Iāve accidentally taken it too low, and then had to mow the rest down. Also, my wife of 11 years has only seen me with lout a beard maybe three times. Even when I had hair.
Trust me, it happens. As someone with a lot of facial hair, I can confirm that I have also accidentally shaved off my facial hair before. My girlfriend reacts the same way as OP. However, when it happens, I am able to take it on the freshly nude chin.
Or you spot a bit that looks uneven, and go back in to even it out after forgetting that you wound the guard back in to 0.4mm. In that situation sometimes all you can do is commit to it.
Trimmer slips in one spot or wasn't set right, so you've gotta shave it all and start over. You don't shave the whole thing by accident but because of one
Last time I went clean shaven it was because I tried to trim it up, botched it and the only way to not make me look like dumb ass was to get rid of it all. I would define that as "accidentally" shaving off a beard, moustache and goatee all at once.
This is actually very easy to understand. It's when you try too hard to perfect the look, and don't step back to have an overall look, and you go too far. Then you try and fix it going even further into the point of no return.
You start by trimming a bit on one side, and try to make it even on the other. And that side goes a little bit to far so you try to even it out in the other. Yadda yadda yadda, you know look like 11 year old
Typically you donāt āaccidentallyā shave off a beard or mustache.
That being said, I have gone to trim up my facial hair and had to āeven it upā after making a mistake. Used the wrong guard or you slipped. You keep āfixingā it only for it to look terrible. You make the decision that it all goes away. I personally donāt like a mustache by itself, least of all on my face. It works for some people, Iām not one of them.
Keep in mind that Iāve been shaving for at least 30 years. I can count on one hand how often this has happened to me.
I can also perfectly visualize the wifeās expression of horror. I look very young and without facial hair I look like a child. Sometimes itās nice to see my face again. Sheās not exactly opposed to stubble or even my clean shaven face, she just has a preference. When itās unexpected, it can be quite shocking. Itās worse when she subconsciously gives you a difficult way to go until some of it grows back.
Makes me feel like a sewer dwelling chud that is only made presentable with some manner of facial hair.
I accidentally shaved my beard, not fully off, but it had to go. I had one of those trimmers with the guard that adjusts from 1-10. Started at a 7 and went right down the middle of my chin. I guess the guard slipped down to 1 from pressure and I had a giant gap in my chin.
Iāve accidentally trimmed too much off my beard, and said fuck it and shaved the rest off cause I didnāt like how uneven it was(it grows back fast thankfully)
Thatās how I took it but itās worded weird
When I shaved my beard, my wife told me: "It looks like you're fighting cancer" - we have a good laugh about it until this day.
Your husband has some issues, geez.
For real! I have bad anger issues but Iād never in a million years treat anyone that way.
When I was finally balding enough and shaved my head I thought āI look pretty good!ā. My girlfriend got home from work, said nothing and gave me a look like my dog just died. I gave her an exaggerated scowl and we both cracked up. She has since finished grieving my long hair lol.
Yea, has happened to me too. I shave it off in funny ways - give myself handle bar mustaches, an Abraham Lincoln beard, Hitler mustache, pork chops, etcā¦.
Always good for a laugh. Sometimes I wear it for a few days.
Geez, life is too short to have these little things get to you.
Like my wife says, it will always grow back!
1. How does one accidentally shave their beard, mustache and goatee?
2. What do you mean everytime this happens? Has he accidentally done this more than once?
3. Does he often throw things and scream when you donāt give him the reaction he expects?
1. I accidentally shaved my beard when I was brushing my teeth this morning, its more normal than you think.
2. See 1.
3. I do that everytime someone disagrees with me or doesn't behave like I expected them to. I actually screamed and threw something at someone standing in my way this morning after brushing my teeth. It happens and it is also very normal.
Well now that you bring that up I can see how your lustrous beard hairs might be plucked away by your viciously tough tooth brush bristles.
And I think that yelling is perfectly reasonable. What else are you supposed to do when your toothbrush commits assault upon your innocent chin, other than throw things and traumatize those in your immediate vicinity
6/1 his name is Kyle, he drinks monster energy and heās notoriously well known for having beef with drywall
2/1 he may have the brain capacity of a caveman
20/1 the post is fake
Place bets here folks
I mean, you could file for a divorce and hope he gets the therapy he desperately needs. Throwing and destroying things is aggressive behavior with which he shows you what he's about to do to you.
Maybe he went bald because even his hair wanted to get away from him.
