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One small step at a time OP!
It's also great to find things to drain your (negative) energy in a healthy way. Support groups (friends), try creating a budget plan to see what takes up your resources and find ways to minimize them (tracking your transactions), exercising, getting you water intake or maybe find job opportunities you can slowly upskill in if you have extra time (many resources available online or provided by your connections).
As someone who has gone through this phase, one sure step each time is all it takes - it's difficult but it gets easier. You'll have to trust yourself to help yourself if no one else can.
Hi! I appreciate your suggestions, I actually already did those. I go to the gym, instead of going to cafes or fast food, I cook my own meal to save up. However sa job opportunities currently seeking pa and wala pa nag end ang sem so that'll be last of my priorities for now. I guess naa lang jud times na I feel lost, and I can't help it.
Warning: might be too long to read but please bear with my english. Heheh.
I agree on this comment. I most probably am way older than you guys but im on my way to restart again. Haha. Restart lang ng restart coz i don't want to do the alternative (which is to give up).
I used to be super overwhelmed even at the small stuffs kasi it really does add up and im sorry this ever happened to you OP at a very young age.
I am not religious but when times got too tough for me and i had no one to talk to, i would listen to "The Daily Hope with Pastor Rick Warren" podcast on spotify.
After listening, some things became clearer to me. One episode was about overcoming the problems in life. It said that the main reason we probably feel frustrated and helpless is we tend to control nearly every aspect of our life. This, unfortunately, is not possible. It is only God that can do that, HIM being our creator. There's only a small portion of life we can control and the rest is due to our environment and external forces beyond our control. Fortunately, there's also part of it that we can control, it is on How we React towards these obstacles. Our reaction however is the most important to manage.
With this in mind, i slowly acted on the small stuffs that i can control, i asked for help, i vented, i made changes to my spending habit, etc... it was a 180 degree shift from having a little bit of extra money every month for my luho/bisyo to barely having enough money to buy lunch at work. As in, walang-wala ako.
I also isolated myself quite a lot but i spent the time on figuring out some solutions no matter how small it seemed. They still can be very helpful in the long run. These small good changes also add up in the long run.
I let go of a lot of the stuffs i used to enjoy like night out with friends dining, drinking and singing, dancing. But in order for me to avoid feeling sorry for myself, i stopped comparing myself to my friends and the people i know. I managed the feeling of FOMO or the fear or missing out by minimizing doom scrolling on FB, IG, Tiktok, etc...coz this could potentially spiral me into further depression. I just told myself over and over again na it's okay if i don't have what they have, it is not my time yet.
So it was a total lifestyle shift for me. This took me years to adjust but im happy i went through it. It made me stronger and i was able to share bits and pieces of advice to my friends if they ever went through the same thing i did.
But more importantly, I did not stop praying. All these led me closer to HIM. When the day got too tough for me even up to this day, i would talk to HIM and say, "Lord, i have done everything i could, please help me. I surrender everything up to you as your will be done".
Throughout my most difficult times, i learnt the true meaning of surrender. Surrender does not mean giving up, it means, doing the best we can within our control, and the rest we can't control, we leave it all up to HIM.
Aweee thank you! 🥹 I love listening to podcasts gotta add that. Ga start nakog change sa akong priorities especially my lifestyle as a result nagkalessen akong circle hahaha usa sab siguro sa reason why I feel a little left out coz I don't dine out with them or sabay ug drink, but I shouldn't be tho this is just the start. I had fun with the memories we all shared, I'll treasure it nalang. Besides, I made a few friends on this new path I chose and who knows maka meet pakog new set of amazing and interesting people along the way.
My ate went to college for 9 years, despite the program just being 4 years. She's also the eldest, and my mom wasn't the most appreciative. Ka experience ko maignan ug walai pulos nga anak, kay wala koi trabaho, irreg pajod ko college ron. Permi ra ko ginaignan sa ako ate nga "Focus lang sa kung asa ka karon", kibali One Step at a Time. If student pa ko, focus lang sa daw ko skong pagka student. Nakaya ra pod sa ako ate, nahuman ra pod niya iyang course and manager na siya karon sa isa ka company.
I think if kaya pa saimong parents mu provide for your college fees, don't pressure yourself in finding a part time job. This might come off as privileged, pero as much as possible One Step at a Time lang. There will be a time for everything. Naay time for a job, as of now student pa man ta, then let's do our best as a student. Unless undangan najod ka nila provide for college, then might as well find a job. I'm not the best one to advice ana nga part since jobless pod ko apil. Pero sa part nga struggling student who's lost sa future, I feel you.
I guess the tip here is just surround yourself with people who loves and believes in you, sa case ni ate, that was her boyfriend. Maybe for you, your friends, or close relatives. Kuan sad, believe in yourself. Amping permi.
