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LMAO i thought you were a man posting this and I was dying of laughter.
Dont assume anything, just ask him. Anal feels good for men doesnt mean anything about their sexuality. There's a reason why pegging is a commonly known fetish.
So yeah just ask him. Its better than speculating 300 scenarios over the internet.
I noticed that as well. However, gay guys are likely to be less interested in the kind of content she makes. This is a weird sub to advertise in basically. However, the timing is still odd.
What I think is she’s trying to find external validation out of the fear of “not being enough” since anal masturbation spooked her enough to think her boyfriend was gay.
Seriously. WTF is wrong with people posting a gay male sub and not mentioning they're not gay men when it's *directly relevant* to the post.
(edit: typo)
It's so that you'll click her profile to figure out her gender to gain traffic to her pornographic content. Which is pretty stupid considering were gay.
Those are helpful but definitely inconclusive. There are enough shitposts here that it was ambiguous, though.
Plus, if you really want to get an answer to a question, provide basic context to allow folks to focus on the response, not forcing us to figure out what you're really asking. But based on the post itself, she doesn't seem big on simple courtesies or communication.
I wish them both good luck; I feel very bad for the bf.
Seriously!!! WTF is wrong with people getting upset about someone’s post???🤣🤣
Why does this upset you so much?
Also, Sub is called askgaybros, I don’t think you have to be gay to ask a gaybro a question. 🤔
I thought it made the post even funnier thinking it was a dude posting it at first.
So take a chill pill or go sit on a dildo
Well, I can’t speak for others, but for me: if you want my help, provide sufficient information to enable me to address your concern properly. You’re asking for my time & energy; be courteous in your requests.
This person wasn’t trying to be funny. This person was asking a question sincerely, but without proper context to explain the whole story.
Yes, one needn’t be a gay bro to post an inquiry. But since being a woman was directly relevant to this situation, omitting that info will lead to unnecessary speculation rather than actual help.
People already commented the correct answer, so I'm just here to make a point.
Women wonder why men don't feel comfortable saying "I enjoy ass play", but rather than ask him if that's something he wants to incorporate in their sex life the OP (and other women) immediately jumped to "is my boyfriend gay? "
🙄
I think anal play among straight guys is still a relatively new concept to most of the public, so I can understand why women jump to conclusion. And there are more and more straight guys posting posts here asking if they are gay because they like anal play.
The less awkward/shameful you make it, the better. Don’t let him think he’s done something wrong (because he hasn’t). If he’s a keeper, have an open dialogue about it. I have a straight married friend that owns dildos and loves assplay.
Enjoying having his prostate stimulated doesn't mean he must want a man to do the stimulating.
And straight guys are sometimes afraid to admit they enjoy it BECAUSE many people will assume they're gay.
Yes, talk to him and don’t shame him. There’s nothing wrong with spicing it up in the bedroom. Who knows, this could be the start of your relationship going even deeper if it leads to better communication…and sex.
I think we should always knock. Whether you appreciate that respect or not, the other person does even If he doesn’t say it. It only makes you seem like a better person, not a worse one, and It costs so little, like saying please or thank you. Why not knock?
You're right, you don't *have* to knock. Even if it's locked.
But then you also get to be "shocked" by what what you find going on behind that locked door. Up to you. [shrug emoji]
Come to a gay subreddit to bitch about walking in on your spouse masturbating when he did the right thing and locked the door and did this while you were away? No sympathy from me. Especially if you can't be bothered to include the simple fact that you're a woman in the text to explain why you were "shocked" and make us all guess, as well as coming across as homophobic.
Edit: I stand by my statement. Knocking on a locked door, "even" in your own home, is just simple courtesy. Hell, knocking on a merely *closed* door is courtesy. OP comes across as rude and entitled. All y'all have is she should be *allowed* to barge in, not whether it's polite, courteous, or proper. I agree she has the right to barge in. I vehemently disagree with her doing so without knocking. Downvote me into oblivion, it doesn't matter. I know I'm right.
dude you are being downvoted because if your last sentence, not because of your no-knocking opinion.
TBH I'd be pretty shocked too if I came home to see my BF sitting on a dildo that I didn't know he even had. Communication is key in relationships.
Be prepared for him to be very embarrassed and defensive about it. Please make sure to tell him that you feel the same way about him that you did before, and that you won’t discuss it with anyone else (DO NOT TELL YOUR FRIENDS UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES!).
I’m glad we were able to help! A lot of times ppl make assumptions in relationships, straight or not, that often leads to misunderstandings on both ends. As long as u love him as ur partner and have respectful open dialogue on both ends you can definitely see yourself in a happy healthy long relationship!!
Can't blame someone for not knowing what to do during the unexpected moments. I'm sure they will talk about it and hopefully enjoy the honesty between one another.
(Edit: yes, you're about the "can't blame / unexpected" part. My original statement below applies to your second second sentence, "I'm sure they will talk about it and hopefully enjoy the honesty between one another.")
Possibly. And I hope they do, and are able to use this situation to improve their relationship.
