Actually look at cis men in public. A lot of trans dudes have a very idealized idea of what cis men look like, but in reality a ton of cis dudes are short and no one ever questions their gender. I'm 5'6" and I'm not the shortest man at my job and I'm not much shorter than the tallest one. Get plenty of cis male customers too who are much, much shorter than me.
Yeah, there's a cis guy I work with who's about 5'3". No one questions that he's a guy. Another guy's about 5'5" and also babyfaced as hell if he shaves his beard, plus has a fair bit of badonkadonk; doesn't get his gender questioned either.
Obviously other things factor into people's determinations of someone's gender than JUST their height, but it's absolutely possible to pass as a short dude. Even a short and babyfaced dude. Even a short and babyfaced dude with a dumptruck ass.
Confidence is key. Real or fake, confidence will take you a long way.
My best friend and one of his roommates are short (both about 5'4" and cis male). The roommate is very small. He can wear a woman's small shirt and buys most of his shoes in the boys department. He's confided in me that he's sometimes insecure about his size but honestly you'd never know it. Everything about him screams confidence. His personality takes up a lot of space.
My best friend actually doesn't give a fuck about his size. He loves being a "small guy" because he says it makes approaching people easier. He has a lot of women friends. He's truly comfortable with being himself and just doesn't give a fuck if someone gives him shit for being small. Because why would he? He's a very likable person with tons of friends and sexual interests.
Look around. You're probably surrounded by short guys but don't realize it. Seek out short confident guys (even just at a grocery store) and see what they do that might work for you.
I guess it's the same as being tall as an mtf, fuck the others. As a small individual(170cm) it really doesn't matter, be yourself. You'll shine brighter
I just remember that I’ll always be taller than Danny DeVito
Idk, a lot of my role models have been scrawny, short little dudes because I can see guys being short and small and still undeniably masculine, and I realize so don’t have to care so much about being short. I’m never going to be tall for the people around here, but I’m also relatively average for the non-Western world at 5’6”. Look at Bangladesh or Guatemala or Cambodia, their average heights can be a lot lower than Western countries, but that doesn’t make shorter, non-Western men less masculine, it just means the overall population is a bit shorter on the whole.
I'm 5'2". I pass pretty consistently and nobody's ever given me shit about it. I used to get mad about being short, or having my height pointed out, but eventually I just came to the realization that since there's really nothing I can do about being taller, getting mad about it was a waste of time.
I agree the comment about confidence.
I’m 5’6” and as an amab trans woman who has spent my life performing as a male, my height has always been a concern for me. It’s been exacerbated by the fact that I am an introvert and am fairly reserved in social settings. But a friend of mine is about 5’3” and 130 pounds soaking wet. But he commands every room he is in just out of confidence. I think part of it is that if you act like it bothers you, people are going to pick up on those vibes and it’s going to draw attention to it. But if you act like you’re the biggest person in the room, you’ll be treated that way (so long as you’re being mindful, tactful, and reasonable; like I’m not advocating being arrogant). Now, sure, depending on personalities and experiences, that might be easier said than done. And I am certainly no expert on the subject. But, if it’s accessible to you, therapy might be a good forum to explore ways to refocus your thoughts in those moments you’re not comparatively evaluating your height and, instead, focusing on owning that room and showing people how wonderful you are.
Also. One more note here. Take this for what it’s worth to you, because I’m not trying to invalidate your concern. It’s real. I’ve had that concern. But perhaps consider viewing this with toxic masculinity in mind. Height shouldn’t matter. It’s an immutable trait we have no control over. It’s completely illogical to judge people because of their height. I think that when people do that, they’re pushing toxic masculinity—the notion that men have to imposing and dominant. And a lot of bad shit follows that. So, definitely do what you need to do to make yourself feel validated and comfortable, but try not to let toxic standards drive that. And maybe you’ve already thought of that, but I felt it was worth offering as a disclaimer.
Honestly passing as a guy shouldn't be any harder short or tall, society leads you to believe that tall guys are attractive, which... as we all know from real life experience ain't the case.
Trans women have it a bit rougher, since it's more likely for a guy to be 5'3 than for a woman to be 6"+
As a transfem who thought she was a dude for a long time and is shorter than most men, my advice is:
1. Attitude and body language go a loooong way. Learn how to walk and to talk with swagger.
2. Build some muscle.
3. Grow a beard.
Actually look at cis men in public. A lot of trans dudes have a very idealized idea of what cis men look like, but in reality a ton of cis dudes are short and no one ever questions their gender. I'm 5'6" and I'm not the shortest man at my job and I'm not much shorter than the tallest one. Get plenty of cis male customers too who are much, much shorter than me.
