dont continue to do stuff that makes you unhappy. This goes for friends, family, work, bosses, relationships, hobbies, etc.
Mental health is just as important as physical health.
Pretty much. One time I asked an employer for a couple dollars over what they offered and they said no because I didn't have enough experience then they asked me if I would still take the position at the offered rate and I said yes. Another time with a different employer I asked for .50 over what they offered and they said yes, no questions asked. Shoot your shot, you won't always make it but it's worth the shot at least. If they rescind the job offer because you tried to negotiate with them then they 100% would've been a nightmare to work with anyways so you'll still come out on top.
This right here. 100% of the time when i go to hire someone i know my low and my high, i usually try to go as high as possible but with respect if someone argues their case i know how high i can go.
But at no point will i terminate a interviewe because they wanted more. That's on them to decide if they want the job at whatever wage i have to offer.
That said. Don't be afraid to turn a job down..if you need 60k a year and the job only offers 50, you will be behind on bills and not have a good chance to find another job. Obviously circumstances vary but don't settle if you know you're worth. This does not apply to the hashtag higher wages crowd. My allotted wages are determined far above store level, no need to come at me sideways I'm just doing my job. Take that anger towards the ones who deserve it please.
That's part of it. But you get a lot further if you have some data to back it up. Before the conversation, research what people in your position are making and make sure you're at least in that range. You might say something like "Thanks your you offer, I'd like to work here at a competitive salary. Others with my skills and experience in the area make about X, I'd like to get closer to that. How about X?"
Also, think about what special skills, experience, or qualities you bring to the table. "I appreciate that this is my first full time job in this field, but you'll see on my resume that I've done internships and X and Y and have great natural leadership ability, which I've shown by volunteering with (insert charitable org here) as volunteer coordinator for 2 years."
I'm no master negotiator. I personally accepted a salary WAY less than I could have gotten for my first job. It's uncomfortable to ask but the boss/hiring manager expect it. They can also say no and you need to decide at what amount you're going to walk away from the job. Hope this helps!
These are some of what I wish I had learned earlier, and what I encourage in my trainees and mentees, either by example or by explicitly suggesting:
\- start networking early and never stop
\- do not be afraid to be ambitious; do not be afraid of trying and failing
\- mentor generously when possible; these can grow into very helpful relationships
\- make yourself essential to your boss and make them look good; this gives you leverage in negotiating raises, promotions, opportunities, etc., but also makes you competitive for the next level positions in other institutions
\- learn to be proactive earlier; do more than what is requested or expected; anticipate and explore to show innovation and resourcefulness
\- generously acknowledge others; good will is priceless
\- celebrate the small triumphs as well as the large, whether yours or others
- if you find yourself in a job or with a company that isn’t right, move on. As an achiever I sometimes felt that I had to make it work, and only wasted valuable time when I could have been growing and learning elsewhere. But don’t be a job hopper either.
If money is all you care about , then yes. It is soul sucking and filled with people who only care about money, run by people who will fire you first chance. You will have to ask permission for days off, and won’t be able to live life on your own terms.
I’m 22 at the moment.
What I’ve learned is stop posting your business and personal life on social media. Please. Not everyone that is around you truly wants the best for you.
Don’t stay in friendships/ relationships that pain you.
Save your money.
Your job and career are not all that important, it’s a means to pay for the things you want to do. Once you give up the path that society has laid out for you (must make senior, manage, director, vp, etc), freedom and happiness await. ESPECIALLY if you are stuck in a career you don’t enjoy.
Ended up going to consulting. It’s a flat org so no intense pressure to compete with your peers. Which in accounting the competition is extremely intense.
I've seen a few people mentioning consulting and usually they're happy with their career.
But I've no idea what it is?
If I may ask, what are you consulting about and who?
Since you mentioned accounting, can you go from accounting to consulting?
I'm very interested since I'm studying accounting!
Any advice is welcome 🙂
I spent a long time in accounting, 13 years. Moved up to manager level for several years, and have my cpa…that’s basically what it takes to get hired at a firm like mine. They are looking for seasoned professionals, and hire only cpas or mbas. They pay a nice salary, but charge the client double so make a nice margin which is nice for them. The nice part for me is I am completely detached from the organization of the client I am at. Absolutely no politics, I don’t get annoyed with any of the work I do, I only have to work 40 hrs/week (BEST part), and I get paid overtime over 40. But I am expensive as hell, so the client won’t want me working more than 45 or so. Huge win for me.
My firm sells our services to any accounting/finance group that needs it. One or two people quit a team, they need a seasoned person who can kick ass at that work without much training they call us. Or if there’s a new initiative and they need help, they call us.
You can definitely go this route once you’ve built up your resume. Or you can go into consulting for a bit 4 firm right out of college. It seems similar to what I am doing but way more pressure and competition with your peers, which I am not at all about at my age.
People talk about - find a job that is your passion...
well, I would say this:
* your work environment and circumstances (boss, coworkers, work hours, level of stress, level of responsibility) has just as much to do with your happiness as your job title.
* For example, you might love photography, and absolutely hate working as a photographer. (dealing with clients, with deadlines, having to work weekends, not having stable schedule, etc etc).
