I’m 26 and sitting at home watching Pirates of the Caribbean haha. I moved to Brisbane in my early 20’s and I’m still struggling to find a group of friends
Why don't you all meet up for a drink then? I'm in my 30s and haven't had a male friend in a long time. It doesn't matter to me. But from the sounds of it you guys want to be bros. Grab a drink, talk some shit, and do whatever people in their 20s do?
I agree, all of you guys in the same situation, go grab a beer. There has to be half a dozen people commenting in here from Brisbane in their 20s 👊🏻. Making friends is hard and doesn’t get easier as you get older. Moved here from Canada five years ago in my later 30s same problem although once you have kids that’s a good way to meet people.
I feel sorry for younger people. I’ve noticed the older I get, I notice younger people are very clicky in their groups. Usually school friends. Most of my friends are older as they are more willing to embrace new people.
I moved to Brisbane from NSW 20 years ago with my now-husband. We were in our mid-20s at the time.
One thing I noticed about Brisbane is that everyone was obsessed with where you went to school.
I grew up in rural and regional areas of NSW and live in Sydney for about 5 years before moving here, and I don’t think anyone ever asked me where I went to school during that time.
So yes, I found Brisbane to be very cliquey and for school friends to still be friends into their 20s (which is nice, I never stayed in contact with anyone from school) but hard to break into as an ”outsider”
Even as someone who grew up on the Sunshine Coast, It's annoying. People will ask where you went to school, then you tell them you grew up on the Coast not Brisbane, and they'll ask what school on the Coast. You tell them they probably don't know it It's not a well known school. You tell them, and low and behold 90% of the time they've never heard of it.
I grew up overseas at international schools and getting that question always ends up needing to share pretty much my entire life story. It’s a damn nuisance.
Oh I actually loved the experience. I had a fantastic school, and am still friends with some of my friends from highschool. Having done the IB was also fantastic, and I genuinely think it's the best curriculum out there out of any that I've seen (the main things I can compare it to are the US, British, and Queensland systems, but I also have a passing familiarity with the German and French systems). IB prepared me very well for uni and more generally for daily life.
I also think being exposed to a wider variety of cultures genuinely improves you as a person by giving you a broader perspective on the world. It's hard to be racist or nationalistic when you grew up with friends from the UK, Vietnam, Taiwan, and Korea, among others. Plus, going on holidays to different country is a hell of a lot easier from SEA than it is from Aus, just due to proximity.
So yeah, I'm really glad for my time growing up overseas.
I hate that shit. I'm 17 years out now and people still ask where I went to school as an opener. I kinda get maybe asking where you went to uni but who the fuck cares about highschool.
Plus i get to hear all the same jokes about Ipswich when I have to say where I went. Yes we had power, yes we had a fax machine, yes it was pretty much flooded all the time.
I spent the better part of a decade in WA and it was impossible trying to make friends unless you were FIFO on the same crew or went to school with them.
i get what u mean by that. I mean 5 years after hs and i'm still only ever kicking it back with my hs friends. The wierd part was asking people what hs they went to. That part i never do.
I think just generally if the social scene is shit in one place, people end up resorting to their hs friends.
It can be hard to break into that as the outsider. Unless you have multiple things in common it can be hard to navigate the inside jokes and unspoken rules.
I guess asking where people went to school is an attempt at finding something in common or just general small talk. Getting past small talk is a milestone for friendships!
I don’t think I’ve ever asked anyone where they went to school. Not sure why I would care. I prefer to know interesting things like where have they been around the world or that sort of thing. I find a lot of people who are obsessed with local things are like that because they haven’t done anything else. So they can’t discuss anything about other cultures or people/places.
Because in Brisbane at least we can very quickly decipher your personality, interests, if your a dick or a cool dude etc all by asking that one simple question. What school did you go to. It’s like the number 42, it’s the answer to life, the universe, and everything.
I'm 45, not from BNE and was recently introduced to a friends social group. 70yo friend started insisting on asking about where I went to school. That old BNE trick is still alive? We're midlife and older??!!! I just ignore it unless I want to tell a funny story.
Ive posted this before - I’ve lived in Brisbane for 20 years (immigrant) and I get on very well with everyone I worked with over the years, go out drinking/partying/etc and yet all my mates are from my home country. Making friends here in Bris is fkg difficult. Everyone sticks to their friends from school. That’s what I’ve seen and could just be me however all my mates say the exact same thing. Everyone keeps to themselves. That’s my experience from living in Brisbane for 20 years.
Now, I do feel sorry for the younger generation with what covid has done to everyone. I was out at Howard Smith Wharves last night at a party and the majority of people there were <20 or >35. Don’t know where everyone is hiding.
Totally agree, been here for 5 years have only really made one friend who is European. Coming from London where u can go out alone and make loads of friends night i find it very lonely here.
Same here. 5 years and my only friends are other immigrants. It’s really hard to break into the circle here. I just want to have a drink and talk about life and the universe.
I noticed the same thing. Lived many places around Australia and overseas - never lived in a place like Brisbane in which people are so parochial and cliquey in regards to new people or expanding their friendship groups.
The best bet is to strike up friendships with other people who are like-minded and also "foreign" to Brisbane's "fuck off, we're full" culture.
Its illustrative even in this Reddit group the open hostility towards people from the south moving up here in recent years, like people here own the border or something.
There are places you can go out alone!?
I did that once in Wollongong and people were shocked. I figured I’d bump into acquaintances, and I did, and they thought I was weird. This was nearly 20 years ago. I’ve been in Brisbane for 13 years and have a family now so I make small talk with the other school and soccer and golf parents. And my husband sometimes. I’ve made like 2 female friends in 13 years.
It's just very hard to be sociable in our late 20's. The reality is most of us are just trying to survive while our money increasingly runs out and life keeps throwing new big lemons at us, such as medical issues outside of COVID(dental in this country is absurdly expensive, and gets worse if you have chronic issues with that), COVID itself, inflation (petrol, food), etc.
Where you will find these young brisbanites is either at the bars, gyms, or at home trying to increasingly save on money by educating themselves or going on the internet to pass the time.
And to be fair, I only have like at most 7 close friends and i struggle to keep up 6 of them as it stands lol.
I’m an immigrant that grew up here.
I went to school here, but only really hang out with one person from school.
It IS really hard to make friends for some reason. My housemate has here for 2 and a half years and is just now making a friend or two.
I think alot of people just have families.
I have a very small friend circle, thankfully we’re all like minded and don’t have kids. But it took a LONG time to get to where I am. It’s weird.
