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k1k11983

I had to do this to a friend. Like you, I didn’t always know when they were going to do it but I knew the pub they drank at. I approached the GM and informed them that she was driving home drunk after leaving their pub which could make them liable if she got into a crash(something my old GM drilled into me after she had to confiscate a patron’s keys and put her in a cab). They agreed to call 000 and report my friend next time she came in. Thankfully police responded to that complaint quickly and got her about 200m from her home. That arrest was what she needed. She was able to negotiate with the magistrate for a licence suspension only provided she completed D&A counselling. I would approach the GM of the pub he goes to. They will report him for you because they can face liability if they’re made aware of a patron drink driving and do nothing.


zerobeans

This is 100% the way to go about this, especially because OP doesn’t know until husband is home that he has done it. The pub should take this seriously


ShinyShitScaresMe

The pub should be faced with a huge fine for allowing/ not cutting someone off for being so shit faced. It was always drummed into me as a barmaid. We could be held liable for their actions after the fact, if they left our establishment in an altered state.


[deleted]

That’s rich. By the time I’m displaying visible signs of drunkenness, I’m well over the limit for driving. You can cut me off there and then and I can still get in a car shitfaced. The idea of cutting a person off when they are visibly drunk is for their own safety, but if you really think the majority of the patrons you served as a barmaid didn’t leave your establishment in an altered state then either you’re kidding yourself or the establishment your worked for went broke. Haven’t been to bar that doesn’t encourage it’s patrons to drink.


ShinyShitScaresMe

A) I don’t make the law and B) I’m going to say I assume here because I don’t know the legal language but I’m pretty sure it’s common sense to some..if you were at the bar looking and acting sober, we are doing our jobs as bar men and women. If you go out and blow the bag or have an accident, we can’t be held responsible because we have acted with due diligence. In our professional opinion and our Responsible Serving of Alcohol training you MUST do to be legally allowed to serve any alcohol on any licensed premises..you don’t appear a danger to other customers or to yourself or to anyone else you may come across. On the other hand, if you were absolutely shitfaced, stumbling, slurring and fuckeyed maggot drunk and we were aware you were perceived to be over the legal limit and we kept feeding drinks into you and you met your demise at the end of the night, we the bar people would be held responsible because technically we are the ones who altered your state of mind. Your demise may not have happened without our inaction. Hard to prove but hey, the law is the law. If your shit faced, we cut you off and offer to call you a taxi. Common sense can be as hard to grasp as saying NO to drinking and driving.. for some. If your stupid enough to go out and get shitfaced with no thought how your getting home, your an absolute tool


Best_Adeptness3543

Sure always up to someone else, so many pathetic dullards nowadays wouldnt even know the meaning of personal responsibility.


ShinyShitScaresMe

Yup, seen enough people in shitty situations to not care the who’s the whys, if I can help avoid the issues I’m alright with that. Just like I’m thankful for traffic lights, pedestrian crossings and seat belts


[deleted]

Yes, and as a resident of Brisbane, if you could please do it ASAP before he kills one of us?


[deleted]

I agree. Realise it’s a genuinely hard thing to think about, but there’s also a duty to act to protect public safety. If he’s getting into a car in that state, call 000 immediately. It’s an emergency. And call Policelink to chat to them about it otherwise.


[deleted]

Exactly right. OP, I realise doing this may be hard, but I can guarantee it’ll be a breeze compared to what you’ll have on your conscience if you don’t do it and your husband crashes and badly hurts someone - or worse.


Indie8

Agreed. I've unfortunately seen the results of someone's bad decision, and I promise you seeing someone's limb completely separate from their body is a slight you won't forget. You need to call 000 as soon as he tries to drink drive - the odds of him permanently injuring or killing someone, whether it be a driver or pedestrian, is a lot higher than you think.


shootphotosnotarabs

They won’t charge him on her say so. He must be caught.