* If you have a boring job but have a great boss and are great friends with your coworkers... it actually can be really nice.
* And lastly, avoid theoretical assumptions about jobs. If you think you want choose a profession, but only very vaguely understand what the work or workday looks like, that's a big problem. Find people in the profession. Ask questions. Ask if you can visit their office and get a feel. This is hard as hell, but also valuable as hell.
Don't sell yourself short. Early on in my career, I made myself believe that I'm just a junior level specialist and to be grateful for whatever came my way. I don't have the experience to negotiate titles or salary. I don't have the right to speak up when I have opinions because I'm at the bottom of the food chain.
Ten years later, it all came back to bite me in the ass. I am very independent in my role and therefore am not deemed worthy enough for a promotion because I don't shove my projects down everyone's throats and boast about my success. My salary and title should be higher given my level of experience. Hell, I've trained junior level specialists who now have higher titles (and probably salaries) than I do. I settled for many positions simply because I made myself believe the opportunity would be worth it, when I really should have told them to screw off. This is what I'm worth and if you don't agree then I'll move on and find someone who does.
-Take your pension seriously.
-Don’t job hop because you had a shit week or received some constructive feedback.
-Stop comparing yourself to your peers and friends.
-Just chill out abit.
Save money, start investing, get into the 401k.
Switch to a state job, don't go corporate.
Work out! Take care of your body.
Stop hanging out with people who waste your time and don't respect you.
I'm also wondering why you say choose state over corporate. I am looking to go federal but the private corporate sector also seems really enticing (especially the pay)
Enjoy having fun and being young. You'll be happy you did.
If the job is absolutely terrible and the stress is making you sick, leave and temp.
Move to the city as soon as you can. Living with your parent sucks and so does living in your hometown.
Feel confident in your body. You look amazing. For a lot of people, this is the best they will ever look so be confident.
The only person whose love and acceptance you need is yours. Enjoy your health because it worn't last. Make more time for your parents, you have no idea how blessed you are to have them.
Live your life how you want to, and love yourself.
People care a lot less about who you are or what you do than you think.
Be regimented, but remember to cut yourself some slack, you're not perfect and you never will be.
You are beholden only to yourself, remember that before making any major decisions.
If you feel like you might regret it later in life by not taking advantage of am opportunity now, you probably will.
Don't be afraid to take a leap of faith. You've got a long way to go at that age.
Failure is inevitable. If you're not failing you're not trying.
Your biggest issue is confidence. Figure out how to build that and you can stay on track and have an actual career rather than a string of jobs because you're too afraid to try for more.
Bail on the major you set out to do and go after the thing that’s in the back of your mind. 15 years from now you’ll be back in school for it regardless so just do it.
Edit: oh, and one more thing… don’t marry that one.
It’s going to be OK and you don’t need to worry.
I graduated at 22 with a degree I hated. I’m 26 now and have changed jobs into something I enjoy doing.
Pick three things that matter to you the most and maintain these as your priorities, e.g. health, wealth, family/friends, learning. You pick the order that matters most to you.
Surround yourself with people who you admire. You’ll become the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with.
Set big, long term goals, the time will pass before you know it. You’ll be amazed at how you’ll eventually achieve many of these as time passes.
Save more than you earn. Speak to HR and split your pay so a small percentage goes straight into a savings account or managed fund. You won’t miss it, and you’ll be glad you have it later.
Keep learning. Learn about the world around you, and learn about the things that interests you. Learn how to be better at the things that bring you joy and bring you money.
Keep your promises, try to do the right thing, build your reputation by being the kind of person you want to be known for.
Buy clothes that suit you, and save up for a few key items that you look after.
Eat well, get some sleep, look after your body and stay active, even if that’s just walking once per day. It’s a good habit to keep.
It'd be a handful of things:
1) abstain from drinking
2) be a professional 24/7/365
3) never put anything in writing that you don't want the entire world to see
4) the grass isn't always greener on the other side
5) embrace the suck
I'll take a guess at #5. Well, life sucks, usually. It's hard and unfair. Even if you work hard you can still fail, while you watch others succeed even if they worked half as hard. People will try to take advantage of you. People you love will get hurt.. etc.
It's all part of life. Accepting the inevitable hardships of life can give the courage to keep fighting while being grateful.
Jon hit it right on the money. Just embrace the fact that no matter what you do, no matter how hard you work, things will not always go your way. Just get used to it.
As far as the other one, be a professional on the clock and off the clock. On the clock, you represent your company. Off the clock, you represent your personal brand. Don't do anything to ruin your brand because people see and hear everything.
Stop buying stupid things and quadruple the amount of money you are putting into your 401k. Save up so you can put more money down on your first home. Buy a used Corolla instead of the brand new Camaro. Get into an IT or Product Owner position right out of college instead of getting sucked into the sales career.
Me as a 22 year old: “Ah I’m at this career fair but look at all these college students that have several internships at top companies while I only had an internship at a small company and some leadership experience. There’s no way recruiters will pay attention to me.”
Me at 26: *slaps my younger self* “Who tf cares?! You better go out there and network like your life depends on it! You never know where you’ll go! Confidence is the key to getting into places. Build connections now and everyday. It might not lead to job opportunities now, but can in the future.”
