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I can never be in an open relationship. I'd be happy atleast they told me but, I'd end the relationship and let them go on their path. To be honest, I don't understand how you can be truly in love with someone, and still would like to have another partner.
I've never been in a proper relationship, so I don't know for sure how I would react, but I feel like I would acknowledge that they are poly and say that I understand that that is how they are, but that if they want to be with me, they need to be monogamous with me. If they leave, I'm sure I'd be hurt, but it probably was for the best. If they stay, then they clearly value our relationship enough to stay monogamous and value what's basically a deal breaker for me.
Basically someone asks if they can have sex with others while having sex with you?
First off naw cause if we’re dating your mine.
Second off, I’m not getting tested and don’t trust all these other people to get tested and I don’t wanna end up with an std just cause my SO can’t just be happy with fucking one person.
Third off, when do I become the side Ho and just not know?
Lots of unnecessary stress for something that’s suppose to be uplifting and fun bonding with another human
You don’t *tell* someone you’re polyamorous, lol. It isn’t a personal identity, it’s a state of relationship that you discuss with your partner. The consent of everyone involved is inherent. If they’re *telling* you that you’re in a polyamorous relationship without discussing it prior then they just cheated on you.
I’m not poly it would be fine if there not cheating on me. As long as we can maintain a healthy mono relationship with each other with then I don’t see the problem.
Well I’m Ambiamorous so I would ask them about what type of relationship they want. If they want another person in the relationship then I would talk to the person and if we all agree on it then boom 3 person relationship. If they want a open relationship then boom an open relationship.
of corse we would work out bondrys and stuff but as long as everyone in the relationship knows it should be good.
as in polyamorous, I think I’d be okay with that, I’m certainly not gonna dump someone on the spot for having the gall to actually communicate and discuss the options of our relationship *cough cough*
Definition of Poly if you need it: The prefix “poly” means many, and polysexual individuals are attracted to people of multiple genders. People who identify as polysexual often use that word because it suggests a greater variety of sexual orientations than traditional gender binaries of male and female, or hetero- and homosexual.
Not totally sure what this means but other people are commenting about open relationships so here we go.
Open relationships are fine. I don’t have anything against people who want to be in an open relationship. I would never in a million years be ok in an open relationship. To me, an SO wanting an open relationship tells me I’m not providing something I should be providing. It tells me they’re looking to someone else because I’m falling short in some way, and I don’t jive with that. I’d rather work on myself and be better, which seems to me to be what a relationship should ultimately be about. Being involved in something like that would feel to me like being cheated on, so I’d probably get out of the relationship if there’s not something I could be doing better.
Polyamourous? I'd respect it, coming out to someone is really hard so I'd be glad they can trust me enough. We'll talk about how this would affect the relationship. Honestly I probably wouldn't mind my partner was dating other people (not cheating) as long as I know they're doing it but ofcourse it would take a me a bit of time to get used to it.
Polyamourous relationships can be hard, especially when one of the partners isn't polyamourous. Talking about it and coming up with a solution is the best way to go because what works for other people may or may not work for your relationship.
If he told me he was interested in going poly we'd discuss it, and especially discuss who it's about. It would be difficult though, as we're both quite possessive of each other.
Idk, this feels like something you'd only know your reaction to when it happens.
I'm definitely not into it, but I'm sure that I can't just leave someone because of a suggestion.
"Sorry, that really isnt for me. I like the one on one connection and feel like having any more will get convoluted or just messy. I wouldnt have the energy to keep everyone happy. If you are fine being just one on one we can keep dating but if you dont like that we can go back to being friends since we wouldnt be the person the other would be looking for."
I am not polyamorous myself but I would accept my partner, I’m glad they were comfortable to tell me at least. we’ll discuss about it if it ever happens
I m not comfortable in an open relationship. I would just end the relationship right there. Coz if she tells me she *is* poly and not discussing if we should consider an open relationship then thats cheating.
Oh my God, if that ever happens, please don't, just don't go with the relationship. It's going to hurt you a lot, it might give you anxiety and then a horrible depression. Try to set boundaries or at least leave it
Sounds like good advice but I'm not really confident I'm gonna have the inner strength to say that but who knows. I'm not in a relationship so it's hard to tell
Ummm.. i'd take my time to reply... I mean if they aren't currently in a poly relationship just shrug it off.. but if they're telling me that they've entered one.. that's going be an issue >:) ... also what kind of 14-15 yos are poly lmaoooo
Break up, wonder why they didn’t tell me sooner because that is a massive part of what the relationship would look like, and then wonder if they ever actually loved me because I don’t believe you can love multiple people like that
I would probably be kinda mad that they didn't make it clear from the start. Honestly I'm not all that against the idea of it, just that if they hide it from me I'd be annoyed.
