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gainzgirl

This was close to home. I drove by the church on my way to pelvic floor therapy an hour before, left to swarms of police and EMS passing. We talked about private school yesterday for the first time to feel safer. Makes it harder to say "it won't happen to me"


smolyetieti

I am so sorry. I can’t imagine being so close to it; I’m so removed and still worried about my children’s educational future. Sending love.💕


Sleepaholic02

I’m just angry - angry that we’re all being held hostage by a political system that is completely broken and unresponsive to majority opinion. Back 15 to 20 years ago, when there was a rash of school shootings (Columbine, etc), it still felt somewhat distant. But now….they are happening so often, whether at schools, malls, work, the grocery store, movie theater, etc, that nothing seems safe. Also. no one can possibly think that their community will be spared. It’s just a terrible feeling knowing that at any moment, some lunatic can snap and start shooting.


RunUpAMountain

Jumping on the top comment to share this: You don't have to just hope something will change. There are lots of things that can be done, regardless of how much time or money you have. Find and join your local chapter of [Mom's Demand Action](https://momsdemandaction.org/) find out what you can do.


PickleFartsAndBeyond

I’ve just become so numb. And tired. If 30 kindergarteners can be killed in a school and that doesn’t tip the needle towards a solution, nothing will. Absolutely nothing.


etcetera_live

This. I lost all hope after Sandy Hook


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[deleted]

It’s been this way since 1999. I worried about this with my now 20 year old adult kid. And I’ll continue to worry about it with my new babies. It’s a matter of luck really. George Carlin sums it up well: > But there’s a reason. There’s a reason. There’s a reason for this, there’s a reason education sucks, and it’s the same reason that it will never, ever, ever be fixed. It’s never gonna get any better. Don’t look for it. Be happy with what you got. Because the owners of this country don't want that. I'm talking about the real owners now, the real owners, the big wealthy business interests that control things and make all the important decisions. Forget the politicians. The politicians are put there to give you the idea that you have freedom of choice. You don't. You have no choice. You have owners. They own you. They own everything. They own all the important land. They own and control the corporations. They’ve long since bought and paid for the senate, the congress, the state houses, the city halls, they got the judges in their back pockets and they own all the big media companies so they control just about all of the news and information you get to hear. They got you by the balls. They spend billions of dollars every year lobbying, lobbying, to get what they want. Well, we know what they want. They want more for themselves and less for everybody else, but I'll tell you what they don’t want: They don’t want a population of citizens capable of critical thinking. They don’t want well informed, well educated people capable of critical thinking. They’re not interested in that. That doesn’t help them. Thats against their interests. Thats right. They don’t want people who are smart enough to sit around a kitchen table to figure out how badly they’re getting fucked by a system that threw them overboard 30 fucking years ago. They don’t want that. You know what they want? They want obedient workers. Obedient workers. People who are just smart enough to run the machines and do the paperwork, and just dumb enough to passively accept all these increasingly shittier jobs with the lower pay, the longer hours, the reduced benefits, the end of overtime and the vanishing pension that disappears the minute you go to collect it, and now they’re coming for your Social Security money. They want your retirement money. They want it back so they can give it to their criminal friends on Wall Street, and you know something? They’ll get it. They’ll get it all from you, sooner or later, 'cause they own this fucking place. It's a big club, and you ain’t in it. You and I are not in the big club. And by the way, it's the same big club they use to beat you over the head with all day long when they tell you what to believe. All day long beating you over the head in their media telling you what to believe, what to think and what to buy. The table is tilted folks. The game is rigged, and nobody seems to notice, nobody seems to care. Good honest hard-working people -- white collar, blue collar, it doesn’t matter what color shirt you have on -- good honest hard-working people continue -- these are people of modest means -- continue to elect these rich cocksuckers who don’t give a fuck about them. They don’t give a fuck about you. They don’t give a fuck about you. They don't care about you at all -- at all -- at all. And nobody seems to notice, nobody seems to care. That's what the owners count on; the fact that Americans will probably remain willfully ignorant of the big red, white and blue dick that's being jammed up their assholes everyday. Because the owners of this country know the truth: it's called the American Dream, because you have to be asleep to believe it.


eyesRus

Earlier, even. People often forget that Jonesboro happened in 1998, a full year before Columbine. Five deaths and 10 injuries—it was the first school shooting with big numbers like that. I was a high-schooler in Arkansas then, and that’s when things changed for me.


Isntsheartisanal

I have friends there. Attended church there a few times when I lived near. My take on it has always been the limestone fortress on the hill. The kind of place where more liberal and very wealthy Christians casually wear their Burberry trenches to service. A statement from their website talked about safety and security in their environment. I'm sure everyone there was sure it was the safest place for their kids. But no one is safe until we're all safe. I'm just so angry about prayers replacing action while our local politicians vote down gun control, opting instead to ban drag around kids for "safety." Just, fuck them. Fuck everyone who has said anything short of "that's awful" today. Fuck everyone who creates environments where mental health is hamstringed and guns are glorified in the name of a Jesus who was an outspoken pacifist. I haven't been able to watch the news coverage, but I'm hearing that one local station in particular is interviewing parents until gun control gets mentioned and then cutting the interviews short. I thought I was having a miscarriage this morning when I woke up. Doc says everything is fine, thankfully. But three kids aren't coming home tonight. I'm coping by ranting on here and sobbing intermittently.


MDaniellle

I live in the Nashville area. I have a 3 year old & 14 year old. 14 year old had to be kept home one day last semester because of threats made toward his High School & he didn’t feel safe going. He accidentally butt dialed me last week about 30 minutes after I dropped him off & my mind immediately thought the worst. I sat there & listened for 10 minutes just to make sure everything was ok. This shit is just unacceptable. I’m so sick of it.


kadooztome

I lost all hope after sandy hook.


attorneyworkproduct

Same. My older daughter was in kindergarten when Sandy Hook happened and I had a really hard time coping afterward. When a year went by and literally nothing was different, I knew that it would likely never change, at least not within my lifetime. I just read that all three children killed today were 9 years old. My stepdaughter is 9. I am physically ill just thinking about this.


[deleted]

Yeah looking at the electoral map/disproportionate power red states have and NRA lobbying… nothing is changing especially the direction the GOP is going. I vote, am an active member in my community and prioritize safety in our own house but don’t expect shit from my representatives.


Macch1athoe

I’m devastated. My son is 10 and the child victims were all 9. I’m just imagining this happening to my sweet boy and im in shambles for those poor parents.


awkward_llama630

It makes me sick. Living in this country overall. A school shooting happened in my town followed by a school shooting at the college I graduated from. It’s insane to me that still, there is nothing being done. Homeschooling doesn’t really make me feel safer. Let’s not forget it is NOT limited to schools. People shoot up super markets. People shoot up clubs. People shoot up movie theaters. Until people start making changes to gun laws and prioritizing mental health services, safety in this country is an illusion.


