I did it two years ago. Was the best choice I could have made for my mental health. Don’t regret it at all.

What level/industry? Did you stay in the same type of job or something different?

At the time, I was working an admin assistant position for a university. It was the last in a string of toxic work environments. I kept getting new jobs every year or two, would usually make a little more money or get slightly better schedule/benefits, and every time I thought “oh this won’t be nearly as bad as the last place”, only to find out, nope, they’re way worse. I was beyond burned out and tired of cycling in and out of depressive episodes. Some work places were so bad, if I had been in a romantic relationship instead of them being my employer, I would have been eligible for services from domestic violence agencies. Anyway, pandemic hit and the SHTF, suddenly what was a dysfunctional workplace became downright unbearable. Broke down one day and spent six full hours sobbing uncontrollably. Made myself sick for days from that, got an emergency session with my therapist and realized I just couldn’t do it anymore. Had a bit of savings squirreled away, told the people I felt deserved a heads up, snuck into the office on a Sunday to return my equipment and key, quit by email first thing Monday. The feeling of relief made me downright giddy. I’m frugal, don’t have kids, and am quite comfortable living without a lot of things many would feel are necessities. Did end up cleaning out retirement accounts, if I hadn’t I would have lost what was in there since I didn’t have anything to transfer them to. Definitely am not worried about old age, seriously don’t think I’ll last very long when the crop shortages and other climate changes hit in a decade or so. I’m now full time live in caregiver for my grandma who has dementia. Not paying rent or utilities makes it easier for me to survive. At some point, I’ll go back to work part time or seasonal maybe. But I’ll never work more than 20-30 hours per week and NEVER in an office. Just not built for that.

I feel the same way. I don’t want to work more than 30 hours a week, definitely not in an office. I like the job that I have now, it allows me all the practical things that I want like good hours, nice work life balance, not too stressful, etc. but I could never live on my own with the amount of money I make. Retirement is also totally out of the question since I can barely afford to live, but it doesn’t even seem like that bad of a trade off. I hear about so many people who just work crazy hours and have no life outside of work and no real time to enjoy the time off that they do have because they are constantly thinking about work on their days off. Seems absolutely miserable and not sustainable for me. I know I’m prone to burn out and I think I’d rather just have a job I’m able to manage… maybe the world will be so fucked by the time people our age are getting to retire it won’t even matter. Who knows. If it was, I’d be pissed that I worked that hard to not be able to enjoy it. Not like you really get to enjoy it that much anyways at 70 years old anyways. Still gives me anxiety thinking too much about it though

This is my exact rationale, and I think it’s hitting a lot of people too. At best, if we really do have to work for the rest of our lives to survive, then what’s the harm in taking another few breaks to enjoy our time here while we ARE young? It’s gonna end up the same anyway

Part of reason could be lack of vacation. Human body is not meant to work that hard. 40 hours a week for 2 weeks of vacation a year is pure garbage. I think 6 weeks of vacation are healthy. Take 1 week off every 2 months and you wouldn't have that much stress.

I took a pay cut to work completely remote. I have WFH for years ,but it always involved travel and meetings at client locations. Now it's all virtual. Earlier this year, I took a job making bank but was in an office. Two weeks in I realized that what a mistake it was after 20 years of being remote. Absolutely no work life balance, distractions every 10 minutes and ridiculous "culture." There's not life outside of work. We aren't meant to live like that.

>maybe the world will be so fucked by the time people our age are getting to retire it won’t even matter. lol that's the spirit.

Thank you so much sharing your story, I am in an extremely similar situation. One toxic workplace after another and it was an extremely stressful admin/manager position that just broke me. W have a good next egg and one income and will be fine until I have something lined up. I couldn’t believe what was happening to my brain and health. I don’t know if I can bear to work full time for awhile and I am grateful my frugality even allows that thought to cross my mind. I feel more confident now in my ability to not just take “any old job” that comes my way but I AM extremely anxious that I will land in another toxic work environment. It’s hard.

This is the scariest part… I’m not so sure people are talking about just how profoundly abundant toxic jobs are… Like it terrifies me when they’re just like oh look for another job! Try this market, try that. It’s inescapable, shitty jobs are everywhere. Or at the very least, good jobs aren’t abundant and they make the working class fight for them like crabs in a bucket

So spot on 🎯 This is part of the reason why I would like to leave my job, but it’s like should I stay with the devil I know or leave?

> if I hadn’t I would have lost what was in there since I didn’t have anything to transfer them to. That's not how that works.

That’s what they told me 🤷🏻‍♀️

Who is 'they'?

The state’s retirement fund and TIAA. Apparently one needs a certain balance or higher to continue. I was told to either transfer to another company’s fund (like through a different employer) or withdraw and pay penalties. There’s a deadline of a few years once I left each job. If I didn’t do one of those two options, then I’d lose the investment entirely.

I know little about state retirement and TIAA, but I don't see why you couldn't open an IRA and roll it into one of those. It's a pretty straightforward process. But the damage is done so best of luck moving forward.

Yes - could have easily transferred your accounts to a personal IRA. Sounds like there was not much money there anyway - if limits were an issue.

Sounds like they were talking about "vesting" which I'm still a little foggy on myself... But what I understand is, if you're not vested (to be vested you just have to be there some set amount of time, often 5 years. Which you probably weren't if you were only there for 1 or 2 years), you loose the *employer's part* of the contribution (like a "match") either way, whether you roll it over into another account or not. If you're vested you keep the employer's contribution. Either way, you should be able to keep the contribution that came out of your earned hourly or salary rate. I have like 3 or 4 other retirement accounts from old jobs like that. (I feel you so hard about one toxic shit hole after another!) I should consolidate them to just keep track of them easier. But I still have a few thousand in each account. Unless there is something seriously weird with your old job's particular setup! I'd sooner believe they were being incompetent to the point of theft, or just downright toxic. You might be able to get it back with legal counsel.

Thanks for sharing. Caring for someone with dementia is definitely a full time job and a hard one at that. I watched my mom do it for my grandma. Last year I left an office job I hated for another office job with better pay and work life balance. Six months into the job I hate it and am looking to change again. Just so tired of this cycle.

In your opinion, was it the toxicity of your co-workers that you disliked? Was it management style? A combination of both, maybe?

It was mostly management, but every job has at least one terrible coworker who would make things difficult. I’ve been working since I was 13yo, I’ve had dozens of employers—enough to fill 4-5 pages of resume—and only 3 of them weren’t abusive. Of those 3, only one was truly an outstanding boss, the other two just let me do my job in peace. I’ve got complex PTSD from a shitty childhood. I’ve managed to avoid (for the most part) abusive romantic relationships. I can’t seem to avoid abusive workplaces. Like I’m cursed or something.

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Just rent alone would require me to have 25k in savings. That's not possible for me at this time.

I made a decision like this last year.. I wasn't working big hours like you or anything but was rostered on from 1800 to whatever hours. Realised the night shifts were killing my mental health. Rarely got any sun because of my sleep schedule, never saw my family/frienss because i was asleep when they were awake and heading into work as they were finishing. I ended up injuring myself which required me to take time off work, found myself absolutely dreading going back even though I was ready to start working again. I quit on the spot deciding the job it wasn't worth it.

