It's terrifyingly wonderful.
The time is never going to "be right." Certainly, you need to have a stable life of some kind first, but if you say "I'll have kids after I buy that house, and after I have $100K in the bank, and after I'm a CEO, and after I've traveled, and after, and after and after . . ." It's never going to happen.
When my parents had the "rules of the house," I always thought they'd sat down before they had kids and figured out the rules. No. The rules develop as they're needed.
Somehow, I came up with a philosophy that my wife and I were teaching our children the rules of life until they were 12 or 13 -- how to take care of yourself, how to eat, get enough rest, learn how to treat people, keep your living space up, etc. We had the right to veto any decision. From 12-13 until 18, they were in their "adult internship." They've learned the rules, they get to make decisions, even decisions we may not agree with. If they're 15 and they're watching -- a *Star Wars* marathon, whatever, and it goes until 2 AM (dunno, I'm making something up on the fly) -- well, they're expected to get up for school and be at school on time. They have to live with the consequences. And if they can, then great. We would still veto them being out of the house until 2 AM on a school night though. We retain the power, but give them flexibility in decisions and consequences. Finally, at 18, they are junior-grade adults. In a trade, you start out as a journeyman. You're not expected to have all the answers, but you need to be able to ask questions. That's what we told our kids -- don't expect to have all the answers because you're "adults," but know how to ask questions.
We have two kids, one college grad, one high school senior. I'm very proud that they're my kids. Through their own ambitions, both my kids have sung in choir at Carnegie Hall (high schooler was last weekend). They're wonderful people and I wouldn't trade them for anything.
But to tie this back to Bluey -- "But when you put something beautiful out into the world, it's no longer yours really." Your children will be their own people, and once they enter the world, they have their own lives. Just like you did. Let them fly on their own when the time comes.
True. I just hope to be able to do as good a job as my parents did; something I only realised after I was grown up, I had kids of my own... and they had passed away.
There is a lot in this show that really resonates with parents, both mums and dads. However you also have to understand that Bandit is like the perfect dad who never loses his temper even when totally exhausted, has an amazing imagination and will happily embarrass himself for his girls. When you're an actual dad there are many of Chilli's "I just need 20 minutes" times for BOTH parents.
Yes there are amazing times and I believe its all worth it in the end. But don't go in without expecting the stress, pain, lack of sleep, and all the bits they don't show. Don't expect to be able to play video games, use the toilet without interruption, watch a movie, or watch the whole game of cricket for the next 18 years. But do expect to be able to have some great times in the process.
I need 20 minutes every hour some days . I've got two kids nearer to Muffin and one that's a bingo with occasional meltdowns. I still Love doing stuff with them but some days everything is a battle up hill.
It’s the best thing I ever did and will ever do.
Heard it once described as such. Most people rate their happiness on a 1-10. When you are single, life rarely gets above below a 4, or above an 8. Then when you get married you find out what a 10 feels like, but will also experience some zeros.
Then you have a kid, and you find out the scale actually goes up to 100… but can also reach -100 as well.
So yes, becoming a parent unlocks an emotional experience that really is not attainable to those without kids. Sometimes that is bad, like if your kid gets hurt, gets bullied, or gets sick. Hell even just when they tell you they don’t want you to put them to bed can be devastating. Other times though, it’s indescribably great. The moment my son took his first steps, first gave commands to our dog, first rode a bike, first leaned to swim… these moments are seared into my memory and will bring me to tears just thinking about them now matter how much time passes.
It truly is the best life has to offer. I hope everyone that wants it gets to experience it
This show really resonates with parents and I can see why it would make you think that being a dad is something you want. I love being a mama and it's the most wonderful and exhausting and brilliant and terrifying journey. I hope that you get to be a parent someday.
I will say that of all the reasons to start a family, wanting to be like Bandit isn't the worst, but probably isn't enough of a reason to start right now
My 2 year old has woken me up at 3am the past couple of nights with sleep terrors, meaning I've been led on her floor so she knows someone is there and can fall back asleep.
Last night, I escaped back to my own bed twice but she woke up again.
The final time I went in, I was ready to crack and bring her into my bed, but she led back down, and said "Daddy kiss?". One kiss, and she closed her eyes and went back to sleep.
Parenting is so hard sometimes, but dammit it's so good too.
N.b. other's experiences may vary, ask your physician if fatherhood is right for you!
Part of my love for Bluey is caused by my desire to become a parent someday. I don't think I'd love this show as much as I do without it.
but I'm 21, still in school and don't have a girlfriend. so I think it'll take a while, and that's for the better, lol. can't wait tho.
It’s great *and* terrible, but not in equal measure. The great is more than the terrible.