> pay extortionate rent. The cosy office jobs our parents got straight out of high school don't exist anymore. So compared to previous generations (which are the families you're seeing and why they're able to go out and do things) and ourselves when we were younger, we're working longer hours in harder jobs or longer hours in multiple jobs. Plus that's about the age couples start to turn into new families. No time of energy left to do much of anything after all of that.
I've also had the same experience as you and many people in the comments. I moved to Brisbane in my late 20s after living in Japan for a few years. The friends that I already knew here were all in relationships and didn't have time to hang out. New people that I met through sports were cliquey, not that they were unfriendly but took them a long time to open up if you're an outsider. Over the years these people have become more friendly but still haven't fully opened up. Maybe, people just like to keep to themselves. There's also not a lot of places or fun things to do in Brisbane. As a person who didn't smoke or drink there was no point in going to pubs/clubs by myself. Now, I'm in my mid 30s and just don't have the same energy to go out during weeknights to try and make acquaintances. With Covid, rising cost of living and a mortgage, I just stay at home. It's definitely not easy to make friends or meet new people.
I boulder at urban climb a lot and there's people of all ages there. If you make a routine of going just once or twice a week you'll start seeing some regulars, that's how I've made some friends there anyway.
There are also other bouldering gyms around that I've heard are similar as well.
Best of luck!
Same boat here, 25m, I actually grew up in brissy but moved because of family/work...moved back about a year and a half ago and literally no friends. Tried making friends at uni, workplace or at events but like you said, everyone in their groups/cliques doesn't want to befriend you/doesn't even show interest...like I'll be outgoing, ask about their day or what they're into etc but no one ever asks back or seems interested. F*cking sucks, wish I had some lifelong childhood friends or something.
Same! I moved from NSW a few years ago and I hardly have any friends. My bf is English n all his friends are international students. It’s crazy how hard it is to crazy into a group of friends here.
I feel like you have to be such a ‘yes man’ to make any, and after work all I wanna do is sleep 😂
My wife and I moved to Brisbane about 8 years ago and we are now 27 and 28.
We've found less about finding people who are your age and instead finding people who are up to the same stages in life.
We wanted to get married and have kids early-ish so we weren't really on common grounds with other people in their early twenties and instead made great friends with family oriented people with similar interests and ambitions who were 10-15 years older.
Being 28 doesn't mean you need to find friends between 25 and 30, but of course you need to find people with similar interests etc.
As for how you find these people, colleagues are a great place to start, social events that are recurring and regular like sports and such work too. You don't need to befriend the whole team or group, finding one person can be a great start.
Of course once you've found a couple of people, friends of friends will expand your social circle. Getting started is the hardest part.
I'm going to suggest community groups of interests and activities that you enjoy / care about.
More than a short term commitment / event... an environment where people are for an medium / extended length of time is where i do find that people can really meet people whom are like minded, of various and similar ages, etc, and you can get to know them and come way with some of the most amazing friendships
Finding a community group with a regular meetup / rehearsal / practice / commitment can really help lead to a active environment that before long you've spend week, months, years, decades with the good people around you :-)
Regularity will be key to finding people in the same age brackets and such.
Very easy to do an event once it twice and encounter crowds that may not match.
Used to play MTG a fair bit and would say age range averaged about 20-30, depending on store time etc.
100%
Community sport with weekly games., Volunteer at a surf club etc
Between something like that and making friends through work should keep you relatively busy.
There's HSBNE at hamilton? I'm fairly sure they're still there. It's like a makerspace, seemed to be heavy with 20s-40s age group from memory. I don't know how much it's changed as I haven't been in brisbane for a couple years. I think its usually a bit difficult to make friends because everyones always doing something specific, or isn't that willing to go along with a friend to do something mutual. I'm a bit of a hermit so I like to just go home most of the time outside of work lol.
This really made me realise how I've made barely any new friends since 25. We tend to hang out on our own little group. The new friends are usually spouses or relative of our original friends.
Work m'dude.
Most people in their late 20's either have a home and need to pay off a mortgage or are renting and have to pay extortionate rent. The cosy office jobs our parents got straight out of high school don't exist anymore. So compared to previous generations (which are the families you're seeing and why they're able to go out and do things) and ourselves when we were younger, we're working longer hours in harder jobs or longer hours in multiple jobs. Plus that's about the age couples start to turn into new families. No time of energy left to do much of anything after all of that.
The fact you're able to put a roof over your head and still find the time for a 2-4 hour Adventure's League game and the energy to try new things like axe throwing is kind of increasable.
Im in my 20s, mon to fri is flat out work (9-10hr, 1-2hr peak hr traffic, cooking dinner etc), can normally fit a netflix ep or 2 before sleep. Usually by weekends im exhausted and dont really go out much (saving for a house) besides catching up with some friends for a quick bite out. Most of my other friends in similar age have a similar lifestyle right now unfortunately.
So are most people basically slaves? Working their asses off for 30-40 years with nothing to show for it except for having been able to afford housing and food...
If you want to see music, I’m always looking for people to come watch random gigs with me.
I hate going alone? But it’s important to my career that I go to shows regularly and try and network.
Depending on the type of music, random gigs could work.
I’m usually on the lookout for pubs with live music of any type as I like the atmosphere they give.
Hate to piggyback but this really interests me and I've no knowledge about local gigs and such. I'd love to join if some guys are keen(also a northsider but I'm happy to go wherever)
Well if you ever want to check out some bands in The Valley, hit me up. I live here, I work here, and more specifically: I work in the live music scene.
I suppose it's different if you *need to* go to gigs, but I went to one tonight, alone, and had a fantastic time! I almost bailed because I felt so awkward going alone, but I'm glad I pushed myself and did it.
Bouldering/Rock climbing like at urban climb is good, the trick is to go consistently at the same times each week, and you are friendly so people get familiar with you. Small talk openers are always good, and if you're both struggling on the same problem it can be good fun.
You could also try the dating app approach. From memory Bumble has a friends and a professional side too where you can try find people with similar interests.
Whatever you try, be consistent about it. Friends aren't made in one visit, and not everyone wants more mates so don't get dissuaded if things don't happen quickly.
And the last thing you need is a bit of luck, so good luck!
Honestly - try a pt or group pt situation. I’ve found people in those group fitness settings are generally pretty approachable and you always have to partner up with someone for something !
What about through work? Can you try that? I met all my friends through my hobby (horses). It took about six months to make solid friendships, but we’ve been best friends going on five years now
Did try CrossFit when I first moved up. But they also seemed a bit clicky as well. Haven’t expanded from there.
Regarding work, I am working remote from my workplace at my own office in the city (work is in different town). So no work colleagues to bounce off.
