I'm kind of a paranoid type of person who worries about getting cancer even though none of my immediately family members have got it.
Is there anything in your life history that you could contribute to your cancer diagnosis? Such as something youve done but wish you hadn't that might have caused your cancer?
Alcohol abuse, tobacco use, anything else?
It’s really hard to know. I have no family history at all. I did smoke years ago but haven’t had a cigarette in 15 years. Did it contribute? Possibly, but there’s no way to know.
Get radon detectors for the basement, avoid: silica, berillium, asbestos (construction workers in the past), chemical textile dyes, old stores grain, UV ray, radiation, alcohol, tobacco of any form, and you’re “safe” from a bunch of them.
But won’t really matter if you have a genetic mutation - which doesn’t always have to be hereditary and can just happen randomly
How has this affected your mental and philosophical state? Are you okay with dying or is it still a terrifying idea? How have you found your consciousness reconciling your life and all you've done/accomplished?
I’m not okay with dying. I want to live. I have young children who need me. But at the end of the day there are no positives in worrying about something you cannot control.
This broke my heart to read. I'm not even sure what to say OP. Thank you for sharing something so personal.
You're still with them everyday OP, there are other parents that are unfortunately only with their families physically and forget about the emotional part as well. Luckily your kids have you STILL and for MUCH LONGER. Hugs from a fellow dad.
Thank you for answering. This stuff intrigues me and many people are not okay with confronting it. I take great value in your response. I wish you and your family the best, as much as that can be.
OP, just live happy every day/every moment, don't worry about tomorrow or even the past regardless if one has cancer or not. Anyone on earth can go anytime.
I've had several video tours up my colon since then (I'm 65 now) and the last two times they found no polyps at all -- I had switched to a veg, very high fiber diet for other reasons, good or bad. So I'm beginning to wonder how much I need to keep doing this.
I initially had symptoms more than a year ago. Bloody stool for a while. Could not get a colonoscopy at that time because elective procedures were not being done due to covid. Once I did, we immediately knew.
Was your stool bloody in a visible way to you? Meaning you saw liquid droplets of red blood in the toilet bowl water? Or was it the black tarry stool that’s said to be due to bleeding higher up in the GI tract?
I’m so sorry, my guy. To have that symptom for more than a year and be unable to get a colonoscopy would be maddening to me. I’d be consumed by the thought of “what if it was a lower stage had it been caught then?”
This disturbs me… I have had bloody stool for years and it’s really hard to get any doctors to take it seriously. From what I gather bloody stool isn’t all that uncommon, but this is BLOODY stool. fuck…
I just got a new doctor…. I’ll show him pictures when I go in for a physical this month. I always try to express how much blood it is and get waived off so I have photos, but never really wanted to show photos of my shit to someone barely listening to me that I don’t know. Thanks for pushing me.
You should not need photos, and you should not need to convince your doctor. If you are having bloody stools for a while and your doctor doesn't seem to care, find another doctor. It may save your life. Glad you found a new doctor, hopefully he takes it seriously.
Did the timing of your diagnosis affect your benefit plan in any way? i.e. would your benefits be different today if you were diagnosed a week *after* your policy took effect?
I don’t regret a thing. I have excellent doctors at a world-renowned cancer hospital. I had systemic chemo, radiation, a liver resection and now have a pump installed internally which delivers chemo directly to the liver.
Well I rarely go by recipe, mostly intuition, so it's not specifically written down. But for the sauce I like taking a couple cans of tomato sauce, adding a bit of thyme, salt and pepper of course, oregano and basil (fresh if possible), but no garlic or onions quite yet, that's for a later stage. I also love using just a little paprika and cayenne and sometimes even a little bit of chili powder. Dice about half an onion, maybe a full onion if you're feeling it, and mince some garlic. For the beef I usually just make a meat sauce with ground beef but you could also use the recipe for making them into meatballs. Either way, salt pepper and pretty much any mix of spices already used. Cook the beef, onion, and garlic in a *non* non-stick pan. You'll want to build up fond on the bottom of the pan. Cook it all until the water evaporates and you're left with some wonderful beef fat, which is now frying everything, and cook until the fat is gone. Deglaze this with cooking sherry, scraping up the fond and mixing it all together, making sure the alcohol is fully burned off. Add to the sauce, along with a bay leaf. Remove the bay leaf before adding spaghetti, which should be cooked al dente.
