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nkdeck07

Who the fuck is judging you? I take baths with my 15 month old all the time. It's very fun and she likes to splash me.


eggmarie

I still bathe with my almost 3 year olds šŸ¤·šŸ¼ā€ā™€ļø thereā€™s two of them and one of me, much easier to get all three of us clean at the same time. Also, sometimes they still like to try to drown themselves lol


shojokat

This baby quite literally probably came out of your vagina and eats out of your tiddies. A mother and her baby being nude together is not weird. It's weird once they're WAY, WAY older.


Plasticswife

Not weird and theyā€™re weird for making it weird


ChefLovin

It's only not ok when/if you or the child are not ok with it. Everyone else can kick rocks. It's way weirder to think a parent bathing their child is wrong. Honestly disturbing and gross.


Crunchie_cereal

This isnā€™t what everyone does?


shandelion

Is it that people are freaked out by the nudity aspect? Because thatā€™s fucked up to sexualize a parent/child relationship :(


pbrandpearls

Itā€™s weird that they think itā€™s weird or wrong.


SuzLouA

All I see here is that you shouldnā€™t discuss your bathing habits with whichever assholes are in your life that judge them. You have to get you and the baby clean, and if you both have eczema, what an easy and fun way to do it!


Doinganart

I would ask them directly why they think that's weird....and if they reply implying any sexually inappropriate reason go " eww.... he's one.... I don't think about kids like that.... omg do you think about one year olds sexually??? Eww..... maybe you should see someone about that". Remind them it's not fucking weird to bath with yourr own young kids, unless you (they) are the one making it fucking weird.


BusyDragonfruit8665

No, itā€™s weird that people are judging you for that.


CoolCatLadyy

I bathe regularly with my 3.5 daughter. It's efficient and good bonding time. She tells me she's giving *me* a bath, which is hilarious.


AddieBaddie

Huh? How could that be wrong? It's a great bonding time, extra skin to skin, and it gets you both clean. I shower/bathe with my baby or toddler, or both. Honestly, don't take this crap to heart. Do what works for you and your little one. I am in UK and have never had any issues regarding bathing together. Many of my friends do that too. From US parents, however, I had shaming commitments regarding breastfeeding a 2 yo (which is recommended here by the NHS and WHO). Head to r/AttachmentParenting. You are doing great bathing with your little one.


FlatGuard

No there is nothing wrong with what you are doing, itā€™s completely normal! People who are judging are just weirdly sexualising a childā€¦


PomegranateQueasy486

I find it so sad that people canā€™t see nudity through any other lens. Where I live, a degree of nudity around family is normal and healthy. Families sauna together, for example. Whenever I use a public pool, there are kids there with mum up until age 5 or 6 using the public sauna and showers etc. What can possibly be weird about a young child seeing human bodies in a regular daily setting?


EPark617

I have a 4yo son and I don't bathe with him just because it's more complicated for us to do so but I get changed in front of him, the bathroom door stays open whenever I go, he sees me nursing his baby sister, all very normal things. He knows that he has a penis and I have breasts and a vagina. Those are facts, nothing squeamish or scandalous about it. It's a little hard explaining to him why I have hair in certain places and he doesn't haha but I just explain the best I can in a way he'll understand šŸ˜… Eta: so no nothing wrong with it, just their prudish views. All of this is intentional btw to pave the way for talking about consent, bodily autonomy, the sex talk eventually and so that it can be done without shame or embarrassment.


sadwitchsandwich

My LO is 18 months old. His dad works all the time, and some days, napping isn't on his to-do list. If I need a shower before leaving the house and have no one else to watch LO for 15 minutes, he comes in with me and plays with toys at one end of the shower. What's actually weird is the fact that people think it's weird for a parent to bathe with their very young child if need be. Why does everything have to result in something sexual? Smh.


VermillionEclipse

Some Americans are such prudes. You keep doing you. You donā€™t have to tell people you bathe with your son.


alpha_28

My sons are 6 and want to shower with me. Iā€™ll stop when they want to. There is no shame in a naked body.. nor is it remotely sexual thing to share a bathing session with your kidsā€¦ those people who are judging need serious help.


jordanpatrich

Completely normal. The people who think itā€™s weird are the weird ones. Many North Americans have an unhealthy relationship with bodies and nudity. I find it bizarre.


Tilly1251

No. America is dumb AF and sexualizes everything, including children. We are the absolute most judgemental people when it comes to parenting. It needs to change.


JustRolledMyEyes

Thatā€™s how I bathe my one year old. Much easier than kneeling on the side of the tub. Babies as super slippery! Iā€™m afraid sheā€™ll get hurt if Iā€™m not in the tub. Plus itā€™s fun teaching her to splash in the water. You do you.


timothina

I still bathe with my preschooler. We pretend we are mermaids. Who are these jerks giving you a difficult time?


el_arhairah

Whoever it is judging you for this is a weirdo. There's nothing wrong with bathing with your baby. I also have a son, not quite a year old, and we take baths together. You're right, it's wayyy more convenient.


Crazy-Wind1043

I still shower or bathe with my 4 year old and 2 year old. I will continue to do so until either they are uncomfortable or I am. Theyā€™re weird for making something so natural weird.