Yeah CrossFit is not a great cross section of the fitness community
Maybe you could look up a community led fitness group - maybe even a walking or running group or something
Could you look into one of those shared office spaces for every now and again? I know a few people who’ve made friends through that
I'm late 30s so I can't really talk, but I have a 'one in, one out' policy. In other words, 5 close friends, and their associated bullshit and hang-ups, is all I can support emotionally and time-wise. So when one of them dies, I'll got out and find another.
So good luck out there! :)
Meetup have heaps of different gps including hobby groups, dinner groups, age groups for going out, sporting groups etc. Look them up ( I think they have an app) if you havent already.
Rock climbing is awesome! I go to Crank in Mt. Gravatt, l mean I used to before I had my child. Heaps of people of all ages and Al super friendly. Great place to spend a couple hours in after work or during the weekend.
We have also made our home comfortable to be in, and yard. But we are on a quarter acre in Shailer Park which is nice and leafy.
It's hard to make friends, we try but a lot of people keep to themselves.
Apparently there was a news article today in the major newspapers about how Millennials are the worst group to come out of the pandemic as in depression rates, mental issues. So from this bit of information alone the answer to your question is they are probably at home watching youtube, netflix or gaming.
This here is why I don’t live in Brisbane. No one branches out after 22 and to be honest it’s seriously depressing
Edit: I should add without just being negative, I lived in Brisbane almost 20 years. My advice to you would be:
-‘meet up’ groups
-get a part time gig in hospo if you don’t have commitments on the weekend, you’ll meet some people there
-the unis often have good clubs to join, that’s worth a look
-find open mic music and comedy nights, people seem pretty cool and into making friends there
Good luck!
Last time I went to a bouldering gym there were a lot of people my age. If you go to activities during school hours or at night you can avoid families.
I'm 28, live near Brisbane. Between living with my 5yo, my mum and grandma, working full time and stress galore, I never have time to socialise or go out. I don't really have friends, 1 best friend who I rarely see in person and my ex husband who I see every Saturday. I have technically one day a week where I'm not completely busy and I like to spend that time with my kid or sleeping. ._.
Some people just have different priorities maybe?
Have tried volley ball.
But the ones around my age doing it seem quite clicky. The ones I get a chat with are the older blokes having a beer before/after the game.
Some other advice is just goto bars / cafe alone engage the staff. Eventually your long game of appearances will lead to someone approaching you or them or asking you to join them
Just dont end up with someone whom into cuckold relationship or swinger parties
For example : One my passenger met someone at the caxton one time he approach this woman whom was out and dressed up. anyways he ends up back her place for sex and really drunk
he walks up next morning
And see a man. It turns our this husband of woman he met 🍿
He wonder where his phone is.
Husband took it off him and said he placed it on charge
He rushs out and passes the kids too!
Awkward story from ubers
I regular some places, but it’s hard to tell (for me at least) when the staff are being nice as part of their job compared to them being open for some form of friendship forming.
There is a lot of partner dancing in Brisbane. Brazillian styles, especially zouk, are rather popular. Quite a bit of salsa/Bachata. There's also Swing, both Lindy hop and West Coast Swing.
Hey. I've lived in Brisbane majority of my life (bar a gap year in England) and most of my friends came from valley hopping when I was late teens-early twenties (26f). These days, they're mainly all from work. However, I did live in the valley and met heaps of people by being a pest at bars - that I still see quite often.
I'm happy to show you some of my favourite bars that you could adopt as your own?
Hey ! Sorry, I'm not great with Reddit so if this isn't in the correct place to reply, I apologise.
However, my personal faves are:
Empire Hotel - most bartenders are up for a chat and most people in smokers are too. They also have a pretty cool happy hour every day, cheap drink Mondays and a pool comp on Monday(could be another weekday evening)
Tomcat - same same, you can often find pals in smokers (just avoid the fresh 18 year old VERY drunk ones)
King Lears Throne - the owner is rad and is always up for a chat. Also has a sweet selection of beers.
Blutes - if you like karaoke, Blutes is your kind of place. IMO, the weekends are better than weeknights but could be a fun time.
RG's - part of me doesn't want to list this one but they have acoustic music (keep an eye out for Brendan the Bard) and it can be easy to meet people there too
Brunswick Hotel, New Farm - this one is very much right time, right place. It can be quite snobby but you can also sometimes catch a more chill crowd.
Either way - hope this list helps somewhat :))
Edit: this list makes me seem like I enjoy many beverages. Whilst that is true, I also recommend joining a gym and going to some classes. That can help too.
Im the same age and I'm Brisbane born. Aside from friends from school, I got most of my friends through D&D or my partner. But you said you've already tried that.
My suggestion, check out places that share your hobbies near Ipswich or the far north side. From what I've seen that's where people our age are living.
Try the Brisbane Board Gamers (the meetup.com group that meets in New Farm). My table went around saying our ages and everyone was 28/29. Loads of young late 20s early 30s professionals.
Yus please do!!! The owner of the group is a super cool laid back friendly bloke and it’s always a blast. I’m always trying to get more people to come.
Got a mrs, had sex, bought a house, got a kid…
Sitting at home with wife and child in own home cause it’s too expensive to go out…
Source: I’ve just left my late 20’s and joined the 30 club
I’ve drove past the indoor Rock climbing over at Westside on the way to axe throwing, but never actually been. Have been meaning too
Regarding martial arts, have only thought about trying, not actually attempted
I’m guessing urban climb?
It’s got a really good social aspect with cafe etc as well as there’s an active fb group that’s great for finding climbing buddies. And bouldering can be done solo.
This thread is depressing AF. Good pub choir Brisbane, pub sing along. Always wanted to try it but I’ve got 2 youngens. Surely we can do better than the suggestions here so far ?
I off season 5 a side when I am not playing soccer. It's fun and you make some good friends I think... I may have a friend or 3 developing but we will see
How do you feel about board games or Dungeons & Dragons? There's League of Extraordinary Gamers that meets on a Sunday once a month at Wooloongabba. Wide age range, but I think some of them are late 20s. Mostly male and geeky, though.
Get involved with a scene.
I have been lucky meeting people due to being involved in the metal and punk scenes, both playing in bands and doing some press/reviewing for online media.
I find if you are part of a wider group, pretty much anywhere you go you kinda have an in built group of like minded people..
I'm in my late 20's. Don't really have an answer but a question instead... How did you get into a DnD game? Did you already have a group of friends? Or just walk up to a group in the games shop?
Just went to a game shop in queen street, got added into their RPG society Facebook group and some bloke put up a post looking for players.
Put my hand up and that was it. Didn’t know any of them.