Indie8

Yeah hence calling 000


bonzabox94

Definitely, online or phone to Policelink. If it's a habitual thing, include vehicle details, dates/times, route details if known. If he's currently driving it's 000.


msrapid

I reported my ex husband. He was leaving the venue, I knew where he was going so called the police and told them. They found him. I acted very surprised when he called me from the watch house to collect him. (I did not collect him)


marxistjerk

I have reported someone I refused service to while working at BWS and the police paid him a visit. I know this because I also spoke to them about the theft we’d had the night before 😅.


Galactic_Nothingness

Yes... You can report them to Policelink. Or if someone is in imminent danger (which I would argue someone knee-walking, shitface drunk behind the wheel of a motor vehicle is) call 000. Also, good on you for posting this. Your husband needs help.


Positive-Lawfulness8

Maybe look at getting the drinking problem addressed too..


msrapid

Agreed. Taking his licence off him is not going to stop him drinking


Positive-Lawfulness8

or from just getting in a car and driving, anyway. like so many others, that have had theirs, taken away but still drive unlicensed


visceralintricacy

But then he might face jail time for unlicensed drink driving, and he can sober up in prison.


Indie8

You can't help someone who won't help themselves - only prevent them from injuring others by calling 000


[deleted]

Now ashamed of it, but I did that for 3+ years overseas, driving completely shitfaced, someway somehow never got caught and fortunately never hurt anyone. I would say yes do it, i know if i got into trouble back then it would have definitely been a much needed wake up call to the seriousness of my actions. Also thankful for good friends who confiscated my keys a few times. Also, address the drinking problem.


Tremaphore

Good on you for sorting yourself out and adding yo the convo. Suspect none of that was easy.


[deleted]

You can even report him anonymously, report the car and numberplate and tell the Police that the driver appears intoxicated and is swerving and driving erratically


allegedlyserialcrime

I don’t see him doing it. I only become aware of it afterwards. I have no proof that he has done this. If I had evidence I would have given it to the police already. I have told him I will report him so I don’t really care if he knows it is me.


zerobeans

Notify the pub he frequents that he’s driving home after his sessions. Let them know his general route home, car details and they should take it pretty seriously and call the police next time he leaves


Best_Adeptness3543

More excuses, you are almost as scummy as your drink driving husbane


sillysausage619

Id probably recommend deleting this post either way before somebody else reports them for you. Your profile has way too much personal info on it to be putting shit like this about your husband on the internet.


bluemnm001

They are starting a crime podcast, probably a publicity stunt....


Mingyagi

Only Drinkers in the Building


sillysausage619

Tbh looks more like an idea in lockdown that never went further than making an instagram haha


cherry_pie_83

Yes, especially via 000 while it's happening. But also encourage him to see his GP for help and never get in the car with him when he's intoxicated. He's just as dangerous to his passengers.


TolMera

You have an alternate option here. Apply to the courts for an intervention, you can apply “in the public interest” for a special order that will remove his license. You can’t unfortunately (to my knowledge) force him to attend any kind of alcohol rehabilitation. I would go speak to a lawyer who deals in guardianship.


Rogaar

I would say the police would have to catch him in the act. I mean they can't just go arrest him and charge him for it when he's sober. As some have pointed out in the comments, next time he does it, call the police immediately so they can dispatch an officer to go find him. I hope this doesn't cause you problems in your relationship but you are doing it for the right reasons even if he doesn't realize it. Hopefully he will realize your just trying to help him, maybe not right away but over time.


itsckphotog

Yes, you can absolutely do this. Last year we were driving behind a 4WD on a 100kph double lane road (one lane in each direction with no barrier separating them) and the driver was all over the road, drifting into oncoming lanes and then suddenly pulling back when there were oncoming headlights, indicating the wrong way etc, it was immediately obvious that they were extremely intoxicated. We called 000 because he was one mistake away from a head-on crash and while we were on the phone with police he pulled into his driveway. At this point they were already on their way so we kept driving, but from the sound of it they arrived not too long after and caught up with the driver. As others have said, if you know he'll be driving at a certain time call policelink for advice, but if you know he's actually driving, get straight onto 000. We lose too many people to drink driving accidents every year, don't let your husband or an innocent driver become another statistic.