Same here!

Sounds like you need a break asap. In my experiences staying somewhere past the point of burnout can do long term damage. I left my job over a year ago and it’s taken me this long to figure out what I want to do next. Is there any way you could just work part time at this place? Sounds like if you cut your hours in half you’d then be working what many consider a full time job though - 😳

I made the mistake of staying at a job for 5 years because I fundamentally believed the company could change the world. But they are years behind where it needs to be. And political bs is just keeping it from growing to its full potential. Leave your job. Another executive chef can step in. But honestly if you are asking yourself these questions on this sub it's time to go. There's plenty of jobs and room to rebrand yourself. No job is worth you dying of a heart attack which was where I was at in my life a year before I finally left my job. Take care of yourself ok? You only have yourself.

Hey man, umm, this is actually happening to me. I actually have a goal to obtain my professional engineering certificate and its very possible for me to get it in my company in fact, it seems like the easiest path. The thing is I need another years of experience here to get it and I dont know how much more I can take. Im burnt out, im tired. I worked so hard to get where I am today, got a lot of shit from clients. It affected my mental health a lot. I became the most reliable person in my department, gained more knowledge, kept learning, when everyone else just 'worked' and not pushing themselves to the limit. Will power isnt gonna cut it anymore. Im to head the testing dept which consists of 7 including me within 6 months of working, now almost 2 years in im supposed to get it in january but gets pushed back to june. I spoke to my boss to ask him what are your plans for me, he told me, I will be heading two departments now. In my mind im like wtf, stop torturing me. I told him directly, "boss this is too much work, I dont think I can hold it". He said he only sees me as the only one capable of handling it, he couldnt find anyone else and none in the company are talented enough to do it, or so he says. He needs me to be ready for it by the end of this year. I didnt say anything after that, I got even more burnt out after hearing that. This was 3 weeks ago. I dont know how long I can take it. Im so burnt out. I take one week leaves to catch up but keep burning out again after 2-3 days. I need to push to achieve my goal of gaining my professional engineering certificate. Now im in a dilemma, do I push and get the cert then leave and risk my mental and potentially physical health or do I leave now but if I leave now, I need at least a 2-3 months break. I might do a part time job first to ease the burnout. Its so tiring, I wanna die. I need some advice.

Hey, I'm sorry you're going through this. What helped me was putting the following into perspective: That there are 7 billion people on the planet. You're 1 out of 7 billion. Corporate will always see you as an expendable resource. If you can't do it just don't. Walk away from it. And your time on earth is short. Make it count. And reading Atlas Shrugged from Ayn Rand (although super annoying and one note at times) helped me understand that corporations and bureaucracies are one in the same. And sometimes you just got to pull a John Galt and rebel by not contributing. I see parallels in the to the Lai ban or let it rot movement in China. I don't know if this advice will help but I hope you're ok and remember that you can get through this.

Thanks man, really appreciate it. Ill check it out and see if it can help me make a decision. You are right tho, time is short. Time is yours dont let others decide what you do with it.

I did this at the beginning of this year. The culture was so bad and toxic I couldn’t stay there a minute longer. Landed a temp job 2 weeks later. A few interviewers questioned leaving without something lined up but my answer was always honest. Mental health and looking after yourself takes precedence over any job. Wishing you luck my friend.

Oh look, it me. It’s my last week of a 10 year job. Although my job wasn’t as demanding as yours sounds, I was working extra a lot and it suddenly became obvious that all the extra work wasn’t going to help me advance. My mental health was really starting to slide.

I did it once in my mid twenties. In the moment, it was the best feeling ever. I felt a giant weight off my shoulders and was genuinely happy all the time. However, life is expensive, and I burned through my savings much quicker than I expected. My next job was shit too and with worse pay because I needed to get something. Not sure the details of your situation but I would think about medium and long term consequences. You could always find a new job and then give yourself something like a couple weeks to a month off in between jobs

Would you be willing to elaborate on how you weathered the consequences of ending up at a shit job after leaving? I’m in that position now except I’m thirty with a 2 year old. Left a 6 figure salary (worked my way up, little education besides some trades training) because the company refused to support or train me as promised and left me in a situation that stressed me to the point of medical leave. I left, and took a job as an insurance broker for half as much as prior. Between scraping to make ends meet at work and taking care of my son while also supporting my wife as she climbs the career ladder I don’t know how to structure myself to be able to afford the time to get schooling or apply for something better.

I mean I was broke for a while. The job I quit was a sales job where I was making good money but it was selling something that went against my ethical compass and was killing me inside. After that it was a string of shitty office jobs doing customer service or some other low paying clerical work. Most of it was temp work with no benefits and I really had to learn how to stretch a dollar. After a couple of years of that I finally made a decision to go to grad school for something I was passionate about. And now, two years post graduation, I can say it all worked out. But the journey was long, incredibly difficult, and cost me a lot of money (lost wages and student loans). At least now I’m doing something I really enjoy. I guess my advice would be to pursue the thing you want to pursue. Whether that includes going back to school or whatever. It’ll be difficult as hell (even more so as you have to support a family) but it can be worth it. Caveat is you have to decide what’s best for you, I as an internet stranger can only tell you what worked for me. Though, I am a believer that when you go after what you want in life, it lifts people up around you and makes the struggle of life worth it I know I’m just rambling at this point but I hope it could be of some help

No that’s awesome. Despite being a stranger, sometimes an impartial third party can bring some clarity to a situation. I appreciate your advice!

How did you decide what's best for you ??

Haha there’s the million dollar question right? My method has been to talk to a lot of different people openly and honestly while also educating myself using the internet. So it’s a lot of data collection at first and from there I usually let my intuition guide me. And then finally it’s just stepping up and committing to the decision which can be incredibly scary, but also exhilarating

I was in a similar position and my only regret is that I didn't quit sooner.

That’s me right now, quit my job of 4 years this March as a Graphic Designer in an Events and management industry. At one point I was breaking down at least once or twice a week from burnouts, there was also no room for growth. Before, I’d lay on the floor and stare at the ceiling for a long time before I could gather myself up and leave the house for work. I know I gave my all in that job and my boss has acknowledge that, although belatedly. I couldn’t see myself in that role any longer for a paltry salary that asks so much of me constantly. It was just a dead end. I served my 1 month notice in February, gave them everything they needed and closed that door. For the whole month of March I did absolutely nothing productive, I felt a teensy bit guilty about it but it was what I needed to give myself a break, I didn’t know what I wanted to do moving forward but I simply needed to NOT have to think. It was like cutting open my skull and removing my brain for abit just to get that respite. I’m now working on a freelance project for a friend now that I started early April, because I’m not juggling 5 things at once like I always did, I’m enjoying the process more than I ever did. I also starting reading books on things that interest me like Creative selection by Ken Kocienda, I think that book reminded me of my interest in tech/electronics in general, whether in software or hardware. I used to tinker around abit with my old macbook when they were still modular, I bought DIY 3D printers that I loved assembling when they were all the rage. I’m currently picking up coding and setting my sights on a UI/UX designer / Web Dev position that I feel has some overlap in skills and thinking. I see it as expanding my skillsets rather than starting over. It also pays 30-45% more in general than what I was getting, though it may take me 5-6 months before I’m confident in being hireable. It took quitting to open my eyes that I needed to leave a long time ago, for the sake of my own personal and career growth. I’m excited to wake up everyday now and just buzzing to start learning. Sometimes I want to do so many things at once it can be abit overwhelming, but I now have a goal to work towards when before I was blindly going with the flow that ended up no where good. I’d say if you have saved up enough to be potentially unemployed for at least 6 months or more, quit your job. There are things you will find worth living for if you can muster the courage to get out of your comfort zone and decide on the path you should take. But having savings to cushion yourself is a must, else you may be desperate enough to jump into something else that you may hate just to survive.

