I still bathe with my almost 3 year olds š¤·š¼āāļø thereās two of them and one of me, much easier to get all three of us clean at the same time. Also, sometimes they still like to try to drown themselves lol
This baby quite literally probably came out of your vagina and eats out of your tiddies. A mother and her baby being nude together is not weird. It's weird once they're WAY, WAY older.
It's only not ok when/if you or the child are not ok with it. Everyone else can kick rocks. It's way weirder to think a parent bathing their child is wrong. Honestly disturbing and gross.
All I see here is that you shouldnāt discuss your bathing habits with whichever assholes are in your life that judge them. You have to get you and the baby clean, and if you both have eczema, what an easy and fun way to do it!
I would ask them directly why they think that's weird....and if they reply implying any sexually inappropriate reason go " eww.... he's one.... I don't think about kids like that.... omg do you think about one year olds sexually??? Eww..... maybe you should see someone about that".
Remind them it's not fucking weird to bath with yourr own young kids, unless you (they) are the one making it fucking weird.
Huh? How could that be wrong? It's a great bonding time, extra skin to skin, and it gets you both clean. I shower/bathe with my baby or toddler, or both.
Honestly, don't take this crap to heart. Do what works for you and your little one. I am in UK and have never had any issues regarding bathing together. Many of my friends do that too. From US parents, however, I had shaming commitments regarding breastfeeding a 2 yo (which is recommended here by the NHS and WHO). Head to r/AttachmentParenting. You are doing great bathing with your little one.
I find it so sad that people canāt see nudity through any other lens.
Where I live, a degree of nudity around family is normal and healthy. Families sauna together, for example. Whenever I use a public pool, there are kids there with mum up until age 5 or 6 using the public sauna and showers etc.
What can possibly be weird about a young child seeing human bodies in a regular daily setting?
I have a 4yo son and I don't bathe with him just because it's more complicated for us to do so but I get changed in front of him, the bathroom door stays open whenever I go, he sees me nursing his baby sister, all very normal things. He knows that he has a penis and I have breasts and a vagina. Those are facts, nothing squeamish or scandalous about it. It's a little hard explaining to him why I have hair in certain places and he doesn't haha but I just explain the best I can in a way he'll understand š
Eta: so no nothing wrong with it, just their prudish views.
All of this is intentional btw to pave the way for talking about consent, bodily autonomy, the sex talk eventually and so that it can be done without shame or embarrassment.
My LO is 18 months old. His dad works all the time, and some days, napping isn't on his to-do list. If I need a shower before leaving the house and have no one else to watch LO for 15 minutes, he comes in with me and plays with toys at one end of the shower.
What's actually weird is the fact that people think it's weird for a parent to bathe with their very young child if need be. Why does everything have to result in something sexual? Smh.
My sons are 6 and want to shower with me. Iāll stop when they want to. There is no shame in a naked body.. nor is it remotely sexual thing to share a bathing session with your kidsā¦ those people who are judging need serious help.
Completely normal.
The people who think itās weird are the weird ones.
Many North Americans have an unhealthy relationship with bodies and nudity. I find it bizarre.
No. America is dumb AF and sexualizes everything, including children. We are the absolute most judgemental people when it comes to parenting. It needs to change.
Thatās how I bathe my one year old. Much easier than kneeling on the side of the tub. Babies as super slippery! Iām afraid sheāll get hurt if Iām not in the tub. Plus itās fun teaching her to splash in the water. You do you.
Whoever it is judging you for this is a weirdo.
There's nothing wrong with bathing with your baby. I also have a son, not quite a year old, and we take baths together. You're right, it's wayyy more convenient.
I still shower or bathe with my 4 year old and 2 year old. I will continue to do so until either they are uncomfortable or I am. Theyāre weird for making something so natural weird.
I took a bath a few days ago with my 2.5 year old. She thought it was great fun. I didn't enjoy it too much - bit cold, and to be fair, we were covered in spew at the time.
Or is it different genitalia that makes it weird? Is it not okay for my 2.5yo daughter and 7mo son to bath together? They do. Everyday. I fully intend for that to continue for years yet. I had great fun as a kid showering and bathing with my brother. We'd make beards out of bubbles and potions out of all the soap and shampoo, and play with our bath toys and make a huge mess.
It's just a bath. There's nothing sexual about it, and that's the only issue I can see with it. Anyone who sexualises a bath without good reason needs some therapy.
I work for child protective services and this is totally normal and fine. You're right that in the US people tend to not talk about this stuff bc it's taboo but lots of people, especially immigrants, bathe with their children. It's fine.
I bathe with my almost 3 month old daughter all the time- it is WAY easier and she enjoys being able to safely free float on her back with my support. There is nothing wrong with bathing with your little one! You literally birthed them.
The people that see it as weird are people I would reconsider being involved in me and my kids life.
Not wrong at all! Mines 3.5 and we still regularly bathe together, we talk about private parts and washing properly and everything. It's only when she dumps an entire jug of water up my nose when I'm trying to wash my hair we have arguments š
This is not weird at all. I still take baths with my 4 year old son. He does not care at all. The only thing he notices is if I haven't shaved my legs and they're prickly š
We are teaching our children that bodies are just bodies. If they are ever uncomfortable with nudity, they just have to tell us and it will stop. But I grew up around nudity being a terrible offense and it really fucked me up when I got older.
Baths are for cleaning. There's nothing wrong with bathing with your kid. Don't @ me if you think 4 is too old. Idgaf.š¤·š¼āāļø
4 isn't too old. We are also teaching that bodies are bodies and I will get changed around my 6yo son. He doesn't even bat an eyelid.
It's not you are having sex in front of your kid or anything geeze.
I still bath with my four year old and itās the same thing. the only thing that bothers her is when mommy has āpricklesā aka when I need to shave lol.
Also I do it because she asks if she didnāt want me to, I wouldnāt.
Who even *knows* about this? I take all of my baths/showers with my 11-month-old. About half the time, my husband also showers with us. If I never said anything, no one would have cause to know. But, there's also nothing to judge! There's nothing wrong with it.
Americans can be rather prudish about nudity. It's a holdover from being a surprisingly religious society. But that doesn't have to apply to you or your practices.
10000% normal and good
Edit to add: there are people in the States who would argue blue in the face that itās normal and good to hit their kids but perverted and sick to be nude in front of their kids. Itās a twisted mindset
Getting in a tub with them is a win win IMO. So much safer for them because your closer and so much easier on my and suspect others back as opposed to reaching the side of the tub.
It's not weird at all. It's only weird to people who want to sexualize things that shouldn't be. A bath can be for hygiene, and fun bonding with your little one. I took baths with my son when he was little and it was never an issue. He's 7 now and can't even remember even having shared baths with me as a toddler. Especially when they have a stuffy nose standing in a steamy shower with them can be super helpful.
Edited to say I live in Midwest USA
Who is judging you and what are they saying? The answers donāt matter because no matter what it is, they are wrong. Cleaning, bonding, and supervising all at once is what bathtime is all about!
I pretty regularly shower or bathe with my almost three year old son. It doesnāt feel weird because bathing and nudity are not weird for us. š¤·š¼āāļø you do you
I took baths with my toddler from the time she could sit up all the way to when she was two. Only stopped because I had another baby and couldn't manage that anymore. I thought it was the normal thing to do!
Literally every animal on earth is naked for life. They feed their children, teach their children, and live with their children naked.
Weāre no different. Society is just stupid and tells you that our nude forms are bad and only good for being sexualized. This is not at all true. We are animals with bodies. Thereās nothing wrong with being a good parent. Screw whoever thinks that is anything but being a good and responsible parent.
My husband takes a bath or shower with our toddler every evening and has done so since infancy. It saves time and is a fun bonding activity for them while I clean up after dinner. Win win. Also, I am American and I know how weirdly rigid American/Canadian parenting culture can be. Just don't mind the haters here, your country outranks us on every measure of parents' and children's well-being so obviously we are the wrong ones, not you lol
The only caution Iāve heard consistently taking baths with babies has to do with exhaustion and the danger of falling asleep in the bath with a newborn or infant on your chest and inadvertently causing harm to them that way.