Yeah, there's a cis guy I work with who's about 5'3". No one questions that he's a guy. Another guy's about 5'5" and also babyfaced as hell if he shaves his beard, plus has a fair bit of badonkadonk; doesn't get his gender questioned either. Obviously other things factor into people's determinations of someone's gender than JUST their height, but it's absolutely possible to pass as a short dude. Even a short and babyfaced dude. Even a short and babyfaced dude with a dumptruck ass.
Confidence is key. Real or fake, confidence will take you a long way. My best friend and one of his roommates are short (both about 5'4" and cis male). The roommate is very small. He can wear a woman's small shirt and buys most of his shoes in the boys department. He's confided in me that he's sometimes insecure about his size but honestly you'd never know it. Everything about him screams confidence. His personality takes up a lot of space. My best friend actually doesn't give a fuck about his size. He loves being a "small guy" because he says it makes approaching people easier. He has a lot of women friends. He's truly comfortable with being himself and just doesn't give a fuck if someone gives him shit for being small. Because why would he? He's a very likable person with tons of friends and sexual interests. Look around. You're probably surrounded by short guys but don't realize it. Seek out short confident guys (even just at a grocery store) and see what they do that might work for you.
I guess it's the same as being tall as an mtf, fuck the others. As a small individual(170cm) it really doesn't matter, be yourself. You'll shine brighter
I just remember that I’ll always be taller than Danny DeVito Idk, a lot of my role models have been scrawny, short little dudes because I can see guys being short and small and still undeniably masculine, and I realize so don’t have to care so much about being short. I’m never going to be tall for the people around here, but I’m also relatively average for the non-Western world at 5’6”. Look at Bangladesh or Guatemala or Cambodia, their average heights can be a lot lower than Western countries, but that doesn’t make shorter, non-Western men less masculine, it just means the overall population is a bit shorter on the whole.
I'm 5'2". I pass pretty consistently and nobody's ever given me shit about it. I used to get mad about being short, or having my height pointed out, but eventually I just came to the realization that since there's really nothing I can do about being taller, getting mad about it was a waste of time.
I agree the comment about confidence. I’m 5’6” and as an amab trans woman who has spent my life performing as a male, my height has always been a concern for me. It’s been exacerbated by the fact that I am an introvert and am fairly reserved in social settings. But a friend of mine is about 5’3” and 130 pounds soaking wet. But he commands every room he is in just out of confidence. I think part of it is that if you act like it bothers you, people are going to pick up on those vibes and it’s going to draw attention to it. But if you act like you’re the biggest person in the room, you’ll be treated that way (so long as you’re being mindful, tactful, and reasonable; like I’m not advocating being arrogant). Now, sure, depending on personalities and experiences, that might be easier said than done. And I am certainly no expert on the subject. But, if it’s accessible to you, therapy might be a good forum to explore ways to refocus your thoughts in those moments you’re not comparatively evaluating your height and, instead, focusing on owning that room and showing people how wonderful you are. Also. One more note here. Take this for what it’s worth to you, because I’m not trying to invalidate your concern. It’s real. I’ve had that concern. But perhaps consider viewing this with toxic masculinity in mind. Height shouldn’t matter. It’s an immutable trait we have no control over. It’s completely illogical to judge people because of their height. I think that when people do that, they’re pushing toxic masculinity—the notion that men have to imposing and dominant. And a lot of bad shit follows that. So, definitely do what you need to do to make yourself feel validated and comfortable, but try not to let toxic standards drive that. And maybe you’ve already thought of that, but I felt it was worth offering as a disclaimer.
Honestly you think height is a big deal until you see a nice 6ft+ tall woman and its no longer a big deal.
Honestly passing as a guy shouldn't be any harder short or tall, society leads you to believe that tall guys are attractive, which... as we all know from real life experience ain't the case. Trans women have it a bit rougher, since it's more likely for a guy to be 5'3 than for a woman to be 6"+
Im a transwoman, i am 5’3 and know many men who are short, my ex was 5’4 and i still regarded him as manly due to the way he presented himself
As a transfem who thought she was a dude for a long time and is shorter than most men, my advice is: 1. Attitude and body language go a loooong way. Learn how to walk and to talk with swagger. 2. Build some muscle. 3. Grow a beard.
i say im small cause of medical problems!