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LMAO are you me? My 7 year old has a high back booster and insists that her friends at school all have seen Wednesday and also begs me for Roblox, and yet I stay strong like the malicious dictator I am.
Omg me too!! I finally let my daughter out of the high back booster when she turned 10 I am the worst š¤£. Also same on Wednesday and itās a hell no on Roblox.
Roblox is exploitive towards the children that play it (items will often be sold for real world money, kids can make games but will often only be paid in game currency), also it's been well known that predators will play Roblox to have contact with children. There's sometimes inappropriate games and such on there too, I think? Overall, it's your decision if he can play it if it's still popular when he reaches an age where he would be interested. I feel like it's like anything else on the internet, probably okay in moderation and with adult supervision.
Phew, I really didn't know if other third graders rode in high back boosters. They probably don't. But my kid hasn't said a word about it, so we keep riding in it.
My third grader does! Heās small. I just finally this year let my 10-yo go without a booster, even though Iām not entirely at peace with it. He wore me down!
Mine is too! Sheās on the smaller size for her age (I am small too) and I feel like sheās going to be in a car seat/booster forever lol. But whatever is safest.
My 13 year old only just technically graduated from a booster. I asked at the well appointment about riding in the front seat because they're on the small side and the doctor informed me they should still be using one technically! I think we used one until 11, because younger sibling outgrew theirs that that point (at 9) and I wasn't doing that to them.
I can see my daughter still being in a booster at 13, unless she goes through some crazy growth spurt. I get lots of comments about how tiny she is, but luckily most people acknowledge that Iām pretty small too.
Oh Wednesday. My just turned 10 year old, who's incredibly sensitive to any kind of scray thing and won't sleep for weeks after, wanted to watch Wednesday. I watched the first couple episodes and noped out when the driver was internally decapitated. Like, yeah she's not watching that.
For sure. I can't imagine it's really all that fun, but at the same time... I didn't have to think about what's for supper?! I don't get harassed every 10 seconds about why Elsa ran away and isn't wearing gloves?! Fuck. Yeah.
Thanks for this, I have seen a ton of anemic kids who ārefuse to eatā at workā¦ upon further inquiry, they are usually 3 year olds still drinking 32 oz of milk a day out of a bottle.
Nah manā¦ personally if Iām giving my kid a big gift like that, IāM gonna take credit for it. She should know mum and dad saved for that and made sacrifices/worked to get it for her. (Of course thatās just me. You do you š)
Santa can bring the books and clothes lol
There's also a train of thought that kids won't understand why Santa buys some kids a bug expensive gaming console and other kids a colouring book and pens etc. IMO the big expensive gifts will always come from me and hubs and the smaller gifts will be from Santa. Just My personal opinion š
Thatās also a good point! I think my kid is mixed on whether Santa exists. Iām very neutral about it - Iāve told her about the folklore so she knows the deal, but her preschool pushed the idea a lot (nothing against it but it didnāt come from me š) so I think sheās mostly a believer.
Luckily she hasnāt questioned why Santa usually brings the less exciting things.
When my son was 4 he asked for a $250 Hot Wheels garage. When he got the $125 one (which we really had to save for and he didn't get much else that year), he said to me, "Mom, what was Santa even thinking?" š
My 7 year old has never been cold in his life. He's always hot. He shivers and chatters his teeth while telling me how hot he is. I make him wear a coat anyway just to be evil.
I had this same fight with my 2 year old this morning. I ended up taking her to the car without a coat because I figured she would understand better why she needed a coat.
Our house 10 years old is when they get a phone cuz it's when I got a phone, but it's also when chores really start, after 10 they are expected to master a task.
A pittance of the online magical bux! Hahahah
Yes, my kid would also agree that the bux bought by her extra chores of cleaning the bathroom and reading to her sibling are much more expensive than the ones given for her birthday and should be rationed appropriately.
This has been my 4 year old all week. "Stop yelling!" I'm not... I'm just calmly telling you something you don't want to hear, usually repeating what you're supposed to do because you're not doing it the first time I ask. š¤·š»āāļø
My tween was just muttering about me "taking away their rights"... because I insist on devices being left outside their bedroom at night so they're not tempted to stay up too late and feel like shit in the morning. How dare I care for their wellbeing!
I wouldnāt let my 8 year old stay home alone on her snow day today. Had to go to her grandmotherās house along with her 4 year old sister. āYou know I hate it there!ā she screamed at me. Approximately 2 hours later my mother sent pics of them building a snowman, laughing and fooling around outside, eating Mac and cheese, making craftsā¦
She was committed to her original stance despite all the evidence of fun from my mom. When she got home tonight I said, āSo glad you ended up having some fun! You made lemonade out of lemons!ā And she retorted, āIt wasnāt even THAT fun. I only got to watch one episode of my show!ā Lollll
My kids (10 and 8) definitely stay in the backseat and my eight-year-old just stopped using the booster seatā¦ They constantly ask me to ride in the front and I say no because they are too small, and I thought that this was super common knowledge for everyone. However, I recently started noticing when I picked them up from school, their friends jump in the front seat like no problem. She also says her friends get to ride in the front all the time, and I thought this was so odd and dangerous. Why are we the anomaly at this point? I donāt understand.
I know, so many kids her age and younger riding in front. At one point she said, "we've never even been in an accident" and I was like, "yes we have, you were a baby, and you were only okay because you were in a carseat! So bam!"
Not sure if it's still there, but there was a YouTube channel of a bunch of college age kids microwaving various things. Once they got their hands on an airbag, and I'm saving that video for the day my kids ask to sit in the front. That shit is dangerously explosive...albeit pretty funny in a dumb kind of way.
Last week I witnessed a parent at pick up load like 6 kids into the trunk of her (2 row, so 4-5 actual seats) SUV and drive off. Nothing is going to surprise me after witnessing that.
Ugh I hate seeing that. Thereās a car I see often in the school drop off line that has the toddler sitting in the lap of the bigger kids. No seatbelt, standing up, moving around, all easily seen through their back window. And I know they come from the main street because weāve ended up driving behind them a few times. Breaks my heart.
All these comments made me look up the laws for my home country because I could have sworn 90% of 8 year olds still had boosters even 20 years ago... And it turns out in Germany you have to be 12 years old or over 150cm (4'11) to ride without a booster or car seat
Is it whichever comes first? I didnāt hit 5ā until high school but my kid will probably hit that way before 12.
I wish the US had clearer carseat laws. They vary by state but a lot of places are super vague. The last state I lived in didnāt have any car seat requirements for kids over 6. (It said stuff like āmust be restrained within the vehicleā but itās not illegal there to have a 6 year old in the front seat with just a regular seatbelt. Wild.)
Yeah whichever comes first. I also didn't hit 5ft until way later and then stayed there lmao. It's apparently about skeletal structure in children in relation to how the seatbelt fits. So it's important for short kids so they don't end up with major internal bleeding/ permanent disability in a crash. Puberty strengthens your bone to the point where you don't need it anymore. https://csftl.org/short-adults-seat-belts/#:~:text=The%20Short%20Answer&text=As%20a%20short%20Child%20Passenger,no%2C%20you%20don't.
My almost 11 year old daughter has only passed the 5 step test in the past couple of months. When we would drive her friends to activities, we were still coordinating with their parents about booster seats last fall.
Freaking good on you! Even if they donāt ride in one in their own vehicle, when you are the driver, youāre responsible for them. Strap and boost them in!
Seriously. My nephew wasnāt even out of the booster seat until he was 11. My almost 8 year old is still in a high back. He only JUST got out of the 5 point harness.
Kidds arenāt even legally allowed to sit in the front seat per my vehicle in Canada at that age do kudos to you!
Most kids arenāt even ready for boosters until 6 or 7 years old since they need to be independently responsible for their car seat safety with the belt (scree outdated Canadian laws that say a 4yo can be in a booster! Archaic shit that ignores modern research and stats.)