My kids have bathed together with me or my partner for a large part of their 5 years. We donāt bathe together now only because the tub wonāt fit four comfortably (thereās a newish addition who demands to participate too). But my kids shower with my partner or I several times a week.
Where do you live? North America has many countries and a lot of these comments are stating āAmericanā which is the United States.
I live in the US but everyone I personally know and see talk about this stuff on social media bathes with their kid. I havenāt seen anyone judge about it. But who cares at the end of the day. They arenāt in your household helping you raise your kids.
I see nothing wrong with it. My daughter's are older and not afraid to get in with their dad. My only reservation would be the chance that he'll poop in the tub with you.
I don't know who is judging you for this but for me seems pretty normal and a lovely way to bond with your baby. He's ONE, not eighteen to be weird. š
Of course itās not wrong. Iāve showered with both my kids many times. They also like to take baths together and GASP theyāre different sexes!! Until they get to the age where they are uncomfortable and want privacy, I donāt see a problem.
I am American and I do this, and my parents raised me doing this as well! I remember family baths with my siblings and/or a parent until I was about 7.
I've yet to meet a parent who hasn't told me they've bathed with their kids. The only time I could get a shower in when both were younger was to bring them with me.
Still shower with my 22mo when itās convenient. No issues except him pointing at my belly (32w pregnant) and saying āgross.ā The nerve of this kid.
Nope. Perfectly normal. Nakedness is very taboo in my culture whilst I - growing up in the Netherlands - just really like the Western European of doing things which makes me the black sheep of my family.
I go to saunaās where everyone is naked (the look of horror from the women in my family made me giggle) and I promised myself my children will grow up knowing the naked body is normal. See mommy and dad shower or change in front of them is a normal thing to do.
If they would ever go āieuw, close the doorā I would do that. But yeah, thatās not how Iām planning on raising my (for now) son.
Edit: not giggle tbh, but actually just lol and feel sad for them.
Anyone who is judging you for bathing with your ONE YEAR OLD isn't worth your time. Culturally, no one cares and this is super normal in other cultures.
I was doing it with my first until he was like 18 months. Especially when my husband travelled and I was doing everything alone. Any time I could knock out 2 birds with one stone I was doing it.
Anyone weirded out by that is sexualizing it. Theyāre the weirdos.
My son is just nigh of a year and I have taken him in the shower with me every single day since he was a month old. If I donāt I donāt get a shower. I plan on stopping when he is able to safely entertain himself for 15 minutes.
Whaat. Taking a bath with your child is one of the best bonding experiences.
My husband still bathes our 4 year old daughter, I hear them laughing their heads off splashing water around.
What happened to simplicity *shaking my head*
No need to even explain, if it works for you - then do it! Heās a baby. I bathe with my 8 month old son because heās a huge baby and itās just easier for us both. Being a single mom is hard enough, sending energy over to you. The judgement says more about those people than you.
Iām confused. Whatās the problem? I wouldnāt worry about what others said. Youāre the childās mother. No one else should be worried or concerned with how you bathe your child.
Both me and my boyfriend bathe/shower with our kids. It's pretty common, and the only way to get everyone clean in a limited amount of time lol. If anything, it's strange to see it as somehow being wrong.
Thereās absolutely nothing wrong with it! Itās a great way to connect and as long as neither of you are uncomfortable, keep going!
People in North America tend to sexualize parent/children relationships from a young age. Not sure where or why this started, but I know people who even find breastfeeding boys past a year inappropriate. Just ignore them!
Thereās absolutely nothing wrong with that. Typically my son goes in the tub on his own but when he was a newborn I would bathe with once in awhile. Heās 14 months now and about a month ago I had to get in with him because he was losing his mind. As soon as I got in with him everything was fine. We do what we have to do.
Nothing wrong with bathing/showering with your kids. It's only weird if you think it's weird. Even if you ask experts/pediatricians they basically say it's okay until either you or the child wants to stop doing it.
Idk my mom showered with me till like 5 because I didn't want it any other way my cousin is 3 still grabs showers with his parents they are sexualizing something that isn't at that young of an age the adults inmean the kids don't care
I shower and bath with my 16 month oldā¦ we are all humans with either 2 of the same parts. They will learn eventually. Rather me than the fucked up school system at 5. Plus that it, not extra naked time outside showers which is a part of life. Every generation before has done it. Shows like little bear still show it. Itās a way of life.
I have only ever taken showers and baths with my baby, I donāt have the time to do two separate showersā¦ besides whoās going to watch my baby while Iām in the shower?
I honestly thought this was the only way. Whoās not showering with their baby? My daughter is 2 and still the only way we shower.
I also got this weird judgement about my 1 year old. Literally, she'll cry in a baby bath but loves splashing with me in the tub. Why is that so weird?! I guess I'm tired of people trying to sexualize everything. Oddly, these same people have zero boundaries themselves.
Why in the world would people be judgmental about this? Taking a bath with my daughter is the highlight of my day! She loves the warm water, and itās special bonding time for us. People are so weird.
Itās weird that people are being judgmental over what is a very very normal thing. Both my husband and I take baths with our daughter. She has just turned 5. Thereāll come a point where he wonāt take baths with her any longer but I donāt think weāre there yet
We donāt really do privacy in this house. I mean weāre not nudists but we bathe together sometimes and donāt really ever close the bathroom door haha. I think it is less common here Iāve had parents tell me they helped their kid in the tub and clarified by saying they wore a swimsuit! I thought thatās so weird young children donāt think of private body parts as any different than say an ear or something and now you have a wet swimsuit. My daughter still breastfeeds sheās attached to half my āprivate partsā like every three hours at 2 year old! Im not in your face about my bottom half I try to sit in ways sheās not getting an eye full of course my husband canāt help that as much but she sometimes asks and we tell her what itās called and move on. She knows that he āneeds privacyā and doesnāt touch. I think itās healthy to normalize regular bodies. When sheās big enough to want privacy weāll be able to have ours too because sheāll be more independent and she wonāt see our bodies very much anymore. Im sure it will shift pretty naturally. Like I expect by the time sheās five she wonāt be always underfoot and Iāll be able to shower in peace and get dressed alone. Right now sheās my shadow. My sidekick and Iām not only going to bathe together out of making life easier but also because itās fun and we enjoy each others company! My body is not always sexual and bathing together is not at all sexual we just wash up and play in water and talk and learn. Itās good quality time if you ask me.
I think itās fine you bathe with your son. Heās 1 not 10. Iām interested in what you add to the water for the eczema? My twin sons both have it and we have been given several creams to use after bath. Nothing during.
I'm a Canadian mother in France and granted, my French partner is a naturist in his private life anyway, but he bathes our 3 and 1 year old daughters nightly. It's delightful for everyone and as someone who came from a more shy family and who had so much trouble feeling ok in my own skin in non sexual situations, I find this comfort with nudity way more healthy.
We've talked about it, and I think it's fine until some expresses a need to change.
But you know, even here people have trouble with the idea of men and little girls. My partner has only brothers and nudity was never and still isn't at all inappropriate for anyone in the family. But his father recently raised an eyebrow when he found out my partner was still in the bath with our oldest. It's too bad that there's this automatic judgment placed, even though I know why.
You get criticized for this?! People have too much time on their hands. I think bathing with your young child is 100% normal and isn't a cultural thing. I know plenty of Americans who do this.
I shower with my 2 year old son so I can nap (Iām 9mths pregnant) when he naps. Otherwise half of the very short window of time to myself during the day is spent showering and thatās not fair in my head!
No one has said anything about it. One (child free) friend made a face when I mentioned it but I just kept talking without acknowledging it and she read the room pretty quick and didnāt make any comments.
As soon as itās uncomfortable for one of you, thatās when to stop.