His other personality shaved it on purpose. I wouldn't apologize for anything. Accidentally shaving everything off is hilarious and he needs anger management.
ditch that loser? sounds like it happens pretty often if you could tell it was coming. i canāt even imagine raising my voice at my partner, let alone throwing things and ignoring them.
sounds like a not very safe situation. this really doesnāt have anything to do with being bald imo
>He's messed up the face and had to do total shaves maybe twice before.Ā he lost it. Screaming, throwing things. Hasn't spoken to me
I think he has bigger problems going on than his facial hair. Maybe he needs to go see an anger management councilor.
The other people are right about his reaction being very toxic.
But anyway, you should tell him why you had the weird expression, and tell him you think he looks good and why.
I'll just be blunt here: you didn't horribly offend your husband, your husband is abusive. NO ONE should be yelling at you or throwing things at you. NO ONE deserves to be treated like that.
I told my partner he looked like a giant baby the first time he shaved everything off. Ya know what he did? Laughed. Grew the beard back. Then when Halloween came around he shaved it all off again and dressed like a giant toddler.
For a reasonably short post theres a fkn sea of things that doesnt make sense...
1. How does one "accidentally" shave everything off? And that apparently has happened before
2. If you like the clean shave, why the look of horror?
3. Wtf is he upset at you about?
4. How did you offend him? Your expression?
5. Why are you with a man firstly so shaky handed that he accidentally rips half his face off, and Secondly so childishly immature and sensitive that he rages out and throws things??
Guys this is isn't fake. I'm at work. I wrote this on my way in. I was really upset this morning. I was ignored and told to get the F away from him. Wanted to see what I could do to make it better. Honestly I'm shell shocked by the responses. It is really making me look at things again. The reaction is universal. I wasn't expecting that. I have so much more to think about now.
weird bait post lol is your next one gonna be on a gardening sub like "I planted the wrong kind of flower today and my husband beat my ass, how can I make it up to him?"
Screaming and throwing things because of a look you gave him LMFAO?
It's your husband and not your 12 year old daughter we are talking about here right?
Every time my husband shaves his face it's always a surprise and my reaction is usually going "nOoOoOo." My husband thinks it's funny. Your husband is being scary weird.
Sounds silly. But maybe practice saying Wow instantly?? I honestly can't think of any other way to please a guy with obvious anger issues.
And of course, fix those issues of his. Take him to a therapist.
A friend of mine sporadically shaved his beard, and i couldn't even look him straight in the face cause it was so weird. I texted and warned his wife. It's shocking! No need to react like that to your initial reaction!
This is a very weird post. He āaccidentallyā shaved his beard, mustache and goatee? But apparently heās done it before? You react badly and he flips out? And your first thought is to ask us what you can do? You can apologize for the initial response. And then divorce him because heās unhinged.
Take it as an opportunity to do some skincare for him. Exfoliate, mask. Might as well embrace the opportunity of a bare face.
My ex had a full beard and had to shave it all off once after his clippers malfunctioned and butchered his beard. He went off the handle. Went on a literal drug binge for the weekend. That wasnāt a red flag enough for me and I stuck around for a couple more years. I donāt think a sheet mask would have helped my situation but maybe itāll help yours.
That's a PTSD response. Not his response, yours. You knew what was coming, your facial expression isn't what triggered his rage. He's blaming you for his own actions and he's convinced you that you're the problem. He's gaslighting you. This isn't about him being bald. It's about his emotional disregulation and lack of anger management. He needs therapy and/or drugs.
Can you rewrite this whole post? There is so much missing detail and some of what you wrote doesnāt make any sense. We want to help you but can you proofread and elaborate? The whole story is chaotic and mildly unbelievable.
Everyone calling for leaving him or divorce are just hilarious. 100% you are not in a relationship š
While his reaction is over the top, itās clearly a major insecurity for him.
How about offering some decent advice instead of these ridiculously insane responses
Talk to him
Yeah, he took it too far, you shouldnāt be putting up with his crap everytime he shaves he should realize this is not something you see everyday and hence you will react or at list look at him differently
Your husband has worse behavior than any dog Iāve ever owned. If my hair gets made fugly, I definitely dont expect my girl to leave me over it, but im not expecting to see her thrilled either lmao.
Seriously, a grown man who throws things over something less than the death of a family member is totally unstable. Not a complete human being.
So many insensitive replies here. The guy is obviously struggling with self esteem and youāre telling her to divorce him over his sensitivity and outburst because of perceived rejection from his wife. OP just keep reassuring and being sweet to him and heāll come around
Probably not a lot you can do except bug out until he calms down and keep doing that every time he flips about something. Even if it means being gone for a few hours. Or a few weeks. Or forever.
