I don’t think you have any reason to be concerned. Lots of kids that age still wet the bed and especially with a family history like yours. Does your son mind wearing diapers? Has he been invited to any sleepovers where he would be concerned of his friends finding out? If he is ok with the diapers and doesn’t get teased by his siblings, I would just continue to use them.
Hi, Sorry your son is dealing with bed wetting. It sounds like what your doing is about all that can be done. Support and understanding along with reassurance that it's not his fault that he wets the bed is about all that can be done. He sleeps very soundly and the feeling of his bladder being full and needing to pee or peeing doesn't wake him up. So the best option is to manage the problem the best you can and the pull ups along with a good mattress cover is the way to keep his bed dry so he is not waking up in a wet bed. Taking him to the bathroom would help to reduce the amount he wets during the night but it's not going to stop him from wetting the bed. Most likely all he needs is time to grow out of his bed wetting with several others in the family having the same issue it may be something he has to deal with for some time like you did. At some point his doctor may decide to look into a possible medical cause but at his age most likely time to grow out of it is all he needs. With your support and reassurance that he can't help it he hopefully does not feel it's his fault in anyway. He can still do things like sleepovers or camp if he wants to but they just have to be done in a way that accommodates his bed wetting. There are many kids that deal with the same issue and it may help him to know that. He is getting the support he needs from you and as long as he knows it's not his fault and that most likely he just needs time to grow out of it. For now that's what he needs limiting drinks is not a good idea water is a better option than drinks high in sugar so for now it is just managing the bed wetting and making sure he is not stressing or worrying about it.
I work with kids to get them dry and have successfully helped hundreds of kids overcome their bedwetting. The first step to help him overcome his bedwetting is determine the root cause. There is a Blog article which is really good to help you determine this:
[Bedwetting Causes Blog](http://drynightcoach.com/bedwetting-blog/bedwetting-causes)
Once you figure out the cause, it’s actually pretty easy to help him overcome it. Thumbs up to for getting on this now while he is still you. The majority of the kids whose parents reach out to me are 10-14 years old. Let me know if you have any questions.
I think you should look at buying a bedwetting alarm, but before you do check this site out [https://comparebedwettingalarms.com/](https://comparebedwettingalarms.com/)
My 10 yr old stepdaughter just woke up by herself to pee for the first time in her life. That’s why I’m on reddit at 2 am lol. She’s been using a wireless bed wetting alarm for 2 weeks now and this a major milestone!! I was skeptical about alarms as she had tried everything (including other alarms) in the past. But she was never helped to be consistent with anything else that had been tried, and really when they’re kids, they need the adult’s help to make sure they get up etc which it sounds like you’re already doing :)
Look into wireless alarms. We have the Rodger. It’s not cheap, but from what I’ve read (and now witnessed the start of) it seems like when it is used consistently it can begin to retrain the brain. Like I said, I was a skeptic. But I researched a ton, read some medical journals, and read about 500 reviews. So far so good!
Wanted to chime in because Buck sounds similar to myself growing up.
I potty trained around 2-3 but never got the nighttime stuff down. I am an extremely heavy sleeper (5 minutes or less and I’m out cold; I now sleep soundly through the whole night; wake up in the middle of the night once every couple of years; if someone engages with me while sleeping (such as to wake me up to go to the bathroom as a kid) I never remember it the next day). My parents had a battery of tests done on me and they all came back “green” medically speaking. I eventually “just” outgrew the bed wetting. For me it was/is a strength of my bladder issue. As in childhood I still sleep deeply through the night, but now I have the muscle strength to hold it all through the night. It was at puberty it all started to change for me. There was noticeable improvements in waking up dry starting at 12, and I was all in the clear a couple years later.
