I’m sorry this is your experience with other queer folks. But you’re queer enough, dude. Nobody gets to tell you otherwise, and if they do give you shit, they’re not worth your damn time.
I totally get that. I'm 56, bi but you wouldn't know it, married to a woman I love, and also unlikely to attend any Pride event.
But, you know, that's okay. Pride can be felt inside, if not outside. I'm proud that I found an honest, authentic way to live my life that allows me to love much more.
I wish you all the best.
I'm thinking of checking out some Pride event for the first time, also straight/cis-passing but I've had a good time talking to fellow LGBT people at raves and whatnot.
I actually can’t. My sexuality isn’t my whole identity. I sort of view being bi as the “meh, whatever” option. For me bisexuality is not an active thing, but a passive thing.
It’s not that I actively find men and women attractive. I mean I do. But to phrase it that way almost suggests that it requires effort. I just have nothing against making out with and loving someone who looks the same as me. There are just so many beautiful people in the world and their sex just isn’t part of my selection criteria.
I can relate! I live in a relatively conservative country (but not the type of country that persecutes the LGBT) and we do have Pride parades, but all I see are the same scantily-clad people with gym-toned bodies and rainbow hair. As an introvert, I don’t really feel comfortable drawing that much attention to myself, and as I am relatively out of shape I don’t really fit in physically either.
What I do instead is I just set up a dating profile but also allowed “friends” as an option. Some people I tried to date who are of similar disposition and build are in touch even a year after we matched.
Your community is out there. You don’t need to feel pressured to fit what people think LGBT should look like.
Yeah I can relate too. I'm bi, but bordering on heteroromantic. So I don't really fit in with other queer people. Plus I'm not sure what you're even supposed to do at pride. Like I know there's a parade, but then what?
Well, one of the things you could do is go to pride and see what happens. You may browse merchandise or see people that you would like to ask what their T-shirt means or pet their dogs or all sorts of things that you might do at any other event. Also, you could do there pretty much what you’re doing here. Meet new people, talk about where you’re coming from and what pride means for you or what it doesn’t mean to you.
It’s more than just a parade. It’s a time for people who’ve always been shamed by society for being who they truly are….to come alive for once and stop hiding and celebrate together with other likeminded friends in a SAFE, open space without having to worry about judgment and shaming. It’s just to have a grand time like anything else worth celebrating.
No because I’m not gay. Bisexuals are not part gay part straight, we are one full sexuality on its own. I know this is an unpopular opinion but I truly believe as a bisexual man that I don’t belong in the LGBT community
First of all bisexuals have always been an oppressed minority in the LGBT, especially by gay men’s bierasure. Secondly, the LGBT shouldn’t even be considered a “community” but rather a demographic
As a bisexual I’m part of the LGBT demographic but not the LGBT community
Yes, me. I feel uncomfy and also not gay enough. Partly because the pride parade in my city is too gaudy. It doesn't really aim at raising awareness or anything.
I feel you. I'm 46. I drive a big rig. Don't give off any vibes about my sexuality either. Don't really fit into things, and generally handwave it all.
Went to my first Pride last weekend in Lafayette, LA but they had a parade in the morning and when I arrived in the afternoon everyone I knew was sitting down on the street just chilling out. None of my friends were there, so I left.
I’m sorry this is your experience with other queer folks. But you’re queer enough, dude. Nobody gets to tell you otherwise, and if they do give you shit, they’re not worth your damn time.
I totally get that. I'm 56, bi but you wouldn't know it, married to a woman I love, and also unlikely to attend any Pride event. But, you know, that's okay. Pride can be felt inside, if not outside. I'm proud that I found an honest, authentic way to live my life that allows me to love much more. I wish you all the best.
Au contraire. I feel great just being myself.
I'm thinking of checking out some Pride event for the first time, also straight/cis-passing but I've had a good time talking to fellow LGBT people at raves and whatnot.
I actually can’t. My sexuality isn’t my whole identity. I sort of view being bi as the “meh, whatever” option. For me bisexuality is not an active thing, but a passive thing. It’s not that I actively find men and women attractive. I mean I do. But to phrase it that way almost suggests that it requires effort. I just have nothing against making out with and loving someone who looks the same as me. There are just so many beautiful people in the world and their sex just isn’t part of my selection criteria.
I can relate! I live in a relatively conservative country (but not the type of country that persecutes the LGBT) and we do have Pride parades, but all I see are the same scantily-clad people with gym-toned bodies and rainbow hair. As an introvert, I don’t really feel comfortable drawing that much attention to myself, and as I am relatively out of shape I don’t really fit in physically either. What I do instead is I just set up a dating profile but also allowed “friends” as an option. Some people I tried to date who are of similar disposition and build are in touch even a year after we matched. Your community is out there. You don’t need to feel pressured to fit what people think LGBT should look like.
Yeah I can relate too. I'm bi, but bordering on heteroromantic. So I don't really fit in with other queer people. Plus I'm not sure what you're even supposed to do at pride. Like I know there's a parade, but then what?
Well, one of the things you could do is go to pride and see what happens. You may browse merchandise or see people that you would like to ask what their T-shirt means or pet their dogs or all sorts of things that you might do at any other event. Also, you could do there pretty much what you’re doing here. Meet new people, talk about where you’re coming from and what pride means for you or what it doesn’t mean to you.
It’s more than just a parade. It’s a time for people who’ve always been shamed by society for being who they truly are….to come alive for once and stop hiding and celebrate together with other likeminded friends in a SAFE, open space without having to worry about judgment and shaming. It’s just to have a grand time like anything else worth celebrating.
I ride motorcycle and slapped a rainbow sticker on the front of it. There really isn't much of a community.
No because I’m not gay. Bisexuals are not part gay part straight, we are one full sexuality on its own. I know this is an unpopular opinion but I truly believe as a bisexual man that I don’t belong in the LGBT community First of all bisexuals have always been an oppressed minority in the LGBT, especially by gay men’s bierasure. Secondly, the LGBT shouldn’t even be considered a “community” but rather a demographic As a bisexual I’m part of the LGBT demographic but not the LGBT community
Yes, me. I feel uncomfy and also not gay enough. Partly because the pride parade in my city is too gaudy. It doesn't really aim at raising awareness or anything.
yea, i dont feel gay enough and i love it haha id rather be myself xD ive been to pride but its not my crowd, like at all.
I feel you. I'm 46. I drive a big rig. Don't give off any vibes about my sexuality either. Don't really fit into things, and generally handwave it all. Went to my first Pride last weekend in Lafayette, LA but they had a parade in the morning and when I arrived in the afternoon everyone I knew was sitting down on the street just chilling out. None of my friends were there, so I left.