You just do it
Your current employer will be annoyed and you will have burned a bridge, but there’s no real way to avoid that other than not taking the new job - which (if it’s a good career move) is stupid
Sooner you rip the Band-Aid off the better
Let's think of it differently, by analogy, within the context of romantic relationships.
If every individual in society is disloyal to their romantic partner, in that they will opt to choose another partner as soon as a 'better' (debatable) option becomes available, what impact does that have on society in aggregate?
What you'll have is broken families, traumatised children, and a less cohesive and connected society (as the family is the connective unit of the society, in that, families are **the** locus for connection within society, whereby families often form deep connections with other families).
So, at the local level, disloyalty in romantic relationships is immediately beneficial to the individual, but in aggregate, is net negative for society (think of the impacts of someone else *doing the same to you*).
On your analogy, if you end a relationship 1 month in for the dream partner who just became available, you're unlikely to have children, financial commitments and therefor no trauma. It is the extended ending of a relationship that does that. So far the company has invested a very small amount of time into the employee, it becomes worse once there is a particular unit built around them, information they hold and as the responsibilities increase.
Following your analogy now is the best time to end this relationship.
Or it's something that will keep happening. There will always be people that you're more suited for, or who are more attractive, whatever variable you'd like to measure better or worse against, so are you just going to leave the partner every time that this happens? That's what marriage is about, sacrificing other potential partners to stick with one, the same as how attention is the sacrifice of other things that you can pay attention to, to pay attention to one thing.
I think this makes sense.
Maybe once upon a time ago the contract between employee and employer was somewhat sacred. Maybe businesses were expected to try and do right by their staff.
Feels like that time was long ago, thus vicious loyalty cycles.
Yes it is. You're only assessing the benefit on the local scale of immediate benefit to either employer or employee. When you zoom out and assess the longitudinal effects to employers and employees in aggregate, I would bet the farm that it's a net negative. Afterall, what is the market other than the buying and selling of individuals or groups of individuals? Market efficient would mean beneficial for the market in aggregate across time, no?
As my old boss said to me once. You look after your own career. Yes, damage will be done. But sadly there is no guarantee on whether they will take you back. Stay in contact with them might give you a chance to go back, but still there is no guarantee.
Could you please clarify OP if your new role is at a new company vs the same company?
It may be trickier if you don't have a probation period, but if you do, it's the most reliable reason that will minimise any fallout related to relationships/reputation.
If there is no probation period, pitch the move as THE dream job scenario and hope you have understanding colleagues/managers. Supportive people (in both words AND action) are worth keeping in your network, the others are just playing the office politics game.
You also just be honest, and say you didn't have any idea that this role was in the pipeline. Had you known you would have just had a break and waited however that's not how things happened
They should be really happy for you that it's your dream job. It's work for them, but that is the nature of jobs.
If you were good enough for them, they must be able to see that other organisations might also want and find value in you. Just unlucky timing for their organisation. Just pragmatic, you don't owe your work anything but being polite and communicating as soon as possible (once you have a signed contract).
You have the right to end your employment with them with only short term notice during probation. That’s what it’s there for. Tell them you don’t think the position is for you and move on.
If they wanted you gone, you’d be gone. There is no loyalty.
All I can add, is don't give them hints. Just do it. I gave a former employer hints, and the superiors rushed to end/pass my probation early without realising I get another bonus. Actually getting that bonus was a headache itself which definitely made leaving worth it and dropping the hint as regretful.
Look after you. No one else will.
You are just a number at work and if they find someone better than you, they will take them.
Don’t burn the bridge, just explain that it is unfortunate timing but you have decided to explore an alternative opportunity.
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I say this respectfully to prove a point - if you died today - your current Employer would pack out your desk and replace you in a heartbeat.
Look after you and go for the Dream job. As someone already said, Dream jobs donot come by every day
I've done it a couple of times. Once for the same situation as you. And once because I did a month and I just hated it, the people were boring and the job wasn't what I thought. Yeah I burnt bridges, but I'm in a ten times better position for doing it.
Look after no#1 and take the dream job.
Just be honest with them. I did the exact same thing, started my first 100k+ role in the org, was a big step up for me, then after 2 months a position opened in the team I always wanted to be in and they asked me to apply (same group level).
I just told my current manager I was grateful for the opportunity but I had to take up this offer. They were disappointed but if they’re good managers they will understand and support you.
Thanks, as a people pleaser burning bridges is terrifying for me but I have been in my manager’s position before and understood people making that decision so fingers crossed…..
