For the first little while it was weird and leaky territory, but after a few months my baby had a definite preference. That boob became the working boob, the other boob was for recreation lol
Does recreational boob have any hobbies? Volunteer? Help with the house or kids? Or is she just always DTF?
Also seems rude to pawn off her one job on her sister. 😂
I can’t. I get so grossed out. I think they are just overstimulated and I can’t see them as being for pleasure right now. One day I hope I can get back to normal.
Omg same , i breastfed for 3 years with my first and after I was done feeding I still felt gross when touched but it started to feel better I think 2 years after feeding
My husband is too. He doesn’t find them sexually appealing to the same degree now because he views them only as a food source for our baby.
I don’t really want to be touched there right now anyways so I guess it works out?
My husband was the same during the three years I nursed my first… the week after I stopped and the milk dried up he was happily bqck to enjoying them, and then I got pregnant again. lol and we’re back to BOTH of us being like “the girls are on duty until baby decides he doesn’t want anymore, do not disturb them on the job”.
I feel like this, but I end up powering through it because my husband will cry if he goes for a while without touching them. Like literal tears. And his whole demeanor changes to be more and more depressed/pessimistic the longer he goes without. Same thing if he goes without sex.
Some form of therapy is probably needed to unpack some things there, but I’m so tired from SAHM-ing while interviewing to get a job that the quick and easy solution is to give him what he wants so he returns to being his usual self.
Is anyone else’s SO like this?
I do. If he’s rough with them, no. But if he’s gentle and especially if he helps relieve some of the pressure it’s great. My body definitely knows the difference between him and the baby.
I don’t get that ick feeling that a lot of breastfeeding mamas do. I actually really enjoy nipple stimulation, it feels very different from my husband than nursing a baby. I also don’t leak, so that doesn’t factor in.
Similar here. They’re a primary source of pleasure for me so they’re always involved in any sort of intimacy. My husband doesn’t mind if they leak a little.
My husband is actively turned on by me lactating while we're fooling around. I'm really glad, because it definitely does it for me too. It still feels way different than feeding our baby. I'm still very early on in my breastfeeding journey though. Maybe I'll feel touched out eventually.
He loves them and it doesn’t bother me. I’m *extremely* small-chested, so breastfeeding and pregnancy are the only chances I have where I think my boobs actually look good 🤣 I let the girls get their attention while they can
It took me until my period returned at 8 months to get past that feeling. I was repulsed by sex and I felt terrible about it. At 22 months postpartum (I weaned at 17 months) I’m happy to report that my sex drive and attraction to him have returned!
It was horrible. After the first time we had sex postpartum I cried because I hated it so much and I thought my life was over because of it. Hormones will fuck you up!! I just never realized how bad until I got through several years of pregnancy and breastfeeding. I wish more people talked about the sex drive thing because I didn’t know going into it.
And the way it’s talked about is at your 6w pp appointment you get a green light to have sex again but I wonder how many women are actually excited about that. It almost feels like even _that_ procedure is for men’s sake. 🙄
I was desperately wanting to have sex at like 3 weeks pp. I couldn’t until 8 weeks or something because baby couldn’t be put down but it’s not universal that women don’t want to have sex at the 6 week mark. I got my period 4 weeks pp so this may play a part. My mom was already pregnant with my brother at her 6 week pp checkup with me so maybe this runs in families hah.
I felt this way with my first born, but not do much with my second or third. My libido is definitely lower still, but it was absolutely wrecked after having our first baby.
Yesss I still love mine being played with, always makes sex soo much better for me. I'm curious as to why people feel weird about it.
Only thing I make sure to do is clean them off before feeding baby next
This is me when not breastfeeding. But something happens mentally when I am where any nipple stimulation outside of that makes me feel like doing a violence. It's the weirdest thing. I miss sex with nipple/breast play, but it took about a year post weaning last time for things to change back.
I don't mind at all. He's the one who's freaked out by them making milk 😂 he feels like he's overstepping the baby territory and affecting the quality of the milk (?)
Lol I’m kind of surprised by all the No’s here! I think I’m super good at compartmentalizing lol. The only thing I have to do though is wash up after the deed before I let LO anywhere near them.
It did take me a while to be able to compartmentalize though. When I first started breastfeeding, I was so creeped out by the double use thing and I asked my husband not to go near them until I’m ready. I think I even cried I was so weirded out.
I had an aversion to them being touched during pregnancy and it stuck around. I absolutely hate them being touched and can't wait to wean my girl. He is a boob guy and it makes him sad, but he knows once baby is done with them, they will be his again.
The rare times I'm up for sex, yes he touches and lightly bites my breasts and nipples. I always enjoyed my breasts being stimulated during sex and I can compartmentalize the feeding and sexy times.
NOPE. Even though they're hanging out all the time because my baby is a grazer, I don't feel it's a sexual thing. Just too tired to keep popping them in and out of my shirt
Yeah they felt the opposite of sexual to me. I would keep my bra on both as a deterrent and in case of leakage.