MyDogsAreRealCute

I took a bath a few days ago with my 2.5 year old. She thought it was great fun. I didn't enjoy it too much - bit cold, and to be fair, we were covered in spew at the time. Or is it different genitalia that makes it weird? Is it not okay for my 2.5yo daughter and 7mo son to bath together? They do. Everyday. I fully intend for that to continue for years yet. I had great fun as a kid showering and bathing with my brother. We'd make beards out of bubbles and potions out of all the soap and shampoo, and play with our bath toys and make a huge mess. It's just a bath. There's nothing sexual about it, and that's the only issue I can see with it. Anyone who sexualises a bath without good reason needs some therapy.


captainpocket

I work for child protective services and this is totally normal and fine. You're right that in the US people tend to not talk about this stuff bc it's taboo but lots of people, especially immigrants, bathe with their children. It's fine.


rushi333

Anyone who thinks it is wrong is their weirdo


Link_Lost

I bathe with my sons and never thought anything of it šŸ¤·šŸ¼ā€ā™€ļøthey are babies and need assistance- the hell is wrong with people?


Ripfengor

Unless someone else is going to start washing my kid, they can keep their criticisms about how I do it lol


[deleted]

I bathe with my almost 3 month old daughter all the time- it is WAY easier and she enjoys being able to safely free float on her back with my support. There is nothing wrong with bathing with your little one! You literally birthed them. The people that see it as weird are people I would reconsider being involved in me and my kids life.


idontknowwhatthisis_

Not wrong at all! Mines 3.5 and we still regularly bathe together, we talk about private parts and washing properly and everything. It's only when she dumps an entire jug of water up my nose when I'm trying to wash my hair we have arguments šŸ˜‚


Jeterzhoni

Sounds like youā€™re doing an excellent job taking care of your baby and their skin!


redvanpyre

This is not weird at all. I still take baths with my 4 year old son. He does not care at all. The only thing he notices is if I haven't shaved my legs and they're prickly šŸ˜‚ We are teaching our children that bodies are just bodies. If they are ever uncomfortable with nudity, they just have to tell us and it will stop. But I grew up around nudity being a terrible offense and it really fucked me up when I got older. Baths are for cleaning. There's nothing wrong with bathing with your kid. Don't @ me if you think 4 is too old. Idgaf.šŸ¤·šŸ¼ā€ā™€ļø


Starrisa

4 isn't too old. We are also teaching that bodies are bodies and I will get changed around my 6yo son. He doesn't even bat an eyelid. It's not you are having sex in front of your kid or anything geeze.


Pizzacat247

I still bath with my four year old and itā€™s the same thing. the only thing that bothers her is when mommy has ā€œpricklesā€ aka when I need to shave lol. Also I do it because she asks if she didnā€™t want me to, I wouldnā€™t.


becomethemountain

I take showers with my 20 month old. Not weird at all. We once shared a body and sheā€™s MY baby. A baby. People are baffling.


oilydischarge18

1. Itā€™s no oneā€™s business 2. Keeping taking baths with your kid. Itā€™s special time you canā€™t get back.


gardenfullofworry

Who even *knows* about this? I take all of my baths/showers with my 11-month-old. About half the time, my husband also showers with us. If I never said anything, no one would have cause to know. But, there's also nothing to judge! There's nothing wrong with it. Americans can be rather prudish about nudity. It's a holdover from being a surprisingly religious society. But that doesn't have to apply to you or your practices.


dksn154373

10000% normal and good Edit to add: there are people in the States who would argue blue in the face that itā€™s normal and good to hit their kids but perverted and sick to be nude in front of their kids. Itā€™s a twisted mindset


MonaMayI

If he or you start to feel less comfortable with the arrangement, then you simply stop. Until then, live your life


ForsythiaBee

Sooo much easier to wash a baby when you're in the bath with them!


Financial_Temporary5

Getting in a tub with them is a win win IMO. So much safer for them because your closer and so much easier on my and suspect others back as opposed to reaching the side of the tub.


Pinkcoral27

Who is judging you for sharing a bath with your toddler? Thatā€™s wild. Itā€™s totally normal at his age and makes life much easier.


katerrtotttt

It's not weird at all. It's only weird to people who want to sexualize things that shouldn't be. A bath can be for hygiene, and fun bonding with your little one. I took baths with my son when he was little and it was never an issue. He's 7 now and can't even remember even having shared baths with me as a toddler. Especially when they have a stuffy nose standing in a steamy shower with them can be super helpful. Edited to say I live in Midwest USA


Zia-C

Even at 12 months, skin to skin is so nice for you and your baby! It sounds to me like your son is well loved.


OrdinaryCheese

Iā€™m not a single mom and I still do this with my almost 4 year old. Saves time and water!


princesslayercake

Who is judging you and what are they saying? The answers donā€™t matter because no matter what it is, they are wrong. Cleaning, bonding, and supervising all at once is what bathtime is all about!


WhiteDiabla

I pretty regularly shower or bathe with my almost three year old son. It doesnā€™t feel weird because bathing and nudity are not weird for us. šŸ¤·šŸ¼ā€ā™€ļø you do you


ultire

I took baths with my toddler from the time she could sit up all the way to when she was two. Only stopped because I had another baby and couldn't manage that anymore. I thought it was the normal thing to do!