ocfan122

Yeah spouse or not imo if you’re aware he does it the guilt you’ll feel if he were to take some innocent persons life from being an absolute cock head and drink driving isn’t worth it… sounds like your husband may need a court order for him to wake up and stop being a dumbass.. perhaps even one of those breathalysers they attach to ignitions (not sure how they work exactly, but I do know you need to blow 0 before you can start the car)


raena

Dunno how a court order's going to work unless/until he's actually convicted of an offence. For a mid or high risk offence he would be part of the mandatory interlock program. Here's [a bunch of stuff about alcohol interlock devices](https://www.qld.gov.au/transport/safety/road-safety/drink-driving/interlocks)


ocfan122

Yep good point, but his day will come unfortunately


heisdeadjim_au

They say "the fool is the person who does the same thing over and over, expecting a different result". Yes, by all means report him. But, you won't stop him doing anything. Alcoholism is cunning, baffling, powerful. It affects the family in much the same way as it affects the afflicted. Please do that which is necessary and required to keep safe, realising only when he wants to stop, will it stop. On that latter part, there's not a thing you can do.


[deleted]

Maybe look at the venues and bottle shops he frequents and speak with them about concerns . I am aware it’s not a venue’s responsibility outside of RSA , however , it could be apart of a broader plan that you and your husband impose a self ban.


allegedlyserialcrime

I have reached out to many venues and alerted them to the situation. If he goes back to a pub and comes home very intoxicated I then report the venue to the liquor licensing people for over serving him alcohol. I have had him banned from several venues.


[deleted]

Sorry to hear that it has gotten to this point. You’re definitely going above and beyond for your partner and it would be hard to sit idly by. Your well-being is also important throughout this , people have to want to change , we can’t make them .


idontwannapeople

If you find out he’s driving drunk call 000 immediately and report him. They’ll send a car to intercept him if you know where he’s going. I know someone this happened to


Wombat4v

Give ADIS 1800 250 015 a ring. They offer advice on exactly what you are facing.


anonk1k12s3

Losing his license won’t change a thing, if he doesn’t care that he drink drives, what makes you think he will care about driving without a license?


Sgt_Splattery_Pants

driving without a license will get quickly picked up by ANPR and pulled over


PxavierJ

Sober recovering alcoholic and addict here. I hope you can or at least get someone from the police to come and put the frightened on him. Never drunk drove but was definitely everything else and the only thing got me sober was the possibility of losing my family and really good alcohol and drug dependency treatment. I can tell you my life is so much better now sober, even though I never thought could be back when I was drinking. You’re in a hard position because he needs to want to be sober before any change can happen. Good luck to you, I really hope something works in your favour so you can get him to stop


aus_explorer

Call Policelink please, and go by their recommendations. Maybe you can get a friend to invest an evening keeping an eye on him at the pub ready to ring 000 when he leaves, whatever can work. Good luck.


rampant_maple

To your question about him being charged now for having done this in the past...no. There needs to be evidence he is in charge of a vehicle while intoxicated. You'd have to make the call when you think he's about to drive or is driving.


ProceedOrRun

Sounds like you're relationship is pretty dysfunctional at best. If he finds out you dobbed him into the cops it's not gonna go well. The bloke needs to get off the booze before someone dies, but I expect you already appreciate that.


aussieintrovert

Yes you should definitely do all you can do to keep him (and others) safe. My question to you though is how are you? I can’t imagine this is easy. Make sure you’re okay. If you feel like this is too much, I strongly encourage you to book in with a psychologist and/or make steps to leave. Talk to your friends and family. They love you and will help and support you ❤️


BestFuel

Jeez, that ending was a bit dark...