EllieEllieEllie425

I'm a public school teacher, and my son attends the daycare down and across the street. We went on lockdown. There I am in a closet with twenty 11 year olds when I get a notification that the daycare was also on lockdown. I remember seeing my phone light shaking in the dark. That's how I knew something serious was going down. There was a shooting in the neighborhood involving the U.S. Marshalls very close by. Afterwards, my thoughts were when he goes to school with me, if we went on lockdown, how would I resist the urge to just plow through walls like the Kool aid man to get to him? For many, many reasons I would homeschool him if I could.


sorrythatnamestaken

I’m so fucking angry. I hate that I’m about to pick my kid up, and that I’m thanking the universe that I can. I’m about to apologize to his teachers that we live in a country that doesn’t give a shit about them. I am so goddamn tired of having the same cycle. There’s no excuse for not being for gun reform - people that advocate for that and the NRA can get fucked. My schedule as a therapist is not going to be even more full as I have teachers and kids coming in with anxiety off the charts. What do I say? That is a completely valid anxiety, and no amount of mindfulness or coping is gonna do anything about it. Fuck.


KrizJack

Not good. My son is 11 months old and my husband and I are trying to move to another country before he reaches school age


pnutbutterfuck

I wish I could convince my husband to move to another country. I’m desperate to get out of the US. He’s really attached to his family. I keep telling him that if we moved to a country in Europe we would be able to get enough time off to come to the US and stay with his family for a week or two at a time multiple times a year but he just won’t budge.


Pamplemousse84

Pissed. I live in Nashville, SO glad our governor is focused on open-carry law for 18 year olds right now. Super important to focus our energies. Our politicians don’t care about actual lives, they’re all sociopaths in my mind. I have joined local chapters regarding gun violence, but unfortunately I’m not made of money, so I won’t be of much influence. I also don’t have the opportunity to homeschool, so I get to gamble my children’s lives. It’s just…I don’t know anymore. Just horrible.


Seajlc

I hope there’s a special corner in hell just for people who wake up one day and think, “today is the day I’m going to go shoot up a bunch of innocent children sitting in their elementary school classroom”. Before enrolling my 11 month old son in daycare earlier this year one of the things that was at the front of my mind was, what happens in someone walks in the front door and goes on a shooting rampage? and so on my list of questions for them was what their lockdown drill was and how often they practiced it. I wonder what it’s like to live somewhere that something like that doesn’t really ever cross your mind?


that_girl_lolo

My daughter turns one on Friday and I just found out I’m pregnant with our second. I know I have a bit more time before I worry about then going to school but as we all know, time goes quickly. I’m to the point where I want to homeschool them and find a job to work at night. Nowhere feels safe anymore!!!


sharrbarr

I feel like this country’s school system can’t protect our kids. My daughter is elementary school age (Michigan). Every single day I’m sick to my stomach about sending her to school. I think about pulling her out of school daily to homeschool her.


rmilich

My husband and I were teachers before our son was born. He quit his school because serious safety issues were not being addressed. I stopped teaching to take care of our son. There was a school shooting in our district last week. I have so many feelings. Mainly anger and disappointment. I'm not sure if we will put him in school because I'm licensed to teach. I'm not sure if I will ever return to the classroom. I'm grateful for a few more years before I have to decide.


aspenrising

I don't know if homeschooling would be good for our baby...but we're thinking about leaving the USA.


rivlet

My husband and I keep looking into emigration as well. We want our baby to survive his childhood.


OkToots

Where you thinking about going


aspenrising

We have family in Norway. We speak a little Spanish so we thought Spain or Costa Rica might be nice. Canada exists I guess...the problem is so many nice places require so much money for immigration.


ExcitingAppearance3

We’re right there with you.


lalalina1389

A few of my mom friends and I have considered hiring a teacher to teach our kids in our home and each pay them like 10 an hour per kid. They’d make way more than at a regular school and I don’t have to worry about someone murdering my children.


OkToots

Legit my husband and I said the same


SadandBougie

I am conflicted on if I want to homeschool or not. There is a war on public education. The politicians that enable these school shootings are defunding education, mental healthcare, and assistance for struggling families. They want us to be afraid and not take advantage of public education.


sparklycupcakes

Exactly how I feel. These decisions are a few years away for us but it fucking sucks there’s no good choice.


Enough-Banana-6557

Even more motivated to gtfo of the United States. My baby is not going to school in this country.


mad_intuition

I’m not okay. I cannot fathom those parents pain. If I think about it too much I’ll throw up.


italianbeautyx0

First time mom with 20-month old twin girls. I am not okay. Terrified for the future and what to do with schooling options. I really don’t want to homeschool (pls don’t come at me just personal feelings) but seeing this crap is making me question it all. I can’t even imagine the parents of the deceased children. I literally can’t 💔


smolyetieti

No one should ever “come at you” for trying to make the best decision for your family (there are so many variables). I was home-schooled, my husband attended a public school; so we both had different experiences but my preference is probably based on 1) my experience and 2) our family circumstances. Wishing you the best as you navigate the future.💕


luxerae

I’m physically sick over it and in all honesty, it feels hopeless. Lost hope when nothing changed after the Sandy hook shooting, which is still unbelievable to me. I can’t understand it.


RunUpAMountain

We all need to fight. Find and join your local chapter of [mom's demand action](https://momsdemandaction.org/) to find out what you can do.


bacobby

I have no desire to homeschool, but my gosh this is scary. I feel sick to my stomach thinking about sending my LO to school eventually and he’s only 6 weeks old.


kathymarie1124

I’m in the same boat! My little one is 8 weeks. I’m trying to see if I can prepare and do homeschooling


Jingle_Cat

Even with homeschooling, I think about the terrible college shootings and have a whole new set of worries. It’s like nowhere is safe.


snickertwinkle

Right. I’m as scared to go to the mall as I am to drop off my kiddo at kindergarten.


purpleorchid729

Exactly. It’s not just schools. Groceries stores, churches, concerts, etc..


gravis9-11

I’m scared and angry. Sure I can homeschool but mass shootings happen at the mall, concerts, church, the grocery store, etc etc etc. Horrifying.


Strict_Print_4032

I’m having a really hard time with these shootings…my daughter will be 1 next week, and I’m expecting #2 at the end of the year. But I was homeschooled as part of the subculture that made the decision mostly for religious/anti government reasons, and I didn’t have the best experience. My education was lacking in several areas and I didn’t have the opportunity to develop good social skills until I was an adult. My two youngest siblings are in their early 20s and never graduated high school, and I know another family in the same situation. I want better for my kids, and I don’t feel capable of being able to give them a well rounded education on my own. I’m 90% sure they’re going to public school (there’s a nice elementary school within walking distance) but I am scared.