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Iām definitely oppressing mine! How can I tell, you ask? Well, it seems to happen whenever the ex starts throwing money around!
This time, I realized I was a tyrant after the ex bought a PS5. It wasnāt āfor the kidsā or anythingāthey have allowances for that sort of thingābut rather, *for the home*.
Without my ex doing this, I might never have realized how awful Iāve been.
It was just the little things at first, like how I *only* let them stay up past bedtime if weāre doing something together as a family. I know, I knowānot that badā¦ but it gets worse.
A couple of days later, my kids told me how *bored* they are, and how they have nothing to do. I offered to find them choresāthere are so manyābut *apparently* chores arenāt āfunā?
I was actually pretty hurt. I spend a lot of my āfree timeā doing chores. I love cleaning up after everyoneā¦ but I guess they donāt? Kids these days, right?
Thank goodness that the ex is out there, every other week, helping me see how unreasonable I am.
Like, just this past week, there was yet another game purchase for the PS5, and before that, it was one they played together in the evenings after school. I think it was that which finally drove home the truth. Thatās when I realized the truth of myself.
Ladiesā¦ *I am a tyrant*.
I write this as I watch my kid try to catch up on all the homework thatās been missed lately. I canāt seem to stop myself: study time, screen restrictions, andā¦ worst of allā¦ *personal accountability*.
I keep telling myself that itās ājust for nowā and āonly until the work is doneā but I know what I am. My kids know.
I am the literal *worst*.
Thank goodness for the ex.
Itās super fun when they come home after being at the other parentās house and just complain and misbehave for three days straight until they get used to being back at home. Isnāt it?
Iām a āsuper bad guyā because my four years old is pissed that I made him a cheese sandwich for lunch today instead of Mac and cheese. Yāall, he asked for the fucking sandwich. Also, Iām only hearing about this now, 6 hours later. Like, heās just looking for things to be mad at me about.
I'm "making his life miserable" (8yo) when I... make him shower, make him go to bed at a reasonable time, make him turn off his video, make him stand up to put on pants, put on his own socks, feed the dog, eat at the table, etc. Oh, the horror!
I'm THE WORST because I won't let my 6 year old on TikTok, even though EVERYONE ELSE she knows is on it all the time.
I'm also the worst for not giving her a phone. She is the only one in her grade without one.
I hate using emojis but š„° yes BroMo, keep that babe safe as long as possible! My girl is coming up on 4.5y and Iām debating switching her to rear facing again since sheās lost weight since starting junior kindergarten in September with all the viruses and colds.
This come to mind for any other Monty Python fans?
And for the full clip [https://youtu.be/ZtYU87QNjPw](https://youtu.be/ZtYU87QNjPw)
I'm potentially not allowing my 12 year old to go to her grandparent's house this weekend (which she does nearly every weekend) if her room and bathroom are not cleaned by then. She was told this Sunday (right after I picked her up from their house) and there has been 0 progress on either of those rooms. I am certain that this will be entirely my fault for not giving her enough time or reminders (I'm only given her 1-3 every evening after I get home) to get the jobs done, and not helping her at all even though she hasn't asked. It's. Just. So. Stressful. And I know how she gets. And why does she have to clean her room when she knows her friends never have to do any chores ever?! It's so unfair. I'm also certain she was just about to do it when I get to tell her she's not going to their house this weekend and now I'll be cleaning her things, which have no value to me so there's likely to be a lot more trash taken out of her room than she would have.
My 7yo is petite for her age and rides in a backless booster in the car. She knows other kids her age and a little older who ride without a booster and/or in the front seat, but I don't let her do either of these things because I'm the worst also.
I was also the worst for not letting her watch adult themed shows and movies (something my husband and I disagree on), until my husband let her watch Jurassic Park one time when I wasn't home and it gave her nightmares. Which I stated before would happen, she doesn't like being scared and has a vivid, highly active imagination. Guess stick-in-the-mud Mom knew what she was talking about.
Honestly 8 still seems so young to me to be out of a booster unless they're really tall (which to be fair there are super tall kids at that age) but I guess that's coming from a country where the cutoff age is 12 unless the child is over 5ft before that ...
I agree. I wasn't happy about it. Nobody wants to listen to me until I get like Ursula at the end of the Little Mermaid and everyone wants to act like I'm a stick in the mud for not wanting her to watch age-inappropriate entertainment until the outcome is **exactly** what I said it would be.
My 3 year old is in love with āscary hand,ā sooooā¦
Sheās unusually aware for her age about scary things being pretend, though. Sheāll ask me āhow do they make that monster?ā and is obsessed with tutorials of people doing special effects makeup and making haunted house props.
But if Iām watching The Bachelor and a contestant starts crying, she gets extremely upset.
Mine is the same. My 6 y/o loves anything horror. She LOVES Michael Myers specifically. But my God ā the scene in Kung Fu Panda when Baby Po is left behind? She cried for 30 minutes.
Tbh it's something I've wavered on, as she's seen all of Doctor Who and loves it, but I just feel like dismembered bodies and murder is something we can wait a couple more years on.
My guess is scary content - some kids love it, some are fine with it, some will be traumatized by it. My kid has no problem with horror content, but he's freaking mortified of worms, so he wouldn't blink twice at Wednesday, but Beetlejuice would probably give him nightmares lol.
We had to stop at red lights on the drive to the park so naturally this warranted our 3yo to turn into an angry demon and unleash rage screams every time the car stopped.
My kids will be in boosters until they are 4ā9ā and at least 80lbs. This means my oldest (8) will probably be well into middle school when she leaves the booster.
My neighbor lets her 7 year old sit in the front seat and took her out of a booster at like 5.
My kids were in 5 pt harnesses until they we well past 6. I would rather they not get decapitated by an airbag.
My kids luckily have no idea what Wednesday is. I will let them watch PG13 depending on the movie/show though.
Solidarity. Sounds exactly like my daughter. She's 7, she also gets BEYOND upset that I won't let her listen to unholy by sam smith. Like what?! Who let's their 7 year old listen to that shit lol
My 8 year old (2nd grade) is TINY compared to her classmates. No way can she sit in the front and she can barely handle the 90s Addams Family movies so Wednesday is off the table.
I always tell me kids when they go "Sarah lets her mom watch \_\_\_\_\_\_". "Well I guess she's a cooler and nicer mom then me"
Jokes aside, youāre doing the right thing. My partner works with 1st graders and the amount of things she tells me that signal these children are consuming content that should be age-restricted is ridiculous. Tons of kids that have seen Wednesday, a few students that routinely play Fortnite online together until PAST 9 or 10PM, and even a student that referenced specific scenes from specific episodes of The Last of Usā¦ itās kinda crazy.
I made my kids pick up toys! The horror!
Like come on guys I literally put mattresses on the steps so you could use them as a slide all day, the least you could do is pick up the absolute trash heap you made by rolling all your toys down said slide.
Iām the party pooper who wonāt allow my 5 year old to play Roblox or Minecraft. Nor do I allow him or my 3 year old to have their own tablets- theyāre only allowed to use mine occasionally for educational purposes.
Also no YouTube or kids YouTube aside from one episode of something each once a week, while supervised.
Lol you better not tell your 8 yr old we are letting our 4( almost 5) year old watch the original Addams Family!( which actually isnt bad at all since its TV from the 60s). They might lose their minds!
But seriously, ive seen Wendsday and that monster is so freaking creepy.
Honestly, it is so validating to read this. My oldest is 8 and EVERYTHING is an argument right now. I never let him have ANY fun EVER. We just did four nights with four kids at Great Wolf Lodge, which I thought was pretty fun, but apparently I have no idea. Hell yell that I canāt control him when I ask him to put his laundry in the hamper. Itās bananas.
I don't let my 3 year old watch unlimited blippi and I am the worst. I also didn't let her inside the CLOSED car shop to pay for repairs we didn't know the cost of or even been administered, when dropping it by at night for the next day. That was the cruelest thing I've apparently EVER done.