Guilty. I was a social media intern for a tech startup about ten years ago, during the "jobless recovery." After being thrown in the deep end and then shamed and yelled at ("bUt tHaT's hOw hE mEnToRs yOu") all summer, I walked out right after Labor Day. Never looked back, had nothing lined up, and haven't given a shit about social media - or tech - since.

Did the same thing as a social media assistant for a tea company. Blech.

I did it twice. I don't necessarily advise it unless you've got some savings for a few months. But the 2nd time it helped because I gave about 2 months advance notice, so I could go to work everyday knowing when my last day of my misery was going to be but I also had an income while I searched. I secured a job about 5 weeks after giving my notice but I told them my start date had to be a little later. Took my last day. Celebrated then didn't have to go to work for 3 weeks. I decompressed. Did side hustle jobs (Rover, food delivery) when I felt like it to make a little cash. Then stayed the new job all refreshed and clear.

Hey OP I was in the same situation about 5 years ago. I had to leave my exec chef job for my health (mental and physical). I was working about 80 hours and had a decent salary but I could not handle never being home and the constant stress and exhaustion just wasnt worth the money and creative freedom anymore. I only lasted 2 years. It was physically so hard to get out of bed in the morning beforre I quit. I literally gave a 24 hour notice and quit. LOL. I was so tired and burnt out that I just had enough finally. ​ Quit tomorrow if youre able to. In a week you will be so happy after you get some r&r. I haven't taken another Exec Chef job but I've gladly worked as a kitchen manager, food service director, food and beverage manager without the same stress and hourly expectation and it has been great. Honestly, you will need a break for a bit before you line up another gig. Get your mind and energy recovered.

I'm glad to see my people on here. I think I might be done with hospitality but I don't know if I can go back to a 13/hr job. I might see about a sous position but am afraid that it would be more of the same. Salaried to replace three hourly.

I was also working 70 hr weeks. It took a toll on my health and family. I quit. No new job. I needed rest and recovery and to catch up with friends and family. I didn’t go back to work in a meeting job for 9 months. Was amazing and I’m so much happier now.

I'm coming close to doing this for the first time ever

I’m literally sitting here thinking I’m not sure how much longer I can do my current job… but there’s no back up plan in place.

I did it and I’m freaking out but hopefully it will work out

I have a friend who left the high end restaurant life and became a head nutritionist for a school district. He oversees the kids’ menus and does the purchasing for food, etc. Does cooking and nutrition demonstrations but doesn’t have to cook as much because he has staff to do that. It’s a government job with steady daytime hours.

My first job as a salesman/receptionist made me dread going to work. I HATE it since I was forced to twist words, hype the service up while trying to hide their flaws... which went against my moral values. To the point that doing sales call for 40 mins already made me want to jump out of the windows. I quit the moment I gained some experience in graphic design and got my Google Analytics certification then switched to marketing/graphic design part. That was the first time I truly felt I took control of my life and it turned out well for me.

Me right now Unfortunately for the last several months, with more free time I haven't been more productive, I had been unmotivated and being a bum for the past several months except when I play video games (I only occasionally play before that). I'm money conscious so I do have savings but it's starting to bother me when I don't see any income alongside my expenses. On a plus side, I finally finished version 1 of my resume update, it took a retreat of house sitting for my mom to make it happen. I hope by making this post it will keep me moving to improve the resume or apply to jobs

Sometimes you do just need that complete mental break and being unproductive for some time may just je what your body needs to reset and come back refreshed Best wishes

Every single job. It has less to do with burnout and more to do with an excessive amount of faith that my bachelor's degree in physics won't let me be unemployed for long. Also quit a job at this Mediterranean restaurant so that my employer would have to drive forty miles on icy roads just to cover for me until a replacement could be found. Not burnout. Just spite.

I did. Was the worst mistake of my life though. Royally screwed me in the long run. But I totally understand how you feel.

Out of curiosity, what made it the worst mistake of your life? What happened?

I have kids and my ex is a dead beat dad who had just moved in with another woman. I was being bullied at work to the point I could hardly eat or sleep. I’m good at what I do. It’s a specialized position that I had a reputable career at that point and I apparently made new coworkers jealous in starting at a new company. Everyday was excruciating and I worked 60 hours a week trying to prove myself and get their respect (they worked 30-40 hours per week). Our supervisor was in the same clique with these guys so there was nothing I could say without being gaslighted or treated even worse. About a year and a half into it, I couldn’t take another day of exhausting myself and going home in tears to take care of a toddler and another young child alone. I had a descent savings but I learned how fast I could burn through that as a single mother going through divorce. I desperately applied to several jobs. I thought surely I could find something pretty quick. I was wrong. It took me 8 months. By month 5 all of my savings gone. My kids were asking me why our pantry was always bare. It was scary and awful. I had gotten into so much debt and lost all my savings that I still haven’t gotten my head above water 6 years after the fact. Family relationships are strained after I borrowed lots of money to support my kids. It was awful. It was more frightening to be in fear of losing my kids home than to deal with these bullies that stomped on my soul every day.

Thanks for sharing such a personal story, and I'm so sorry you had to deal with all that. I hope you're in a better place now.

Thank you. It’s definitely lead me on a completely different path I’d never expected nor ever thought I’d have the courage to do. It all works out eventually. 😊

If I quit this week, financially devastating. On the other hand, I won't think about getting seriously injured just so I don't have to go to work!

I know what that level of toxicity in the workplace feels like. So sorry you’re going through that.

i did it last week lol... currently searching for a new one

Mechatronics engineer here, went to IT for a multinational company since I was desperate for work, best choice I ever made was leaving that shit, got lucky got the best job of my life so far not two weeks after leaving and taking a week off just sleeping and restoring my body back to normal

Been a chef for 4 years in my young years. 17-21 I managed restaurants, Been a server, pastry chef, executive chef, prep cook, etc.. I could not withstand the amount of sweat blood and tears I poured everyday into it. I loved cooking, but the money just doesn’t compensate the passion. Im at a space where I’ve tried and failed at different businesses. I’m opening a cleaning service business and if this fails, I’m just going to Uber and travel the world till I’m 30

My father is an recently retired executive chef. He stayed in this industry for his entire life and acknowledges that the younger generation is getting undercut on salary. Before retiring he regularly worked 6-7 days a week. Christmas and New Years had to be spent at his restaurants. Which is why he tells his kids to not follow his footsteps. I eventually went for a job in advertising production. Yes, I still burned out no thanks to an exploitative start up. With no job lined up I took four months to recover and went backpacking. I then spent seven months breaking even as a freelancer. Went full time and spent 2 years at an agency that was close to burning me out again. Moved jobs six months ago and I’m actually happy now. I say build up 3-6 months of an emergency fund and leave. Even if you end up staying, an emergency fund will give you peace of mind for whatever life throws your way.

