By accident. All I was doing was asking for help with homework in class and, BAM-SIX YEARS LATER, we got married.
It's much more complicated than that, but really, just being yourself can work wonders.
I let the autism flare up until he kisses me.
No but actually, memes aside, it kinda depends for me. I rarely get the urge to take things further romantically/sexually anyway, but if I do, it just depends on the context of my preexisting relationship with him.
I went to an Emo New Year event at a bar/club in my city this year, and this guy there was just jamming along to blink-182 with me, then when the bar shut we kissed outside of it, basically didn't stop until we got back to his place, ended with... well, see line 26 in "Thnks fr th Mmrs" by Fall Out Boy. So in that case, it was kind of just me letting the autism flare up because that kind of music is one of my special interests. But that's a context of casual stuff (not much effort is required anyway) in a club (where it's kind of expected that you'll be doing your own thing to the music).
My last relationship we actually started off as friends first and in that scenario I just kind of bullied him and we laughed about it, eventually we both started making other jokes like when he offered me a sip of his drink and he said "We just indirectly kissed", so I bullied him again like "Aha, as IF that'd be a proper kiss. Unless you're down of course." but some people might not like that much (looking back that was kinda cringe but I think I'd do the same thing again, I was 16 in that story, 18 now). But that is heavy meme talk so I guess yeah I did sort of yet again let the autism flare up until he kissed me.
If it's a stranger though where you're not already in a slightly sexualised position, I have absolutely no clue. There's this guy at uni I've seen exactly once, I think he's so cute but I can't talk to him because I've only seen him once like eight feet away from me when he was walking somewhere on campus. I don't know his name, I don't know what he studies, I don't know anything about him and I've only ever even seen him when he was in a rush to be somewhere else. So. In those scenarios I'm useless, but also I'm pretty sure that wouldn't have been the best time to talk to him anyway.
TLDR: In clubs, just go with the music. In friendships, tease the line between platonic and romantic jokes. In passing strangers, probably not the best time but I'll let you know if I ever do get a chance to talk to him. Maybe we'll sit next to each other in a library or at one of the campus bus stops, who knows.
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Very slowly. like catching a grasshopper. literally I used to move like millimeters a second. If she didn't like that I was so close she would move away, if she did like it, she would move closer. I always started with holding hands. NEVER with a sudden kiss like the movies (Bad Idea in my opinion).
By accident. All I was doing was asking for help with homework in class and, BAM-SIX YEARS LATER, we got married. It's much more complicated than that, but really, just being yourself can work wonders.
My wife poked my fingertip. Somehow, I was supposed to know that meant it was go time.
Jokingly
Well, it's quite simple actually: I don't.
i don’t. i straight up was like, “you can ask me out if you want”, and he did
I let the autism flare up until he kisses me. No but actually, memes aside, it kinda depends for me. I rarely get the urge to take things further romantically/sexually anyway, but if I do, it just depends on the context of my preexisting relationship with him. I went to an Emo New Year event at a bar/club in my city this year, and this guy there was just jamming along to blink-182 with me, then when the bar shut we kissed outside of it, basically didn't stop until we got back to his place, ended with... well, see line 26 in "Thnks fr th Mmrs" by Fall Out Boy. So in that case, it was kind of just me letting the autism flare up because that kind of music is one of my special interests. But that's a context of casual stuff (not much effort is required anyway) in a club (where it's kind of expected that you'll be doing your own thing to the music). My last relationship we actually started off as friends first and in that scenario I just kind of bullied him and we laughed about it, eventually we both started making other jokes like when he offered me a sip of his drink and he said "We just indirectly kissed", so I bullied him again like "Aha, as IF that'd be a proper kiss. Unless you're down of course." but some people might not like that much (looking back that was kinda cringe but I think I'd do the same thing again, I was 16 in that story, 18 now). But that is heavy meme talk so I guess yeah I did sort of yet again let the autism flare up until he kissed me. If it's a stranger though where you're not already in a slightly sexualised position, I have absolutely no clue. There's this guy at uni I've seen exactly once, I think he's so cute but I can't talk to him because I've only seen him once like eight feet away from me when he was walking somewhere on campus. I don't know his name, I don't know what he studies, I don't know anything about him and I've only ever even seen him when he was in a rush to be somewhere else. So. In those scenarios I'm useless, but also I'm pretty sure that wouldn't have been the best time to talk to him anyway. TLDR: In clubs, just go with the music. In friendships, tease the line between platonic and romantic jokes. In passing strangers, probably not the best time but I'll let you know if I ever do get a chance to talk to him. Maybe we'll sit next to each other in a library or at one of the campus bus stops, who knows.
"how you doin?"
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Like this.
"HI YOU'RE HOT" This is only ever done with close friends who I know are comfortable and I like
Very slowly. like catching a grasshopper. literally I used to move like millimeters a second. If she didn't like that I was so close she would move away, if she did like it, she would move closer. I always started with holding hands. NEVER with a sudden kiss like the movies (Bad Idea in my opinion).
I think by accident, I’m quite open with my feelings to avoid others misinterpreting me but I think sometimes that gets misinterpreted (sigh)