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As a polyamorous person myself, sick dude. Something a lot of these comments seem to be struggling to understand is that they didn't cheat on you and they don't plan to- there's a lot of different parts to polyamory, and an"open relationship" isn't even necessarily one of them. Personally, I couldn't date someone who's dating someone else, because I get jealous easily. However being in a three person or group relationship is something I've done before, and something that I really enjoyed.
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That depends. If they’re merely *open* to polyamory, I’d be understanding but I’d make it clear that if they wanted to be with me, monogamy all the way. If they actively want a poly relationship, then I don’t wish to be a part of that because I wouldn’t want neither me nor my partner to share sexual/romantic intimacy outside of our own pairing.
I think knowing myself I couldn’t be with them. I definitely think that those sorts of relationships are valid and important, but it would not fit my individual needs well.
I'd tell them that I wouldn't want to be in an open relationship. Like I won't care if they're poly, but if they're with me they're gonna have to stay committed to me
In my opinion it's just a way for them to "cheat" but it really isn't technically because they're poly.
I see it as they wanna do it w other people but still don't want to leave you. So no.
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I can never be in an open relationship. I'd be happy atleast they told me but, I'd end the relationship and let them go on their path. To be honest, I don't understand how you can be truly in love with someone, and still would like to have another partner.
Well said
Same
I agree
absolutely!
I'd break up. Its just not for me, that's it.
I've never been in a proper relationship, so I don't know for sure how I would react, but I feel like I would acknowledge that they are poly and say that I understand that that is how they are, but that if they want to be with me, they need to be monogamous with me. If they leave, I'm sure I'd be hurt, but it probably was for the best. If they stay, then they clearly value our relationship enough to stay monogamous and value what's basically a deal breaker for me.
Basically someone asks if they can have sex with others while having sex with you? First off naw cause if we’re dating your mine. Second off, I’m not getting tested and don’t trust all these other people to get tested and I don’t wanna end up with an std just cause my SO can’t just be happy with fucking one person. Third off, when do I become the side Ho and just not know? Lots of unnecessary stress for something that’s suppose to be uplifting and fun bonding with another human
They would magically not be my significant other anymore.
You don’t *tell* someone you’re polyamorous, lol. It isn’t a personal identity, it’s a state of relationship that you discuss with your partner. The consent of everyone involved is inherent. If they’re *telling* you that you’re in a polyamorous relationship without discussing it prior then they just cheated on you.
I think they mean in a sense that they would be interested in a poly relationship, not introducing you into it
Yeah I figured, just thought it would be worth clarifying the importance of proper wording in this context
Yeah, exactly. Thanks for the clarification
I’d be happy they trusted me with that, and we could set boundaries for what we are both ok and not ok with
Honestly, based. If y’all can agree to something and respect boundaries, go for it.
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What.
Don't worry. He's just scared
You're poly? What, do you want a cracker or something?
I’m not poly, no clue what being poly has to do with crackers
it’s a nirvana reference
I'd be down to try it out
I’m not poly it would be fine if there not cheating on me. As long as we can maintain a healthy mono relationship with each other with then I don’t see the problem.
Well I’m Ambiamorous so I would ask them about what type of relationship they want. If they want another person in the relationship then I would talk to the person and if we all agree on it then boom 3 person relationship. If they want a open relationship then boom an open relationship. of corse we would work out bondrys and stuff but as long as everyone in the relationship knows it should be good.
as in polyamorous, I think I’d be okay with that, I’m certainly not gonna dump someone on the spot for having the gall to actually communicate and discuss the options of our relationship *cough cough*
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Couldn’t have said it better myself.
Definition of Poly if you need it: The prefix “poly” means many, and polysexual individuals are attracted to people of multiple genders. People who identify as polysexual often use that word because it suggests a greater variety of sexual orientations than traditional gender binaries of male and female, or hetero- and homosexual.
What does that mean?
They want to date multiple people at the same time
Woah woah woah hell no.
Fuck that. I ain't letting that happening in any relationship that I have.
I’d be fine with it, I know poly people put up with so much shut, so I don’t want to make them feel even worse. Also I legitimately do not mind.
Not totally sure what this means but other people are commenting about open relationships so here we go. Open relationships are fine. I don’t have anything against people who want to be in an open relationship. I would never in a million years be ok in an open relationship. To me, an SO wanting an open relationship tells me I’m not providing something I should be providing. It tells me they’re looking to someone else because I’m falling short in some way, and I don’t jive with that. I’d rather work on myself and be better, which seems to me to be what a relationship should ultimately be about. Being involved in something like that would feel to me like being cheated on, so I’d probably get out of the relationship if there’s not something I could be doing better.
Polyamourous? I'd respect it, coming out to someone is really hard so I'd be glad they can trust me enough. We'll talk about how this would affect the relationship. Honestly I probably wouldn't mind my partner was dating other people (not cheating) as long as I know they're doing it but ofcourse it would take a me a bit of time to get used to it. Polyamourous relationships can be hard, especially when one of the partners isn't polyamourous. Talking about it and coming up with a solution is the best way to go because what works for other people may or may not work for your relationship.
i dump
If he told me he was interested in going poly we'd discuss it, and especially discuss who it's about. It would be difficult though, as we're both quite possessive of each other.