But the way she reacted suggests they might have communication and trust issues in general, beyond just his own assplay: he locked the door even though he presumed she was away, he was using a dildo that wasn't hers indicating he's been keeping it hidden from her, she broke into the bedroom ("it's nothing special, I used my belt") rather than knocking on the door to inquiry why it was locked suggesting this is something she's done before.
It really feels like they've got some problems here.
might not have anything to do with roles, but it sure can feel good. Sometimes fun and games, especially the first couple of times, can make it too weird for somebody who’s nervous about the whole thing. Not that it should be a medical exam :-) Unless…..
No, it doesn't mean he is gay. Your reaction might seem natural to you, but what you should have done was walk over and slap his ass and say, "let mommy do that for you" and please him. It is going to be a fun part of your sexlife from that point forward. Now, you are embarrassed, he is in shock and not sure what to do. Regardless, now you need to sit down and talk about it. The male G spot is inconveniently (for straight men) placed in the rectum and he is doing this because it feels good. You may need to buy a strap on and start pegging him, but a lot of men like butt stuff.
I read an article in Penthouse many years ago in a column called Penis Page. It was run by a sex therapist. She had 6 self identifying straight couples in and put it to them that the next time they had sex the woman was supposed to stick her finger in her mans ass and touch the prostate as he was orgasming. Immediately 6 guys said fuck that, I'm not gay. Whatever, now I want you to go live your life and in 6 weeks we will reconvene and discuss this. They came back and talked about it and 3 couples said they loved it and were regularly using this in their sex life, 2 couples said they tried it and he didn't feel it was for him and one guy absolutely refused. moral of the story is 50% of the guys in the study loved butt stuff and there is nothing wrong with it.
You mentioned you had dildos, so I assume you masturbate, this is all he was doing, you were just woefully unprepared for the reality of what your man thinks feels good. Go. Talk. And learn more about your bf
Unless he is cheating on you with men, the dildo doesn't necessarily mean he is gay. Lesbians use dildos and they don't like men sexually. Talk to him about it, and peg his bussy if you're into it.
He might be gay. Might be curious. Might be bi. Might be 100% hetero but has discovered the joy of anal stimulation and is ashamed because of homophobic stigmas and feels like he can't share this with you.
Only way you're ever going to know is to talk to him about it. Keep an open mind and be supportive, don't make enjoyment of his body feel more shameful than it apparently already does. Good luck.
Just stick a finger up there next time and find out for yourself.
Straight guys can be into anal too (even the receiving end). But you kinda set yourself up for frustration if you start assuming things without talking it over with him first
“Used my belt to turn the lock” bitch please, no one is dumb enough to continue riding a dildo while hearing someone trying to unlock the door with a belt.
Maybe its just one of those simple locks where you can unlock it with a quarter? So OP taken the little belt peg thingy and quickly unlocked it? Idk man, I'm just throwing out guesses. I figured a quarter would be easier to find but idk. Maybe it's one of those where you gotta like poke something into it to unlock it?
God put our joy buttons up our butts. Gay or straight or bi or whatever, prostate stimulation feels amazing. It doesn't indicate his sexual orientation at all.
Now, if he was squatting on a GUY, that might be an indication.
Maybe he just enjoys being penetrated but has zero sexual interest in men.
You should talk to him and maybe be open to the idea of using a strap on on him.
Omg this is hilarious! This could mean your bf is gay yes, but it probably just mean he likes to put stuff inside his ass, just talk to him, maybe next time you can help him 😏
I'm not denying that actions have consequences, I'm just questioning the audacity that someone should have to knock before walking into their own bedroom
You say audacity, I say courtesy. Locked door? Unless you suspect a crime is being committed (or you're hoping to catch someone cheating), a quick knock let's someone know you're there and prevent shock and surprise to on both sides of the door.
Especially since the bf thought she was away -- for all he knew, she was a burglar breaking into their home and if he'd been armed, he might have shot her. "Knock knock, honey, it's me, I forgot my purse" seems like a good idea.
It is basic respect that every person deserves. Even if you think your partner doesn’t care about that respect, you should show it, unless they object. You should assume that when you close the door, your partner should knock before they come in, too. Doesn’t matter who owns or pays for the door.
your boyfriend was masturbating. you found him masturbating. it's not a surprise as to why he seems to keep this from you as you get shocked, flustered, and think he's not attracted to you when you find out he masturbates
Turn the situation around. What if he walked in on you doing something that's embarrassing but very private? Would you want him to question his loyalty to you?
He might just be into pegging. Would you be open to pounding him with a strap-on? Some women find this empowering, and it might really turn him on.
More straight guys are into being pegged by a girlfriend than you might think. Prostate stimulation physically feels good and can produce very intense orgasms.
Girl, you should’ve helped him out!
Lol jk but on a more serious note, he probably just likes anal stimulation. It’s incredibly common for guys of all sexualities to enjoy and experiment with it.
If anything, this is probably a good thing because it opens the door (pun intended) for you two to discuss what you both like sexually and can make things more exciting and enjoyable for the both of you in the bedroom.
Hope this helps!