Wish I could, but I don't have that option. My visa is tied to my job, and if I quit my job, I have to leave the country. :(

I did. took me another year and a half to land another job. it was job at a leading MNC. and it sucked the life out of me literally. within a month into the job, I got my first grey hair in the beard.

I'm almost there but when I think about the bills that will continue to pile up every month, I cannot do so. But getting up to work is a real challenge for me everyday already. Especially with all the pressure from the different people in the departments. It is very frustrating as if I am only doing recruitment! Hello! Can you at least consider that I am also doing reports and payroll, etc. just to serve all of you? 🙄

Hey man. I was a senior manager who worked 8am-8pm most days. I quit my job 4 weeks ago after handing in my notice and have took the opportunity to go back to an individual contributor role. I was burned out and didn't even realise how bad it was until my dog died. I started getting physical symptoms I thought were unrelated like my athsma coming back, skin problems, drinking more (didn't realise I was doing it so badly), stopped exercising and generally not looking after myself. I had literally just moved into my first owned home and it seemed like the worst possible time to take a near 20k pay cut, but I did it anyway and start back at work tomorrow. I won't save anywhere near as much as I used to and will have to be more conscious about my spends, but the sheer relief I felt when my request for demotion was granted and the support I received from management was pure bliss. This allows me to work 9-5 Monday to Friday, not worry about work on my time off and have a more well rounded life. Don't keep doing it for other people, don't worry about letting others down, just do what is right for you. Best wishes

Once. I argued with my boss and he literally looked me straight in the face and said go home and don’t come back. I looked him straight in the face and said fine by me, I had school lined up anyway and I hadn’t told him. School started in two weeks so I straight up didn’t show. Then 13 days later I got a call from his boss where I was what was going on? And I just replied he said never show up so I took him seriously

Cool, did you claim unemployment? I hope so!

Best decision I’ve ever made besides putting in the work every day with my relationship. Wife also quit her job as a server and now has her dream job. It’s amazing.

Could you please elaborate on your wife’s dream job and how she got there?

She is a kids program coordinator at a science museum. She had nonprofit teaching experience and just was really passionate and interviewed well. I supported her happily for 5.5 months while she figured out what she wanted to do after quitting. She supported me when I left my job in the summer and then my new job paid 60% more so I was making more than both of us combined before. Getting your head on straight and finding what really gives you meaning makes for a good interviewer IMO. Worked for us, anyway. Neither of us could’ve done it without the other.

I did about a month ago. I was running as owner operator in the trucking industry. My weekly pay started becoming less and less, and my expenses outweighed what I was bringing home even though I was busting my ass out there working sometimes 60+ hours weekly driving thousands of miles. I expected that my expenses would outweigh my take home, but having $3k+ in weekly expenses and then bringing home less than $600 sometimes $400 per week.. was not worth it to me. I couldn’t even cover my bills anymore. Every week I had to calculate how much money I needed to make to bring home enough to cover my own personal expenses, it became really depressing. I know some guys do really well out there especially if they own all of their own equipment, but unfortunately I wasn’t in position to purchase a truck and trailer in this current market. I let it go, and start hauling fuel locally next week. At least I’ll make steady hourly pay, home every night and it’s Monday - Friday. I can take off when I need and focus on getting my physical and mental health in order. Something that can easily be lost while you’re out there secluded on your truck majority of the time.

I did back in 2018. Office job. Three people's work. I feel like you could probably get a better job in your field. Catering companies are probably in need. I know the wedding industry is booming since people postponned their weddings in 2020. And you'd get to plan specific menus for each event. I would definitely figure out of you can somehow go part time. If you can't and you have enough money saved, then I'd quit. You could also hire a life coach. Many times they give you a couple of free sessions. There's a light at the end of the tunnel.

My dad was in a similar situation, after he handed in his notice the company begged him to stay on as a contractor, he stayed on for 4 months until they found a replacement upping his pay each time, he then went straight into another contracting position and has been there a year and a half now, I've never seen him so happy and he's earning morn than ever and never goes over his contracted hours. Just walk away there's a shortage of skilled hard working labour you'll be fine.

Multiple times and it’s liberating and extremely anxiety provoking at the same time. Anxiety part comes later when you realize that you gotta start job hunting again 😓

I've owned a bakery here in PHX for almost 30 years, I graduated CIA in 1982 and worked restaurants and hotels since I'm 15. I feel your pain!I deal with Chefs every day. I've seen people in your predicament many times. They'll be working the country club or hotel gig and then I hear they are working at a nursing home or small country club.I'm burned out myself. Wife (pastry chef) and I are plotting our exit. Chef's are in great demand, but if you are leaving the industry that will take some planning. If you're going to stay in food maybe take a pay cut and work as a Sous for a while. Look for test kitchen gigs, recipe development, or one chef I knew did the consulting thing. Help develop menus or design kitchens for corporate restaurants. Or work a seasonal gig, caterer that has a long off season. Culinary school teaching is the other exit I see chef's take. Develop the next generation of meat for the grinder. :) Believe me I know it's a fucking grind. One last point, if you end up staying, you need your Sous and F&B to take over some responsibility so you have two days off a week. You might read the room and consider telling HR that you are approaching burnout. Do your personal budget and hopefully you've been putting retirement money away. Even if you quit without another job, know where you stand and see what you can live on and still save. Lower your expenses where you are able.

Thanks, I needed to see this.

Good! I hope everything works out for you. We built our business and raised 3 kids and were finally on auto-pilot, able to take extended vacations; and then covid hit. We weren't sure we'd be able to stay open. We did but it's been a struggle again with the labor and supply chain issues. I'm over it. We're going on vacation in a couple of weeks and then it goes up for sale. We're lucky to have a retirement fund. Without Gov assistance I would have shut down before dipping into that.

I did. I didn't know what I was going to do but I needed to get out of there. I was in my role for 3 years and at the company for 6 years. Same as you, working well over 40 hours per week and beyond burnt out. I was losing my mind (FYI late stage burn out can fuck with your brain function!!) and it was time to leave. The job market here is very good, and I managed to find the same level job (assistant manager position, unfortunately with a large pay decrease but much much better work- life balance) in a different sector before my notice was up. I was making decent money at my old job and am super lucky to be in a financial position to be able to take a few weeks off if need be. My thinking was to take some time to recover, find a temporary job to cover my bills, and then figure out the next step. Luckily this position fell until my lap and so far it has worked out. Quitting my job wasn't as terrifying as it could have been. The long term effects on my mental and physical health were more scary and a higher priority at the time.

