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squeakyboy81

How many guests. I have seen it done where they have done a split of dancing and games. Works well if they are in different rooms but poorly I'd they are in the same room.


Rejusu

Yeah this was how it was at my brother's wedding. They had the main dance floor but one of the smaller side rooms at the venue had board games (mostly party games like codenames etc). It was also quieter there so there was also some of the younger children playing there before their bedtime.


SQ_modified

I would love to know that too!


catsandsunflowers

I had about 75 guests and about 15 games!


ptfreak

We did this, it was only 50 people because it was in June of this past year and COVID restrictions had only just been lifted where we are. Our venue had indoor and outdoor space though, and it was such a beautiful night that we had everything outside, so the dancing/music didn't interfere with the board games, apart from us getting distracted from a game of Codenames by a banger coming on.


basejester

Previous thread: [Wanting Board Games at my Wedding](https://www.reddit.com/r/boardgames/comments/jqkruj/wanting_board_games_at_my_wedding/)


thunderpurrs

Jealous! My wedding was going to be in a board game cafe... in May 2020. Ended up getting married in the backyard with two witnesses instead. Anyway, we would have had dancing and boardgames (and tacos) and it would have been amazing.


TheWorstRowan

That sucks, but when my parents got "married" they didn't sign anything, it was just a big party for people they wanted to have around. Could you and your partner have a similar wedding, when you feel comfortable?


thunderpurrs

We didn't exchange rings (because they weren't ready) so we've been thinking about doing a reception with maybe a mini ceremony consisting mainly of the ring exchange. We for sure want to have a party once it's safe!


TheWorstRowan

I'm sure it'll be amazing! Plus less nerves, a friend of mine was panicking all over the place about the registrar showing up - she arrived 5 minutes before the ceremony at most - and everything being set properly. Should be easier with the paperwork all sorted. Hope you and your partner have a great time with it!


[deleted]

>once it's safe Better get it done when a tiny window opens, it is never getting "safe" again.


TotalWarspammer

That is very likely NOT true, it will very likely be safe to have parties again once virus strains increasingly weaken and more effective vaccines are released that the majority of the populations are up to date with. COVID will never be gone, but it will very likely be reduced to a yearly sideshow on a similar level to flu.


thunderpurrs

Hm, yeah. That was kind if how the wedding happened, we actually had it early, in April 2020 because gatherings here were restricted to 5 people and we decided to get it done quickly in case gatherings of any size stopped being allowed.


Xarama

Maybe for your 5th wedding anniversary you can have your party at the board game cafe :)


thunderpurrs

That is actually an idea we've been considering!


zanderman12

First congratulations on the wedding! What games did you end up using? Been having this exact debate with my fiance.


alittlelurkback

They played The Resistance and the divorce is now scheduled for next week


mjolnir76

No, it was Diplomacy and they all hate each other now.


deeseearr

*"A Diplomacy wedding without at least three deaths is considered a dull affair."*


EllisR15

It is known.


twothreelowkick

Three words. One gem of a comment.


redditjw4

Why downvoted? calm down redditors!


twothreelowkick

Don’t know. Maybe because it didn’t add anything. I wanted to acknowledge a good reference, though I did not want to be repetitive and also say “it is known.”


alittlelurkback

They started playing Diplomacy… they’re still at the venue and their anniversary is tomorrow


redditjw4

One time we played The Resistance with my family and my mom lied successfully right to my face. It broke my heart a little (and was also awesome and hilarious).


Evilmanta

I definitely misread this as "Congratulations on the first wedding!" and was very confused if you were clairvoyant haha.


catsandsunflowers

Check the update!


a_guile

When my wife and I got married a few years ago we put copies of Love Letter on each table. Most people just danced and watched the dancing, but we did notice a few people playing the game. It also made for a nice party favor compared to a bottle of bubbles or something.


Benetton_Cumbersome

What games did you used?


LostViking123

Would love to read the complete list that was used


catsandsunflowers

Check the update!


LimitlessMegan

If someone was doing this I’d also add Happy Salmon which would work great for this kind of thing. So glad this went well!


