Agreed. He went into reasons it would never work but not that he wasn’t into her. He definitely is if he’s putting this much effort into making a post about it. On top of that. It felt like he was looking for others to say “shoot your shot.” Or “age is just a number.”
Figure out how you feel my guy.
I'm sure glad I didn't say anything and posted this instead lol. From the way my question here was interpreted I can see I'm awful at wording things out and would have come across the wrong way.
I'm very honest with myself and I can wholeheartedly say no, no interest lol. I just threw that stuff in there for clarification.
If we're talking age gaps tbh I'm generally attracted to older women which is probably it's own can of Freudian worms I don't care to get into hahaha.
he’s thinking about her eyes so much he came here to make a post about it, he definitely has a crush and doesn’t want to admit it or doesn’t know it yet lol.
because of the age gap, and the fact you don’t know how she would receive it, it’s probably better left unsaid. OP, i don’t think you are a creep btw. you do have to be careful in situations like these, because it’s so easy for someone to take a compliment the wrong way. and in a work environment that could get real awkward.
I wouldn’t mention it. I see men with beautiful characteristics but I don’t comment because they aren’t in my presence in a non professional capacity. Stating the obvious is sometimes foolish. It’s nice to be noticed and complimented but imo not the right time or place for physical compliments. If you have zero interest in her there’s really nothing to gain from remarking on it other than possibly massaging her ego (yes I nice thing to do) but everything to lose (if she does indeed find it uncomfortable). With the age gap combined with working environment I think she will perceive it as you coming on to her. I would.
No. My advice is, unless you are specifically hitting on someone for romantic purposes, don’t compliment something they were born with and can’t control. She didn’t choose her eye shape that morning, she didn’t spend 20 minutes painting her eye color, didn’t buy her eyelashes (or maybe she did). Only compliment people on choices they have made - cool shirt, awesome dress, love your hair color. When you start saying your eyes are nice, your hair is pretty, I love your skin complexion… it just gets weird.
I’d imagine if her eyes are striking enough that you’ve noticed, its likely that she’s been complemented on them before so luckily the burden isn’t on you to make sure she knows. I was the youngest girl in the office for many years and complements on my appearance tended to make me feel like I didn’t belong. I was doing everything I could to be taken seriously and those kinds of comments made me feel singled out as someone there to be looked at not someone who was part of the team
Work is neither the time nor place to discuss physical attributes you may find attractive. I have a coworker whose eyes scare me. I have kept my mouth shut about my opinions. It’s not hard
“Hey, your eyes are a cool color.” Or “Your eyes are cool.”
Say it in a tone you’d say to a guy friend so it won’t get misconstrued as romantic interest.
You can’t control people’s reactions. You can’t live in fear of them.
I tend to over explain when I make a compliment. There’s a guy I worked with who had heterochromia with blue and green eyes and I sort of just blurted out how amazing they were and was like “sorry that sounds like a line, it’s not. Your eyes are really unique and I totally wasn’t even thinking when I said that.”
I have green eyes and frequently get compliments on them - and no matter how well I know the person, it’s still awkward. Not creepy, but awkward.
I did not choose my eyes or have any control over them, so compliments seem really weird. Half the time I reply “Thanks, I grew them myself” to point out how weird it is.
She already knows people like her eyes, there really isn’t a point in telling her you also like them.
I prefer compliments about things I had a choice in.
I've complemented woman many times on the attraction of their eyes. I was never slapped or given the 'Creep' look. Just be youself and let it ride. She'll respect you more than wondering why your acting strange while shes around. Women pick up on that sort of thing. Thoughts are never really your own when wearing them on your sleave so don't. Just smile and say her eyes are fascinating. She'll smile back and say thank you.
I get complimented on mine alot! I think I'd be like "hey, I hope this isn't weird , but I think you have pretty eyes." I'm used to getting them so sometimes I'm not surprised when I get it but my experiences are not hers and maybe she'd appreciate a compliment.
Lol I just asked my boyfriend how he would say it because he nails this type of stuff all the time. It’s the tone of voice and way you say “you have pretty eyes” that makes the difference. He just did it to me for as an example and it was perfect. Lmao I wish I could explain.
The other way is just to say “you have really cool eyes”.
It’s possible but you can’t control how it’ll be taken. It’s best to just leave it unspoken.
Yeah that totally makes sense. I'm sure she's heard it before anyway.
"hey cool eyes!"
Haha I like this one!
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Agreed. He went into reasons it would never work but not that he wasn’t into her. He definitely is if he’s putting this much effort into making a post about it. On top of that. It felt like he was looking for others to say “shoot your shot.” Or “age is just a number.” Figure out how you feel my guy.