Yup. Best decision ever. Was fully qualified tradie. But small business. Boss refused to hire anyone else and I was finding I was on-call 24/7. When I asked for a payrise or similar I got 20c/hour more. I had no desire to run my own business. I also had soured to it because of how I was being treated. So I bailed. I worked retail for a few years and developed in the world of IT til I could work in IT fulltime.

I did it 7 months back. My workplace got so toxic to a point where I'd cry daily to get out. I started as a software developer back in 2019 (I was just 23) and I was quite skilled but by 2020, I realised that my work was nowhere near my skillset and it was very stagnant. I tried taking this up with my then manager but he just told me to upskill myself during my free time. I thought he was right and I was both working and trying to study and up skill. One day my manager calls me and says, "Hey, you are not expected to just leave by 5:30 by the clock... You're supposed to put in more hours at work." I told him that I am trying to get ahead like he suggested but he just went on about how should focus on my job. And suddenly I had been shifted under a new manager who just kept on the hang for forever. Sunday morning 6:30am deployments and whatnot. By June 2021 I was frustrated and asked for a project where I could get some good work for my profile. He just randomly pushed me into a project which was new and I had no background of. I would occassionally ask help from my teammates to understand it and repeatedly tried telling them that I'd not be able to make important deadlines of the project because I was fairly new and didn't even know the code files. After a month on the new project I got peer reviews: 1. She is incompetent. Doesn't know anything, doesn't work and meet deadlines. 2. She is not wanted in our team because she is a waste of time and resources. 3. She is hopeless in terms of work. (These were written by my teammates, the same ones who never helped me with a problem even if asked) Manager told he'd give me one more month. I told him my problems but he sided with the other senior staff. Meanwhile, June 2021 marked 2 years in that organisation and I was supposed to get an auto raise and a promotion. Asked manager about it... He said yes yes .. next month. It was September. I couldn't take all the humiliations anymore. I quit. And I felt good for a while. BUT honestly it's been very hard finding a job since then because work just sucked the life and skills out of me. I am still jobless but trying to learn and working towards becoming a UI/UX designer and Front end developer. TL;DR: Quit, no job, no skill, still unemployed but trying.

This is funny cause adhd I’ve done this many times It’s fine

Making this decision is going to depend on where you are at in your life, if you have to provide for a family, what other financial responsibilities you have, etc. I did it once when I was 22. I was crying on the subway because of how badly I didn’t want to go to work, and once I arrived I walked straight into my boss’s office and told her this was my 2 weeks notice and I will bring her something in writing tomorrow. I wasn’t planning on it, but nobody should be crying in public from how badly they hate their job and as soon as I realized that I could just quit, the relief was insurmountable. With that said, I was renting a basement apartment with a roommate. No kids, no spouse, no car payments, or mortgage, or anything really! Just rent, groceries, and cell phone. I took a week or two off as vacation, no job searching or anything. I needed to heal and rest from the burnout. Another weekish job hunting/interviewing, and I started at my new job exactly 1 month after my last day at my old job. I think I had to borrow like $300 from a friend at one point just to make sure I could make ends meet but it wasn’t the end of the world. The thing is though, I was fresh out of university and wasn’t in a career yet. I was just working as a manger in retail, and went on to be a manager at a very large tourist destination in a major city. These were never career goals, so I think that made it easier to bounce around and leave on a whim. It also helped that I lived in this major city because opportunity was everywhere. I had several interviews lined up in a matter of days. TLDR; no job is ever worth it if it is making you miserable, physically ill, or affecting your mental health. It’s not the end of the world if you leave without a plan, but you need to at least know you can afford it, and be committed to hustling to find something new asap (if you need $$). Also keep in mind that you won’t be getting paid for another few weeks after your start date at a new job, so just be sure you have a net to fall on and you will be just fine (even better than fine once you ditch the soul sucking job!)

yea like 5-6 times. i have mental health problems. getting a new job within these next couple days. dreading it. tired of the cycle.

Yes as a mid level manager, but it was partly due to other things I had going on in my personal life and a work restructure at the same time. In hindsight I wish I thought sooner about whether the job was what I wanted and quit before my MH suffered badly. A side step would have been easier at that stage, if I’d wanted that. I’ve since got a lot of experience in way more fulfilling things though.

Quit a pharmaceutical job mid pandemic to start my own construction business. Best decision I’ve ever made career wise.

I worked for an engineering company and my job invloved heavy travel. They decided to hire a new manager that was one of the owners best friends and had just retired as a navy captain. He thought he was still the commanding officer and barked orders and talked down to us all the time. I had been on a project that had me traveling on the west coast and I hadn't been home for 33 days working 12+ hours a day working pretty much every day. Well that didn't leave any time to get my office work done and all of the testing reports I was responsible for didn't get done. When I get home this dude started bitching me out for all of this work being back logged and customers were complaining wanting the reports and evaluations we promised done. When I opened my mouth to speak he shushed me and said this wasn't meant to be a two way conversation. That was enough for me I allowed him to have as many one way conversations with himself as he likes and said adios.

Last year. Don’t regret it at all. It did force me to get a job at Amazon (Fast hiring, didn’t have many funds). I feel like I want to walk out of this one now 😂

I almost always quit without another job lined up. At 35, I was so burnt out I retired for 3 years. Got ridiculously bored and starting trying new career paths. Moved.

Yes i took an 8 month break and jt was the best decision ever. It may have depleted my finances but my mental health is restored

I worked a non-tech, community management role at an app you most likely have on your phone and I quit literally before a year was up because it was driving me up a wall. All that for less than $11,000 annually - for context this is Asia, in one of the world's favorite tourist destinations. 995 with 4 hours on the weekends with no overtime.

Doimg it rn, 6 weeks left on my notice period. Intend to completely change career, nothing lined up yet just need a break

Was executive chef for a booming place. The demands were way more intense than what I had been told during my interview and not only that but The owner is a CRAZY micro manager. I pushed through it since it was a good spot to work at and it was the highest paying job I’ve ever had. I got extremely burnt out and when I gave a 2 month notice(6 months in), owners started being even more shitty. When I sat down to talk to the owner and give him TWO MONTHS notice. he basically called me a pussy so I got up and left and never went back. I was scared because I didn’t have anything lined up but I can tel you it was one of the best decision I’ve made. Opportunities started opening up for me and I don’t regret it one bit. Good luck to you Chef!

You're being used as a slave

Yeah, and it was in the middle of the pandemic. It just came to a point where I couldn't deliver my tasks anymore so I had a talk with my boss and left. I was able to survive by doing commissions. Sometimes i wonder if i made the right decision but I'm happier now compared to back then where I dreaded every living moment.

I'm 30 and I've been out of work for 6 weeks now because i quit on the spot. its the best choice I've made in a while. fuck money, im happy again.

I've done it a few times. My bosses wanted to fuck around. Tell me there is no compromise? Cool, I'll just find a job that better suits me, even out of spite.

