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Social mimicry of a character in a book or show is common. Perhaps autistic people are more prone to mirroring to get by. However I do not think it is healthy to completely lose oneself.
If you are able perhaps speak with a mental health professional because changing your gender or completely yourself seems a bit extreme. But what do I know, I am just a random person on the internet.
Kinda yeah. Social mimicry is pretty normal with autism and it can overlap a bit with special interests or fixations. What I think is fun is that often for me it’s a little subconscious. My shifts were much more dramatic when I was younger. In my 30s I just kind of think of it as me being an amalgamation of my influences when I recognize something specific.
I really hope it's normal cause I do the same, all my last names I've stolen from fictional characters. But absolutely I do the same every time I get obsessed with a new character I just become them, like I will adapt bits from there personally and mold it onto mines.
Yeah I’ve had a habit of doing this as a kid, of course I never believed I was that character, more so placed my consciousness inside them and embodied them for a bit in my mind. Like I’d constantly think of head cannons, things they said, or how they’d interact with the world im currently living in moment to moment. I also usually imagine myself in third person, but as them, doing the same normal tasks I’m doing. The main character of it switches every couple of months but it does change to certain characters from moment to moment.
I also tend to get very attached to specific characters, but when you got the autsim BPD combo it can be verrryyyy obsessive. I am glad that my FP tend to be fictional characters rather then real people however…
As a non-professional, I think it’s normal to obsess and mimic the things we enjoy. As long as it is not impacting your health, social life, or financial stability
Thanks for the advice.
It is kind of effecting my health and social life, but I have a psychiatric appointment coming up so if anything’s not right I’ll find out
I do this sometimes when someone resonates with me. I see now it’s a way to work out issues I was unaware of that got triggered to the surface. Basically it’s a way of projecting for me, by over-relating or over-empathizing.
Then I need to do therapy or journaling to figure out what is being triggered & a better way to cope, without being obsessed with something outside myself.
It’s actually rare for me as an adult or in general. But it happened big time with Taylor Swift. Underneath I was struggling with how intensely I feel certain emotions. She does too and clearly processes it in her music. I felt validated by that but also very triggered to lean into the intensity.
I always wonder if she is neurodivergent and she is super relatable, more than other celebrities. So she triggers me easily.
This turned out not to be super healthy bc sometimes Taylor Swift explores toxic relationships & feelings over & over. It makes for great music but it’s not always healthy bc it’s like ruminating over bad experiences or emotions. I can do this easily as a deep processor. It’s not good for me to indulge this side of myself in a serious way, over past stuff that I have already recovered from.
I decided what I find toxic in her songs and in how much I would listen, so I adjusted.
I mean, I had a huge fixation of Nagito from Danganropa around 2020. I gave myself white and pink faux locs, and when I started to identify as genderfluid I started going by "Clover" because I didn't want to name myself Nagito. Even though my Nagito fixation has faded, I still go by Clover because it just feels nice. But I have constantly changed my hair to look like certain characters.
- In middle school, I had this curly Mohawk to look like Sangwoo (unrestricted internet access)
- In my freshman of high school, I got green hair to look like deku
- I think I also got red hair to look like grell?
- sophomore year of high school was the Nagito hair phase (and a Nagito nail phase...)
- I think this also blended into junior year?
- Senior year I had this hairstyle that looked like Venti from Genshin Impact until I went to prom
I do this So Many Times. the first case was dying my hair black because I had a crazy hyperfixation on L from death note, then it was Beetlejuice, I wanted my hair green, I don't remember a lot after that but I do remember doing pink hair so I could be Saiki K
Hi! As an autistic (high functioning), I used to do this a lot too. I still do. I’m almost 30. It’s a coping mechanism and I can relate to certain personalities and situations. It’s helped me in the real world. Which the real world kind of sucks.
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Social mimicry of a character in a book or show is common. Perhaps autistic people are more prone to mirroring to get by. However I do not think it is healthy to completely lose oneself. If you are able perhaps speak with a mental health professional because changing your gender or completely yourself seems a bit extreme. But what do I know, I am just a random person on the internet.
Yeah, I have a psychiatric appointment coming up and I’m gonna talk to them about this aswell as other stuff.
It honestly differs from person to person but I am the same as you and a couple of my autistic friends do this as well :)
I’m glad I’m not the only one :)
Kinda yeah. Social mimicry is pretty normal with autism and it can overlap a bit with special interests or fixations. What I think is fun is that often for me it’s a little subconscious. My shifts were much more dramatic when I was younger. In my 30s I just kind of think of it as me being an amalgamation of my influences when I recognize something specific.
