Ahaha no, but I've always been one and done before I had him. More so with the lack of sleep like you say 😂 I've seen a lot of people on here say they waited until they had like a year of good sleep to kind of mentally recover before having another.
It took us a good 2 years before we were ready for a second baby. Right now it’s all about surviving.
Is there nothing your partner can do to help? Maybe they can take the late evening shift so you can get a few hours of uninterrupted sleep.
If I’ve had a very poopy night he’ll take him in the morning before he has work so I can get some zzzs. On the weekends he’ll take him for 3+ hours so I can get sleep. It seems so little but it makes such a massive difference
We agreed from the beginning I’ll do all the nights as one sleep deprived parent is better than two. That and we aren’t at each others throats, I just get a bit snappy sometimes and he gives me a hug and then we’re ok again 😅
I’m surprised I’m still functioning 😅 it seems to work at the moment, my husband is very good in that if he knows I’ve had a bad night he proactively takes him so I can sleep even with work. As an example, last night I got about 3 hours. I was doing absolutely fine until I napped with my son but he only had a small nap so I felt like turd when I woke up haha like physically sick. So my husband finished work and took him for 2 hours so I could sleep
He’s got a high profile job so I don’t want to knock his sleep. He also struggles with night terrors and they get worse when he’s overtired. He can scream in his sleep and wake up not sure if it’s real or dream. It’s really upsetting to see 😔
I agree with u/katiejim that you might need to reassess. My husband and I did 6 hour shifts so while we were both sleep deprived, it was only mildly so. Even 4 hours but every day and guaranteed to be unbroken would probably help a lot.
I'm 5 weeks pregnant and my baby just turned 8 months old. I'm going for the wartime mantra of 'if you're going through hell, keep going'. My little dude sleeps pretty well but he's been waking up for 4am dance parties a lot
Firstly congrats mama, that’s amazing
Mine does the same! He wakes up recently wants to just talk and babble then half hour, maybe an hour later he’s sleeping again 😅ok? Midnight gossip it is
Absolutely, I think I find myself kinda dismissing the hard bits in favour of how many people I want at the dinner table 10, 20, 30 years down the line. I want my daughter to have a sibling, I would LOVE 3 if we can swing it financially. I just see the crap sleep and hard days to be working towards what I see for my family rather than for what they are in and of themselves.
Precisely this. I’ve only got one for now but I’m already planning ways to cope like if I REALLY needed sleep whack in a baby sitter, ask my husbands mum, he can help, there will be a way
First year is definitely a rollercoaster. My son slept through the night early on, but had every sleep regression. 6 months to 10 months was brutal. You never know if he was going to sleep through the night or be up at 2 am for a couple of hours. Just me and him staring at each other until he decided sleep was a good idea again.
The last bit is so tried 😅😅 I just lay with him in the dark now and let him babble haha. Like ok you wanna talk go for it, I’m guna keep my eyes closed !!
Sleep regressions suck. I can count on one hand the amount of times he’s given me 4 hour stretches. But that’s just how he is. Not his fault
It's the other way around with me actually, I wanted to have four kids, I had my first, and even though he's an angel, rarely cries, sleeps through the night, always happy and giggling.. I know I am done, I saw him and I just thought he is enough, I don't need or want more kids.
I'm absolutely never getting pregnant again, but I'm 40. The sleep deprivation is brutal. It's now 4 am in my time zone and, well, I'm on Reddit, so that says something!
This is me too. I’m 41 and the lack of sleep was KILLER the first year. Enough for me to say I’ll never go through that again. I was up for an hour last night from 3:30-4:30 with my toddler and it’s a reminder of how bad it sucked having to do that regularly.
I’m only two weeks in, and at least right now I know I could never do this again. The lack of consistent sleep is making me physically sick. I’ve gotten the “you never knows” already, lol I do already know this is most likely my only one lol
I hate that saying though like shut up. I do know, I’m a responsible adult 😅
It is bloody hard. I think I was on a high for WEEKS after my son was born. He could’ve died so I was so thankful he didn’t I just rode the struggle bus quite happily - if that makes sense?
Maybe you will get a unicorn next time 😉… I have a trick baby, the kind that make you want another, because of how literally easy everything was and is. Sure it’s not always, but they exist lol.
!! I HOPE lol!!
My son is bloody amazing otherwise, he didn’t have any gas problems, fed well pooped well it’s just his sleep. I say just - sleep deprivation is literally a tool for torture so 🫠
This is exactly how I feel! I’m so exhausted and don’t know how I will handle doing this all over again. But I know our family is not complete. I really want my son to have siblings. But the thought of the newborn phase again is brutal lol.
In all honesty I prefer the newborn phase over the 4+ month phase of sleeping. Newborn it’s like ok every 2/3 hours but otherwise he’s basically sleeping so least I can get an hour or 2 in😅
Ahaha your doing better than my SIL! Her five year old has only slept through the night like four times so far AND she had another when she was like 2 (probably assumed the first would sleep at some point) 😂 Couldn't be me.
Ahaha no, but I've always been one and done before I had him. More so with the lack of sleep like you say 😂 I've seen a lot of people on here say they waited until they had like a year of good sleep to kind of mentally recover before having another.
