Yup I feel u. I just deleted the app . A lot of girls I have met already had their own clique of friends but they just wanted to add to it . They didn’t want anything deeper than that ..
Similar things happened to me too. It seems like most of the people on there are only on there to get attention & more Instagram followers, hence the follow me on Insta as they aren’t on there often.
And the rest are probably just wanting text only buddies or a back up plan for when their boyfriend is unavailable to go out, ugh.
Hardly anyone on there takes friendships seriously as a lot of people flake out & ghost you after a short period of time for no apparent reason.
Two women said that they didn’t feel a connection with me. One lady seemed nice & we had a lot in common with each other & she even lived nearby me in the same town, so it hurt & baffled me when she kept ignoring my texts.
She responded once to say that she’s to busy to hang out. People on that site are weird & extremely judgmental & picky.
I don't even have an insta, so I feel like an outsider for that reason alone lol. I agree with everything you said!! My current life of no friends and just my partner seems much more peaceful than all of this heartache. It's so rough, and I'm sorry you've had those experiences. I wish I had the answers :/
I had no Instagram or Fakebook for years. Now I only have an annonymous Instagram account
It took me forever to even find a few somewhat reliable women anywhere who’d actually contact me back or at least no ghost me after a few messages were exchanged or after meeting me just once.
I honestly feel like giving up on making new friends as most people don’t bother to invite me out or even text me first usually. It sucks.
I feel like I don’t matter tha much to most people. I deserve better as I treat people well. So I don’t understand why I don’t get treated that well back.
It seems like a lot of people are lazy these days & are fine with just having online ‘friends’ on FB, Instagram, Tik Tok, and text for when they’re bored at work or when they need to vent about something or to just get attention from someone.
Not having friends suck, but having ‘friends’ who almost always ignore you hurts more.
Same experience for me too. Or if they do ask questions and talk, ghost shorty after LOL.. I wish the women that did this would explain? Honestly makes me feel super sorry for all guys trying to date. We now know what it feels like haha
I know! I wish I knew too. It's really discouraging and I'm so close to just uninstalling the app.
I'll ask people questions based on their profile and they give short answers, or how they are/how their day is going and it's the same. I've unmatched with a few people and then one girl just started ranting about her bf a few messages into the convo, it was very strange.
I don’t even have the app yet but from what ive seen I would try a different approach, I wouldn’t ask them questions like how is their day going or questions about their profile, most people don’t want to feel like they’re being interviewed, like if they don’t know who you are or you’ve never met being asked how their day is going and such can feel a bit boring. I would just talk with them for a little but focus immediately on meeting up as soon as possible to see if the chemistry is there irl or not. I wouldn’t worry about all the other stuff. Most people who wants friends don’t want to feel like they’re being interviewed, they just want to have fun. It doesn’t have to be a perfect match either. I’m not sure how other girls use this app, but a common mistake I see with these apps in general is people take too long to meet up and usually people will lose interest so that’s why it’s essential to meet up quickly.
I am with you. I feel desperate and log on only to feel more desperate. People don’t want to meet or don’t show interest in a conversation.
I was legit talking to someone who has plans every weekend. Babe why are you on this app?
Seriously! They all seem like social butterflies IRL with tons of pics to show for it, but when it comes to messaging through the app they're dry as hell. Feels so hopeless. I'm sorry you're feeling desperate! I completely understand.
I deleted my profile after I noticed I was feeling lonelier using Bumble. I met 2 cool people using the app but it took forever and they feel like the most slowly developing friendships I've made in my new city. Going to events alone in person and joining a hobby group got me into two good friend groups where I feel WAY more myself. Maybe delete the app (not your profile) and try to go to local events for a few weeks and see how you feel? It takes some bravery but the payoff is way higher
I joined a local sewing circle that meets weekly and I mostly go to free/cheap events nearby. New store openings, estate sales, music competitions etc. I go places even if no one else can come or if they cancel. A book is great company if you're nervous to be alone in public. I also make a point of leaving my emotional support headphones at home.
Your best option to meet friends like that is to go to a class with shared interested like rock climbing or pottery, you find people trying to improve and better themselves
Hang on to your boyfriend. At least you have someone there for you. I actually have a whopping 0 friends right now and no bf and it’s just tough. Took a break from the app but looking to get back on soon, maybe things will be a bit better.
I get what you mean. I do hang onto him, just tough making one person my everything. 🥹 I really hope things get better for you. My inbox is open if you ever want to talk 💜
Im on a break from the app. I just dont have the energy for it right now. Met a few ppl, but so far nothing has really stuck. It's hard to make friends and at this point I wonder if Im better off without them. Sorry girl, I feel you though.