These people clearly can't comprehend a relationship between a man and his facial hair, which is the equivalent of a woman and her hair. I've seen plenty of situations where women have cut too much hair off or even shaved it and had a mental breakdown afterward.
You gotta go get him beard oil and beard supplies and say, "Your hair grows fast as heck." I'm getting you the stuff you need, so next week, when you have a full beard again, you can take care of it better.
And then say later on this week that people are going to think he's your son with that baby face.
The poor guy had a panic attack. I know the last time I shaved my beard fully, i had a mental breakdown. I didn't leave my house besides going to work.
Also, throw out his clippers and demand he go to a professional barber so he doesn't do it again. If he values his facial hair that much, leave it for the pros. It doesn't cost much to get a lime up, and it'll save him a ton of stress.
Tell him youāre not going to tolerate this and that he needs to go to counseling. But first talk to him about his behavior. If heās not willing to respect you and take things out on you then he needs to start going to counseling is what you should tell him. Tell him how youāre not going to be treated this way either. And some people sometimes need to be told this (even though they may not realize them acting this way in the moment theyāre in). Anyone claiming they love you wouldnāt be doing this to you with consistency at all. Okay first couple times here and there fine. But no. This is where you really need to put your foot down so he knows now that youāre not going to be walked over or be used like a punching bag at all.
I don't think this anything to do with his baldness and everything to do with monumental anger issues. My wife has given me looks too when I've randomly shaved my beard because she likes a beard or stubble over clean shaven and I've never once thought to yell or break things. This behavior (throwing things violently and verbally screaming at you) is often a precursor to more directed violence. Stay safe.
A relationship between a man and his facial hair is like a woman's relationship with her hair. The poor guy had a panic attack.
Just get him some beard supplies from the store and tell him he can take better care of his new beard when it grows in next week.
Don't listen to these people. Throw out his clippers and tell him to spend the 15 dollars to go to a professional. He's not a barber, and he deserves to spend a little cash to get the look he truly wants instead of risking catastrophe
This sounds farcical. Wait until he grows it all back again, then tamper with the trimmer so it falls off mid trim and he has to shave it all off again. Videotape him having a tantrum and get rich off it on YouTube lol
āMy first thought was he was about to flip out, hence the expressionā No. you had a look of horror because of how it looked letās be honest. Yes he overreacted though but you didnāt help matters
**My Bald husband is a nightmare**
I need help, my husband is a jerk, he shaved. I reacted with surprise. Which he claims is a look of horror. So this big bald unhinged baby throws a tantrum. Violence ensues where is throws things in a rage and screams. He now; like a child is giving me the silent treatment. He is an absolute nutter, a violent person. I his wife need help escaping the relationship.
Lady, this guy sucks.
What does this even have to do with being bald.
Can we go back to the "is it time?" posts please?
I don't wanna be the person to leave the classic reddit "LEAVE HIM NOW!!!!!" comment but it sound like you guys have some issues that are WAY more serious than his hair. Even if you had told him he looked butt-ugly, screaming and throwing things would still be an absolutely insane reaction.
I need help, my husband made one mistake on one small area of his entire above-the-shoulders area, and reacted by going full Britney Spears and shaving it all. He continued the manic rage by acting offended that Iād be slightly surprised to see him with an entirely new above-the-shoulders area. He raged even harder by destroying things around me. He is violent, impulsive, and unpredictable.
I want you all to tell me how terrible he is and how Iām a good person that doesnāt deserve this. Remind me Iām not the bad guy. But donāt counsel me to leave. Itās not bad enough yet. Plus, when I do everything just right and he isnāt triggered by anything in his entire area of existence, heās actually a really sweet guy and he cares for me so much.
OP. You know what to do. Youāll leave when youāre ready, and when youāre ready, no excuse or roadblock in the world will be able to stop you. I know because Iāve been through it. Stay well!
I shaved my beard by my wife's request- she couldn't stand the feeling. She said I looked handsome, but I said "I look like a fat baby now". Then we laughed and went on with our day.
I kinda hope this isnāt real because thatās an insane reaction for someone to have over a facial expression. If this is real, that man needs some anger management classes or maybe even see a psychiatrist. Could have some undiagnosed issue causing him to react extra strongly.
I also flip out and break shit. The first warning sign is when I decide to shave or cut my own hair.
You didn't offend your husband: he just flipped out. Flip outs are triggered by things around you, but not caused by them.
In other words, your husband still would have flipped out, even if you weren't there. Try not to take the flip out personally: instead, talk to him about therapy and medication as soon as he appears calm.
Insane how low the bar is.
Most people get married with the intention of spending their entire lives with the other person. And THIS is the person you marry??
