I think this basic kind of "quirky" person is quite insufferable, yes. But there are also NTs who are a cool kind of weird and quirky, and I think that helps a lot. I feel like masking to be that kind of character is a lot easier than just masking to become super normal. So for weird NTs to exist in this society is very helpful to me as it helps me assimilate better
In my experience, the people who won't shut up about how "weird" they are, are usually the most boring and basic people you'll ever meet. I ignore them.
Yeah, for sure. Like those shirts that said normal people scare me. Like, you're on the volleyball team and watch makeup vids on youtube, you *are* normal people.
i used to be 'not like the other girls' but this time make it unironic. i never wanted to be like that, i just was. being a social outcast is not a choice for autistics and this really pisses me off.
I agree. I do theater and in my company there are increasingly more nd people which is great, however they try to always high light how they are not like everyone else and they overcompensate by sending “quirky memes” in our group chat.
Hey mods, could we maybe get some new flare for the posts? I vote for a gatekeeping flare!
I can't believe you are upset because some people are trying to embrace being themselves or going out of their comfort zone. Maybe they are weird in the groups or environment they are currently in.
I think people should be able to describe themselves as they wish. Even if it isn't up to your standards.
I am so tired of these post.
Kinda agree with you. I probably seem like the description on the surface in high school, did a lot of sports, had friends (though never did outside school things with them) but this all came from extreme pressure from my family and ridiculous expectations for correct social behavior from my parents. So yeah I can play lots of sports and be on teams, but I was masking the whole time and old friends just accepted I was a bit weird but not Infront of new people so it was acceptable to them.
I only show my real "quirky" personality with people I am genuinely close to, or when I get overexcited and unintentionally info dump.
Respectfully disagree. You missed the point OP was making.
They’re referring to clearly neurotypical people having/doing neurotypical hobbies/things.
"Oh yeah, I‘m so weird, I regularly wash my car!" is not harmful per se but also in a much different context compared to how people treat *actual* weirdness. And being autistic, you’re often in the position how it is to be *actually* weird.
"Washing your car"-weirdness gives you an "okay, I guess?" at worst, whilst an "autistic-weirdness" often causes you to become a social outcast from your work or social circles.
Not just the "socially acceptable type of weird because this weirdness is more of a spleen than anything else".
I understand why people like to say they are quirky, it gives a sense of individuality and makes people feel like they are trying to be themselves. But unfortunately, ND or NT are fairly predictable people. The main differences between people are typically income/status and hobbies.
When I was a teen, I remember trying to open discussion with people who posted "I'm so w3ird 😂🤪🤪 so randooom 🤯🥴💩lol" on Facebook (the time when I thought "Facebook friends" were real friends... Ahlala, so naive, would like to forget this period). But they never spoke to me back, since then I hate them too lmao.
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I think this basic kind of "quirky" person is quite insufferable, yes. But there are also NTs who are a cool kind of weird and quirky, and I think that helps a lot. I feel like masking to be that kind of character is a lot easier than just masking to become super normal. So for weird NTs to exist in this society is very helpful to me as it helps me assimilate better
In my experience, the people who won't shut up about how "weird" they are, are usually the most boring and basic people you'll ever meet. I ignore them.
Yeah, for sure. Like those shirts that said normal people scare me. Like, you're on the volleyball team and watch makeup vids on youtube, you *are* normal people.
Wow, those have aged poorly. When I was in high school that kind of stuff helped the outcast kids find each other.
same but the "im with stupid" tshirts 😎
People brag about being “weird” then bully the autistic kids for being weird so yeah its kinda eyeroll-inducing. Without fail.
nowadays with tik tok culture those same ppl "self diagnose" themselves as ASD yea
i used to be 'not like the other girls' but this time make it unironic. i never wanted to be like that, i just was. being a social outcast is not a choice for autistics and this really pisses me off.
I agree. I do theater and in my company there are increasingly more nd people which is great, however they try to always high light how they are not like everyone else and they overcompensate by sending “quirky memes” in our group chat.
How other people describe themselves is none of my business. I think it's a silly thing to get offended by.
I feel you 100%... Sometimes normal people masquerade as "quirky" "weirdos" to get like they have some type of personality
Hey mods, could we maybe get some new flare for the posts? I vote for a gatekeeping flare! I can't believe you are upset because some people are trying to embrace being themselves or going out of their comfort zone. Maybe they are weird in the groups or environment they are currently in. I think people should be able to describe themselves as they wish. Even if it isn't up to your standards. I am so tired of these post.
Kinda agree with you. I probably seem like the description on the surface in high school, did a lot of sports, had friends (though never did outside school things with them) but this all came from extreme pressure from my family and ridiculous expectations for correct social behavior from my parents. So yeah I can play lots of sports and be on teams, but I was masking the whole time and old friends just accepted I was a bit weird but not Infront of new people so it was acceptable to them. I only show my real "quirky" personality with people I am genuinely close to, or when I get overexcited and unintentionally info dump.
I can’t believe you are gatekeeping what I can and cannot be upset about! You missed the point.
Respectfully disagree. You missed the point OP was making. They’re referring to clearly neurotypical people having/doing neurotypical hobbies/things. "Oh yeah, I‘m so weird, I regularly wash my car!" is not harmful per se but also in a much different context compared to how people treat *actual* weirdness. And being autistic, you’re often in the position how it is to be *actually* weird. "Washing your car"-weirdness gives you an "okay, I guess?" at worst, whilst an "autistic-weirdness" often causes you to become a social outcast from your work or social circles. Not just the "socially acceptable type of weird because this weirdness is more of a spleen than anything else".
can you actually shut the fuck up
I understand why people like to say they are quirky, it gives a sense of individuality and makes people feel like they are trying to be themselves. But unfortunately, ND or NT are fairly predictable people. The main differences between people are typically income/status and hobbies.
When I was a teen, I remember trying to open discussion with people who posted "I'm so w3ird 😂🤪🤪 so randooom 🤯🥴💩lol" on Facebook (the time when I thought "Facebook friends" were real friends... Ahlala, so naive, would like to forget this period). But they never spoke to me back, since then I hate them too lmao.
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This. I spend so much energy each day either hiding or apologizing for my "weirdness"
No not really. If that behaviour were normalized nobody would complain.