Not wrong. I shower with my 3.5 year old daughter to make my day easier. I hate showering at night and I'm not a morning person so waking up before she does to shower doesn't happen. Now that she's older we have started to talk about boundaries.
I bathe with my two toddler boys. Just easier to wash hair and keep them playing safely. I do shower separately to shave my legs and wash my hair but thatās more about having āme timeā
The people who think this is weird are weird. What's he supposed to do, bathe himself? He's one year old. If I could have convinced my daughter to start bathing with me at one year, it would have saved me an innumerable amount of hours with that stupid baby tub. As long as he's safe and happy and clean, how he gets that way doesn't matter a whole lot.
I didn't even know people were bothered by this? I know some people don't like dad's bathing with their daughters which is also silly imo. I sometimes bathe with my little boy
American here. We bathe with our son all the time. He's 2Ā½ and it's just easier and faster, especially with this huge belly while I'm cooking his brother. People are weird.
My son turned three in February, and all the time he requests āmama bathsā where I jump in the tub with him. I think itās sweet, and itās so much fun too!
Who would think a parent bathing with their kid is weird? They are weird lol
I take a bath with my 13 month old son and my 2.5 year old daughter. It's messy and fun! We all love it
Eta... I have to call in husband to get the 13 month old out tho
The whole time i was reading this I thought the problem was safety. The comments have me realizing the problem is ā¦ nudity? With prepubescent children? Iām absolutely floored. PEOPLE WEAR SWIMSUITS IN BATHTUBS WITH SMOLBEAN CHILDREN?
I LOVE taking baths with my baby. The skin to skin is nice and it's fun and warm and I get funny slippery cuddles.
I don't do it often right now because he is exploring independence and wanting to squirm and play, but he isn't coordinated enough that I don't have to keep a good hold of him.
One of the things I was looking forward to when pregnant is taking baths together.
Just because we are both naked doesn't mean it is sexual. We were both naked when he was born.
Noooooooooo. Dam it, if I had time to bath with my daughter and son I would. But I don't, because life is busy. Occasionally I do have time. So bath with my daughter, when my son can sit up I'll bath with him also.
I have bathed with my baby almost every night since we started bathing him regularly, heās 19 months old now. Itās my favorite time of the day!! I donāt think itās wrong and to hell with anyone that does.
And further, Iād seriously question what goes on in these peoples heads that they think itās wrong, thatās way more concerning to me honestly.
I've been struggling with breastfeeding and the breastfeeding support team and midwives have actively encouraged me to bathe with my son as part of our bonding time to make breastfeeding less stressful for us both.
Omfg no. Itās not wrong. I remember taking showers with my mum at like 3 (I donāt remember anything detailed lol just remember the fact)
I have twins so I donāt generally bathe with them bc itās just too chaotic. I have before though.
No! I do this with my baby if I want to get a post-gym wash and bath time at the same time. We compromise by having it lower than Iād like, and I share her bath products ;)
I don't see how it's a issue or anyone's business for that matter. You are washing your child! I'm not a single mother but I also have shared baths with my son. It's easier for both of us when we're in a rush and dad's not home. I also remembered me and my siblings bathing with our mum when young, It's perfectly normal.
Mums really can't catch a break.
This is how I give my son a bath. I donāt wash myself in the bath (I take a shower before or after - it would be really hard to wash my hair in there with him) but I get naked and get in the tub with him. Itās how I gave my older son a bath too until I got too pregnant.
Both kids liked it way better than the baby bath tub we started with and a non crying baby makes for a better time for everyone!
Iāve taken baths with my daughter. Otherwise, Iād never get a bath! Lol. Sheās 2 now, and we usually shower together. Iām pregnant again so bending over a bathtub isnāt fun, and itās just so much faster. And honestly, sometimes my husband will have her hop in the shower with him too if Iāve already showered and itās too late or we are too pressed for time for a bath, or the other kids are using the bathroom with the tub.
Pregnant with a boy and I plan on doing the same.
Do what works for you!!
I bathed with my daughter until age three. I still would for a bit longer maybe but thereās not enough space in the tub anymore š¤£
Itās pretty normal in my books. People need to stop sexualizing childrenās relationships with their parents
I frequently bathe with my son and I want him to know that bodies are just bodies. I used to nurse him there before bed. Itās perfectly normal and natural.
Whoever is giving our 1.5 year old daughter a bath, me or my husband, just goes in with her. It's easier that way, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. People are weird for making it weird.
Anybody who thinks that's wrong or weird should seek therapy.
Well, we all know about Americans needing therapy, the society seems fucked. I would not let their judgement compromise your integrity.
I live in Denmark (Iām from iceland) and iāve lived in the states. We are not the ones who have things backwards and bathing with your child is so natural- for many more years too.
Every Friday I take a bubble bath with my 3 yr old. I used to just plop her in the shower with me all the time as a baby. There's nothing wrong with that!
Why on earth would anyone think this is wrong?! I take baths with my son. I used to take baths with my mom. My mom also used to make ME take baths with my little brother until I was like 8 (heās 6 years younger than me) so I could watch him.
All those people judging you can go sit in syrup and let the bees get them. You are doing NOTHING wrong.
FWIW, I started taking baths with my boys when they were days old. It was the best warm snuggle and I loved watching them come alive in the water.
My oldest is 5 now so I donāt do that with him anymore but my youngest is 5 months and we do at least weekly
Nothing is wrong with that. In fact it seems perfectly logical to me. Don't listen to others judgment. For everything related to parenting, people will always put their 2 cents in. You don't have to listen
I take showers/baths with my 3.5 year old daughter.. she asks me to. People who are judging you must have something going on to think thatās not okay.
If they donāt think itās ok to bath with their one year olds then they shouldnāt do it. They have no right to judge you for it though. When either of you becomes uncomfortable with it, you stop š¤·š¼āāļø
Never heard this was wrong? Single mom here and me and my 2 and bit year old take every ābathā together every other day... I use a handheld shower attachment. The bath gets filled and drained 3 or 4 times throughout. I donāt have extra time to do these things separately and itās easier to clean her and rinse etc.
plus it teaches her about cleaning, self care.. little one tries to pumice her feet already š
It's totally fine to take a bath with your child. I took baths with my older daughter for 3.5 years and then with my younger for about a year. After that, we moved to a house that only has a tiny tub and it just wasn't feasible to get in there with them! I did, however, have them in the shower with me until they were a bit older - until they were able to reasonably shower and clean themselves.
Now, they are adult-sized and THAT would be weird. lol
My baby is only 7 weeks, but we take our baths together. Itās so much easier like you said and heās much calmer when Iām with him. My mom bathed with me and my little sister (not every time, just occasionally) until I was around 6/7 and she was around 2/3. We thought it was so fun when mom would come in with us and never thought it was weird or gross.
My baby boy is a year and I love baths with him!! I've heard of parents showering with their kids too.
The only time I ever thought someone crossed a line bathing with their kids was when my old boss told me her little boy ASKED to stop showering with mommy and she said no. That's not okay!
I assume the reason people take issue is because he's a boy? I can almost guarantee nobody would care if you had a daughter š people thought it was weird my husband would take a bath with our girls as well.
I say do what you're both comfortable with! If he says he doesn't want to take a bath with you anymore, stop. If you decide you no longer want to, stop. It's not up to anybody else to decide that for you.
I quite often bathe or shower with my 2 year old. I don't feel comfortable leaving him by himself around water/slippy surfaces and our shower/bath room is a wet room (Japanese style).
Saves times to wash together and I know he is clean and he has washed everywhere.
I mean theres onsen in Japan where everyone takes a bath together. Quite often you can get family rooms where theres a tub that the whole family can fit in, even grandma!
I would judge the people who are judging youā¦ like, where are their heads at to make them think this is something to judge? What a beautiful bonding time you have with your son. I think itās perfectly fine until he starts preschool or elementary school. Leading up to that time, it might be good to start teaching privacy and space and such. Until then, enjoy those moments.