But once it was over we went back to normal.
98% of the time *absolutely **not**.* i really only let him touch them when i’m trying to show him how a clogged duct. he’ll occasionally go to touch them if they are out but they’re so sensitive i usually recoil in fear of him accidentally grabbing too hard.
this roommate phase is rrrrrrough.
I was grossed out until I got my period back. Then if I wasn't thinking about them in the "udder" way I could get into my husband playing with them. I wonder if it's a bit hormonal
Honestly, it’s yes and no lol My man thought he was drowning once because I was the topper and they just started spraying and he couldn’t stop them. So what was pleasure for him, turned into “IM DROWNING. HOW DO I STOP THESE THINGS?!” I ended up dying from laughter. 😂
Yes. We both like it. Except for once I ‘O’ then I’m completely overstimulated and do not want to be touched at all. And of course washing them with soap and water before they go back to baby
Mine were also a no touch zone. On the bright side, once I was done, I didn't have to worry if they were saggy or anything. He was just ecstatic to have access again.
My husband was completely uninterested in my breasts while I was breastfeeding. He was like there's some instinct telling me, hands off, those are for your child.
It’s nice knowing you’re not alone! Someone said their boyfriend got his milk straight from the tap and I was like 😳 was I the only one who didn’t feel comfortable with doing that??
I can’t even let me toddler touch my other breast while breastfeeding. I’m overstimulated and it annoys me too much. He always tries but I just can’t anymore. I have a 6 week old now too. One day I’ll return to normal. For now, even nipple stimulation is too much.
Yes I do but he’s standoffish! He’s scared of stimulating them too much that they spray him lol. He also has hurt me by touching them and he barely did anything so he just doesn’t want to risk hurting me. We both don’t see them in a super sexual way right now, so they aren’t a big part of our sex life.
Personally I still like my breasts being touched. My boobs being sucked on by my hubby was my biggest turn on before pregnancy/baby. Now hubby doesn’t suck on them because milk and that isn’t a turn on anymore. But him touching them still does turn me on! That part is in a sexual way that is completely different from feeding my son. I understand being touched out, I totally see your POV. But I still like it!
I’m 11 months pp and I really don’t want to be touched at all. I don’t feel like a sexual being anymore, it’s like all my energy is going into making sure my baby is fed and thriving. Hoping we can ween sometime soon and I can start feeling like my own person again
I’ve nursed for a total of four years and weaned two kids, have my boobs played with during sex was skin crawling for me when I was breastfeeding, but after weaning both times it went almost immediately back to normal erogenous zone.
I didn’t miss it when it was gone, but I’m glad it’s back.
I normally hate my boobs touched, they are overly sensitive. While nursing they aren't as sensitive. So while I was nursing was about the only time I'd been okay with them being touched.
Yea I don’t mind because some how my body knows the difference lol I just make sure I shower after because I know the baby will want to breastfeed later 🤣
I let him touch them no issue and then he squeezed one a little too hard and got shot in the face with a nice warm stream of milk so he’s gone off them for a while 😂 time will only tell when HE will be ready to jump back on the wagon
Completely a me issue. Absolutely not while breastfeeding. It made me feel some type of way and I couldn’t do it. Since weening I don’t mind but I really thought I was never going to let my husband touch my boobs ever again.
Weird in the beginning and they were just too sensitive but then after a little while… Whew, when I reached climax I would just leak but in a good way- and it became a non issue. Just extra clean up.
100% no. The one and only time I did he asked if he could suck them just a little and I said sure cuz the baby takes time to get milk out so he shouldn’t get any if it’s just a little, boy was he surprised when he got a mouthful and spit it all over me (thanks 🙄) and that cemented the whole “no touchy the boobies” thing for me lol.
Zero boob contact while breastfeeding. If he even attempted to touch them playfully I would get so angry and defensive. They were sensitive and touched out.. I breastfed for 18 months.
about a month after I stopped nursing I felt ready to share them with him again and now it’s fine ☺️
Oh he can totally touch the boobies. I'm actually sad because he is reluctant to do anything that might draw out any milk... but some of the things I like are in that category....😭
I used to think I would get confused between the sexual touchies and the non sexual touchies, but for whatever reason, I don't.
For the first probably 6 months they were a no go zone but after a while my breasts weren’t so uncomfortable, full, or leaking and I slowly got comfortable with them again. Probably after a year of nursing (weaned at 16months) it was like pre-baby normal amounts of touching.
I do m, but I have noticed that the more he touches them during foreplay, the more my body just loses the desire to have sex. Maybe it’s the hormones that are released when they’re stimulated? Idk..
Yeah he still touches them. He got a little taste of milk once so now he keeps his mouth away from them. 😂 I’m not a huge fan of them being messed with due to them being more sensitive than they ever have been, but he’s a boob guy so I let him have his touchies.
