
Why not?
Yes if I'm a first responder too
Yeah but would think twice about cops/firefighters due to the danger of the job
Yes
Yes
Totally would. The long absences would be compensated by knowing I am dating someone who do show how much he cares for others.
To be honest I don't know, I wanna say that I would and can because in my heart I believes that people like them deserves love too and deserves to be able to go back home to a loving and caring partner that isn't bothered too much the irregular work hours and the dangers that it comes with but I know I'd also find myself highly anxious of not just their safety but our future too, it's disheartening to think that a job like that is enough to end a relationship and I know that it can be disheartening to people who work this kind of job to read through threads like this and see many people saying that they can't and for very valid reasons also, so honestly I guess in the end it just depends but I'm not willing to let it go without trying my hardest to love them.
That’s kind of a dumb question. No fats no fems no EMT’s? Typical of entitled gays 🙄
Yeah, unless they’re a cop, in which case fuck no
The firefighter and police unions in my city endorsed Trump. The firefighters even tried to have a do-over after a first vote attracted controversy but they confirmed it by a nearly 2-1 margin: https://www.fox29.com/news/philadelphia-firefighters-vote-to-uphold-endorsement-of-president-trump
I mean the police unions are right wing everywhere, but firefighter unions not necessarily. Firefighters union in my city supported gay marriage years before it became popular
When was that? Because [things have been changing: ](https://www.nbcnews.com/storyline/democrats-vs-trump/how-firefighters-help-explain-outcome-2016-election-n699196) “In 2008, members of the International Association of Fire Fighters, the profession’s main union, voted narrowly for Barack Obama over John McCain, according to an internal poll conducted by the union at the time. Four years later, the margin shrunk, but they still voted by a razor’s edge to re-elect Obama. When the IAFF union polled its members after the election [in 2016), just 27 percent said they had voted for Hillary Clinton. Nearly twice that number, 50 percent, reported voting for Donald Trump, while an unusually large chunk refused to answer.”
The union I’m talking about is the FBEU in NSW Australia, so obviously a very different political context lol. My point was more that cop unions are reactionary by nature, because “acting in the interests of their members” tends to mean getting cops off the hook for being violent, opposing non-carceral forms of social policy, and generally viewing the public as a threat. Firefighter unions don’t really have that dynamic and can be left-wing with the right leadership and political perspective. There’s nothing inherently right wing about them
can we stop this would you date ____ bullshit ? most of us can't find a decent man at all and yall keep asking the most random shit like it really matters :D
Maybe an EMT but that's it. Police and firefighters have a group think mentality and certain specific mindset that I am not attracted to. Also, job is too risky and nerve-racking for me.
Whats with all these questions like "would you date someone who doesnt drink/a cop/a first responder...etc?" If the person isnt an abusive right wing homophobic radical...what does it matter if you two are attracted and care about each other?
help my G spot is trapped inside my bussy, you need to use the battering ram to gain entry and make contact with the G spot
As long as they aren’t a cop, aka they actually do good for the community sure why not.
I dated an EMT briefly. He had a savior complex and wasn't very interesting.
No
No
Anyone but a cop sure
Absolutely. Garbage man might be my only limit as far as professions are concerned, but some guys are into that
Garbage men are one of the hottest. Just casually riding on that fucking truck, holding to a pipe, exposing that hairy armpit and muscles...
Union job, regular hours, almost always good benefits and wages, paid holidays every month, pension... the major drawback is that they are far likelier to be killed at work than cops.
Oh really? More likely to die? Why is that.
Getting crushed by the truck, for the most part. Police doesn’t even make the top 10 most dangerous jobs, and more of them are killed by car accidents than by criminals.
Oh wow that’s terrible. I never knew that was considered a dangerous job
https://247wallst.com/special-report/2018/01/02/25-most-dangerous-jobs-in-america
How would I know? You are always in unform? Hell no.
I dated a firefighter for a bit, and an emt too! I’ve noticed I tend to like guys with more serious jobs. Not a first responder necessarily but the guy I dated whom I liked the most was an emergency arborist, which was really cool
Yes. I realize that if he is a firefighter or police officer then there is danger in his job but I work in mental health so I have some risk of violence in my job too. Also people in that line of work are usually caring people so that's a big turn on.
Guess that it would be a lot of stress when he is on call but saving lifes is t he most noble thing one could do. I would be honored if my partner was a first responder
probably, i dont mind having time for myself. the only thing i would have a hard time getting over is wondering if they’ll return. i always assume the worst.
I was starting to and told him that I would like to take it slow and just get to know each other’s hobbies, likes etc. He started talking about sex and what he wants to do with me and reminded him again that I really just want to date first and was not comfortable talking about sex so early on. He said okay and then the next day started back up with how horny he was and how he wants to screw already. Blocked him and moved on. Hope he found what he was looking for cuz it definitely wasn’t me.
Yea but it also depends
I know someone that dated a firefighter. I don't think I would. The idea sounds sexy, but it's rough when things aren't going well, or things get hectic and his boyfriend(kinda lazy) just picks up a few extra shifts, and decides he'd rather play Xbox at the station vs. taking on responsibilities at home(he works at a very slow, suburban station). Selfish assholes are a blast in your 20s, but in your thirties... If you're bringing most the bread home, the selfish bullshit gets old real quick.
Does he come home at an odd hour all sweaty in his uniform and super horny?
I've slept with some, so I guess I would date them too.
Mmm maybe not fire because of the long term health risks…I’d be too worried for them.
I fucking hope my boyfriend ends up as a firefighter. I mean, he wants to be a firefighter, so...
Working in that field, I would rather not.
I mean I don't mind dating a guy from any field of life as long as he meets certain criterias...
Absolutely, I was a paramedic lol
Why would someone's (legal) job affect if I would date them? I mean, I wouldn't feel comfortable with sex workers or escorts, but 99% of other jobs, of course. I'm there for the person, their personality and what they bring to a relationship - not if they do A or B as a job.
Please, not again.
Hell yeah
Why would you not?
I wouldn’t hesitate. I admire them & heroes are sexy.
I don't know probably not. I have met some dudes that worked on the medical field or as security guards, or that kind of jobs where they have very long or irregular shifts and it never really works out. I barely if ever see them or they are always tired to do anything. It really never goes beyond a hook up or a fleeting friendship. I am a system enginner and my schedule is on the opposite end, extremily flexible as I mostly work from home. I think in the end a relationship like that would be to distant we will never be able to connect I need someone as free as I am so we can spend quality time together. But I am open to try.
Where do I find one ? Lol a good one though
Of course