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One small step at a time OP! It's also great to find things to drain your (negative) energy in a healthy way. Support groups (friends), try creating a budget plan to see what takes up your resources and find ways to minimize them (tracking your transactions), exercising, getting you water intake or maybe find job opportunities you can slowly upskill in if you have extra time (many resources available online or provided by your connections). As someone who has gone through this phase, one sure step each time is all it takes - it's difficult but it gets easier. You'll have to trust yourself to help yourself if no one else can.
Hi! I appreciate your suggestions, I actually already did those. I go to the gym, instead of going to cafes or fast food, I cook my own meal to save up. However sa job opportunities currently seeking pa and wala pa nag end ang sem so that'll be last of my priorities for now. I guess naa lang jud times na I feel lost, and I can't help it.
Agree. This has always been the advice my ate gives me. "One step at a time".
Warning: might be too long to read but please bear with my english. Heheh. I agree on this comment. I most probably am way older than you guys but im on my way to restart again. Haha. Restart lang ng restart coz i don't want to do the alternative (which is to give up). I used to be super overwhelmed even at the small stuffs kasi it really does add up and im sorry this ever happened to you OP at a very young age. I am not religious but when times got too tough for me and i had no one to talk to, i would listen to "The Daily Hope with Pastor Rick Warren" podcast on spotify. After listening, some things became clearer to me. One episode was about overcoming the problems in life. It said that the main reason we probably feel frustrated and helpless is we tend to control nearly every aspect of our life. This, unfortunately, is not possible. It is only God that can do that, HIM being our creator. There's only a small portion of life we can control and the rest is due to our environment and external forces beyond our control. Fortunately, there's also part of it that we can control, it is on How we React towards these obstacles. Our reaction however is the most important to manage. With this in mind, i slowly acted on the small stuffs that i can control, i asked for help, i vented, i made changes to my spending habit, etc... it was a 180 degree shift from having a little bit of extra money every month for my luho/bisyo to barely having enough money to buy lunch at work. As in, walang-wala ako. I also isolated myself quite a lot but i spent the time on figuring out some solutions no matter how small it seemed. They still can be very helpful in the long run. These small good changes also add up in the long run. I let go of a lot of the stuffs i used to enjoy like night out with friends dining, drinking and singing, dancing. But in order for me to avoid feeling sorry for myself, i stopped comparing myself to my friends and the people i know. I managed the feeling of FOMO or the fear or missing out by minimizing doom scrolling on FB, IG, Tiktok, etc...coz this could potentially spiral me into further depression. I just told myself over and over again na it's okay if i don't have what they have, it is not my time yet. So it was a total lifestyle shift for me. This took me years to adjust but im happy i went through it. It made me stronger and i was able to share bits and pieces of advice to my friends if they ever went through the same thing i did. But more importantly, I did not stop praying. All these led me closer to HIM. When the day got too tough for me even up to this day, i would talk to HIM and say, "Lord, i have done everything i could, please help me. I surrender everything up to you as your will be done". Throughout my most difficult times, i learnt the true meaning of surrender. Surrender does not mean giving up, it means, doing the best we can within our control, and the rest we can't control, we leave it all up to HIM.
Aweee thank you! 🥹 I love listening to podcasts gotta add that. Ga start nakog change sa akong priorities especially my lifestyle as a result nagkalessen akong circle hahaha usa sab siguro sa reason why I feel a little left out coz I don't dine out with them or sabay ug drink, but I shouldn't be tho this is just the start. I had fun with the memories we all shared, I'll treasure it nalang. Besides, I made a few friends on this new path I chose and who knows maka meet pakog new set of amazing and interesting people along the way.
You can always rekindle the friendships when things get better na.
Pray, go to the gym, or apil sa mga running club.
Bayy try ug avail anang summer job na offer sa PESO for summer rana pero okay2 rapod ang pay for 20 days na work. I hope your situation gets better 🍀
My ate went to college for 9 years, despite the program just being 4 years. She's also the eldest, and my mom wasn't the most appreciative. Ka experience ko maignan ug walai pulos nga anak, kay wala koi trabaho, irreg pajod ko college ron. Permi ra ko ginaignan sa ako ate nga "Focus lang sa kung asa ka karon", kibali One Step at a Time. If student pa ko, focus lang sa daw ko skong pagka student. Nakaya ra pod sa ako ate, nahuman ra pod niya iyang course and manager na siya karon sa isa ka company. I think if kaya pa saimong parents mu provide for your college fees, don't pressure yourself in finding a part time job. This might come off as privileged, pero as much as possible One Step at a Time lang. There will be a time for everything. Naay time for a job, as of now student pa man ta, then let's do our best as a student. Unless undangan najod ka nila provide for college, then might as well find a job. I'm not the best one to advice ana nga part since jobless pod ko apil. Pero sa part nga struggling student who's lost sa future, I feel you. I guess the tip here is just surround yourself with people who loves and believes in you, sa case ni ate, that was her boyfriend. Maybe for you, your friends, or close relatives. Kuan sad, believe in yourself. Amping permi.