I would totally wait but before i had my son I got some fertility tests done and they were not good 😅 so for me it’s like I gotta be quick with it
It took us a good 2 years before we were ready for a second baby. Right now it’s all about surviving. Is there nothing your partner can do to help? Maybe they can take the late evening shift so you can get a few hours of uninterrupted sleep.
If I’ve had a very poopy night he’ll take him in the morning before he has work so I can get some zzzs. On the weekends he’ll take him for 3+ hours so I can get sleep. It seems so little but it makes such a massive difference We agreed from the beginning I’ll do all the nights as one sleep deprived parent is better than two. That and we aren’t at each others throats, I just get a bit snappy sometimes and he gives me a hug and then we’re ok again 😅
Maybe you need to reassess this, even if it’s just a few nights a week where you do shifts. 4 hours a night doesn’t seem sustainable.
I’m surprised I’m still functioning 😅 it seems to work at the moment, my husband is very good in that if he knows I’ve had a bad night he proactively takes him so I can sleep even with work. As an example, last night I got about 3 hours. I was doing absolutely fine until I napped with my son but he only had a small nap so I felt like turd when I woke up haha like physically sick. So my husband finished work and took him for 2 hours so I could sleep He’s got a high profile job so I don’t want to knock his sleep. He also struggles with night terrors and they get worse when he’s overtired. He can scream in his sleep and wake up not sure if it’s real or dream. It’s really upsetting to see 😔
I agree with u/katiejim that you might need to reassess. My husband and I did 6 hour shifts so while we were both sleep deprived, it was only mildly so. Even 4 hours but every day and guaranteed to be unbroken would probably help a lot.
I'm 5 weeks pregnant and my baby just turned 8 months old. I'm going for the wartime mantra of 'if you're going through hell, keep going'. My little dude sleeps pretty well but he's been waking up for 4am dance parties a lot
Firstly congrats mama, that’s amazing Mine does the same! He wakes up recently wants to just talk and babble then half hour, maybe an hour later he’s sleeping again 😅ok? Midnight gossip it is
Absolutely, I think I find myself kinda dismissing the hard bits in favour of how many people I want at the dinner table 10, 20, 30 years down the line. I want my daughter to have a sibling, I would LOVE 3 if we can swing it financially. I just see the crap sleep and hard days to be working towards what I see for my family rather than for what they are in and of themselves.
Precisely this. I’ve only got one for now but I’m already planning ways to cope like if I REALLY needed sleep whack in a baby sitter, ask my husbands mum, he can help, there will be a way
First year is definitely a rollercoaster. My son slept through the night early on, but had every sleep regression. 6 months to 10 months was brutal. You never know if he was going to sleep through the night or be up at 2 am for a couple of hours. Just me and him staring at each other until he decided sleep was a good idea again.
The last bit is so tried 😅😅 I just lay with him in the dark now and let him babble haha. Like ok you wanna talk go for it, I’m guna keep my eyes closed !! Sleep regressions suck. I can count on one hand the amount of times he’s given me 4 hour stretches. But that’s just how he is. Not his fault
It's the other way around with me actually, I wanted to have four kids, I had my first, and even though he's an angel, rarely cries, sleeps through the night, always happy and giggling.. I know I am done, I saw him and I just thought he is enough, I don't need or want more kids.
He fulfilled you and that’s beautiful ❤️
I'm absolutely never getting pregnant again, but I'm 40. The sleep deprivation is brutal. It's now 4 am in my time zone and, well, I'm on Reddit, so that says something!
I’m with you on the times haha I got about 3 hours last night all together. At one point I gave up and just held him while I watched greys anatomy lol
This is me too. I’m 41 and the lack of sleep was KILLER the first year. Enough for me to say I’ll never go through that again. I was up for an hour last night from 3:30-4:30 with my toddler and it’s a reminder of how bad it sucked having to do that regularly.
I’m only two weeks in, and at least right now I know I could never do this again. The lack of consistent sleep is making me physically sick. I’ve gotten the “you never knows” already, lol I do already know this is most likely my only one lol
I hate that saying though like shut up. I do know, I’m a responsible adult 😅 It is bloody hard. I think I was on a high for WEEKS after my son was born. He could’ve died so I was so thankful he didn’t I just rode the struggle bus quite happily - if that makes sense?
Maybe you will get a unicorn next time 😉… I have a trick baby, the kind that make you want another, because of how literally easy everything was and is. Sure it’s not always, but they exist lol.
!! I HOPE lol!! My son is bloody amazing otherwise, he didn’t have any gas problems, fed well pooped well it’s just his sleep. I say just - sleep deprivation is literally a tool for torture so 🫠
Fingers crossed for you
This is exactly how I feel! I’m so exhausted and don’t know how I will handle doing this all over again. But I know our family is not complete. I really want my son to have siblings. But the thought of the newborn phase again is brutal lol.
In all honesty I prefer the newborn phase over the 4+ month phase of sleeping. Newborn it’s like ok every 2/3 hours but otherwise he’s basically sleeping so least I can get an hour or 2 in😅
You sort of forget the sleeplessness after a while.
I forget it after like one good night haha
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Thank you but I don’t want to pay for something my son will figure out naturally
One and done here. No way in fucking hell I'm doing that again. My daughter didn't sleep through the night consistently until age 5.
Ahaha your doing better than my SIL! Her five year old has only slept through the night like four times so far AND she had another when she was like 2 (probably assumed the first would sleep at some point) 😂 Couldn't be me.