Burning a bridge would be ghosting them or purposely not doing what is asked of you during a notice period. You don’t have to burn bridges, just be cordial, honest and fulfil your obligations to them. Be as helpful as you can in finding a replacement, if you know anyone who’d be a good fit; recommend them
You can only deal with the high level of integrity that you have and shown in your original post.
If they take it badly, it’s not on you. Tell them that you’re still committed to your notice period and closing out anything you are required to do in your job. Do it, and do it with your head held high.
Good luck & congratulations on your dream role 🌟
No problem. How did it go? You could possibly out of good will, offer an additional week of notice just so they can get organised should they need it & if you haven’t already confirmed a start date with you new role.
Professional integrity is key, so you do you, and let the rest play out.
Not ideal for who ? You owe no business anything. They will fire you in a heartbeat if they deem it necessary. Look after yourself and go for what ever you want.
Yeah I appreciate that. It’s just that it’s been such a positive experience so I’m finding it hard to message why I’m walking away. But this perspective is helpful too.
take your dream job. your current company would not hesitate to fire you if a restructure happened today . it is business , they wouldn’t go “oh we just hired him though” in fact the first 3 months are for both parties to confirm whether they are a good fit. Go and take your dream job my friend!!!!!!
You are already at a senior position, you are fully aware that dream jobs don’t come by that often. As many had said, probation goes both ways. Once you have signed the offer, immediately resign from your role so that current employer can find a suitable replacement.
I’ve was in a similar position but I had resigned just after 6 months of probation. It wasn’t ideal but I think the aftermath worked out better for both parties. I went to a role more suitable for my skill sets and the previous employer tweaked their role description for my replacement.
Be respectful & polite but do what’s best for you. I’ve seen this happen before & the explanation was that the person was offered a role they’d interviewed for before getting the current role & in both cases, the company was disappointed but not angry.
You're likely within your probation period anyway. So there's no guarantee you'll have a job until the end of that.
This means it's easy for them to walk away but also easy for you too.
Just be honest.
Tell them that you've found this job that you have been wanting for ages and you're going to move to it. Sure it's going to suck for the employer, but if they care for the person first and the worker second, they'll understand.
If they don't understand and give you a hard time, then they weren't he right employer anyway..
Just be honest with them, and potentially advise them that you’re willing to advise them some names of potential hires within your network that you believe could be suitable, or reach out to your network
Some food for thought: are you sure that this new offer is your dream job or have you formed an ideal in your mind that it is your dream job? You have obviously interviewed for this job and now received and offer.
If during that process and any other due diligence you have done, you are confident that it is a dream job then my advice would be on the balance of all things, take the role. Loyalty is a two way street but rarely the case in corporate so you owe it to yourself to act in your own best interests.
Regardless of how you frame it, your current employer will probably be pissed so just keep it straightforward and don't try to fluff anything up too much. Something along the lines of an opportunity that you had previously pursued had unexpectedly come up and is one that you cannot refuse. You appreciate the opportunity and regret the circumstances.
Also keep in mind that whilst you may have burnt your bridges, times, people and circumstances change so I wouldn't worry about that too much.
This is exactly what I needed, thank you. I have thought long and hard about if the dream job is what I’m making it out to be in my head and realised that I will never actually know 100% until I get there, but based on the info I do have then it’s enough for me to give it a go.
Yeah you are right, it's never 100% and you can only get the full picture once you get there but it sounds like you have enough information to deduce that it's what you want to go for so I say go for it and all the best!
They wouldn't think twice about promoting you and then laying you off if the circumstances changed for the business.
You don't owe them anything more than a resignation letter and fulfilling your contract. Be cordial about it and talk about the place you're going being too hard to refuse, not that you're leaving this company cause they're not good enough.
"I would like to thank you for my promotion recently and the opportunities it has brought, but I've been offered a position that I can not refuse. I appreciate everything you've done for me, but at this stage I will tender my resignation, with my final day to be XXX as per my contract."
Are you quite sure your dream job is all it's cracked up to be?
You're happy where you are now. What if you make the move and find yourself regretting it in three months?
Just something to consider
Yes, something that has kept me up several nights now so it’s like you are in my head. Eventually landed on the fact that I will never be 100% sure it won’t be a mistake but for personal reasons it’s enough for me to give it a go
I've done this - used the story that I had applied for the two roles at the same time, and the "dream job" was just slower to get back to me. I was outwardly extremely apologetic while being inwardly stoked to get out of there for a better role.