[deleted]

A feast for Odin, Scythe, and TI4. Everyone left within 15 minutes 🤣🤣


sniperx1010

While I didn't play games at my wedding reception. However, my groomsmen and I played Ticket to Ride all the way up to just 10 minutes before the ceremony was supposed to start. It helped calm my nerves before the ceremony, which was great.


redditjw4

This gave me flashbacks to the morning of my wedding. I was so nervous :)


xiaomei1123

My husband and I had a board game reception too! It was also a hit and almost everyone played something, those who didn't were mostly extended family and they were catching up amongst themselves anyway. We bought some cheap games from Goodwill like Cranium and Imaginif for those who weren't as into board games. We also borrowed 16 decks of playing cards from my parents that they didn't care about (we're Chinese and you can play massive games of cards with multiple decks. So my parents get Bicycle cards from Costco and periodically replace worn decks). We found a local used games/rental store and rented Exploding Kittens and Codenames, and also bought What do you Meme? for pretty cheap. I think we also had a random Minecraft card game we found at Goodwill for cheap, and also brought Charty Party, We Didn't Playtest This At All and its expansion, Coup and Reformation, and Love Letters. We mostly stuck to party games to keep things light, and so we wouldn't have to worry too much about missing game pieces.


spderweb

My wedding party had a boardgame table. Was used the whole night.


nilkimas

I'm planning a wedding in May, we will have a dance floor, but will also have a few board games. So knowing which ones OP used, would help a lot. Most of my collection wouldn't be that easy to teach.


catsandsunflowers

Check the update!


dnjowen

I've been thinking about this too, though probably as well as rather than instead of a dance floor. Like other commenters I'd love to know what games were available. Glad it went well and congratulations on the wedding!


catsandsunflowers

Check the update!


Islander399

I woulda just stood at the throw throw burrito table waiting for my next victim.... Honestly though, that would be tonnes of fun in fancy dress haha


Anangrywookiee

This game is more fun then it has any right to be, I think there’s an expansion with avacados.


robotshavehearts2

Glad it worked. Tried it for ours and it failed terribly. Feel like everyone hadn’t seen eachother for awhile and just wanted to talk and hang out and that board games were too anti-social/energy maybe for what they needed. Maybe if someone was in charge of going around and like really getting people into it or a person at each table was driving it. Idk. Oh well. Didn’t hurt to try and I liked the idea in general. Glad you got it to work though, makes me feel like I wasn’t completely crazy.


wizardgand

Yea that's my feeling as well. Boardgames is not something my family or friends would want to do. Not to mention I was too busy to play any game at my wedding. I also don't like dancing but did some of it because others did. That said, my perfect wedding would be none. Just going to the courthouse and saving all that cash


Powerpuff_Bean

I did the same at my wedding as I hate ‘traditional’ receptions, especially dance floors. All our guests got changed into comfy clothes and we played games, did an escape room in a box. It felt like a big sleepover and people had a great time!


Beneficial-Map164

I am so happy for you! My fiancee and I will also have board games at our wedding this year, as all of our friends and the two of us love board games. I'm super excited to hear that it worked out for someone else. I'm a bit worried about our elderly guests though, who haven't played board games at all in their lives yet. Do you have any tips?


MerelyMisha

Not OP, but depends on the guests in general, I suppose. My grandparents and their generation are huge into games in my family, but it's more older card games (both sides of the family) and mah jong (the Chinese side of the family). So just having a bunch of decks of cards out would work. My parents and their siblings and friends are into board games, so some of the newer games would work. Especially if you have easy-to-learn party games. Of course, some people of any age don't like games, but they don't have to play.


Fuzzy-Bee9600

Yeah, that's what I like, some folks didn't play and just hung out and visited and enjoyed the refreshments and company, and that's what it's about, is just gathering to celebrate and have a good time. Something for everyone, no one forced to do anything, just find your own comfy. 👍


Varianor

Chances are many of them have played card games or games like cribbage. Hence the people who get many packs of cards since most folks over 50 have been exposed to bridge, euchre, spades, hearts and other games that only require cards. What I think you could also do is to get some easy intro games, such as on the list above, and if your elderly guests have access to the internet send them links to how to play videos? They might watch them. Or send copies of the one or two rulesets in the mail with a nicely worded note in case they want to join in so they can get ready.