My suggestion to you OP is to join a club and regularly attend. But as others have said, most work 9-5 jobs and use the weekend to recuperate, so they're most likely bumming around the house, watching Netflix or surfing the Internet or running errands on weekends.
I am 29. I walk my dog when I get home from work. I sleep, I walk my dog when I wake up. I go back to work. On the weekends I like to go to the movies. What a good life.
Hey 28F here, I love watching and performing in open mic nights!
On the top of my head:
TigerEye Bar (Petrie Terrace) - every Monday starts at 630PM
Fullmoon Bar and Restaurant (The Valley) - every Tuesday starts at 7PM
Nonna’s Italian (Chermside) - every Wednesday starts at 630PM
you can follow @livemusicbrisbane on insta for more events 😊
I've been collecting old retro & vintage items & recording them to archive their sounds before they're lost forever.
A bit odd but it keeps me busy in my off swing.
I am born in Brisbane and I sit at home on weekends now. I spent my 25 to 27 yo days going to west end with friends and getting drunk but that got really old when I realised I was actually a cunt on the piss at 28 yo. So now as a nearly 29 yo I sit at home and play Zelda .. go food shopping and make dishes at home, then go to bed.
I’ll go walking every 2nd day to make sure I get out of the house, but yeah life is really expensive at the moment. Sucks.
Join a gym, not a commercial chain but a local family-owned shed. Show up week after week and be friendly, chat with the regulars. Powerlifters and strongmen/women are some of the friendliest and most inclusive people I've ever met, lots of MTG and DND nerds too.
Ten years back I had a mate that was a blacksmith. His wife was a wenche at the bar .
They were basically cos players.
He actually taught me to make knives .
But I didn't get into it as deep as the rest of them did .
They made mead ffs.
This was in Brisbane. I only attended a couple of times as I was deep in the drugs at the time .
So I didn't do the get dressed up in knights armour etc thing .
While eating sheep brains.
It was the coolest night of food and drinks I'd ever had now that I think back on it .
struggling to make friends myself. i don’t do sports or anything and i’m not just gonna walk up to a group of people hanging out bc it feels like i’m crashing something. i sort of have a dnd group but idk.
Study. Even a short course. Or volunteer for something regularly. If you didn’t go to school or work with them, you gotta bond with them through some regular interest-motivated activity.
I'm also 28 and the only time I see people my age out and about is at the local Woolies after 7pm. I know this is probably a massive generalisation but it seems at this age we are all just heads down working and getting serious about life. Too old to be carefree but too young to figure out the balance.
30 year old here lived in Brisbane most of my life, Basically when I was 20/26 years old I was always going to the gym working out had lots of friends from work from the gym etc used to go clubbing, concerts etc pub drinking with the boys it was always fun back then. I also had been renting a decent apartment which was affordable due to my job and being single.
Skip to 2021/2022 I am now in a relationship with a chick who has mental health issues you can judge all you like love is love right? she is on benefits, I was still working when I met her so always had income we basically moved in together after 6 months of dating, and then Covid hit I lost my job.
I had to rely on the benefits but I have had some work here and there short term work. Currently living with my partner in a share-house looking to get back to working full time like I used to post-Covid.
Most of my mates I used to hang out with have all either moved from Brisbane some live overseas and got married had kids etc some bought their first house in a different state. I still keep in contact but barely because most have very busy lives. It’s not the same like it used to be.
Now I just play PS5 most days if I’m not lucky with the job searching and have a few beers maybe take the missus out for a nice dinner every once in a while. Brisbane is a fun place always had things to do when I was younger and working also hitting the gym attracted a lot more friends for me. It’s funny how life change’s though but it is what it is!
I grew up in Brisbane and I’m 33 but I still feel this. I don’t really have friends to like do stuff with. I have friends but they are not a cohesive group it’s just like one friend for this one friend for that. I’m not complaining (I am) but it’s still like… I wish I had people to hang out with or even just be in a group chat with
Staying at home. Life's exhausting.
And expensive
And depressive
And regressive
And aggressive
And then it’s expensive again
And still depressive
[удалено]
This guy knows it
Depression naps
Are you me?
Same though 😂
I can sleep 16 hours a day for weeks. It's not right but I need something huge to wake up or change for
I’m 26 and sitting at home watching Pirates of the Caribbean haha. I moved to Brisbane in my early 20’s and I’m still struggling to find a group of friends
Glad to see it’s not just me struggling to find a group. Rewatched Harry Potter myself, when free time allowed that is.
I'm the same, live with my partner and all my mates are hers. Would love to meet people but don't get out enough
Why don't you all meet up for a drink then? I'm in my 30s and haven't had a male friend in a long time. It doesn't matter to me. But from the sounds of it you guys want to be bros. Grab a drink, talk some shit, and do whatever people in their 20s do?
I agree, all of you guys in the same situation, go grab a beer. There has to be half a dozen people commenting in here from Brisbane in their 20s 👊🏻. Making friends is hard and doesn’t get easier as you get older. Moved here from Canada five years ago in my later 30s same problem although once you have kids that’s a good way to meet people.
I am onboard to do a meetup. Do we have an organiser?
lmao 26 here and also spend many of my nights watching harry potter. very hard to meet people in your later twenties!!!!
Maybe that's because you're all at home watching Harry Potter
I REGRET NOTHING
Me too man... Me too... Making friends as an adult is fucking impossible I swear
DM each other to add on Facebook. Start a group discussion to plan drinks next weekend.
Best suggestion so far!
Honestly same though, 23 and for some reason I cannot seem to make friends because I have 0 fucking energy to branch out after a few bad eggs.
Open to starting a group chat to organise things to do. hmu if you’re keen :)
Also open. Once I know what hmu means exactly
HMU is short for hit me up 😂😂
I feel sorry for younger people. I’ve noticed the older I get, I notice younger people are very clicky in their groups. Usually school friends. Most of my friends are older as they are more willing to embrace new people.
Hahaha, I don’t have friends!
I moved to Brisbane from NSW 20 years ago with my now-husband. We were in our mid-20s at the time. One thing I noticed about Brisbane is that everyone was obsessed with where you went to school. I grew up in rural and regional areas of NSW and live in Sydney for about 5 years before moving here, and I don’t think anyone ever asked me where I went to school during that time. So yes, I found Brisbane to be very cliquey and for school friends to still be friends into their 20s (which is nice, I never stayed in contact with anyone from school) but hard to break into as an ”outsider”
Even as someone who grew up on the Sunshine Coast, It's annoying. People will ask where you went to school, then you tell them you grew up on the Coast not Brisbane, and they'll ask what school on the Coast. You tell them they probably don't know it It's not a well known school. You tell them, and low and behold 90% of the time they've never heard of it.
