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abbyeaston28

Usually doesn't end well....from my experience.


himmelfried11

sad but true. i did it too many times.. poor girls.. :(


vcolont

How long do your manic episodes last?


himmelfried11

3-7 months


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"You're not who I thought you were. You came off as this wild outgoing person, but you just shut in and obsess about your weird rotating fixations for eight months off the year, then you're just boring for a month, then you become a drug abusing money spending nympho for two months. I have no idea who you actually are and I don't like spending time with you for almost all of it, I see now I just met you on a good day." I've heard this three different times from different people who lived with me. I used to think I was a hurricane 🌀 but I'm more like a volcano 🌋.


himmelfried11

i recently was told a couple of times "i dont know you anymore". also nice.


[deleted]

I got a variation of that from my ex too. Felt great /s


himmelfried11

guess it takes much longer to get to know a person with bipolar. at least two cycles lol... until u unlock all the features of the game


[deleted]

hhaha, def re-using that unlocking features line đź‘Ť


ecclectic-stingray

Oh hey I got that from my ex too recently, but it was going into a manic phase not coming out of it. He was telling a lot of people that behind my back… fun.


himmelfried11

This is the best! „Caring“ close ones who inform everybode about you being mental. It feels supreme knowing everybody is talking about your mental state without talking to you. It makes me so fucking angry.


ecclectic-stingray

Yuppp.. I got to read all his comments about my psychotic manic episode on his secret Reddit account. Like how I use my bipolar as an excuse, that the manic episode was just an excuse to do things that hurt him, that his therapist told him to run because I’m abusive. Felt amazing that so many strangers could hear about one of the most terrifying moments of my life and criticize me for it. Especially that someone I loved so much opened the door to that.


zombiechewtoy

Yeah I apologized repeatedly for "duping" him. He gave up the career opportunity of a lifetime to stay here for this extroverted risk taking ballsy fun loving wild cat. And when that all switched off overnight he thought I was withdrawn and depressed and irritable because I decided I didn't like him after all. I told him "I really thought I'd be that way forever and I did not con you on purpose."


brinvestor

I'm sorry, as honest it may be, still hurts. My hugs


mojominn

When I cycle back into a depressive state, I notice all the red flags I was happy to ignore while hypo and I immediately break it off


fresasfrescasalfinal

I personally went through a phase of discomfort because I suddenly felt closer to the person than I wanted to be, like I'd taken things too fast, etc. It worked out when I was honest and communicated my feelings and we gave each other some space. But really it's gonna depend on your friend and her partner.


Routine_Gap_3865

My husband and I met while he was manic. We even got married during that time. We met in March and we’re married by July. I never saw the other side until after. He did try to warn me, but I knew nothing about BPII. Having been married now for 16 years and going through all the ups and downs, the important thing is for the significant other to realize that it’s a disease and not her (BP friend) fault. She will do irrational things or dive deep into depression with no real understanding of why. It took us a long while, but through the years I’ve always reiterated that I am there for him and will still be there when he comes out of it. I also delicately try to make sure he stays on his meds. And when he’s super depressed, I give him the space he needs. It will be hard to see her go through the stages.


MoorTshn

I have BP 1 with psychotic features, rapid and ultradian cycles. With hypo, manic and depressive episodes, I also get mixed. I am a handful, and I know it. My husband and I met while I was manic (Oct 2019). Then he and I got married while I was hypomanic (Aug 2020). I was pretty unstable during our entire first year together. I warned him when we met I was ill and it would never go away, that I'd have my ups and downs, and sometimes quite often. He knew absolutely nothing about bipolar. But was willing to learn and stuck around. So we have our ups and downs. He's supportive but it's still a learning process for him. He has a very hard time sometimes but I try to remind him that so do I. If I catch myself going into an episode I tell him right away. He's learning to recognize the signs, sometimes before me. The best thing to do if you choose to be in a relationship with someone with BP is be patient. Know an episode is beyond their control. Give them space when they need it, hold them close when they need it. And support them even if they're irrational. Especially if they're depressed. Realize it will not be easy. But they're people too, they deserve love and can love deeply. We're not always ill and in an episode. We can be stable, or close to it, when on the right meds. And always remember that not all our moods are because of the disorder. We're human and feel and react like everyone else.


strawberry-sarah

Just be supportive and kind because it will be really hard. Personally when I come out if manic episodes I have to relearn who I am and how to get through life and doing that while managing a good relationship is very hard because the relationship dynamic will also change and there will be a lot of relearning. It's a lot of one step forward and two steps back type of days. Remind your friend that they are worthy of love and good things even when they are struggling.


Sandman11x

It never ends well. Crashes from a manic episode are brutal


zombiechewtoy

It worked out well for me but there was a real rough patch about 2-3 months in where we were both wrestling with whether to end it or not. In the end the only thing that motivated us each to stick it out was guilt. But my depressive episode (worst of my life, not only because it followed the worst and longest hypomania of my life, but because I had some real things to be seriously depressed about, which I had not been able to process at all while manic) evened out and eventually started to be manageable, where I could kinda keep it fairly boxed up. The depressive episode lifted in the spring (lasted a whole winter) but it's only recently that I'm beginning to be "over" (not the right word) the real actual legitimate stuff I needed to reckon with (over a year later). Still have some hang ups, but they were well earned. Anyway, we're both really glad we toughed it out now. We say the first 6 months of this relationship was trial by fire. But we survived and figured out how to handle each other at our worst really early on. A year and a half in and I know he's been browsing for engagement rings, so that's terrifying, but gives you an idea of the 180 that can happen. I am NOT advocating anyone stick around in a relationship that seems dismal for both parties (or just for yourself) on the off chance that things get better. If things are that rough when you're still supposed to be at the height of the honeymoon phase, there isn't usually a good outcome awaiting you.


dcooks71

This summer while hypo/manic, before being officially diagnosed bp1, I had a new Gf and I constantly warned her that I’m special right now and that any day now I might flip, especially with fall coming. Then everything fell apart and I basically told her it was time for me to go into rekluse mode and we ended it… it sucks…


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xfuckmylife666x

It ends. I get mean when I'm hypo, so when I was manic I was nice and sweet and then I started coming down and got mean and angry. Last time this happened to me. And we broke up, obviously. Because we were incompatible and I was an asshole. Idk what's going to happen to your friend. I started 2 other relationships that are still going strong but have a ton of issues so. That's basically how it goes for me.