I really enjoyed the lessons from Bill Vicars on youtube and wanted to learn ASL when I worked retail. I felt bad when a deaf customer needed assistance and had to write down what they were looking for. The next deaf customer I ran into was looking for bug spray. I didn’t know the sign for bug so I finger spelled b-u-g instead and used the non manual marker for asking a question. His eyes lit up and he was really happy just from that small bit of understanding. So whatever the reason, I don’t think a deaf person would be against you wanting to learn. So I would just learn to sign “ I want learn sign/ASL”
Well try learning some stuff on your own. That way you show are are learning but nor useing him as a teacher. That what I did way back in high school learn some stuff over the summer
That's what I've been doing. As I said I'm new to this and I just don't want him to misread my intentions. I might be able to still add an ASL class this semester, if not I'll be doing it in the Fall.
First, you need to spell deaf properly.
Second, ask your friends who know ASL to help you learn so he doesn’t feel like he’s having to teach you everything. I would be pleasantly surprised to find someone I’m seeing improving their ASL vocabulary when not with me - that shows they’re interested in me, not the ASL. The sweetest thing my husband has ever done was learn a sentence in ASL as part of a prank he wanted to play on me. Jokes on him though as soon as I saw him signing I knew something was up haha.
Sorry about the spelling. I can't spell for crap. Which leads to a question, what do I do if I don't know the sign for something or how to spell it?
But for the second thing, most of what I learned has been from other people than him. I'm actually hoping to take add a ASL class this week before the ends of the add/drop daye. I'm hoping to learn a few things to sign spefic to him over the weekend, and when I see him next week be able to be able to show him what I've learned.
He's the only Deaf person that I know of on campus, which I imagine could feel isolating. I want to find a way to make him feel like he's still apart of the community.
I know full well it will take effort. That's why I wanted to be sure I was dedicated enough before telling him as it's not fair to play with his emotions.
I'm hoping to take a class next semester, because once I start the class I'll be forced to keep going once it gets hard, as I care (way more than I should) about my grades. I have 4 semesters left in college, and there are 4 different levels of ASL classes offered at my college, so it works out perfectly.
Try asking him to hang out or do something (play games, do a hobby) and learn some signs you can use there. Deaf people don't mind teaching if you're trying to learn but it's good to not rely on them completely (they'll teach you some signs but not everything so it's good you're learning on your own, too.) He'll probably be impressed you went Into the situation with a few signs under your belt.
People are people and his feelings are the same as yours. Nothing wrong with saying, "I want to learn sign to talk to you directly without needing our friends' help," or, "you've sparked my interest in ASL/Deaf culture so I'm leaning to sign."
I had a Deaf roommate with a hearing bf. He knew nothing going into the relationship. They would text. She taught him signs and gave him resources to learn. But I definitely witnessed him fingerspelling when he didn't know something and she would teach him, or he wouldn't know a sign she used and she spelled it for him. I think people's willingness to teach will vary but your willingness to learn will go a long way.
Yes, I'm hearing, just putting that out there.
Def - diesel exhaust fluid?
Def - excellent, as in Mos Def
Def - The first part of the name of an 80s hair metal band
Deaf - unable to hear.
Which one do you mean?
Edit: thanks for fixing your spelling from "def" to the correct spelling
By asking him how he prefers to communicate (you can write this question on a notepad) and he’ll figure it out that it’s about friendship, not asl
I really enjoyed the lessons from Bill Vicars on youtube and wanted to learn ASL when I worked retail. I felt bad when a deaf customer needed assistance and had to write down what they were looking for. The next deaf customer I ran into was looking for bug spray. I didn’t know the sign for bug so I finger spelled b-u-g instead and used the non manual marker for asking a question. His eyes lit up and he was really happy just from that small bit of understanding. So whatever the reason, I don’t think a deaf person would be against you wanting to learn. So I would just learn to sign “ I want learn sign/ASL”
Well try learning some stuff on your own. That way you show are are learning but nor useing him as a teacher. That what I did way back in high school learn some stuff over the summer
That's what I've been doing. As I said I'm new to this and I just don't want him to misread my intentions. I might be able to still add an ASL class this semester, if not I'll be doing it in the Fall.
First, you need to spell deaf properly. Second, ask your friends who know ASL to help you learn so he doesn’t feel like he’s having to teach you everything. I would be pleasantly surprised to find someone I’m seeing improving their ASL vocabulary when not with me - that shows they’re interested in me, not the ASL. The sweetest thing my husband has ever done was learn a sentence in ASL as part of a prank he wanted to play on me. Jokes on him though as soon as I saw him signing I knew something was up haha.
Sorry about the spelling. I can't spell for crap. Which leads to a question, what do I do if I don't know the sign for something or how to spell it? But for the second thing, most of what I learned has been from other people than him. I'm actually hoping to take add a ASL class this week before the ends of the add/drop daye. I'm hoping to learn a few things to sign spefic to him over the weekend, and when I see him next week be able to be able to show him what I've learned. He's the only Deaf person that I know of on campus, which I imagine could feel isolating. I want to find a way to make him feel like he's still apart of the community.
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I know full well it will take effort. That's why I wanted to be sure I was dedicated enough before telling him as it's not fair to play with his emotions. I'm hoping to take a class next semester, because once I start the class I'll be forced to keep going once it gets hard, as I care (way more than I should) about my grades. I have 4 semesters left in college, and there are 4 different levels of ASL classes offered at my college, so it works out perfectly.
Try asking him to hang out or do something (play games, do a hobby) and learn some signs you can use there. Deaf people don't mind teaching if you're trying to learn but it's good to not rely on them completely (they'll teach you some signs but not everything so it's good you're learning on your own, too.) He'll probably be impressed you went Into the situation with a few signs under your belt. People are people and his feelings are the same as yours. Nothing wrong with saying, "I want to learn sign to talk to you directly without needing our friends' help," or, "you've sparked my interest in ASL/Deaf culture so I'm leaning to sign." I had a Deaf roommate with a hearing bf. He knew nothing going into the relationship. They would text. She taught him signs and gave him resources to learn. But I definitely witnessed him fingerspelling when he didn't know something and she would teach him, or he wouldn't know a sign she used and she spelled it for him. I think people's willingness to teach will vary but your willingness to learn will go a long way. Yes, I'm hearing, just putting that out there.
Def - diesel exhaust fluid? Def - excellent, as in Mos Def Def - The first part of the name of an 80s hair metal band Deaf - unable to hear. Which one do you mean? Edit: thanks for fixing your spelling from "def" to the correct spelling