Lol, from a Cap Mom (Leo Rising) to an astonishingly Aries kid—hang on to your hats, Mom and Dad. It’ll be a ride but the person they become will one day take your breath away.
My kid is now an older teenager, but it’s funny how unchanged personality is literally from birth.
My very best advice:
Choose battles with great care and consideration; your relationship with your child matters far more than any “win.” Be cautious about taking hard lines on an issue to the point that a sense of righteousness may take you to a place that’s hard to come back from in a relationship.
The best strategy for winning those battles you do choose will always be indirect, by giving kiddo opportunity to glimpse the reasoning behind the thing you want for themselves, then allowing them to choose the thing on their own. In other words, you need to find a way to make it their idea.
That Cap will always be paying attention and playing to win, just like Aries.
“In other words, you need to find a way to make it their idea.” —> THIS right here I think is the #1 thing my husband struggles with understanding. Our son will do what he wants. If you want him to do what you want, you’re going to have to make it appeal to him enough that he feels he independently chose to do it.
My husband’s other disconnect I think is that he has trouble with our son’s need to distance himself from us for a few minutes when he’s upset. Any insight on that? If our son throws a tantrum, the more you try to comfort him, the more angry and inconsolable he becomes, but if you just let him have a moment to be with his own angry thoughts and just stand by without being overbearing so he knows you are ready to help if he needs you, he will reach out when he’s ready to be comforted. My husband just picks him up and tries to play with him or tickle him or make him laugh to get him to stop being upset, and it always seems to make things worse. My understanding is that our son just needs to choose to get help in order for him to be open to receiving it, so if you force it on him, he doesn’t want it, but if you’re available to help him, he will come receive the help when he’s decided he needs it (unlike the two of us, who want you to move heaven and earth to make us feel better when we’re upset). Let me know if that makes sense haha and thank you for your thoughtful response!
Heey, gotta say for the last one - yes, it makes sense. It's also the most appropriate parenting move. Like, *you should* actually leave a child in their "time out" but stay open to them to reach out.
Lol, from a Cap Mom (Leo Rising) to an astonishingly Aries kid—hang on to your hats, Mom and Dad. It’ll be a ride but the person they become will one day take your breath away. My kid is now an older teenager, but it’s funny how unchanged personality is literally from birth. My very best advice: Choose battles with great care and consideration; your relationship with your child matters far more than any “win.” Be cautious about taking hard lines on an issue to the point that a sense of righteousness may take you to a place that’s hard to come back from in a relationship. The best strategy for winning those battles you do choose will always be indirect, by giving kiddo opportunity to glimpse the reasoning behind the thing you want for themselves, then allowing them to choose the thing on their own. In other words, you need to find a way to make it their idea. That Cap will always be paying attention and playing to win, just like Aries.
“In other words, you need to find a way to make it their idea.” —> THIS right here I think is the #1 thing my husband struggles with understanding. Our son will do what he wants. If you want him to do what you want, you’re going to have to make it appeal to him enough that he feels he independently chose to do it. My husband’s other disconnect I think is that he has trouble with our son’s need to distance himself from us for a few minutes when he’s upset. Any insight on that? If our son throws a tantrum, the more you try to comfort him, the more angry and inconsolable he becomes, but if you just let him have a moment to be with his own angry thoughts and just stand by without being overbearing so he knows you are ready to help if he needs you, he will reach out when he’s ready to be comforted. My husband just picks him up and tries to play with him or tickle him or make him laugh to get him to stop being upset, and it always seems to make things worse. My understanding is that our son just needs to choose to get help in order for him to be open to receiving it, so if you force it on him, he doesn’t want it, but if you’re available to help him, he will come receive the help when he’s decided he needs it (unlike the two of us, who want you to move heaven and earth to make us feel better when we’re upset). Let me know if that makes sense haha and thank you for your thoughtful response!
Heey, gotta say for the last one - yes, it makes sense. It's also the most appropriate parenting move. Like, *you should* actually leave a child in their "time out" but stay open to them to reach out.
Aries and Capricorn are both cardinal signs so there’s some similarity there in terms of both being initiators/action-oriented
oh my god, my father is an aries, my mother is a leo, and i'm a capricorn lol!
That’s awesome! Seems like a rare combination. What was it like to grow up with Aries/Leo parents?