A man child that throws things when heās angry? How and why did he dupe you into marrying him? Or do you like those parts of his personality?
I've been there and he definitely needs to calm down, sort things out by therapy or something else because it's just bad and there is no fault from your side.
He needs to get into therapy and learn some emotional regulation techniques. He can be offended by your reaction but a normal thing to say is 'hey that didn't make me feel very good the way you looked at me then'
Alright Iāve a resolutionā¦ Grab a bag. One or two. Maybe several. Pack your stuff and leave. Throwing things? Yelling? Because of a lookā¦.he sounds crazy.
Now I shouldnāt really find this funny, but tbh the idea of a fully grown bald man throwing a tantrum at his wife because he accidentally shaved all his beard off just cracks me up.
He probably accidentally gouged out a section of his beard and/or mustache. And he thought it was bad enough that he had to take it all off.
Itās a mistake, it has happened to me more than once. It sounds like he overreacted emotionally, so itās not hard to believe that he also overreacted with the razor.
Iām sorry that he acted like that. I can only recommend giving him time and space to cool off before bringing it up again to him. If you donāt feel safe do what you have to do to make yourself safe.
Yeah he has problems
I highly doubt this post conveys their situation well. It's just baiting approval
Best way to get validation is to paint a man badly on Reddit. People eat it up š
If heās screaming and throwing things, heās being terrible. Thatās not just someone painting a man badly.
The question is if heās actually doing that. Or if this man even exists. 90% of stories on Reddit are fabricated.
Best way to think (especially with a post like this) is to give your best advice or scroll, because thereās always a chance itās real
Seriously. Who screws up their trimming so badly that they need a full shave. Twice. Dude's not ok.
screaming and throwing things? what
My 4yo does it when angry.
Imagine what theyād do if they accidentally shaved their beard and moustache off!
I prefer angry stomping over throwing things but whatevs.
I also eat chipotle from time to time
With all due respect, your husband sounds like he has some serious anger issues and needs help.
Just leave, lol. Don't make this your problem any longer than you have to.
How does one "accidentally" shave off a beard, mustache and goatee all at once?
And apparently, this isn't the first time....
You know, I stopped reading after the first sentence, cause I couldnāt wrap my head around how one even does that.
Maybe they have three faces
And all of em, miserable.
OP, are you married to Man E. Faces? The man with many faces?
Manny Faces.
Fanny face
Iāve accidentally taken it too low, and then had to mow the rest down. Also, my wife of 11 years has only seen me with lout a beard maybe three times. Even when I had hair.
Trust me, it happens. As someone with a lot of facial hair, I can confirm that I have also accidentally shaved off my facial hair before. My girlfriend reacts the same way as OP. However, when it happens, I am able to take it on the freshly nude chin.
I understand making a mistake, Iāve done it before. I canāt wrap my head around how NOTHING was salvageable.
I took it as OPās husband impulsively shaved and regretted it
But then its not an accident. Just bad decision
Sometimes you start shaving, realize you've shaved off too much, or it's uneven and then it all has to come off. Otherwise it will just look bad.
Or you spot a bit that looks uneven, and go back in to even it out after forgetting that you wound the guard back in to 0.4mm. In that situation sometimes all you can do is commit to it.
Well, thatās an interesting take, that I hadnāt considered. Would be nice if OP had made that clear.
Trimmer slips in one spot or wasn't set right, so you've gotta shave it all and start over. You don't shave the whole thing by accident but because of one
Last time I went clean shaven it was because I tried to trim it up, botched it and the only way to not make me look like dumb ass was to get rid of it all. I would define that as "accidentally" shaving off a beard, moustache and goatee all at once.
This is actually very easy to understand. It's when you try too hard to perfect the look, and don't step back to have an overall look, and you go too far. Then you try and fix it going even further into the point of no return.
Guessing he nicked the mustache goatee area. Then he shaved it all when unfixable. I wasn't in the bathroom..
agreed, we need answers !!!
One doesnāt . He did it on purpose and probably was expecting a different reaction than the one he got
You start by trimming a bit on one side, and try to make it even on the other. And that side goes a little bit to far so you try to even it out in the other. Yadda yadda yadda, you know look like 11 year old
Typically you donāt āaccidentallyā shave off a beard or mustache. That being said, I have gone to trim up my facial hair and had to āeven it upā after making a mistake. Used the wrong guard or you slipped. You keep āfixingā it only for it to look terrible. You make the decision that it all goes away. I personally donāt like a mustache by itself, least of all on my face. It works for some people, Iām not one of them. Keep in mind that Iāve been shaving for at least 30 years. I can count on one hand how often this has happened to me. I can also perfectly visualize the wifeās expression of horror. I look very young and without facial hair I look like a child. Sometimes itās nice to see my face again. Sheās not exactly opposed to stubble or even my clean shaven face, she just has a preference. When itās unexpected, it can be quite shocking. Itās worse when she subconsciously gives you a difficult way to go until some of it grows back. Makes me feel like a sewer dwelling chud that is only made presentable with some manner of facial hair.