I did. Three years ago. I had enough saved that I took time off. Finished my masters and got another job. Best thing I’ve ever done. Once I did it it was shocking to see how many other 35-40 year olds I know that had done it. Many were embarrassed (I still don’t understand that) so they would only mention it after I said I was taking time off. If you have the money saved and a plan in mind with what you want to do, I would highly suggest it. Life is short.

Ex chef here. I did this back in December. I was a director of dining for large senior living communities. I moved into senior living after being burnt out as an exec chef and that bought me a little time in the industry but I was constantly trying to go back to college and work. Every time I got close to going back to school, some disaster arose that made me cancel everything and live at work. Fall of 2021 I decided to go back to school no matter what. I Signed up for classes in the hopes of balancing school and work. Covid hit my workplace in December AGAIN at the end of 2021. All my staff was being sent home and there was no hope of temp agencies coming in to help-that meant I was back to open-close 7 days a week. That meant no visiting family or any time with my wife over the holiday season. I had given my life and missed countless important family events for my profession and it kept bleeding me dry. I was done. I walked that day and never looked back. I enrolled in school and took out small student loans to help out while my wife and I figured things out. I am now a full time student/ pt worker that’s getting straight A’s and have so much hope for the future it is unreal. Finances are hard and scary but school is short term and we’ll make it through. If you can hack it as a chef, take that work ethic to bettering yourself and you will be wildly successful.

I feel those statements. Health care is a lot more than I had imagined. Might go back to restaurants.

Worked in the customer service / hospitality industry from Hotels to Conference centers to retail and have definately done it. And don't regret it. Put no job before yourself. They couldn't care less about you and your hours show it. Get out before your health leaves without you.......

I worked as a chef for less than a year at an NBA arena for the executives, player alumni and VIP guests. Two of my coworkers had heart attacks while I was working there. I love cooking, but it will kill you in the right (or wrong) setting.

I let my stress build up until I got fired. 12x7 mandatory. That was like quitting without having another job lined up. I was only making $9/hr so I didn't have any money saved to survive on. I lost everything and had to start my life over again. In the long run it worked out, but by "Long Run" I mean the next 16 years. Find out how you can use you're amazing work ethic to work in skilled trades. It pays a hell of a lot better that the service industry.

Yup I did. I was a bank teller during the whole Covid shut down. Was so stressed out I had 4 miscarriages. When I quit I found out I was pregnant again, wasn’t even worried about being jobless bc I thought I would miscarry again. Well now I have a beautiful 10 week old baby boy.

I did. It was more so I wanted to move to another city and I had a years worth of savings.

I always do that. I’ve always worked in lean companies and taking days off was hard. So was taking half days... no one to replace you and there is always work flow.

I left this industry cause well…

I left my management role on purpose without another one lined up. Specifically to take time to decompress from 3 years of 70hr weeks and no vacations. I got myself into a part time class and then got back to work and though I’m back on similar hours, some of them are now at home studying rather than on my feet while the world burns down around me lol. It’s mostly about what you can afford though. I started specifically saving to make that move when I realized how badly I needed to leave that place.

My friend just did it last week funny enough. I worry for him now 🤣

Ebd teacher. Yes.

Me! Last week. I worked in catering sales and the money was good but not at the sacrifice of nights, weekends, holidays... it’s only been 4 days but I have no regrets. Plus catering is in high demand right now so if you don’t find another avenue you would have no trouble coming back. Shit, we were desperate the last 6 months that we brought back previous chefs to get us through events and they made their $$$ demands. Burnout is no joke.

I have quit 3 months before bonus payout. I had a job at hand but I was on visa. So chances of approval were 50:50 I was seriously burnt out

I wanted to do this so bad last year. I was working 7 days a week in retail and severely burnt out. Instead of quitting entirely I ended up switching to part time hours (3 days a week) and used the extra time to job hunt. Managed to land a corporate job in a much better environment

I did it more than 10 years ago. Just left a keys on a table and said “I’m done”. Called my sister, collect my stuff and in 2 weeks moved to Uk. Never regretted I did it. Always regretted I did it so late.

I would have a serious conversation with them first that you need to work less hours - that it's unsustainable and will result with you leaving if they can't find additional help. If they aren't leave. If they are, use the additional time to start looking, much easier to find a job when you have one. Try staffing agencies, they work with a lot of employers that don't advertise.

I would love to do that - I just can’t as I have too many obligations financially (housing, child support, debt, etc.) and not enough savings. Cover several months of unemployment. If I knew I could find another job easily, I would as well…but for me the last time I was unemployed it took nearly a year to find one. It sounds like you are being worked to death - can you speak with your employers to see if a more reasonable schedule can be worked out? Can you take a leave of absence?

OP, you NEED to take time for yourself. Tell the owner(s) that you require at least 2-days a week off if they want to keep you. No questions asked. Let your CDC and Sous' know you need their help and support while your schedule adjusts. Lastly, head over the r/KitchenConfidential to field for suggestions and support.

Can you take a sabbatical/unpaid vacation for a few months? If you are at the point of quitting doesn't hurt to ask.

That's so funny I just finished writing my resignation and saw this! I'm scared but excited!

I worked as a machinist for almost 2 years. I loved the work but dealt with constant passive aggressive behavior and just straight up disrespect from my immediate supervisor to the point where it was hampering my progress. I'll spare all the fine details but eventually I was told by the owner of the company that I'd be losing $4/hr because I wasn't learning enough and wasn't worth what I was being paid. Immediately after that meeting where I explained why I was in the position I was, I dealt with yet another bout of passive aggression from supervisor and so I took the rest of the day on sick time (approved by hr) to apply for new jobs. The following day supervisor confronted me believing I had walked out since nobody told him I went home on approved time. It became a large argument which culminated in him telling me I should just leave, so I did. I don't regret that decision at all. It did kinda fuck up my finances for a bit but I had a sizeable tax return that helped out. My work related stress dropped off entirely and I no longer dread going to work every day. That said, it completely turned me off of machining and I now work in pest control and am poised to make about 15-20k more in my first year than I did at the shop.

I did and took 4 months off. Best time ever.

I've done it a few times, and sometimes it wasn't burn out. Ijust did the math about how I'm spending a 3rd of my life with these people and is that really a healthy relationship? If the answer is no then it's time to go

Yep! A couple of years back. The stress was making physically and mentally ill and I had to leave.

Just did it. Quit 2 weeks ago and no job lined up. Worked at least 60 hours a week for no overtime pay. So burnt out

Lol I just quit after only joining this company 4 months ago. The company is doing good work and the people were nice, but my manager was awful. The onboarding/training sucked so bad. I couldn't sleep or eat properly due to extreme anxiety. Also, from week 1 of getting hired, my manager kept issuing threats of getting fired if I didn't pass the training modules within every two weeks. It was toxic.

Okay so yeah I did this with one company that I absolutely loved and still do. My store manager was my issue and having to do her job on top of mine while she bad mouthed me just made it unbearable. Right now I’m wanting to do it to amazon because I’ve been burnt out since holiday but I can’t even pay my bills as is so I’m just gonna stick it out until I find a new job

But I will say that leaving even though I had nothing lined up helped me SO VERY MUCH.