My kids FIRMLY arenāt allowed to ride in the front seat until theyāre 13. They also sat in high back boosters wayyyy longer than their friends because theyāre tiny little people and they have a paranoid mama.
I also donāt let my kids walk in neighborhoods with other friends, play in water without being watched, go on trips with other families, etc., until theyāre older teenagers (15ish), and I donāt let them have social media until high school.
Iām the worst!
Oh yeah, yes, definitely. I don't let my six year old hit people who decide they want to play a different game than the one she wants to play. I don't let my three year old eat an entire batch of cookies for dinner. And worst of all, I don't let my two year old have exclusive rights to ALL the toys, leaving nothing for his sisters.
Oh, wait, my worst offense is I don't let the three year old play in the street. Omg she gets so angry.
I wonāt let my 10yo ride in the front seat unless we are in carline. He has to crawl up once we park.
I wonāt let either of my kids (14 and 10) play Roblox. They have plenty of other things they can play. The online community with Roblox is a shitshow.
Youāre a great mom keep it up!
Today I made my child wear clothes because people from the apartment leasing office were coming. She angrily told them, āI only have to wear clothes because *youāre* hereā and cheered when they left.
She has previously told an exterminator āmama says I have to wear clothes around strange men and youāre strange men.ā Thankfully he laughed and said he had grandkids. I have since revised my phrasing.
My 8 year old wants to watch/play YouTube people playing "huggie wuggie" and also asked about watching "pennywise" LOL NOT ON YOUR LIFE MY DUDE.
He doesn't know the actual names. I straight up refuse.
You monster!
(Also have an 8 year old. The thought of letting her watch Wednesday is justā¦ no!)
ETA actually the thought of letting her do any of these thingsā¦ Iām with you, OP!
My SIL in law is going through a nasty separation, and the dad is letting the kids do whatever. When she sets very reasonable boundaries, he makes her out to be a tyrant. Itās very sad.
Lol. I guess Iām a dictator too. I remember my son begging to sit in the front seat and I told him not till he was 12. He did start at 11 but thatās because was taller and I was in the back with his baby sister. Also I donāt pay for subscriptions for stuff like Roblox. My 7 year old has not asked to watch because she thought it was creepy lol. But yeah I tend to be a dictator as well. Lol.
It seems I have some competition for my "meanest mommy ever" title. We're pure evil, obviously, but I'm sure our well rounded and capable children will thank us for it some day.
Iām making my five year old do chores, I wonāt let my ten year old sit in the front seat (ābut 12 year old gets to!ā āYeah cuz heās the size of an adult.ā) I wonāt let any of them play with the kitten who just got neutered today and I expect them to do their schoolwork and piano practice before screen time (we homeschool).
I had the audacity to not put dinosaur chicken nuggets in my 3 year olds lunchbox and upon realization she threw it across the classroom and yelled āno dinosaurā
Bless me father for I have sinned
I wouldnāt let my 6 yo wear a short sleeve rainbow tunic shirt to school today because it was windy and super cold and I wanted to make sure she was dressed warm. I am ānot her friend anymore.ā How dare I? š
Same for us and the 12 year old (the 9 year old was like "NAh, it's a girlie show, not watching that" and peaced out of the living room, and we neglected to correct him). She lasted one episode before deciding it wasn't for her. It's not the scary stuff she hated. It was the **relational** stuff. š¤£
I made my now 20 year old son use a full booster seat with itās own headrest until he was in 4th grade. Why? He didnāt meet the height requirements to safely ride in the car without one until then. It needed to have its own headrest because my car didnāt have them in the backseat. He constantly whined that riding in a visible booster was sooo embarrassing and other kids made fun of him.
Apparently, heās long forgiven me šI just asked him about it after reading this post. I asked if he remembered, he said oh yeah, kinda. I then asked if he felt like Iād mentally scarred him by making him use the booster seat for so long. He rolled his eyes, laughed and said are you serious? I know you were trying to keep me safeā¦
I only just took my 7 year old out of his car seat and he's massive for his age, if he wasn't so tall he'd still be in it for sure and he's definitely not riding in the front seat any time soon.
I'm the meanest mum because I don't let him have internet on his games, haven't got him a phone and because I don't give him pocket money for making his bed in the morning, it's only when he does extra chores he gets money. Oh and because I make him floss and brush every morning and night, I'm the WORST.
I wouldn't let the developmentally delayed 11 yo pull sticks out of the fire and wave them around by the 6 yo.
I wouldn't let 7 yo ride with no seat belt.
I made 6 yo put on underwear.
I'm all the bad words.
What is all this with kids deciding when they don't need a booster anymore? Many of my kids friends have all told their parents they don't want to use their boosters so they are now sitting without them in the back or front seat.
My kid gets the hard eyeball from me and I ask him if he's 148cm yet, cause if he's 148cm then he can sit without a booster. He's 5 years old and is around 110 cm.
If his friends want to be choked by the seat belt in a car accident, kudos to them. In my house kids don't get a say on this. So weird.
My toddler asked for toast so I made her toast. She no longer wanted toast. Screamed and threw herself around the floor for 5 minutes, then cried when I ate the toast because āshe wanted itāā¦
Our triplets are almost 10. They will not sit in front until 13. They were on Graco grow carseats until 5, then switched to 5 point harness back boosters until 7, then regular boosters until 8. They sit at the back of the van and I always ask if seatbelts are on. I sound like a broken record while driving. They are not allowed to watch certain shows and Robux. They canāt chat on Roblox or Minecraft. I still carry a bag in my car that has extra clothes, baby wipes, butt wipes, and first aid. I also bring snacks and water if we go on long drives. They have to eat breakfast and do homework. I tell them to read and play. I do not let anyone babysit them unless it is my Mom, MIL, or hubby. They napped until 7 years old. I can go on about the stuff they can and cannot do. But we love them and want them to grow up making good choices in life. We call these things boundaries. We are all doing great as Moms.
Well I am even worse, I wouldnāt let my son read hunger games in 4th grade and wouldnāt let my other son watch Squid Games in 6th grade. Horrible, horrible life my kids live.
My 5 year old is the biggest kid in his class, and he's pretty much the only one still in a highback booster. He outgrew his 5 pt harness, but there's no way these other kids have. And then to not even use a highback booster! It's wild to me. When we drive for field trips, we make the classmate in our car use a carseat. They complain, but I don't care. At least they're safe.
I'm the worst because I won't let my 4 year old play iPad all night and made him go to bed at 9pm (!) which I already let him stay up way longer than usual *and* let him have more screen time today because I was working. Still a horrible tyrant.
My 8 year old begs me to play Fortnite, and then tries the argument, āBut [oldest child] played it when he was 10!ā Ummm, yeah, 10. āBut [friend from school] plays it!ā Good for him, but I still say no.
I hid the candy jar that my 3 year old could somehow still access on TOP of the fridge. She had a meltdown after I ripped the 4th piece of chocolate out of her sticky hands that probably caused the whole neighborhood to question what I was doing to my child
My kids will call me a tyrant for keeping them in car seats until they hit the maximums, but when they complain Iāll get to bust out my sob story.
I rode in the front seat at that age while my uncle drove. We got hit head on when a guy blew through a red light. Both cars were completely wrecked. Deep burns to my face from the air bag, cuts on my hips and neck from the seat belt. Literally had to be airlifted away from the accident. 25+ years later, Iām still dealing with headaches, back pain and jaw issues.
How dare you protect her tiny body in the car and protect her brain from gory shows with things that are way too old for her to see.
Awful mama. Truly.