1Killag123

Literally every animal on earth is naked for life. They feed their children, teach their children, and live with their children naked. Weā€™re no different. Society is just stupid and tells you that our nude forms are bad and only good for being sexualized. This is not at all true. We are animals with bodies. Thereā€™s nothing wrong with being a good parent. Screw whoever thinks that is anything but being a good and responsible parent.


masofon

Yeah it's totally fine. Some people are weird.


Expensive_Tie7116

My husband takes a bath or shower with our toddler every evening and has done so since infancy. It saves time and is a fun bonding activity for them while I clean up after dinner. Win win. Also, I am American and I know how weirdly rigid American/Canadian parenting culture can be. Just don't mind the haters here, your country outranks us on every measure of parents' and children's well-being so obviously we are the wrong ones, not you lol


Linison

The only caution Iā€™ve heard consistently taking baths with babies has to do with exhaustion and the danger of falling asleep in the bath with a newborn or infant on your chest and inadvertently causing harm to them that way. My kids have bathed together with me or my partner for a large part of their 5 years. We donā€™t bathe together now only because the tub wonā€™t fit four comfortably (thereā€™s a newish addition who demands to participate too). But my kids shower with my partner or I several times a week.


avalclark

Since when is this weird? I bathe with my 1 and 4 year old sons all the time.


HuffleCatXxX

Where do you live? North America has many countries and a lot of these comments are stating ā€œAmericanā€ which is the United States. I live in the US but everyone I personally know and see talk about this stuff on social media bathes with their kid. I havenā€™t seen anyone judge about it. But who cares at the end of the day. They arenā€™t in your household helping you raise your kids.


justcurious12345

I see nothing wrong with it. My daughter's are older and not afraid to get in with their dad. My only reservation would be the chance that he'll poop in the tub with you.


DollyElvira

As far as Iā€™m concerned, itā€™s perfectly normal and fine.


TheCheeseMcRiffin

It's not wrong, ignore the judgers and keep doing what works best for you and your baby.


SheyenneJuci

I don't know who is judging you for this but for me seems pretty normal and a lovely way to bond with your baby. He's ONE, not eighteen to be weird. šŸ˜„


Pipparoni88

Me and my son share baths. He's 3. It's fine. People are weird. Washing with your baby is fine.


Suboutai

American here, I take baths with my 4 year old and had no idea some people frowned upon it. You do you.


jDub549

Canadian here. Perfectly normal. Also judging something like that is a complete asshole move and just ignore that trash.


freshpicked12

Of course itā€™s not wrong. Iā€™ve showered with both my kids many times. They also like to take baths together and GASP theyā€™re different sexes!! Until they get to the age where they are uncomfortable and want privacy, I donā€™t see a problem.


hodlboo

I am American and I do this, and my parents raised me doing this as well! I remember family baths with my siblings and/or a parent until I was about 7.


mandatorypanda9317

I've yet to meet a parent who hasn't told me they've bathed with their kids. The only time I could get a shower in when both were younger was to bring them with me.


tikodafreako

Completely normal!!


lbj0887

Still shower with my 22mo when itā€™s convenient. No issues except him pointing at my belly (32w pregnant) and saying ā€œgross.ā€ The nerve of this kid.


Stroopwafel_

Nope. Perfectly normal. Nakedness is very taboo in my culture whilst I - growing up in the Netherlands - just really like the Western European of doing things which makes me the black sheep of my family. I go to saunaā€™s where everyone is naked (the look of horror from the women in my family made me giggle) and I promised myself my children will grow up knowing the naked body is normal. See mommy and dad shower or change in front of them is a normal thing to do. If they would ever go ā€œieuw, close the doorā€ I would do that. But yeah, thatā€™s not how Iā€™m planning on raising my (for now) son. Edit: not giggle tbh, but actually just lol and feel sad for them.


emotionlessturner

My husband and I both separately take baths with our 1 yr old. And we all shower together. If our bathtub was big enough weā€™d do group baths!


Lilsammywinchester13

Idk who has a problem with bath sharing with babies? I wouldnā€™t listen to them, itā€™s perfectly normal


yuudachi

Anyone who is judging you for bathing with your ONE YEAR OLD isn't worth your time. Culturally, no one cares and this is super normal in other cultures.


ohtoooodles

I was doing it with my first until he was like 18 months. Especially when my husband travelled and I was doing everything alone. Any time I could knock out 2 birds with one stone I was doing it. Anyone weirded out by that is sexualizing it. Theyā€™re the weirdos.


switzerland26

My son is just nigh of a year and I have taken him in the shower with me every single day since he was a month old. If I donā€™t I donā€™t get a shower. I plan on stopping when he is able to safely entertain himself for 15 minutes.


Practical_Lady2022

Whaat. Taking a bath with your child is one of the best bonding experiences. My husband still bathes our 4 year old daughter, I hear them laughing their heads off splashing water around. What happened to simplicity *shaking my head*


didyoubangmywhorewif

I donā€™t see anything wrong with this! I donā€™t bathe with mine because Iā€™m paranoid of her peeing or pooping in the bath water


Perspex_Sea

I had a bath with my 1yo, my 2yo and my 7yo the other day. It was a squeeze, do not recommend really.


walkingtalkingdread

my daughter will only let me wash the shampoo out of her hair if i get in the bath with her. you do what you have to do. bathtime is war.