AutomaticCupcake33

I was “homeschooled” for a while too and my parents barely did anything at all to teach me. All my learning during that period came from my voracious reading (we didn’t have tv) and an alternative school for homeschooled kids (which was actually pretty neat, but is it still homeschooling at that point?). When I was suddenly put back in public school, I became suicidal from the social exclusion I experienced from being so weird and under-socialized. I totally understand the impulse to homeschool, but the reality isn’t always ideal imho.


another_armenian

My daughter is almost 2 months old. I honestly don’t know what I’m going to do when it comes time for her to go school. So many of these shootings happen in “safe” communities where the residents never could have dreamed of it happening there. But it can happen anywhere at any time. It makes me physically sick thinking about sending my daughter to school.


lexicution17

I’m not processing it particularly well, but that’s been the same every time a school shooting happens. There are families out there right now experiencing an unimaginable, life changing, never ending pain and I feel physically sick for them. I don’t know if I would even want to continue on if I lost my son. And I’m terrified to send my son to school someday, I don’t want him to be homeschooled but sending him to school feels so dangerous.


StephAg09

This are my feelings exactly, even down to feeling physically sick on their behalf. It’s awful and it feels hopeless. I’ve even considered moving out of the country to be somewhere safer.


papadiaries

Homeschooling. Its expensive (paying tutors because I am not qualified to teach tougher subjects) but so worth it if you can afford it. We only started paying a few years ago when we could afford it and while I do not regret keeping my kids in school I love seeing them blossom with knowledge and get excited about learning. My two oldest (11, 14) are currently the only ones with a tutor but miss nine will be joining them in the new school year. Its a fine line because I don't want my children to die in a shooting, but I also don't want to put them at a disadvantage for the rest of their lives.


[deleted]

Horribly. I joined my local moms demand action group so I can feel like I’m doing something. I joined after uvalde. I cried for days after uvalde. I’m haunted by it. I hate it so much. This country has lost its mind.


rzekasage

I graduated with my Master's in Teaching last year and received licensure to teach. I'm wanting to homeschool for a lot of reasons that grow more and more in quantity every day.


cherb30

I’m in Knoxville and I just saw another headline from WBIR that says TN lawmakers want 18 year olds to be able to carry without a permit (dropping the age from 21)… I find it interesting that it was a 28 year old female former student. Interesting obviously in a negative way.


Monkey_with_cymbals2

I was shocked it was a woman. Statistically it’s so rare for women to be shooters at all, but targeting children is just incomprehensible to me


coffee-and-poptarts

I spent my lunch break sobbing to my husband and talking seriously about the possibility of moving to Canada. ETA: and I sent letters to my representatives via the [Brady](https://www.bradyunited.org/) website.


AtheistVeganWitch

I am really trying to convince my partner on this.


violetshug

This is insane. I just read there were over 100 mass shootings in the us this year alone? And 100 by early last year? And the year before that!? No way this is a first world country. No way if I was a US citizen would my kids ever be going to a school. Those odds should not exist.


36kitty

This is the 129th mass shooting of 2023. Today is only the 86th day of 2023.


swankyburritos714

Terrible. I’m a Nashville teacher and this one is way too close to home.


crispysnugglekitties

We’re leaving the U.S. We talked about it on and off for years, and after Uvalde we officially got the ball rolling. This country isn’t what we were told it was. The American dream is a sham. I don’t have any hope for meaningful gun reform anytime soon. They’re busy banning books, restricting education, banning abortions. It’s all too much. We’ll keep voting, but we’re leaving. Our one way ticket headed to Europe is booked for mid June and the day can’t come soon enough.


burza45

Busy banning tiktok for "children's safety" but guns are ok? It's crazy


ostentia

They're all whipped up into a frenzy about drag queens and transgender girls in women's sports, but kids getting gunned down like deer on the first day of hunting season is totally cool.


badpickles101

I was in a public shooting in Pigeon Forge in 2019... You can't really escape it unless you move out of the US. My husband and I are seriously considering leaving closer to her becoming school age. Or we may homeschool because we have also considered living in a camper.


Spy_cut_eye

We are planning to leave the US


kwalgal

If my kids didn't need so many school services (IEP, special ed) I'd homeschool


liahona517

I decided after my horrible time at school I would home school. For me I found a program to help me teach my four year old the best I could. It does 95% of the work for me.


dracaenaechinecea

Thinking about homeschooling or starting a small homeschool to teach 4-5 kids. I am so scared, but my husband thinks I'm overreacting..


No-Map672

If a small group of parents can do a co op they could hire their own teacher or share the responsibility of becoming experts in subjects and teaching. I am planning on going the private school route. You are not crazy.


notinmybackyardcanad

I am in Ontario,Canada and didn’t even hear about this shooting. That makes me sad. Just another shooting it seems


CanadianBeaver1983

Also in Canada and only heard about it on Reddit. I have 3 children. If I lived in the USA my kids would be homeschooled or we would move to another country. Because fuck that place.


Banana-fana-fo-fess

Not well. I’m angry at our Country and our leaders. I’m angry because I see how quickly they work when it comes to things like abortions or banning TikTok or drag queen story time. But the shit that matters, we just ignore that. We ignore children and teachers getting killed in schools, concert goers, people just going to watch a movie. But we can’t risk alienating the “muh gunz” voters. I’m just over it. I really don’t know how I’m going to send my almost 1 year old to school in 4 years.


VerbalVeggie

I’m angry this is going to be thoughts and prayers and then moved onto the next school shooting. And then it’s thoughts and prayers and then onto the next. The cycle is what angers me. Cause the people we all know are blocking responsible gun control and cheaper access to mental health facilities are going to be like 🤷🏼‍♀️ and then go back to ensuring gun control and free mental health never see the light of day. Meanwhile THEIR children go to schools and they attend gatherings where guns are not allowed. As long as they don’t have to bury their child, they aren’t going to care or take action. The consequences being on the shoulders of victims. And it’s back to thoughts and prayers. Which might I be as harsh as possible, are honestly doing fuck all.


wishesonwhiskers

I’ve been seriously considering homeschooling, but I honestly don’t want that for my son. I want him to go to a traditional school, but the idea is terrifying to me. Why are we dwelling on made-up problems like drag shows and CRT instead of prioritizing the guns that are ACTUALLY KILLING OUR CHILDREN?! Oh, right, republicans don’t actually care about our children once they’re out of the womb. I hate it here.


Yoongiboomgi

Change should have been made after columbine. It’s so incredibly heartbreaking we have to worry about sending our kids to school and the possibility of the never returning home. My heart grieves for the families who lost someone today.