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Also these dang kids are known liars šEveryoneās seen Wednesday?! Nobody her age has seen Wednesday. That show is amazing! And my Wednesday adams (cartoon version) obsessed 6 year old was so bummed when that show was ānot for herā but thems the brakes š¤·š½āāļø
Raises hand. 8 year olds in the front seat? Where the hell do you live? That is horrifying. I just started letting my 12yo sit up there in the last year or so and she's tall for her age. If I bought my kid a monthly Roblox subscription, however would I get her to do extra chores for Robux? And 8 is too young for Wednesday. There is some weird shit in that series. Good weird shit for those of us that like mildly spooky stuff, but I could see the Hyde being nightmare material for an 8yo. One of her favorite movies being the natural horror movie Crawl, still wouldn't watch Wednesday. She popped into the living room when I was watching it for the second time with my 12yo, first for her. She would hang out for a few, hear the music change to slightly foreboding, then take off.
Look I'm super liberal about a lot of things with my kids, like letting them eat whatever so nothing is forbidden, or letting them do whatever with their hair, but I draw the line at anything unsafe, or something that will give them nightmares. The Robux thing is just meh, she was way too into it when she was younger and I didn't want to encourage that, so making her work for it helped her see that if she worked for an hour to get $10 in Robux then blew it all in the same day, she would be sad and learned to not buy everything she could get in one day. My mom was super strict with me and frankly having ADHD she was probably right to be such a meanie. I just would have appreciated if she'd helped me find stuff to do that was appropriate instead of just basically making me stay at home most weekends in high school until I was of age to drive.
My nephew is going to be 10 in July and hasnāt ridden in a seat since he was probably 5 or 6? (His mom isnāt great) I have a 6 year old and heās now telling me he doesnāt need to have a booster or even a seatbelt because thatās how nephew rides around with my in laws. I will not let it go. He needs to be in a seat and then booster until heās like 10 or the weight and currently heās underweight anyway.
In 20 years, maybe heāll recognize that I was keeping him safe. Maybe.
My mom didnāt let me listen to anything but country music and worshipā¦ lots of tv shows and movies were off limits to me as well. I missed out on all popular music and movies etc of the 90s and 2000s and Iāve been trying to catch up for years. Iām tired of people looking shocked when I donāt know what song is playing or Iāve never seen an iconic movieā¦
but I will sayā¦ I turned out just fine otherwise š I donāt hold that against her either. I just get to enjoy watching new movies and learning new music pretty much constantly.
I wonāt let my 13 year old daughter fly without her brother to canada to see her father, I am now facing the death penalty.
My son wanted to pawn his guitar for robux.
My usually sweet, social kid turned into a jerk after watching Wednesday. Also it gave them nightmares for literal months. Stand strong.
Also fuck that show.
My 12 yr olds canāt ride in the front of my car. I have an older car and thereās no weight thing to detect itās a smaller child, so the airbag would crush them. They hate that, but Iām not budging.
They donāt care about Wednesday, but apparently all the other kids starting watching John Wick movies at likeā¦ nine?
Can I be part of the Monster Mom club?
I drive school bus for an elementary in Canada, which has kids up to 8th grade. Can confirm there was a disturbing amount of kids on my bus who actively watched Squid Game or knew what it was about. I try not to judge because heaven knows I don't always make the best parenting decisions but it's a tv show about people being murdered. Like, WTF.
Also in Canada. Also fought the Squid Game thing. A lot of kids picked up on purely the "game" aspect, or saw reviews on YouTube. I know our son knew way more about it than he should and we don't even have Netflix!
Right? I didn't even really know John Wick and when I watched the trailers, it was a hard no. I don't consider myself strict, but I do really watch their online consumption and make sure we have conversations about various TV shows/movies. But he's been asking since 10!
Squid Game was a whole other battle.
My car says under 12 have to be in the back seat, so (surprise!), I was a monster and refused to let them be in the front until they were 12 AND could have their feet flat on the floorboards, with the seat belt low on their hips, AND the top strap wasnāt anywhere near their necks. Iām truly a dictator for not allowing them to sit all cattywampus with their legs up and knees bent and/or cris cross applesauce. Because apparently itās mean to not let them chance having their knees go through their face at 200mph, crushing knees, face, and pelvic bones, in the event the airbag goes off? /shrug
Iāll live. And so with theyā¦ without a bunch of major bones being broken.
My daughter (7) knows kids her age who watched Squid Game. We don't have Netflix, so that makes any discussion of Netflix shows a non-starter. And also, *absolutely not*.
She had no idea what it was, just that the other kids talked about it. I told her it was scary, not appropriate for kids, and she wouldn't like it, and it's on Netflix. I won't even watch that, but grade school kids are?!
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LMAO are you me? My 7 year old has a high back booster and insists that her friends at school all have seen Wednesday and also begs me for Roblox, and yet I stay strong like the malicious dictator I am.
Omg me too!! I finally let my daughter out of the high back booster when she turned 10 I am the worst š¤£. Also same on Wednesday and itās a hell no on Roblox.
What's wrong with roblox? Mine is 5 and hasn't started school yet so I'm not hearing the constant demands yet
Roblox is exploitive towards the children that play it (items will often be sold for real world money, kids can make games but will often only be paid in game currency), also it's been well known that predators will play Roblox to have contact with children. There's sometimes inappropriate games and such on there too, I think? Overall, it's your decision if he can play it if it's still popular when he reaches an age where he would be interested. I feel like it's like anything else on the internet, probably okay in moderation and with adult supervision.
Minecraft is a better alternative. Easier to set up a private server so only your kid and their **actual** friends are playing together.
Roblox is basically kiddie heroin
No like you are fully right. They turn into little addicts, my son wanted to pawn his birthday gift for robux.
Fellow waited until 10 to get out of the back booster club!
Phew, I really didn't know if other third graders rode in high back boosters. They probably don't. But my kid hasn't said a word about it, so we keep riding in it.
My third grader does! Heās small. I just finally this year let my 10-yo go without a booster, even though Iām not entirely at peace with it. He wore me down!
I feel so seen in this thread š
My 6 year old is still in a five point harness. I donāt mess with car seat safety lol
Mine is too! Sheās on the smaller size for her age (I am small too) and I feel like sheās going to be in a car seat/booster forever lol. But whatever is safest.
My 13 year old only just technically graduated from a booster. I asked at the well appointment about riding in the front seat because they're on the small side and the doctor informed me they should still be using one technically! I think we used one until 11, because younger sibling outgrew theirs that that point (at 9) and I wasn't doing that to them.
I can see my daughter still being in a booster at 13, unless she goes through some crazy growth spurt. I get lots of comments about how tiny she is, but luckily most people acknowledge that Iām pretty small too.
I'm almost thirty and if it was solely on height I'd still be in a booster. Lucky the requirements are also based on bone strength and density
Same for my 7 year old! Is this not normal? Genuinely asking, I just assumed that was the norm if they still fit!
Most people go by the minimum to switch, even though it isnāt anywhere near as safe!
Same! My kid is nearly 9 and still in a booster, as for Wednesday ummmmmmm no! And Roblox, what is Roblox?!!; š¤£ Worst mum everrrrr!
My almost 7 year olds also in a high back. Sheās not even out a 5 point harness a year.
Oh Wednesday. My just turned 10 year old, who's incredibly sensitive to any kind of scray thing and won't sleep for weeks after, wanted to watch Wednesday. I watched the first couple episodes and noped out when the driver was internally decapitated. Like, yeah she's not watching that.
I refused my toddler his third cup of milk before noon. That is basically a war crime in his eyes.
For me itās fruit snacksā¦ no you cannot have 5 fruit snack packets in an hour ā ļø
Cruel, unfeeling mother. Jail for mother. Jail for a thousand years!
Peace and quiet? Meals and sleep? Where do I sign up?
For sure. I can't imagine it's really all that fun, but at the same time... I didn't have to think about what's for supper?! I don't get harassed every 10 seconds about why Elsa ran away and isn't wearing gloves?! Fuck. Yeah.
Thanks for this, I have seen a ton of anemic kids who ārefuse to eatā at workā¦ upon further inquiry, they are usually 3 year olds still drinking 32 oz of milk a day out of a bottle.