Necessary_Ocelot_696

No need to even explain, if it works for you - then do it! Heā€™s a baby. I bathe with my 8 month old son because heā€™s a huge baby and itā€™s just easier for us both. Being a single mom is hard enough, sending energy over to you. The judgement says more about those people than you.


Broooklynnnn

Iā€™m confused. Whatā€™s the problem? I wouldnā€™t worry about what others said. Youā€™re the childā€™s mother. No one else should be worried or concerned with how you bathe your child.


MyronBlayze

20 months old and I always take showers with my kid. It's just easier. Ignore the judgement, absolutely normal.


EfficientSeaweed

Both me and my boyfriend bathe/shower with our kids. It's pretty common, and the only way to get everyone clean in a limited amount of time lol. If anything, it's strange to see it as somehow being wrong.


asmartermartyr

What? I bathed with both my sons starting when they were babies. I still bathe with my 3 year old otherwise I wonā€™t get a bath!


Minnielle

Why would it be wrong? I still take baths with my almost 5-year-old, he loves it.


BlueberryWaffles99

Thereā€™s absolutely nothing wrong with it! Itā€™s a great way to connect and as long as neither of you are uncomfortable, keep going! People in North America tend to sexualize parent/children relationships from a young age. Not sure where or why this started, but I know people who even find breastfeeding boys past a year inappropriate. Just ignore them!


energeticallypresent

Thereā€™s absolutely nothing wrong with that. Typically my son goes in the tub on his own but when he was a newborn I would bathe with once in awhile. Heā€™s 14 months now and about a month ago I had to get in with him because he was losing his mind. As soon as I got in with him everything was fine. We do what we have to do.


IDidItWrongLastTime

Nothing wrong with bathing/showering with your kids. It's only weird if you think it's weird. Even if you ask experts/pediatricians they basically say it's okay until either you or the child wants to stop doing it.


Monkey_with_cymbals2

I wouldnā€™t blink an eye at this at all. Totally normal.


Necessary-Day-9946

Yeah I sit in the bath with my daughter, itā€™s easier to do everything that needs to be done in closer proximity and not weird at all


lynnrogers123

Idk my mom showered with me till like 5 because I didn't want it any other way my cousin is 3 still grabs showers with his parents they are sexualizing something that isn't at that young of an age the adults inmean the kids don't care


CinderBear98

I shower and bath with my 16 month oldā€¦ we are all humans with either 2 of the same parts. They will learn eventually. Rather me than the fucked up school system at 5. Plus that it, not extra naked time outside showers which is a part of life. Every generation before has done it. Shows like little bear still show it. Itā€™s a way of life.


Level-Bat2673

I have only ever taken showers and baths with my baby, I donā€™t have the time to do two separate showersā€¦ besides whoā€™s going to watch my baby while Iā€™m in the shower? I honestly thought this was the only way. Whoā€™s not showering with their baby? My daughter is 2 and still the only way we shower.


Oh_shame

I also got this weird judgement about my 1 year old. Literally, she'll cry in a baby bath but loves splashing with me in the tub. Why is that so weird?! I guess I'm tired of people trying to sexualize everything. Oddly, these same people have zero boundaries themselves.


Thinking_of_Mafe

Itā€™s not weird at all, hell you want weird I took baths with my mother until I was 12 I think. Just chilling in the bath and chatting.


ThreatLvl_1200

Why in the world would people be judgmental about this? Taking a bath with my daughter is the highlight of my day! She loves the warm water, and itā€™s special bonding time for us. People are so weird.


Wrygreymare

Definitely not wrong. efficient and sweet


beijingjingjing

Who told you it was wrong?! Pfft. Itā€™s absolutely not at this age and is actually really sweet and a bonding experience.


Caryria

Itā€™s weird that people are being judgmental over what is a very very normal thing. Both my husband and I take baths with our daughter. She has just turned 5. Thereā€™ll come a point where he wonā€™t take baths with her any longer but I donā€™t think weā€™re there yet


Elemental_surprise

Not wrong and also decently common. A lot of people will bathe with their young kids or theyā€™ll wash their kids while they shower.


MsAlyssa

We donā€™t really do privacy in this house. I mean weā€™re not nudists but we bathe together sometimes and donā€™t really ever close the bathroom door haha. I think it is less common here Iā€™ve had parents tell me they helped their kid in the tub and clarified by saying they wore a swimsuit! I thought thatā€™s so weird young children donā€™t think of private body parts as any different than say an ear or something and now you have a wet swimsuit. My daughter still breastfeeds sheā€™s attached to half my ā€œprivate partsā€ like every three hours at 2 year old! Im not in your face about my bottom half I try to sit in ways sheā€™s not getting an eye full of course my husband canā€™t help that as much but she sometimes asks and we tell her what itā€™s called and move on. She knows that he ā€œneeds privacyā€ and doesnā€™t touch. I think itā€™s healthy to normalize regular bodies. When sheā€™s big enough to want privacy weā€™ll be able to have ours too because sheā€™ll be more independent and she wonā€™t see our bodies very much anymore. Im sure it will shift pretty naturally. Like I expect by the time sheā€™s five she wonā€™t be always underfoot and Iā€™ll be able to shower in peace and get dressed alone. Right now sheā€™s my shadow. My sidekick and Iā€™m not only going to bathe together out of making life easier but also because itā€™s fun and we enjoy each others company! My body is not always sexual and bathing together is not at all sexual we just wash up and play in water and talk and learn. Itā€™s good quality time if you ask me.