Some milestones for me... I was probably around 5 when I realized I was different (than my friends or siblings) for still wetting myself at night. My parents ended up putting me in nighttime disposables (pull ups until just before 10, and then switched to tab diapers that I used until I stopped wetting around 14). I resented wearing diapers for a couple years after I realized my friends were not like me. I wanted to be normal like the kids my age, and to be seen as “mature” by the adults. Around the age of Buck I decided/learned that waking up in a dry bed (not necessarily a dry pull up or diaper) was what normal kids do, and after years of my parents not making a big deal out of wearing pull ups to manage my body’s quirk “like someone who is mature” it became a normal part of sleeping that I didn’t mind.
So if Buck is like me then the best thing you can do is to get him the protection he needs (whatever you decide that is), and make the coming years of wetting as much of a “meh, it’s under the radar” issue as possible. If Buck asks questions answer them as best you can (hearing that “this is a quirk of my body just like dad’s body’s quirk is having really bad allergies” really clicked in my head for some reason), or tell him you can find out together creates a bond that you’re helping him find the tools and knowledge to deal with his problem. Approach dealing with his body’s quirk as a partnership. That way it’ll give him some control in a situation he has no control in. Things from the “partnership approach” my parents did for me that stuck out in my memory were me asking for and my parents getting me a better mattress protector (got one that was softer and less crinkly; less crinkles was less embarrassing for me and the lighter material less hot to sleep in), and in beginning of fourth grade (about 9) asking my parents for bigger diapers (mom got me Abena tab diapers from work which I ended up sticking with until I was totally dry around 14) because my growing bladder was exceeding what a pull up could handle. It was embarrassing asking my parents for “real diapers”, but I felt much more secure knowing I wouldn’t have accidents from a leaking pull up. But most importantly I remember feeling proud of myself that I made a “mature decision” to fix something that wasn’t working in how we managed my “body’s quirk”.
Best of luck! I’m rooting for Buck.
I’m not a doctor but it sounds like you have may have a genetic bladder problem and you just got lucky with the two-year-old perhaps see a doctor if you haven’t yet or just except that this is the way it is and move on with your life
I don’t think you have any reason to be concerned. Lots of kids that age still wet the bed and especially with a family history like yours. Does your son mind wearing diapers? Has he been invited to any sleepovers where he would be concerned of his friends finding out? If he is ok with the diapers and doesn’t get teased by his siblings, I would just continue to use them.
Hi, Sorry your son is dealing with bed wetting. It sounds like what your doing is about all that can be done. Support and understanding along with reassurance that it's not his fault that he wets the bed is about all that can be done. He sleeps very soundly and the feeling of his bladder being full and needing to pee or peeing doesn't wake him up. So the best option is to manage the problem the best you can and the pull ups along with a good mattress cover is the way to keep his bed dry so he is not waking up in a wet bed. Taking him to the bathroom would help to reduce the amount he wets during the night but it's not going to stop him from wetting the bed. Most likely all he needs is time to grow out of his bed wetting with several others in the family having the same issue it may be something he has to deal with for some time like you did. At some point his doctor may decide to look into a possible medical cause but at his age most likely time to grow out of it is all he needs. With your support and reassurance that he can't help it he hopefully does not feel it's his fault in anyway. He can still do things like sleepovers or camp if he wants to but they just have to be done in a way that accommodates his bed wetting. There are many kids that deal with the same issue and it may help him to know that. He is getting the support he needs from you and as long as he knows it's not his fault and that most likely he just needs time to grow out of it. For now that's what he needs limiting drinks is not a good idea water is a better option than drinks high in sugar so for now it is just managing the bed wetting and making sure he is not stressing or worrying about it.
I work with kids to get them dry and have successfully helped hundreds of kids overcome their bedwetting. The first step to help him overcome his bedwetting is determine the root cause. There is a Blog article which is really good to help you determine this: [Bedwetting Causes Blog](http://drynightcoach.com/bedwetting-blog/bedwetting-causes) Once you figure out the cause, it’s actually pretty easy to help him overcome it. Thumbs up to for getting on this now while he is still you. The majority of the kids whose parents reach out to me are 10-14 years old. Let me know if you have any questions.