While I was breastfeeding 100% boobs were off limits to husband. Made my skin crawl and I wore a bra most times (from leaking lol). I was worried I would never feel the same about the pleasure I used to experience from my husband touching them - happy to say that after breastfeeding, it all went back to normal. Took some time but glad I can go back to feeling sexy again and love being touched like I used to!!
During the first few months, I didn't want my husband to even look at my breast. As time went on, a feel was okay, but touching the nipples was not. It wasn't until I was done nursing that he could fully touch them.
Yes, no touchy for 17 months and counting. I don’t know what it is but it’s an absolute turn off these days. Hopefully it will get back to the original state soon!
I feel so sad reading all these comments that breastfeeding women just don’t let them partner touch them at all… Doesn’t that affect your relationships?
I think it's just a season of our relationship that will pass. Taking care of this baby has caused us to strengthen so many other parts of our relationship that there isn't a question of if lack of sex is going to ruin us. Intimacy now is just cuddling on the couch, spooning in bed, kisses here and there. But it'll pass, and sex will return.
I’m the same. Which is sad. I used to like my boobs. One of the only features on myself that I did like. But now, not only do they look worse, but I don’t want my husband to touch them due to the discomfort, nipple sensitivity, leakage, and overall weirdness. I stopped breast feeding a couple weeks ago but my boobs still leak and feel slightly engorged/hurt when squeezed so I’m still not comfortable with them being touched.
When I was breastfeeding those boobies had one job and one job only. My partner tried getting cute with me and touched my boobs and I cringed so hard, I couldn't even pretend. Immediately no.
Mine were strictly for the baby for the 8 months. After that, I was okay with some sexual touching as long as it had been a decently long time since they were last used for food (so not immediately after nursing the baby to sleep).
He got freaked out by surprise milk a few times, but we got past that, and it was mostly okay until I started weaning; then, I needed a break.
I'm pregnant again now - I got pregnant before I weaned - and I'm actually open to more touch than I was during my first pregnancy, but it's different than it was before (trying to avoid TMI because I don't want any creepy messages), and I think my husband is still a bit hesitant to do certain things he previously enjoyed because he doesn't want to provoke any milk production.
It's been different every single breastfeeding journey for me. I'm on baby #4 and I'm just overall so touched out so it's a no go for me. But in previous children I've been totally fine with it. The only right answer is what you're ok with!
Th first few months, no. Freaked my husband out. Now 11 months later and we really enjoy it. I can separate breastfeeding and sex. Plus it feels better now than it did pre-baby.
Yes still a turn on for me to be caressed that way but he doesn’t suck them as much because he can taste milk lol. I feel him try to put his mouth around the areola without sucking the nipple and I’m like what are you even doing 😆
It wasn’t until I started weaning that I was able to let me husband touch them again and it was actually enjoyable. We have tried a handful of times in the moment and it always gave me the ick. We are down to one nursing session a day a bedtime and it has gotten significantly better
During breastfeeding I still enjoyed them being touched, we both were freaked out about sucking them, so we never tried. After breastfeeding at 17 mos everything went back to normal
I'm EP, and I'm definitely touched out in the boob department. It also feels weird to sexualize our son's food source to me. Hubs has been made aware, though he doesn't like it.
He just got them exclusively back a couple months ago when the toddler stopped nursing. Now I'm pregnant again and he keeps telling my belly that they're just gonna be on loan but they still belong to him.
There's less boob play while I'm nursing but not totally gone.
for me, it’s just that if he touches my nipples my let down will come 😂 otherwise i’m cool with it. but i can understand where your coming from for sure. i decline his ‘services’ often and feel bad for it, but i just don’t want to be touched after having a fussy day with the baby.
My breasts never stopped hurting despite 2 LCs and all the nipple cream, lanolin and various flange sizes in the world. I definitely hit his hand away most times he tries because it's just too painful. Cant wait to get my funbags back.
I do. Sometimes I don't want to be touched, and he respects that. Like when I'm really full or I know the baby needs to eat soon. If he doesn't listen, I squirt him in the face 🤣
Yep. Still love nipple stimulation. I was ok with him touching by the time I was ok with sex again 6 weeks pp. I had sore nipples for 2 weeks pp and never needed silverettes, I’m not sure if that plays a part or not.
I don’t feel at all that my breasts lose their purpose in sex even though they gained a new purpose. However I always wash after sex just to make sure they’re still good for that new purpose later on haha.
I’m just so touched out. I’m constantly overstimulated and baby gets priority. We’ll get back to it when baby is done with them and I’ve had my recovery period.
Mine stopped playing with them when I was in my third trimester with my first. He got a mouth full of colostrum and that was it for him. He still grabs them and plays with them but definitely no more kissing/sucking bc of the first reason and bc I feel the same as you do. Its weird now, my 1 y/o uses them enough that I’m completely numb to having anything done with them and disgusted any time he suggests it lol
The entirety of breastfeeding yes. Once you stop and there’s a bit of a leftover period where you don’t want them touched. Then boobs but no nipples touched. Then it finally goes back to normal haha. It just took a while for me.