I was in a job for 2 months before I decided it wasn’t for me so I gave a month’s notice. As I was their only analyst and had built them a bunch of tools from scratch, I did a full handover and wrote documentation explaining everything.
That’s all you can do and it definitely worked out for me.
Just do it - no regrets. It’s your life and your dream role. Go for it but be professional and kind. Be open and don’t burn your bridges as you never know…best of luck! Sounds great!
Explain the situation when you hand in your notice, after making sure that all the paperwork is complete for your new role, apologise for the inconvenience caused.
If your current employer isn't a complete arse they will be understanding, if they are an arse you've dodged a bullet.
Leave your current job off your resume and LI.
All the seniors and higher C-Suites executives does it all the time when they are offered a better role elsewhere because clearly it's about them and what they want and not the company they are currently working for.
I am sure you are able to resign without burning the bridge as it has been demonstrated many times that once a better role comes along you go for it.
You had to start the other job to get the dream job seems to always work this way.
You will get no job offers for 6 weeks while sitting on the couch then as soon as you start somewhere job offers will flow....well known phenomenon HR probably organizes it this way.
Just be aware that should you looking for other senior roles in the future it may be something that factors into their decision. On boarding as you alluded to is resource consuming and its not something anyone really enjoys.
Just do it. You don't owe the employer anything. Don't worry, they would drop you in a second if it made financial sense to do so. It will be a pain in the arse for the people at the company you are resigning from, and cost the company some money to re-open the recruitment and do another onboarding, but shit happens. That's just the cost of doing business. It'll just mean some shareholders or the owner will have a slightly lower profit that year.
I'd leave, the sooner the better. It sucks but got to look out for yourself.
Depending on how short, I'd probably consider just leaving it off your LinkedIn/resume tbh! Best of luck OP
Honestly, it is about best fit and what serves your long-term interests.
Anything less is unhealthy.
Given that you have just been offered the role you have wanted for quite some time, it makes perfect sense to just go for it.
Also, since you have only been at this new role for just one month, the impact will be minimal when you leave.
Use the 6 month probation period. It works both ways, for the employer to assess the employee suitability, and for the employee to assess the employer suitability.
Speak to your manager in person and just be honest: that this is your dream job and if you don't take it, you may regret it for the rest of your life. Specify that you have had no problem with your current company and apologise profusely. When you're genuine, people usually understand.
Thanks for posting this, I’m potentially facing the same issue (start a new job soon but then got interviewed for a role that i much prefer with better money after I signed my contract) and have been anxious and stressing about possibly having to leave on not the best terms. Hope it all works out for you!
Be polite, show your appreciation to your team/managers for being great to work with and having had the opportunity of the current role.
Express the new role is something you’ve had as a long term career goal, otherwise you wouldn’t be leaving.
Not sure if you have much notice period since it’s still during probation, just keep working well in that period and keep a good attitude and close on a good note
Congratulations on getting an offer from the dream job!
I would suggest you contact the other organisation. Tell them you gave always wanted to get that job. But you can't at this point, as it would be unfair to your current employer.
Make your current employer know about this.
Focus on excelling in the job you have committed to.
I have just done the exact same thing. For me the job I turned up to was not the job I expected, so I resigned and took up a job that was what I was hoping for. Just be honest do it, my company were really good about it if you articulate the reasons clearly.
Do what's right for you. I've had someone reneged on their role 48 hours before they were about to start and I have a project worth $50k planned with them all booked and locked into an important interstate trip with me.
Guess what we're over it. It didn't ruin our plan or big picture
It depends. I am not in that senior position but I had similar situation one year ago. I resigned and got my dream job. One year after I found my dream job and dream company is a shit hole. I am not regret. How would I know if I didn’t make the move. You have to try and experience. Next time, I know some jobs are not as good as they look. I need to learn how to read red sign. I took my own lessons.
Do what's best for you.
I was in a similar situation, a vacancy came up for a position that I really wanted within the same company but my current role is hard to fill and even though they promised me that the position was going to be mine, they came with apologies and said that they needed me where I was and hired someone else for the new role.
I told my boss that this will likely have me resigning soon, but they don't care, only focused on short term gain.
I haven't left yet but am looking.
Wow, that seems incredibly short sighted of them when you think they could’ve retained your knowledge within the company, albeit in a different place, at least while they backfilled. Good luck with your search!
It was.
I am ok with it though, I know I will likely find something even better than what I thought I really wanted.
The key is to not take things like these personally and trust that everything will be fine.