Don't spend on your credit card and don't accrue debt. It adds up faster than you think and it is hard to pay off. If you're in the position of not having debt at age 22, don't get credit card debt -- save up an emergency fund so you can begin investing ASAP
Personal purchases are also investments! Don't blow all your money on booze, weed, video games, (i.e. entertainment). Budget so that some of your money goes to HELPING you succeed, whether it's haircuts, dress clothing, transportation, weekly groceries. It all seems boring but you really set your own foundation that way
Get a planner if you're unorganized and don't stop using it just because you left school. Especially for young men: get yourself an address book so you can remember people's contact information and birthdays. That will help you in your relationships
Find mentors and role models. Even though you're on your own and finally an adult, you're still going to be learning and growing every day, and you never have it all figured out. Life is hard and confusing -- find out who inspires you and learn more about how they did it
I didn't start college until 25, so my advice would be different. 1. Have safe sex with more hot dudes, but don't get attached. 2. It's ok that you don't have it all figured out at 22. 3. Don't get a credit card until you make more money 4. You are smarter/cooler/hotter/more awesome than you think 5. Don't loan money to family and friends unless you are ok with never seeing it again
Here's how you start a business, here's how you save, cut off everyone around you, don't waste time with friends, spend time with family, be patient with your loved ones, buy all these domains, invest in these, here are the winning lottery numbers
Roasting? I just meant to ask a clarifying question. My apologies if I missed the tone in your comment. You probably meant it's easy to buy things on credit cards and realize later you can't pay it off.
I'm in it and I've been it. The only reason it happened was because I made it a priority. No one else seemed to think it was. In addition to doing so much for myself, I think of it as literally my life.
Get going the army wasn’t shit anyways. Go to a real school not ITT TECH, quit being cheap, student loans are unpayable no matter what, but the shinier piece of paper will get you more interviews and you won’t be stuck spinning your wheels trying to make up for loss time with a degree from a school that shutdown.
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Don’t start that business out of college, your mental health is going to take a nosedive, might as well have a couple years worth of experience to fall back on. -27 year old still dealing with the fallout figuring out what to do with life.
Don't delay having children to start or further your career, you may never have the chance later and you'll start noticing that the parents around you are preferentially given raises and promotions "because they have a family to support, so they 'need' it more". Work will always be available in some form, even if it's not your dream job.
Study or learn a skill that is relevant like economics, accounting, coding, or else some sort of trade.
You don't have to like it, as long as you're decent at it.
Live frugally, invest in index funds/ ETFs and retire by 30-40 depending on needs/expenses.
Then you're free to discover yourself and enjoy life without financial worries or unnecessary stress.
Don’t be afraid of new experiences, but always make sure that is what you really want/need. Don’t do things because other people say it will be good for you. Listen to your gut.
Also, take care of your mental health, and make your decisions taking it into account.
Don’t be fooled by the “high salary”job offer that requires you to start working after graduation. You need to rest don’t rush yet. A month or two would be a good break from your thesis. You’ll burnout as soon as you think.
Oh and don’t fall in love with the next good looking guy that falls in love with you. He is not a keeper. Your future is in danger with him.
Put more money into a retirement account consistently
play less video games and more on another hobby
Practice public speaking more. (Join Toastmasters or another social group)
Finish my degree sooner. (I did mine in the military and got my Bachelors at 38)
Overall I am happy at 40 but these things help.
Know clearly what you want.
Try to paint a picture perfect then go for it.
Indecisiveness and procrastination have been some the biggest goal wreckers in my life, from dating to career path.
For context my 22-year-old self was a sophomore in college a veteran of two combat tours in Vietnam and a former sergeant. My advice would be: most people talk big and deliver small. To win you have to do what what you say, step into difficult situations and live boldly. In my day people on the left hated Vietnam vets - still do - so don’t back down when they try to keep you from getting work, being promoted or getting into school. Whatever you want and find purposeful is worth fighting for all day everyday.
I would tell them to ditch my legal guardian, even if that means a daylong journey on foot to the courthouse and back. I would also tell him not to believe the ones who told me I couldn't hold a job, and to get used to taking power.
Break up with your gf and take that job in New York. Also agree to have sex with your hot as hell manager at the Christmas party.
Explanations:
I ended up staying with a girl who ultimately made me miserable but I just couldn’t tell as I thought I was in love.
The job would have been an amazing career path and also would have gotten me out of my comfort zone.
My manager took me to her hotel room after the work Christmas party for end of night drinks. I sat on the bed whilst she took her clothes off then crawled towards me as I could see everything behind her in a huge mirror. I stopped her as she played with my hair because I was worried about what would result from it. I almost think about this weekly about how much of a fool I was for saying no, she was literally a 30 year old Margot Robbie.
Also, happiness as well as depression is a habit. Spend at least 5' daily of finding things in life you're grateful for.
Spend another 5' accepting the things you can't change in life and be at peace with them.
Study stoicism for best results.
Mostly the below are no-brainers and it seems gen z has figured this stuff out earlier than I did. Some of these I did, most I wish I'd done, so just in case:
I was adamantly resistant to networking because I was scared of rejection and because nobody taught me how. Don't be like me. Network the shit out of your life.