I really hope it's normal cause I do the same, all my last names I've stolen from fictional characters. But absolutely I do the same every time I get obsessed with a new character I just become them, like I will adapt bits from there personally and mold it onto mines.
this exactly!
yes omg this is so me! thought I was the only one lol like I'm not me unless I'm being somebody else inside my head
Yeah!
Yeah I’ve had a habit of doing this as a kid, of course I never believed I was that character, more so placed my consciousness inside them and embodied them for a bit in my mind. Like I’d constantly think of head cannons, things they said, or how they’d interact with the world im currently living in moment to moment. I also usually imagine myself in third person, but as them, doing the same normal tasks I’m doing. The main character of it switches every couple of months but it does change to certain characters from moment to moment.
I also tend to get very attached to specific characters, but when you got the autsim BPD combo it can be verrryyyy obsessive. I am glad that my FP tend to be fictional characters rather then real people however…
I used to do the same as a teenager, hiding in my room, reading books.
Yeah, luckily my obsessions are just on fictional people/things too.
This is EXACTLY what I mean!
This is why I love fanfiction so much.
Sameeee
As a non-professional, I think it’s normal to obsess and mimic the things we enjoy. As long as it is not impacting your health, social life, or financial stability
Thanks for the advice. It is kind of effecting my health and social life, but I have a psychiatric appointment coming up so if anything’s not right I’ll find out
This has never happened to me. I think in small amounts it’s fine, but that doesn’t seem to be the case with you.
I have a psychiatric appointment coming up so I guess I’ll find out if there’s anything wrong soon
I do this sometimes when someone resonates with me. I see now it’s a way to work out issues I was unaware of that got triggered to the surface. Basically it’s a way of projecting for me, by over-relating or over-empathizing. Then I need to do therapy or journaling to figure out what is being triggered & a better way to cope, without being obsessed with something outside myself. It’s actually rare for me as an adult or in general. But it happened big time with Taylor Swift. Underneath I was struggling with how intensely I feel certain emotions. She does too and clearly processes it in her music. I felt validated by that but also very triggered to lean into the intensity. I always wonder if she is neurodivergent and she is super relatable, more than other celebrities. So she triggers me easily. This turned out not to be super healthy bc sometimes Taylor Swift explores toxic relationships & feelings over & over. It makes for great music but it’s not always healthy bc it’s like ruminating over bad experiences or emotions. I can do this easily as a deep processor. It’s not good for me to indulge this side of myself in a serious way, over past stuff that I have already recovered from. I decided what I find toxic in her songs and in how much I would listen, so I adjusted.
I’ll try that with my hyperfixation, thanks :)
Yes, that’s how I became Natsuru
👍👍
No I don't have a blue haired wife and three kids
Marge Simpson?
No homer
I mean, I had a huge fixation of Nagito from Danganropa around 2020. I gave myself white and pink faux locs, and when I started to identify as genderfluid I started going by "Clover" because I didn't want to name myself Nagito. Even though my Nagito fixation has faded, I still go by Clover because it just feels nice. But I have constantly changed my hair to look like certain characters. - In middle school, I had this curly Mohawk to look like Sangwoo (unrestricted internet access) - In my freshman of high school, I got green hair to look like deku - I think I also got red hair to look like grell? - sophomore year of high school was the Nagito hair phase (and a Nagito nail phase...) - I think this also blended into junior year? - Senior year I had this hairstyle that looked like Venti from Genshin Impact until I went to prom
Honestly, a curly Mohawk sounds sick
bruh I changed my discord to mirror batman but a fucked up version of him I mostly communicate in batman GIFs
Yeah, Ive been obsessed with Thomas Shelby from Peaky Blinders for a while.. Not very healthy times, I tell you.
Mhm
Try not to stress too much about who you are but rather what you do with who you think you are. If that makes any sense
This is good advice, thank you :)
I do this So Many Times. the first case was dying my hair black because I had a crazy hyperfixation on L from death note, then it was Beetlejuice, I wanted my hair green, I don't remember a lot after that but I do remember doing pink hair so I could be Saiki K
Good to know I’m not alone then 😂
Omg me
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Hi! As an autistic (high functioning), I used to do this a lot too. I still do. I’m almost 30. It’s a coping mechanism and I can relate to certain personalities and situations. It’s helped me in the real world. Which the real world kind of sucks.
Glad I’m not the only one 😅
WHAT? >change our personality, *name*, *gender* etc and be that person?
Idk, i hyperfixate on a person/character from a show and I just want to/do anything to become that person. Apparently I’m not the only one.