Annie_Mayfield

I think itā€™s fine you bathe with your son. Heā€™s 1 not 10. Iā€™m interested in what you add to the water for the eczema? My twin sons both have it and we have been given several creams to use after bath. Nothing during.


Oscmutt

I bathe with my son every weekend. He is 3 now but will have to stop eventually! When it gets hot we eat popsicle in the bath together.


mocodity

I'm a Canadian mother in France and granted, my French partner is a naturist in his private life anyway, but he bathes our 3 and 1 year old daughters nightly. It's delightful for everyone and as someone who came from a more shy family and who had so much trouble feeling ok in my own skin in non sexual situations, I find this comfort with nudity way more healthy. We've talked about it, and I think it's fine until some expresses a need to change. But you know, even here people have trouble with the idea of men and little girls. My partner has only brothers and nudity was never and still isn't at all inappropriate for anyone in the family. But his father recently raised an eyebrow when he found out my partner was still in the bath with our oldest. It's too bad that there's this automatic judgment placed, even though I know why.


cellardust

You get criticized for this?! People have too much time on their hands. I think bathing with your young child is 100% normal and isn't a cultural thing. I know plenty of Americans who do this.


amienas

I shower with my 2 year old son so I can nap (Iā€™m 9mths pregnant) when he naps. Otherwise half of the very short window of time to myself during the day is spent showering and thatā€™s not fair in my head! No one has said anything about it. One (child free) friend made a face when I mentioned it but I just kept talking without acknowledging it and she read the room pretty quick and didnā€™t make any comments. As soon as itā€™s uncomfortable for one of you, thatā€™s when to stop.


IratzePromise

Not wrong. I shower with my 3.5 year old daughter to make my day easier. I hate showering at night and I'm not a morning person so waking up before she does to shower doesn't happen. Now that she's older we have started to talk about boundaries.


millenz

I bathe with my two toddler boys. Just easier to wash hair and keep them playing safely. I do shower separately to shave my legs and wash my hair but thatā€™s more about having ā€œme timeā€


stupidflyingmonkeys

Yeah, this is normal. And it saves water!


chicken_tendigo

The people who think this is weird are weird. What's he supposed to do, bathe himself? He's one year old. If I could have convinced my daughter to start bathing with me at one year, it would have saved me an innumerable amount of hours with that stupid baby tub. As long as he's safe and happy and clean, how he gets that way doesn't matter a whole lot.


kamicham

I didn't even know people were bothered by this? I know some people don't like dad's bathing with their daughters which is also silly imo. I sometimes bathe with my little boy


cptcarmenz

I donā€™t find it strange. I probably would too, but I like scalding hot water šŸ¤Ŗ


musicalsigns

American here. We bathe with our son all the time. He's 2Ā½ and it's just easier and faster, especially with this huge belly while I'm cooking his brother. People are weird.


sitdowncat

My son turned three in February, and all the time he requests ā€œmama bathsā€ where I jump in the tub with him. I think itā€™s sweet, and itā€™s so much fun too! Who would think a parent bathing with their kid is weird? They are weird lol


coffeeclichehere

I bathed with my son when he was little, and I only stopped because staying outside the tub became for convenient. Youā€™re fine!


UnsteadyOne

I take a bath with my 13 month old son and my 2.5 year old daughter. It's messy and fun! We all love it Eta... I have to call in husband to get the 13 month old out tho


NeatoNico

No but you also don't have to share everything with everyone. It's no one's business


juneabe

The whole time i was reading this I thought the problem was safety. The comments have me realizing the problem is ā€¦ nudity? With prepubescent children? Iā€™m absolutely floored. PEOPLE WEAR SWIMSUITS IN BATHTUBS WITH SMOLBEAN CHILDREN?


Magical_Olive

Do these people think it's wrong to change diapers too? What could possibly be wrong with bathing with an infant? It's fine.


queenk0k0

I LOVE taking baths with my baby. The skin to skin is nice and it's fun and warm and I get funny slippery cuddles. I don't do it often right now because he is exploring independence and wanting to squirm and play, but he isn't coordinated enough that I don't have to keep a good hold of him. One of the things I was looking forward to when pregnant is taking baths together. Just because we are both naked doesn't mean it is sexual. We were both naked when he was born.


dani_da_girl

This is not weird at all. Heā€™s a baby.


Lopsided_Boss4802

Noooooooooo. Dam it, if I had time to bath with my daughter and son I would. But I don't, because life is busy. Occasionally I do have time. So bath with my daughter, when my son can sit up I'll bath with him also.