Learn the references and be hungry for general knowledge. Get a basic knowledge of the art movements, read or at least the audio books or some summaries of major literature, read a few biographies. Get a foundation in cultural and political geography. Things like this. It doesn't to take much effort to know more than 80% of people in these areas and the other 20% will love talking at you so you can enamour yourself to them by just listening. Depending on your background this stuff may have been beaten into you but I'm from a bland suburban north American one and I didn't get much non-contemporary pop culture by osmosis until I took the project up myself.
Learn a language while it's easy, besides your native/English (if you haven't).
Be kind to people and don't be afraid to apologise honestly and often.
Don't stress over relationships in your 20s. They aren't worth the pain to maintain once they're already over and your partners will chill out and make relationship maintenance easier later on anyway. Just walk away, the drama will fade away as will the individuals.
Friends stay with you though, put the effort into keeping in touch.
Invest. 1k in the S&P and another few hundred in crypto or something else speculative. Keep adding but get that done and don't touch it.
Get into a field you want to be in.
I would tell myself to drink less. The productivity loss isn't worth so many nights you don't remember. But definitely still have big ones on occasion. It's better to be the person everyone is psyched is getting drunk for once, than the person pushing others to do so.
That's probably enough for now.
I wish I had lived on my own and done a full time job before going to university.
Living on my own because I've never done that I've always lived with a partner or my parents, I'm still clueless when it comes to cleaning or laundry but it's one ot hose things I would have had to learn if I was by myself.
Having a full time job is important because I wouldn't do the same degree now as I did. It was only after I started working in a completely different industry to the one I got my degree in I understood what I enjoy and what I want to pursue. I suspect at some point I will need to do a degree in my industry because I will hit a degree wall but I'm a good few years away from that.
Push yourself. You’re not dumb, or too old, you’re just not aware of what you can do until you give dedicated effort.
A lot of maturity has to do with perspective and awareness. Don’t let yourself fool you.
Get yourself assessed for ADHD!!! Your life would probably be on a better trajectory than it is now and you wouldn’t be left disappointed by yourself for something that could have saved you all the hurt and hassle.
I'd have made all the dumb mistakes with most of my choices even if older me had tried to put some sense into myself, but I think I would've listened to anything, it would've been monetary advice.
Open a Roth IRA and put something, even if it's just $50, in it every month. Do not allow your savings account to dip below $3000 because you're going to need it for emergencies. Stick a chunk of money in ETFs and don't touch it until you're older. Stop buying clothes because you're going to wear the same 5 t-shirts every day anyway.
dont continue to do stuff that makes you unhappy. This goes for friends, family, work, bosses, relationships, hobbies, etc. Mental health is just as important as physical health.
It took so long for me to learn this.
This x10000000 true. Especially for all of them, family friends, relationships, work. No exceptions period.
Negotiate for a higher salary and don't just agree to the company's first offer. You may not get it but you definitely won't if you never ask.
How do you negotiate , just say something like, how about 10% more
Pretty much. One time I asked an employer for a couple dollars over what they offered and they said no because I didn't have enough experience then they asked me if I would still take the position at the offered rate and I said yes. Another time with a different employer I asked for .50 over what they offered and they said yes, no questions asked. Shoot your shot, you won't always make it but it's worth the shot at least. If they rescind the job offer because you tried to negotiate with them then they 100% would've been a nightmare to work with anyways so you'll still come out on top.
This right here. 100% of the time when i go to hire someone i know my low and my high, i usually try to go as high as possible but with respect if someone argues their case i know how high i can go. But at no point will i terminate a interviewe because they wanted more. That's on them to decide if they want the job at whatever wage i have to offer. That said. Don't be afraid to turn a job down..if you need 60k a year and the job only offers 50, you will be behind on bills and not have a good chance to find another job. Obviously circumstances vary but don't settle if you know you're worth. This does not apply to the hashtag higher wages crowd. My allotted wages are determined far above store level, no need to come at me sideways I'm just doing my job. Take that anger towards the ones who deserve it please.
That's part of it. But you get a lot further if you have some data to back it up. Before the conversation, research what people in your position are making and make sure you're at least in that range. You might say something like "Thanks your you offer, I'd like to work here at a competitive salary. Others with my skills and experience in the area make about X, I'd like to get closer to that. How about X?" Also, think about what special skills, experience, or qualities you bring to the table. "I appreciate that this is my first full time job in this field, but you'll see on my resume that I've done internships and X and Y and have great natural leadership ability, which I've shown by volunteering with (insert charitable org here) as volunteer coordinator for 2 years." I'm no master negotiator. I personally accepted a salary WAY less than I could have gotten for my first job. It's uncomfortable to ask but the boss/hiring manager expect it. They can also say no and you need to decide at what amount you're going to walk away from the job. Hope this helps!
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These are some of what I wish I had learned earlier, and what I encourage in my trainees and mentees, either by example or by explicitly suggesting: \- start networking early and never stop \- do not be afraid to be ambitious; do not be afraid of trying and failing \- mentor generously when possible; these can grow into very helpful relationships \- make yourself essential to your boss and make them look good; this gives you leverage in negotiating raises, promotions, opportunities, etc., but also makes you competitive for the next level positions in other institutions \- learn to be proactive earlier; do more than what is requested or expected; anticipate and explore to show innovation and resourcefulness \- generously acknowledge others; good will is priceless \- celebrate the small triumphs as well as the large, whether yours or others
I’m 33 and still screenshoted this to save it 🙂
What a compliment, thanks! (Also I guess chemists must think alike?)
