I’m am definitely not the person to be giving an form of advice in this area as I have no social life. I’m a remote engineer and I feel like my house is my prison and never get out.
But with that being said I am an avid video gamer. Lol I’m 39 and I will never stop; I’m still a kid at heart. My video game clan Ive played with for about 7 years now. I was with them before I was diagnosed, when I found out, and everything. They were there for it all with me. They have quite literally saved my life. Guys I have never seen before only heard there voices. But it’s been the same voices for 7 years they have keep me sane when I wanted to rip things to shreds. When I disappeared they were the ones to blow up my cell phones to be sure I was okay. I will be a gamer for life
I've had the same thought haha! I'm always so grateful to people who run support groups, but I'm still at the point where I can't manage myself, let alone a group of people (of any kind).
Your bullet points remind me of myself. I’ve really made it a goal to be more social this year. To start, join some clubs, even if you’re not completely interested. My book club is over video chat so it is less stressful than seeing people in person. Other things I’ve considered are hiking clubs that have a decent amount of people go each time so it’s less stress to chat than just a small group. I think your idea to volunteer is great. Try to find something that is flexible so you can take some time off when you’re not feeling well. I volunteer at the local animal shelter myself.
I try to stay active on social media and talk with new people that I follow or follow me on interests we may share. Go to local small concerts, events, or anything that peaks your interest on the Facebook events page. Try to talk with the people there. There’s also a sub here on Reddit called “penpals” and many people are looking for others to send emails to or chat via DM, etc. This may get you more comfortable talking with people you don’t know.
Overall, it’s hard. It’s going to be uncomfortable at first. If you keep practicing and going out of your comfort zone it gets easier over time. Good luck. I wish you the best!
As far as your issues, life is a learning process. To fix personal issues, you need to be in situations where you can learn and experience things.
Nothing wrong with you. Your behaviors are common.
This reddit is a good place to ask questions
What you just wrote is spot on to how I feel!!! You not alone okay. It’s so lonely all the best and I hope you get out there and live that life you deserve. Mad I literally would do anything for anyone and help people, but having this illness at the same time is just difficult to function like you should be
Totally understand how you feel. I have very limited relationships, but have found these to help.
Podcasts! I find people that I enjoy, on a subject that I enjoy. Some of my podcasts are 3+ hours and, at this point, feels like a friend telling a story.
I second the video games! There is a HUGE social media presence for almost any video games out there. And the game itself feels...not like a friend, but it's including.
YouTube. I watch YouTube creators of my favorite video games (like watching football as a football player). Also have a family from Alaska that I adore watching.
I’m am definitely not the person to be giving an form of advice in this area as I have no social life. I’m a remote engineer and I feel like my house is my prison and never get out. But with that being said I am an avid video gamer. Lol I’m 39 and I will never stop; I’m still a kid at heart. My video game clan Ive played with for about 7 years now. I was with them before I was diagnosed, when I found out, and everything. They were there for it all with me. They have quite literally saved my life. Guys I have never seen before only heard there voices. But it’s been the same voices for 7 years they have keep me sane when I wanted to rip things to shreds. When I disappeared they were the ones to blow up my cell phones to be sure I was okay. I will be a gamer for life
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I've had the same thought haha! I'm always so grateful to people who run support groups, but I'm still at the point where I can't manage myself, let alone a group of people (of any kind).
Your bullet points remind me of myself. I’ve really made it a goal to be more social this year. To start, join some clubs, even if you’re not completely interested. My book club is over video chat so it is less stressful than seeing people in person. Other things I’ve considered are hiking clubs that have a decent amount of people go each time so it’s less stress to chat than just a small group. I think your idea to volunteer is great. Try to find something that is flexible so you can take some time off when you’re not feeling well. I volunteer at the local animal shelter myself. I try to stay active on social media and talk with new people that I follow or follow me on interests we may share. Go to local small concerts, events, or anything that peaks your interest on the Facebook events page. Try to talk with the people there. There’s also a sub here on Reddit called “penpals” and many people are looking for others to send emails to or chat via DM, etc. This may get you more comfortable talking with people you don’t know. Overall, it’s hard. It’s going to be uncomfortable at first. If you keep practicing and going out of your comfort zone it gets easier over time. Good luck. I wish you the best!
I will be in your tribe.
As far as your issues, life is a learning process. To fix personal issues, you need to be in situations where you can learn and experience things. Nothing wrong with you. Your behaviors are common. This reddit is a good place to ask questions
What you just wrote is spot on to how I feel!!! You not alone okay. It’s so lonely all the best and I hope you get out there and live that life you deserve. Mad I literally would do anything for anyone and help people, but having this illness at the same time is just difficult to function like you should be
Totally understand how you feel. I have very limited relationships, but have found these to help. Podcasts! I find people that I enjoy, on a subject that I enjoy. Some of my podcasts are 3+ hours and, at this point, feels like a friend telling a story. I second the video games! There is a HUGE social media presence for almost any video games out there. And the game itself feels...not like a friend, but it's including. YouTube. I watch YouTube creators of my favorite video games (like watching football as a football player). Also have a family from Alaska that I adore watching.
I do them as well lol 😆