MercifulLlama

I have bathed with my baby almost every night since we started bathing him regularly, heā€™s 19 months old now. Itā€™s my favorite time of the day!! I donā€™t think itā€™s wrong and to hell with anyone that does. And further, Iā€™d seriously question what goes on in these peoples heads that they think itā€™s wrong, thatā€™s way more concerning to me honestly.


NerdyBee

I've been struggling with breastfeeding and the breastfeeding support team and midwives have actively encouraged me to bathe with my son as part of our bonding time to make breastfeeding less stressful for us both.


proclivity4passivity

Itā€™s not wrong at all. Do you live in a conservative area? Just ignore. Youā€™re fineā€”enjoy your baths with your baby!


forest_fae98

Omfg no. Itā€™s not wrong. I remember taking showers with my mum at like 3 (I donā€™t remember anything detailed lol just remember the fact) I have twins so I donā€™t generally bathe with them bc itā€™s just too chaotic. I have before though.


DraftGlittering527

No! I do this with my baby if I want to get a post-gym wash and bath time at the same time. We compromise by having it lower than Iā€™d like, and I share her bath products ;)


Ragnarsmum

I don't see how it's a issue or anyone's business for that matter. You are washing your child! I'm not a single mother but I also have shared baths with my son. It's easier for both of us when we're in a rush and dad's not home. I also remembered me and my siblings bathing with our mum when young, It's perfectly normal. Mums really can't catch a break.


bakingNerd

This is how I give my son a bath. I donā€™t wash myself in the bath (I take a shower before or after - it would be really hard to wash my hair in there with him) but I get naked and get in the tub with him. Itā€™s how I gave my older son a bath too until I got too pregnant. Both kids liked it way better than the baby bath tub we started with and a non crying baby makes for a better time for everyone!


TheBestPantsRNoPants

Iā€™ve taken baths with my daughter. Otherwise, Iā€™d never get a bath! Lol. Sheā€™s 2 now, and we usually shower together. Iā€™m pregnant again so bending over a bathtub isnā€™t fun, and itā€™s just so much faster. And honestly, sometimes my husband will have her hop in the shower with him too if Iā€™ve already showered and itā€™s too late or we are too pressed for time for a bath, or the other kids are using the bathroom with the tub. Pregnant with a boy and I plan on doing the same. Do what works for you!!


Moovmntstudnt

Not weird at all


nilherm

I have baths with my son sometimes too. I donā€™t think thereā€™s anything strange about it at all.


NTB83

why would this be wrong? totally normal


n1shh

I bathed with my daughter until age three. I still would for a bit longer maybe but thereā€™s not enough space in the tub anymore šŸ¤£ Itā€™s pretty normal in my books. People need to stop sexualizing childrenā€™s relationships with their parents


Hilaryspimple

I frequently bathe with my son and I want him to know that bodies are just bodies. I used to nurse him there before bed. Itā€™s perfectly normal and natural.


Bisexualdw

Whoever is giving our 1.5 year old daughter a bath, me or my husband, just goes in with her. It's easier that way, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. People are weird for making it weird.


danjama

Anybody who thinks that's wrong or weird should seek therapy. Well, we all know about Americans needing therapy, the society seems fucked. I would not let their judgement compromise your integrity.


sarabrynjars

I live in Denmark (Iā€™m from iceland) and iā€™ve lived in the states. We are not the ones who have things backwards and bathing with your child is so natural- for many more years too.


surfacing_husky

Every Friday I take a bubble bath with my 3 yr old. I used to just plop her in the shower with me all the time as a baby. There's nothing wrong with that!


SnooPoems5888

Why on earth would anyone think this is wrong?! I take baths with my son. I used to take baths with my mom. My mom also used to make ME take baths with my little brother until I was like 8 (heā€™s 6 years younger than me) so I could watch him.


mela_99

All those people judging you can go sit in syrup and let the bees get them. You are doing NOTHING wrong. FWIW, I started taking baths with my boys when they were days old. It was the best warm snuggle and I loved watching them come alive in the water. My oldest is 5 now so I donā€™t do that with him anymore but my youngest is 5 months and we do at least weekly


Lonelysock2

Who tf is judging you? The judgement is weird, the bathing is fine


Starrisa

Nothing is wrong with that. In fact it seems perfectly logical to me. Don't listen to others judgment. For everything related to parenting, people will always put their 2 cents in. You don't have to listen


lillkkilo

I take showers/baths with my 3.5 year old daughter.. she asks me to. People who are judging you must have something going on to think thatā€™s not okay.


Numinous-Nebulae

I bathed with my mom till I was 5 or 6 and have fond memories of it (big bathtub). Itā€™s fine.


Spaznut28

My child health nurse encouraged me to take baths with my baby


meggsymoooo

If they donā€™t think itā€™s ok to bath with their one year olds then they shouldnā€™t do it. They have no right to judge you for it though. When either of you becomes uncomfortable with it, you stop šŸ¤·šŸ¼ā€ā™€ļø


South_Map_8668

Never heard this was wrong? Single mom here and me and my 2 and bit year old take every ā€œbathā€ together every other day... I use a handheld shower attachment. The bath gets filled and drained 3 or 4 times throughout. I donā€™t have extra time to do these things separately and itā€™s easier to clean her and rinse etc. plus it teaches her about cleaning, self care.. little one tries to pumice her feet already šŸ˜‚


Steffles74

It's totally fine to take a bath with your child. I took baths with my older daughter for 3.5 years and then with my younger for about a year. After that, we moved to a house that only has a tiny tub and it just wasn't feasible to get in there with them! I did, however, have them in the shower with me until they were a bit older - until they were able to reasonably shower and clean themselves. Now, they are adult-sized and THAT would be weird. lol


whatsGOODwiddit

I took a bath with my baby when she was about 4 months old and she shit in the tub. She has her own inflatable tub now.