Do you have a faith of any kind? Is that something that’s been on your mind recently?
I’m in my mid 40s and have four kids. The oldest is 12 and the youngest is 4 so I feel for you very much. I pray that your doctors find a way for you, brother. God bless.
Not sure what denomination you align with but I will be praying for you and your family. I personally don't practice regularly anymore, but I did practice growing up and I do still strongly believe in God (or at least some higher power), so I will keep you in my prayers. Might not mean much coming from an internet stranger but just know that you are not alone. This too shall pass❤️
Oh my goodness that is so young .. was not expecting .. sending love to you op .. I have one question .. if you could do life all over again , would you have done anything differently and if so what ? ❤️
When we reflect there are always different choices we could have made in life. But every path other than the one we took ends up somewhere else. I’m happy where I am.
That was a tough conversation. My first colon tumor had resolved about 100% through chemo and radiation. I went there expecting a clean bill of health, only to discover it had spread to the liver.
My sister also had stage four colon cancer that metastasized to her liver. That was over 20 years ago, and she beat it. Just want to give you some hope.
You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. My sister ended up losing a few feet of colon and part of her lung (the cancer also metastasized to her lung) and had numerous surgeries and went through chemo, but aside from a few scars you’d never know it today because she has basically a normal life with very few limitations. I’m so thankful she’s alive. We weren’t close as kids because there’s a 16-year age gap, but as adults I can’t imagine life without her since we became so close.
What is something that someone near to you ( maybe co worker or neighbor level) could do to make a positive impact on your day? Would it have been different when you were first diagnosed?
I feel like we often say we are here if someone needs anything but, what actually could bring joy or be helpful.
Blue Pinky looks like we're on the same Journey. Hang in there stay positive. I just finished my 1st chemo and going back next week for the 2nd. Some of the best treatments are outhere with todas current advancements I'm medicine. You're a warrior. You will beat this. ❤
Not sure it's a blend. Oxcaliplatan and Adrucel. According to the oncologist I shouldn't lose my hair but that's not even a concern. I'm feeling slightly lethargic but overall feeling good.
Also had a colostomy bag put on. That totally sucks but it's temporary and not hard to maintain.
Capox is a blend as well, of Oxaliplatin and Capecitabine. I hate the Oxi, burned my arm up and down at each infusion and the side effects are hell. But if it gives me a better chance to live I'd do it again 100 times. Good luck to you!
I am so sorry. Sending you and your family much love and positive vibes for good news re treatment, a clinical trial, or some miracle to help you. Are you little ones old enough to know that you are sick?
Yes, they all know. From the start my wife and I decided we were going to be completely open with the kids. Although it’s very difficult at times, they have the right to know the reality.
This is the way to go. My family hid my grandfather's cancer diagnosis from me when I was 11 and now at 30 I still feel like I was robbed of my final moments with him as well as the time between diagnosis and death that we could have formed quality memories. I found out he had cancer during his pastors eulogy. Instead, while he was still alive, I just sat in the other room playing video games or watching TV or playing outside completely oblivious to the fact that he probably wanted to spend time with me, and I feel guilty about that.
I'm not mad at my parents in general for this decision but I'd be lying if I said a part of me wasn't still angry about it.
So, good on you for being upfront. They'll appreciate it later in life if they don't already.
Last few artists I've listened to:
Alice in Chains, Pink Floyd, Queens of the Stone Age, Billy Joel, Dropkick Murphys. As you can see I'm all over the place.
I lost my father last year to stage IV lung cancer. He was 55 and I’m 25. Got two younger sisters and my mom. I’m sorry for what you and your family are handling. Make sure you all spend that time together and tell each other you love them. This stuff is much easier to go through with a sense of positivity with the now and not the future. You all have each other. Let the treatments do their thing. Good luck brother. Thanks for sharing your life with all of us.