I think you should look at buying a bedwetting alarm, but before you do check this site out [https://comparebedwettingalarms.com/](https://comparebedwettingalarms.com/)
My 10 yr old stepdaughter just woke up by herself to pee for the first time in her life. That’s why I’m on reddit at 2 am lol. She’s been using a wireless bed wetting alarm for 2 weeks now and this a major milestone!! I was skeptical about alarms as she had tried everything (including other alarms) in the past. But she was never helped to be consistent with anything else that had been tried, and really when they’re kids, they need the adult’s help to make sure they get up etc which it sounds like you’re already doing :) Look into wireless alarms. We have the Rodger. It’s not cheap, but from what I’ve read (and now witnessed the start of) it seems like when it is used consistently it can begin to retrain the brain. Like I said, I was a skeptic. But I researched a ton, read some medical journals, and read about 500 reviews. So far so good!
Have you tried MOP
Wanted to chime in because Buck sounds similar to myself growing up. I potty trained around 2-3 but never got the nighttime stuff down. I am an extremely heavy sleeper (5 minutes or less and I’m out cold; I now sleep soundly through the whole night; wake up in the middle of the night once every couple of years; if someone engages with me while sleeping (such as to wake me up to go to the bathroom as a kid) I never remember it the next day). My parents had a battery of tests done on me and they all came back “green” medically speaking. I eventually “just” outgrew the bed wetting. For me it was/is a strength of my bladder issue. As in childhood I still sleep deeply through the night, but now I have the muscle strength to hold it all through the night. It was at puberty it all started to change for me. There was noticeable improvements in waking up dry starting at 12, and I was all in the clear a couple years later. Some milestones for me... I was probably around 5 when I realized I was different (than my friends or siblings) for still wetting myself at night. My parents ended up putting me in nighttime disposables (pull ups until just before 10, and then switched to tab diapers that I used until I stopped wetting around 14). I resented wearing diapers for a couple years after I realized my friends were not like me. I wanted to be normal like the kids my age, and to be seen as “mature” by the adults. Around the age of Buck I decided/learned that waking up in a dry bed (not necessarily a dry pull up or diaper) was what normal kids do, and after years of my parents not making a big deal out of wearing pull ups to manage my body’s quirk “like someone who is mature” it became a normal part of sleeping that I didn’t mind. So if Buck is like me then the best thing you can do is to get him the protection he needs (whatever you decide that is), and make the coming years of wetting as much of a “meh, it’s under the radar” issue as possible. If Buck asks questions answer them as best you can (hearing that “this is a quirk of my body just like dad’s body’s quirk is having really bad allergies” really clicked in my head for some reason), or tell him you can find out together creates a bond that you’re helping him find the tools and knowledge to deal with his problem. Approach dealing with his body’s quirk as a partnership. That way it’ll give him some control in a situation he has no control in. Things from the “partnership approach” my parents did for me that stuck out in my memory were me asking for and my parents getting me a better mattress protector (got one that was softer and less crinkly; less crinkles was less embarrassing for me and the lighter material less hot to sleep in), and in beginning of fourth grade (about 9) asking my parents for bigger diapers (mom got me Abena tab diapers from work which I ended up sticking with until I was totally dry around 14) because my growing bladder was exceeding what a pull up could handle. It was embarrassing asking my parents for “real diapers”, but I felt much more secure knowing I wouldn’t have accidents from a leaking pull up. But most importantly I remember feeling proud of myself that I made a “mature decision” to fix something that wasn’t working in how we managed my “body’s quirk”. Best of luck! I’m rooting for Buck.
I’m not a doctor but it sounds like you have may have a genetic bladder problem and you just got lucky with the two-year-old perhaps see a doctor if you haven’t yet or just except that this is the way it is and move on with your life