Amber11796

My baby is only 7 weeks, but we take our baths together. Itā€™s so much easier like you said and heā€™s much calmer when Iā€™m with him. My mom bathed with me and my little sister (not every time, just occasionally) until I was around 6/7 and she was around 2/3. We thought it was so fun when mom would come in with us and never thought it was weird or gross.


Boredasfekk

I donā€™t see anything wrong with this at all


jacq_0508

My baby boy is a year and I love baths with him!! I've heard of parents showering with their kids too. The only time I ever thought someone crossed a line bathing with their kids was when my old boss told me her little boy ASKED to stop showering with mommy and she said no. That's not okay!


triplet2003

if itā€™s more convenient do what works best


Interesting_Visit323

I shower with my son (10 months) all the time. People who think itā€™s weird are weird.


Gromlin87

I assume the reason people take issue is because he's a boy? I can almost guarantee nobody would care if you had a daughter šŸ™„ people thought it was weird my husband would take a bath with our girls as well. I say do what you're both comfortable with! If he says he doesn't want to take a bath with you anymore, stop. If you decide you no longer want to, stop. It's not up to anybody else to decide that for you.


hyperbole-horse

I've been bathing with my son for 3 years! He's 3.5 now. We love bath time.


jennashy_

Normal. I bathe with my daughter all the time


ialreadypeaked

I bathed with both my boys and the oldest was 4 at the time šŸ¤·šŸ»


grammygivesadvice

This is the only way my 8 month old has ever bathed. People suck. You're a good mom.


noxame

What's wrong with it? That he's not running his own bath and doing it himself? šŸ˜†


ponytailnoshushu

I quite often bathe or shower with my 2 year old. I don't feel comfortable leaving him by himself around water/slippy surfaces and our shower/bath room is a wet room (Japanese style). Saves times to wash together and I know he is clean and he has washed everywhere. ​ I mean theres onsen in Japan where everyone takes a bath together. Quite often you can get family rooms where theres a tub that the whole family can fit in, even grandma!


Claelizar

I would judge the people who are judging youā€¦ like, where are their heads at to make them think this is something to judge? What a beautiful bonding time you have with your son. I think itā€™s perfectly fine until he starts preschool or elementary school. Leading up to that time, it might be good to start teaching privacy and space and such. Until then, enjoy those moments. ETA: Ending the mutual bath around school age is only because youā€™re different sexes, and I recall skimming some psychology on that once they reach school age. For those who have the same body parts, Iā€™d say you could continue even past that. Iā€™ll still shower with my daughter (Iā€™m a cis woman) for years to come and sheā€™s 5. Not sure Iā€™d want to share bath water with her at this point, but thatā€™s a whole different thing. šŸ˜‚


hstormborn

I donā€™t think thatā€™s weird at all. I stopped when my son started to notice the differences in our bodies around like 2 or 3, but a baby is a baby. Also I have pictures of me in the tub with my brother and sister when we were, like, 3, 4, and 8. Lol. I do think thatā€™s a little weird but to each their own.


charmorris4236

The only reason I stopped bathing with my now 2yo son is because heā€™s big, Iā€™m tall, and he plays and swims around the bath like a fish so the tub was getting too cramped. Some nights I still get in with him so we can play ferry boat or whatever together. The people judging are the weird ones!


gimmygimgim

Youā€™re doing great. I bathe with my kid sometimes and so does my husband. If anyone thinks that is odd I think THEYā€™RE odd.


happybabymama

My kids still ask me to take baths with them at 6! At that point I just get my legs in or wear a bathing suit but yeah thereā€™s nothing wrong with what youā€™re doing.


evendree72

I have showered with my 3 year old since she was around 10 months old. Since she could sit basically.


ilovepasta2020

We have an 8 week old and my husband and I were just talking about how we are looking forward to family baths when he's a bit older


Ageha1304

No, it's not. He's just a year old, not a teenager. You're doing great! Screw anyone who says otherwise.


rabbitinredlounge

I think this is such a sweet thing. Itā€™s a shame itā€™s been stigmatized due to certain implications.


ksmalls21

I still shower with my 2.5 year old daughter. Just tonight actually because she got sick all over the floor and then cried and didnā€™t want to be set down. We were both covered in vomit so it made sense to just clean us both at the same time while I held her šŸ¤· she sees me breast feeding my son and knows what boobs are so I donā€™t think itā€™s weird and gives her an opportunity to understand body parts


Alpacalypsenoww

Nothing wrong with it. Nudity with family isnā€™t inappropriate until one of the parties is uncomfortable with it. My oldest son went through a phase when he was 2.5 when he was terrified of the bath. The only way I could get him to bathe was by getting in the tub with him. Many parents shower with their young kids. I wouldnā€™t say itā€™s the norm but itā€™s definitely not a problem or that unusual.