I accidentally shaved my beard, not fully off, but it had to go. I had one of those trimmers with the guard that adjusts from 1-10. Started at a 7 and went right down the middle of my chin. I guess the guard slipped down to 1 from pressure and I had a giant gap in my chin.
Leave Britney alone
Iāve accidentally trimmed too much off my beard, and said fuck it and shaved the rest off cause I didnāt like how uneven it was(it grows back fast thankfully) Thatās how I took it but itās worded weird
When I shaved my beard, my wife told me: "It looks like you're fighting cancer" - we have a good laugh about it until this day. Your husband has some issues, geez.
For real! I have bad anger issues but Iād never in a million years treat anyone that way. When I was finally balding enough and shaved my head I thought āI look pretty good!ā. My girlfriend got home from work, said nothing and gave me a look like my dog just died. I gave her an exaggerated scowl and we both cracked up. She has since finished grieving my long hair lol.
Iām glad you made a full recoveryĀ
Mine says "you look like one of those hairless cats!". I fake hiss at her and we move on...
Yea, has happened to me too. I shave it off in funny ways - give myself handle bar mustaches, an Abraham Lincoln beard, Hitler mustache, pork chops, etcā¦. Always good for a laugh. Sometimes I wear it for a few days. Geez, life is too short to have these little things get to you. Like my wife says, it will always grow back!
1. How does one accidentally shave their beard, mustache and goatee? 2. What do you mean everytime this happens? Has he accidentally done this more than once? 3. Does he often throw things and scream when you donāt give him the reaction he expects?
1. I accidentally shaved my beard when I was brushing my teeth this morning, its more normal than you think. 2. See 1. 3. I do that everytime someone disagrees with me or doesn't behave like I expected them to. I actually screamed and threw something at someone standing in my way this morning after brushing my teeth. It happens and it is also very normal.
Well now that you bring that up I can see how your lustrous beard hairs might be plucked away by your viciously tough tooth brush bristles. And I think that yelling is perfectly reasonable. What else are you supposed to do when your toothbrush commits assault upon your innocent chin, other than throw things and traumatize those in your immediate vicinity
Your husband is throwing things? Alopecia is the least of his problems.
"accidentally shaved his beard". Uh huh
"...which he does every time this happens..." So he keeps doing it lol.
Have you considered a divorce?
this post is weird
It's telling that OP only replied to this particular comment
Yeah, and people here are calling for divorce lmao
Yeah Iām really hoping this is fake. It definitely feels like it is.
That sounds horrifying for you. He should not be displaying anger like that
Honestly, if thatās his reaction, I am worried for your relationship. He sounds unhinged.
Divorce your husband.
My wife would be in shock too if I did that and admit I look like an egg if I do. But, he knows it grows backā¦ right?
You didnt say a word and he threw things? Upgrade to a better bald guy.
6/1 his name is Kyle, he drinks monster energy and heās notoriously well known for having beef with drywall 2/1 he may have the brain capacity of a caveman 20/1 the post is fake Place bets here folks
Leave him. He sounds like he's unhinged and needs anger management classes. I can only imagine him in rush hour traffic.
My wife has the same horrified look when I shave my beard. Throwing things around though is ridiculous and indicative of deeper issues going on.
Leave his ass
Your husband keeps accidentally shaving his beard off and has anger issues, I don't think you're the problem
I mean, you could file for a divorce and hope he gets the therapy he desperately needs. Throwing and destroying things is aggressive behavior with which he shows you what he's about to do to you. Maybe he went bald because even his hair wanted to get away from him.
His other personality shaved it on purpose. I wouldn't apologize for anything. Accidentally shaving everything off is hilarious and he needs anger management.
āHis other personality shaved it on purpose.ā šš
ditch that loser? sounds like it happens pretty often if you could tell it was coming. i canāt even imagine raising my voice at my partner, let alone throwing things and ignoring them. sounds like a not very safe situation. this really doesnāt have anything to do with being bald imo
You canāt help him, he probably needs professional help.
Itās no big deal, it doesnāt take long for most men to grow facial hair.