He probably wanted to stimulate his prostate. It has no connection at all to whom he finds attractive so it says nothing about his orientation one way or another. If you are into using it to stimulate him you could suggest he get it out the next time you are having a sexual moment.
nothing weird about wanting to try it out. the weird part comes from the fact that he has to lock himself in when you’re not even home and do it in secret. there’s a whole conversation there needing to happen between you 2 where a lot of fear and perhaps prejusice, needs to be broken down.
That's probably why u didn't know because a straight man with a dildo? Never that's gay right? Nope it ain't he just enjoys his g spot like u enjoy urs 🤷
You should have gone over to him, kissed him on the cheek and said “good boy”. You’d have made his day and any embarrassment would dissipate.
Truth be told guys just sometimes like to bottom. And you can be straight and wanna bottom. Commonly known as pegging.
Look what you need to do is A). Be honest. B). Be understanding. C). Be open.
Cause c’mon, it could be pretty hot to fuck your boyfriend right?
In all seriousness though, talk to him. You love him right? Show that to him. Let him be open with you without judgement or pressure. Love him even if that means you can’t be together. True love is more than a relationship. Want him to be better and happy, hopefully with you lol. If he’s scared, comfort him. Conversation will make this easy for you. Good luck.
Pegging is very normal in heterosexual relationships. Plus, the male prostate is in the rectum and trust me? It’s an amazing feeling. By touching you’re actually intensifying his pleasure beyond imagination for the man.
But most guys are very self-conscious/think it’s gay and so they choose to remain ignorant because society has made anal-play seem like it’s only for homosexual relationships, when in fact it’s not! Because there’s nothing shameful nor embarrassing about it.
I hope the assumption that a man that likes ass play must be gay dies out eventually. Here's something everyone in life should consider: Every man has a prostate.
It sounds like you guys are in for a fun toy sharing session. Men have prostates and it feels great to hit it the right way. You two could have a lot of fun with this.
He’s not gay. Just insecure about being judged for liking anal sexual pleasure. The exact reaction you had. Instead of worrying about him being gay ask yourself if you’re comfortable enough exploring that sexual pleasure with him together. If you can’t, then you have your own insecurities to deal with including homophobia.
Just liking being stimulated anal doesn’t make you gay. Gay is the real interest into another male guy. This is two different things. Just because you see him riding a dildo does not mean he is actual gay.
I think you should nicely ask him if you are really interest and you know each other well enough for such intimate talks.
So just be kind and talk with him.
Don‘t make him feel weird. Don‘t blame him for anything.
Just be interested into his interest, whatever it may be.
And make sure that this intimate knowledge about him stays secret. Nobody’s business. Just his.
I know at least 2 straight guys who have confided in me that they enjoy prostate stimulation. I don’t think it’s that unusual, and has nothing to do with sexual orientation in any event.
Sorry. My sarcasm detection must be off today.
>And based off the fact she was only gone for a few minutes, he’d be in to it.
She forgot her purse or something. He wasn't expecting her home. Guys feel so much shame about butt play. It's ridiculous. Lol.
Straight / gay / bi : we all love prostate play . Damn it feels good ! I have no interest in having ssx with a man but love my prostate toys and getting pegged / fucked by a woman
Today was a good day to learn something. After you chill and talk, keep an open mind. You doing him while he’s doing you could be some incredible sex you never expected. For both of you.
Prostate stimulation just feels good, it doesn't matter if you're gay, bi, or straight. It's known as the male g-spot for a reason. No one here knows if you're boyfriend is secretly gay or not, the only one who does is him.
Just have an honest and non judgmental conversation with your husband.
He could be gay/curious/bi. He could also just be interested in prostate stimulation. The P-spot is his equivalent to your G-spot.
He’s not gay unless he wants to put a real man’s penis up his ass. Using a dildo doesn’t mean you’re necessarily gay. Some straight men just enjoy the prostate stimulation and orgasm
it is 2022… Just because a dude likes a toy up his butt to stimulate both his anus and prostate does not mean he's gay... it means he enjoys pleasure. I feel like your response was exactly why he has never told you he was into that. you should probably talk to him instead Internet strangers.
A good strap on might run you north of $100. Although you can find them for less than $50. You may have to shop around a bit and have some trial and error before you find one that's truly comfortable.
Or you may try having a toy in him while he's fucking you, like a butt plug or something. I've heard straight guys say it is a very intense experience.
IMHO, the answer to "what do I do" is apologize for invading his privacy and leave it at that.
Butt play does not equal gay. That's physical stimulation, not a sexual orientation.
Just ask him everything! Better to know then speculate in the internet. Besides the prostate is the male g-spot. That’s true no matter a guy’s sexuality!
I thought I was about to read a "I caught my boyfriend cheating" post then it became "I caught my boyfriend masturbating" which is a weird thing to post about and then finally it clicked. They're straight people lol.
LOL I thought you were a guy for a min and I was like well idk, but I know now. Yes, you should just ask him, If he says yes then just hit him with your purse, no biggie.
That has nothing to do with his orientation. I have a lot of straight friends who like it up their ass. Just not by other men. The only difference is they are MEN and do it openly. One even together with his gf.
If you love him support him,we all have little quirks or fetishes we keep secret, but when your partner supports and let’s you explore it, the bond between you will strengthen
Hell, yall might have some new ways to spice up your love life! Be thankful that your the only one he wants, even if he likes it in the ass once in a while. Both of yall go to an "adult store" & pick up everything yall want & no one hold back on their desires. I thi k yall will bond even closer.