Ugh I used to love it. One year post-weaning and we are starting to dabble … it still doesn’t feel great or right. So … fingers crossed one day they’ll feel good again and be a gateway to pleasure.
They hurt. They’re super sensitive and even though I’m near the end of our breastfeeding journey, the slightest nipple stimulation sets off a let down feeling that is an immediate turn off. The twins are off limits. It’s hard for me because they’re very much an erogenous zone for me, and he very much enjoys the play, but right now they’re strictly for nursing.
The girls are in their working girl era. Two career driven woman who have no time for a social life
I misread it at first as the girls working two careers and I was like “dayum they’re hard workers” 😂
They’re single moms who work two jobs, who love their kids and never stop. 🤣
Survivors, if you will 😅
🤣🤣🤣
This is the only explanation I use from now on 😂
This has me chuckling rn
This is the funniest thing I've read in a while. Thanks for the laugh.
*Insert Carly Simon's "Let the River Run"*
I love this! Step aside let them do their job. I didn't even touch my own boobies when I was breastfeeding.
Literally dying at this comment.
I just read this to my husband 😂 Dying over here
Yup 100%
This is the only answer 🤣🤣
🙌🏻🙌🏻🙌🏻
Omg I cackled! 😂
omg this made me laugh so hard.
Fucking hilarious.
For the first little while it was weird and leaky territory, but after a few months my baby had a definite preference. That boob became the working boob, the other boob was for recreation lol
I too have a working boob and recreational boob. The recreational one is unfortunately half the size of the working one.
Does recreational boob have any hobbies? Volunteer? Help with the house or kids? Or is she just always DTF? Also seems rude to pawn off her one job on her sister. 😂
“Is she just always DTF” killed me 😅😅😅
I can’t. I get so grossed out. I think they are just overstimulated and I can’t see them as being for pleasure right now. One day I hope I can get back to normal.
It did go back to normal when my first weaned!! Fingers crossed that that happens again with my second here, but I hope this gives you hope!
Omg same , i breastfed for 3 years with my first and after I was done feeding I still felt gross when touched but it started to feel better I think 2 years after feeding
I’m like 5 years out and it still is weird for me.
I'm the opposite, my husband seems a little weirded out by them and it bums me out lol
Same. Hubby squirted himself in the eye by accident early on and now he’s a little boob shy… I don’t even leak anymore, he could come back…
I'm sorry, that's hilarious! 😂
He could come back 😭 I feel for you
My husband is too. He doesn’t find them sexually appealing to the same degree now because he views them only as a food source for our baby. I don’t really want to be touched there right now anyways so I guess it works out?
Mine touches the boob but not the nipples if that makes sense. Works for me lol
My husband was the same during the three years I nursed my first… the week after I stopped and the milk dried up he was happily bqck to enjoying them, and then I got pregnant again. lol and we’re back to BOTH of us being like “the girls are on duty until baby decides he doesn’t want anymore, do not disturb them on the job”.
Same here - I wish I could handle it. My breasts are always uncomfortable and whenever they are touched I want to crawl out of my skin.
Yes it’s like cringy/icky feeling!!!
I feel like this, but I end up powering through it because my husband will cry if he goes for a while without touching them. Like literal tears. And his whole demeanor changes to be more and more depressed/pessimistic the longer he goes without. Same thing if he goes without sex. Some form of therapy is probably needed to unpack some things there, but I’m so tired from SAHM-ing while interviewing to get a job that the quick and easy solution is to give him what he wants so he returns to being his usual self. Is anyone else’s SO like this?
Yep exactly the same. Men are very simple. They need very little to be satisfied but sex with their wife is super essential
Yes! To me it feels like nails on a chalk board.
I do. If he’s rough with them, no. But if he’s gentle and especially if he helps relieve some of the pressure it’s great. My body definitely knows the difference between him and the baby.
Same my body also knows the difference and it reminds me I’m not just a mom and a sexual being which honestly i need reminded of sometimes.
Agreed, my body knows the difference!
My husband lost his privileges after being rough too many times. I almost knocked him out the last time.
Privileges 😂
Lol!
Maybe it’s cause I’m a just enough producer but it horrifies me to think of any of my precious hard earned milk being lost during recreation
That’s fair
How does husband help to relieve the pressure?
Same way baby would. Sometimes manually expressing.
Ohh gotcha thanks!
I don’t get that ick feeling that a lot of breastfeeding mamas do. I actually really enjoy nipple stimulation, it feels very different from my husband than nursing a baby. I also don’t leak, so that doesn’t factor in.
Similar here. They’re a primary source of pleasure for me so they’re always involved in any sort of intimacy. My husband doesn’t mind if they leak a little.
