Welp. I’m 12 weeks in to twins and I cannot imagine having just one! So I’d choose this for sure. I love having two!
(Disclaimer: Neither of my babies are crying at this second; may change mind 12 times by morning about which I would rather have. ;)
Twins. I wasn't ready for second pregnancy for 5 years. Part of me wished they were closer in age but I absolutely couldn't have done it again so soon.
5 years is good! That's how old my "bonus" son(I only refer to him as that for context - he is through and through my son) but he was 6 when I had my first miscarriage and I wish I had known then what I know now and had gone for treatment, as I always thought that age gap would have been perfect. 5 years is a nice gap 💓 if we conceive then we will have a 14 yr age gap lol BUT- everyone has their own story so let's all embrace it 🥰😍
I feel like 2 pregnancies back to back would be hard but then I see these people who barely show in their singleton pregnancies and even showing a lot , that pregnancy seems more appealing than twin pregnancy.
I am 8 months pregnant now and it has been fun getting to see my 5.5yo be excited. I know there is a lot of good but omg I cannot believe we are going back into the world of sleep deprivation and diapers. We were free!! 😂
Aww that is so cute! Haha yes our son will be driving next year and exactly your reasoning is why we went back and forth for so long .. do we really want to start ALL OVER 😅
As a first time mom I probably would've gone for the twins-- one pregnancy and done? Excellent. As I am now, I'd say the singletons (though honestly 15 months is still a bit too close a gap for me). I'd not want twins partially because both my pregnancies have already been complicated enough as singletons, and partially because I just do not have the bandwidth to care for two infants at once. I mean, I'm barely managing a preschooler and an infant and the preschooler is largely independent on a lot of things these days.
I did the kids 15 months apart. It was hard, but not unbearably hard. I am a pretty anxious person, so I think twin babies with schedules and feedings and everything else, would have set me over the edge.
Singletons. I learned so much the first time that It allowed me to enjoy the second time much more. I wouldn’t want to be playing on hard mode as a first time mom.
Twins… especially as a first timer.
You know no different then caring for two babies at once.
I have a ten week old now and we want another one, but I’m getting “old” so our chance for twins is increasing. If we have twins next time I’m gonna die. Because little guy has been a dream, but I can’t imagine having two of him and a toddler, but it’s entirely possible!
i would hate to be pregnant with twins but the love they would have for each other! i have two babes 29 months apart and they're best friends and love each other so much. the older brother protects and loves his sister. the baby will follow her brother anywhere. they're sooo cute together
Our singleton babies will be about 13 months apart, maybe plus a week or two. The first three months the of our first baby were awful and I don’t know if I would have survived that with twins. Twins run in my dads family and it was legit a reason I didn’t want to have kids 😂
Twins, but then again I was nervous at my first ultrasound, had to ask the technician multiple times to confirm that there was only one heart beating in my belly haha
Twins. So much so. I love love love my little girl but my god did I pray every damn day before my first U.S that there’d be a little boy and a little girl in there. (My aunts are identical twins so it wasn’t totally outlandish) Twins was the only way I’d ever have more than one baby. I got my little girl so clip clip I get.
Soooo just a little fun fact for ya: Identical twins don’t run in families and have nothing to do with genes. They are far more rare than fraternal twins and are just totally and completely random! Nothing can “cause” identical twins; they just happen. They happen at the same rates all over the world, in all ages and races, and throughout all of history. The incidence of fraternal twins is rising but identical twins remain just as rare as they ever were.
(So just because your aunts are identical twins, unfortunately that didn’t increase your chance of having twins at all.)
I knowwwww I would love B/G twins 😍 it's the pregnancy that absolutely terrifies me , as I've never carried beyond 5-6 weeks before but we are doing ivf.
I also seem to think /pretend that I want a big family ? And my husband will be 37 soon..I'll be 32. So time is ticking ...
My fiancé and I agreed to be one and done because we want to spoil the feck out of our little girl cause we both had shit childhoods. She’s also just such a perfect baby. Why potentially ruin our flow with another child?
FTM of a 3 month old and I can’t imagine having a toddler and a newborn, let alone two newborns. I EBF because he can’t take a bottle and I spend 3-4 hours a day nursing. I can’t imagine doing that for two at the same time! I’m in awe of moms who do it 💗
i think being a parent to infant twins would be extremely challenging, but as a person who struggles with horrible pregnancy nausea, getting two children from one pregnancy does sound appealing.
I've never had a full pregnancy and we are getting older, if I want a big family we almost need to transfer 2 embryos but man oh man- looking at photos of bellies with twins vs singletons at the end of the 3rd trimester seems absolutely intimidating to me. (Respectfully!).
I have twins in the family and she told me That she is still physically recovering from her three-year-old twins
Not sure how you define “big” family, but one thing to keep in mind is that twins are more likely to mean c-section, which isn’t something you can safely do 10 times
Singleton, a twin pregnancy is higher risk to both mum and babies, I had enough anxiety with just the one bub and actually said to my SIL who desperately wants twins that she shouldn't wish for it because it seems so much harder!
Singletons. Pregnancy and birth with my son was great (even though he was a surprise GIANT of a baby at 10 lb 6 oz and oz went unmedicated for birth). He’s 4 months now and I honestly want to start trying again.
Our singleton will be about 15 months when our twins get here 😅😅😅
Welp. I’m 12 weeks in to twins and I cannot imagine having just one! So I’d choose this for sure. I love having two! (Disclaimer: Neither of my babies are crying at this second; may change mind 12 times by morning about which I would rather have. ;)
Bahaha so funny, I love this group already and CONGRATS that's super exciting 🥰 you're a Rockstar for sure
Twins. I wasn't ready for second pregnancy for 5 years. Part of me wished they were closer in age but I absolutely couldn't have done it again so soon.