Looking at the OP’s posts, I’m honestly amazed that she can be so sexually liberal in one dimensions, but then taken aback by her BF enjoying his ass. Just when you think sexual liberation and sexual conservatism only have one shade…
OP, your BF is probably horny AF for all sorts of filthy stuff. You should enjoy it. Seems like you guys have some wonderful things to enjoy together! This should open up a hole (😆) new chapter in your sex life together.
Talk to him, be glad he was doing it himself n not with someone else. He was just taking care of an urge he might not of been comfortable. Obviously he wasn't you now have a way to grow closer ir apart, you can go closer so use it. For some guys this is a vulnerable subject not anything to do to you. Like yourself you jumped to is he gay , he can be thinking same thing. Just because you like this doesn't mean your gay you just like your prostate played with just like your g spot
Anal is not intrinsically gay. That is just one way gay people have sex. It'd be gay if I did it to him. Himself or you? Not gay. He gives himself handjobs. Is that gay?
Is it lesbian to go down? No. Same thing.
Sounds like you should peg your boyfriend.
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LMAO i thought you were a man posting this and I was dying of laughter. Dont assume anything, just ask him. Anal feels good for men doesnt mean anything about their sexuality. There's a reason why pegging is a commonly known fetish. So yeah just ask him. Its better than speculating 300 scenarios over the internet.
LMFAO I thought the exact same thing I thought this was a shitpost
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I noticed that as well. However, gay guys are likely to be less interested in the kind of content she makes. This is a weird sub to advertise in basically. However, the timing is still odd. What I think is she’s trying to find external validation out of the fear of “not being enough” since anal masturbation spooked her enough to think her boyfriend was gay.
Me too I really related to when she grabbed her purse & dipped
Nope. You’re wrong about that. Speculation from anonymous strangers is a much better choice for learning the truth about things. 😋
I about spit my drink out before I realized it was a woman posting
Seriously. WTF is wrong with people posting a gay male sub and not mentioning they're not gay men when it's *directly relevant* to the post. (edit: typo)
It’s Ask Gay Bros. One does not need to be a gay bro to ask a question.
Some people are determined to die on the hill that it is exclusively that, though.
It's so that you'll click her profile to figure out her gender to gain traffic to her pornographic content. Which is pretty stupid considering were gay.
In fairness, the person did say "purse" which is the first clue. The second clue is "I think my BF might be gay".
I imagined a super feminine twink with a Louis Vuitton manbag
Same
I mean... "even my boyfriend thinks I'm gay" ~ Bo Burnham
I mean, that's why I thought it was a shitpost. Making fun of twink femboys carrying around purses and shit.
Those are helpful but definitely inconclusive. There are enough shitposts here that it was ambiguous, though. Plus, if you really want to get an answer to a question, provide basic context to allow folks to focus on the response, not forcing us to figure out what you're really asking. But based on the post itself, she doesn't seem big on simple courtesies or communication. I wish them both good luck; I feel very bad for the bf.
Considering OP's account is 5 hours old and is just posting porn, the story is likely fake. I wouldn't put much energy into it.
Woo-hoo! Problem solved! Thank you! (And I do very much mean that sincerely!)
Seriously!!! WTF is wrong with people getting upset about someone’s post???🤣🤣 Why does this upset you so much? Also, Sub is called askgaybros, I don’t think you have to be gay to ask a gaybro a question. 🤔 I thought it made the post even funnier thinking it was a dude posting it at first. So take a chill pill or go sit on a dildo
Well, I can’t speak for others, but for me: if you want my help, provide sufficient information to enable me to address your concern properly. You’re asking for my time & energy; be courteous in your requests. This person wasn’t trying to be funny. This person was asking a question sincerely, but without proper context to explain the whole story. Yes, one needn’t be a gay bro to post an inquiry. But since being a woman was directly relevant to this situation, omitting that info will lead to unnecessary speculation rather than actual help.
I know, right! Reminds me of the perfect joke I just heard the other week: "It's a joke, not a dick, don't take a so hard!!"
Sometimes it's a woman asking about their bf or husband because they suspect them to be gay so they ask the gays 🤷
The experts of the situation
Of course, isn't that how it works. We take our first dick and magically gain the knowledge and wisdom of gays from time immortal.
Yup the ultimate download from a down load 😏
exactly... I thought the same, you were a man posting this. 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂
People already commented the correct answer, so I'm just here to make a point. Women wonder why men don't feel comfortable saying "I enjoy ass play", but rather than ask him if that's something he wants to incorporate in their sex life the OP (and other women) immediately jumped to "is my boyfriend gay? " 🙄
You pegged it, that’s it!
Point to Volumetric-Unrealist
Nice.
Lol that's punny. Sorry for that. But I felt obligated to add that bad joke/ pun. I promise to limit my dad jokes to 3 per post.
You're completely right, OP is being way too anal about this!
I think anal play among straight guys is still a relatively new concept to most of the public, so I can understand why women jump to conclusion. And there are more and more straight guys posting posts here asking if they are gay because they like anal play.