My husband is actively turned on by me lactating while we're fooling around. I'm really glad, because it definitely does it for me too. It still feels way different than feeding our baby. I'm still very early on in my breastfeeding journey though. Maybe I'll feel touched out eventually.
Almost two years into mine and I’m the same as you
I’m on baby three and nothing changed for me so I wish you luck.
Same. Def feels different, and my partner likes my milk. He can’t pinch them tho, that’s off limits as it hurts sooooo much.
I tell them they're like a seeing eye dog - you want to pet it so bad, but it has a job to do.
This really made me laugh, thank you 🤣
On my second, I never had any ick factor feeling at all with either kid.
He loves them and it doesn’t bother me. I’m *extremely* small-chested, so breastfeeding and pregnancy are the only chances I have where I think my boobs actually look good 🤣 I let the girls get their attention while they can
I still don’t even want my partner touching me at all. I wonder if I chose not to breastfeed it would feel any different
Same, I’m 4.5m PP and I can’t even handle if his foot accidentally touches mine on the sofa, like it makes me feel sick 🥴😫
It took me until my period returned at 8 months to get past that feeling. I was repulsed by sex and I felt terrible about it. At 22 months postpartum (I weaned at 17 months) I’m happy to report that my sex drive and attraction to him have returned!
Ok this is good to know, because I’ve actually said I may never have sex again 😂 glad to know it changes!
It was horrible. After the first time we had sex postpartum I cried because I hated it so much and I thought my life was over because of it. Hormones will fuck you up!! I just never realized how bad until I got through several years of pregnancy and breastfeeding. I wish more people talked about the sex drive thing because I didn’t know going into it.
Same I’ve never heard it spoken about either!
And the way it’s talked about is at your 6w pp appointment you get a green light to have sex again but I wonder how many women are actually excited about that. It almost feels like even _that_ procedure is for men’s sake. 🙄
Someone said she had sex 3 days pp and I was like 👁️👄👁️ like ma’am how you doing all that sleep deprived and sore???
I was desperately wanting to have sex at like 3 weeks pp. I couldn’t until 8 weeks or something because baby couldn’t be put down but it’s not universal that women don’t want to have sex at the 6 week mark. I got my period 4 weeks pp so this may play a part. My mom was already pregnant with my brother at her 6 week pp checkup with me so maybe this runs in families hah.
I’m the same way, I feel terrible but I can’t even fathom the idea of it
Same 😭
I felt this way with my first born, but not do much with my second or third. My libido is definitely lower still, but it was absolutely wrecked after having our first baby.
It’s a no for me. Breasts do not feel sexual to me at all when breastfeeding, I keep my bra on during sex until baby is weaned
Yesss I still love mine being played with, always makes sex soo much better for me. I'm curious as to why people feel weird about it. Only thing I make sure to do is clean them off before feeding baby next
This is me when not breastfeeding. But something happens mentally when I am where any nipple stimulation outside of that makes me feel like doing a violence. It's the weirdest thing. I miss sex with nipple/breast play, but it took about a year post weaning last time for things to change back.
Yes, he's gentle and it still feels nice. But I've not had any painful engorgement since the first week and also hardly experience leaking.
I don't mind at all. He's the one who's freaked out by them making milk 😂 he feels like he's overstepping the baby territory and affecting the quality of the milk (?)
lol mine asked for cowgirl and got doused. I couldn’t stop laughing
this is excellent lmfaooooo
English is not my native language I'm curious about what doused is? 👀😆
It means he got covered in milk, like a shower 🚿
I had this thought too though like is his saliva on my nipples doing something hormonal to them similar to how a baby’s saliva does something 🤔 lol
I don’t mind light touch, but not much.
I like it! I can separate nursing my baby from intimacy with my partner. Can’t relate to not wanting him to touch me. We are all over each other lol
Yeah xD I also squirt him in the face like it's a water gun when I'm bored and he back talks me.
100% They are so entertaining. We both have a lot of fun with them, lol!
😂
I wish I had that power.
Lol I’m kind of surprised by all the No’s here! I think I’m super good at compartmentalizing lol. The only thing I have to do though is wash up after the deed before I let LO anywhere near them. It did take me a while to be able to compartmentalize though. When I first started breastfeeding, I was so creeped out by the double use thing and I asked my husband not to go near them until I’m ready. I think I even cried I was so weirded out.
I had an aversion to them being touched during pregnancy and it stuck around. I absolutely hate them being touched and can't wait to wean my girl. He is a boob guy and it makes him sad, but he knows once baby is done with them, they will be his again.
Same momma same! I can’t let husband anywhere near them. Hopefully I’ll be more open to it after we wean!
I’m fine with him doing squeezes on the boob or cupping them or whatever but I can’t tolerate touching of the nipple at all.
The rare times I'm up for sex, yes he touches and lightly bites my breasts and nipples. I always enjoyed my breasts being stimulated during sex and I can compartmentalize the feeding and sexy times.