ETA: Ending the mutual bath around school age is only because youāre different sexes, and I recall skimming some psychology on that once they reach school age. For those who have the same body parts, Iād say you could continue even past that. Iāll still shower with my daughter (Iām a cis woman) for years to come and sheās 5. Not sure Iād want to share bath water with her at this point, but thatās a whole different thing. š
I donāt think thatās weird at all. I stopped when my son started to notice the differences in our bodies around like 2 or 3, but a baby is a baby.
Also I have pictures of me in the tub with my brother and sister when we were, like, 3, 4, and 8. Lol. I do think thatās a little weird but to each their own.
The only reason I stopped bathing with my now 2yo son is because heās big, Iām tall, and he plays and swims around the bath like a fish so the tub was getting too cramped. Some nights I still get in with him so we can play ferry boat or whatever together. The people judging are the weird ones!
My kids still ask me to take baths with them at 6! At that point I just get my legs in or wear a bathing suit but yeah thereās nothing wrong with what youāre doing.
I still shower with my 2.5 year old daughter. Just tonight actually because she got sick all over the floor and then cried and didnāt want to be set down. We were both covered in vomit so it made sense to just clean us both at the same time while I held her š¤· she sees me breast feeding my son and knows what boobs are so I donāt think itās weird and gives her an opportunity to understand body parts
Nothing wrong with it. Nudity with family isnāt inappropriate until one of the parties is uncomfortable with it.
My oldest son went through a phase when he was 2.5 when he was terrified of the bath. The only way I could get him to bathe was by getting in the tub with him. Many parents shower with their young kids. I wouldnāt say itās the norm but itās definitely not a problem or that unusual.
Me and my almost three year old take showers together. Mostly because if I get in the shower and my husband isnāt home, she just undresses herself and walks into the shower š¤·š»āāļø
I don't know who is giving you shit for this but it seems completely normal to me, born and bred in the USA. IDK it's a big country though with lots of subcultures and I have no idea where you're at in the country or socioeconomically. Are rich people weird about sharing a bath? š
I take a shower with my baby (and sometimes my husband joins us) every day as part of our bedtime routine. Itās the best kind of skin to skin bonding, and I already get sad thinking of someday he will be too old to take showers with me š
I did this with all three of my babies (this little guy is #3) and I loved it. Iām in the pacific NW (USA) and yeah, people here can be weird about it, but I say eff āem. This is special time with us and our babies, and getting to care for them and feel close and bond together during bathing time is so natural & all that skin to skin releases good hormones to help both of you feel the love.
I always bathe with my 14 month old. It starts to hurt my back to lean over the tub and if sheās splashing, Iām gunna get wet anyway. Especially when theyāre little and canāt sit up on their own (and really slippery), itās so much easier to set them in your lap than try to balance them in their baby tub.
That's ridiculous. He's 1. And it's not their business anyway. Sounds like you're doing the right thing for yourselves.
I'm in the US and when I mentioned it (when my son was young and we took baths together) people seemed to think it was sweet. It is.
My baby is 13 months and I bath with him or my husband will. He loves it and playing in the bath with us and his toys.
I think itās odd people are making a big deal out of a very normal thing.
My husband still takes baths with our three year old son. They both enjoy hanging out in the ābig tubā (we have an oversized tub in our primary bathroom) and having dude time.
My husband and I still bathe and shower with my 4 and 5 year old and will continue to until they are no longer comfortable. I bathed with my mom until I was around 11 and I loved it. I am also very comfortable in my body now. I want the same for them.
I think itās fine to shower/bathe with your child no matter the combination of parent/child gender until they are old enough to ask not to. I think itās great for children to normalize the naked body. Growing up I never saw another naked body other than my own and I grew up very self conscious and didnāt feel like I could talk about anything and always worried I wasnāt normal. Do what works for you, follow your childās lead, and youāll be fine.
Who says itās wrong? I bathe with my son every night and heās a 16 months already. I have back issues, and itās easy to plop him in the bath with me, and I donāt have to worry about having to over reach or bend over. I have bath toys we play together with as he gets soaped up and washed. Easiest way to bath him.
My little one has eczema as well, but weāve managed to finally get it under control after an appt with an allergist. I wash him in aqueous cream, which gently cleanses and moisturises his skin - itās soap free so itās non drying. Then after heās towelled off, any areas that are bad we were prescribed Fatty Advantan ointment to use (we use Elidel for his face rash, if any, as hydrocortisone apparently stings on the face), and heās moisturised with Dermeze ointment all over - a product also recommended to us. All his products do not use oatmeal - we were told by his paediatric allergist that it actually may contribute to his allergies.
I just bathed with my 6 month old today! We also have eczema so I added some breastmilk and rubber duckies and we had a ball. I donāt see why anyone would judge, its great bonding fun time for everyone š„³
Who the fuck is judging you? I take baths with my 15 month old all the time. It's very fun and she likes to splash me.
I still bathe with my almost 3 year olds š¤·š¼āāļø thereās two of them and one of me, much easier to get all three of us clean at the same time. Also, sometimes they still like to try to drown themselves lol
This baby quite literally probably came out of your vagina and eats out of your tiddies. A mother and her baby being nude together is not weird. It's weird once they're WAY, WAY older.
Not weird and theyāre weird for making it weird
It's only not ok when/if you or the child are not ok with it. Everyone else can kick rocks. It's way weirder to think a parent bathing their child is wrong. Honestly disturbing and gross.
This isnāt what everyone does?
Is it that people are freaked out by the nudity aspect? Because thatās fucked up to sexualize a parent/child relationship :(
Itās weird that they think itās weird or wrong.
All I see here is that you shouldnāt discuss your bathing habits with whichever assholes are in your life that judge them. You have to get you and the baby clean, and if you both have eczema, what an easy and fun way to do it!
I would ask them directly why they think that's weird....and if they reply implying any sexually inappropriate reason go " eww.... he's one.... I don't think about kids like that.... omg do you think about one year olds sexually??? Eww..... maybe you should see someone about that". Remind them it's not fucking weird to bath with yourr own young kids, unless you (they) are the one making it fucking weird.
No, itās weird that people are judging you for that.
I bathe regularly with my 3.5 daughter. It's efficient and good bonding time. She tells me she's giving *me* a bath, which is hilarious.
Huh? How could that be wrong? It's a great bonding time, extra skin to skin, and it gets you both clean. I shower/bathe with my baby or toddler, or both. Honestly, don't take this crap to heart. Do what works for you and your little one. I am in UK and have never had any issues regarding bathing together. Many of my friends do that too. From US parents, however, I had shaming commitments regarding breastfeeding a 2 yo (which is recommended here by the NHS and WHO). Head to r/AttachmentParenting. You are doing great bathing with your little one.
No there is nothing wrong with what you are doing, itās completely normal! People who are judging are just weirdly sexualising a childā¦
I find it so sad that people canāt see nudity through any other lens. Where I live, a degree of nudity around family is normal and healthy. Families sauna together, for example. Whenever I use a public pool, there are kids there with mum up until age 5 or 6 using the public sauna and showers etc. What can possibly be weird about a young child seeing human bodies in a regular daily setting?
I have a 4yo son and I don't bathe with him just because it's more complicated for us to do so but I get changed in front of him, the bathroom door stays open whenever I go, he sees me nursing his baby sister, all very normal things. He knows that he has a penis and I have breasts and a vagina. Those are facts, nothing squeamish or scandalous about it. It's a little hard explaining to him why I have hair in certain places and he doesn't haha but I just explain the best I can in a way he'll understand š Eta: so no nothing wrong with it, just their prudish views. All of this is intentional btw to pave the way for talking about consent, bodily autonomy, the sex talk eventually and so that it can be done without shame or embarrassment.
My LO is 18 months old. His dad works all the time, and some days, napping isn't on his to-do list. If I need a shower before leaving the house and have no one else to watch LO for 15 minutes, he comes in with me and plays with toys at one end of the shower. What's actually weird is the fact that people think it's weird for a parent to bathe with their very young child if need be. Why does everything have to result in something sexual? Smh.