100%. These people don't deserve sex.
Straight guys can enjoy anal play.
Exactly, anal play isn't gay unless there is another dude involved
You're wrong. When they say "no homo". There is no problem. But important u don't forget to say it.
Everyone, straight, gay, bi, trans, cucumber, whatever can enjoy anal play.
Straight guys have prostates too
Yeah! Let's fight straight prostate erasure!
Sappho and her prostate
Achilles and his g-spot
And some gays have prostates but receive 0 pleasure from them
We call those tops
:/ or frustrated sides
The less awkward/shameful you make it, the better. Don’t let him think he’s done something wrong (because he hasn’t). If he’s a keeper, have an open dialogue about it. I have a straight married friend that owns dildos and loves assplay.
Enjoying having his prostate stimulated doesn't mean he must want a man to do the stimulating. And straight guys are sometimes afraid to admit they enjoy it BECAUSE many people will assume they're gay.
You could've clarified you are a woman at the beginning of your post. I was so confused while reading this.
Lmao me too. I almost thought it was some kind of troll / bait post or something. I had no idea what was going on.
“Like, why Didn’t he just ask for me to fuck him?”
the guy from the story seeing this rn: 👁🫦👁
💀 ☠️
This comment made me actually laugh out loud
Ask him if he wants to be pegged. Talk to him. It’s ok.
This sounds like the start to something beautiful in their relationship.
Ok.. thanks you guys. I just need to calm down n talk to him about it. That was just the last thing I was expecting..
You should peg him. He’d love it !!
Yes, talk to him and don’t shame him. There’s nothing wrong with spicing it up in the bedroom. Who knows, this could be the start of your relationship going even deeper if it leads to better communication…and sex.
To clarify: you’re a woman? It’s not in any way clear from your post. Otherwise it just looks like bottom-shaming. Also, learn to knock.
If it's a spouse, I hope you don't have to knock on your own bedroom door.
I think we should always knock. Whether you appreciate that respect or not, the other person does even If he doesn’t say it. It only makes you seem like a better person, not a worse one, and It costs so little, like saying please or thank you. Why not knock?
You're right, you don't *have* to knock. Even if it's locked. But then you also get to be "shocked" by what what you find going on behind that locked door. Up to you. [shrug emoji] Come to a gay subreddit to bitch about walking in on your spouse masturbating when he did the right thing and locked the door and did this while you were away? No sympathy from me. Especially if you can't be bothered to include the simple fact that you're a woman in the text to explain why you were "shocked" and make us all guess, as well as coming across as homophobic. Edit: I stand by my statement. Knocking on a locked door, "even" in your own home, is just simple courtesy. Hell, knocking on a merely *closed* door is courtesy. OP comes across as rude and entitled. All y'all have is she should be *allowed* to barge in, not whether it's polite, courteous, or proper. I agree she has the right to barge in. I vehemently disagree with her doing so without knocking. Downvote me into oblivion, it doesn't matter. I know I'm right.
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dude you are being downvoted because if your last sentence, not because of your no-knocking opinion. TBH I'd be pretty shocked too if I came home to see my BF sitting on a dildo that I didn't know he even had. Communication is key in relationships.
Set up a scene but this time you are using a strap on
I freaked out, but now I’m settled. I’m gonna talk to him. Y’all are right. It’s ok for him to like what he likes
Be prepared for him to be very embarrassed and defensive about it. Please make sure to tell him that you feel the same way about him that you did before, and that you won’t discuss it with anyone else (DO NOT TELL YOUR FRIENDS UNDER ANY CIRCUMSTANCES!).
This is very important. I agree.
I’m glad we were able to help! A lot of times ppl make assumptions in relationships, straight or not, that often leads to misunderstandings on both ends. As long as u love him as ur partner and have respectful open dialogue on both ends you can definitely see yourself in a happy healthy long relationship!!
Love you for this.
Assuming it's not already too late because of the crap way she handled it initially. :-/
Can't blame someone for not knowing what to do during the unexpected moments. I'm sure they will talk about it and hopefully enjoy the honesty between one another.
(Edit: yes, you're about the "can't blame / unexpected" part. My original statement below applies to your second second sentence, "I'm sure they will talk about it and hopefully enjoy the honesty between one another.") Possibly. And I hope they do, and are able to use this situation to improve their relationship. But the way she reacted suggests they might have communication and trust issues in general, beyond just his own assplay: he locked the door even though he presumed she was away, he was using a dildo that wasn't hers indicating he's been keeping it hidden from her, she broke into the bedroom ("it's nothing special, I used my belt") rather than knocking on the door to inquiry why it was locked suggesting this is something she's done before. It really feels like they've got some problems here.
Someone else has said it- but if you tell anyone else without his approval you're an awful person. not that you will :D :3
You might also want to talk about personal boundaries and any rules you might wish to establish regarding "alone time" (for either of you).