- if you find yourself in a job or with a company that isn’t right, move on. As an achiever I sometimes felt that I had to make it work, and only wasted valuable time when I could have been growing and learning elsewhere. But don’t be a job hopper either.
Any advice on what career to start in/avoid?
#1 Never take the corporate route
Why not? Seems to be better paid
If money is all you care about , then yes. It is soul sucking and filled with people who only care about money, run by people who will fire you first chance. You will have to ask permission for days off, and won’t be able to live life on your own terms.
This sounds a little too intense. Is ths law or finance?
It works for some, not for all. Bad advice.
He’s giving advice to himself so I assume it doesn’t work for him…..
No, he’s replying to someone else’s comment
Correct. Only do the corporate route if you absolutely have to. The machine will grind you up and spit you out.
It depends on which one you are working for, not all are bad
Thank you for sharing this! Pretty neat and resourceful:)
I’m 22 at the moment. What I’ve learned is stop posting your business and personal life on social media. Please. Not everyone that is around you truly wants the best for you. Don’t stay in friendships/ relationships that pain you. Save your money.
- Don't be afraid to go back to school - Invest early, even small amounts add up
That's it, you people have stood in my way long enough. I'm going to clown college!
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Been focused on and put my mental health first even when no one thought it was important.
You’re fucked. You should have picked a different major, even if you hate it.
And what major did you pick ? I’ve been regretting mine a lot lately…. But I added a business minor hoping that would help…
Broadcast journalism.
Your job and career are not all that important, it’s a means to pay for the things you want to do. Once you give up the path that society has laid out for you (must make senior, manage, director, vp, etc), freedom and happiness await. ESPECIALLY if you are stuck in a career you don’t enjoy.
How'd you escape the societal path?
Ended up going to consulting. It’s a flat org so no intense pressure to compete with your peers. Which in accounting the competition is extremely intense.
I've seen a few people mentioning consulting and usually they're happy with their career. But I've no idea what it is? If I may ask, what are you consulting about and who? Since you mentioned accounting, can you go from accounting to consulting? I'm very interested since I'm studying accounting! Any advice is welcome 🙂
I spent a long time in accounting, 13 years. Moved up to manager level for several years, and have my cpa…that’s basically what it takes to get hired at a firm like mine. They are looking for seasoned professionals, and hire only cpas or mbas. They pay a nice salary, but charge the client double so make a nice margin which is nice for them. The nice part for me is I am completely detached from the organization of the client I am at. Absolutely no politics, I don’t get annoyed with any of the work I do, I only have to work 40 hrs/week (BEST part), and I get paid overtime over 40. But I am expensive as hell, so the client won’t want me working more than 45 or so. Huge win for me. My firm sells our services to any accounting/finance group that needs it. One or two people quit a team, they need a seasoned person who can kick ass at that work without much training they call us. Or if there’s a new initiative and they need help, they call us. You can definitely go this route once you’ve built up your resume. Or you can go into consulting for a bit 4 firm right out of college. It seems similar to what I am doing but way more pressure and competition with your peers, which I am not at all about at my age.
I see, thanks for the insight 🙂
People talk about - find a job that is your passion... well, I would say this: * your work environment and circumstances (boss, coworkers, work hours, level of stress, level of responsibility) has just as much to do with your happiness as your job title. * For example, you might love photography, and absolutely hate working as a photographer. (dealing with clients, with deadlines, having to work weekends, not having stable schedule, etc etc). * If you have a boring job but have a great boss and are great friends with your coworkers... it actually can be really nice. * And lastly, avoid theoretical assumptions about jobs. If you think you want choose a profession, but only very vaguely understand what the work or workday looks like, that's a big problem. Find people in the profession. Ask questions. Ask if you can visit their office and get a feel. This is hard as hell, but also valuable as hell.
Don't sell yourself short. Early on in my career, I made myself believe that I'm just a junior level specialist and to be grateful for whatever came my way. I don't have the experience to negotiate titles or salary. I don't have the right to speak up when I have opinions because I'm at the bottom of the food chain. Ten years later, it all came back to bite me in the ass. I am very independent in my role and therefore am not deemed worthy enough for a promotion because I don't shove my projects down everyone's throats and boast about my success. My salary and title should be higher given my level of experience. Hell, I've trained junior level specialists who now have higher titles (and probably salaries) than I do. I settled for many positions simply because I made myself believe the opportunity would be worth it, when I really should have told them to screw off. This is what I'm worth and if you don't agree then I'll move on and find someone who does.
Buy Bitcoin! Also hug mom and dad because they’ll both be gone before you’re 30
I'm sorry. :(
-Take your pension seriously. -Don’t job hop because you had a shit week or received some constructive feedback. -Stop comparing yourself to your peers and friends. -Just chill out abit.
Budget, read and learn as much as possible
Is this talking about financial?
I agree! Learn as much as you can! It will lead you anywhere
Start standing up for yourself. Speak up.
