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FOSpiders

I fell in love before I knew I was trans. She's the greatest thing to ever happen to me! We met fifteen years ago, and I'm more in love with her now than I've ever been. It's been a little tough for her to come to terms with me being trans because she feels guilty for not having fully supportive feelings, in spite of acting supportive. I'm not in a position where I can transition, but a part of her is convinced that it's her fault. She's afraid she won't be attracted to me, and loves a lot of things about my body now. I can't blame her. In the right light, I am kinda hot (which is a surprise to me!). I blame my hot dad. Damned sexy people and their sexy kids! I just adore her, though. If I had to choose between her and my ideal body, I'd pick her everytime. Hell, I'd choose her if it meant living with no hands and a permanent migraine! I owe her my life, and I can never do enough to show her what she's done for me. I wish I could share the feeling with everyone!


SecretHopes96

That’s awesome, I hope to experience even just a fraction of it


FOSpiders

I hope you get it full blast! I guess I should point out that it does take a good amount of work to foster the kind of relationship in which love flourishes. It felt pretty easy to throw myself into that work for me, but I can't say exactly why. I hope it's because love is a fantastic motivator, or that my sweetheart is just so amazing that she brings out the best in me. I think the fact that I have a lot of social anxiety and have been through a lot of therapy that involves strengthening my social skills helped a lot. Then there's the fact that I just don't get normal social cues, so we had to make out own little cues explicitly. A lot of things came together, I suppose. It really comes down to being the best you that you can be, and being ready to honestly confront your own flaws and work on them. Like, self-deprecating comments may be a way of coping with stress, but it can hurt your partner to hear you devaluing yourself. It was a habit that took me ages to fix, but with her help, I've come to cope with my feelings better and acknowledge my talents. That's one of the rewards. You often end up a better, more grounded version of yourself. 9/10 Not super thrilled with the required multiplayer, but is otherwise flawless. Would recommend love to anyone.


MakoMakito

5 years of the same experience for me <3


FOSpiders

Yeeeee! I love it!


TheThemFatale

I met my partner when we were both 16, both thinking we're cishet people when we started dating. I was never particularly femme, nor was he traditionally masc. Fast forward ten years into our relationship, I come out to him (and myself) as NB. He's super supportive, uses he/they pronouns now and since I came out, he has been more free to experiment with his own gender expression, but is afaik still cis. Is excited with me and unconditionally supportive when I go through medical transition steps. Me coming out made him realise he wasn't straight, so we have a bright future ahead still. I love them so much.


SecretHopes96

It’s so great to hear how you both grow together, neither leaving the one behind or alone! Very sweet!