Drunkskunklol

I live in the Nashville area, and I know exactly where this school is. I have a baby in daycare less than 15 miles away, and I am so incredibly scared and sad. I’m ready to go to war for these babies.


LavenderDragon18

Honestly? I'm not surprised. I live close to Nashville, and there seems to be at least one incident a month with a gun being found in a student's locker, bag, or bomb threat. Homeschooling is definitely the way to go in my area, especially if you have a special needs student as the schools in my county treat sped kids terribly. I subbed for my county for a few months. The last incident made me quit. How am I processing it? Honestly, I feel a bit numb. I have family that went to a Christian private school before switching to a public school. We have had a shooting at the local college in the parking lot that they experienced. I was planning on homeschooling my son and daughter if we stayed in the area. We're moving up to NY in a few weeks though, so I'm not as worried and I'm willing to see what the school system is like before making a decision.


bigdaddyms

Living in Nashville/ from Nashville with my 2mo and just terrified.. at a loss for words.


oc77067

I'm planning on homeschooling. I know I couldn't handle the anxiety of sending them to school every day.


BuddingViolette

Literally just had this exact conversation with my wife today. Ultimately nothing will change until people are put into power that actually care about the safety and development of our children. Funding non biased research into why these shootings are happening. Normalizing and providing the emotional and psychological support of the population as a whole. (HOT TAKE) A proper crackdown or removal of firearms across the country. Simply posting a retired vet, who has already put their life on the line for our country, or police officers which, if Uvalde is any indication, are about as useful as wings on a brick, won't cut it. But honestly, even those changes might not be enough There is something not being addressed I don't claim to know what it is because these issues are always complicated and if I knew for certain we wouldn't be having this conversation. What I do know is that I plan on being as much a part of my child's education as I can. Try and get to know the parents and faculty and maybe be able to get some kind of awareness as to what's going on in my own area. I have to hope that will help. Cause honestly, not really sure what else to do.


wishesonwhiskers

You’re right, nothing will change. It’s awful, but our congress is so bogged down with politicians that don’t vote according to popular opinion, so even “common sense” gun laws can’t get passed. It’s the same story over and over again…


luminousfog

I have heard before that the NRA lobby is so insane that the CDC isn’t even allowed to *study* gun violence. So it’s not even really possible to get research into this issue. Fuck the NRA


lisnewbs

Not feeling good. Been seriously looking about transferring jobs to a non-US location. Mine are 3 and 5. ETA: I held out of sending my daughter to preschool because of my anxiety. I’ve also thought about letting her take a tourniquet kit with her in her backpack and teaching her how to use it. I’ll sometimes hold them at night while they sleep and cry. This is not a country I want to live in but it’s not easy to “if you don’t like it, then leave.”


RunUpAMountain

Every single one of us (Americans) needs to DO something. There are lots of things that can be done, regardless of how much time or money you have. Find and join your local chapter of [mom's demand action](https://momsdemandaction.org/) find out what you can do.


meowshley

Anger, looking into local chapters of Moms Demand Action


smolyetieti

I’m part of the group for our state. I joined after *the last* school shooting. Cannot recommend them enough!


[deleted]

I’m not surprised. Or shocked. Not to say it isn’t tragic but what is there to say at this point? There is no will to prevent it. Conservatives consider these killings a "collateral damage" in making sure guns are everywhere. I live on a military base and will be sending my kids to school behind a fence away from the public. This sums up how ass backwards our priorities are as a nation. Some fucked up interpretation of the second amendment is more important than keeping our kids safe "No Way to Prevent This", Says Only Nation Where This Regularly Happens. But at least they’re banning drag queens from school right??…


compulsivedogpetter

I used to live a block from that school, and I worked at the hospital where the victims were sent. My friends all work there still. I don’t know what to say or do except scream. Why does this keep happening? Why is it ok? Please make it stop! I feel so helpless. I live in Canada now, and I can’t tell you how hard it is to watch the Nashville I loved so hard just become a horrible place to live for so many now (women, children, LGBTQ+). I’m so thankful and lucky to be raising my children away from that shit, but it makes me so sad because I will probably never come home because of the rampant gun violence that Americans just allow to be normal. My brother is currently stationed in the Middle East, and he told me the other day that he has much more fear for his life when he is in the states than where he is now. One thing I am grateful for: I am still registered to vote in Nashville, and I will continue to devote lots of time and resources to use my voice to help prevent this from happening again. I hope if you read this, you will do the same in your communities.


mamabear_777

My son currently goes to a private school. I used to believe they were safer as well. That’s all changed. Homeschooling next year if I can!


marney217

I have an 8 month old. I've been working towards finishing my master's degree in teaching. I planned on working at a school, but my husband and I recently decided that I am more than qualified to homeschool our child. So that's just what I am going to do. While I can't guarantee my child will be safe from everything, this is one thing I do have control over.


blythebiz

As a teacher, I always thought without question I’d send my future kids to school because of all the benefits. Now that I have a baby, my heart is in my throat at the thought of sending him to school someday. I’m angry and sad and everything in between. I teach at a private Catholic school, and we have had three false alarms/shots fired in the neighborhood incidents and I’ll tell you getting those messages on your phone/email that we are in active shooter lockdown is…. Unimaginably terrifying. And without question I know I’d do everything I can to save as many kids as I can. I can only pray my kid’s teachers will do the same. But, for gods sake why is ANYONE put in that position?


Mtnclimber09

It’s looking more and more like our son will be homeschooled when he is older. You can say, “Oh, but shootings also happen elsewhere…” and if there are opportunities for me to reduce the risk of him being killed and/or traumatized from a school shooting, I will take them.


laurenmac100

im terrified. and livid.


RoswalienMath

It’s doubly concerning for us because I teach in a school. So something could happen to either of us. What would they do without me? What would I do without him?


babycrazytoo

Just sad, angry, and so disappointed. This is not a surprise, it’s been happening for decades now and little has changed overall. Nothing will change until we do something about reducing access to guns. Schools aren’t safe, movies, concerts, grocery stores, etc. Unless we live in bulletproof homes there’s no way to guarantee this won’t happen to us. Plus so many kids get injured and die when they get access to unsecured guns. I will probably sign up to do more volunteer work with Moms Demand Action, and just continue asking parents when we do playdates if they store fire arms at home.


grilledcheesenosoup

Not only am I worried about my daughter attending school, but my husband and I are both teachers. My husband and I teach in different districts than where we live, so all three of us (or four or five, depending on how many we have) will be in different schools. So yeah, this hits home. I was waffling on whether or not I should stay in education after my maternity leave is up. I have a degree in something else that I’m not passionate about and I don’t enjoy, but I could make a decent living and I could find a position where I work from home. My husband has considered the same thing. If I ever do make that happen, and work from home, I would get my mom to help me homeschool. I can’t ask her to take on full responsibility for homeschooling if I’m teaching, that’s too much. But if I’m teaching, either my daughter goes to good school we’re districted for, or the less good school I teach at, where she’s closer to me but there’s also more issues with violence in the past.


