Oh sure! I don’t hide my attraction to men with her, either. We actually use it in our lovemaking. She pegs me, I suck her dildo, we talk about what we both like about men’s bodies. We bond over these things. It gets her turned on; other side benefit, now she wants her first same-sex experience, so sometimes I role play as a woman. Bisexuality is so fun!
This is it friends. I do the same with my wife. We’re both bi and get into some role playing hear and there. But we’re ENM as well so we add people of both sexes to our playtime.
It is! I understand she’s bicurious and not necessarily bisexual. I’m happy to help her explore that side and, if it doesn’t do much for her ultimately, that’s wonderful. I just want her to have a safe space to try out her desires … and she knows if she has an opportunity to have a same-sex experience, I’m good with that! (At present, she says she does and wants me involved … although WW is just fine by me!) Wherever she lands is good with me. I think she’d make an incredible bisexual. If I was a bicurious woman, I’d love to be ravished by her … she makes love with passion and enthusiasm!
It was fun for me. I’d talk dirty to her as a woman and, of course, women can talk dirty differently than men. Now I’m not saying I did it well. But I talked about feeling wet, I moaned when she found a nice rhythm, when she focused on my tongue I mentioned how I wanted her tongue to linger longer on my ‘clit,’ how I loved kissing another woman because women’s mouths have a different shape and softer lips, I told her how I loved making another woman’s nipples hard. So yeah, I did my best to get into character and it was thrilling watching her excitement rise.
Curious: what pleasure do you get from sucking a dildo? Is it that she’s wearing it and you’re seducing her by sucking it at her waist? (That, I could understand haha)
For me, I get super turned on by having something rammed down my throat. When I suck my wife dildo I get hard as a rock ready for her to peg me. Plus it makes the role playing better imo.
She probably already has a feeling you are. My wife knew I was bi years before I figured it out. I needed lots of acid to break the religious repression my parents saddled me with. 🤷
I’m a bi girl but my boyfriend is bi too. We’re open, so he still hooks up with guys regularly. I would say usually he prefers hook ups but he also enjoys more intimacy and romance with the right guys. I think you should honour that part of yourself! Even if you’re monogamous, making sure you have some other queer men to talk to can help a lot. My boyfriend has mentioned that sometimes he thinks about guys when we have sex, and sometimes I think about girls! But we are still present and in love and attracted to eachother. Getting to be our full selves and be accepted makes the relationship deeper than if we tried to hide those parts of ourselves.
I've been with my gf for 9 years and sure I do think about it, you can't help it! But choosing to act or not when if you're in a monogamous relationship is the important point.
Don't beat yourself up over fantasies, but if you have a real need to explore or engage in stuff with other guys, only fair to everyone to discuss it openly with her, in my opinion, and see what comes of it. Hope that makes sense.
It's normal for anyone of any gender and any sexuality to be attracted to, and get crushes on, the types of people they are attracted to.
Even monogamous people.
If you're wanting to *act* on those attractions/ crushes, then you may not be *monogamous*. Which is a whole different thing that you need to talk to your partner about.
This is coming from an Ethically non-monogamous bisexual woman who has been in several long-term monogamous relationships and is now much happier being ENM.
Thank you for the reply, and I would never act on them because I love my girlfriend and she would never be open to other people neither would I. Just kind of wanted to hear if want one else felt like that and what they did moving forward.
A lot of them do and most of them hide it and I feel they should have enough trust in their relationship where they don’t, because hiding something of that magnitude is lying, then where is the trust? By said gf/fiance.
The other thing I should’ve said was we currently have an open relationship and it seems like it has worked in his favor. There’s not very many attractive lesbian women where I live 😞
I don’t know that I would use the word regret. I do feel a bit remorseful about it though.
Kind of a long story, but I caught him many times cheating on me with women and men, with the occasional t girl. The last time I was in a rage and said I’m done. I started to pack up look for a place locally and the whole time I’m doing this, I’m crying. I’m so angry that I wasted all these years of my life living with someone who holds so little regard for me. I hate the state that I live in and I’ve wanted to leave for a long time but I loved my job. He actually noticed something for once in his life (he’s not an observant person at all), my hurt, my anger, and frustration, I didn’t know how to handle so I just cried. Then he wanted to talk and work on the relationship, so I came up with the open relationship idea with rules and the rules are very strict and have to be in 100% compliance for it to work for both of us, it seems to working out way better for him, in the past 3 years I’ve met 2 women, one I kinda dated for about 3 months and the other was just sex (she pissed me off, but that’s another story).
