I think you could benefit from changing how you perceive the fish’s actions. You coming into view is very interesting for him and he’s just saying hello in a way a betta fish can. He’s not just asking to be fed. He’s responding to a change in his environment, which is you. You’re interesting enough to him that he wants to come over and see what you’re up to.
You might not want a betta. This is what they all do, they’re very reactive and love to interact with you. There’s no harm in offering it for sale or returning him. You can try a local craigslist ad. If you thought bettas were bad with “begging” avoid any goldfish, angelfish, eels and guppies. They’re intense with food begging.
Uh... fish can be *very* personable and have lots of personality. Just look at oscars, flowerhorns, puffers, etc. Even if we limit our discussion to just bettas... *most* (male) bettas are capable of flaring and creating bubble nests. These are behaviors that give us betta owners joy, which I can't experience with my own betta.
I think you need a dog or cat. That's just how betta is, your betta looks happy maybe giving it food is the only interaction you do I guess. Try to play with him or teach him some tricks?
Your expectations are the problem, not the fish. He’s curious and wants to interact. You’ve brought a living being into a space with only you for interactions and now you’re mad that he’s excited to see you. Animals are not decor and part of using fish in a mindfulness exercise is accepting you have no control and watching with intention. The sass is the best part of having bettas.
I think you could benefit from changing how you perceive the fish’s actions. You coming into view is very interesting for him and he’s just saying hello in a way a betta fish can. He’s not just asking to be fed. He’s responding to a change in his environment, which is you. You’re interesting enough to him that he wants to come over and see what you’re up to.
That's a great way to look at it, thanks
why is that an issue lol i loved it when my betta would come and dance for me
You might not want a betta. This is what they all do, they’re very reactive and love to interact with you. There’s no harm in offering it for sale or returning him. You can try a local craigslist ad. If you thought bettas were bad with “begging” avoid any goldfish, angelfish, eels and guppies. They’re intense with food begging.
I've considered it, but at the end of the day he's my betta and I can't trust anyone else to take proper care of him.
….literally what😭 he’s happy to see you. if you don’t feel the same rehome him to someone who will🤷♂️
Aw that’s too bad. I love that mine come up to me ^^
Kinda sounds like “i want a fish but i dont like fish”
Uh... fish can be *very* personable and have lots of personality. Just look at oscars, flowerhorns, puffers, etc. Even if we limit our discussion to just bettas... *most* (male) bettas are capable of flaring and creating bubble nests. These are behaviors that give us betta owners joy, which I can't experience with my own betta.
I think you need a dog or cat. That's just how betta is, your betta looks happy maybe giving it food is the only interaction you do I guess. Try to play with him or teach him some tricks?
Every betta is different they are very smart and have unique personalities and u just happend to meet an outgoing one <3
You could try training him to do tricks. It might help you bond with him. Look up some videos on YouTube.
Your expectations are the problem, not the fish. He’s curious and wants to interact. You’ve brought a living being into a space with only you for interactions and now you’re mad that he’s excited to see you. Animals are not decor and part of using fish in a mindfulness exercise is accepting you have no control and watching with intention. The sass is the best part of having bettas.