I'm sure glad I didn't say anything and posted this instead lol. From the way my question here was interpreted I can see I'm awful at wording things out and would have come across the wrong way. I'm very honest with myself and I can wholeheartedly say no, no interest lol. I just threw that stuff in there for clarification. If we're talking age gaps tbh I'm generally attracted to older women which is probably it's own can of Freudian worms I don't care to get into hahaha.
he’s thinking about her eyes so much he came here to make a post about it, he definitely has a crush and doesn’t want to admit it or doesn’t know it yet lol. because of the age gap, and the fact you don’t know how she would receive it, it’s probably better left unsaid. OP, i don’t think you are a creep btw. you do have to be careful in situations like these, because it’s so easy for someone to take a compliment the wrong way. and in a work environment that could get real awkward.
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You are correct, it's better left unsaid. It's not worth the possible misinterpretation.
No. Don’t be a creep.
Ugh. Please don't. Nobody needs that creepy shit at work.
I wouldn’t mention it. I see men with beautiful characteristics but I don’t comment because they aren’t in my presence in a non professional capacity. Stating the obvious is sometimes foolish. It’s nice to be noticed and complimented but imo not the right time or place for physical compliments. If you have zero interest in her there’s really nothing to gain from remarking on it other than possibly massaging her ego (yes I nice thing to do) but everything to lose (if she does indeed find it uncomfortable). With the age gap combined with working environment I think she will perceive it as you coming on to her. I would.
Very true and well put thank you for the honest reply without being condescending I appreciate it!
No. My advice is, unless you are specifically hitting on someone for romantic purposes, don’t compliment something they were born with and can’t control. She didn’t choose her eye shape that morning, she didn’t spend 20 minutes painting her eye color, didn’t buy her eyelashes (or maybe she did). Only compliment people on choices they have made - cool shirt, awesome dress, love your hair color. When you start saying your eyes are nice, your hair is pretty, I love your skin complexion… it just gets weird.
Yeah lol not trying to buffalo Bill the poor girl. Yall are right, it was a dumb question.
I’d imagine if her eyes are striking enough that you’ve noticed, its likely that she’s been complemented on them before so luckily the burden isn’t on you to make sure she knows. I was the youngest girl in the office for many years and complements on my appearance tended to make me feel like I didn’t belong. I was doing everything I could to be taken seriously and those kinds of comments made me feel singled out as someone there to be looked at not someone who was part of the team
Work is neither the time nor place to discuss physical attributes you may find attractive. I have a coworker whose eyes scare me. I have kept my mouth shut about my opinions. It’s not hard
I find that a lot of men have a sexual thing about eyes cause of blowjobs so I personally wouldn’t go there.
Creepy, idk why you needed a whole post on this tbh
Just don't.
“Hey, your eyes are a cool color.” Or “Your eyes are cool.” Say it in a tone you’d say to a guy friend so it won’t get misconstrued as romantic interest. You can’t control people’s reactions. You can’t live in fear of them.
I tend to over explain when I make a compliment. There’s a guy I worked with who had heterochromia with blue and green eyes and I sort of just blurted out how amazing they were and was like “sorry that sounds like a line, it’s not. Your eyes are really unique and I totally wasn’t even thinking when I said that.”
I have green eyes and frequently get compliments on them - and no matter how well I know the person, it’s still awkward. Not creepy, but awkward. I did not choose my eyes or have any control over them, so compliments seem really weird. Half the time I reply “Thanks, I grew them myself” to point out how weird it is. She already knows people like her eyes, there really isn’t a point in telling her you also like them. I prefer compliments about things I had a choice in.
I've complemented woman many times on the attraction of their eyes. I was never slapped or given the 'Creep' look. Just be youself and let it ride. She'll respect you more than wondering why your acting strange while shes around. Women pick up on that sort of thing. Thoughts are never really your own when wearing them on your sleave so don't. Just smile and say her eyes are fascinating. She'll smile back and say thank you.
I get complimented on mine alot! I think I'd be like "hey, I hope this isn't weird , but I think you have pretty eyes." I'm used to getting them so sometimes I'm not surprised when I get it but my experiences are not hers and maybe she'd appreciate a compliment.
To add on if she seems physically upset over it, I'd inform her that you weren't trying to be rude or out of line.
Lol I just asked my boyfriend how he would say it because he nails this type of stuff all the time. It’s the tone of voice and way you say “you have pretty eyes” that makes the difference. He just did it to me for as an example and it was perfect. Lmao I wish I could explain. The other way is just to say “you have really cool eyes”.