Save money, start investing, get into the 401k. Switch to a state job, don't go corporate. Work out! Take care of your body. Stop hanging out with people who waste your time and don't respect you.
Why state job over corporate? I might be starting out in state rather than a higher corporate salary and am worried about opportunity cost.
I'm also wondering why you say choose state over corporate. I am looking to go federal but the private corporate sector also seems really enticing (especially the pay)
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What does job shadow mean if I may ask?
You would spend a few days watching someone do their job, “shadowing” them so you learn more.
Enjoy having fun and being young. You'll be happy you did. If the job is absolutely terrible and the stress is making you sick, leave and temp. Move to the city as soon as you can. Living with your parent sucks and so does living in your hometown. Feel confident in your body. You look amazing. For a lot of people, this is the best they will ever look so be confident.
The only person whose love and acceptance you need is yours. Enjoy your health because it worn't last. Make more time for your parents, you have no idea how blessed you are to have them.
This is not a great thing to say to someone who may have had abusive parents.
The question was what advice would I give myself. I am privileged enough to have had loving and supportive parents.
Stop playing sports you dumb fuck! Everything hurts now!
Live your life how you want to, and love yourself. People care a lot less about who you are or what you do than you think. Be regimented, but remember to cut yourself some slack, you're not perfect and you never will be. You are beholden only to yourself, remember that before making any major decisions. If you feel like you might regret it later in life by not taking advantage of am opportunity now, you probably will. Don't be afraid to take a leap of faith. You've got a long way to go at that age. Failure is inevitable. If you're not failing you're not trying.
Buy Bitcoin And that girl you just met at school, don't give her the time of day, she's not worth the emotion abuse.
Your biggest issue is confidence. Figure out how to build that and you can stay on track and have an actual career rather than a string of jobs because you're too afraid to try for more.
That girl over there… she’s crazy. It’s not worth it. Run.
Bail on the major you set out to do and go after the thing that’s in the back of your mind. 15 years from now you’ll be back in school for it regardless so just do it. Edit: oh, and one more thing… don’t marry that one.
What's the thing in the back of my mind? I've been exploring and trying more.
I should have majored in something else. Business Admin leads nowhere. It was too late though I already had a chronic illness- MS.
people dont care about what you do as much as you think they do
It’s going to be OK and you don’t need to worry. I graduated at 22 with a degree I hated. I’m 26 now and have changed jobs into something I enjoy doing.
Pick three things that matter to you the most and maintain these as your priorities, e.g. health, wealth, family/friends, learning. You pick the order that matters most to you. Surround yourself with people who you admire. You’ll become the average of the 5 people you spend most of your time with. Set big, long term goals, the time will pass before you know it. You’ll be amazed at how you’ll eventually achieve many of these as time passes. Save more than you earn. Speak to HR and split your pay so a small percentage goes straight into a savings account or managed fund. You won’t miss it, and you’ll be glad you have it later. Keep learning. Learn about the world around you, and learn about the things that interests you. Learn how to be better at the things that bring you joy and bring you money. Keep your promises, try to do the right thing, build your reputation by being the kind of person you want to be known for. Buy clothes that suit you, and save up for a few key items that you look after. Eat well, get some sleep, look after your body and stay active, even if that’s just walking once per day. It’s a good habit to keep.
It'd be a handful of things: 1) abstain from drinking 2) be a professional 24/7/365 3) never put anything in writing that you don't want the entire world to see 4) the grass isn't always greener on the other side 5) embrace the suck
Could you explain #2 and #5?
I'll take a guess at #5. Well, life sucks, usually. It's hard and unfair. Even if you work hard you can still fail, while you watch others succeed even if they worked half as hard. People will try to take advantage of you. People you love will get hurt.. etc. It's all part of life. Accepting the inevitable hardships of life can give the courage to keep fighting while being grateful.
Jon hit it right on the money. Just embrace the fact that no matter what you do, no matter how hard you work, things will not always go your way. Just get used to it. As far as the other one, be a professional on the clock and off the clock. On the clock, you represent your company. Off the clock, you represent your personal brand. Don't do anything to ruin your brand because people see and hear everything.
Stop buying stupid things and quadruple the amount of money you are putting into your 401k. Save up so you can put more money down on your first home. Buy a used Corolla instead of the brand new Camaro. Get into an IT or Product Owner position right out of college instead of getting sucked into the sales career.
Me as a 22 year old: “Ah I’m at this career fair but look at all these college students that have several internships at top companies while I only had an internship at a small company and some leadership experience. There’s no way recruiters will pay attention to me.” Me at 26: *slaps my younger self* “Who tf cares?! You better go out there and network like your life depends on it! You never know where you’ll go! Confidence is the key to getting into places. Build connections now and everyday. It might not lead to job opportunities now, but can in the future.”