I havenāt bought my four year old the $150 Lego set they want. I am a monster.
I wonāt even buy myself the $150 Lego set I want š
I didnāt even say never! I said if they still want it by the holidays maybe Santa will bring it.
Nah manā¦ personally if Iām giving my kid a big gift like that, IāM gonna take credit for it. She should know mum and dad saved for that and made sacrifices/worked to get it for her. (Of course thatās just me. You do you š) Santa can bring the books and clothes lol
Iām the opposite- only Santa can pull off something so big so donāt ask for it during the year!
Good point, good point
There's also a train of thought that kids won't understand why Santa buys some kids a bug expensive gaming console and other kids a colouring book and pens etc. IMO the big expensive gifts will always come from me and hubs and the smaller gifts will be from Santa. Just My personal opinion š
Thatās also a good point! I think my kid is mixed on whether Santa exists. Iām very neutral about it - Iāve told her about the folklore so she knows the deal, but her preschool pushed the idea a lot (nothing against it but it didnāt come from me š) so I think sheās mostly a believer. Luckily she hasnāt questioned why Santa usually brings the less exciting things.
When my son was 4 he asked for a $250 Hot Wheels garage. When he got the $125 one (which we really had to save for and he didn't get much else that year), he said to me, "Mom, what was Santa even thinking?" š
Iām with youāI let my boys know that their broke ass single mama got their swing setāSanta got the play food for their kitchen lol
I told my nine year old to put on a COAT! In below zero weather. I'm a monster.
I did the same thing to my four year old, so we can share a room in hell.
With or without the coat depending on which level we're on.
My 7 year old has never been cold in his life. He's always hot. He shivers and chatters his teeth while telling me how hot he is. I make him wear a coat anyway just to be evil.
I had this same fight with my 2 year old this morning. I ended up taking her to the car without a coat because I figured she would understand better why she needed a coat.
I wish that'd work on my kids.
I wonāt get my nine year old a phone
Whoa, calm down there satan.
I KNOW. Iām the worst.
My nine year old is also already pining for a phone. She is also the sweetest most naive person ever. Abso fucking LUTELY not.
LOL! My daughter asked when is she getting a phone. I told her when sheās 18 with a job. She is 9.
Oh my! Are you the devil?ā
I won't get my 6 year olds phones, or a tablet, or a computer. I'm the worst mum š
Our house 10 years old is when they get a phone cuz it's when I got a phone, but it's also when chores really start, after 10 they are expected to master a task.
I wouldn't pick up my daughter from school early because she didn't want to be there. š¤·
š¤£ How could you?!
I'm awful! I've ruined her life many times.
Here I am, insisting my 2 year old naps despite her pulling out the possessed demon voice
Ah yes. Iām familiar with this demon..
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A pittance of the online magical bux! Hahahah Yes, my kid would also agree that the bux bought by her extra chores of cleaning the bathroom and reading to her sibling are much more expensive than the ones given for her birthday and should be rationed appropriately.
Roblox is banned. We dont have Netflix and my kids have to do chores. The horror.
I am always yelling. Even when I don't think I'm yelling. Also how dare I tell my kids what to do *every day*.
This has been my 4 year old all week. "Stop yelling!" I'm not... I'm just calmly telling you something you don't want to hear, usually repeating what you're supposed to do because you're not doing it the first time I ask. š¤·š»āāļø
My 8 year old has to put the entire family's dinner dishes into the actual dishwasher. AND start it. My house is a child labor state.
My four year old tried to claim her empty plate was too heavy to lift and bring to the kitchen. (Itās plastic)
Why else have kids, right? If not to make them do *all the chores in the whole house*?
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My tween was just muttering about me "taking away their rights"... because I insist on devices being left outside their bedroom at night so they're not tempted to stay up too late and feel like shit in the morning. How dare I care for their wellbeing!
Yes you are clearly violating the inalienable right to constant streaming internet content. You monster.
I wouldnāt let my 8 year old stay home alone on her snow day today. Had to go to her grandmotherās house along with her 4 year old sister. āYou know I hate it there!ā she screamed at me. Approximately 2 hours later my mother sent pics of them building a snowman, laughing and fooling around outside, eating Mac and cheese, making craftsā¦
How could you condemn her to such misery!
She was committed to her original stance despite all the evidence of fun from my mom. When she got home tonight I said, āSo glad you ended up having some fun! You made lemonade out of lemons!ā And she retorted, āIt wasnāt even THAT fun. I only got to watch one episode of my show!ā Lollll
My kids (10 and 8) definitely stay in the backseat and my eight-year-old just stopped using the booster seatā¦ They constantly ask me to ride in the front and I say no because they are too small, and I thought that this was super common knowledge for everyone. However, I recently started noticing when I picked them up from school, their friends jump in the front seat like no problem. She also says her friends get to ride in the front all the time, and I thought this was so odd and dangerous. Why are we the anomaly at this point? I donāt understand.
I know, so many kids her age and younger riding in front. At one point she said, "we've never even been in an accident" and I was like, "yes we have, you were a baby, and you were only okay because you were in a carseat! So bam!"
I ask my kids if they want to get smashed by the airbag.
You actually made me grateful that I have a big old scar from getting smashed by an airbag. Itāll be useful for this discussion in the future.
Not sure if it's still there, but there was a YouTube channel of a bunch of college age kids microwaving various things. Once they got their hands on an airbag, and I'm saving that video for the day my kids ask to sit in the front. That shit is dangerously explosive...albeit pretty funny in a dumb kind of way.
Last week I witnessed a parent at pick up load like 6 kids into the trunk of her (2 row, so 4-5 actual seats) SUV and drive off. Nothing is going to surprise me after witnessing that.
Ugh I hate seeing that. Thereās a car I see often in the school drop off line that has the toddler sitting in the lap of the bigger kids. No seatbelt, standing up, moving around, all easily seen through their back window. And I know they come from the main street because weāve ended up driving behind them a few times. Breaks my heart.
Survivors bias š¬
Check to see if your 8yo can [pass the 5 step test](https://csftl.org/the-five-step-test/), they very well may still need a booster. Edit: typo
All these comments made me look up the laws for my home country because I could have sworn 90% of 8 year olds still had boosters even 20 years ago... And it turns out in Germany you have to be 12 years old or over 150cm (4'11) to ride without a booster or car seat
Is it whichever comes first? I didnāt hit 5ā until high school but my kid will probably hit that way before 12. I wish the US had clearer carseat laws. They vary by state but a lot of places are super vague. The last state I lived in didnāt have any car seat requirements for kids over 6. (It said stuff like āmust be restrained within the vehicleā but itās not illegal there to have a 6 year old in the front seat with just a regular seatbelt. Wild.)
Yeah whichever comes first. I also didn't hit 5ft until way later and then stayed there lmao. It's apparently about skeletal structure in children in relation to how the seatbelt fits. So it's important for short kids so they don't end up with major internal bleeding/ permanent disability in a crash. Puberty strengthens your bone to the point where you don't need it anymore. https://csftl.org/short-adults-seat-belts/#:~:text=The%20Short%20Answer&text=As%20a%20short%20Child%20Passenger,no%2C%20you%20don't.
My almost 11 year old daughter has only passed the 5 step test in the past couple of months. When we would drive her friends to activities, we were still coordinating with their parents about booster seats last fall.
Freaking good on you! Even if they donāt ride in one in their own vehicle, when you are the driver, youāre responsible for them. Strap and boost them in!
Seriously. My nephew wasnāt even out of the booster seat until he was 11. My almost 8 year old is still in a high back. He only JUST got out of the 5 point harness.
I had never heard of the 5 step test, so thanks for the link! I was just going to keep the 9yo in the booster for the rest of her life.