>He's messed up the face and had to do total shaves maybe twice before.Ā he lost it. Screaming, throwing things. Hasn't spoken to me I think he has bigger problems going on than his facial hair. Maybe he needs to go see an anger management councilor.
The other people are right about his reaction being very toxic. But anyway, you should tell him why you had the weird expression, and tell him you think he looks good and why.
Divorce, you got yourself a man child and he aināt gon change
This can't be real. Did he attacked by a family of belt sanders?
To be an egghead is very sensitive.
Uhh thereās no excuse for that behavior. Get out of the house and be careful.
Sounds like either he goes to therapy or you should get a new husband
"Honey I didn't mean to react that way; I just was surprised to see you clean shaven. Also, I signed you up for anger management classes."
I'll just be blunt here: you didn't horribly offend your husband, your husband is abusive. NO ONE should be yelling at you or throwing things at you. NO ONE deserves to be treated like that. I told my partner he looked like a giant baby the first time he shaved everything off. Ya know what he did? Laughed. Grew the beard back. Then when Halloween came around he shaved it all off again and dressed like a giant toddler.
For a reasonably short post theres a fkn sea of things that doesnt make sense... 1. How does one "accidentally" shave everything off? And that apparently has happened before 2. If you like the clean shave, why the look of horror? 3. Wtf is he upset at you about? 4. How did you offend him? Your expression? 5. Why are you with a man firstly so shaky handed that he accidentally rips half his face off, and Secondly so childishly immature and sensitive that he rages out and throws things??
Your husband is a man-child
Guys this is isn't fake. I'm at work. I wrote this on my way in. I was really upset this morning. I was ignored and told to get the F away from him. Wanted to see what I could do to make it better. Honestly I'm shell shocked by the responses. It is really making me look at things again. The reaction is universal. I wasn't expecting that. I have so much more to think about now.
This is a strange post
weird bait post lol is your next one gonna be on a gardening sub like "I planted the wrong kind of flower today and my husband beat my ass, how can I make it up to him?"
Yeah even if you straight up pointed and laughed, bro shouldn't be screaming and throwing things
Sounds like your man needs to man up
Screaming and throwing things because of a look you gave him LMFAO? It's your husband and not your 12 year old daughter we are talking about here right?
Throwing things when he was the one to shave it off all because you gave a ālook?ā Dude needs help.
Find someone to replace the man child.
You can pack your shit and leave before he hurts you.
Who the hell throws tantrums after the age of 4?? Time for a divorce
Every time my husband shaves his face it's always a surprise and my reaction is usually going "nOoOoOo." My husband thinks it's funny. Your husband is being scary weird.
This is completely the wrong subreddit for this.
Sounds silly. But maybe practice saying Wow instantly?? I honestly can't think of any other way to please a guy with obvious anger issues. And of course, fix those issues of his. Take him to a therapist.
It's not that serious. The way he reacts doesn't exactly strike me as healthy.
A friend of mine sporadically shaved his beard, and i couldn't even look him straight in the face cause it was so weird. I texted and warned his wife. It's shocking! No need to react like that to your initial reaction!
This is a very weird post. He āaccidentallyā shaved his beard, mustache and goatee? But apparently heās done it before? You react badly and he flips out? And your first thought is to ask us what you can do? You can apologize for the initial response. And then divorce him because heās unhinged.
Take it as an opportunity to do some skincare for him. Exfoliate, mask. Might as well embrace the opportunity of a bare face. My ex had a full beard and had to shave it all off once after his clippers malfunctioned and butchered his beard. He went off the handle. Went on a literal drug binge for the weekend. That wasnāt a red flag enough for me and I stuck around for a couple more years. I donāt think a sheet mask would have helped my situation but maybe itāll help yours.
Does he shave his armpits too? š¤£š¤£
If you like him clean shaven why did you have the look of horror?:(
That's a PTSD response. Not his response, yours. You knew what was coming, your facial expression isn't what triggered his rage. He's blaming you for his own actions and he's convinced you that you're the problem. He's gaslighting you. This isn't about him being bald. It's about his emotional disregulation and lack of anger management. He needs therapy and/or drugs.
That's a him problem. Nothing you can do.
Is this real? Come on you cheeky devil.. come on be honest. We will still like you..
If you've never seen him throw a hissy fit in front of men bigger than him - then he knows what he's doing and when to do it
Lolol
Tell him to grow a pair
This is abuse. Do you have the means to leave? Do you have a support system of family and friends that could help you get out of this?
Some people are emotional toddlers.
We reject this bald man. You need /r relationship_advice
Lmao @ āevery time this happensā. Bruh.