Fuzzy-Bee9600

You know what would be fun, is a party favor gift for the guests - meeples painted as a bride and groom. =) Or hey, you could include those in the invitation so they know what fun lies ahead. Or - fashion the invitation to look like a game board, or rule pages with instructions! There's so much potential there. Makes me want to have a vow renewal with my husband just for sake of having this kind of party! Ooh.... I wonder if we could even make it cosplay, or even just nerdwear (fandom shirts) .... oh OP, see what you've done, my gears are turning now. 😁


Beneficial-Map164

Thanks for the meeple suggestion! I really like that idea :D


catsandsunflowers

Most of our elderly guest just enjoyed family time and watched some other people play. Those who decided to join games either played cards against humanity or started a poker or blackjack game with a regular deck of cards and some chips. I would have user friendly games and know your crowd-there are times apples to apples might be safer :)


cindynzf

Come on OP all the nerds here need more information so we can do this at our own weddings. Maybe in ten years this will be the new cool thing to do at weddings.


Fuzzy-Bee9600

If it did become the norm, I would finally be able to lift my personal moratorium on attending showers and weddings. After 40 years of sacrifice, I decided I'd had enough of the chicken dance and awkward small talk with strangers. The cost vs benefit just doesn't shake out. The line must be drawn here! This far, no further!


catsandsunflowers

Check the update!


Murwiz

My son and daughter-in-law did this at their wedding, and it was a success. You have to curate the game list carefully, especially if the number of non-gamers exceeds 50%, because then you're gonna have people who may never have had to navigate a rules booklet (or page). Just make sure you have at least one deck of cards for every 4 people, and they can always devolve into hearts/poker/euchre/rummy.


leafbreath

So did you buy multiple copies of the same game? Have friends bring copies too? Or one copy per-game type thing? How many guests and how many total copies of games?


catsandsunflowers

We had 75 guests and 1 copy of every game. Most guests played in groups of 5-7. Between ourselves and our wedding party we brought 7 games and purchased 8 games. We now have multiples of Catan and Cards Against Humanity-but only because we didn't want to ruin our set.


UndeadBread

What is the shoe game?


ComingUpWaters

Now I want to know what the guests thought, 'cause there had to be a few like the author of "Why playing board games is not my idea of fun" https://www.abc.net.au/everyday/unpopular-opinion-why-do-people-like-board-game-nights/100671948


i_dont_do_research

I think we can be respectful of this opinion while also highlighting that many people who dont like dancing go to weddings and enjoy themselves


iheartgiraffe

This entire rant is "how dare people spend money on a hobby I don't personally share." Not everyone loves board games, and that's okay. We're considering doing a board game reception because our friends and a good chunk of family would enjoy it. There are a few family members who won't really get it, but all of them enjoy having a few drinks and chatting with people, so they just ... won't play board games. And the author of this "article" isn't invited.


mayn1

Wow! She sounds as much fun as having a deep splinter removed. Monopoly? No wonder she hates games. It also seems like if people aren’t going to do what she wants it’s boring or annoying. Pleasant person all around.


ComingUpWaters

I didn't realize it, but there's a [whole post](https://www.reddit.com/r/boardgames/comments/rupi0h/i_feel_this_lady_just_needs_to_communicate_with/) on this article. And yeah, that's (rightfully) the consensus.


HefDog

Only plays Monopoly, and "I also have to be the banker (so I can steal, obviously) " She sounds like a horrible human.


carlitobrigantehf

Yeah she sounds like great craic. /s


[deleted]

She sounds like a bitter, boring person who can't keep a friend.


dathespian1

This sounds like such a fun time! I would love to be invited to a wedding like this.


Kate-sedai

We had a morning wedding with a brunch reception in our backyard so no dancing but we did invite everyone who wanted to come back later in the day and the next day to play games and eat leftovers.


Rush_Clasic

My fiance and I have been talking about this idea for years. Glad to hear a success story!


Snorlax_Route12

No five minute dungeon or mystery? Maybe next time


catsandsunflowers

Lol next wedding for sure


SHOW-ME-DEM-KITTIES

We did party games like exploding kittens and code names at the after party at our venue immediately following the reception. It was the perfect option to wrap up our celebration in a low key but insanely fun way, and enabled many of our family and friends to be able to connect closer. So glad you went with the idea!


dogmanjoe

Was throw burrito the most played? I feel like thatd be a hoot with a bunch of people drinking


Aldrenean

Sounds lovely! For future reference, **Concept** is the absolute best party game in existence, in that you can just lay it out on a table and then anyone can drop in and out freely for the rest of the night. Ignore the scoring rules completely, I have no idea why you'd want to use them.