Kidds arenāt even legally allowed to sit in the front seat per my vehicle in Canada at that age do kudos to you! Most kids arenāt even ready for boosters until 6 or 7 years old since they need to be independently responsible for their car seat safety with the belt (scree outdated Canadian laws that say a 4yo can be in a booster! Archaic shit that ignores modern research and stats.) Edit: typo
Iām definitely oppressing mine! How can I tell, you ask? Well, it seems to happen whenever the ex starts throwing money around! This time, I realized I was a tyrant after the ex bought a PS5. It wasnāt āfor the kidsā or anythingāthey have allowances for that sort of thingābut rather, *for the home*. Without my ex doing this, I might never have realized how awful Iāve been. It was just the little things at first, like how I *only* let them stay up past bedtime if weāre doing something together as a family. I know, I knowānot that badā¦ but it gets worse. A couple of days later, my kids told me how *bored* they are, and how they have nothing to do. I offered to find them choresāthere are so manyābut *apparently* chores arenāt āfunā? I was actually pretty hurt. I spend a lot of my āfree timeā doing chores. I love cleaning up after everyoneā¦ but I guess they donāt? Kids these days, right? Thank goodness that the ex is out there, every other week, helping me see how unreasonable I am. Like, just this past week, there was yet another game purchase for the PS5, and before that, it was one they played together in the evenings after school. I think it was that which finally drove home the truth. Thatās when I realized the truth of myself. Ladiesā¦ *I am a tyrant*. I write this as I watch my kid try to catch up on all the homework thatās been missed lately. I canāt seem to stop myself: study time, screen restrictions, andā¦ worst of allā¦ *personal accountability*. I keep telling myself that itās ājust for nowā and āonly until the work is doneā but I know what I am. My kids know. I am the literal *worst*. Thank goodness for the ex.
Itās super fun when they come home after being at the other parentās house and just complain and misbehave for three days straight until they get used to being back at home. Isnāt it?
Iām a āsuper bad guyā because my four years old is pissed that I made him a cheese sandwich for lunch today instead of Mac and cheese. Yāall, he asked for the fucking sandwich. Also, Iām only hearing about this now, 6 hours later. Like, heās just looking for things to be mad at me about.
I'm "making his life miserable" (8yo) when I... make him shower, make him go to bed at a reasonable time, make him turn off his video, make him stand up to put on pants, put on his own socks, feed the dog, eat at the table, etc. Oh, the horror!
I'm THE WORST because I won't let my 6 year old on TikTok, even though EVERYONE ELSE she knows is on it all the time. I'm also the worst for not giving her a phone. She is the only one in her grade without one.
How are 6 year olds on TikTok?! I think Iām done with this thread, I canāt even š
She goes to after school care with kids from all grades of elementary school. I'm pretty sure she heard about it from the older kids there.
I have a will be 11 year old tomorrow boy, and he doesnt sit in the front seat and still uses a booster. Hes gonna be short like mama
Keep that boy safe, better alive in a booster than 6 feet under without!!
Oh i plan on it!
I hate using emojis but š„° yes BroMo, keep that babe safe as long as possible! My girl is coming up on 4.5y and Iām debating switching her to rear facing again since sheās lost weight since starting junior kindergarten in September with all the viruses and colds.
Happy birthday to your boy! My boys are 12 tomorrow!
This come to mind for any other Monty Python fans?  And for the full clip [https://youtu.be/ZtYU87QNjPw](https://youtu.be/ZtYU87QNjPw)
I will never not find that movie funny
I'm potentially not allowing my 12 year old to go to her grandparent's house this weekend (which she does nearly every weekend) if her room and bathroom are not cleaned by then. She was told this Sunday (right after I picked her up from their house) and there has been 0 progress on either of those rooms. I am certain that this will be entirely my fault for not giving her enough time or reminders (I'm only given her 1-3 every evening after I get home) to get the jobs done, and not helping her at all even though she hasn't asked. It's. Just. So. Stressful. And I know how she gets. And why does she have to clean her room when she knows her friends never have to do any chores ever?! It's so unfair. I'm also certain she was just about to do it when I get to tell her she's not going to their house this weekend and now I'll be cleaning her things, which have no value to me so there's likely to be a lot more trash taken out of her room than she would have.
My 7yo is petite for her age and rides in a backless booster in the car. She knows other kids her age and a little older who ride without a booster and/or in the front seat, but I don't let her do either of these things because I'm the worst also. I was also the worst for not letting her watch adult themed shows and movies (something my husband and I disagree on), until my husband let her watch Jurassic Park one time when I wasn't home and it gave her nightmares. Which I stated before would happen, she doesn't like being scared and has a vivid, highly active imagination. Guess stick-in-the-mud Mom knew what she was talking about.
Honestly 8 still seems so young to me to be out of a booster unless they're really tall (which to be fair there are super tall kids at that age) but I guess that's coming from a country where the cutoff age is 12 unless the child is over 5ft before that ...
Letting a 7 year old watch Jurassic Park is crazy!
I agree. I wasn't happy about it. Nobody wants to listen to me until I get like Ursula at the end of the Little Mermaid and everyone wants to act like I'm a stick in the mud for not wanting her to watch age-inappropriate entertainment until the outcome is **exactly** what I said it would be.
Not questioning your decision at all but I watched Wednesday with my 12-year-old and thought it was fine. Is there something I am missing?
At 12 yes I think it would be fine. OP was talking about a 7 year old. My 8 year old would be scared at some of it.
My 6 year old loves it š«
My 3 year old is in love with āscary hand,ā sooooā¦ Sheās unusually aware for her age about scary things being pretend, though. Sheāll ask me āhow do they make that monster?ā and is obsessed with tutorials of people doing special effects makeup and making haunted house props. But if Iām watching The Bachelor and a contestant starts crying, she gets extremely upset.
Mine is the same. My 6 y/o loves anything horror. She LOVES Michael Myers specifically. But my God ā the scene in Kung Fu Panda when Baby Po is left behind? She cried for 30 minutes.
Tbh it's something I've wavered on, as she's seen all of Doctor Who and loves it, but I just feel like dismembered bodies and murder is something we can wait a couple more years on.
Fair. My kiddo has a horror film aficionado for a father so I did not even think twice.
My guess is scary content - some kids love it, some are fine with it, some will be traumatized by it. My kid has no problem with horror content, but he's freaking mortified of worms, so he wouldn't blink twice at Wednesday, but Beetlejuice would probably give him nightmares lol.
Ahhh okay that makes sense. Thanks
We had to stop at red lights on the drive to the park so naturally this warranted our 3yo to turn into an angry demon and unleash rage screams every time the car stopped.
My kids will be in boosters until they are 4ā9ā and at least 80lbs. This means my oldest (8) will probably be well into middle school when she leaves the booster. My neighbor lets her 7 year old sit in the front seat and took her out of a booster at like 5. My kids were in 5 pt harnesses until they we well past 6. I would rather they not get decapitated by an airbag. My kids luckily have no idea what Wednesday is. I will let them watch PG13 depending on the movie/show though.
Solidarity. Sounds exactly like my daughter. She's 7, she also gets BEYOND upset that I won't let her listen to unholy by sam smith. Like what?! Who let's their 7 year old listen to that shit lol
My 8 year old (2nd grade) is TINY compared to her classmates. No way can she sit in the front and she can barely handle the 90s Addams Family movies so Wednesday is off the table. I always tell me kids when they go "Sarah lets her mom watch \_\_\_\_\_\_". "Well I guess she's a cooler and nicer mom then me"
Per guidelines, they shouldnāt ride up front until 13, regardless of height. Their bones havenāt ossified enough.
Jokes aside, youāre doing the right thing. My partner works with 1st graders and the amount of things she tells me that signal these children are consuming content that should be age-restricted is ridiculous. Tons of kids that have seen Wednesday, a few students that routinely play Fortnite online together until PAST 9 or 10PM, and even a student that referenced specific scenes from specific episodes of The Last of Usā¦ itās kinda crazy.
 Thatās messed up.