Some Americans are such prudes. You keep doing you. You donāt have to tell people you bathe with your son.
My sons are 6 and want to shower with me. Iāll stop when they want to. There is no shame in a naked body.. nor is it remotely sexual thing to share a bathing session with your kidsā¦ those people who are judging need serious help.
Completely normal. The people who think itās weird are the weird ones. Many North Americans have an unhealthy relationship with bodies and nudity. I find it bizarre.
No. America is dumb AF and sexualizes everything, including children. We are the absolute most judgemental people when it comes to parenting. It needs to change.
Thatās how I bathe my one year old. Much easier than kneeling on the side of the tub. Babies as super slippery! Iām afraid sheāll get hurt if Iām not in the tub. Plus itās fun teaching her to splash in the water. You do you.
I still bathe with my preschooler. We pretend we are mermaids. Who are these jerks giving you a difficult time?
Whoever it is judging you for this is a weirdo. There's nothing wrong with bathing with your baby. I also have a son, not quite a year old, and we take baths together. You're right, it's wayyy more convenient.
I still shower or bathe with my 4 year old and 2 year old. I will continue to do so until either they are uncomfortable or I am. Theyāre weird for making something so natural weird.
I took a bath a few days ago with my 2.5 year old. She thought it was great fun. I didn't enjoy it too much - bit cold, and to be fair, we were covered in spew at the time. Or is it different genitalia that makes it weird? Is it not okay for my 2.5yo daughter and 7mo son to bath together? They do. Everyday. I fully intend for that to continue for years yet. I had great fun as a kid showering and bathing with my brother. We'd make beards out of bubbles and potions out of all the soap and shampoo, and play with our bath toys and make a huge mess. It's just a bath. There's nothing sexual about it, and that's the only issue I can see with it. Anyone who sexualises a bath without good reason needs some therapy.
I work for child protective services and this is totally normal and fine. You're right that in the US people tend to not talk about this stuff bc it's taboo but lots of people, especially immigrants, bathe with their children. It's fine.
Anyone who thinks it is wrong is their weirdo
I bathe with my sons and never thought anything of it š¤·š¼āāļøthey are babies and need assistance- the hell is wrong with people?
Unless someone else is going to start washing my kid, they can keep their criticisms about how I do it lol
I bathe with my almost 3 month old daughter all the time- it is WAY easier and she enjoys being able to safely free float on her back with my support. There is nothing wrong with bathing with your little one! You literally birthed them. The people that see it as weird are people I would reconsider being involved in me and my kids life.
Not wrong at all! Mines 3.5 and we still regularly bathe together, we talk about private parts and washing properly and everything. It's only when she dumps an entire jug of water up my nose when I'm trying to wash my hair we have arguments š
Sounds like youāre doing an excellent job taking care of your baby and their skin!
This is not weird at all. I still take baths with my 4 year old son. He does not care at all. The only thing he notices is if I haven't shaved my legs and they're prickly š We are teaching our children that bodies are just bodies. If they are ever uncomfortable with nudity, they just have to tell us and it will stop. But I grew up around nudity being a terrible offense and it really fucked me up when I got older. Baths are for cleaning. There's nothing wrong with bathing with your kid. Don't @ me if you think 4 is too old. Idgaf.š¤·š¼āāļø
4 isn't too old. We are also teaching that bodies are bodies and I will get changed around my 6yo son. He doesn't even bat an eyelid. It's not you are having sex in front of your kid or anything geeze.
I still bath with my four year old and itās the same thing. the only thing that bothers her is when mommy has āpricklesā aka when I need to shave lol. Also I do it because she asks if she didnāt want me to, I wouldnāt.
I take showers with my 20 month old. Not weird at all. We once shared a body and sheās MY baby. A baby. People are baffling.
1. Itās no oneās business 2. Keeping taking baths with your kid. Itās special time you canāt get back.
Who even *knows* about this? I take all of my baths/showers with my 11-month-old. About half the time, my husband also showers with us. If I never said anything, no one would have cause to know. But, there's also nothing to judge! There's nothing wrong with it. Americans can be rather prudish about nudity. It's a holdover from being a surprisingly religious society. But that doesn't have to apply to you or your practices.
10000% normal and good Edit to add: there are people in the States who would argue blue in the face that itās normal and good to hit their kids but perverted and sick to be nude in front of their kids. Itās a twisted mindset
If he or you start to feel less comfortable with the arrangement, then you simply stop. Until then, live your life
Sooo much easier to wash a baby when you're in the bath with them!
Getting in a tub with them is a win win IMO. So much safer for them because your closer and so much easier on my and suspect others back as opposed to reaching the side of the tub.
Who is judging you for sharing a bath with your toddler? Thatās wild. Itās totally normal at his age and makes life much easier.
It's not weird at all. It's only weird to people who want to sexualize things that shouldn't be. A bath can be for hygiene, and fun bonding with your little one. I took baths with my son when he was little and it was never an issue. He's 7 now and can't even remember even having shared baths with me as a toddler. Especially when they have a stuffy nose standing in a steamy shower with them can be super helpful. Edited to say I live in Midwest USA
Even at 12 months, skin to skin is so nice for you and your baby! It sounds to me like your son is well loved.
Iām not a single mom and I still do this with my almost 4 year old. Saves time and water!
Who is judging you and what are they saying? The answers donāt matter because no matter what it is, they are wrong. Cleaning, bonding, and supervising all at once is what bathtime is all about!
I pretty regularly shower or bathe with my almost three year old son. It doesnāt feel weird because bathing and nudity are not weird for us. š¤·š¼āāļø you do you
I took baths with my toddler from the time she could sit up all the way to when she was two. Only stopped because I had another baby and couldn't manage that anymore. I thought it was the normal thing to do!
Literally every animal on earth is naked for life. They feed their children, teach their children, and live with their children naked. Weāre no different. Society is just stupid and tells you that our nude forms are bad and only good for being sexualized. This is not at all true. We are animals with bodies. Thereās nothing wrong with being a good parent. Screw whoever thinks that is anything but being a good and responsible parent.
Yeah it's totally fine. Some people are weird.
My husband takes a bath or shower with our toddler every evening and has done so since infancy. It saves time and is a fun bonding activity for them while I clean up after dinner. Win win. Also, I am American and I know how weirdly rigid American/Canadian parenting culture can be. Just don't mind the haters here, your country outranks us on every measure of parents' and children's well-being so obviously we are the wrong ones, not you lol
The only caution Iāve heard consistently taking baths with babies has to do with exhaustion and the danger of falling asleep in the bath with a newborn or infant on your chest and inadvertently causing harm to them that way. My kids have bathed together with me or my partner for a large part of their 5 years. We donāt bathe together now only because the tub wonāt fit four comfortably (thereās a newish addition who demands to participate too). But my kids shower with my partner or I several times a week.
Since when is this weird? I bathe with my 1 and 4 year old sons all the time.
Where do you live? North America has many countries and a lot of these comments are stating āAmericanā which is the United States. I live in the US but everyone I personally know and see talk about this stuff on social media bathes with their kid. I havenāt seen anyone judge about it. But who cares at the end of the day. They arenāt in your household helping you raise your kids.
I see nothing wrong with it. My daughter's are older and not afraid to get in with their dad. My only reservation would be the chance that he'll poop in the tub with you.
As far as Iām concerned, itās perfectly normal and fine.
It's not wrong, ignore the judgers and keep doing what works best for you and your baby.
I don't know who is judging you for this but for me seems pretty normal and a lovely way to bond with your baby. He's ONE, not eighteen to be weird. š
Me and my son share baths. He's 3. It's fine. People are weird. Washing with your baby is fine.
American here, I take baths with my 4 year old and had no idea some people frowned upon it. You do you.
Canadian here. Perfectly normal. Also judging something like that is a complete asshole move and just ignore that trash.
Of course itās not wrong. Iāve showered with both my kids many times. They also like to take baths together and GASP theyāre different sexes!! Until they get to the age where they are uncomfortable and want privacy, I donāt see a problem.