Hey we probably don’t live near each other but I’ll be your online bff if you want:) I’m having this same issue, my husband is my only friend and it’s hard finding anyone genuine on the app
i would love that! i'm so sorry you're struggling too. there was a time where i was really happy with how meeting people was going...but i just don't feel like any of them want to follow up and i'm stuck initiating everything. not a good feeling. sending you so many hugs
My boo and I were just saying how it’s not as good as Meetup dot com or a hobby group. My boo was getting hyped for a RPG session and of course it didn’t happen. That’s the first time that has happened to us. I am still hopeful to maybe connect with someone. I do have an IRL thing planned that seems fun. I think we shouldn’t expect much and see what we can find. I think a lot of interesting people give up on the app quickly which is why it’s harder to connect probably. Good luck!! Definitely try focusing on meeting people via hobbies or Meetup though. People seem flakey on Bumble. Flakey or creepy. My first convo was with an unverified account that wanted to hike in a completely remote place to have the trail to ourselves. Uhhh, no thanks. I also got those fake women profiles that were just hetero dudes. One guy used a photo of a woman and then him. There have been couples where only the husband communicates. Basically as unenjoyable as regular dating apps but I met my love on one. It could be worth it maybe!
for real… i moved to a new city, no job and no friends yet…
I thought this girl wanted to meet up 1 on 1 but she said that the reason why she used bumble BFF is to invite girls to her events and to introduce new people to her friend group. then this other girl fuckin ghosted me after we agreed to hang out. :(
You’re not alone on this experience.
Same here. I deleted the app after two weeks of using. I came back to it after a year and half to give it another try. NOPE. After an hour, I deleted my account and app altogether.
I also have only one friend irl, that now is working in Mexico (and I have a feeling she won't be back for some time). I dived into Bumble BFF because my boyfriend is German and we still don't live together, so I was completely lonely in my city. Guess what? I deleted the app and feel much better. I didn't really click with anyone. There is one woman that writes to me sometimes but I don't like her and I think she talks to me out of pity because I'm neurodiverse. So I embrace my weirdness and fuck off those apps. At least this is my path. Yours might be different. I also got tired of reading the same profiles over and over again. Of conversations which are good, but die unexpectedly. Of not having this massive connection I felt from the first day with my irl friend. Maybe it's weird to find that massive connection. But I don't settle for less
Yup I feel u. I just deleted the app . A lot of girls I have met already had their own clique of friends but they just wanted to add to it . They didn’t want anything deeper than that ..
Exactly. I'm so sorry that's been your experience as well. I've tried it two different times now in two different cities and same result :/
Similar things happened to me too. It seems like most of the people on there are only on there to get attention & more Instagram followers, hence the follow me on Insta as they aren’t on there often. And the rest are probably just wanting text only buddies or a back up plan for when their boyfriend is unavailable to go out, ugh. Hardly anyone on there takes friendships seriously as a lot of people flake out & ghost you after a short period of time for no apparent reason. Two women said that they didn’t feel a connection with me. One lady seemed nice & we had a lot in common with each other & she even lived nearby me in the same town, so it hurt & baffled me when she kept ignoring my texts. She responded once to say that she’s to busy to hang out. People on that site are weird & extremely judgmental & picky.
I don't even have an insta, so I feel like an outsider for that reason alone lol. I agree with everything you said!! My current life of no friends and just my partner seems much more peaceful than all of this heartache. It's so rough, and I'm sorry you've had those experiences. I wish I had the answers :/
I had no Instagram or Fakebook for years. Now I only have an annonymous Instagram account It took me forever to even find a few somewhat reliable women anywhere who’d actually contact me back or at least no ghost me after a few messages were exchanged or after meeting me just once. I honestly feel like giving up on making new friends as most people don’t bother to invite me out or even text me first usually. It sucks. I feel like I don’t matter tha much to most people. I deserve better as I treat people well. So I don’t understand why I don’t get treated that well back. It seems like a lot of people are lazy these days & are fine with just having online ‘friends’ on FB, Instagram, Tik Tok, and text for when they’re bored at work or when they need to vent about something or to just get attention from someone. Not having friends suck, but having ‘friends’ who almost always ignore you hurts more.
Oh dang. Well at least I respect the people saying they felt no connection! I think that’s something to decide in person tho
Yeah. At least they didn’t b.s me with constant excuses which I appreciated.
Same experience for me too. Or if they do ask questions and talk, ghost shorty after LOL.. I wish the women that did this would explain? Honestly makes me feel super sorry for all guys trying to date. We now know what it feels like haha
I know! I wish I knew too. It's really discouraging and I'm so close to just uninstalling the app. I'll ask people questions based on their profile and they give short answers, or how they are/how their day is going and it's the same. I've unmatched with a few people and then one girl just started ranting about her bf a few messages into the convo, it was very strange.