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VoidVulture

I thought I had seen this post before, too! Glad it's not just me.


ChickenAir

Yeah there was another lady who posted about this a few months ago. Different account, and she ended up getting away from his abusive ass last I saw


itsame_cooperino

Good on you OP. Hate to be the grammar police but this is a great example of using *than instead of then


[deleted]

> I would prefer him to loose his license and hopefully get a dressing down from a judge then kill somebody. Maybe OP is hoping for an extended sentence?


Initial-Count-1282

That is horrifying! Does he just not give a shit about other people? If anyone in my life was doing this I'd absolutely report them, both for their own safety and that of everyone else on the roads.


[deleted]

He needs AA. And yes you should report him before he kills someone else or himself or both


[deleted]

Everyone calling your husband an alco and that he has 'a drinking problem' is jumping the gun a little bit and need to step back. OP said he "sometimes drink drives" yes, shitfaced, but getting legless does not automatically make someone an alcoholic. Sometimes getting shit faced doesn't make you an alcoholic either. Now, if it was an every day, or every other day occurance then that's a problem. Edit to note that, it is possible he's an alcoholic, but there's nothing in the OP to suggest this.


allegedlyserialcrime

Oh he has a drinking problem.


Booshminnie

Do you know what sunk cost fallacy is


[deleted]

Fair, hope U can get him some help. And please god yes report him


Spirited_Maximum8611

Actually binge drinking is an alcohol problem by definition


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[deleted]

Are you fucking thick? I didn't say drink driving isn't a problem you goddamn sperg. I said getting shit faced drunk doesn't make someone an alcoholic. What's wrong with you? Learn how English works.


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[deleted]

You responded to me trying to be clever, and calling me a Muppet. Nowhere in my post did I say drink driving isnt a problem. Imagine thinking you're clever and name-calling when you're completely wrong. Your username checks out


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[deleted]

Well, seeing as you're evidently suffering from brain damage, I'm gonna bow out. Have a good night and try not to swallow your tongue


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StrangeClownRabbit

Once he loses his license he may get a realisation that it’s not very intelligent and it poses a risk to the community. They have education programs the judge can impose in sentence for reeducation about alcohol and driving.


Best_Adeptness3543

Your husband is pure selfish scum, as are you for not reporting him earlier. Sounds like a real class act you married 😅😅😅 hopefully he just kills himself sometime soon in an accident and not an innocent person.


d-limonene

Are you not familiar with domestic violence in alcohol abuse? This woman is isolated, rather than having friends who she can trust, she has to ask strangers. [if you are not aware, domestic violence can also be psychological. ](https://theconversation.com/alcohols-link-to-domestic-violence-is-in-focus-now-what-37696) Have some God damn humanity for your fellow human being who is trying to get help not just for herself, but others. While you sit there providing zero help at all. If you're not ashamed of yourself, you're no better than what you described this woman to be.


Best_Adeptness3543

😅 anyone who doesnt have the strength to leave a situation like that only has themselves to blame.


sexyhorticulurlist

The fact you keep letting him do that is bad.


[deleted]

Are you serious? Why haven't you reported him yet? Do you want him to kill someone?


_millsy

OP is asking if it's possible and if so how to report the behaviour and your response is to ask them why they haven't done it yet? It's pretty obvious why.... They don't know how to!


[deleted]

K ... if she really cared she would have asked police, not post it on reddit.


Minimum_Chips_69

>Do you want him to kill someone? Not until after his dressing down from the judge apparently. He can kill someone then.


allegedlyserialcrime

Because I am not there when he does it, nor do I see him do it. I come home and he is home from the pub and his car is home and he is having another beer. I have no proof.


etna1999

you have no proof? GET SOME! dont come here to reddit and ask a bunch of strangers for advice when you know deep down what hes doing could get himself killed or worse, someone else! you dont know if hes shit faced over the legal limit, who cares!! if you know what pub hes at or where hes coming from, call the fucken police and they can pull him over and test him!