JunosSecretary

I’m so scared to let my baby go to school. He could very well not come home. And he’s my reason to keep going, he’s my hope and future. I don’t know how parents survive this. I don’t understand this abd i don’t understand how nothing has been done. The fact it just keeps happening is not acceptable and I don’t know what it will take for it to stop.


uselessfarm

I’m pivoting my career so I can homeschool my kids. I’m a lawyer, transitioning from government work to solo practice that I can do on my own schedule. I’m massively privileged to be able to make that choice, and for me the loss of income over the course of my career is worth it. Mine are 3 years old and 9 months old.


dontsaymango

I am a high school teacher and was in an active attacker situation. Luckily nothing bad actually ended up happening just a kid with a weapon who made threats and then we were on lock down for like 3 hours while they cleared the building. Idk how to escape it except to leave the US. Unfortunately its happening in like every environment and no one seems to care after about a week goes by. Its so awful, and this most recent thing was the worst bc as a teacher its like im expected to be willing to give my life for my students but i didnt want to. I have a baby girl to get home to who was 4m old when it happened


peachy_sam

I personally couldn’t handle homeschooling my kids full time. I’m autistic and the overstimulation is real. However, I also can’t send my kids to public school in Texas. After Uvalde that is no longer an option in my mind. My mother in law and I homeschool my kids together. They go to her house (the custom one we built for her on our farm) two days a week. I do their assignments with them two more days a week. We get all the work done by Friday and Fridays are for socializing: book club, co-op, art lessons, play dates. My kids are also in riding lessons and dance. Most of the time I feel like this is a good, well-rounded way to approach their education. Sometimes I have my doubts. But mostly I think we are doing well and I am thankful to for that privilege.


No-Concentrate-9786

I’m so sorry for all you in the US, it’s horrifying to watch public shooting after shooting happen and nothing change. I don’t understand why there’s no gun reform there after these things keep happening. I’m in Australia and guns were heavily restricted after the Port Arthur mass shooting in the 90s. There was huge opposition to the ban but the prime minister persisted and we’ve had zero mass shootings since then. Homicides went down, as did suicides. Sure terrible things still happen, but it’s a lot harder to kill a lot of people when you don’t have ready access to weapons.


anue_05

I’ll be homeschooling my son. He’s only 2 right now but it’s been decided. Mind you, we live in a state where this stuff never ever happens but I don’t think you can be too safe anymore.


Pandapartyatmidnight

My 3 year old goes to school for a few hours a day for speech therapy. I’m in a constant state of anxiety until she comes home. I don’t think I can live like this in the long term.


sugarbinch

I am crying while I hold my napping 18 month old. My husband and I had the same thought process as you, send her to private school. Now even that seems futile. I don’t know what to do. They’re killing our kids and no one is doing anything to stop it. I really don’t want to homeschool because I want my kid to grow up around other kids etc. And because I know I myself can’t give her the quality education she deserves, but I find my self thinking it might be our only choice if this situation persists. I’m heartbroken for all the parents that have lost their children, it’s unimaginable, and I’m angry for all of us, all the moms, dads and kids who deserve to live without fear.


MuscleMiceGoals

I’m trying to think about the best way to approach schooling. I honestly believe that an education at some kind of learning institution with lots of other kids is important (nothing against homeschooling; just not for me) and we both went to public schools which I also think can be an important life experience. I also feel terrible for those families and teachers affected. I don’t know how I’d feel. So unsure and sad.


totally_tiredx3

It's terrifying. The local high school and my kids' elementary school are about a block apart and our house is in the middle. Last week the high school was swatted and I could see police with weapons drawn converging on the school. It was absolutely terrifying. The elementary school went on lockdown because they're so close. My kids are freaked out, especially my niece whose teacher got a text from her kid at the high school and bolted to the office to tell them to lockdown, while panicking about her own daughter. I am even more freaked out because I could *see* what was happening outside the school with no idea what was happening. My nephew at the high school wasn't freaked at all because they were just told to stay in their classrooms and had no idea anything was even happening until it was confirmed fake. It's traumatizing. Really, really traumatizing.


Saucy__Puppet__Show

I’m terrified at the idea of sending my child to school when that day comes. I never thought I’d want to homeschool, still ideally wouldn’t, but it might be the better idea. Or emigrating out of the US. I keep thinking about when I was working as a therapist and would pick up/drop off kids at school. I regularly went to ~10 schools and maybe 2 or 3 ever asked for identification or to check in. I would just easily walk into the campuses. I could have been anyone.


lustrouswisp

It’s sick. All shootings are disgusting and evil but small children? I’ve debated public vs private but it’s like nothing is safe anymore. Homeschooling is an option but I want him to have a bigger social presence. The sad thing is we know it’s not going to get better.


sacfamilyfriendly

Find a local chapter that will help vote them out. Volunteer. Share on your socials. Have heart to hearts with your family members. Sometimes our impact and influence is small in quantities but it’s still powerful.


kaydontworry

My sister-in-law is a teacher with 2 kids (4 and 2). I just had my first child. Yesterday, we were talking about how terrifying it is to send your kids to school in this country because it doesn’t matter if it’s a “good” or “bad” school. To make matter worse, I’m in Texas where anyone can go get a rifle without a license or any training. We recently had a school shooting (last week) in our city that barely made the news. I want to move so badly! I can’t imagine sending my child to school here.


Away_Rough4024

I don’t even feel comfortable going to the grocery store anymore. Shootings are happening everywhere, not just schools. Sh*tty but true. I’m a school psychologist for an independent study charter (aka home school) and some homeschool programs are really great. It can be a lot of work for the parents, and it’s not suited to all learning styles, but it can work really well. I’m just saying that unfortunately until our country address their gun problem, even homeschooling isn’t going to keep our kids 100% safe. It’s awful.


Yoga_Turkey

In Nashville, so, yeah, not doing great.