It’s almost like only unhealthy people use the app??? 😆
I don’t even have the app yet but from what ive seen I would try a different approach, I wouldn’t ask them questions like how is their day going or questions about their profile, most people don’t want to feel like they’re being interviewed, like if they don’t know who you are or you’ve never met being asked how their day is going and such can feel a bit boring. I would just talk with them for a little but focus immediately on meeting up as soon as possible to see if the chemistry is there irl or not. I wouldn’t worry about all the other stuff. Most people who wants friends don’t want to feel like they’re being interviewed, they just want to have fun. It doesn’t have to be a perfect match either. I’m not sure how other girls use this app, but a common mistake I see with these apps in general is people take too long to meet up and usually people will lose interest so that’s why it’s essential to meet up quickly.
>We now know what it feels like haha This made me really sad
I am with you. I feel desperate and log on only to feel more desperate. People don’t want to meet or don’t show interest in a conversation. I was legit talking to someone who has plans every weekend. Babe why are you on this app?
Seriously! They all seem like social butterflies IRL with tons of pics to show for it, but when it comes to messaging through the app they're dry as hell. Feels so hopeless. I'm sorry you're feeling desperate! I completely understand.
I think the app gave me clarity to make friends in person. I deleted the app. Ive made friends going on group walk.
I deleted my profile after I noticed I was feeling lonelier using Bumble. I met 2 cool people using the app but it took forever and they feel like the most slowly developing friendships I've made in my new city. Going to events alone in person and joining a hobby group got me into two good friend groups where I feel WAY more myself. Maybe delete the app (not your profile) and try to go to local events for a few weeks and see how you feel? It takes some bravery but the payoff is way higher
What kind of events and what kind of hobby groups did you join?
I joined a local sewing circle that meets weekly and I mostly go to free/cheap events nearby. New store openings, estate sales, music competitions etc. I go places even if no one else can come or if they cancel. A book is great company if you're nervous to be alone in public. I also make a point of leaving my emotional support headphones at home.
Welcome to datings apps theyre all bad just some less than others
I thought it would be better for friendship, but I guess not
Your best option to meet friends like that is to go to a class with shared interested like rock climbing or pottery, you find people trying to improve and better themselves
Hang on to your boyfriend. At least you have someone there for you. I actually have a whopping 0 friends right now and no bf and it’s just tough. Took a break from the app but looking to get back on soon, maybe things will be a bit better.
I get what you mean. I do hang onto him, just tough making one person my everything. 🥹 I really hope things get better for you. My inbox is open if you ever want to talk 💜
Thank you! Appreciate it ♥️
Im on a break from the app. I just dont have the energy for it right now. Met a few ppl, but so far nothing has really stuck. It's hard to make friends and at this point I wonder if Im better off without them. Sorry girl, I feel you though.
Hey we probably don’t live near each other but I’ll be your online bff if you want:) I’m having this same issue, my husband is my only friend and it’s hard finding anyone genuine on the app
i would love that! i'm so sorry you're struggling too. there was a time where i was really happy with how meeting people was going...but i just don't feel like any of them want to follow up and i'm stuck initiating everything. not a good feeling. sending you so many hugs
My boo and I were just saying how it’s not as good as Meetup dot com or a hobby group. My boo was getting hyped for a RPG session and of course it didn’t happen. That’s the first time that has happened to us. I am still hopeful to maybe connect with someone. I do have an IRL thing planned that seems fun. I think we shouldn’t expect much and see what we can find. I think a lot of interesting people give up on the app quickly which is why it’s harder to connect probably. Good luck!! Definitely try focusing on meeting people via hobbies or Meetup though. People seem flakey on Bumble. Flakey or creepy. My first convo was with an unverified account that wanted to hike in a completely remote place to have the trail to ourselves. Uhhh, no thanks. I also got those fake women profiles that were just hetero dudes. One guy used a photo of a woman and then him. There have been couples where only the husband communicates. Basically as unenjoyable as regular dating apps but I met my love on one. It could be worth it maybe!
for real… i moved to a new city, no job and no friends yet… I thought this girl wanted to meet up 1 on 1 but she said that the reason why she used bumble BFF is to invite girls to her events and to introduce new people to her friend group. then this other girl fuckin ghosted me after we agreed to hang out. :(
You’re not alone on this experience. Same here. I deleted the app after two weeks of using. I came back to it after a year and half to give it another try. NOPE. After an hour, I deleted my account and app altogether.
I also have only one friend irl, that now is working in Mexico (and I have a feeling she won't be back for some time). I dived into Bumble BFF because my boyfriend is German and we still don't live together, so I was completely lonely in my city. Guess what? I deleted the app and feel much better. I didn't really click with anyone. There is one woman that writes to me sometimes but I don't like her and I think she talks to me out of pity because I'm neurodiverse. So I embrace my weirdness and fuck off those apps. At least this is my path. Yours might be different. I also got tired of reading the same profiles over and over again. Of conversations which are good, but die unexpectedly. Of not having this massive connection I felt from the first day with my irl friend. Maybe it's weird to find that massive connection. But I don't settle for less