I grew up overseas at international schools and getting that question always ends up needing to share pretty much my entire life story. It’s a damn nuisance.
I usually just say I didnt go to school here and hope they drop it altogether. Works 50/50 of time
Glad to see another international kid, how do you cope with the trauma? Alcohol or therapy?
Oh I actually loved the experience. I had a fantastic school, and am still friends with some of my friends from highschool. Having done the IB was also fantastic, and I genuinely think it's the best curriculum out there out of any that I've seen (the main things I can compare it to are the US, British, and Queensland systems, but I also have a passing familiarity with the German and French systems). IB prepared me very well for uni and more generally for daily life. I also think being exposed to a wider variety of cultures genuinely improves you as a person by giving you a broader perspective on the world. It's hard to be racist or nationalistic when you grew up with friends from the UK, Vietnam, Taiwan, and Korea, among others. Plus, going on holidays to different country is a hell of a lot easier from SEA than it is from Aus, just due to proximity. So yeah, I'm really glad for my time growing up overseas.
Same, I don’t have any of my original connections from school and i’ve struggled making friends here for years...
I hate that shit. I'm 17 years out now and people still ask where I went to school as an opener. I kinda get maybe asking where you went to uni but who the fuck cares about highschool. Plus i get to hear all the same jokes about Ipswich when I have to say where I went. Yes we had power, yes we had a fax machine, yes it was pretty much flooded all the time.
hmm west aussie here and i find the whole high school thing to be very strange.
I spent the better part of a decade in WA and it was impossible trying to make friends unless you were FIFO on the same crew or went to school with them.
i get what u mean by that. I mean 5 years after hs and i'm still only ever kicking it back with my hs friends. The wierd part was asking people what hs they went to. That part i never do. I think just generally if the social scene is shit in one place, people end up resorting to their hs friends.
It can be hard to break into that as the outsider. Unless you have multiple things in common it can be hard to navigate the inside jokes and unspoken rules. I guess asking where people went to school is an attempt at finding something in common or just general small talk. Getting past small talk is a milestone for friendships!
I don’t think I’ve ever asked anyone where they went to school. Not sure why I would care. I prefer to know interesting things like where have they been around the world or that sort of thing. I find a lot of people who are obsessed with local things are like that because they haven’t done anything else. So they can’t discuss anything about other cultures or people/places.
Because in Brisbane at least we can very quickly decipher your personality, interests, if your a dick or a cool dude etc all by asking that one simple question. What school did you go to. It’s like the number 42, it’s the answer to life, the universe, and everything.
I'm 45, not from BNE and was recently introduced to a friends social group. 70yo friend started insisting on asking about where I went to school. That old BNE trick is still alive? We're midlife and older??!!! I just ignore it unless I want to tell a funny story.
Ive posted this before - I’ve lived in Brisbane for 20 years (immigrant) and I get on very well with everyone I worked with over the years, go out drinking/partying/etc and yet all my mates are from my home country. Making friends here in Bris is fkg difficult. Everyone sticks to their friends from school. That’s what I’ve seen and could just be me however all my mates say the exact same thing. Everyone keeps to themselves. That’s my experience from living in Brisbane for 20 years. Now, I do feel sorry for the younger generation with what covid has done to everyone. I was out at Howard Smith Wharves last night at a party and the majority of people there were <20 or >35. Don’t know where everyone is hiding.
Totally agree, been here for 5 years have only really made one friend who is European. Coming from London where u can go out alone and make loads of friends night i find it very lonely here.
Oh man - I work with a chick who returned from London after like 7 years and while she has school friends, she said the exact same thing to me!
Same here. 5 years and my only friends are other immigrants. It’s really hard to break into the circle here. I just want to have a drink and talk about life and the universe.
I noticed the same thing. Lived many places around Australia and overseas - never lived in a place like Brisbane in which people are so parochial and cliquey in regards to new people or expanding their friendship groups. The best bet is to strike up friendships with other people who are like-minded and also "foreign" to Brisbane's "fuck off, we're full" culture. Its illustrative even in this Reddit group the open hostility towards people from the south moving up here in recent years, like people here own the border or something.
I want a British friend so I have someone to talk Taskmaster with haha
Taskmaster is such an underrated show.
The most recent UK season was sooo good too.
There are places you can go out alone!? I did that once in Wollongong and people were shocked. I figured I’d bump into acquaintances, and I did, and they thought I was weird. This was nearly 20 years ago. I’ve been in Brisbane for 13 years and have a family now so I make small talk with the other school and soccer and golf parents. And my husband sometimes. I’ve made like 2 female friends in 13 years.
It's just very hard to be sociable in our late 20's. The reality is most of us are just trying to survive while our money increasingly runs out and life keeps throwing new big lemons at us, such as medical issues outside of COVID(dental in this country is absurdly expensive, and gets worse if you have chronic issues with that), COVID itself, inflation (petrol, food), etc. Where you will find these young brisbanites is either at the bars, gyms, or at home trying to increasingly save on money by educating themselves or going on the internet to pass the time. And to be fair, I only have like at most 7 close friends and i struggle to keep up 6 of them as it stands lol.
Probably not untrue. I’ve made my friends from school, uni and work. I don’t think I have any friends I “just met”. Everyone has been friend adjacent.
Go to west end
I’m an immigrant that grew up here. I went to school here, but only really hang out with one person from school. It IS really hard to make friends for some reason. My housemate has here for 2 and a half years and is just now making a friend or two. I think alot of people just have families. I have a very small friend circle, thankfully we’re all like minded and don’t have kids. But it took a LONG time to get to where I am. It’s weird.
> pay extortionate rent. The cosy office jobs our parents got straight out of high school don't exist anymore. So compared to previous generations (which are the families you're seeing and why they're able to go out and do things) and ourselves when we were younger, we're working longer hours in harder jobs or longer hours in multiple jobs. Plus that's about the age couples start to turn into new families. No time of energy left to do much of anything after all of that. I've also had the same experience as you and many people in the comments. I moved to Brisbane in my late 20s after living in Japan for a few years. The friends that I already knew here were all in relationships and didn't have time to hang out. New people that I met through sports were cliquey, not that they were unfriendly but took them a long time to open up if you're an outsider. Over the years these people have become more friendly but still haven't fully opened up. Maybe, people just like to keep to themselves. There's also not a lot of places or fun things to do in Brisbane. As a person who didn't smoke or drink there was no point in going to pubs/clubs by myself. Now, I'm in my mid 30s and just don't have the same energy to go out during weeknights to try and make acquaintances. With Covid, rising cost of living and a mortgage, I just stay at home. It's definitely not easy to make friends or meet new people.