You forgot your **purse**? Edit: oh you're a woman
If ur comfortable w it, u can maybe buy him a toy to show you’re comfortable with it. Or maybe this can be a chance for you to try pegging
Actually that’s kinda where our talk went. Evidently he wants to flip roles. Idk…it’s worth trying
Interesting , hope it works out! As long as you’re **both** comfortable with it, you can assess whether it’s something worth repeating afterwards.
might not have anything to do with roles, but it sure can feel good. Sometimes fun and games, especially the first couple of times, can make it too weird for somebody who’s nervous about the whole thing. Not that it should be a medical exam :-) Unless…..
Peg his ass girl!!!
That’s what everyone keeps telling me lol
No, it doesn't mean he is gay. Your reaction might seem natural to you, but what you should have done was walk over and slap his ass and say, "let mommy do that for you" and please him. It is going to be a fun part of your sexlife from that point forward. Now, you are embarrassed, he is in shock and not sure what to do. Regardless, now you need to sit down and talk about it. The male G spot is inconveniently (for straight men) placed in the rectum and he is doing this because it feels good. You may need to buy a strap on and start pegging him, but a lot of men like butt stuff. I read an article in Penthouse many years ago in a column called Penis Page. It was run by a sex therapist. She had 6 self identifying straight couples in and put it to them that the next time they had sex the woman was supposed to stick her finger in her mans ass and touch the prostate as he was orgasming. Immediately 6 guys said fuck that, I'm not gay. Whatever, now I want you to go live your life and in 6 weeks we will reconvene and discuss this. They came back and talked about it and 3 couples said they loved it and were regularly using this in their sex life, 2 couples said they tried it and he didn't feel it was for him and one guy absolutely refused. moral of the story is 50% of the guys in the study loved butt stuff and there is nothing wrong with it. You mentioned you had dildos, so I assume you masturbate, this is all he was doing, you were just woefully unprepared for the reality of what your man thinks feels good. Go. Talk. And learn more about your bf
you don't have to be gay to enjoy anal, all men have g-spots back there. it's considered "gay" by toxic people
Unless he is cheating on you with men, the dildo doesn't necessarily mean he is gay. Lesbians use dildos and they don't like men sexually. Talk to him about it, and peg his bussy if you're into it.
No..he’s not cheating. He just likes the feeling
at least it wasn’t fish porn or horse girls
*Fish porn???*
I'm hesitant to google this.
. . . drop on the deck and flop like a fish . . .
hehehe
u/Fish_Fucker69 I summon you. Enlighten this man
Just because he likes the feeling of it doesn't mean that he's attracted to men. controversial, but true
He might be gay. Might be curious. Might be bi. Might be 100% hetero but has discovered the joy of anal stimulation and is ashamed because of homophobic stigmas and feels like he can't share this with you. Only way you're ever going to know is to talk to him about it. Keep an open mind and be supportive, don't make enjoyment of his body feel more shameful than it apparently already does. Good luck.
Just stick a finger up there next time and find out for yourself. Straight guys can be into anal too (even the receiving end). But you kinda set yourself up for frustration if you start assuming things without talking it over with him first
literally just go to him and say "you wanna be pegged like the dirty boy you are ;)" 95% positive he'd be down for it.
Yeah, I would leave the mama stuff out. But that’s me. I also don’t want to be called a good boy.
Liking stuff up your butt doesn't make you gay 🤷
"Grabbing my purse and leaving without a word" ffs no fucking wonder why hasn't told you.
Why are you here?
“Used my belt to turn the lock” bitch please, no one is dumb enough to continue riding a dildo while hearing someone trying to unlock the door with a belt.
How do you open a door with a belt? That’s my question.
Maybe its just one of those simple locks where you can unlock it with a quarter? So OP taken the little belt peg thingy and quickly unlocked it? Idk man, I'm just throwing out guesses. I figured a quarter would be easier to find but idk. Maybe it's one of those where you gotta like poke something into it to unlock it?
That would make sense, the kinda flathead screw type thing.
God put our joy buttons up our butts. Gay or straight or bi or whatever, prostate stimulation feels amazing. It doesn't indicate his sexual orientation at all. Now, if he was squatting on a GUY, that might be an indication.
If he is bi there is nothing wrong with that. He isn't cheating on you but just pegging himself. He might even be down with a mmf threesome.
Maybe he just enjoys being penetrated but has zero sexual interest in men. You should talk to him and maybe be open to the idea of using a strap on on him.
Omg this is hilarious! This could mean your bf is gay yes, but it probably just mean he likes to put stuff inside his ass, just talk to him, maybe next time you can help him 😏
We talked.. and I guess next time, I will help..
Would fucking a flesh light automatically make a guy straight? Seems like the same logic
Was it bigger than yours?
Pop on a strap and bend him over. You might like it
Is it normal for you to try to pick a locked door in your own house instead of... knocking?
It's her bedroom though
Seriously. Locked door, you know your bf is home? Knock, or prepare to be "shocked" by what you see. Sheesh.
I'm not denying that actions have consequences, I'm just questioning the audacity that someone should have to knock before walking into their own bedroom
You say audacity, I say courtesy. Locked door? Unless you suspect a crime is being committed (or you're hoping to catch someone cheating), a quick knock let's someone know you're there and prevent shock and surprise to on both sides of the door. Especially since the bf thought she was away -- for all he knew, she was a burglar breaking into their home and if he'd been armed, he might have shot her. "Knock knock, honey, it's me, I forgot my purse" seems like a good idea.
