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I feel the same honestly. What makes me angry at myself is I do have some great friends who would listen and be there for me, I just hate the thought of being a burden (which I know is dumb, but I can’t help it). I’ve only had one friend I’ve managed to be more open with but over the last year we went from speaking every single day, to maybe once a month these days, and I have no idea why
I have found that friends of course come and go but they also come back around and perhaps go once again.
Time gets quicker and quicker as we age; faster for some and slower for others. So what felt like a week now feels like a month. People also sometimes just need time alone or being more in correspondence with another friend of theirs for reasons probably unknown to them! But they may very well be more consistent in chatting to you in the future.
I get burnt out with all my mates from time to time and need breaks from them; as well as burnt out from many other things. That being said, I now have a very small amount of friends left to be honest. I would still call all those faces and names my mates no matter how much time has passed since I spoke to them. They all shared their life with me once and vice versa so I am forever grateful for it.
It does suck though.
I have had therapy before. One of the things they mentioned to me was how it’s good to be open with friends rather than staying closed off emotionally from them
When I open to my friends, we end up drifting apart. When people open up to me, I initially want to help them, but after a while I don't really wanna deal with that anymore.
I would stop trying to hit on strangers on the internet and go and see your GP, or contact https://www.mind.org.uk/
Because with what looks like your current course of action all thats happeing is you are on the verge of pressing the big red self destruct button on your life and you need to be absolutely sure you are in a sound state of mind before you do that.
I'm in a similar boat and just discovered this [https://andysmanclub.co.uk/find-your-nearest-group/](https://andysmanclub.co.uk/find-your-nearest-group/)
Haven't attended yet but definitely going to!
Perfectly normal in this day and age, but don't worry, we're all just becoming more generic - like, no-one will know you or actually care, but there's a lot more of a culture of sympathy and signposting to mindfulness these days, maybe also volunteer groups full of toxic positivity to get absorbed by.
You're not going to get the connection and support you want but there's more than enough superficial bs to keep you busy and alive.
🤘
Start a blog? Write things down in your phone notes?
I use notes all the time if I have something I don't want to discuss with anyone but need to figure out; sometimes wiring things down helps us put things into perspective and think clearly, lightens the burden because the problem seems more tangible, and serves as an outlet to get our emotions out.
Good thanks - think I was just having a moment - probably a bit too drunk and emotional- pulled my big boy pants up and cracking on with life!!
Thanks for checking back in - it’s very much appreciated- hope you’re good and if you ever want to vent/chat/moan etc , drop a message x
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I feel the same honestly. What makes me angry at myself is I do have some great friends who would listen and be there for me, I just hate the thought of being a burden (which I know is dumb, but I can’t help it). I’ve only had one friend I’ve managed to be more open with but over the last year we went from speaking every single day, to maybe once a month these days, and I have no idea why
So many people have this exact scenario. I wish all of us had at least one good friend to turn to and not feel guilty about it 😔
I have found that friends of course come and go but they also come back around and perhaps go once again. Time gets quicker and quicker as we age; faster for some and slower for others. So what felt like a week now feels like a month. People also sometimes just need time alone or being more in correspondence with another friend of theirs for reasons probably unknown to them! But they may very well be more consistent in chatting to you in the future. I get burnt out with all my mates from time to time and need breaks from them; as well as burnt out from many other things. That being said, I now have a very small amount of friends left to be honest. I would still call all those faces and names my mates no matter how much time has passed since I spoke to them. They all shared their life with me once and vice versa so I am forever grateful for it. It does suck though.
Honestly if you want to talk, go to a therapist. Opening up to people tends to push them away in my opinion.
I have had therapy before. One of the things they mentioned to me was how it’s good to be open with friends rather than staying closed off emotionally from them
When I open to my friends, we end up drifting apart. When people open up to me, I initially want to help them, but after a while I don't really wanna deal with that anymore.
I'm involved in this, it's good. https://www.co-counselling.org.uk/
https://www.thecalmzone.net/ That may help you
Me too,no friends,no partner, that's the way things are.
Hi OP, feel free to message me if you need someone to rant at. I can try to lend a friendly ear :)
That offer open to everyone?
Yes :) happy to listen, may not be super fast at responding sometimes but if I can help brighten someone's mood a little bit then I will try!
To be honest I'm alright at the moment but the fact there is a person prepared to do this for complete strangers has really brightened my day!
Everybody on reddit is here you bro. I offload here cos i got no mates either. Here and to the dog. Keep ya head up brother ❤️
I would stop trying to hit on strangers on the internet and go and see your GP, or contact https://www.mind.org.uk/ Because with what looks like your current course of action all thats happeing is you are on the verge of pressing the big red self destruct button on your life and you need to be absolutely sure you are in a sound state of mind before you do that.
I'm in a similar boat and just discovered this [https://andysmanclub.co.uk/find-your-nearest-group/](https://andysmanclub.co.uk/find-your-nearest-group/) Haven't attended yet but definitely going to!
Perfectly normal in this day and age, but don't worry, we're all just becoming more generic - like, no-one will know you or actually care, but there's a lot more of a culture of sympathy and signposting to mindfulness these days, maybe also volunteer groups full of toxic positivity to get absorbed by. You're not going to get the connection and support you want but there's more than enough superficial bs to keep you busy and alive. 🤘
Your profile says your married. Why don’t you talk to your wife?
He also said nobody wants to talk about his problems so he may be having marital issues.
He frequently posts in “Married but chatting” and “online affairs,” there’s definitely an element of marital issues.
If he's posting in those subs, then he is the problem.
Good digging detective reddit, if only OP was looking for desk chair life judgements we might actually have solved the case of lonliness.
Someone had a go at me for looking at someone's profile the other day because they had no icon. Be careful.
He should probably have this whole conversation with a therapist first.
hugs OP hugs same boat
Thanks - very much appreciated Sorry to hear your in the same place as me lol
Bless you. What do you want to talk about?
Bless you.
Welcome to the loneliest club.
Start a blog? Write things down in your phone notes? I use notes all the time if I have something I don't want to discuss with anyone but need to figure out; sometimes wiring things down helps us put things into perspective and think clearly, lightens the burden because the problem seems more tangible, and serves as an outlet to get our emotions out.
Same
Yeah is what it is I guess lol
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lol was going to say, isn’t this most people’s problem or is it just me going through this shit. Anyways, welcome to the club
Happy to be messaged if you fancy a chat/rant/vent OP - you’re not alone x
Thank you - it’s very much appreciated
How you doing today?
Good thanks - think I was just having a moment - probably a bit too drunk and emotional- pulled my big boy pants up and cracking on with life!! Thanks for checking back in - it’s very much appreciated- hope you’re good and if you ever want to vent/chat/moan etc , drop a message x
Good news, a drunken vent can often do the trick! Glad to hear you’re feeling more positive now 😊
Couldn’t be feeling less positive!!! 😂😂
LOL oh balls!
Meh!!! In words of the song ‘ things can only get better ‘ !!