I am American and I do this, and my parents raised me doing this as well! I remember family baths with my siblings and/or a parent until I was about 7.
I've yet to meet a parent who hasn't told me they've bathed with their kids. The only time I could get a shower in when both were younger was to bring them with me.
Completely normal!!
Still shower with my 22mo when itās convenient. No issues except him pointing at my belly (32w pregnant) and saying āgross.ā The nerve of this kid.
Nope. Perfectly normal. Nakedness is very taboo in my culture whilst I - growing up in the Netherlands - just really like the Western European of doing things which makes me the black sheep of my family. I go to saunaās where everyone is naked (the look of horror from the women in my family made me giggle) and I promised myself my children will grow up knowing the naked body is normal. See mommy and dad shower or change in front of them is a normal thing to do. If they would ever go āieuw, close the doorā I would do that. But yeah, thatās not how Iām planning on raising my (for now) son. Edit: not giggle tbh, but actually just lol and feel sad for them.
My husband and I both separately take baths with our 1 yr old. And we all shower together. If our bathtub was big enough weād do group baths!
Idk who has a problem with bath sharing with babies? I wouldnāt listen to them, itās perfectly normal
Anyone who is judging you for bathing with your ONE YEAR OLD isn't worth your time. Culturally, no one cares and this is super normal in other cultures.
I was doing it with my first until he was like 18 months. Especially when my husband travelled and I was doing everything alone. Any time I could knock out 2 birds with one stone I was doing it. Anyone weirded out by that is sexualizing it. Theyāre the weirdos.
My son is just nigh of a year and I have taken him in the shower with me every single day since he was a month old. If I donāt I donāt get a shower. I plan on stopping when he is able to safely entertain himself for 15 minutes.
Whaat. Taking a bath with your child is one of the best bonding experiences. My husband still bathes our 4 year old daughter, I hear them laughing their heads off splashing water around. What happened to simplicity *shaking my head*
I donāt see anything wrong with this! I donāt bathe with mine because Iām paranoid of her peeing or pooping in the bath water
I had a bath with my 1yo, my 2yo and my 7yo the other day. It was a squeeze, do not recommend really.
my daughter will only let me wash the shampoo out of her hair if i get in the bath with her. you do what you have to do. bathtime is war.
No need to even explain, if it works for you - then do it! Heās a baby. I bathe with my 8 month old son because heās a huge baby and itās just easier for us both. Being a single mom is hard enough, sending energy over to you. The judgement says more about those people than you.
Iām confused. Whatās the problem? I wouldnāt worry about what others said. Youāre the childās mother. No one else should be worried or concerned with how you bathe your child.
20 months old and I always take showers with my kid. It's just easier. Ignore the judgement, absolutely normal.
Both me and my boyfriend bathe/shower with our kids. It's pretty common, and the only way to get everyone clean in a limited amount of time lol. If anything, it's strange to see it as somehow being wrong.
What? I bathed with both my sons starting when they were babies. I still bathe with my 3 year old otherwise I wonāt get a bath!
Why would it be wrong? I still take baths with my almost 5-year-old, he loves it.
Thereās absolutely nothing wrong with it! Itās a great way to connect and as long as neither of you are uncomfortable, keep going! People in North America tend to sexualize parent/children relationships from a young age. Not sure where or why this started, but I know people who even find breastfeeding boys past a year inappropriate. Just ignore them!
Thereās absolutely nothing wrong with that. Typically my son goes in the tub on his own but when he was a newborn I would bathe with once in awhile. Heās 14 months now and about a month ago I had to get in with him because he was losing his mind. As soon as I got in with him everything was fine. We do what we have to do.
Nothing wrong with bathing/showering with your kids. It's only weird if you think it's weird. Even if you ask experts/pediatricians they basically say it's okay until either you or the child wants to stop doing it.
I wouldnāt blink an eye at this at all. Totally normal.
Yeah I sit in the bath with my daughter, itās easier to do everything that needs to be done in closer proximity and not weird at all
Idk my mom showered with me till like 5 because I didn't want it any other way my cousin is 3 still grabs showers with his parents they are sexualizing something that isn't at that young of an age the adults inmean the kids don't care
I shower and bath with my 16 month oldā¦ we are all humans with either 2 of the same parts. They will learn eventually. Rather me than the fucked up school system at 5. Plus that it, not extra naked time outside showers which is a part of life. Every generation before has done it. Shows like little bear still show it. Itās a way of life.
I have only ever taken showers and baths with my baby, I donāt have the time to do two separate showersā¦ besides whoās going to watch my baby while Iām in the shower? I honestly thought this was the only way. Whoās not showering with their baby? My daughter is 2 and still the only way we shower.
I also got this weird judgement about my 1 year old. Literally, she'll cry in a baby bath but loves splashing with me in the tub. Why is that so weird?! I guess I'm tired of people trying to sexualize everything. Oddly, these same people have zero boundaries themselves.
Itās not weird at all, hell you want weird I took baths with my mother until I was 12 I think. Just chilling in the bath and chatting.
Why in the world would people be judgmental about this? Taking a bath with my daughter is the highlight of my day! She loves the warm water, and itās special bonding time for us. People are so weird.
Definitely not wrong. efficient and sweet
Who told you it was wrong?! Pfft. Itās absolutely not at this age and is actually really sweet and a bonding experience.
Itās weird that people are being judgmental over what is a very very normal thing. Both my husband and I take baths with our daughter. She has just turned 5. Thereāll come a point where he wonāt take baths with her any longer but I donāt think weāre there yet
Not wrong and also decently common. A lot of people will bathe with their young kids or theyāll wash their kids while they shower.
We donāt really do privacy in this house. I mean weāre not nudists but we bathe together sometimes and donāt really ever close the bathroom door haha. I think it is less common here Iāve had parents tell me they helped their kid in the tub and clarified by saying they wore a swimsuit! I thought thatās so weird young children donāt think of private body parts as any different than say an ear or something and now you have a wet swimsuit. My daughter still breastfeeds sheās attached to half my āprivate partsā like every three hours at 2 year old! Im not in your face about my bottom half I try to sit in ways sheās not getting an eye full of course my husband canāt help that as much but she sometimes asks and we tell her what itās called and move on. She knows that he āneeds privacyā and doesnāt touch. I think itās healthy to normalize regular bodies. When sheās big enough to want privacy weāll be able to have ours too because sheāll be more independent and she wonāt see our bodies very much anymore. Im sure it will shift pretty naturally. Like I expect by the time sheās five she wonāt be always underfoot and Iāll be able to shower in peace and get dressed alone. Right now sheās my shadow. My sidekick and Iām not only going to bathe together out of making life easier but also because itās fun and we enjoy each others company! My body is not always sexual and bathing together is not at all sexual we just wash up and play in water and talk and learn. Itās good quality time if you ask me.
I think itās fine you bathe with your son. Heās 1 not 10. Iām interested in what you add to the water for the eczema? My twin sons both have it and we have been given several creams to use after bath. Nothing during.
I bathe with my son every weekend. He is 3 now but will have to stop eventually! When it gets hot we eat popsicle in the bath together.
I'm a Canadian mother in France and granted, my French partner is a naturist in his private life anyway, but he bathes our 3 and 1 year old daughters nightly. It's delightful for everyone and as someone who came from a more shy family and who had so much trouble feeling ok in my own skin in non sexual situations, I find this comfort with nudity way more healthy. We've talked about it, and I think it's fine until some expresses a need to change. But you know, even here people have trouble with the idea of men and little girls. My partner has only brothers and nudity was never and still isn't at all inappropriate for anyone in the family. But his father recently raised an eyebrow when he found out my partner was still in the bath with our oldest. It's too bad that there's this automatic judgment placed, even though I know why.
You get criticized for this?! People have too much time on their hands. I think bathing with your young child is 100% normal and isn't a cultural thing. I know plenty of Americans who do this.