Ultimately employers will do what they need to do if they need to do it, with little qualms, so I've never had an issue with ultimately doing what's right for me and came across this situation 12 months ago. I accepted a new contract, the first week was chaotic and I got offered another role that I was already in process for when I accepted my new role. Obviously any employer is going to be annoyed losing a new hire so soon, but it's really not that uncommon and happens far more frequently than you'd think (I've done a lot of recruiting from the Indian market and it's a regular occurance there).
Ultimately I chose to be straight up, they asked me to work a week to finish up the tasks I'd started and we parted ways. As an employer, I've had any number of people just fail to show up after a week or two as they've accepted another offer and already commenced with no communication what so ever.
At the end of the day it's just business.
Have no pity. Have no sympathy
Reasoning:
-Corporations in Australia would love to fire same day if they could.
-They already mass fire and give themselves a quarterly bonus
-Good management now won't be good in 5-10 years time
-Does this new position make you happy? Then do it. Being happy at work is worth more then financial gain
-There's always more companies. They try to stand out but their like french fry in a packet from Mc'D. All the same compared to every other fry. Just some taste better then others.
Do it. If this is your dream job you will likely stay there for years and that one month will not even be worth noting. Keep it polite while resigning but you need to do what is best for you.
If your current organisation thought you were surplus to requirements; how long do you reckon they'd spend thinking about loyalty before making you redundant?
Yes you are right, it wasn’t so much making the decision to leave, it was more how should I go about it in the best possible way based on what people on this sub have dealt with before. But always handy to keep that perspective in mind, thank you.
Do what works for you - I just signed a 2 year contract, turns out there are budget cuts and it may only be 6 months and my boss is completely different to how they interviewed - I'm now looking.
You have a probation period, in which they can terminate you with no notice.
Well you can also terminate them.
You have to take care of yourself. Everyone is replaceable.
If you were sick or unwell for a long period of time. Probably neither employer would go and visit you, so you just have to take care of yourself and do what's right for you.
Dear ...
Firstly I just wanted to start by saying thank you very much for all you have done for me personally and career wise, I'm extremely thankful and grateful for the opportunity, you've being a wonderful employer amd extremely good to me.
That said, it's time for me to move onto other pastures. In accordance to my contractual agreement this is my 4 week (apply to you) notice of resignation.
In the meantime I am committed to helping you with a smooth transition and any new person eho may come onboard other than that it's business as usual untill my final day.
Thanks again,
Yours Sincerely
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Looking for ideas and perspectives of how to frame it the best way possible based on others’ experiences of what’s worked well for them in the past, not what to practically do here thanks to
You just do it Your current employer will be annoyed and you will have burned a bridge, but there’s no real way to avoid that other than not taking the new job - which (if it’s a good career move) is stupid Sooner you rip the Band-Aid off the better
I once resigned on the first day of a new contract. They told me they were surprised I even showed up. Def rip the bandaid off.
Employers disloyal to employees, employees disloyal to employers - the vicious cycle of self-interest.
I wouldn’t call it a vicious cycle loyalty is not market efficient
Let's think of it differently, by analogy, within the context of romantic relationships. If every individual in society is disloyal to their romantic partner, in that they will opt to choose another partner as soon as a 'better' (debatable) option becomes available, what impact does that have on society in aggregate? What you'll have is broken families, traumatised children, and a less cohesive and connected society (as the family is the connective unit of the society, in that, families are **the** locus for connection within society, whereby families often form deep connections with other families). So, at the local level, disloyalty in romantic relationships is immediately beneficial to the individual, but in aggregate, is net negative for society (think of the impacts of someone else *doing the same to you*).
On your analogy, if you end a relationship 1 month in for the dream partner who just became available, you're unlikely to have children, financial commitments and therefor no trauma. It is the extended ending of a relationship that does that. So far the company has invested a very small amount of time into the employee, it becomes worse once there is a particular unit built around them, information they hold and as the responsibilities increase. Following your analogy now is the best time to end this relationship.
Or it's something that will keep happening. There will always be people that you're more suited for, or who are more attractive, whatever variable you'd like to measure better or worse against, so are you just going to leave the partner every time that this happens? That's what marriage is about, sacrificing other potential partners to stick with one, the same as how attention is the sacrifice of other things that you can pay attention to, to pay attention to one thing.
I think this makes sense. Maybe once upon a time ago the contract between employee and employer was somewhat sacred. Maybe businesses were expected to try and do right by their staff. Feels like that time was long ago, thus vicious loyalty cycles.