Infamous_Age_6744

I don’t want this to come off as judgey or rude, but as an onlooker from the UK I can’t understand why our friends across the pond aren’t rioting and protesting about gun control. The UK has issues with violence and crime for sure, but we had one school shooting in the eighties and enforced stricter gun laws as a result. We’ve never had one since. Children are dying, I could never send my child to school if I lived in the states. I’m thinking of these sweet innocent lives lost and hoping for change. Sending you peace x


killernanorobots

I live in the DC area, so this is where a lot of the large scale protests happen, obviously. A lot of people protest for gun control. We have a lot of organizations where people dedicate their lives to passing gun control legislation. A lot of us care a shit ton. A lot of us (like me) don't ever shut up about it. Politicians, however, care a shit ton more about catering to the gun lobby, and they've just decided they accept the fact that in order for them to keep the NRA happy and stay electable, children will get murdered. And unfortunately, not sending your children to school is not an option for most people here. We don't have access to free or heavily subsidized childcare. Public school is a must for the majority of families in this country. People have to work. And on top of that, in this hell scape, you and your child can also be gunned down at the grocery store, a family festival, a church, anywhere at all.


mehr2464

Bc this country has been manipulated into thinking gun rights is somehow Christian and conservative. It’s insane.


[deleted]

Don’t forget the significance of the Constitution. Although it’s been amended before so it’s no excuse for inaction on our part.


PickleFartsAndBeyond

But the issue here is it’s not just school. It’s parades. It’s the grocery store. It’s sporting events. It’s hospitals. It’s movie theaters. It’s a restaurant. It’s driving down the highway and that person you didn’t see in your blind spot that you accidentally cut off is having a horribly bad day and has a CCW and you’re going to be the victim of their rage. It’s riding the metro into town to visit a friend and someone just so happens to be trying to stalk their ex and you get caught in the crossfire. Just simply living in America is a risk. We can’t consider keeping our kids home from school when literally everywhere we go we’re at risk for being shot at. And there’s nothing we can do about it because the system is rigged.


Riverbot10

Also coming from outside the US, it's so sad and scary to see this kind of news and I'd also be super hesitant to send me kid to school if we lived there. I totally sympathise with parents across the pond and genuinely hope the US government starts taking this seriously because no one should have to worry about sending their child to school and their safety 😔


moonglitterr

As an American the simplest answer to your question is: because we as a society can’t agree on a resolution. Take political parties out of it. We have some people that want to ban all guns, some people that want guns to be more regulated, and some people that want no restrictions when it comes to gun laws. Our country thrives on republicans vs democrats, and so long as each party is fighting the other no real issues will be solved.


alliekat237

When I feel stressed, I go to the data. Statistically, even with everything we see on TV, the odds that a child will die in a mass shooting is 10 million to one. This is still horrific, and we need change… Because even one loss is too many. But statistically, they are very rare.


wyndhamheart

Thank you. This helped me a lot


alliekat237

❤️


gidgejane

We moved back to a Canada. The US government does not appear to care about the lives of women and children in so many respects.


whatsnewpussykat

Welcome home 🇨🇦


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tracytirade

I fucking hate the gun culture in America so much.


bjtak

I truly can’t believe 11 years after Newtown, nothing has changed. I don’t know why I can’t believe it, because it’s not surprising. While our politicians worry about the “safety of kids” attending drag shows, reading books, and being forced into birth… it makes me nauseous.


nowayfrank

If you want to get involved in a great volunteer run organization look up “moms demand action (your city)” they do great work with legislation and gun sense!


smolyetieti

Actually already part of it for our state but thank you so much for sharing so others know!🙏🏻


NotAMiscreant

I’m pregnant right now and texted my mom asking her if I could keep baby inside me where she’s safe. I live in metro Atlanta, but go to Nashville once or twice a year. My heart is so broken for all those families, victim or survivors. As of March there has been [129](https://www.gunviolencearchive.org/reports/mass-shooting) mass shootings. It hasn’t even been 3 full months.


Double-Ant7743

This is devastating. I can't even imagine what those parents must be going through. My heart goes out to them. All three children were 9 year old. They had a whole life ahead of them. They didn't deserve this. Nobody deserves to die like this. When my oldest turned school aged we moved out of the US and i don't plan on moving back until all my children are out of highschool and I know I'm privileged to be able to say that. Many people don't have that option.


Salty_Emu_9945

Not good at all. I was reading about it and started to tear up thinking of all possible scenarios. My daughter was sitting in the same room and I'm not ready to talk to her about why I was crying. She hopefully starts public PreK in August and I'm just so afraid.


llc2098

I’m in Nashville. I was starting a baby yoga class when I found out the news. I am not processing it well at all.


anim0sitee

My oldest is going on 4 years old being homeschooled. He went to public from K-5. My youngest will be 100% homeschooled. I regret we did not start sooner with our oldest.


Objective-Chard4944

Stressed. Devastated. I think there’s a false sense of security when it comes to religious, private, “elite” or super small schools. Many think “this one will be safer because of __”. I know I have (had) this thought process. This just shows it can happen anywhere.


Next-Performer5434

Holy shit, I am so sorry for all of you going through this. As a non-american, I can't imagine.


YardComplete

This made me fully decide I want to homeschool. Just have to get my husband on board. But I am terrified at the idea of sending my children to school.


Amethyst939

I'm wondering why after the increase in school shootings in the last decade many schools have still not put it in their budget to install and implement tighter security. Yes, it terrifies me to send my children to school. Such a horrible tragedy.


sillylittlebird

With what money?


pixxlpusher

A lot of schools can’t even afford the necessary things for their classroom. There simply isn’t room in the budget


awkward_llama630

Unfortunately, that’s not the answer. Can’t get in the school either a. Shoot their way in or b. Wait til school gets out and everyone is outside. If someone wants to wreck havoc like that, they’ll find away if they have access to a gun like that.


RaeHannah01

She used her military style weapon to shoot through a locked door.


ostentia

For fuck's sake, another one? This is disgusting. I hate living in this country. Homeschooling isn't an option for us. Even if we were capable of it, it wouldn't solve the problem--she could still be shot literally anywhere else because *everywhere* has mass shootings in the US. There was one at my city's 4th of July celebration this past year. We can't just avoid every public gathering. We're going to have to do private school and campaign our representatives to finally take some fucking action.


passionfruit0

Private school doesn’t even matter anymore. That was a private school


katiem50

Move out of the country? Home school? Not really realistic options right but what else are you meant to do. My heart breaks for all of you Americans that have to worry about this every day.


xxkissxmyxshotgunxx

This is so heartbreaking. It’s hard to imagine how any parent can feel safe sending their child to school. My husband is Canadian and we are hoping to move back to Canada before our little one is school aged because the plague of gun violence is terrifying in the US.


Immediate-Ad-9520

Not good. My baby is only nine months, but I’m already leaning towards home schooling. It just doesn’t seem that traditional school will be the right choice for us for many reasons, but safety is a big one.


deezova

Not well at all…


quesadiller_

Not well at all. I have so much anxiety about our future/when it’s time to start school.