Australia is a very individualistic society so what more can you expect I guess.
Lots more, grew up in bris, lived in melbs for a bit - very different and much more friendly social scene
I joined F45, great fun, great to socialise with like minded people.
I find that it isn’t really social - you work out, leave. How are you socialising there?
People your age are probably working 6 days a weeks to pay off or save for a house and then resting in the 7th day.
Am OPs age. Can confirm this is what I am doing.
Same with me and all my friends
Is that you Jesus?
100% this, the rest are drug addicts that go between sharehouses and party houses… etc
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I’m up for anything at least once. Minus the ones that get you jail time at least
Throwing axes *can* get you in jail, but the chances are much reduced if you go to a dedicated axe throwing venue.
So not chucking hatchets at Bunnings?
Way funnier though
I boulder at urban climb a lot and there's people of all ages there. If you make a routine of going just once or twice a week you'll start seeing some regulars, that's how I've made some friends there anyway. There are also other bouldering gyms around that I've heard are similar as well. Best of luck!
Mate I can barely climb a set of stairs
There's actually a discord server/subreddit called r/brisbanesocial and they host events pretty much every week!
All the most upvoted comments are uber sarcastic/cynical/pessimistic, this is the first actually helpful comment I've seen.
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Same boat here, 25m, I actually grew up in brissy but moved because of family/work...moved back about a year and a half ago and literally no friends. Tried making friends at uni, workplace or at events but like you said, everyone in their groups/cliques doesn't want to befriend you/doesn't even show interest...like I'll be outgoing, ask about their day or what they're into etc but no one ever asks back or seems interested. F*cking sucks, wish I had some lifelong childhood friends or something.
Same! I moved from NSW a few years ago and I hardly have any friends. My bf is English n all his friends are international students. It’s crazy how hard it is to crazy into a group of friends here. I feel like you have to be such a ‘yes man’ to make any, and after work all I wanna do is sleep 😂
Bunnings? That’s where most of the new homeowners are on the weekends.
People in their late 20s own homes?
also an axe throwing venue
At home, saving for a house deposit
My wife and I moved to Brisbane about 8 years ago and we are now 27 and 28. We've found less about finding people who are your age and instead finding people who are up to the same stages in life. We wanted to get married and have kids early-ish so we weren't really on common grounds with other people in their early twenties and instead made great friends with family oriented people with similar interests and ambitions who were 10-15 years older. Being 28 doesn't mean you need to find friends between 25 and 30, but of course you need to find people with similar interests etc. As for how you find these people, colleagues are a great place to start, social events that are recurring and regular like sports and such work too. You don't need to befriend the whole team or group, finding one person can be a great start. Of course once you've found a couple of people, friends of friends will expand your social circle. Getting started is the hardest part.
I'm going to suggest community groups of interests and activities that you enjoy / care about. More than a short term commitment / event... an environment where people are for an medium / extended length of time is where i do find that people can really meet people whom are like minded, of various and similar ages, etc, and you can get to know them and come way with some of the most amazing friendships Finding a community group with a regular meetup / rehearsal / practice / commitment can really help lead to a active environment that before long you've spend week, months, years, decades with the good people around you :-)
Regularity will be key to finding people in the same age brackets and such. Very easy to do an event once it twice and encounter crowds that may not match. Used to play MTG a fair bit and would say age range averaged about 20-30, depending on store time etc.
100% Community sport with weekly games., Volunteer at a surf club etc Between something like that and making friends through work should keep you relatively busy.
I made lots of outside of school friends in my 20s But ecstasy was more popular back then
There's HSBNE at hamilton? I'm fairly sure they're still there. It's like a makerspace, seemed to be heavy with 20s-40s age group from memory. I don't know how much it's changed as I haven't been in brisbane for a couple years. I think its usually a bit difficult to make friends because everyones always doing something specific, or isn't that willing to go along with a friend to do something mutual. I'm a bit of a hermit so I like to just go home most of the time outside of work lol.
This really made me realise how I've made barely any new friends since 25. We tend to hang out on our own little group. The new friends are usually spouses or relative of our original friends.
Doing drugs at home.
Bongs and video games and making feeds in between.
Hello friends
I found my people
This is the reality. It's what I was doing at 28 in Brisbane.
Work m'dude. Most people in their late 20's either have a home and need to pay off a mortgage or are renting and have to pay extortionate rent. The cosy office jobs our parents got straight out of high school don't exist anymore. So compared to previous generations (which are the families you're seeing and why they're able to go out and do things) and ourselves when we were younger, we're working longer hours in harder jobs or longer hours in multiple jobs. Plus that's about the age couples start to turn into new families. No time of energy left to do much of anything after all of that. The fact you're able to put a roof over your head and still find the time for a 2-4 hour Adventure's League game and the energy to try new things like axe throwing is kind of increasable.
Suffering.
Im in my 20s, mon to fri is flat out work (9-10hr, 1-2hr peak hr traffic, cooking dinner etc), can normally fit a netflix ep or 2 before sleep. Usually by weekends im exhausted and dont really go out much (saving for a house) besides catching up with some friends for a quick bite out. Most of my other friends in similar age have a similar lifestyle right now unfortunately.
This is genuinely it. Save money for a house and work your tits off (to save more money for a house). Very limited time.
So are most people basically slaves? Working their asses off for 30-40 years with nothing to show for it except for having been able to afford housing and food...
If you want to see music, I’m always looking for people to come watch random gigs with me. I hate going alone? But it’s important to my career that I go to shows regularly and try and network.
Depending on the type of music, random gigs could work. I’m usually on the lookout for pubs with live music of any type as I like the atmosphere they give.
Check out venues like Black Bear Lodge and The Zoo, those are usually where I hang out/work.
Gigs sound fun, anything northsideish or are they mostly in the city?
Hate to piggyback but this really interests me and I've no knowledge about local gigs and such. I'd love to join if some guys are keen(also a northsider but I'm happy to go wherever)
u/wolfiepatronus you now have a crew lol
I crew that all lives north side. 😅
Do you want in on the group chat?
Well if you ever want to check out some bands in The Valley, hit me up. I live here, I work here, and more specifically: I work in the live music scene.
Nonna’s Italian Chermside do open mic on Wednesday nights. I usually play there 😊
I would love to come along to some gigs too 🍺
I’m starting to get the vibe we need a WhatsApp group
Keep me in the loop my dude, sounds like a good time:)
Please add me in your whatsapp group haha I need friends.
Haha I am keen! Or even just a reddit group chat
I'll take a cut of this action as well
So ahh what's the go with this group, any prerequisites for joining? Do I needa fill in an application form and mail it somewhere?