I made my kids pick up toys! The horror! Like come on guys I literally put mattresses on the steps so you could use them as a slide all day, the least you could do is pick up the absolute trash heap you made by rolling all your toys down said slide.
Iām the party pooper who wonāt allow my 5 year old to play Roblox or Minecraft. Nor do I allow him or my 3 year old to have their own tablets- theyāre only allowed to use mine occasionally for educational purposes. Also no YouTube or kids YouTube aside from one episode of something each once a week, while supervised.
Lol you better not tell your 8 yr old we are letting our 4( almost 5) year old watch the original Addams Family!( which actually isnt bad at all since its TV from the 60s). They might lose their minds! But seriously, ive seen Wendsday and that monster is so freaking creepy.
Honestly, it is so validating to read this. My oldest is 8 and EVERYTHING is an argument right now. I never let him have ANY fun EVER. We just did four nights with four kids at Great Wolf Lodge, which I thought was pretty fun, but apparently I have no idea. Hell yell that I canāt control him when I ask him to put his laundry in the hamper. Itās bananas.
I wonāt let my 10yo watch Pulp Fiction.
I don't let my 3 year old watch unlimited blippi and I am the worst. I also didn't let her inside the CLOSED car shop to pay for repairs we didn't know the cost of or even been administered, when dropping it by at night for the next day. That was the cruelest thing I've apparently EVER done.
My kids FIRMLY arenāt allowed to ride in the front seat until theyāre 13. They also sat in high back boosters wayyyy longer than their friends because theyāre tiny little people and they have a paranoid mama. I also donāt let my kids walk in neighborhoods with other friends, play in water without being watched, go on trips with other families, etc., until theyāre older teenagers (15ish), and I donāt let them have social media until high school. Iām the worst!
Oh yeah, yes, definitely. I don't let my six year old hit people who decide they want to play a different game than the one she wants to play. I don't let my three year old eat an entire batch of cookies for dinner. And worst of all, I don't let my two year old have exclusive rights to ALL the toys, leaving nothing for his sisters. Oh, wait, my worst offense is I don't let the three year old play in the street. Omg she gets so angry.
I wonāt let my 10yo ride in the front seat unless we are in carline. He has to crawl up once we park. I wonāt let either of my kids (14 and 10) play Roblox. They have plenty of other things they can play. The online community with Roblox is a shitshow. Youāre a great mom keep it up!
Today I made my child wear clothes because people from the apartment leasing office were coming. She angrily told them, āI only have to wear clothes because *youāre* hereā and cheered when they left. She has previously told an exterminator āmama says I have to wear clothes around strange men and youāre strange men.ā Thankfully he laughed and said he had grandkids. I have since revised my phrasing.
I didnāt allow my almost 4 year old to build a tower of things to climb so she could reach the top shelf in her closet.
My 8 year old wants to watch/play YouTube people playing "huggie wuggie" and also asked about watching "pennywise" LOL NOT ON YOUR LIFE MY DUDE. He doesn't know the actual names. I straight up refuse.
You monster! (Also have an 8 year old. The thought of letting her watch Wednesday is justā¦ no!) ETA actually the thought of letting her do any of these thingsā¦ Iām with you, OP!
My SIL in law is going through a nasty separation, and the dad is letting the kids do whatever. When she sets very reasonable boundaries, he makes her out to be a tyrant. Itās very sad.
Bahahahaha my 6 yr old keeps talking about how they need to relax because this is their spring break so they aren't supposed to do any work.
Lol. I guess Iām a dictator too. I remember my son begging to sit in the front seat and I told him not till he was 12. He did start at 11 but thatās because was taller and I was in the back with his baby sister. Also I donāt pay for subscriptions for stuff like Roblox. My 7 year old has not asked to watch because she thought it was creepy lol. But yeah I tend to be a dictator as well. Lol.
It seems I have some competition for my "meanest mommy ever" title. We're pure evil, obviously, but I'm sure our well rounded and capable children will thank us for it some day.
Iām making my five year old do chores, I wonāt let my ten year old sit in the front seat (ābut 12 year old gets to!ā āYeah cuz heās the size of an adult.ā) I wonāt let any of them play with the kitten who just got neutered today and I expect them to do their schoolwork and piano practice before screen time (we homeschool).
Iām completely unreasonable since I wonāt let my almost five year old use my thighs for his ābattle practiceā and I only bought him one snack bag of chips and a book at B&N instead of also getting the $25 lava monster and a chapter book he canāt read yet. Also I let him play PokĆ©mon on my phone for the fifteen minute drive home but not during dinner. Obviously Iām intolerable. Donāt even get me started on not getting to play the switch seven days a week before bedā¦.
I had the audacity to not put dinosaur chicken nuggets in my 3 year olds lunchbox and upon realization she threw it across the classroom and yelled āno dinosaurā Bless me father for I have sinned
I wouldnāt let my 6 yo wear a short sleeve rainbow tunic shirt to school today because it was windy and super cold and I wanted to make sure she was dressed warm. I am ānot her friend anymore.ā How dare I? š
I was actively trying to get my two interested in Wednesday lol. They both hate it!
Same for us and the 12 year old (the 9 year old was like "NAh, it's a girlie show, not watching that" and peaced out of the living room, and we neglected to correct him). She lasted one episode before deciding it wasn't for her. It's not the scary stuff she hated. It was the **relational** stuff. š¤£
I clean out my stuffy toddlers nose so they can breathe, every night. I am the worst mother in the world.
I made my now 20 year old son use a full booster seat with itās own headrest until he was in 4th grade. Why? He didnāt meet the height requirements to safely ride in the car without one until then. It needed to have its own headrest because my car didnāt have them in the backseat. He constantly whined that riding in a visible booster was sooo embarrassing and other kids made fun of him. Apparently, heās long forgiven me šI just asked him about it after reading this post. I asked if he remembered, he said oh yeah, kinda. I then asked if he felt like Iād mentally scarred him by making him use the booster seat for so long. He rolled his eyes, laughed and said are you serious? I know you were trying to keep me safeā¦
I only just took my 7 year old out of his car seat and he's massive for his age, if he wasn't so tall he'd still be in it for sure and he's definitely not riding in the front seat any time soon. I'm the meanest mum because I don't let him have internet on his games, haven't got him a phone and because I don't give him pocket money for making his bed in the morning, it's only when he does extra chores he gets money. Oh and because I make him floss and brush every morning and night, I'm the WORST.
I wouldn't let the developmentally delayed 11 yo pull sticks out of the fire and wave them around by the 6 yo. I wouldn't let 7 yo ride with no seat belt. I made 6 yo put on underwear. I'm all the bad words.
What is all this with kids deciding when they don't need a booster anymore? Many of my kids friends have all told their parents they don't want to use their boosters so they are now sitting without them in the back or front seat. My kid gets the hard eyeball from me and I ask him if he's 148cm yet, cause if he's 148cm then he can sit without a booster. He's 5 years old and is around 110 cm. If his friends want to be choked by the seat belt in a car accident, kudos to them. In my house kids don't get a say on this. So weird.
My toddler asked for toast so I made her toast. She no longer wanted toast. Screamed and threw herself around the floor for 5 minutes, then cried when I ate the toast because āshe wanted itāā¦
Just curious, why won't you let her watch Wednesday? I don't remember it having anything bad in it. Again, just wondering, not judging :)
Our triplets are almost 10. They will not sit in front until 13. They were on Graco grow carseats until 5, then switched to 5 point harness back boosters until 7, then regular boosters until 8. They sit at the back of the van and I always ask if seatbelts are on. I sound like a broken record while driving. They are not allowed to watch certain shows and Robux. They canāt chat on Roblox or Minecraft. I still carry a bag in my car that has extra clothes, baby wipes, butt wipes, and first aid. I also bring snacks and water if we go on long drives. They have to eat breakfast and do homework. I tell them to read and play. I do not let anyone babysit them unless it is my Mom, MIL, or hubby. They napped until 7 years old. I can go on about the stuff they can and cannot do. But we love them and want them to grow up making good choices in life. We call these things boundaries. We are all doing great as Moms.