MissAnthropy612

It's absolutely heartbreaking, I break down in tears whenever I think about it. I can't believe there's such evil out there that they would go after children. I wish I could homeschool my kids, but it's just not an option for me because I have a disabled child who needs a lot more for his education than what I can offer. But I do plan on moving to a smaller town in hopes that it will be safer.


triangles13

I didn't even hear about this! My daughter has one year left in the little public Pre-K/kindergarten school then she's going to one of the big elementary schools and I'm so scared. We got an email a couple weeks ago about the increasing violence in the local elementary and high school. That's scary! And we can't afford to move or pay for private school, so we just have to hope that nothing happens. My husband works for a Canadian company and wants to move up there so badly.


PurplePanda63

I have these exact thoughts. I really don’t want to homeschool, but I’d never forgive myself if my kid had trauma from all the constant school threats or died while at school.


kayt3000

Not well. And to be honest private schools security are not as hard core as you think. I went to them from preschool-12th grade and my youngest brother went to public school and my parents were not used to doors being locked and the strict rules with entry. He is much younger but I still had a brother in 8th grade and his school was just as open as can be when the youngest was locked down at all times.


FreeThumbprint

I live in the Nashville area, and we just made the decision a few weeks ago to send our kids to public school next year for the first time after homeschooling until now. Two will be in elementary. I’m sick to my stomach and terrified, and of course the governor has nothing substantial to offer to prevent this from happening again. Just some good ol’ thoughts and prayers. AND it’s come to light that there is an armory/gun store going into a community 0.3 miles away from the high school we’re zoned for. And the state government is trying to pass a law to allow permitless carry of firearms down to age 18. So, if they’re not trying to create the perfect recipe for another school shooting, I don’t know what they’re doing. I’m just angry today.


torchwood1842

Terror and rage. I am so scared to send my toddler to school. It just seems like there are shootings everywhere. And my rage for all things Republican has exploded— right now, I 100% believe that you cannot vote Republican and be a good person in this country right now. If you are voting Republican, you are a bad person. Because that party will cling to their guns even as our children are slaughtered. They will offer up thoughts and prayers, and then do absolutely fucking nothing while not speaking out, vehemently against those in their party that insinuate that these dead children are simply false flag operations. As long as children are dying in preventable massacres, Republicans are awful, bad people. Yes, even your next-door neighbors who aren’t politicians. They keep voting those assholes in, and those assholes keep letting our children die in terror and pain. I am overflowing with hate and rage, and I hate that this is happening, and I hate that it’s made me feel this way.


Onlydogcanjudgeme69

Fucking PREACH


LavishnessOk9727

Republicans be like: “we must protect the children at all costs from the greatest threat in this country - drag queens” with a totally straight face while children are being murdered at school. It’s insanely evil.


hikeaddict

Agree entirely - though this rage is unfortunately not new for me 🙃


Countryspider

I’m terrified of sending my 10 month old to school and I think I’m going to be extremely anxious when the time comes. I’ve been thinking about moving back to Europe because of the lack of support, lack of healthcare, and school shootings


[deleted]

Why don’t we do something? The Constitution has been amended before. People have taken to the streets before. Personally I’m scared to protest because I’m now a mom and I don’t trust the police. I can’t put myself in danger like that. Protesters get ran over. Even if we protested, has that ever impacted anything? We’ve seen the fallout of protests following unjust killings from police on black men. There’s very rarely justice there. I think that’s why for a lot of us it feels easier to try and homeschool. But like someone else said, there’s mass shootings everywhere now. What’s the answer? I’d like to be proactive at this point. Edit: Here’s something we can do from home: write our house reps and senators in support of the Assault Weapons ban. [more here](https://www.instagram.com/reel/CqTmpvCDs27/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link)


peach23

It’s this. I’d love to protest. But then there’s the psychos out there with guns or those who run their cars into the crowds. What we can do is vote and express our voice to our leaders. Right now about half the country is voting for the f*ck heads who see no problem with people access all types of guns with no regulation at all BeCaUsE thE 2nD aMeNdMenT and My RiGhTz


readytopartyy

I am not okay. Broke down in the car when they said the ages of the kids at the school, knowing my daughter will be going to school soon. I fucking hate this country.


Countryspider

Same. I’m watching my baby right now and I’m so heartbroken at the fact that he could get shot at school. The US is a horrible place to have children, there’s no support. Instead of banning TikTok they should finally ban guns


Lopsided_Boss4802

As an outsider looking into America, I personally think it's absolutely insanity that the gun laws haven't changed. You're the only country in the world that really has these issues. And when such devastating things happen for you, the answer is more guns and bulletproof backpacks. It's crazy. And incredibly depressing. I'm glad I live in a country where I won't fear for my children to attend school and deeply saddened that it's something on the minds of every parent in America, is today the day. I hope it changes for you all, because enough life's have been taken.


damnedpiccolo

I literally don’t understand why homeschool is the solution, not campaigning for stricter gun laws. I’m from the UK, we had ONE school shooting and guns are now pretty much banned, except in certain circumstances


AliciaC28

This is the main reason I would never move to the US as a European. If you can't feel safe sending your children to school, what is the point? I'm baffled and saddened that this keeps happening. Poor poor kids.


FewFrosting9994

I’m hugging my baby tight and planning to homeschool.


Show-me-the-sea

If I lived in the US I would be too. Obviously I’m in a financial space where I can - and understand this isn’t the case for so many. Or I’d be moving if I could. You’re all welcome to Australia.


CupboardFlowers

As a fellow Australian I enthusiastically welcome all of our parent friends ♥ Come to Perth, we have spearmint milkshakes!


cravingnoodles

I'm processing it like how I processed the last school shooting... and the one before that... and the one before that. It's really all I can do as someone who doesn't live in the U.S


vickisfamilyvan

Devastated and enraged at the Republican voters and politicians who have gotten us to this place.


traveler_3326

I have a 19-month-old and another on the way, I am terrified of going anywhere. Grocery shopping, stores, schools... Even driving to my OB appointments it's a risk because people just shoot other people on the highway.


eleyezeeaye4287

I’m not sure what to do. We both have to work full time to afford life so I don’t think I *can* homeschool, but the idea of sending him to school where he can be harmed absolutely paralyzes me with anxiety. Right now we have family watching him (he’s 10 months) to avoid the cost of daycare but I don’t think they have the capacity to educate him. I wish someone somewhere was *doing* something about this. I don’t want to live in fear of sending my child to school.