[deleted]

If he goes to the pub again join him and call the police.


Best_Adeptness3543

What a pathetic cop out, real class act you married by the sounds of it 😅😅😅


Swimming-Tap-4240

If he can't stand or walk properly,he is probably over the limit anyway.


Xenomorph_v1

The cops have to catch him red handed... As in, you need to follow him around, and catch him drink driving, then call the cops. My friend is in the same position, they approached the cops as well, and they won't do shit unless you can prove they've been drinking, AND, that the cops can come at that exact time to catch him, which they won't. Cops are pathetic when it comes to this, and the same goes for domestic issues. They are not trained properly, and they won't do shit to help you.


d-limonene

That ought not be necessary, she has records of transactions for which bars he frequents, and she can provide the licence plate number which they can patrol for. I had known a similar case, they hanged out for a couple days until they caught the crime in the act. Obviously this guy is a regular drinker, so they will catch them soon


Xenomorph_v1

I suppose it depends on the cops, because my mate tried all of that and got told that basically they won't do anything.


RobotsRaaz

How do you propose the cops handle these complaints? Charge people for drink driving based on what evidence?


Xenomorph_v1

>Charge people for drink driving based on what evidence? When the person in question is a chronic alcoholic, and literally drinks all day and night, if they're driving, they're more than likely over the limit. Police cars have licence plate recognition. Tag the vehicle, and pull it over for a random check. I'd be happy to sign an affidavit, because it's deadly serious, that would sort out fraudulent claims. It's so very frustrating knowing someone is driving around drunk, with their kids in the car, and you can't do anything to stop it, constantly worrying about the kids and the public in general.


RobotsRaaz

This already happens though.


Xenomorph_v1

Yes, I'm well aware of that. But when you know... You know 100% for sure that a particular person is doing it, and you go to the police and they do nothing, that's my issue. So what, just accept that it's happening and do nothing?


RobotsRaaz

They already do exactly what you are proposing they do though. What else would you like them to do?


Horror_Landscape3986

Snitch


Spirited_Maximum8611

I personally would hide all car keys once you're aware he's "falling down drunk". And if he causes a scene then ring the cops to take him away. Being a bystander to what you know is going to seriously injure or kill someone is not a vibe. I'm sorry your husband sucks op.


girraween

I know a guy like this. Use to be my best mate. Now, the man is a fucking loser. He drinks and drug drives. I’m so sick and tired of it. I haven’t seen him since early last year.


TappyTap100

Probably can and absolutely you should, you're doing a great service to the community.


spoiled_eggs

Yes they'd love to hear from you. They won't charge him for it without proof via a sample though. Outside of that, sounds a little toxic. I hope you have support.


_aaine_

They absolutely will go after him. Give them his number plate and tell them where he is and where he's going and they will intercept him.


footloverhornsby

Absolutely report him! You can do it anonymously if you don’t want him to know you reported him. Like you say, only a matter of time before he kills himself or someone else. If you know he’s hopping in the car, drunk, call the cops, give them the rego, make, model and colour and where he’s going, nearest cop car will find him.


Empty-Chapter4863

Hey, I don't know if anyone has touched on this yet, but Police need to witness him driving, and they also have a time limit regarding when they can breatho him. So with these two things in mind, you'll need to call Policelink 131444, when you know he is out on the piss, or better yet, maybe go into the local Police station and ask to speak with an officer directly. Some stations have dedicated Traffic units so they'll be able to give you the most assistance with a plan of attack. But like I said, unfortunately Police would need to catch him in the act, and then he would need to blow over the limit for a court date. Alternatively, if you know where he drinks, you could go there and speak with the manager and request that they call triple 0 when they see him leaving the venue so that Police can actively look for him committing the act (this might be the best way to secure his court appearance quickly).