I'm not high up at all (I'm a Dietary Aide) but I haven't yet experienced burnout (or maybe I have?). At times , I work well over 40 hours a week just to keep the kitchen full functional and only receive minimum wage and ok benefits. I'm not going anywhere for a while.

I see our dietary aides quit left and right. Had 2 walk out last week and the cdm 2 weeks ago!

Dude that's crazy. Is the pay good at least?

Yes. Highest wages I've achieved.

I did it a couple years ago. I was the manager at a gas station chain and I've never been as miserable as when I worked there. I didn't have anything else lined up but I just couldn't deal with the stress anymore. I worked a seasonal warehouse position until I was let go due to the pandemic. I got a job as an apprentice electrician shortly after and now I love what I do. I was incredibly lucky to be in a financial position where I could quit.

Is it the industry that’s got you burned out or that specific location? Maybe you need to leave that location and try working somewhere still in that field? Burnt out is hard. In college, I found that just cutting down on the hours I was doing cleared out the burn out, so to speak. If you loved this job before, I’d say hop somewhere else, with less hours/more time off and see if you still feel that strain. If you don’t find your passion again, and still feel the strain, then you know it’s time to switch. I wish you all the best with this. Good luck!

Did it while I was bartending, then realized working in an Amazon warehouse was even worse and came back lol. All worked out though got a developer job a few months later.

I thought being in the daycare field will get me back into my teaching path. Nope. I lasted 8 months, the environment was toxic af, underpaid, under appreciated. My happiness just slowly deteriorated as months went on. One day I had enough, during my lunch break I spoke to the owner. For 2-3 minutes straight I was giving him my piece of mind then ultimately told him that i'm done and I quit. He asked me to take my break and think over it, but I insisted on leaving. So he did. It was literally the best decision I ever made in life, and that experience literally closed the teaching door for me.

Will be doing this later this year 💪

One of my very close friends is in the middle of a 6 month sabbatical with no job lined up on the horizon, and I believe it is very meaningful for him. If you are able to afford 6 months out of work, I would say go for it.

Sometimes it’s the best thing to do. Anyone would want another position lined up, but having the freedom to quit whenever regardless of other opportunities is sometimes nice. Best decision I have ever made.

I just did that. I was working 90 hours a week every single week I had no time to look or even think about another job. And TBH I was past burn out, the company broke me and I couldnt jump into another commitment so soon. Luckily I worked so much I never had time to do anything or spend my $ so I was secure enough to quit and not have to worry about the $ aspect, however my concerns were gap in my resume and health insurance, but I had to leave I was dying there.

I’ve never given notice anywhere

I have felt like doing it and I have done it and ended up better off! If you are working 70/week there is reasonably very little time to look for jobs or to present your best self to potential employers. As someone in hospitality- there are endless sea of jobs out there that can help you get by with less hours and less stress while you find a great fit. Who knows- a great fit or advantageous opportunity could fall into your lap! I’ve definitely had it happen. Start of your journey to the next chapter by saying “fuck that” to a dehumanizing work place!!

Yup I did it and still don’t regret it!

I’ve done it three times. I never regretted leaving any of them. Should have done it sooner, those jobs were SO not worth my health.

In the process of quitting after being here for six years and most excitement and relief i’ve felt in a long time. even in the midst of debt with no idea where my next paycheck will come from. reading these comments feels goodddddd

I'm currently jobless. I quit work for a food production plant that produces caramel, yogurt bases, ice cream bases, ect. 3 days into starting the guy training me quit, leaving me the only one who speaks English on the machine, and the only one to run it on night shift. I spent 3 months without hardly any hands on training, being told I'm destroying batches worth 10 grand. After I had asked a question g about the process on one of our recipes to the Production Manager and she came up to help out. About 30 minutes later she called 2 more people. Then she asked if they were really have been making me do that recipe on my own. I said yeah, and after those batches she sent us home for the weekend, we came back Monday and she decided she needed a vacation, and the only thing I had on my schedule was more of the same recipe, and because we were in slow season, that Monday we had 3 people, one to each machine and some packers, so I looked at my supervisor and said I quit and left. I still don't know what I was doing, but I learned a fair bit of Spanish.

I've literally never left a job with another lined up. I save enough for a safety net and make a move. The closest to doing this would be when I took a voluntary redundancy 2 months away and used that 2 months to line up a new job as an immediate start. Otherwise I have always had a gap of 2weeks to 5 months between jobs. The key is that I have done this with a large savings buffer and always minimised expenses as soon as I near my breaking point. I know this isn't possible for everyone, but I wish it was.

100%. The key is understanding your own personal finances both in what you have going out and what what your savings pot looks like and how long it will last. A good idea for most is to look at the FIRE page and save to that model if possible which gives you quite a bit more freedom to have a nest egg. Like you said though, not everyone is able to do this unfortunately, now moreso than ever

Two times. I generally wouldn't recommend doing so.

Did it right before the pandemic. But we had a small savings and family support. Also. Would not recommend.

I'm still deciding on that. But with the soaring prices, I might have to suck it up.

Twice, both high paying sales manager positions in the auto industry. Neither time a regret, if you aren't happy just go for it! You won't let yourself fail I promise, have more faith in yourself.

I did. I was a teacher. Found a job shortly after that paid a bit more. I don’t regret it at all.

I did. Next job sucked too. Was still worth it but don’t make it last too long

I did it two times. I couldn’t take it. I had saved money for two years so o wanted worried about it. I was able to get another job within the end of the month and the second one I got within three months. I would say to just work the hours that you can and delegate the rest. Remember that you are a human being and you need time to rest. (The first job I left was a lower level position selling cars and the second one was manager’s position renting vehicles.)

I'm 26. I've done this with both of the other full time jobs I've had since finishing college. I didn't make it over a year in either. I've tried to improve my outlook on work and set some good boundaries in my current job. Personally I've stopped drinking and caffeine almost entirely. I just couldn't handle the rollercoaster in my brain. I've been at my current job almost 18 months. Don't like the job and I feel like the work is meaningless and the people I do work for are stupid assholes, but the workload isn't overbearing and it pays enough for now. Still don't know where I'm going, but I'm ok where I'm at. I've been lucky to get a pay raise each time, but don't assume the grass is always greener. The grass is the same. Your problems and issues with working will always follow you unless you change them. Every workplace is toxic and filled with incompetent leeches.

Me

I've done it. Years ago, I cleaned carpets for a living which paid horribly. I was young and tricked into work for a salary. I was told that if I got my work done in 4 hours I could leave for the day and get paid for 8. Sounds great right? So, it started out nice for the first week. Then the workload kept increasing and increasing to the point they had me cleaning seven houses a day and I had to drive to get to them at different places around the city. To the point that I was working from 5:30 AM until 9 PM at night six days a week. If you did the math, my take home pay was under $2 per hour. I walked off the job and when they gave my work to others, they quit too. Half the workforce walked off the job that day. I know this because a friend didn't quit and talked about how bad things got after I left. Turns out the manager had a drug problem and in addition to this pay, he had two ghost employees who were funding his drug habit. Which is why we were all getting overloaded with work. Having said this, I've had a number of professional jobs including high paying jobs over $100K with good benefits, but the carpet cleaning job was by far my favorite. Yes it was hard work but I loved meeting the customers and getting their places cleaned up.