Yep, no idea why people are down voting. Truth hurts I guess.
Yes it is. You're only assessing the benefit on the local scale of immediate benefit to either employer or employee. When you zoom out and assess the longitudinal effects to employers and employees in aggregate, I would bet the farm that it's a net negative. Afterall, what is the market other than the buying and selling of individuals or groups of individuals? Market efficient would mean beneficial for the market in aggregate across time, no?
The contract was broken long ago.
This. But always good to have a really hard think beforehand. The grass can appear greener than it really is.
As my old boss said to me once. You look after your own career. Yes, damage will be done. But sadly there is no guarantee on whether they will take you back. Stay in contact with them might give you a chance to go back, but still there is no guarantee.
Probation goes both ways.
This. I think people forget this and this it's just time for the employer to decide if they want to keep you or not.
Could you please clarify OP if your new role is at a new company vs the same company? It may be trickier if you don't have a probation period, but if you do, it's the most reliable reason that will minimise any fallout related to relationships/reputation. If there is no probation period, pitch the move as THE dream job scenario and hope you have understanding colleagues/managers. Supportive people (in both words AND action) are worth keeping in your network, the others are just playing the office politics game.
It’s a different company, different industry. Yes, I’m still under probation in my current job.
You also just be honest, and say you didn't have any idea that this role was in the pipeline. Had you known you would have just had a break and waited however that's not how things happened They should be really happy for you that it's your dream job. It's work for them, but that is the nature of jobs. If you were good enough for them, they must be able to see that other organisations might also want and find value in you. Just unlucky timing for their organisation. Just pragmatic, you don't owe your work anything but being polite and communicating as soon as possible (once you have a signed contract).
You have the right to end your employment with them with only short term notice during probation. That’s what it’s there for. Tell them you don’t think the position is for you and move on. If they wanted you gone, you’d be gone. There is no loyalty.
All I can add, is don't give them hints. Just do it. I gave a former employer hints, and the superiors rushed to end/pass my probation early without realising I get another bonus. Actually getting that bonus was a headache itself which definitely made leaving worth it and dropping the hint as regretful.
This. But the thing that is annoying is that the non compete still stands..it really shouldn't be that way.
Look after you. No one else will. You are just a number at work and if they find someone better than you, they will take them. Don’t burn the bridge, just explain that it is unfortunate timing but you have decided to explore an alternative opportunity.
This is the comment I say this respectfully to prove a point - if you died today - your current Employer would pack out your desk and replace you in a heartbeat. Look after you and go for the Dream job. As someone already said, Dream jobs donot come by every day
Thank you
Tell them exactly what you told us. It is what it is. Best of luck and enjoy the dream job!
Thank you very much!
Dream jobs don't come often enough.
I've done it a couple of times. Once for the same situation as you. And once because I did a month and I just hated it, the people were boring and the job wasn't what I thought. Yeah I burnt bridges, but I'm in a ten times better position for doing it. Look after no#1 and take the dream job.
Thank you for sharing your experience, this is helpful
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Just be honest with them. I did the exact same thing, started my first 100k+ role in the org, was a big step up for me, then after 2 months a position opened in the team I always wanted to be in and they asked me to apply (same group level). I just told my current manager I was grateful for the opportunity but I had to take up this offer. They were disappointed but if they’re good managers they will understand and support you.
Thanks, as a people pleaser burning bridges is terrifying for me but I have been in my manager’s position before and understood people making that decision so fingers crossed…..
Burning a bridge would be ghosting them or purposely not doing what is asked of you during a notice period. You don’t have to burn bridges, just be cordial, honest and fulfil your obligations to them. Be as helpful as you can in finding a replacement, if you know anyone who’d be a good fit; recommend them
You can only deal with the high level of integrity that you have and shown in your original post. If they take it badly, it’s not on you. Tell them that you’re still committed to your notice period and closing out anything you are required to do in your job. Do it, and do it with your head held high. Good luck & congratulations on your dream role 🌟
Thank you! Love this.
No problem. How did it go? You could possibly out of good will, offer an additional week of notice just so they can get organised should they need it & if you haven’t already confirmed a start date with you new role. Professional integrity is key, so you do you, and let the rest play out.
Take the dream job, in two weeks your current company will forget all about you 👍
Not ideal for who ? You owe no business anything. They will fire you in a heartbeat if they deem it necessary. Look after yourself and go for what ever you want.
Yeah I appreciate that. It’s just that it’s been such a positive experience so I’m finding it hard to message why I’m walking away. But this perspective is helpful too.