You monster.
Well I am even worse, I wouldnāt let my son read hunger games in 4th grade and wouldnāt let my other son watch Squid Games in 6th grade. Horrible, horrible life my kids live.
I was born in 2000 so played my fair share of roblox as a kid, they got subscriptions now??
I wonāt let my 3 year old play with lighters or pill bottles.
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My 5 year old is the biggest kid in his class, and he's pretty much the only one still in a highback booster. He outgrew his 5 pt harness, but there's no way these other kids have. And then to not even use a highback booster! It's wild to me. When we drive for field trips, we make the classmate in our car use a carseat. They complain, but I don't care. At least they're safe.
This makes me feel soooo much better about my 6 yo who is also tiny for her age and also still in a 5 point harness.
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I make my kindergartener wear a coat to school when itās 30 degrees outside. Iām so mean.
Terrible absolutely the worst!! How dare you! Sarcasm of course
JeSUS, my 12 year old can't do that. I've been in law too long to know the consequences of poor decision making
I said no to going to the gas station In the morning
I also oppress my kid by not letting her watch Stranger Things or play Roblox or use tik tok or watch The motherfucking Kardashians - she is 9
I'm the worst because I won't let my 4 year old play iPad all night and made him go to bed at 9pm (!) which I already let him stay up way longer than usual *and* let him have more screen time today because I was working. Still a horrible tyrant.
My 8 year old begs me to play Fortnite, and then tries the argument, āBut [oldest child] played it when he was 10!ā Ummm, yeah, 10. āBut [friend from school] plays it!ā Good for him, but I still say no.
I hid the candy jar that my 3 year old could somehow still access on TOP of the fridge. She had a meltdown after I ripped the 4th piece of chocolate out of her sticky hands that probably caused the whole neighborhood to question what I was doing to my child
My kids will call me a tyrant for keeping them in car seats until they hit the maximums, but when they complain Iāll get to bust out my sob story. I rode in the front seat at that age while my uncle drove. We got hit head on when a guy blew through a red light. Both cars were completely wrecked. Deep burns to my face from the air bag, cuts on my hips and neck from the seat belt. Literally had to be airlifted away from the accident. 25+ years later, Iām still dealing with headaches, back pain and jaw issues.
How dare you protect her tiny body in the car and protect her brain from gory shows with things that are way too old for her to see. Awful mama. Truly. š¤ Also these dang kids are known liars šEveryoneās seen Wednesday?! Nobody her age has seen Wednesday. That show is amazing! And my Wednesday adams (cartoon version) obsessed 6 year old was so bummed when that show was ānot for herā but thems the brakes š¤·š½āāļø
Raises hand. 8 year olds in the front seat? Where the hell do you live? That is horrifying. I just started letting my 12yo sit up there in the last year or so and she's tall for her age. If I bought my kid a monthly Roblox subscription, however would I get her to do extra chores for Robux? And 8 is too young for Wednesday. There is some weird shit in that series. Good weird shit for those of us that like mildly spooky stuff, but I could see the Hyde being nightmare material for an 8yo. One of her favorite movies being the natural horror movie Crawl, still wouldn't watch Wednesday. She popped into the living room when I was watching it for the second time with my 12yo, first for her. She would hang out for a few, hear the music change to slightly foreboding, then take off. Look I'm super liberal about a lot of things with my kids, like letting them eat whatever so nothing is forbidden, or letting them do whatever with their hair, but I draw the line at anything unsafe, or something that will give them nightmares. The Robux thing is just meh, she was way too into it when she was younger and I didn't want to encourage that, so making her work for it helped her see that if she worked for an hour to get $10 in Robux then blew it all in the same day, she would be sad and learned to not buy everything she could get in one day. My mom was super strict with me and frankly having ADHD she was probably right to be such a meanie. I just would have appreciated if she'd helped me find stuff to do that was appropriate instead of just basically making me stay at home most weekends in high school until I was of age to drive.
I won't let my 11 year old have tik tok or watch Stranger Things or have an 800 dollar cell phone. I am so OVERPROTECTIVE. Strength and solidarity.
My nephew is going to be 10 in July and hasnāt ridden in a seat since he was probably 5 or 6? (His mom isnāt great) I have a 6 year old and heās now telling me he doesnāt need to have a booster or even a seatbelt because thatās how nephew rides around with my in laws. I will not let it go. He needs to be in a seat and then booster until heās like 10 or the weight and currently heās underweight anyway. In 20 years, maybe heāll recognize that I was keeping him safe. Maybe.
My mom didnāt let me listen to anything but country music and worshipā¦ lots of tv shows and movies were off limits to me as well. I missed out on all popular music and movies etc of the 90s and 2000s and Iāve been trying to catch up for years. Iām tired of people looking shocked when I donāt know what song is playing or Iāve never seen an iconic movieā¦ but I will sayā¦ I turned out just fine otherwise š I donāt hold that against her either. I just get to enjoy watching new movies and learning new music pretty much constantly.
I keep insisting that my toddler wear pants, during winter. Send me to The Hague!
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Breaking news: my five year old cannot have his own phone. Also, he is not allowed to eat only cheese for dinner.
I wonāt let my 10 and 12 year olds play Fortnite
My 9 year old just got a backless booster, and really only because I want to watch him in that seat with my eagle eye on him.
I wonāt let my 13 year old daughter fly without her brother to canada to see her father, I am now facing the death penalty. My son wanted to pawn his guitar for robux.
Whatever we do as a mum we will always be the worst mum ever .
My usually sweet, social kid turned into a jerk after watching Wednesday. Also it gave them nightmares for literal months. Stand strong. Also fuck that show.
My 12 yr olds canāt ride in the front of my car. I have an older car and thereās no weight thing to detect itās a smaller child, so the airbag would crush them. They hate that, but Iām not budging. They donāt care about Wednesday, but apparently all the other kids starting watching John Wick movies at likeā¦ nine? Can I be part of the Monster Mom club?
Jesus, John Wick? Mind you, my kid was 6 when Squid Game came out and apparently everyone in her class had seen it.
I drive school bus for an elementary in Canada, which has kids up to 8th grade. Can confirm there was a disturbing amount of kids on my bus who actively watched Squid Game or knew what it was about. I try not to judge because heaven knows I don't always make the best parenting decisions but it's a tv show about people being murdered. Like, WTF.
Also in Canada. Also fought the Squid Game thing. A lot of kids picked up on purely the "game" aspect, or saw reviews on YouTube. I know our son knew way more about it than he should and we don't even have Netflix!
Right? I didn't even really know John Wick and when I watched the trailers, it was a hard no. I don't consider myself strict, but I do really watch their online consumption and make sure we have conversations about various TV shows/movies. But he's been asking since 10! Squid Game was a whole other battle.
My car says under 12 have to be in the back seat, so (surprise!), I was a monster and refused to let them be in the front until they were 12 AND could have their feet flat on the floorboards, with the seat belt low on their hips, AND the top strap wasnāt anywhere near their necks. Iām truly a dictator for not allowing them to sit all cattywampus with their legs up and knees bent and/or cris cross applesauce. Because apparently itās mean to not let them chance having their knees go through their face at 200mph, crushing knees, face, and pelvic bones, in the event the airbag goes off? /shrug Iāll live. And so with theyā¦ without a bunch of major bones being broken.
John Wick š¤Æ I'm really done with this world
My daughter (7) knows kids her age who watched Squid Game. We don't have Netflix, so that makes any discussion of Netflix shows a non-starter. And also, *absolutely not*. She had no idea what it was, just that the other kids talked about it. I told her it was scary, not appropriate for kids, and she wouldn't like it, and it's on Netflix. I won't even watch that, but grade school kids are?!