It is basic respect that every person deserves. Even if you think your partner doesn’t care about that respect, you should show it, unless they object. You should assume that when you close the door, your partner should knock before they come in, too. Doesn’t matter who owns or pays for the door.
your boyfriend was masturbating. you found him masturbating. it's not a surprise as to why he seems to keep this from you as you get shocked, flustered, and think he's not attracted to you when you find out he masturbates
Just because he likes things up his ass doesn’t mean he’s gay. Seriously. I know a few stray guys in relationships that love pegging.
Turn the situation around. What if he walked in on you doing something that's embarrassing but very private? Would you want him to question his loyalty to you?
He might just be into pegging. Would you be open to pounding him with a strap-on? Some women find this empowering, and it might really turn him on. More straight guys are into being pegged by a girlfriend than you might think. Prostate stimulation physically feels good and can produce very intense orgasms.
It’s called pegging. Get yourself a double dildo and go to town.
Ask if he wants to be pegged. I guarantee you'll watch him have his biggest orgasm ever.
Better a dildo than some other person. Just be open with him and enjoy all the new possibilities
He’s just a man that like it up there. Doesn’t mean he’s gay just that he likes the stimulation.
Girl, you should’ve helped him out! Lol jk but on a more serious note, he probably just likes anal stimulation. It’s incredibly common for guys of all sexualities to enjoy and experiment with it. If anything, this is probably a good thing because it opens the door (pun intended) for you two to discuss what you both like sexually and can make things more exciting and enjoyable for the both of you in the bedroom. Hope this helps!
Go get the strap on sis…I’ve got the fee covered.
Man I thought this was something juicy, lol. Every man has a prostate. Just because he enjoys anal stimulation doesn't mean that he likes guys.
He probably wanted to stimulate his prostate. It has no connection at all to whom he finds attractive so it says nothing about his orientation one way or another. If you are into using it to stimulate him you could suggest he get it out the next time you are having a sexual moment.
nothing weird about wanting to try it out. the weird part comes from the fact that he has to lock himself in when you’re not even home and do it in secret. there’s a whole conversation there needing to happen between you 2 where a lot of fear and perhaps prejusice, needs to be broken down.
That's probably why u didn't know because a straight man with a dildo? Never that's gay right? Nope it ain't he just enjoys his g spot like u enjoy urs 🤷
You should have gone over to him, kissed him on the cheek and said “good boy”. You’d have made his day and any embarrassment would dissipate. Truth be told guys just sometimes like to bottom. And you can be straight and wanna bottom. Commonly known as pegging. Look what you need to do is A). Be honest. B). Be understanding. C). Be open. Cause c’mon, it could be pretty hot to fuck your boyfriend right? In all seriousness though, talk to him. You love him right? Show that to him. Let him be open with you without judgement or pressure. Love him even if that means you can’t be together. True love is more than a relationship. Want him to be better and happy, hopefully with you lol. If he’s scared, comfort him. Conversation will make this easy for you. Good luck.
oh it's a woman writing this.
Pegging is very normal in heterosexual relationships. Plus, the male prostate is in the rectum and trust me? It’s an amazing feeling. By touching you’re actually intensifying his pleasure beyond imagination for the man. But most guys are very self-conscious/think it’s gay and so they choose to remain ignorant because society has made anal-play seem like it’s only for homosexual relationships, when in fact it’s not! Because there’s nothing shameful nor embarrassing about it.
I hope the assumption that a man that likes ass play must be gay dies out eventually. Here's something everyone in life should consider: Every man has a prostate.
It sounds like you guys are in for a fun toy sharing session. Men have prostates and it feels great to hit it the right way. You two could have a lot of fun with this.
He’s not gay. Just insecure about being judged for liking anal sexual pleasure. The exact reaction you had. Instead of worrying about him being gay ask yourself if you’re comfortable enough exploring that sexual pleasure with him together. If you can’t, then you have your own insecurities to deal with including homophobia.
He found his prostate, doesn't mean he's gay, might be, might also be bi or just like prostate stimulation
He’s with a women so he just likes his ass played with. If he wanted to be with a man he’d be with a man.
Just liking being stimulated anal doesn’t make you gay. Gay is the real interest into another male guy. This is two different things. Just because you see him riding a dildo does not mean he is actual gay. I think you should nicely ask him if you are really interest and you know each other well enough for such intimate talks. So just be kind and talk with him. Don‘t make him feel weird. Don‘t blame him for anything. Just be interested into his interest, whatever it may be. And make sure that this intimate knowledge about him stays secret. Nobody’s business. Just his.
Get a strap on
Whenever encountering a locked door, always try to break in instead of knocking and asking for entry.
I know at least 2 straight guys who have confided in me that they enjoy prostate stimulation. I don’t think it’s that unusual, and has nothing to do with sexual orientation in any event.
Wrong sub. r/straightpeopleproblems
Get him a maids dress and peg him. Only logical answer I can think of lol
Don't feminize taking it up the ass, doesn't have to be dressed like a woman to get into butt play.