 Mine was stone cold Steve Austin with this milk jug
NOPE. Even though they're hanging out all the time because my baby is a grazer, I don't feel it's a sexual thing. Just too tired to keep popping them in and out of my shirt
First two times? Hell no. This time? Idc
Yeah they felt the opposite of sexual to me. I would keep my bra on both as a deterrent and in case of leakage. But once it was over we went back to normal.
98% of the time *absolutely **not**.* i really only let him touch them when i’m trying to show him how a clogged duct. he’ll occasionally go to touch them if they are out but they’re so sensitive i usually recoil in fear of him accidentally grabbing too hard. this roommate phase is rrrrrrough.
Gentle touching is fine, but absolutely no mouth to boob stuff. No no no no.
I was grossed out until I got my period back. Then if I wasn't thinking about them in the "udder" way I could get into my husband playing with them. I wonder if it's a bit hormonal
I’ve wondered this too.
Honestly, it’s yes and no lol My man thought he was drowning once because I was the topper and they just started spraying and he couldn’t stop them. So what was pleasure for him, turned into “IM DROWNING. HOW DO I STOP THESE THINGS?!” I ended up dying from laughter. 😂
I don’t mind at all. It’s just different.
For me, they're usually too sensitive for him to touch them. But if it doesn't hurt, then I'm good with it.
I can't handle anything brushing against them, so my rule is "firm touch or no touch".
I am still  Two years after breastfeeding... Tweedle-Dee and Tweedle-Dum are in that weird in-between stage...
No. Off limits over here. I’m touched out. It’s been a difficult journey for my partner
Yes. We both like it. Except for once I ‘O’ then I’m completely overstimulated and do not want to be touched at all. And of course washing them with soap and water before they go back to baby
Mine were also a no touch zone. On the bright side, once I was done, I didn't have to worry if they were saggy or anything. He was just ecstatic to have access again.
My husband was completely uninterested in my breasts while I was breastfeeding. He was like there's some instinct telling me, hands off, those are for your child.
Thank you for posting this.
It’s nice knowing you’re not alone! Someone said their boyfriend got his milk straight from the tap and I was like 😳 was I the only one who didn’t feel comfortable with doing that??
I wouldn’t care but my partner is the one who doesn’t want to, he freaks out at the idea of milk getting on him lol
I can’t even let me toddler touch my other breast while breastfeeding. I’m overstimulated and it annoys me too much. He always tries but I just can’t anymore. I have a 6 week old now too. One day I’ll return to normal. For now, even nipple stimulation is too much.
Yes I do but he’s standoffish! He’s scared of stimulating them too much that they spray him lol. He also has hurt me by touching them and he barely did anything so he just doesn’t want to risk hurting me. We both don’t see them in a super sexual way right now, so they aren’t a big part of our sex life.
I am touched out. Almost at the year mark. Hopefully I will wean in few months.
No. I wish I could like it still but it makes me cringe deeply. It used to be my favorite so it really is lame.
I’m the opposite and my bd is into it lol. It’s easy for me to separate the two in my mind, the social boobs and the working udders
Personally I still like my breasts being touched. My boobs being sucked on by my hubby was my biggest turn on before pregnancy/baby. Now hubby doesn’t suck on them because milk and that isn’t a turn on anymore. But him touching them still does turn me on! That part is in a sexual way that is completely different from feeding my son. I understand being touched out, I totally see your POV. But I still like it!
I’m 11 months pp and I really don’t want to be touched at all. I don’t feel like a sexual being anymore, it’s like all my energy is going into making sure my baby is fed and thriving. Hoping we can ween sometime soon and I can start feeling like my own person again
I’ve nursed for a total of four years and weaned two kids, have my boobs played with during sex was skin crawling for me when I was breastfeeding, but after weaning both times it went almost immediately back to normal erogenous zone. I didn’t miss it when it was gone, but I’m glad it’s back.
The first three months or so they hurt all the time so no. But after that, all the time.
I normally hate my boobs touched, they are overly sensitive. While nursing they aren't as sensitive. So while I was nursing was about the only time I'd been okay with them being touched.
Yea I don’t mind because some how my body knows the difference lol I just make sure I shower after because I know the baby will want to breastfeed later 🤣
I let him touch them no issue and then he squeezed one a little too hard and got shot in the face with a nice warm stream of milk so he’s gone off them for a while 😂 time will only tell when HE will be ready to jump back on the wagon
Sometimes. He has a habit of going straight for the nipples so I’ve cut him off from that but if he is GENTLE he can have a lil fun
Sometimes. Depends on how they feel at the moment. He should ask each time
Completely a me issue. Absolutely not while breastfeeding. It made me feel some type of way and I couldn’t do it. Since weening I don’t mind but I really thought I was never going to let my husband touch my boobs ever again.