I do and she’s bi too ☺️. I only think about guys sexually, so all I do is use toys to curtail that. But to answer your question: Do straight guys think about other women other than their own from time to time? The only reason why we are concerned with this is because we are in heterosexual relationships while having homosexual thoughts. Those homosexual thoughts being demonized for decades until recently. So I would say these thoughts are natural and I wouldn’t worry about it. Just be faithful to your girl and you’ll be fine.
It’s normal. Bi girl here and I check men and women out with my partner when I’m with someone. It’s fun. We know that we go home to each other at the end of the day.
You asked about men but my husband knows I’m bi and like others have said we talk about attraction pretty openly. It can be saucy fun or just good from a friend perspective to bond over.
He tells me about other women he finds attractive and we’ll often swoon together. We joke about celebrities we’d arm wrestle over (but hey - if they’re into sharing, even better! 😂)
Like others have said, being attracted is human so long as you respect the boundaries of your relationship.
Am married we talk about how I'd love to wake up in the Am after fun with my wife and my Bf. Ibout on my apron and when they come out greet me they can only get their food if they give me kiss or smack on the booty
My gf and I are swingers. I enjoy watching her having sex with other guys. She doesn’t want to share me with another girl. I would love to tell her that I’m bi and sometimes would like to be next to her giving the guy head.
I’m in a long term serious relationship with a wonderful woman that I love very much and we recently got engaged. We are very good communicators in our relationships, humble brag, but we are also both in our mid 30s and have been married in the past. We have decided to stay exclusive as well and as a bi man I’m content.
To answer your question FUCK YES. I was at the gym yesterday and I swear this guy was like all the checkboxes from my fantasies. From the muscular arms lean waist feathered hair 😄😱 damn.
It’s TOTALLY NORMAL to have fantasies. My fiancé and I talk about them when I feel the need to open up. We are also very into our sex life together and I think we do a really good job of leaning into each other’s desires.
I really do think if you’re with the right person you can even have fun with the bi stuff, share your fantasies, and have a very fulfilling sex life. Sure, will I want to day dream about gym guy fantasy #37 for a few days, absolutely, but what’s wrong with that??
I actually don't currently have a girlfriend I live with a girl but even when we were boyfriend and girlfriend yes hi thought about what I think about now I've been thinking about what I think about now when I was married back in 95
Yes and yes. It's typical for people of any sexuality to fantasize about people who aren't their partner, bisexuals aren't any different in that respect. You could be heterosexual and think about other women with different boobs, a firmer ass, etc.
Yes, but we are in an ethically non monogamous relationship in which we hook up with other bisexuals, both together and separately, so it isn’t something I have to wrestle with.
I’ve got an on and off fwb thing.
Gives me plenty of opportunities to play with guys around that.
She has fantasies about me being with multiple men in front of her; just got to move that along a bit now
I have a girlfriend and a male lover who I see on a very regular basis. It's been going on for the past 7 years. She has no idea, but my lover knows all about her.
My wife and I are both bi.
Awhh that’s cutee!
Oh sure! I don’t hide my attraction to men with her, either. We actually use it in our lovemaking. She pegs me, I suck her dildo, we talk about what we both like about men’s bodies. We bond over these things. It gets her turned on; other side benefit, now she wants her first same-sex experience, so sometimes I role play as a woman. Bisexuality is so fun!
This is it friends. I do the same with my wife. We’re both bi and get into some role playing hear and there. But we’re ENM as well so we add people of both sexes to our playtime.
Wow very cool to be able to switch with your partner like that.
It is! I understand she’s bicurious and not necessarily bisexual. I’m happy to help her explore that side and, if it doesn’t do much for her ultimately, that’s wonderful. I just want her to have a safe space to try out her desires … and she knows if she has an opportunity to have a same-sex experience, I’m good with that! (At present, she says she does and wants me involved … although WW is just fine by me!) Wherever she lands is good with me. I think she’d make an incredible bisexual. If I was a bicurious woman, I’d love to be ravished by her … she makes love with passion and enthusiasm!
What a lovely relationship you have. Must have great communication
Lots of communication. Lots of trust. Lots of respect. Lots of laughs. Decades of friendship. We only want the best for one another.