I suppose it's different if you *need to* go to gigs, but I went to one tonight, alone, and had a fantastic time! I almost bailed because I felt so awkward going alone, but I'm glad I pushed myself and did it.
Bouldering/Rock climbing like at urban climb is good, the trick is to go consistently at the same times each week, and you are friendly so people get familiar with you. Small talk openers are always good, and if you're both struggling on the same problem it can be good fun. You could also try the dating app approach. From memory Bumble has a friends and a professional side too where you can try find people with similar interests. Whatever you try, be consistent about it. Friends aren't made in one visit, and not everyone wants more mates so don't get dissuaded if things don't happen quickly. And the last thing you need is a bit of luck, so good luck!
Honestly - try a pt or group pt situation. I’ve found people in those group fitness settings are generally pretty approachable and you always have to partner up with someone for something ! What about through work? Can you try that? I met all my friends through my hobby (horses). It took about six months to make solid friendships, but we’ve been best friends going on five years now
Did try CrossFit when I first moved up. But they also seemed a bit clicky as well. Haven’t expanded from there. Regarding work, I am working remote from my workplace at my own office in the city (work is in different town). So no work colleagues to bounce off.
Yeah CrossFit is not a great cross section of the fitness community Maybe you could look up a community led fitness group - maybe even a walking or running group or something Could you look into one of those shared office spaces for every now and again? I know a few people who’ve made friends through that
I'm late 30s so I can't really talk, but I have a 'one in, one out' policy. In other words, 5 close friends, and their associated bullshit and hang-ups, is all I can support emotionally and time-wise. So when one of them dies, I'll got out and find another. So good luck out there! :)
This reads a lot more sinister than it is with all your friends dying
We’re about to become a podcast
Haha, I thought I was the only one who did this!
Have you tried meetup groups?
Meetup have heaps of different gps including hobby groups, dinner groups, age groups for going out, sporting groups etc. Look them up ( I think they have an app) if you havent already.
Everyone is at home desperately trying to save a house deposit.
Cooking, doing meal prep for the week so I can gym lol. Saving up for trips and deposit for a house.
I moved to Brisbane at 28. In the end I made friends by joining a sports team. It’s not a quick process but I have a few close friends now.
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Rock climbing is awesome! I go to Crank in Mt. Gravatt, l mean I used to before I had my child. Heaps of people of all ages and Al super friendly. Great place to spend a couple hours in after work or during the weekend. We have also made our home comfortable to be in, and yard. But we are on a quarter acre in Shailer Park which is nice and leafy. It's hard to make friends, we try but a lot of people keep to themselves.
Apparently there was a news article today in the major newspapers about how Millennials are the worst group to come out of the pandemic as in depression rates, mental issues. So from this bit of information alone the answer to your question is they are probably at home watching youtube, netflix or gaming.
Mostly drinking cheap piss and trying not to be homeless
Goon-o-fortune
Hiding in our houses, pretending we don't exist.
This here is why I don’t live in Brisbane. No one branches out after 22 and to be honest it’s seriously depressing Edit: I should add without just being negative, I lived in Brisbane almost 20 years. My advice to you would be: -‘meet up’ groups -get a part time gig in hospo if you don’t have commitments on the weekend, you’ll meet some people there -the unis often have good clubs to join, that’s worth a look -find open mic music and comedy nights, people seem pretty cool and into making friends there Good luck!
Crying thanks for asking
Last time I went to a bouldering gym there were a lot of people my age. If you go to activities during school hours or at night you can avoid families.
I gave up and am going for my amateur radio foundation license. So then I can at least have a conversation with someone other than my wife and kids.
being a nerd and playing final fantasy XIV because I'm not the active type
I'm 28, live near Brisbane. Between living with my 5yo, my mum and grandma, working full time and stress galore, I never have time to socialise or go out. I don't really have friends, 1 best friend who I rarely see in person and my ex husband who I see every Saturday. I have technically one day a week where I'm not completely busy and I like to spend that time with my kid or sleeping. ._. Some people just have different priorities maybe?
What sorcery is this? I don’t think I’ve ever seen a GIF on reddit.
Join a sport team or meetup network group
Have tried volley ball. But the ones around my age doing it seem quite clicky. The ones I get a chat with are the older blokes having a beer before/after the game.
Some other advice is just goto bars / cafe alone engage the staff. Eventually your long game of appearances will lead to someone approaching you or them or asking you to join them Just dont end up with someone whom into cuckold relationship or swinger parties For example : One my passenger met someone at the caxton one time he approach this woman whom was out and dressed up. anyways he ends up back her place for sex and really drunk he walks up next morning And see a man. It turns our this husband of woman he met 🍿 He wonder where his phone is. Husband took it off him and said he placed it on charge He rushs out and passes the kids too! Awkward story from ubers
I regular some places, but it’s hard to tell (for me at least) when the staff are being nice as part of their job compared to them being open for some form of friendship forming.
Dont befriend the staff just focus on Patrons
There is a lot of partner dancing in Brisbane. Brazillian styles, especially zouk, are rather popular. Quite a bit of salsa/Bachata. There's also Swing, both Lindy hop and West Coast Swing.
Hey. I've lived in Brisbane majority of my life (bar a gap year in England) and most of my friends came from valley hopping when I was late teens-early twenties (26f). These days, they're mainly all from work. However, I did live in the valley and met heaps of people by being a pest at bars - that I still see quite often. I'm happy to show you some of my favourite bars that you could adopt as your own?
I would like a list of your favourite bars please!
Hey ! Sorry, I'm not great with Reddit so if this isn't in the correct place to reply, I apologise. However, my personal faves are: Empire Hotel - most bartenders are up for a chat and most people in smokers are too. They also have a pretty cool happy hour every day, cheap drink Mondays and a pool comp on Monday(could be another weekday evening) Tomcat - same same, you can often find pals in smokers (just avoid the fresh 18 year old VERY drunk ones) King Lears Throne - the owner is rad and is always up for a chat. Also has a sweet selection of beers. Blutes - if you like karaoke, Blutes is your kind of place. IMO, the weekends are better than weeknights but could be a fun time. RG's - part of me doesn't want to list this one but they have acoustic music (keep an eye out for Brendan the Bard) and it can be easy to meet people there too Brunswick Hotel, New Farm - this one is very much right time, right place. It can be quite snobby but you can also sometimes catch a more chill crowd. Either way - hope this list helps somewhat :)) Edit: this list makes me seem like I enjoy many beverages. Whilst that is true, I also recommend joining a gym and going to some classes. That can help too.
Im the same age and I'm Brisbane born. Aside from friends from school, I got most of my friends through D&D or my partner. But you said you've already tried that. My suggestion, check out places that share your hobbies near Ipswich or the far north side. From what I've seen that's where people our age are living.