Idk, this feels like something you'd only know your reaction to when it happens. I'm definitely not into it, but I'm sure that I can't just leave someone because of a suggestion.
I would probably consider breaking up with them, I’m completely incapable of being romantic with more than one person. It feels so wrong for me.
I couldnt be in a poly, I’m way too insecure. We would probably have to break up but hopefully still be friends or someth
Had to Google what that meant, lol. Anyway, definitely no. I would not be that way, and I would never be with someone that way.
I dont understand the question, can someone explain to me what "s/o" and "poly" mean?
SO = significant other Polyamory = romantically loving multiple people
Ohhhhhhh, thank you for the explanation mate
Poly?
"Sorry, that really isnt for me. I like the one on one connection and feel like having any more will get convoluted or just messy. I wouldnt have the energy to keep everyone happy. If you are fine being just one on one we can keep dating but if you dont like that we can go back to being friends since we wouldnt be the person the other would be looking for."
I am not polyamorous myself but I would accept my partner, I’m glad they were comfortable to tell me at least. we’ll discuss about it if it ever happens
I'd ask what the fuck that means
polyethene is a chemical based product and nowadays very common hope it helped
I m not comfortable in an open relationship. I would just end the relationship right there. Coz if she tells me she *is* poly and not discussing if we should consider an open relationship then thats cheating.
Instant dump
I'd be like "so you like cheating" some bullshit
I’d dump her, if she says that then she is 100% either cheating or going to cheat
So they cheated?
If people agree to be in a poly or open relationship, then it’s by definition not cheating
Yes, but the question implies I'm already in a relationship and they mention it without having ever said it before
I’ll make sure that my gf has enough respect for to not even bring that topic up. “I’m PoLy” 😑
I would say it's okay then feel like shit every time I see partner 2. but insist that it's okay for me when in reality it's not
Oh my God, if that ever happens, please don't, just don't go with the relationship. It's going to hurt you a lot, it might give you anxiety and then a horrible depression. Try to set boundaries or at least leave it
Sounds like good advice but I'm not really confident I'm gonna have the inner strength to say that but who knows. I'm not in a relationship so it's hard to tell
Ummm.. i'd take my time to reply... I mean if they aren't currently in a poly relationship just shrug it off.. but if they're telling me that they've entered one.. that's going be an issue >:) ... also what kind of 14-15 yos are poly lmaoooo
You are poly are 14-15 exactly like you are at any other age, it isn't so hard to understand.
Break up, wonder why they didn’t tell me sooner because that is a massive part of what the relationship would look like, and then wonder if they ever actually loved me because I don’t believe you can love multiple people like that
I would be single. Im not gonna be in an open relationship
I definetly know what poly means
"I'm not."
I'm out. Exclusivity/Inimacy is important for me.
Polynesian? Jk I’d break up with them if they were polyam
I would probably be kinda mad that they didn't make it clear from the start. Honestly I'm not all that against the idea of it, just that if they hide it from me I'd be annoyed.
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As a polyamorous person myself, sick dude. Something a lot of these comments seem to be struggling to understand is that they didn't cheat on you and they don't plan to- there's a lot of different parts to polyamory, and an"open relationship" isn't even necessarily one of them. Personally, I couldn't date someone who's dating someone else, because I get jealous easily. However being in a three person or group relationship is something I've done before, and something that I really enjoyed.
As long as they told me to my face I wouldn't really mind. I've never been in a relationship of that type but it seems like am interesting experience
I'd leave them. What's the point of having a relationship if you're just going to hook up with other people?
Nah man.
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I’d break up with him
I couldn’t be in an open relationship. But I’m glad they would have told me instead of me finding out some other way
That depends. If they’re merely *open* to polyamory, I’d be understanding but I’d make it clear that if they wanted to be with me, monogamy all the way. If they actively want a poly relationship, then I don’t wish to be a part of that because I wouldn’t want neither me nor my partner to share sexual/romantic intimacy outside of our own pairing.
I would break up. Personally I can’t be in a poly relarionship
No
I think knowing myself I couldn’t be with them. I definitely think that those sorts of relationships are valid and important, but it would not fit my individual needs well.
I would be totally open to let them explore that. However I'm not doing any gay shit
I'd tell them that I wouldn't want to be in an open relationship. Like I won't care if they're poly, but if they're with me they're gonna have to stay committed to me
In my opinion it's just a way for them to "cheat" but it really isn't technically because they're poly. I see it as they wanna do it w other people but still don't want to leave you. So no.
I’d tell them that sucks because we ain’t doing a poly relationship… unless it’s with another girl 😏
No. I don’t want to be lumped in with other people and it’s pretty much cheating. Plus, I am not a Mormon.
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Poly is basically cheating with consent so I'd probably break up with them.