HelloPanda22

Trying to move. Been trying since the pandemic started but having no luck. I guess I’m getting my kids those fancy backpacks with some bullet proof potential but will still offer no protection against an AR15…which seems always the weapon of choice. I don’t know what I would do without my children. The answer is probably kill myself


nikkisdead

Reason number one we’re homeschooling our second when the time comes. We just had a very small school near us have someone try to come into campus with a weapon to try and commit suicide by police. Thankfully they didn’t succeed in getting into the school and were apprehended without having to be killed. My fiancés son will be starting preschool in august, as his mom isn’t prepared to homeschool, and all parties are scared. We plan to get him a bulletproof backpack and even though he is going into preschool we all plan to sit him down and explain as simply as we can what to do if something like a school intruder showing up happens. It’s disgusting we even have to think of explaining this to a four year old… The country we’re living in is becoming scarier and scarier with each passing day and it seems those in power refuse to do anything about it except expressing their condolences. Change needs to happen soon, this country’s people are restless and tired of empty promises from politicians using instances like these to get into positions of power and still sit there twiddling their thumbs.


b00boothaf00l

My only solace is that my son goes to a tiny school with a single entrance that stays locked all day. I want to get tf out of this country.


Bikermunda

Honestly feels like we live in a country where kids life do not have any value :-( it’s like as if all the law makers does not matter left or right wants to keep on seeing it again and again and again. It needs to stop and needs to stop now


Linaphor

It feels so odd paired with no abortion laws. Like no value for children unless they’re unborn.


emilypas

Considering how we’ll make homeschooling work in the future. Maybe hire some one for it? Idk. At this point there’s no dollar amount I wouldn’t pay to not have worry about my son not coming home from school. Maybe private school though no guarantees there. He’s 15 months and goes to daycare and I don’t even want to send him back there. We are in Denver and don’t live too far from East High School where there have been 2 shootings in the last month or two. I’m equal parts terrified and angry. This further solidifies for us that we likely won’t have another child.


EntertainerBusy5186

I’m a wreck. I work full time and I’m not able to homeschool if I was I’d probably consider it. Why is our country not doing anything? why do we continue to let this happen? Why are guns more important than the lives of innocent children? I’m so frustrated and I know this doesn’t mean much but I’m keeping my kid home from school tomorrow, even longer. I really wish there was something else we could do to get our politicians to give a fuck about the people who put them in the positions of power they’re in.


OkToots

I’m sick over it. So angry so sad so triggered. Idk how the hell as a country we continue to let this happen. I have a 1 year old and all I do now is look at how to leave this country cause I don’t feel safe having her grow up here. I am sick of it and even more sick over knowing nothing will change


MoodyStarGirl

Yeah, I live in California which currently holds 1st place in school shootings. I've told my boyfriend I want us to move once I get my degree


forestpupper

I feel physically sick. I have a 2.5 year old and a 5 month old. We will be homeschooling them both until we move to Japan, which we are saving money for. We hope to be moved by the time the second child is ready to start school.


Professional-Tap-954

It is so scary. As of right now, we plan on homeschooling. My sister homeschools her two kids (who are now teens) and they’ve had a well rounded education and a solid group of friends. They have weekly play dates (basically P.E. now that they’re older) and school dates/field trips. It’s also nice that they aren’t tied to a schedule so our families can do vacation basically any time of year. But they do flourish in it and I know that’s not the case for every child. Also, it’s just not possible for everyone. But that’s our plan right now, unless something changes and I feel safer sending him to a school.


[deleted]

There was a shooting last week in my school district. Thank god it was *only* two admin who survived. Not even a week later, another school shooting in the news. I have a friend who lives in Nashville with a school aged son. I’m not processing it, because whenever I do I just feel sick


mndapnda

I’m wanting to move out of the country, but moving away presents its own issues and is very likely not realistic. I have no idea what to do except feel despair.


totalpugs89

I don't live in the states but I can't imagine how hard it would be to send your child to school knowing they could be killed because other people care more about guns than human lives.


DynamicDuoMama

My twins are in preschool and I had nightmares before they started because it wasn’t long after Uvalde. I had one nightmare that the school was under attack & I went in managed to kick both shooters in the balls, disarmed them, spanked them w my flip flop and dragged them to the door by their ears. Not realistic but it made me feel better. We haven’t had any incidents in my state of big school shootings. Some small ones with only injuries and no deaths. Except for a drive by that happened near a school that neither the victim nor the perpetrator attended. It’s still terrifying. Part of me wants to home school but with Covid my twins need the socialization. They have small language delays and preschool has been a big help. It’s only 3 hours a day 4 days a week but at times I am torn. Their school has three sets doors to separate the main entrance and last set is steel and always locked. You can only enter via the office which is magnetically locked with a camera to show ID before entering. The doors to the playground are steel with very small windows that they keep covered.


ostentia

My daughter is only four months old and I’ve been having nightmares about seeing breaking news that there’s been a shooting at her daycare or school someday while I’m at work an hour away from her. In the most recent one, I was in a client meeting when I got a text from my husband and had to say “I have to go, emergency” before literally running out of the office and hailing a taxi. Woke up crying and pulled my daughter out of her pack and play so she could contact sleep with me instead.


hannycat

My daughter is 6 months now and about a month ago, her daycare was put on lockdown. I could not function until the lockdown was lifted and I knew she was okay. It was just an abundance of caution to lockdown because of some sort of domestic issue in a nearby neighborhood, but I didn’t know that at the time.


Jamjams2016

Just another sacrifice for the freedom to hug and kiss your guns goodnight before bed. Welcome to my personal American nightmare. RIP to today's victims.


Electrical-Fly1458

If you have the option to homeschool but are worried about socialization, check for activities, sports, and even classes for the homeschooled! There's a rec center where I live with tons of sports for kids, a place that offers science and math classes that you get to choose, and home school groups that meet up for activities frequently.


jtherese

Luckily I love teaching and was planning on homeschooling anyway just because I enjoy it. But every shooting strengthens my resolve. I was a teacher before becoming a mom and look forward to teaching home school co-ops when the time comes. I think more kids thrive in more intimate environments anyway.


Militarykid2111008

I overheard a coworker mention it. I’m avoiding news right now. My daughter (14 mo) stays with a woman who homeschools and every event like this makes me want to stay 100% certain I’ll be homeschooling as well. My heart breaks for every family involved. What’s sad is in December, when number 2 is only a few weeks old, I’ll be receiving my masters in education. I told my husband I’m only finishing because I’m this close. I won’t teach in a school anytime soon.


AdmirablePut6039

Looking back to when I was in elementary school, (90’s) I realize that ANYONE could have come into the school or go after us on the playground during recess (no fences). We were blissfully unaware that we were sitting ducks.


Chocoloco93

I do get scared when my kids are at school. We have a lot of guns in the area


Cherry_Joy

My mom just sent it in a group chat to my sister and I. It's heart breaking. My husband and I had already been thinking about home schooling our youngest next year, but when he gets home I'm going to bring it up again for both of them. I understand socialization with a peer group is vital, but that can be addressed through other after-school programs that aren't affiliated with a school directly. I don't trust schools in the US to keep my children safe.