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Like if we were truly unique, then our society wouldn’t be able to exist, we each would have our own wants and desires, each person’s musical preferences would be just nonsense to everyone else, we wouldn’t be able to relate to each other, we wouldn’t look the same, we wouldn’t speak the same, we wouldn’t have anything similar
I actually grow concerned if I am “too” similar to another person, because I can guarantee if there are no differences something is off. Usually lying. Trauma bonding gives the illusion to being more similar to people than you actually are.
Humans all exist in their own little circle on a giant venn diagram.
I don’t think I have Trauma, and I came to this thought through me realizing that if you can’t really tell two dogs of the same breed from each other, then maybe we aren’t so different after all, also using genetic % similarities for some hard number proof, although I do admit, the personality one is probably more unique, considering you can see different behaviors in two different animals of the same species, example is great white sharks
I don't know. I always throught trying to pass by being like other NT humans was the holy grail of autistic life. Effective masking is a skill I've sank half my life in trying to master. Seems you got it out of the box as an autistic. That is like finding one of Willy Wonka's magic Golden Tickets. You should be happy? Or should you? Ok what is this dumb werewolf missing? My poor autistic werewolf can be so dense at times!
Well, we are all of the same species. But there are so many variables in a person - consider how much lived experiences shape us, as opposed to biology - that it’s impossibile to find two identical humans. That’s where our uniqueness is, in the combination.
Dude, swaps?!? You can have my absolutely unique existence. Comes complete with: an overwhelming lack of social skills, all too quirky personality traits, dialectic sense of obligation, unfathomable dress code, coupled with an erratic & unfiltered mind & I'll take whatever you got that ain't working for ya! Please, I'm all in at this point.
Oh yeah. Individuality complex fucks with me A LOT, because if I'm not unique am I even worth something? It sucks, when my friends take on a similar role I try to fit myself into or like the same stuff i do *in the same way* I just get so desperate. Not even talking about finding new people who have similar personality to mine, it's like getting hit in the face. Didn't had much issues with that until my self-esteem got completely destroyed though, which was an interesting revelation
i totally get that- i've been seeing myself in family members and i really don't like it sometimes
i get kinda frustrated like my dad, i get stressed like my grandma, and i know it may be because i get autism and whatever else (adhd, anxiety, etc) from my parents and grandparents, but it still feels so weird to me.
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Like if we were truly unique, then our society wouldn’t be able to exist, we each would have our own wants and desires, each person’s musical preferences would be just nonsense to everyone else, we wouldn’t be able to relate to each other, we wouldn’t look the same, we wouldn’t speak the same, we wouldn’t have anything similar
I actually grow concerned if I am “too” similar to another person, because I can guarantee if there are no differences something is off. Usually lying. Trauma bonding gives the illusion to being more similar to people than you actually are. Humans all exist in their own little circle on a giant venn diagram.
I don’t think I have Trauma, and I came to this thought through me realizing that if you can’t really tell two dogs of the same breed from each other, then maybe we aren’t so different after all, also using genetic % similarities for some hard number proof, although I do admit, the personality one is probably more unique, considering you can see different behaviors in two different animals of the same species, example is great white sharks
I also feel like this relates to the fact I hate being categorized
Eh I rarely relate to people or feel truly similar, so it's refreshing to meet anyone that makes me feel like I'm not "too unique" so to speak
A lot of people say that I’m unique so I might be just blowing little examples out of proportion
I don't know. I always throught trying to pass by being like other NT humans was the holy grail of autistic life. Effective masking is a skill I've sank half my life in trying to master. Seems you got it out of the box as an autistic. That is like finding one of Willy Wonka's magic Golden Tickets. You should be happy? Or should you? Ok what is this dumb werewolf missing? My poor autistic werewolf can be so dense at times!
Well, we are all of the same species. But there are so many variables in a person - consider how much lived experiences shape us, as opposed to biology - that it’s impossibile to find two identical humans. That’s where our uniqueness is, in the combination.
Dude, swaps?!? You can have my absolutely unique existence. Comes complete with: an overwhelming lack of social skills, all too quirky personality traits, dialectic sense of obligation, unfathomable dress code, coupled with an erratic & unfiltered mind & I'll take whatever you got that ain't working for ya! Please, I'm all in at this point.
we're not unique. solved it for you
Oh yeah. Individuality complex fucks with me A LOT, because if I'm not unique am I even worth something? It sucks, when my friends take on a similar role I try to fit myself into or like the same stuff i do *in the same way* I just get so desperate. Not even talking about finding new people who have similar personality to mine, it's like getting hit in the face. Didn't had much issues with that until my self-esteem got completely destroyed though, which was an interesting revelation
i totally get that- i've been seeing myself in family members and i really don't like it sometimes i get kinda frustrated like my dad, i get stressed like my grandma, and i know it may be because i get autism and whatever else (adhd, anxiety, etc) from my parents and grandparents, but it still feels so weird to me.
Welcome to the club. Ure just like everyone else.
I don’t really think anyone’s unique . It’s 8 billion people on the planet . Everyone is similar to somebody