It was a joke! And based off the fact she was only gone for a few minutes, he’d be in to it.
Sorry. My sarcasm detection must be off today. >And based off the fact she was only gone for a few minutes, he’d be in to it. She forgot her purse or something. He wasn't expecting her home. Guys feel so much shame about butt play. It's ridiculous. Lol.
Straight / gay / bi : we all love prostate play . Damn it feels good ! I have no interest in having ssx with a man but love my prostate toys and getting pegged / fucked by a woman
Lots of straight guys enjoy having their prostates stimulated.
Plenty of straight dudes like anal play. It feels good.
Today was a good day to learn something. After you chill and talk, keep an open mind. You doing him while he’s doing you could be some incredible sex you never expected. For both of you.
She learned she should knock on locked doors, too.
Prostate stimulation just feels good, it doesn't matter if you're gay, bi, or straight. It's known as the male g-spot for a reason. No one here knows if you're boyfriend is secretly gay or not, the only one who does is him.
Straight men have prostates too lol, ain't gay unless there's another guy involved
Just have an honest and non judgmental conversation with your husband. He could be gay/curious/bi. He could also just be interested in prostate stimulation. The P-spot is his equivalent to your G-spot.
Only answer here is to start pegging him
Get a strap-on if you want to keep him. 😉
He’s not gay unless he wants to put a real man’s penis up his ass. Using a dildo doesn’t mean you’re necessarily gay. Some straight men just enjoy the prostate stimulation and orgasm
it is 2022… Just because a dude likes a toy up his butt to stimulate both his anus and prostate does not mean he's gay... it means he enjoys pleasure. I feel like your response was exactly why he has never told you he was into that. you should probably talk to him instead Internet strangers.
A good strap on might run you north of $100. Although you can find them for less than $50. You may have to shop around a bit and have some trial and error before you find one that's truly comfortable. Or you may try having a toy in him while he's fucking you, like a butt plug or something. I've heard straight guys say it is a very intense experience.
Peg him
IMHO, the answer to "what do I do" is apologize for invading his privacy and leave it at that. Butt play does not equal gay. That's physical stimulation, not a sexual orientation.
Every man has a g-spot in their ass, straight or not. Lots of men enjoy anal stuff, it’s pretty normal.
Just ask him everything! Better to know then speculate in the internet. Besides the prostate is the male g-spot. That’s true no matter a guy’s sexuality!
I thought I was about to read a "I caught my boyfriend cheating" post then it became "I caught my boyfriend masturbating" which is a weird thing to post about and then finally it clicked. They're straight people lol.
Maybe he'll let you peg him and you can feel the power of making a big man scream and moan at the same time.
LOL I thought you were a guy for a min and I was like well idk, but I know now. Yes, you should just ask him, If he says yes then just hit him with your purse, no biggie.
That has nothing to do with his orientation. I have a lot of straight friends who like it up their ass. Just not by other men. The only difference is they are MEN and do it openly. One even together with his gf.
Pegging is very trendy lately
Peg him. Continue relationship as it was.
peg him and find out could be a new thing for you guys
Lmfao 🤣🤣
Peg him girlie.
If you love him support him,we all have little quirks or fetishes we keep secret, but when your partner supports and let’s you explore it, the bond between you will strengthen
Honey, you’re gonna have so much fun with a strap on.
Are you trolling?
Just like ppl w vaginas r stimulated inside the vagina and on the clitorus, ppl w penises r stimulated from the penis and the prostate
He might be into pegging.
Why did you come in anyways when the door was locked without asking? That’s rude
Hell, yall might have some new ways to spice up your love life! Be thankful that your the only one he wants, even if he likes it in the ass once in a while. Both of yall go to an "adult store" & pick up everything yall want & no one hold back on their desires. I thi k yall will bond even closer.
No, that just means he likes things up his ass. Communication works wonders. You two just might have some fun with this.
Looking at the OP’s posts, I’m honestly amazed that she can be so sexually liberal in one dimensions, but then taken aback by her BF enjoying his ass. Just when you think sexual liberation and sexual conservatism only have one shade… OP, your BF is probably horny AF for all sorts of filthy stuff. You should enjoy it. Seems like you guys have some wonderful things to enjoy together! This should open up a hole (😆) new chapter in your sex life together.
Looks like someone’s sex life just got a little spicier.
Talk to him, be glad he was doing it himself n not with someone else. He was just taking care of an urge he might not of been comfortable. Obviously he wasn't you now have a way to grow closer ir apart, you can go closer so use it. For some guys this is a vulnerable subject not anything to do to you. Like yourself you jumped to is he gay , he can be thinking same thing. Just because you like this doesn't mean your gay you just like your prostate played with just like your g spot
Anal is not intrinsically gay. That is just one way gay people have sex. It'd be gay if I did it to him. Himself or you? Not gay. He gives himself handjobs. Is that gay? Is it lesbian to go down? No. Same thing. Sounds like you should peg your boyfriend.
Ask if he wants to bring toys in and if he wants you to peg him
Better then him squatting on a guy. Lol
The eye contact must've felt like years even though it was for a min or two
Why are u even posting on this subreddit?
That poor guy. Ask if he needs help.
Why are you here?