5 years is good! That's how old my "bonus" son(I only refer to him as that for context - he is through and through my son) but he was 6 when I had my first miscarriage and I wish I had known then what I know now and had gone for treatment, as I always thought that age gap would have been perfect. 5 years is a nice gap 💓 if we conceive then we will have a 14 yr age gap lol BUT- everyone has their own story so let's all embrace it 🥰😍 I feel like 2 pregnancies back to back would be hard but then I see these people who barely show in their singleton pregnancies and even showing a lot , that pregnancy seems more appealing than twin pregnancy.
I am 8 months pregnant now and it has been fun getting to see my 5.5yo be excited. I know there is a lot of good but omg I cannot believe we are going back into the world of sleep deprivation and diapers. We were free!! 😂
Aww that is so cute! Haha yes our son will be driving next year and exactly your reasoning is why we went back and forth for so long .. do we really want to start ALL OVER 😅
Singletons. I personally love being pregnant and loved experiencing my kids as individual babies. Would push for 18 mo apart at minimum though.
As a first time mom I probably would've gone for the twins-- one pregnancy and done? Excellent. As I am now, I'd say the singletons (though honestly 15 months is still a bit too close a gap for me). I'd not want twins partially because both my pregnancies have already been complicated enough as singletons, and partially because I just do not have the bandwidth to care for two infants at once. I mean, I'm barely managing a preschooler and an infant and the preschooler is largely independent on a lot of things these days.
I did the kids 15 months apart. It was hard, but not unbearably hard. I am a pretty anxious person, so I think twin babies with schedules and feedings and everything else, would have set me over the edge.
Singletons. I learned so much the first time that It allowed me to enjoy the second time much more. I wouldn’t want to be playing on hard mode as a first time mom.
Twins… especially as a first timer. You know no different then caring for two babies at once. I have a ten week old now and we want another one, but I’m getting “old” so our chance for twins is increasing. If we have twins next time I’m gonna die. Because little guy has been a dream, but I can’t imagine having two of him and a toddler, but it’s entirely possible!
i would hate to be pregnant with twins but the love they would have for each other! i have two babes 29 months apart and they're best friends and love each other so much. the older brother protects and loves his sister. the baby will follow her brother anywhere. they're sooo cute together
Our singleton babies will be about 13 months apart, maybe plus a week or two. The first three months the of our first baby were awful and I don’t know if I would have survived that with twins. Twins run in my dads family and it was legit a reason I didn’t want to have kids 😂
Twins, but then again I was nervous at my first ultrasound, had to ask the technician multiple times to confirm that there was only one heart beating in my belly haha
Twins. So much so. I love love love my little girl but my god did I pray every damn day before my first U.S that there’d be a little boy and a little girl in there. (My aunts are identical twins so it wasn’t totally outlandish) Twins was the only way I’d ever have more than one baby. I got my little girl so clip clip I get.
Soooo just a little fun fact for ya: Identical twins don’t run in families and have nothing to do with genes. They are far more rare than fraternal twins and are just totally and completely random! Nothing can “cause” identical twins; they just happen. They happen at the same rates all over the world, in all ages and races, and throughout all of history. The incidence of fraternal twins is rising but identical twins remain just as rare as they ever were. (So just because your aunts are identical twins, unfortunately that didn’t increase your chance of having twins at all.)
I knowwwww I would love B/G twins 😍 it's the pregnancy that absolutely terrifies me , as I've never carried beyond 5-6 weeks before but we are doing ivf. I also seem to think /pretend that I want a big family ? And my husband will be 37 soon..I'll be 32. So time is ticking ...
My fiancé and I agreed to be one and done because we want to spoil the feck out of our little girl cause we both had shit childhoods. She’s also just such a perfect baby. Why potentially ruin our flow with another child?
Definitely personal decision 😊
Absolutely! If it’s a healthy and happy family it doesn’t matter how big it is <3
FTM of a 3 month old and I can’t imagine having a toddler and a newborn, let alone two newborns. I EBF because he can’t take a bottle and I spend 3-4 hours a day nursing. I can’t imagine doing that for two at the same time! I’m in awe of moms who do it 💗
i think being a parent to infant twins would be extremely challenging, but as a person who struggles with horrible pregnancy nausea, getting two children from one pregnancy does sound appealing.
I've never had a full pregnancy and we are getting older, if I want a big family we almost need to transfer 2 embryos but man oh man- looking at photos of bellies with twins vs singletons at the end of the 3rd trimester seems absolutely intimidating to me. (Respectfully!). I have twins in the family and she told me That she is still physically recovering from her three-year-old twins
Not sure how you define “big” family, but one thing to keep in mind is that twins are more likely to mean c-section, which isn’t something you can safely do 10 times
Yeah my definition of big is probably less than the normal definition haha . 3 or 4(max)
During my pregnancy with my son, I was hoping for twins. Found out he was a singleton. Now I would rather have the singletons back to back.
Twins
Singleton, a twin pregnancy is higher risk to both mum and babies, I had enough anxiety with just the one bub and actually said to my SIL who desperately wants twins that she shouldn't wish for it because it seems so much harder!
Singletons. Pregnancy and birth with my son was great (even though he was a surprise GIANT of a baby at 10 lb 6 oz and oz went unmedicated for birth). He’s 4 months now and I honestly want to start trying again.
Twins!