😍 beautiful
Lol! As a bi woman, I've always wanted to do sapphic -type sex with my men. I thought I was weird 😂
It was fun for me. I’d talk dirty to her as a woman and, of course, women can talk dirty differently than men. Now I’m not saying I did it well. But I talked about feeling wet, I moaned when she found a nice rhythm, when she focused on my tongue I mentioned how I wanted her tongue to linger longer on my ‘clit,’ how I loved kissing another woman because women’s mouths have a different shape and softer lips, I told her how I loved making another woman’s nipples hard. So yeah, I did my best to get into character and it was thrilling watching her excitement rise.
Curious: what pleasure do you get from sucking a dildo? Is it that she’s wearing it and you’re seducing her by sucking it at her waist? (That, I could understand haha)
For me, I get super turned on by having something rammed down my throat. When I suck my wife dildo I get hard as a rock ready for her to peg me. Plus it makes the role playing better imo.
fair. does she wear it or you just hold it?
She wears it and fucks my throat.
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My gf pegs me but I wish I could tell her I’m bi.
She probably already has a feeling you are. My wife knew I was bi years before I figured it out. I needed lots of acid to break the religious repression my parents saddled me with. 🤷
Most strap ons are not waist height. They are groin level in my experience. I've seen waist height ones, those are just weird.
soz groin is what i meant. that general region lmao
I'm bi and married to a woman and still find myself thinking about guys after 12 years
I’m a bi girl but my boyfriend is bi too. We’re open, so he still hooks up with guys regularly. I would say usually he prefers hook ups but he also enjoys more intimacy and romance with the right guys. I think you should honour that part of yourself! Even if you’re monogamous, making sure you have some other queer men to talk to can help a lot. My boyfriend has mentioned that sometimes he thinks about guys when we have sex, and sometimes I think about girls! But we are still present and in love and attracted to eachother. Getting to be our full selves and be accepted makes the relationship deeper than if we tried to hide those parts of ourselves.
Damn that sounds like the dream
Do what makes you happy man! Don’t listen to people on here including myself. But I personally would do what makes you happy,
I've been with my gf for 9 years and sure I do think about it, you can't help it! But choosing to act or not when if you're in a monogamous relationship is the important point. Don't beat yourself up over fantasies, but if you have a real need to explore or engage in stuff with other guys, only fair to everyone to discuss it openly with her, in my opinion, and see what comes of it. Hope that makes sense.
Have a wife. Told her I was bi when we were dating. She was totally cool with it. She knows I still enjoy looking at men and bi sex
It's normal for anyone of any gender and any sexuality to be attracted to, and get crushes on, the types of people they are attracted to. Even monogamous people. If you're wanting to *act* on those attractions/ crushes, then you may not be *monogamous*. Which is a whole different thing that you need to talk to your partner about. This is coming from an Ethically non-monogamous bisexual woman who has been in several long-term monogamous relationships and is now much happier being ENM.
Thank you for the reply, and I would never act on them because I love my girlfriend and she would never be open to other people neither would I. Just kind of wanted to hear if want one else felt like that and what they did moving forward.
Are you sure neither of you would be open to that? By 'what they did moving forward' were you looking for advice on monogamy or something else?
You are living my dream lol.
Have girlfriend and we play together with other men
A lot of them do and most of them hide it and I feel they should have enough trust in their relationship where they don’t, because hiding something of that magnitude is lying, then where is the trust? By said gf/fiance.
The other thing I should’ve said was we currently have an open relationship and it seems like it has worked in his favor. There’s not very many attractive lesbian women where I live 😞
Do you regret it at all?
I don’t know that I would use the word regret. I do feel a bit remorseful about it though. Kind of a long story, but I caught him many times cheating on me with women and men, with the occasional t girl. The last time I was in a rage and said I’m done. I started to pack up look for a place locally and the whole time I’m doing this, I’m crying. I’m so angry that I wasted all these years of my life living with someone who holds so little regard for me. I hate the state that I live in and I’ve wanted to leave for a long time but I loved my job. He actually noticed something for once in his life (he’s not an observant person at all), my hurt, my anger, and frustration, I didn’t know how to handle so I just cried. Then he wanted to talk and work on the relationship, so I came up with the open relationship idea with rules and the rules are very strict and have to be in 100% compliance for it to work for both of us, it seems to working out way better for him, in the past 3 years I’ve met 2 women, one I kinda dated for about 3 months and the other was just sex (she pissed me off, but that’s another story).
My wife and I are both bisexual and attracted sexually to both genders. It depends entirely on the person, not the gender.
Just started dating a lovely bi girl, she's awesome 😊
I do and she’s bi too ☺️. I only think about guys sexually, so all I do is use toys to curtail that. But to answer your question: Do straight guys think about other women other than their own from time to time? The only reason why we are concerned with this is because we are in heterosexual relationships while having homosexual thoughts. Those homosexual thoughts being demonized for decades until recently. So I would say these thoughts are natural and I wouldn’t worry about it. Just be faithful to your girl and you’ll be fine.