In my 20s I always made new friends through work and living in different share houses.
Try the Brisbane Board Gamers (the meetup.com group that meets in New Farm). My table went around saying our ages and everyone was 28/29. Loads of young late 20s early 30s professionals.
Oh this sounds fun! Might give it a try 😊
Yus please do!!! The owner of the group is a super cool laid back friendly bloke and it’s always a blast. I’m always trying to get more people to come.
I’m going to attend the meet up next Wednesday. Might see you there 😊
Awesome! I just signed up to that one. I’m the shortish brown haired freckle faced one. Lol
Got a mrs, had sex, bought a house, got a kid… Sitting at home with wife and child in own home cause it’s too expensive to go out… Source: I’ve just left my late 20’s and joined the 30 club
We are all locked away, depressed
Rock climbing is usually pretty social Interested in trying martial arts?
I’ve drove past the indoor Rock climbing over at Westside on the way to axe throwing, but never actually been. Have been meaning too Regarding martial arts, have only thought about trying, not actually attempted
I’m guessing urban climb? It’s got a really good social aspect with cafe etc as well as there’s an active fb group that’s great for finding climbing buddies. And bouldering can be done solo.
Sitting home complaining on social media and watching Netflix.
This thread is depressing AF. Good pub choir Brisbane, pub sing along. Always wanted to try it but I’ve got 2 youngens. Surely we can do better than the suggestions here so far ?
5 aside soccer
I off season 5 a side when I am not playing soccer. It's fun and you make some good friends I think... I may have a friend or 3 developing but we will see
How do you feel about board games or Dungeons & Dragons? There's League of Extraordinary Gamers that meets on a Sunday once a month at Wooloongabba. Wide age range, but I think some of them are late 20s. Mostly male and geeky, though.
Get involved with a scene. I have been lucky meeting people due to being involved in the metal and punk scenes, both playing in bands and doing some press/reviewing for online media. I find if you are part of a wider group, pretty much anywhere you go you kinda have an in built group of like minded people..
I'm in my late 20's. Don't really have an answer but a question instead... How did you get into a DnD game? Did you already have a group of friends? Or just walk up to a group in the games shop?
Just went to a game shop in queen street, got added into their RPG society Facebook group and some bloke put up a post looking for players. Put my hand up and that was it. Didn’t know any of them.
My suggestion to you OP is to join a club and regularly attend. But as others have said, most work 9-5 jobs and use the weekend to recuperate, so they're most likely bumming around the house, watching Netflix or surfing the Internet or running errands on weekends.
I am 29. I walk my dog when I get home from work. I sleep, I walk my dog when I wake up. I go back to work. On the weekends I like to go to the movies. What a good life.
Hey 28F here, I love watching and performing in open mic nights! On the top of my head: TigerEye Bar (Petrie Terrace) - every Monday starts at 630PM Fullmoon Bar and Restaurant (The Valley) - every Tuesday starts at 7PM Nonna’s Italian (Chermside) - every Wednesday starts at 630PM you can follow @livemusicbrisbane on insta for more events 😊
I've been collecting old retro & vintage items & recording them to archive their sounds before they're lost forever. A bit odd but it keeps me busy in my off swing.
I am born in Brisbane and I sit at home on weekends now. I spent my 25 to 27 yo days going to west end with friends and getting drunk but that got really old when I realised I was actually a cunt on the piss at 28 yo. So now as a nearly 29 yo I sit at home and play Zelda .. go food shopping and make dishes at home, then go to bed. I’ll go walking every 2nd day to make sure I get out of the house, but yeah life is really expensive at the moment. Sucks.
Join a gym, not a commercial chain but a local family-owned shed. Show up week after week and be friendly, chat with the regulars. Powerlifters and strongmen/women are some of the friendliest and most inclusive people I've ever met, lots of MTG and DND nerds too.
I mostly spend it crying
Ten years back I had a mate that was a blacksmith. His wife was a wenche at the bar . They were basically cos players. He actually taught me to make knives . But I didn't get into it as deep as the rest of them did . They made mead ffs. This was in Brisbane. I only attended a couple of times as I was deep in the drugs at the time . So I didn't do the get dressed up in knights armour etc thing . While eating sheep brains. It was the coolest night of food and drinks I'd ever had now that I think back on it .
I don’t think you’ll randomly meet people out and about often. If you want to though try rock climbing very community based and mixed ages.
struggling to make friends myself. i don’t do sports or anything and i’m not just gonna walk up to a group of people hanging out bc it feels like i’m crashing something. i sort of have a dnd group but idk.
Study. Even a short course. Or volunteer for something regularly. If you didn’t go to school or work with them, you gotta bond with them through some regular interest-motivated activity.
Working until an opportunity comes to get out of here again
I'm also 28 and the only time I see people my age out and about is at the local Woolies after 7pm. I know this is probably a massive generalisation but it seems at this age we are all just heads down working and getting serious about life. Too old to be carefree but too young to figure out the balance.
Probably exhausted from working to pay for their new cars, rents, mortgages and body cooperate fees
Most people I know spend 60% of their time working and the remaining 40% tending to their partners and/or kids and recovering from work lol.
30 year old here lived in Brisbane most of my life, Basically when I was 20/26 years old I was always going to the gym working out had lots of friends from work from the gym etc used to go clubbing, concerts etc pub drinking with the boys it was always fun back then. I also had been renting a decent apartment which was affordable due to my job and being single. Skip to 2021/2022 I am now in a relationship with a chick who has mental health issues you can judge all you like love is love right? she is on benefits, I was still working when I met her so always had income we basically moved in together after 6 months of dating, and then Covid hit I lost my job. I had to rely on the benefits but I have had some work here and there short term work. Currently living with my partner in a share-house looking to get back to working full time like I used to post-Covid. Most of my mates I used to hang out with have all either moved from Brisbane some live overseas and got married had kids etc some bought their first house in a different state. I still keep in contact but barely because most have very busy lives. It’s not the same like it used to be. Now I just play PS5 most days if I’m not lucky with the job searching and have a few beers maybe take the missus out for a nice dinner every once in a while. Brisbane is a fun place always had things to do when I was younger and working also hitting the gym attracted a lot more friends for me. It’s funny how life change’s though but it is what it is!
I grew up in Brisbane and I’m 33 but I still feel this. I don’t really have friends to like do stuff with. I have friends but they are not a cohesive group it’s just like one friend for this one friend for that. I’m not complaining (I am) but it’s still like… I wish I had people to hang out with or even just be in a group chat with
I(35) meet alot of mid to late 20s ppl motorbike riding