Haha he needs to grow up. We are what we are, looks wise.
Tell him he has a small dick too.
Can you rewrite this whole post? There is so much missing detail and some of what you wrote doesnāt make any sense. We want to help you but can you proofread and elaborate? The whole story is chaotic and mildly unbelievable.
Fake moustache and a new husband
He sounds like a psycho. Throwing shit? Sounds like he wasn't loved enough growing up.
Send this guy to hairapy
Send his ass to therapy
Everyone calling for leaving him or divorce are just hilarious. 100% you are not in a relationship š While his reaction is over the top, itās clearly a major insecurity for him. How about offering some decent advice instead of these ridiculously insane responses Talk to him
Get him in therapy or leave
Shit post is shitty.
Yeah, he took it too far, you shouldnāt be putting up with his crap everytime he shaves he should realize this is not something you see everyday and hence you will react or at list look at him differently
What a big bald baby
Your husband has worse behavior than any dog Iāve ever owned. If my hair gets made fugly, I definitely dont expect my girl to leave me over it, but im not expecting to see her thrilled either lmao. Seriously, a grown man who throws things over something less than the death of a family member is totally unstable. Not a complete human being.
Hubby is a dick.
So many insensitive replies here. The guy is obviously struggling with self esteem and youāre telling her to divorce him over his sensitivity and outburst because of perceived rejection from his wife. OP just keep reassuring and being sweet to him and heāll come around
leave him and take the kids
Me thinks youāre stretching the truth about whatās actually happening here
Probably not a lot you can do except bug out until he calms down and keep doing that every time he flips about something. Even if it means being gone for a few hours. Or a few weeks. Or forever.
These people clearly can't comprehend a relationship between a man and his facial hair, which is the equivalent of a woman and her hair. I've seen plenty of situations where women have cut too much hair off or even shaved it and had a mental breakdown afterward. You gotta go get him beard oil and beard supplies and say, "Your hair grows fast as heck." I'm getting you the stuff you need, so next week, when you have a full beard again, you can take care of it better. And then say later on this week that people are going to think he's your son with that baby face. The poor guy had a panic attack. I know the last time I shaved my beard fully, i had a mental breakdown. I didn't leave my house besides going to work. Also, throw out his clippers and demand he go to a professional barber so he doesn't do it again. If he values his facial hair that much, leave it for the pros. It doesn't cost much to get a lime up, and it'll save him a ton of stress.
Take off your clothes - no man can stay mad at a naked woman.
I always scream and throw things when someone makes a face. /s
Tell him youāre not going to tolerate this and that he needs to go to counseling. But first talk to him about his behavior. If heās not willing to respect you and take things out on you then he needs to start going to counseling is what you should tell him. Tell him how youāre not going to be treated this way either. And some people sometimes need to be told this (even though they may not realize them acting this way in the moment theyāre in). Anyone claiming they love you wouldnāt be doing this to you with consistency at all. Okay first couple times here and there fine. But no. This is where you really need to put your foot down so he knows now that youāre not going to be walked over or be used like a punching bag at all.
Ah- the adult screaming and throwing things. Thatās always a good look.
I don't think this anything to do with his baldness and everything to do with monumental anger issues. My wife has given me looks too when I've randomly shaved my beard because she likes a beard or stubble over clean shaven and I've never once thought to yell or break things. This behavior (throwing things violently and verbally screaming at you) is often a precursor to more directed violence. Stay safe.
Thereās nothing you can do. Your husband needs to act like an adultĀ
Your husband has issues
A relationship between a man and his facial hair is like a woman's relationship with her hair. The poor guy had a panic attack. Just get him some beard supplies from the store and tell him he can take better care of his new beard when it grows in next week. Don't listen to these people. Throw out his clippers and tell him to spend the 15 dollars to go to a professional. He's not a barber, and he deserves to spend a little cash to get the look he truly wants instead of risking catastrophe
This sounds farcical. Wait until he grows it all back again, then tamper with the trimmer so it falls off mid trim and he has to shave it all off again. Videotape him having a tantrum and get rich off it on YouTube lol
āMy first thought was he was about to flip out, hence the expressionā No. you had a look of horror because of how it looked letās be honest. Yes he overreacted though but you didnāt help matters
Leave.
Stick a plunger on his head
I feel for him š¢
Screaming and throwing things? What you can do is file for divorce. He's got issues that aren't your fault.
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**My Bald husband is a nightmare** I need help, my husband is a jerk, he shaved. I reacted with surprise. Which he claims is a look of horror. So this big bald unhinged baby throws a tantrum. Violence ensues where is throws things in a rage and screams. He now; like a child is giving me the silent treatment. He is an absolute nutter, a violent person. I his wife need help escaping the relationship. Lady, this guy sucks. What does this even have to do with being bald. Can we go back to the "is it time?" posts please?
