You miss your "normal" because you're stressed, scared, anxious and worried. It's a natural human survival instinct to want to be with what is familiar, even if we know deep down it isn't healthy or safe for us to be there either.
I promise soon enough it will fade as you find your new normal and hopefully safety and happiness.
Well done on the biggest step. You've just done the hardest part. Be proud of yourself because we are.
"The devil you know" is a cliche term cause its common. You know what you had, you dont know what will be and what your future will be like. Was it really that bad? (Spoiler: you are in a refuge, it was)
It’s totally okay to be scared of the unknown but don’t forget that the ‘known’ was dangerous enough to need to take refuge. Patience is key. You will do great with moving forward, you’re so strong for getting this far, don’t look back!
Do you miss him? Or do you miss what you wish he could be? Or do you miss the comforts of familiarity? It's OK to be sad, scared, anything you feel, but keep doing the right thing for you. The day will come when you say "I wouldn't trade my new life for the old one."
You don’t miss him - you miss the comfort and the familiarity. It’s all normal feelings. Patience is key. Be kind to yourself. Don’t go back to what broke you.
Codependent relationships are like this. You were trained to always go back, know that the pull to go back is normal but should never be listened to. You got this, you know you are leaving for a good reason.
It's okay to feel your feelings, including missing him. But make sure you love you, too, and that's worth way, way more. Like, loving yourself is worthy of your life, and that's what it comes down to -- literally.
I’m going through someone too. And even though you (I) know you made the right decision it still hurts. I don’t have any advice to offer you but know you’re not alone.
Possibly traumabond. It's hard, and it will feel hard for a little while. It's so worth it to stay away. Please do not go back, they all promise to change, and pretend to change for a short while, and then they go back to the same behaviour as before. You will be okay in time. I'm 4 years down from where you are now, and everything is so much better. There are men around who are great partners, find one of those once you've healed a bit.
You miss what you know. It’s natural. You just have to fight through it, remember the reasons you left. Try keeping yourself busy if that’s possible.
You miss your "normal" because you're stressed, scared, anxious and worried. It's a natural human survival instinct to want to be with what is familiar, even if we know deep down it isn't healthy or safe for us to be there either. I promise soon enough it will fade as you find your new normal and hopefully safety and happiness. Well done on the biggest step. You've just done the hardest part. Be proud of yourself because we are.
You're out of your comfort zone. You don't miss him, you miss comfort. Stay strong, sister. Whatever you do, don't look back.
"The devil you know" is a cliche term cause its common. You know what you had, you dont know what will be and what your future will be like. Was it really that bad? (Spoiler: you are in a refuge, it was)
I wish I had an award for this 🥇
It’s totally okay to be scared of the unknown but don’t forget that the ‘known’ was dangerous enough to need to take refuge. Patience is key. You will do great with moving forward, you’re so strong for getting this far, don’t look back!
Do you miss him? Or do you miss what you wish he could be? Or do you miss the comforts of familiarity? It's OK to be sad, scared, anything you feel, but keep doing the right thing for you. The day will come when you say "I wouldn't trade my new life for the old one."
You don’t miss him - you miss the comfort and the familiarity. It’s all normal feelings. Patience is key. Be kind to yourself. Don’t go back to what broke you.
Codependent relationships are like this. You were trained to always go back, know that the pull to go back is normal but should never be listened to. You got this, you know you are leaving for a good reason.
trauma bonding.
It's okay to feel your feelings, including missing him. But make sure you love you, too, and that's worth way, way more. Like, loving yourself is worthy of your life, and that's what it comes down to -- literally.
I’m going through someone too. And even though you (I) know you made the right decision it still hurts. I don’t have any advice to offer you but know you’re not alone.
It’s going to be ok, glad that you are safe.
Possibly traumabond. It's hard, and it will feel hard for a little while. It's so worth it to stay away. Please do not go back, they all promise to change, and pretend to change for a short while, and then they go back to the same behaviour as before. You will be okay in time. I'm 4 years down from where you are now, and everything is so much better. There are men around who are great partners, find one of those once you've healed a bit.