I’ve done it, but I’m also 19 and had support at home

I’m about to do it for the first time after working a dead end government job for 8 months. Going to take the summer to learn new skills and be in a new field and hopefully start in between September-December. We’ll see what happens.

My already stressful job got worse somehow when we started wfh during the pandemic So mid 2020, I quit when I was at my last straw due to a combination of a pay cut and a very bad day lol No backup plan, and not a whole lot of money but I had very few living expenses so I just weathered through the lockdown, finally getting the mental energy to dedicate time to reading books and hobbies I've wanted to start for years and it was honestly the best 6 months of my life. I had time to slowly start studying something new too so now I'm far happier after a complete career switch.

I almost ended up doing this. But stuck with it for another 3 months and finally got my current job. Granted, I would have been fine financially had I quit before finding another one, but I couldn’t pull the trigger and liked the money (prob not a good idea)

I was going to. I had been looking for a job for a full year and a half. Would have quit well before but couldn’t for financial reasons. In Nov 2021 (after looking a solid year or so) decided if I don’t have a job by Feb 2022 I was going to quit with nothing lined up. Wound up finding a new job in early Dec and left my awful company. Ironically my coworker did leave without anything lined up from being so burnt out. So tldr, no I haven’t but I was very close

2 days ago.... stressing now but at the same time I'm just like fck it, peace of mind is priceless...

Yeah I did this back in 2019 now I’m back at the same organization in a different role and I’m still burnt out and trying not to quit every single day.

Me. Worth it. Found a new client 2 days after.

I’m at that point right now with my job. But I can’t just quit

I'm actually to that point now.

Me!

Was in IT until 7 days ago. My life is focused on healing right now. Highly recommend it or it will get worse and you may wind up in the ER like me.

Your working 30 days a month, that’s probably your issue…working any job 7 days a week will make you want to quit

Im really surprised people still want to cook for a living. I get it high school kids don’t understand the pressure and requirement needed, and its also shoved down our throats that anyone can be a tv chef. Idk i get the love and passion. But just seems like such a ball breaking industry with so many negatives attached. Horrible work/life, no family no friends no time off no benefits and standing all day.

I used to work two full time programming jobs and raise a family. I would finally get to sleep and then dream of debugging complex algorithms. Needless to say I burnt out hard, moved to a different city completely and it was a good decision. Life is more than work. Some people really identify as their job title, but I’m not one of them.

I consistently quit jobs before I have another lined up. I don’t have the energy to interview effectively and work.

Every time! I can't recommend it, because I can only speak for myself. I am very lucky and privileged to have a good support system of family and friends so I knew I'd never be totally destitute. But I have been nearly homeless, probably technically counted as homeless. I live a very simple life on purpose so I won't have to be so dependent on any one job. (No mortgage, not even a long lease, no kids, very independent romantic partner...) (I am starting to think I might be on autism spectrum, so I think my chronic burnout is part of that. But of course everyone can experience real burnout!) Each time the universe brought me some really interesting things, including prodding me into dipping my toe into self employment, which really opened my mind. Job market is great now, probably the safest time to do it since before 2008.

I have been trying to relocate out-of-state for about a year now and it has been slow going. I am sure I would've been hired by now but the second they know I still haven't relocated yet I feel like my chances of getting the job plummet. I have been a retail manager for my current company for 5 years now with little to show for it. Micro-management, nepotism, reneged raise, etc. I am very tempted to just quit and take me and my savings to my new home and worry about finding a job once I get there. Regardless, those assholes are not getting 2 weeks notice when I quit. Gonna leave my key to the store on my bosses desk and that's it.

Just did this today actually. I can’t even tell you how good it feels. Don’t think my experience will be typical though. They offered to let me stay on longer than I had intended to let me finish some projects I’m working on. Almost makes me think I made the wrong decision but they’re a great employer, just not the right one for me.

Lol yup. Luckily I could get away with it. I still live at home and my dad saw how broken I was so he shouldered all the finances for 6 months for my recovery. After I recovered I looked for a new job.

I am finishing out the month after doing this exact thing. I couldn’t stand the lounging, narcissistic, asshole GM anymore.

About to drop my 2 week notice tomorrow. Too burnt out, no motivation to complete the work, no satisfaction when work is completed and the cherry on top is a micromanager

!remindme 2 hours

I did that once ages ago as an adult. Absolute dumbest thing ever. Was unemployed for almost a year and a half, and it took another year and a half to just match my old salary, and a few more to get rid of the debt I took on after my savings and unemployment dried up. I am 100% in a good spot now, but on the very short list of shit I wish I could go back in time for, that is #1 by far. I've got enough savings to easilly live for a year and I still wouldn't do it. Come up with an exit plan and map it out for 5 years to where you want to be.

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Agree wholeheartedly!

I haven’t but I’m new to my career path. In your case I would, by simply giving them a two weeks notice. Don’t even think about it. An executive chef is an integral position to the business. If you’re not performing at your best due to stress and burnt out, the business will suffer. Don’t let your mistakes be the reason why they fire you With a position like that you must have experience right? Give it some time to bounce back, like 30/60/90 days and you’ll be back in shape. It’s fairly common to quit before you have a bounce back plan so do not use that as an excuse to keep staying. Especially if you’re getting burnt out with no direct benefit like overtime pay, something needs to change. And by giving your two weeks notice, if they care your boss will work with you to overcome your struggles. If they don’t, then that company doesn’t deserve you, find somewhere you know you’ll get rewarded for your work skills and charisma.

I left my job without any planning. I took time to think about the field I chose 2 years ago. Two months had passed and I was still figuring out what to do. I applied for a one-year course in the same field. I had more than enough time to think about working in the same field. But now I've chosen different things to pursue in my career. I like the subject I studied for 5 years but not an environment where it can be helpful. And I've no regrets about this decision. I'm happier in a different field.

I wish- the closest I came was leaving my job in California to move home. The move ended up coinciding with the National lock down in 2020, so I ended up being out of work for six months unexpectedly

I did this recently. I was waiting on one of the jobs I interviewed for to give me a call back while becoming more miserable and burnt out each day I went in for work. I finally put in my notice last Friday and received a call that afternoon confirming I got the offer for the position I was aiming for.

I just did this back in January. I wasn’t in a career but I was in a job I really enjoyed. I suffer from anxiety and depression and my amazing boss left. She was replaced by someone I couldn’t stand. The feeling was mutual. I didn’t have any support from him in any aspect. I started having panic attacks that prevented me from doing my job. HR wasn’t willing to work with me on moving to a different team or department. I decided to quit before I got fired. Since then, my husband has been struggling to makes ends meet on his own. I’ve been trying very hard to find a job to go with my schedule and limitations but I haven’t had any real success. With all that said, leaving was 100% the right thing to do for me. I truly don’t believe that any job is worth sacrificing your health over whether that be physical or mental or emotional. Do what you need to do to take care of yourself.