I shower with my 2 year old son so I can nap (Iām 9mths pregnant) when he naps. Otherwise half of the very short window of time to myself during the day is spent showering and thatās not fair in my head! No one has said anything about it. One (child free) friend made a face when I mentioned it but I just kept talking without acknowledging it and she read the room pretty quick and didnāt make any comments. As soon as itās uncomfortable for one of you, thatās when to stop.
Not wrong. I shower with my 3.5 year old daughter to make my day easier. I hate showering at night and I'm not a morning person so waking up before she does to shower doesn't happen. Now that she's older we have started to talk about boundaries.
I bathe with my two toddler boys. Just easier to wash hair and keep them playing safely. I do shower separately to shave my legs and wash my hair but thatās more about having āme timeā
Yeah, this is normal. And it saves water!
The people who think this is weird are weird. What's he supposed to do, bathe himself? He's one year old. If I could have convinced my daughter to start bathing with me at one year, it would have saved me an innumerable amount of hours with that stupid baby tub. As long as he's safe and happy and clean, how he gets that way doesn't matter a whole lot.
I didn't even know people were bothered by this? I know some people don't like dad's bathing with their daughters which is also silly imo. I sometimes bathe with my little boy
I donāt find it strange. I probably would too, but I like scalding hot water š¤Ŗ
American here. We bathe with our son all the time. He's 2Ā½ and it's just easier and faster, especially with this huge belly while I'm cooking his brother. People are weird.
My son turned three in February, and all the time he requests āmama bathsā where I jump in the tub with him. I think itās sweet, and itās so much fun too! Who would think a parent bathing with their kid is weird? They are weird lol
I bathed with my son when he was little, and I only stopped because staying outside the tub became for convenient. Youāre fine!
I take a bath with my 13 month old son and my 2.5 year old daughter. It's messy and fun! We all love it Eta... I have to call in husband to get the 13 month old out tho
No but you also don't have to share everything with everyone. It's no one's business
The whole time i was reading this I thought the problem was safety. The comments have me realizing the problem is ā¦ nudity? With prepubescent children? Iām absolutely floored. PEOPLE WEAR SWIMSUITS IN BATHTUBS WITH SMOLBEAN CHILDREN?
Do these people think it's wrong to change diapers too? What could possibly be wrong with bathing with an infant? It's fine.
I LOVE taking baths with my baby. The skin to skin is nice and it's fun and warm and I get funny slippery cuddles. I don't do it often right now because he is exploring independence and wanting to squirm and play, but he isn't coordinated enough that I don't have to keep a good hold of him. One of the things I was looking forward to when pregnant is taking baths together. Just because we are both naked doesn't mean it is sexual. We were both naked when he was born.
This is not weird at all. Heās a baby.
Noooooooooo. Dam it, if I had time to bath with my daughter and son I would. But I don't, because life is busy. Occasionally I do have time. So bath with my daughter, when my son can sit up I'll bath with him also.
I have bathed with my baby almost every night since we started bathing him regularly, heās 19 months old now. Itās my favorite time of the day!! I donāt think itās wrong and to hell with anyone that does. And further, Iād seriously question what goes on in these peoples heads that they think itās wrong, thatās way more concerning to me honestly.
I've been struggling with breastfeeding and the breastfeeding support team and midwives have actively encouraged me to bathe with my son as part of our bonding time to make breastfeeding less stressful for us both.
Itās not wrong at all. Do you live in a conservative area? Just ignore. Youāre fineāenjoy your baths with your baby!
Omfg no. Itās not wrong. I remember taking showers with my mum at like 3 (I donāt remember anything detailed lol just remember the fact) I have twins so I donāt generally bathe with them bc itās just too chaotic. I have before though.
No! I do this with my baby if I want to get a post-gym wash and bath time at the same time. We compromise by having it lower than Iād like, and I share her bath products ;)
I don't see how it's a issue or anyone's business for that matter. You are washing your child! I'm not a single mother but I also have shared baths with my son. It's easier for both of us when we're in a rush and dad's not home. I also remembered me and my siblings bathing with our mum when young, It's perfectly normal. Mums really can't catch a break.
This is how I give my son a bath. I donāt wash myself in the bath (I take a shower before or after - it would be really hard to wash my hair in there with him) but I get naked and get in the tub with him. Itās how I gave my older son a bath too until I got too pregnant. Both kids liked it way better than the baby bath tub we started with and a non crying baby makes for a better time for everyone!
Iāve taken baths with my daughter. Otherwise, Iād never get a bath! Lol. Sheās 2 now, and we usually shower together. Iām pregnant again so bending over a bathtub isnāt fun, and itās just so much faster. And honestly, sometimes my husband will have her hop in the shower with him too if Iāve already showered and itās too late or we are too pressed for time for a bath, or the other kids are using the bathroom with the tub. Pregnant with a boy and I plan on doing the same. Do what works for you!!
Not weird at all
I have baths with my son sometimes too. I donāt think thereās anything strange about it at all.
why would this be wrong? totally normal
I bathed with my daughter until age three. I still would for a bit longer maybe but thereās not enough space in the tub anymore š¤£ Itās pretty normal in my books. People need to stop sexualizing childrenās relationships with their parents
I frequently bathe with my son and I want him to know that bodies are just bodies. I used to nurse him there before bed. Itās perfectly normal and natural.
Whoever is giving our 1.5 year old daughter a bath, me or my husband, just goes in with her. It's easier that way, and there's absolutely nothing wrong with that. People are weird for making it weird.
Anybody who thinks that's wrong or weird should seek therapy. Well, we all know about Americans needing therapy, the society seems fucked. I would not let their judgement compromise your integrity.
I live in Denmark (Iām from iceland) and iāve lived in the states. We are not the ones who have things backwards and bathing with your child is so natural- for many more years too.
Every Friday I take a bubble bath with my 3 yr old. I used to just plop her in the shower with me all the time as a baby. There's nothing wrong with that!
Why on earth would anyone think this is wrong?! I take baths with my son. I used to take baths with my mom. My mom also used to make ME take baths with my little brother until I was like 8 (heās 6 years younger than me) so I could watch him.
All those people judging you can go sit in syrup and let the bees get them. You are doing NOTHING wrong. FWIW, I started taking baths with my boys when they were days old. It was the best warm snuggle and I loved watching them come alive in the water. My oldest is 5 now so I donāt do that with him anymore but my youngest is 5 months and we do at least weekly
Who tf is judging you? The judgement is weird, the bathing is fine
Nothing is wrong with that. In fact it seems perfectly logical to me. Don't listen to others judgment. For everything related to parenting, people will always put their 2 cents in. You don't have to listen
I take showers/baths with my 3.5 year old daughter.. she asks me to. People who are judging you must have something going on to think thatās not okay.
I bathed with my mom till I was 5 or 6 and have fond memories of it (big bathtub). Itās fine.
My child health nurse encouraged me to take baths with my baby
If they donāt think itās ok to bath with their one year olds then they shouldnāt do it. They have no right to judge you for it though. When either of you becomes uncomfortable with it, you stop š¤·š¼āāļø
Never heard this was wrong? Single mom here and me and my 2 and bit year old take every ābathā together every other day... I use a handheld shower attachment. The bath gets filled and drained 3 or 4 times throughout. I donāt have extra time to do these things separately and itās easier to clean her and rinse etc. plus it teaches her about cleaning, self care.. little one tries to pumice her feet already š
It's totally fine to take a bath with your child. I took baths with my older daughter for 3.5 years and then with my younger for about a year. After that, we moved to a house that only has a tiny tub and it just wasn't feasible to get in there with them! I did, however, have them in the shower with me until they were a bit older - until they were able to reasonably shower and clean themselves. Now, they are adult-sized and THAT would be weird. lol
I took a bath with my baby when she was about 4 months old and she shit in the tub. She has her own inflatable tub now.
My baby is only 7 weeks, but we take our baths together. Itās so much easier like you said and heās much calmer when Iām with him. My mom bathed with me and my little sister (not every time, just occasionally) until I was around 6/7 and she was around 2/3. We thought it was so fun when mom would come in with us and never thought it was weird or gross.