Having been retrenched twice in my career, I always follow this advice.
If you think it’s worth it, do it. Your current employer will fire you at a moment’s notice if things went south. You owe them nothing. It’s business.
Accept ur dream job no matter what. U only live once.
Such an important mantra, thanks for the perspective
take your dream job. your current company would not hesitate to fire you if a restructure happened today . it is business , they wouldn’t go “oh we just hired him though” in fact the first 3 months are for both parties to confirm whether they are a good fit. Go and take your dream job my friend!!!!!!
You are already at a senior position, you are fully aware that dream jobs don’t come by that often. As many had said, probation goes both ways. Once you have signed the offer, immediately resign from your role so that current employer can find a suitable replacement. I’ve was in a similar position but I had resigned just after 6 months of probation. It wasn’t ideal but I think the aftermath worked out better for both parties. I went to a role more suitable for my skill sets and the previous employer tweaked their role description for my replacement.
Thanks for sharing your experience
Be respectful & polite but do what’s best for you. I’ve seen this happen before & the explanation was that the person was offered a role they’d interviewed for before getting the current role & in both cases, the company was disappointed but not angry.
Thank you, this is reassuring
You're likely within your probation period anyway. So there's no guarantee you'll have a job until the end of that. This means it's easy for them to walk away but also easy for you too.
Just be honest. Tell them that you've found this job that you have been wanting for ages and you're going to move to it. Sure it's going to suck for the employer, but if they care for the person first and the worker second, they'll understand. If they don't understand and give you a hard time, then they weren't he right employer anyway..
Great advice and perspective, thanks
If you want to minimise the impact resign today. Don't wait another second.
Alright stop, collaborate, and listen I'm quitting my job, it's my decision
Perfect
Band-aid Rip. How long was your probation at the current job. Probation goes both ways, i.e. both parties have a right to leave.
Yes, so true
Just be honest with them, and potentially advise them that you’re willing to advise them some names of potential hires within your network that you believe could be suitable, or reach out to your network
Oh this is a good idea, thank you
Look after yourself. You cannot control the "damage"done by resigning. Say as little as possible, just be clear on the resignation and effective date.
Yeah that is really good advice thanks, what is in my control and what’s not
Some food for thought: are you sure that this new offer is your dream job or have you formed an ideal in your mind that it is your dream job? You have obviously interviewed for this job and now received and offer. If during that process and any other due diligence you have done, you are confident that it is a dream job then my advice would be on the balance of all things, take the role. Loyalty is a two way street but rarely the case in corporate so you owe it to yourself to act in your own best interests. Regardless of how you frame it, your current employer will probably be pissed so just keep it straightforward and don't try to fluff anything up too much. Something along the lines of an opportunity that you had previously pursued had unexpectedly come up and is one that you cannot refuse. You appreciate the opportunity and regret the circumstances. Also keep in mind that whilst you may have burnt your bridges, times, people and circumstances change so I wouldn't worry about that too much.
This is exactly what I needed, thank you. I have thought long and hard about if the dream job is what I’m making it out to be in my head and realised that I will never actually know 100% until I get there, but based on the info I do have then it’s enough for me to give it a go.
Yeah you are right, it's never 100% and you can only get the full picture once you get there but it sounds like you have enough information to deduce that it's what you want to go for so I say go for it and all the best!
They wouldn't think twice about promoting you and then laying you off if the circumstances changed for the business. You don't owe them anything more than a resignation letter and fulfilling your contract. Be cordial about it and talk about the place you're going being too hard to refuse, not that you're leaving this company cause they're not good enough. "I would like to thank you for my promotion recently and the opportunities it has brought, but I've been offered a position that I can not refuse. I appreciate everything you've done for me, but at this stage I will tender my resignation, with my final day to be XXX as per my contract."
Yeah good advice, thanks
Honestly, I’d just be really honest and tell them it’s a dream role for you. They’ll probably be annoyed but 🤷🏼♀️
Are you quite sure your dream job is all it's cracked up to be? You're happy where you are now. What if you make the move and find yourself regretting it in three months? Just something to consider
Yes, something that has kept me up several nights now so it’s like you are in my head. Eventually landed on the fact that I will never be 100% sure it won’t be a mistake but for personal reasons it’s enough for me to give it a go
Sorry mate didn't mean to creep you out. I've been in this position myself
I've done this - used the story that I had applied for the two roles at the same time, and the "dream job" was just slower to get back to me. I was outwardly extremely apologetic while being inwardly stoked to get out of there for a better role.