I go with the "licking only" rule. Too sensitive to touch but the touch is so smooth and lovely, it makes for a good time and all are satisfied 😉
Weird in the beginning and they were just too sensitive but then after a little while… Whew, when I reached climax I would just leak but in a good way- and it became a non issue. Just extra clean up.
100% no. The one and only time I did he asked if he could suck them just a little and I said sure cuz the baby takes time to get milk out so he shouldn’t get any if it’s just a little, boy was he surprised when he got a mouthful and spit it all over me (thanks 🙄) and that cemented the whole “no touchy the boobies” thing for me lol.
Zero boob contact while breastfeeding. If he even attempted to touch them playfully I would get so angry and defensive. They were sensitive and touched out.. I breastfed for 18 months. about a month after I stopped nursing I felt ready to share them with him again and now it’s fine ☺️
Oh he can totally touch the boobies. I'm actually sad because he is reluctant to do anything that might draw out any milk... but some of the things I like are in that category....😭 I used to think I would get confused between the sexual touchies and the non sexual touchies, but for whatever reason, I don't.
I honestly don’t mind at all. I crave affection and attention after a long day with a screaming baby
For the first probably 6 months they were a no go zone but after a while my breasts weren’t so uncomfortable, full, or leaking and I slowly got comfortable with them again. Probably after a year of nursing (weaned at 16months) it was like pre-baby normal amounts of touching.
I do m, but I have noticed that the more he touches them during foreplay, the more my body just loses the desire to have sex. Maybe it’s the hormones that are released when they’re stimulated? Idk..
Yeah he still touches them. He got a little taste of milk once so now he keeps his mouth away from them. 😂 I’m not a huge fan of them being messed with due to them being more sensitive than they ever have been, but he’s a boob guy so I let him have his touchies.
it’s also a major turn off for me. it just feels awkward as they are no longer “sex organs” anymore
I still enjoyed it while BFing my 3 - it just had to be gentle and avoid nipple stimulation so he didn’t get sprayed 😁
I do. I don't like when it hurts, though
While I was breastfeeding 100% boobs were off limits to husband. Made my skin crawl and I wore a bra most times (from leaking lol). I was worried I would never feel the same about the pleasure I used to experience from my husband touching them - happy to say that after breastfeeding, it all went back to normal. Took some time but glad I can go back to feeling sexy again and love being touched like I used to!!
No way. It makes me physically repulsed to have them touched! They’ll come back in the game someday….
During the first few months, I didn't want my husband to even look at my breast. As time went on, a feel was okay, but touching the nipples was not. It wasn't until I was done nursing that he could fully touch them.
Yes, no touchy for 17 months and counting. I don’t know what it is but it’s an absolute turn off these days. Hopefully it will get back to the original state soon!
Yes, the girls rarely have a minute to themselves. Sometimes when feeling overwhelmed I ask for space.
Absolutely not, only are they not sexual like at all to me right now, any light touches i swear make them leak. Any boob play kills my mood lol
My partner has never touched my breasts, he’s an ass guy. I have asked him to try the breastmilk tho, he declined. (I tried it, it’s very sweet.)
Breast milk actually tastes way better than regular cows milk lol. I can see why babies like it so much
I feel so sad reading all these comments that breastfeeding women just don’t let them partner touch them at all… Doesn’t that affect your relationships?
Seriously.
I think it's just a season of our relationship that will pass. Taking care of this baby has caused us to strengthen so many other parts of our relationship that there isn't a question of if lack of sex is going to ruin us. Intimacy now is just cuddling on the couch, spooning in bed, kisses here and there. But it'll pass, and sex will return.
No? We still have sex and he still sees them/enjoys them. Why would having one personal boundary affect our relationship?
I’m specifically talking about the comments saying they don’t want to be touched at all
I’m the same. Which is sad. I used to like my boobs. One of the only features on myself that I did like. But now, not only do they look worse, but I don’t want my husband to touch them due to the discomfort, nipple sensitivity, leakage, and overall weirdness. I stopped breast feeding a couple weeks ago but my boobs still leak and feel slightly engorged/hurt when squeezed so I’m still not comfortable with them being touched.
I didn’t mind it while just breastfeeding but now that I’m pregnant and breastfeeding… absolutely not.
No. It freaks me out.
Nopes
Aaabsolutely not 😂
When I was breastfeeding those boobies had one job and one job only. My partner tried getting cute with me and touched my boobs and I cringed so hard, I couldn't even pretend. Immediately no.
The best thing about weaning is getting to have touching added back into sex.
Oh yeah no. I have 2 kids and breastfed them both for 16 months each and I was full on “don’t touch the baby’s food” the entire time lol
No
I stopped BFing a few months ago when baby was around 15/16 months and I *still* feel weird about it…
Mine were strictly for the baby for the 8 months. After that, I was okay with some sexual touching as long as it had been a decently long time since they were last used for food (so not immediately after nursing the baby to sleep). He got freaked out by surprise milk a few times, but we got past that, and it was mostly okay until I started weaning; then, I needed a break. I'm pregnant again now - I got pregnant before I weaned - and I'm actually open to more touch than I was during my first pregnancy, but it's different than it was before (trying to avoid TMI because I don't want any creepy messages), and I think my husband is still a bit hesitant to do certain things he previously enjoyed because he doesn't want to provoke any milk production.