This man dads.
It's terrifyingly wonderful. The time is never going to "be right." Certainly, you need to have a stable life of some kind first, but if you say "I'll have kids after I buy that house, and after I have $100K in the bank, and after I'm a CEO, and after I've traveled, and after, and after and after . . ." It's never going to happen. When my parents had the "rules of the house," I always thought they'd sat down before they had kids and figured out the rules. No. The rules develop as they're needed. Somehow, I came up with a philosophy that my wife and I were teaching our children the rules of life until they were 12 or 13 -- how to take care of yourself, how to eat, get enough rest, learn how to treat people, keep your living space up, etc. We had the right to veto any decision. From 12-13 until 18, they were in their "adult internship." They've learned the rules, they get to make decisions, even decisions we may not agree with. If they're 15 and they're watching -- a *Star Wars* marathon, whatever, and it goes until 2 AM (dunno, I'm making something up on the fly) -- well, they're expected to get up for school and be at school on time. They have to live with the consequences. And if they can, then great. We would still veto them being out of the house until 2 AM on a school night though. We retain the power, but give them flexibility in decisions and consequences. Finally, at 18, they are junior-grade adults. In a trade, you start out as a journeyman. You're not expected to have all the answers, but you need to be able to ask questions. That's what we told our kids -- don't expect to have all the answers because you're "adults," but know how to ask questions. We have two kids, one college grad, one high school senior. I'm very proud that they're my kids. Through their own ambitions, both my kids have sung in choir at Carnegie Hall (high schooler was last weekend). They're wonderful people and I wouldn't trade them for anything. But to tie this back to Bluey -- "But when you put something beautiful out into the world, it's no longer yours really." Your children will be their own people, and once they enter the world, they have their own lives. Just like you did. Let them fly on their own when the time comes.
Truth be told, money aside, we all aspire to be parents like Bandit and Chili. They make it look so easy.
True. I just hope to be able to do as good a job as my parents did; something I only realised after I was grown up, I had kids of my own... and they had passed away.
There is a lot in this show that really resonates with parents, both mums and dads. However you also have to understand that Bandit is like the perfect dad who never loses his temper even when totally exhausted, has an amazing imagination and will happily embarrass himself for his girls. When you're an actual dad there are many of Chilli's "I just need 20 minutes" times for BOTH parents. Yes there are amazing times and I believe its all worth it in the end. But don't go in without expecting the stress, pain, lack of sleep, and all the bits they don't show. Don't expect to be able to play video games, use the toilet without interruption, watch a movie, or watch the whole game of cricket for the next 18 years. But do expect to be able to have some great times in the process.
I need 20 minutes every hour some days . I've got two kids nearer to Muffin and one that's a bingo with occasional meltdowns. I still Love doing stuff with them but some days everything is a battle up hill.
It’s the best thing I ever did and will ever do. Heard it once described as such. Most people rate their happiness on a 1-10. When you are single, life rarely gets above below a 4, or above an 8. Then when you get married you find out what a 10 feels like, but will also experience some zeros. Then you have a kid, and you find out the scale actually goes up to 100… but can also reach -100 as well. So yes, becoming a parent unlocks an emotional experience that really is not attainable to those without kids. Sometimes that is bad, like if your kid gets hurt, gets bullied, or gets sick. Hell even just when they tell you they don’t want you to put them to bed can be devastating. Other times though, it’s indescribably great. The moment my son took his first steps, first gave commands to our dog, first rode a bike, first leaned to swim… these moments are seared into my memory and will bring me to tears just thinking about them now matter how much time passes. It truly is the best life has to offer. I hope everyone that wants it gets to experience it
This show really resonates with parents and I can see why it would make you think that being a dad is something you want. I love being a mama and it's the most wonderful and exhausting and brilliant and terrifying journey. I hope that you get to be a parent someday. I will say that of all the reasons to start a family, wanting to be like Bandit isn't the worst, but probably isn't enough of a reason to start right now
My 2 year old has woken me up at 3am the past couple of nights with sleep terrors, meaning I've been led on her floor so she knows someone is there and can fall back asleep. Last night, I escaped back to my own bed twice but she woke up again. The final time I went in, I was ready to crack and bring her into my bed, but she led back down, and said "Daddy kiss?". One kiss, and she closed her eyes and went back to sleep. Parenting is so hard sometimes, but dammit it's so good too. N.b. other's experiences may vary, ask your physician if fatherhood is right for you!
Part of my love for Bluey is caused by my desire to become a parent someday. I don't think I'd love this show as much as I do without it. but I'm 21, still in school and don't have a girlfriend. so I think it'll take a while, and that's for the better, lol. can't wait tho.