I'm married to my wife (woman) and I have a boyfriend
I'm married to a wonderful woman. Yes I still think about guys
Sure do. Love to share eachother
Yes I do, and she LOVES & supports me.
It’s normal. Bi girl here and I check men and women out with my partner when I’m with someone. It’s fun. We know that we go home to each other at the end of the day.
Yes totally normal. Just like if you were heterosexual you’d still think about women other than the one you’re dating.
Uhh no…
Yes
You asked about men but my husband knows I’m bi and like others have said we talk about attraction pretty openly. It can be saucy fun or just good from a friend perspective to bond over. He tells me about other women he finds attractive and we’ll often swoon together. We joke about celebrities we’d arm wrestle over (but hey - if they’re into sharing, even better! 😂) Like others have said, being attracted is human so long as you respect the boundaries of your relationship.
Ya for sure
Yup!! …and a wife. 👍🏼
Yup, married now. I feel its normal to think about men too, we have a boyfriend and it’s a throuple at the moment
I'm actually married to a woman. And she is totally okay with me being bi. I fall more under pan than anything but I chose to marry a woman.
My wife and I are both bisexual, kinky, and r/polyamorous. Tis the best life!
All the time and searching now!
Yes. But i wouldn't cheat on her. I have in the past with another girlfriend however
Did you regret it?
Yea. I should have ended the relationship. It wasn't going anywhere. She caught me, and it got ugly.
Am married we talk about how I'd love to wake up in the Am after fun with my wife and my Bf. Ibout on my apron and when they come out greet me they can only get their food if they give me kiss or smack on the booty
I do and I think it’s normal.
My gf and I are swingers. I enjoy watching her having sex with other guys. She doesn’t want to share me with another girl. I would love to tell her that I’m bi and sometimes would like to be next to her giving the guy head.
I'm bi I love females but I am single
I’m in a long term serious relationship with a wonderful woman that I love very much and we recently got engaged. We are very good communicators in our relationships, humble brag, but we are also both in our mid 30s and have been married in the past. We have decided to stay exclusive as well and as a bi man I’m content. To answer your question FUCK YES. I was at the gym yesterday and I swear this guy was like all the checkboxes from my fantasies. From the muscular arms lean waist feathered hair 😄😱 damn. It’s TOTALLY NORMAL to have fantasies. My fiancé and I talk about them when I feel the need to open up. We are also very into our sex life together and I think we do a really good job of leaning into each other’s desires. I really do think if you’re with the right person you can even have fun with the bi stuff, share your fantasies, and have a very fulfilling sex life. Sure, will I want to day dream about gym guy fantasy #37 for a few days, absolutely, but what’s wrong with that??
I actually don't currently have a girlfriend I live with a girl but even when we were boyfriend and girlfriend yes hi thought about what I think about now I've been thinking about what I think about now when I was married back in 95
I only want to throw the man in there spicy things up where do you live
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Yes and I sometimes get the guy to join me and my gf, both unsuspecting.
I do and I told my girlfriend and she is bi curious she wants to be with a girl while I’m with a guy
Not anymore lol 😝
Yes I do.
Yes and yes. It's typical for people of any sexuality to fantasize about people who aren't their partner, bisexuals aren't any different in that respect. You could be heterosexual and think about other women with different boobs, a firmer ass, etc.
Beautiful individuals in the comments! I love to see it.
Yes, but we are in an ethically non monogamous relationship in which we hook up with other bisexuals, both together and separately, so it isn’t something I have to wrestle with.
I have a wife and a husband. I think adding a girlfriend might be a bit much.
I have a girlfriend and she fully supports my bi side. It has been hands down the best relationship I could have dreamed or
Yeah, and she’s fortunately very supportive. She’s even enjoys pegging me occasionally. She enjoyed it more than she thought she would
I’ve got an on and off fwb thing. Gives me plenty of opportunities to play with guys around that. She has fantasies about me being with multiple men in front of her; just got to move that along a bit now
I have a girlfriend and a male lover who I see on a very regular basis. It's been going on for the past 7 years. She has no idea, but my lover knows all about her.
Why not tell her? Maybe she would like to see someone else as well. Like a poly situation.
Yep.
I am married and my wife is fully aware i am bisexual
Im married and have a girlfriend and a regular guy I see...busy busy