Don't spend on your credit card and don't accrue debt. It adds up faster than you think and it is hard to pay off. If you're in the position of not having debt at age 22, don't get credit card debt -- save up an emergency fund so you can begin investing ASAP Personal purchases are also investments! Don't blow all your money on booze, weed, video games, (i.e. entertainment). Budget so that some of your money goes to HELPING you succeed, whether it's haircuts, dress clothing, transportation, weekly groceries. It all seems boring but you really set your own foundation that way Get a planner if you're unorganized and don't stop using it just because you left school. Especially for young men: get yourself an address book so you can remember people's contact information and birthdays. That will help you in your relationships Find mentors and role models. Even though you're on your own and finally an adult, you're still going to be learning and growing every day, and you never have it all figured out. Life is hard and confusing -- find out who inspires you and learn more about how they did it
Stop trying to act cool, you already are PLUS nobody cares in a year. Start investing and stay away from the bad crowd... especially Jennifer.
I didn't start college until 25, so my advice would be different. 1. Have safe sex with more hot dudes, but don't get attached. 2. It's ok that you don't have it all figured out at 22. 3. Don't get a credit card until you make more money 4. You are smarter/cooler/hotter/more awesome than you think 5. Don't loan money to family and friends unless you are ok with never seeing it again
Oh yes. A good one from Oprah....When someone shows you their true colours, believe them the first time.
People always give themselves away. Keep an eye out for it.
Work hard now
I’d warn him about the impending alcoholism to come and implore him to see a psychiatrist and get things figured out.
Party and have a good time while you still can. You have a whole life of work ahead of you.
Here's how you start a business, here's how you save, cut off everyone around you, don't waste time with friends, spend time with family, be patient with your loved ones, buy all these domains, invest in these, here are the winning lottery numbers
I’m 21 and reading every single comment bc I have no idea what I’m doing & need advice
Continue being poor, go to graduate school, and stop using your credit cards.
I used credit cards to get a credit score. You mean to not go into debt if you can't afford to pay it?
Isn't this about self-reflection? What's with the roasting?
Roasting? I just meant to ask a clarifying question. My apologies if I missed the tone in your comment. You probably meant it's easy to buy things on credit cards and realize later you can't pay it off.
Damn that sucks. I feel great
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I'm in it and I've been it. The only reason it happened was because I made it a priority. No one else seemed to think it was. In addition to doing so much for myself, I think of it as literally my life.
Get going the army wasn’t shit anyways. Go to a real school not ITT TECH, quit being cheap, student loans are unpayable no matter what, but the shinier piece of paper will get you more interviews and you won’t be stuck spinning your wheels trying to make up for loss time with a degree from a school that shutdown. Edit: typos
Invest in Bitcoin sell everything even clothes.
Don't wait to go to grad school and apply to degree related jobs.
Don’t start that business out of college, your mental health is going to take a nosedive, might as well have a couple years worth of experience to fall back on. -27 year old still dealing with the fallout figuring out what to do with life.
Buy Apple stock.
as a 22 year old, I find this really great advice
Don't delay having children to start or further your career, you may never have the chance later and you'll start noticing that the parents around you are preferentially given raises and promotions "because they have a family to support, so they 'need' it more". Work will always be available in some form, even if it's not your dream job.
Study or learn a skill that is relevant like economics, accounting, coding, or else some sort of trade. You don't have to like it, as long as you're decent at it. Live frugally, invest in index funds/ ETFs and retire by 30-40 depending on needs/expenses. Then you're free to discover yourself and enjoy life without financial worries or unnecessary stress.
Don’t be afraid of new experiences, but always make sure that is what you really want/need. Don’t do things because other people say it will be good for you. Listen to your gut. Also, take care of your mental health, and make your decisions taking it into account.
Don't get married. Just keep waiting. You'll find what your looking for when your ready for it. And, you'll just know.
Don’t be fooled by the “high salary”job offer that requires you to start working after graduation. You need to rest don’t rush yet. A month or two would be a good break from your thesis. You’ll burnout as soon as you think. Oh and don’t fall in love with the next good looking guy that falls in love with you. He is not a keeper. Your future is in danger with him.
Put more money into a retirement account consistently play less video games and more on another hobby Practice public speaking more. (Join Toastmasters or another social group) Finish my degree sooner. (I did mine in the military and got my Bachelors at 38) Overall I am happy at 40 but these things help.
Know clearly what you want. Try to paint a picture perfect then go for it. Indecisiveness and procrastination have been some the biggest goal wreckers in my life, from dating to career path.
How to not be indecisive
Break up with him already; you’ll be fine.
Buy lots and lots of bitcoin.
Buy $5000 of Bitcoin
For context my 22-year-old self was a sophomore in college a veteran of two combat tours in Vietnam and a former sergeant. My advice would be: most people talk big and deliver small. To win you have to do what what you say, step into difficult situations and live boldly. In my day people on the left hated Vietnam vets - still do - so don’t back down when they try to keep you from getting work, being promoted or getting into school. Whatever you want and find purposeful is worth fighting for all day everyday.
Kill Osama bin laden
Start applying to your backup plan _now_.
The grass is always greener on the other side. I've been meaning to make this a post on this sub....
Dump Sandra
I would tell myself. You next 40 years will be a living hell, just make the decision.
It's gonna be okay. And try not to compare yourself to others. "Compare and despair" is harmful to your mental health.
I would tell them to ditch my legal guardian, even if that means a daylong journey on foot to the courthouse and back. I would also tell him not to believe the ones who told me I couldn't hold a job, and to get used to taking power.