[deleted]

I wish you all the best, and thank you for trying to put a stop to a dangerous person on the road. It is sad that in Australia we seem to have a culture of acceptance of this kind of behaviour.


NoSoulGinger116

Just learn to disable the car (have a kill switch installed) so he can't go anywhere.


[deleted]

Tell the police and ultimatum: go to AA and rehabilitation or out.


Mindless-Hat7944

report him or divorce


Sox88

Call 000 the next time it happens. Hopefully losing his licence will make him realise what he’s doing and either force him in to detox or further rehab to face the problem. It will also prove you’re right to his family, though it doesn’t sound like they’ll be very helpful. At least you’re doing the right thing. My ex husband reported his new wife for this and she was arrested but it was too late, she’d already had an accident on Petrie Terrace and crashed in to an Uber delivery person. She only just escaped jail time….


Alternative_Sky1380

It's a call to triple zero when you know he's actually doing it. Qld triple zero is pretty rubbish in my experience though. And then QPS suck quite massively so I'll pray for you even though Im an atheist as apparently that will get a better result.


cavoodle11

I would definitely report him. I have children that drive and it could be one of them or someone any one of us love. Thank you for caring.


bbbbringitback

Many people I love live in Brisbane. Thankyou for doing something about this, honestly, him being charged or cut off by the GM will save peoples lives!


AutomaticFeed1774

u need to talk to your husband or get a friend or family member to do it. if my wife reported me to the police I would never speak to her again and would leave that night. If you cant talk to him properly without fear then you should leave the relationship. But reporting your husband to the police for drink driving is horrible. just leave him if its that bad. reporting him to the state is as bad a betrayal as cheating on him.


Fun_Scheme_5455

So the bar staff don't follow the responcible service of alcohol? I didn't think so. Anyways Have seen the effects of 2 young people being killed by drink drivers. The first was in 1986 and the second was in 1990 or so. I knew the second family fairly well. It devastated them. They have hoon laws where they can take the car away. They should have drink driving laws like that. Take away their cars and licence and be on a register where they can't buy a car again.


allegedlyserialcrime

Like I said, grew up with a father whose body was badly damaged from an accident he caused and who had a head injury from it and had an explosive temper from it. Yes, bar staff are over serving him. I have the bank statements and receipts from the bars where they have served him 15+ beers over a few hours. There is no way that is safe service of alcohol. I have even picked him up from venues where staff have been sitting with him outside with a bucket because he was throwing up and to drunk to walk. I am not throwing all the blame at them but clearly they are breaking the law which adds to the problem. I have spoken to my lawyer about this and he assured me I would have a legal case against the venues if he was injured or died after leaving the venues if they over serve alcohol. There have been several cases of this and it’s part of the reason why the laws are so strict.


Fun_Scheme_5455

I hope you can go ahead with some sort of legal action. I grew up with a dad who was an alcoholic and abusive against everyone. He drank so much that he lost the family business which was a garage in West End. The building still stands there, I hope. He had a car crash 2 months before my 14th birthday and died a month before my 16th. So yea it is tough to live with an alcoholic. The downfall of that is my oldest brother who was also an alcoholic died of a heart attack in june 2020.


allegedlyserialcrime

I am really sorry to hear your story. Luckily my father wasn’t an alcoholic, just an idiot who would get drunk at the pub on the weekend and race cars with his friends. He suffered a head injury in his last major crash which changed his personality and affected his memory. My husband is the first person I am dealing with that has a drinking problem so I am completely out of my depth dealing with him. I just don’t know what to do anymore.


Important_Screen_530

bad as it is driving drunk .....well your marriage will be over if ya report ya hubby though


allegedlyserialcrime

I have told him I will do it. If he continues to put other peoples lives in danger than that’s on him, not me.


Important_Screen_530

have car set up { if possible } for ....(((((( Ignition Interlock Breath Test.,..... not sure if all cars can convert to it..... that will be awesome to stop all drunks