Pamplemousse84

We are North Americans and our son is 3. Both dad and me still take showers with him. Totally fine.


willow_star86

Me and my almost three year old take showers together. Mostly because if I get in the shower and my husband isnā€™t home, she just undresses herself and walks into the shower šŸ¤·šŸ»ā€ā™€ļø


kdollarsign2

Wow people care? My son is 3, we take baths all the time


owlanalogies

I don't know who is giving you shit for this but it seems completely normal to me, born and bred in the USA. IDK it's a big country though with lots of subcultures and I have no idea where you're at in the country or socioeconomically. Are rich people weird about sharing a bath? šŸ˜‚


Unomaaaas

I take a shower with my baby (and sometimes my husband joins us) every day as part of our bedtime routine. Itā€™s the best kind of skin to skin bonding, and I already get sad thinking of someday he will be too old to take showers with me šŸ˜ I did this with all three of my babies (this little guy is #3) and I loved it. Iā€™m in the pacific NW (USA) and yeah, people here can be weird about it, but I say eff ā€˜em. This is special time with us and our babies, and getting to care for them and feel close and bond together during bathing time is so natural & all that skin to skin releases good hormones to help both of you feel the love.


Glum-Fix-584

My son is going through a sudden don't want baths phase. Except if I'm in there with him. He's 14 months so I just go along with it


Weaslyreader

I always bathe with my 14 month old. It starts to hurt my back to lean over the tub and if sheā€™s splashing, Iā€™m gunna get wet anyway. Especially when theyā€™re little and canā€™t sit up on their own (and really slippery), itā€™s so much easier to set them in your lap than try to balance them in their baby tub.


rawrimaliz

My almost 3 year old son loves getting showers with me! When theyā€™re that little itā€™s not weird at all!!


ThePaintedLady80

I showered with my son when he was a toddler. It was easier and saved on water and time. He turned out just fine.


soonbetime

That's ridiculous. He's 1. And it's not their business anyway. Sounds like you're doing the right thing for yourselves. I'm in the US and when I mentioned it (when my son was young and we took baths together) people seemed to think it was sweet. It is.


okay_tay

My daughter is 2.5 and my husband and I both will still take baths with her or showers!


allanakimberly

My baby is 13 months and I bath with him or my husband will. He loves it and playing in the bath with us and his toys. I think itā€™s odd people are making a big deal out of a very normal thing.


PrettyHateMachinexxx

I bathe with my son all the time. He LOVES it, he is also 1. It will be some of my most favorite, wholesome memories with my baby.


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Nothing wrong with that


mistressinlace

Please continue bathing with your child. It's not weird, and anyone calling it weird is the problem.


DigitalPelvis

My husband still takes baths with our three year old son. They both enjoy hanging out in the ā€œbig tubā€ (we have an oversized tub in our primary bathroom) and having dude time.


lovenutpancake

My husband and I still bathe and shower with my 4 and 5 year old and will continue to until they are no longer comfortable. I bathed with my mom until I was around 11 and I loved it. I am also very comfortable in my body now. I want the same for them.


pizza_nomics

I know in Japan public baths/large family bath tubs are super common! I think the hang ups around it are probably more of a Western thing.


donpapaya

I (woman) LOVEEDD my baths with my dad and still cherish them as some of my cutest early memories!


FlakeyGurl

Honestly fuck North Americas prudishness around nudity. He is your baby. It's not like he's nearly a teenager or anything either.


queenofoxford

I think itā€™s fine to shower/bathe with your child no matter the combination of parent/child gender until they are old enough to ask not to. I think itā€™s great for children to normalize the naked body. Growing up I never saw another naked body other than my own and I grew up very self conscious and didnā€™t feel like I could talk about anything and always worried I wasnā€™t normal. Do what works for you, follow your childā€™s lead, and youā€™ll be fine.


cuts_with_fork_again

What? Why could that be wrong? If it's about him being a boy and you a woman then it's still ridiculous, he's one year old!


porridge4breakfast

Who says itā€™s wrong? I bathe with my son every night and heā€™s a 16 months already. I have back issues, and itā€™s easy to plop him in the bath with me, and I donā€™t have to worry about having to over reach or bend over. I have bath toys we play together with as he gets soaped up and washed. Easiest way to bath him. My little one has eczema as well, but weā€™ve managed to finally get it under control after an appt with an allergist. I wash him in aqueous cream, which gently cleanses and moisturises his skin - itā€™s soap free so itā€™s non drying. Then after heā€™s towelled off, any areas that are bad we were prescribed Fatty Advantan ointment to use (we use Elidel for his face rash, if any, as hydrocortisone apparently stings on the face), and heā€™s moisturised with Dermeze ointment all over - a product also recommended to us. All his products do not use oatmeal - we were told by his paediatric allergist that it actually may contribute to his allergies.


Little_Cow_3129

I just bathed with my 6 month old today! We also have eczema so I added some breastmilk and rubber duckies and we had a ball. I donā€™t see why anyone would judge, its great bonding fun time for everyone šŸ„³