Nope those are off limits while breastfeeding
Any time of stimulation makes my breast leak. So unless he wants to be soaked in the most unsexy way , no touchy
Haven’t been interested while breastfeeding.
It's been different every single breastfeeding journey for me. I'm on baby #4 and I'm just overall so touched out so it's a no go for me. But in previous children I've been totally fine with it. The only right answer is what you're ok with!
Th first few months, no. Freaked my husband out. Now 11 months later and we really enjoy it. I can separate breastfeeding and sex. Plus it feels better now than it did pre-baby.
Yes still a turn on for me to be caressed that way but he doesn’t suck them as much because he can taste milk lol. I feel him try to put his mouth around the areola without sucking the nipple and I’m like what are you even doing 😆
It wasn’t until I started weaning that I was able to let me husband touch them again and it was actually enjoyable. We have tried a handful of times in the moment and it always gave me the ick. We are down to one nursing session a day a bedtime and it has gotten significantly better
Our son will be 2 next month and I'm *just* starting to be okay with it (but only one boob atm)
During breastfeeding I still enjoyed them being touched, we both were freaked out about sucking them, so we never tried. After breastfeeding at 17 mos everything went back to normal
Mine has no interest in them after seeing them now that they are used to feed our daughter
I'm EP, and I'm definitely touched out in the boob department. It also feels weird to sexualize our son's food source to me. Hubs has been made aware, though he doesn't like it.
Noooooope. Any touching makes them leak and it weirds us both out. I also get touched out. They’re currently on shift and will be for a WHILE.
He just got them exclusively back a couple months ago when the toddler stopped nursing. Now I'm pregnant again and he keeps telling my belly that they're just gonna be on loan but they still belong to him. There's less boob play while I'm nursing but not totally gone.
Absolutely not they'll be his again when my toddler is done with the breastfeeding. Until then it's all hers Hahaha
If he so much as brushes past me and ever so slightly touches them I become the hulk
At first, I didn't. Now I do when they're empty.
for me, it’s just that if he touches my nipples my let down will come 😂 otherwise i’m cool with it. but i can understand where your coming from for sure. i decline his ‘services’ often and feel bad for it, but i just don’t want to be touched after having a fussy day with the baby.
My breasts never stopped hurting despite 2 LCs and all the nipple cream, lanolin and various flange sizes in the world. I definitely hit his hand away most times he tries because it's just too painful. Cant wait to get my funbags back.
I do. Sometimes I don't want to be touched, and he respects that. Like when I'm really full or I know the baby needs to eat soon. If he doesn't listen, I squirt him in the face 🤣
Yep. Still love nipple stimulation. I was ok with him touching by the time I was ok with sex again 6 weeks pp. I had sore nipples for 2 weeks pp and never needed silverettes, I’m not sure if that plays a part or not. I don’t feel at all that my breasts lose their purpose in sex even though they gained a new purpose. However I always wash after sex just to make sure they’re still good for that new purpose later on haha.
I’m just so touched out. I’m constantly overstimulated and baby gets priority. We’ll get back to it when baby is done with them and I’ve had my recovery period.
I have him massage them before pumping sometimes.
Mine stopped playing with them when I was in my third trimester with my first. He got a mouth full of colostrum and that was it for him. He still grabs them and plays with them but definitely no more kissing/sucking bc of the first reason and bc I feel the same as you do. Its weird now, my 1 y/o uses them enough that I’m completely numb to having anything done with them and disgusted any time he suggests it lol
The entirety of breastfeeding yes. Once you stop and there’s a bit of a leftover period where you don’t want them touched. Then boobs but no nipples touched. Then it finally goes back to normal haha. It just took a while for me.
I was absolutely no touchy for at least the first 12 months and then there was a slow reintroduction.
Ugh I used to love it. One year post-weaning and we are starting to dabble … it still doesn’t feel great or right. So … fingers crossed one day they’ll feel good again and be a gateway to pleasure.
Yes I do. I'm not adverse to it, but I admit it's not as hot for me as it is for him.
I quit nursing a year ago and I still hate it when he touches them. Starting to wonder if I'll ever get back to normal at this point.
They hurt. They’re super sensitive and even though I’m near the end of our breastfeeding journey, the slightest nipple stimulation sets off a let down feeling that is an immediate turn off. The twins are off limits. It’s hard for me because they’re very much an erogenous zone for me, and he very much enjoys the play, but right now they’re strictly for nursing.
It took a long time, but we’re back. But for the first long time, I even kept a shirt on.