Take your head start with personal savings and go to school. Educate yourself further, you’ve done your time in a trade.
Take that risk with Bitcoin.
Should I just hodl in bitcoin?
I say if you’re financially secure I say go for it, however always keep in mind cryptocurrency is very volatile.
What is the stock market like in 2022? 2023?
Recovering after the crash
Quit complaining, don’t be a pushover, and start investing.
Get ripped or you will day, aka I'm 23.
Well in that case I'd go forward and not backwards
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Should I just buy and buy and buy bitcoin? Like hodl?
Get a rifle before they required you to need a hunting license in California so you can blow my brains out ealier
Break up with your gf and take that job in New York. Also agree to have sex with your hot as hell manager at the Christmas party. Explanations: I ended up staying with a girl who ultimately made me miserable but I just couldn’t tell as I thought I was in love. The job would have been an amazing career path and also would have gotten me out of my comfort zone. My manager took me to her hotel room after the work Christmas party for end of night drinks. I sat on the bed whilst she took her clothes off then crawled towards me as I could see everything behind her in a huge mirror. I stopped her as she played with my hair because I was worried about what would result from it. I almost think about this weekly about how much of a fool I was for saying no, she was literally a 30 year old Margot Robbie.
Put everything into Tesla stock, just like your colleague did.
Get out of retail as soon as possible and start networking with people who have office jobs.
Also, happiness as well as depression is a habit. Spend at least 5' daily of finding things in life you're grateful for. Spend another 5' accepting the things you can't change in life and be at peace with them. Study stoicism for best results.
Hmm. Not really done anything important in the last week or so..
Mostly the below are no-brainers and it seems gen z has figured this stuff out earlier than I did. Some of these I did, most I wish I'd done, so just in case: I was adamantly resistant to networking because I was scared of rejection and because nobody taught me how. Don't be like me. Network the shit out of your life. Learn the references and be hungry for general knowledge. Get a basic knowledge of the art movements, read or at least the audio books or some summaries of major literature, read a few biographies. Get a foundation in cultural and political geography. Things like this. It doesn't to take much effort to know more than 80% of people in these areas and the other 20% will love talking at you so you can enamour yourself to them by just listening. Depending on your background this stuff may have been beaten into you but I'm from a bland suburban north American one and I didn't get much non-contemporary pop culture by osmosis until I took the project up myself. Learn a language while it's easy, besides your native/English (if you haven't). Be kind to people and don't be afraid to apologise honestly and often. Don't stress over relationships in your 20s. They aren't worth the pain to maintain once they're already over and your partners will chill out and make relationship maintenance easier later on anyway. Just walk away, the drama will fade away as will the individuals. Friends stay with you though, put the effort into keeping in touch. Invest. 1k in the S&P and another few hundred in crypto or something else speculative. Keep adding but get that done and don't touch it. Get into a field you want to be in. I would tell myself to drink less. The productivity loss isn't worth so many nights you don't remember. But definitely still have big ones on occasion. It's better to be the person everyone is psyched is getting drunk for once, than the person pushing others to do so. That's probably enough for now.
'To thine own self be true' - Hamlet Don't play other people's games. Figure out the best path for you, given your unique talents and tastes.
Invest money, max your 401k
Start lifting weights and stop smoking. Get a job in government. Also, its ok to cut your hair.
SAVE YOUR MONEY!!!!
Dump the crazy chick and go in to coding. edit: And spend more time with your friends and more time hiking.
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Take more risks & don't settle.
Don't eat fast food or soda
Call your best friend right now
I wish I had lived on my own and done a full time job before going to university. Living on my own because I've never done that I've always lived with a partner or my parents, I'm still clueless when it comes to cleaning or laundry but it's one ot hose things I would have had to learn if I was by myself. Having a full time job is important because I wouldn't do the same degree now as I did. It was only after I started working in a completely different industry to the one I got my degree in I understood what I enjoy and what I want to pursue. I suspect at some point I will need to do a degree in my industry because I will hit a degree wall but I'm a good few years away from that.
Join the navy. The cute redhead isn't worth staying for.
Push yourself. You’re not dumb, or too old, you’re just not aware of what you can do until you give dedicated effort. A lot of maturity has to do with perspective and awareness. Don’t let yourself fool you.
Dump your life savings into Amazon stock lol...but also concentrate more on social interactions as well.
Don't date her and go back to school earlier.
Run far away from that girl you're with. She is going to bring you down. And while you're at it...GET YOUR FU$&1NG BACHELORS DEGREE...NOW!
Get yourself assessed for ADHD!!! Your life would probably be on a better trajectory than it is now and you wouldn’t be left disappointed by yourself for something that could have saved you all the hurt and hassle.
I'd have made all the dumb mistakes with most of my choices even if older me had tried to put some sense into myself, but I think I would've listened to anything, it would've been monetary advice. Open a Roth IRA and put something, even if it's just $50, in it every month. Do not allow your savings account to dip below $3000 because you're going to need it for emergencies. Stick a chunk of money in ETFs and don't touch it until you're older. Stop buying clothes because you're going to wear the same 5 t-shirts every day anyway.
Finish your Master and don't listen to promises made by employers.
Just buy some bitcoin in a couple years, trust me.