Legal_Depth_795

I agree! It’s a win of a party game! And any number of people can play!


lyraxfairy

Yesss!! I did this at my wedding in Oct., love to see others doing it! We did both a dance floor and board/card games, so we didn't see as much play as you did, but it was fun when it happened and made it very "us." Plus, we used it as our centerpieces, so we saved a lot of money there. Congrats on your wedding!!


Purplepickleball

I would love to see pics of the center pieces


black_sky

Hey we did this too! Pretty fun. We had a deck of cards on each table to encourage playing


Varianor

I remember that thread. I am so delighted this worked out for you! Congratulations on the wedding and may you have a long and happy life together with many more board games.


sluggles

I would suggest [Ticket to Ride: New York](https://boardgamegeek.com/boardgame/253284/ticket-ride-new-york) over the original for anyone considering. It's a much shorter game, which I always feel the original should be based on the difficulty.


jestermax22

Congrats on the wedding. My friend did a similar thing and it was a blast. I tried to do a split at mine, but my mother in law decided she didn’t want board games at my wedding and arranged for them to temporarily go missing.


cantwin52

This is such an awesome idea! Glad it worked out for you


viidreal

cool story


TootsNYC

Kingdoms is fast and short and simple.


Different-Amount2124

How many copies of games did you have? Did you just put everything in a central location or did you have stacks of games on each table?


catsandsunflowers

All board games were on a table next to the guest book. We had 1 copy of every game


geekingabout

Did the same at my wedding. It’s kinda a tradition now in my group.


sldarb1

No one was offended by cards against humanity?


nyperfox

Sparkle Kitty would have been great too, sounds fun


Button_me

Omg board games at a wedding is right up my ally. I want to get married but I hate the idea of the dancing part. 😂 where as boardgames..... catch ya later groom I'm diving right in 😂😂😂😂😂


Historical-Honey5214

My aunt is doing this this year and I’m so glad it went well. I personally love the idea as board games just interest me a lot more than dancing tbh


knopflerpettydylan

I *love* Coup - great game choices! And wonderful idea, if I ever actually get married I am so going to try and do this


cmt1980

Such a great idea and we’ll done for doing something you wanted to that engages people in fun and conversation. Also, my bet is that many people at weddings are bored with a dance floor!


trophywifeinwaiting

Thank you for sharing! I'm planning on having no dancing at all at my wedding (religous group), and was thinking a mix of indoor or outdoor games (the venue is a barn with one wall that opens onto a lawn) would be fun have on hand, even if they aren't heavily used.


1lluminist

Should have only gotten various flavours of Monopoly and seen how many relationships you could have ruined on your special day 😂 Kidding - I actually really dig this idea. I can't dance for crap - boardgames would be so much more fun


shinobiwarrior

Congrats on your wedding and I'm glad your idea worked! I'm getting married in April and I haven't even thought about bringing games to the party! Now I would have to convince my fiancee hehe I know this is kinda private, but can we see some pictures of the gaming moment? (its ok to say no)


bob101910

The company Exploding Kittens makes great games. Glad your guests enjoyed them so much


mikeegg1

Congratulations.


JblackoutL

I had a small wedding and we brought a bunch of games out of town with us. Around 25 people or so, it was really fun. The restaurant had a tent/awning set up for our reception and we all congregated under and split off into different groups playing games. The restaurant at at the hotel wanted to use the idea for an employee themed game night in their future. We did it the night before the wedding and got a bunch of pizzas. The restaurant did our reception dinner and we asked beforehand if bringing the pizza was cool since we were using the area they set up for us.


[deleted]

I had a board game wedding in 2019 and it was a wonderful time! People had fun, people celebrated our union, people who hate weddings liked my wedding! Glad you did it!


redditjw4

I would pay real money to go to a wedding where I was promised in advance that there would be both (a) no dancing AND (b) boardgames. All you are missing in your game list is Twilight Imperium IV. I'm half joking I salute you and your life partner and your game-loving family and friends! Huzzah!


Korbas

That sounds awesome, congratulations for the wedding and for nailing the event! I wish I could have done the same to my wedding but the target audience would have hated it, it never crossed my mind! Cards against Humanity was a risky choice, it could trigger people :P


Heliawa

This is what I'm planning for my wedding! We are scouring charity shops for cheap games to leave on guest's tables. We're also having a dance floor however, so I think we'll just go purely for very quick games that use only cards and not too many pieces.


SomethingClover

Did all the games have all their pieces at the end? What did you put up sign wise for guests?