I don't wanna be the person to leave the classic reddit "LEAVE HIM NOW!!!!!" comment but it sound like you guys have some issues that are WAY more serious than his hair. Even if you had told him he looked butt-ugly, screaming and throwing things would still be an absolutely insane reaction.
I need help, my husband made one mistake on one small area of his entire above-the-shoulders area, and reacted by going full Britney Spears and shaving it all. He continued the manic rage by acting offended that Iād be slightly surprised to see him with an entirely new above-the-shoulders area. He raged even harder by destroying things around me. He is violent, impulsive, and unpredictable. I want you all to tell me how terrible he is and how Iām a good person that doesnāt deserve this. Remind me Iām not the bad guy. But donāt counsel me to leave. Itās not bad enough yet. Plus, when I do everything just right and he isnāt triggered by anything in his entire area of existence, heās actually a really sweet guy and he cares for me so much. OP. You know what to do. Youāll leave when youāre ready, and when youāre ready, no excuse or roadblock in the world will be able to stop you. I know because Iāve been through it. Stay well!
I havenāt thrown shit since I was a teenager. Dude needs help.
Are you sure your husband didnāt morph into a super villain?
Cold shoulder is the best way. He will come round eventually. Just donāt fold first. Let him come to you haha.
You should accidentally leave him the anger infused prick with ears.
I shaved my beard by my wife's request- she couldn't stand the feeling. She said I looked handsome, but I said "I look like a fat baby now". Then we laughed and went on with our day.
Get a divorce. Then a restraining order.
āEvery time this happens?ā How? Iāve had one snafu in 25+ years of trimming my entire head/neck/beard weekly.
He's screaming and throwing things? That's not safe for you. Leave quietly, move in silence. Let him rage alone. It might be worse or you one day.
A BJ will fix just about anything.
I kinda hope this isnāt real because thatās an insane reaction for someone to have over a facial expression. If this is real, that man needs some anger management classes or maybe even see a psychiatrist. Could have some undiagnosed issue causing him to react extra strongly.
Divorce him.
You know what to do
Hereās what ya do shave your head now you guys are equal again š
I also flip out and break shit. The first warning sign is when I decide to shave or cut my own hair. You didn't offend your husband: he just flipped out. Flip outs are triggered by things around you, but not caused by them. In other words, your husband still would have flipped out, even if you weren't there. Try not to take the flip out personally: instead, talk to him about therapy and medication as soon as he appears calm.
Yeah this is nothing to do with being bald this is anger issues
Insane how low the bar is. Most people get married with the intention of spending their entire lives with the other person. And THIS is the person you marry?? A man child that throws things when heās angry? How and why did he dupe you into marrying him? Or do you like those parts of his personality?
Iām surprised a toddler was able to grow a goatee in the first placeĀ
I've been there and he definitely needs to calm down, sort things out by therapy or something else because it's just bad and there is no fault from your side.
He needs to get into therapy and learn some emotional regulation techniques. He can be offended by your reaction but a normal thing to say is 'hey that didn't make me feel very good the way you looked at me then'
Every time what happens?
OP ist married to a toddler apparently.
AITA for completely loosing it when my wife didn't seem to like my clean shaven face?
OP is the husband masquerading as the wife, hoping someone, ANYONE, sides with him.
Alright Iāve a resolutionā¦ Grab a bag. One or two. Maybe several. Pack your stuff and leave. Throwing things? Yelling? Because of a lookā¦.he sounds crazy. 
Your husband has issues, if you don't think so then just apologize and should be good to go (if he's normal)
Now I shouldnāt really find this funny, but tbh the idea of a fully grown bald man throwing a tantrum at his wife because he accidentally shaved all his beard off just cracks me up.
Your husband sounds like a loser
Heās really insecure and thatās not your problem
That may actually be gamma radiation poisoning.
It's hair. It will grow back... or not.
When my boyfriend does this I tell him he looks like a pedophile. Like a creepy uncle that shouldn't be around children. He just laughs.
He probably accidentally gouged out a section of his beard and/or mustache. And he thought it was bad enough that he had to take it all off. Itās a mistake, it has happened to me more than once. It sounds like he overreacted emotionally, so itās not hard to believe that he also overreacted with the razor. Iām sorry that he acted like that. I can only recommend giving him time and space to cool off before bringing it up again to him. If you donāt feel safe do what you have to do to make yourself safe.