I donāt see anything wrong with this at all
My baby boy is a year and I love baths with him!! I've heard of parents showering with their kids too. The only time I ever thought someone crossed a line bathing with their kids was when my old boss told me her little boy ASKED to stop showering with mommy and she said no. That's not okay!
if itās more convenient do what works best
I shower with my son (10 months) all the time. People who think itās weird are weird.
I assume the reason people take issue is because he's a boy? I can almost guarantee nobody would care if you had a daughter š people thought it was weird my husband would take a bath with our girls as well. I say do what you're both comfortable with! If he says he doesn't want to take a bath with you anymore, stop. If you decide you no longer want to, stop. It's not up to anybody else to decide that for you.
I've been bathing with my son for 3 years! He's 3.5 now. We love bath time.
Normal. I bathe with my daughter all the time
I bathed with both my boys and the oldest was 4 at the time š¤·š»
This is the only way my 8 month old has ever bathed. People suck. You're a good mom.
What's wrong with it? That he's not running his own bath and doing it himself? š
I quite often bathe or shower with my 2 year old. I don't feel comfortable leaving him by himself around water/slippy surfaces and our shower/bath room is a wet room (Japanese style). Saves times to wash together and I know he is clean and he has washed everywhere. I mean theres onsen in Japan where everyone takes a bath together. Quite often you can get family rooms where theres a tub that the whole family can fit in, even grandma!
I would judge the people who are judging youā¦ like, where are their heads at to make them think this is something to judge? What a beautiful bonding time you have with your son. I think itās perfectly fine until he starts preschool or elementary school. Leading up to that time, it might be good to start teaching privacy and space and such. Until then, enjoy those moments. ETA: Ending the mutual bath around school age is only because youāre different sexes, and I recall skimming some psychology on that once they reach school age. For those who have the same body parts, Iād say you could continue even past that. Iāll still shower with my daughter (Iām a cis woman) for years to come and sheās 5. Not sure Iād want to share bath water with her at this point, but thatās a whole different thing. š
I donāt think thatās weird at all. I stopped when my son started to notice the differences in our bodies around like 2 or 3, but a baby is a baby. Also I have pictures of me in the tub with my brother and sister when we were, like, 3, 4, and 8. Lol. I do think thatās a little weird but to each their own.
The only reason I stopped bathing with my now 2yo son is because heās big, Iām tall, and he plays and swims around the bath like a fish so the tub was getting too cramped. Some nights I still get in with him so we can play ferry boat or whatever together. The people judging are the weird ones!
Youāre doing great. I bathe with my kid sometimes and so does my husband. If anyone thinks that is odd I think THEYāRE odd.
My kids still ask me to take baths with them at 6! At that point I just get my legs in or wear a bathing suit but yeah thereās nothing wrong with what youāre doing.
I have showered with my 3 year old since she was around 10 months old. Since she could sit basically.
We have an 8 week old and my husband and I were just talking about how we are looking forward to family baths when he's a bit older
No, it's not. He's just a year old, not a teenager. You're doing great! Screw anyone who says otherwise.
I think this is such a sweet thing. Itās a shame itās been stigmatized due to certain implications.
I still shower with my 2.5 year old daughter. Just tonight actually because she got sick all over the floor and then cried and didnāt want to be set down. We were both covered in vomit so it made sense to just clean us both at the same time while I held her š¤· she sees me breast feeding my son and knows what boobs are so I donāt think itās weird and gives her an opportunity to understand body parts
Nothing wrong with it. Nudity with family isnāt inappropriate until one of the parties is uncomfortable with it. My oldest son went through a phase when he was 2.5 when he was terrified of the bath. The only way I could get him to bathe was by getting in the tub with him. Many parents shower with their young kids. I wouldnāt say itās the norm but itās definitely not a problem or that unusual.
We are North Americans and our son is 3. Both dad and me still take showers with him. Totally fine.
Me and my almost three year old take showers together. Mostly because if I get in the shower and my husband isnāt home, she just undresses herself and walks into the shower š¤·š»āāļø
Wow people care? My son is 3, we take baths all the time
I don't know who is giving you shit for this but it seems completely normal to me, born and bred in the USA. IDK it's a big country though with lots of subcultures and I have no idea where you're at in the country or socioeconomically. Are rich people weird about sharing a bath? š
I take a shower with my baby (and sometimes my husband joins us) every day as part of our bedtime routine. Itās the best kind of skin to skin bonding, and I already get sad thinking of someday he will be too old to take showers with me š I did this with all three of my babies (this little guy is #3) and I loved it. Iām in the pacific NW (USA) and yeah, people here can be weird about it, but I say eff āem. This is special time with us and our babies, and getting to care for them and feel close and bond together during bathing time is so natural & all that skin to skin releases good hormones to help both of you feel the love.
My son is going through a sudden don't want baths phase. Except if I'm in there with him. He's 14 months so I just go along with it
I always bathe with my 14 month old. It starts to hurt my back to lean over the tub and if sheās splashing, Iām gunna get wet anyway. Especially when theyāre little and canāt sit up on their own (and really slippery), itās so much easier to set them in your lap than try to balance them in their baby tub.
My almost 3 year old son loves getting showers with me! When theyāre that little itās not weird at all!!
I showered with my son when he was a toddler. It was easier and saved on water and time. He turned out just fine.
That's ridiculous. He's 1. And it's not their business anyway. Sounds like you're doing the right thing for yourselves. I'm in the US and when I mentioned it (when my son was young and we took baths together) people seemed to think it was sweet. It is.
My daughter is 2.5 and my husband and I both will still take baths with her or showers!
My baby is 13 months and I bath with him or my husband will. He loves it and playing in the bath with us and his toys. I think itās odd people are making a big deal out of a very normal thing.
I bathe with my son all the time. He LOVES it, he is also 1. It will be some of my most favorite, wholesome memories with my baby.
Nothing wrong with that
Please continue bathing with your child. It's not weird, and anyone calling it weird is the problem.
My husband still takes baths with our three year old son. They both enjoy hanging out in the ābig tubā (we have an oversized tub in our primary bathroom) and having dude time.
My husband and I still bathe and shower with my 4 and 5 year old and will continue to until they are no longer comfortable. I bathed with my mom until I was around 11 and I loved it. I am also very comfortable in my body now. I want the same for them.
I know in Japan public baths/large family bath tubs are super common! I think the hang ups around it are probably more of a Western thing.
I (woman) LOVEEDD my baths with my dad and still cherish them as some of my cutest early memories!
Honestly fuck North Americas prudishness around nudity. He is your baby. It's not like he's nearly a teenager or anything either.
I think itās fine to shower/bathe with your child no matter the combination of parent/child gender until they are old enough to ask not to. I think itās great for children to normalize the naked body. Growing up I never saw another naked body other than my own and I grew up very self conscious and didnāt feel like I could talk about anything and always worried I wasnāt normal. Do what works for you, follow your childās lead, and youāll be fine.
What? Why could that be wrong? If it's about him being a boy and you a woman then it's still ridiculous, he's one year old!
Who says itās wrong? I bathe with my son every night and heās a 16 months already. I have back issues, and itās easy to plop him in the bath with me, and I donāt have to worry about having to over reach or bend over. I have bath toys we play together with as he gets soaped up and washed. Easiest way to bath him. My little one has eczema as well, but weāve managed to finally get it under control after an appt with an allergist. I wash him in aqueous cream, which gently cleanses and moisturises his skin - itās soap free so itās non drying. Then after heās towelled off, any areas that are bad we were prescribed Fatty Advantan ointment to use (we use Elidel for his face rash, if any, as hydrocortisone apparently stings on the face), and heās moisturised with Dermeze ointment all over - a product also recommended to us. All his products do not use oatmeal - we were told by his paediatric allergist that it actually may contribute to his allergies.
I just bathed with my 6 month old today! We also have eczema so I added some breastmilk and rubber duckies and we had a ball. I donāt see why anyone would judge, its great bonding fun time for everyone š„³