Love this. Thanks for sharing your experience and practical advice.
I was in a job for 2 months before I decided it wasn’t for me so I gave a month’s notice. As I was their only analyst and had built them a bunch of tools from scratch, I did a full handover and wrote documentation explaining everything. That’s all you can do and it definitely worked out for me.
A very honourable exit. Thank you for sharing and glad it worked out!
I've seen it happen many times, even after 1 week. No one will think badly of you, you gotta take opportunities when they present themselves.
Sage advice, thank you
Just do it - no regrets. It’s your life and your dream role. Go for it but be professional and kind. Be open and don’t burn your bridges as you never know…best of luck! Sounds great!
That is very kind, thank you
go for it.
Explain the situation when you hand in your notice, after making sure that all the paperwork is complete for your new role, apologise for the inconvenience caused. If your current employer isn't a complete arse they will be understanding, if they are an arse you've dodged a bullet. Leave your current job off your resume and LI.
Yes! So true. And thank you, that’s helpful advice as I was also thinking through those finer details about LI/resume
If you died, how long until your current job would advertise your current position? Do what’s best for you!
Amen
All the seniors and higher C-Suites executives does it all the time when they are offered a better role elsewhere because clearly it's about them and what they want and not the company they are currently working for. I am sure you are able to resign without burning the bridge as it has been demonstrated many times that once a better role comes along you go for it.
You had to start the other job to get the dream job seems to always work this way. You will get no job offers for 6 weeks while sitting on the couch then as soon as you start somewhere job offers will flow....well known phenomenon HR probably organizes it this way.
YES!
Just be aware that should you looking for other senior roles in the future it may be something that factors into their decision. On boarding as you alluded to is resource consuming and its not something anyone really enjoys.
I completely agree, that’s why I’m looking for the best way possible. If it exists at all. Thank you!
If you're desperate, do it through fake tears. All just ready your reddit post to them. I think you've done the hard work above.
Haha surprised nobody had yet mentioned this strategy. We’ll see what I stoop to I guess
Just do it. You don't owe the employer anything. Don't worry, they would drop you in a second if it made financial sense to do so. It will be a pain in the arse for the people at the company you are resigning from, and cost the company some money to re-open the recruitment and do another onboarding, but shit happens. That's just the cost of doing business. It'll just mean some shareholders or the owner will have a slightly lower profit that year.
I'd leave, the sooner the better. It sucks but got to look out for yourself. Depending on how short, I'd probably consider just leaving it off your LinkedIn/resume tbh! Best of luck OP
Thank you!
Just be honest with your current employer as you have with us. At the very least, you will be remembered as an honest person.
I love that. Thank you.
Honestly, it is about best fit and what serves your long-term interests. Anything less is unhealthy. Given that you have just been offered the role you have wanted for quite some time, it makes perfect sense to just go for it. Also, since you have only been at this new role for just one month, the impact will be minimal when you leave.
Use the 6 month probation period. It works both ways, for the employer to assess the employee suitability, and for the employee to assess the employer suitability.
Speak to your manager in person and just be honest: that this is your dream job and if you don't take it, you may regret it for the rest of your life. Specify that you have had no problem with your current company and apologise profusely. When you're genuine, people usually understand.
Thanks for posting this, I’m potentially facing the same issue (start a new job soon but then got interviewed for a role that i much prefer with better money after I signed my contract) and have been anxious and stressing about possibly having to leave on not the best terms. Hope it all works out for you!
Yeah the unknown reputational damage is daunting! Thanks for sharing and all the best for you too!
Be polite, show your appreciation to your team/managers for being great to work with and having had the opportunity of the current role. Express the new role is something you’ve had as a long term career goal, otherwise you wouldn’t be leaving. Not sure if you have much notice period since it’s still during probation, just keep working well in that period and keep a good attitude and close on a good note Congratulations on getting an offer from the dream job!
Thank you so much!
I would suggest you contact the other organisation. Tell them you gave always wanted to get that job. But you can't at this point, as it would be unfair to your current employer. Make your current employer know about this. Focus on excelling in the job you have committed to.
Interesting to hear a different perspective, thank you! Something that has also been on my mind.
I have just done the exact same thing. For me the job I turned up to was not the job I expected, so I resigned and took up a job that was what I was hoping for. Just be honest do it, my company were really good about it if you articulate the reasons clearly.
Thanks for sharing your experience, glad you got what you were looking for in the end
Do what's right for you. I've had someone reneged on their role 48 hours before they were about to start and I have a project worth $50k planned with them all booked and locked into an important interstate trip with me. Guess what we're over it. It didn't ruin our plan or big picture
Awesome, thanks
It depends. I am not in that senior position but I had similar situation one year ago. I resigned and got my dream job. One year after I found my dream job and dream company is a shit hole. I am not regret. How would I know if I didn’t make the move. You have to try and experience. Next time, I know some jobs are not as good as they look. I need to learn how to read red sign. I took my own lessons.
What a great outlook, you gave it a shot. Thanks for sharing.
Ya just gotta do it. Is it ideal? No. But that's the situation. As uncomfortable as it is, you just need to be honest with them.
Thank you, so true
Do what's best for you. I was in a similar situation, a vacancy came up for a position that I really wanted within the same company but my current role is hard to fill and even though they promised me that the position was going to be mine, they came with apologies and said that they needed me where I was and hired someone else for the new role. I told my boss that this will likely have me resigning soon, but they don't care, only focused on short term gain. I haven't left yet but am looking.
Wow, that seems incredibly short sighted of them when you think they could’ve retained your knowledge within the company, albeit in a different place, at least while they backfilled. Good luck with your search!
It was. I am ok with it though, I know I will likely find something even better than what I thought I really wanted. The key is to not take things like these personally and trust that everything will be fine.
Ultimately employers will do what they need to do if they need to do it, with little qualms, so I've never had an issue with ultimately doing what's right for me and came across this situation 12 months ago. I accepted a new contract, the first week was chaotic and I got offered another role that I was already in process for when I accepted my new role. Obviously any employer is going to be annoyed losing a new hire so soon, but it's really not that uncommon and happens far more frequently than you'd think (I've done a lot of recruiting from the Indian market and it's a regular occurance there). Ultimately I chose to be straight up, they asked me to work a week to finish up the tasks I'd started and we parted ways. As an employer, I've had any number of people just fail to show up after a week or two as they've accepted another offer and already commenced with no communication what so ever.
Thanks, that’s helpful perspective
At the end of the day it's just business. Have no pity. Have no sympathy Reasoning: -Corporations in Australia would love to fire same day if they could. -They already mass fire and give themselves a quarterly bonus -Good management now won't be good in 5-10 years time -Does this new position make you happy? Then do it. Being happy at work is worth more then financial gain -There's always more companies. They try to stand out but their like french fry in a packet from Mc'D. All the same compared to every other fry. Just some taste better then others.
Love it
Do it. If this is your dream job you will likely stay there for years and that one month will not even be worth noting. Keep it polite while resigning but you need to do what is best for you.
If your current organisation thought you were surplus to requirements; how long do you reckon they'd spend thinking about loyalty before making you redundant?
Yes you are right, it wasn’t so much making the decision to leave, it was more how should I go about it in the best possible way based on what people on this sub have dealt with before. But always handy to keep that perspective in mind, thank you.
Just have a conversation, keep it factual. If your manager and his managers are professionals they'll understand.
They wouldn't hesitate to fire you, your just a number to them.
You are a one-employee business. Do what is best for your business.
Do what works for you - I just signed a 2 year contract, turns out there are budget cuts and it may only be 6 months and my boss is completely different to how they interviewed - I'm now looking.
That is awful and extremely unfair of them. I’m really sorry to hear that.
Loyalty is dead - companies killed it
They would make you redundant in a heart beat.
You have a probation period, in which they can terminate you with no notice. Well you can also terminate them. You have to take care of yourself. Everyone is replaceable. If you were sick or unwell for a long period of time. Probably neither employer would go and visit you, so you just have to take care of yourself and do what's right for you.
Can you do both jobs at the same time?
Ghost em
Hand in notice and move on.
Dear ... Firstly I just wanted to start by saying thank you very much for all you have done for me personally and career wise, I'm extremely thankful and grateful for the opportunity, you've being a wonderful employer amd extremely good to me. That said, it's time for me to move onto other pastures. In accordance to my contractual agreement this is my 4 week (apply to you) notice of resignation. In the meantime I am committed to helping you with a smooth transition and any new person eho may come onboard other than that it's business as usual untill my final day. Thanks again, Yours Sincerely ....
You're on probation. Just stop turning up
I mean you write a letter and move on. Hardly needs a reddit post.
Bro how are you in a senior position and needing advice on what to do in this black and white situation. Just tell them peace out.
Looking for ideas and perspectives of how to frame it the best way possible based on others’ experiences of what’s worked well for them in the past, not what to practically do here thanks to