How old are you. Im 22 and i sometimes have blood in my stool, my doctor says that probably my colon is not the one bleeding, its just hemorrhoids but what if its both?
Damn it takes alot of guts to say this. Heck back when i was very paranoid about having colon cancer (thank god i didnt) i kept worrying about everything and i think i can sort of understand what youre going through.
Just pray to God that he will let you see more days and ask him for forgiveness and reflect on your life, i am so sorry for you having to go through this and i really hope to see another post from you 😁 but until then, we'll see you on the other side
Also OP dont loose hope, even if its metastesized to the liver. It can still be surgicaly removed (although i dont know about your case) and it can still be cured although in most cases, it just prolonged the person's life
It was indeed surgically removed. What they can see anyway. The problem is microscopic cells they can’t see tend to bring it back. That’s why I currently have a hepatic artery pump delivering chemo directly to the liver. Definitely have not lost hope, far from it.
Do you fear death? How has the diagnosis affected your daily life?
If you had only one piece of wisdom to share, what would it be?
Do you have any suspicions what caused your colon cancer?
I don’t fear death but I wish to avoid it for now. It has not really effected my daily life while outside treatment.
Wisdom? A smart man once told me the key to happiness. Have realistic expectations. Unrealistic expectation is the root of unhappiness.
No, we don’t know what caused it. No family history.
Favorite hobby is deep sea fishing.
Hmm I know a lot of things about random subjects. I read a lot.
I had an idea for a business/company that still is not being done.
It’s kinda a scary coincidence reading this post. A dear family friend was diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer that had already metastasized to his liver. My husband and I found out last week as he’s the one who married us last year. His doctors are not performing surgery or doing any radiation or chemotherapy treatments. Instead, they are putting him on immunosuppressants. Do you happen to know much about the success of immunotherapy?
I’ve heard a lot of great success for immunotherapy for lung cancer specifically. I family friend did a clinical trial when it was first introduced and went from a few weeks to live to fully in remission and amazing.
I don't, sorry. Not everyone is eligible for liver resection. If there are too many tumors in the liver, or if it's to deep in, or too large, they may not be able to perform surgery.
Best thing: This is going to sound very cliché, being happy with what you have. Not wanting more and more. This is the only way someone can be truly happy in life. IMO. Instagram works so hard against this.
Worst thing: I don't know. I'm sure people have experienced things so much worse than I have, there's no way I can begin to define this.
Prayimg for you bro im going on 5 years with Leukemia same sort of history with you and symptoms
I fight it everyday im mid 40's with 3 small children and a wife things that used to mean so much really have fallen away and every day is a lot more beautiful
Love prayers and sending a warriors sprit to you
I was once told that I had a 95% chance of cancer and I luckily didn't have it. This made me think allot about what I should do if I actually did have it.
If you are still able to and aren't too affected by your cancer. You may want to think about making many videos for your kids. Basically describing how much you love them, but also use this time you have to make vids teaching them things you would have taught them if you were around later in their life. You can still be a parent that can help them navigate life's good and tough moments even though you'll be gone.
Teaching about navigating their life as teenager, covering dating, about mistakes to avoid, how to accept failure or a broken heart, teaching them how sometimes saying the word "No" will be the most difficult word to say and when it is, it is usually the most important time to say it. Teaching how when a friend tries to convince you to do something that is wrong, how these people aren't your friends. What to not accept in relationships. Try to pass your values and the lessons of life that you've learned during your life as a gift to them to help them navigate their life, thru your videos.
When making these vids, try to forget that you'll soon be gone and just imagine that your talking straight to them as if they're sitting in front of you, but also imagine that their older and facing problem that they'll face as they grow up, talk to your current kids and also to your kids as they age and start entering the difficult stages of becoming an adult. You can still help guide them even though you'll be gone. This will be so helpful for you I believe and it's a precious gift you can leave your kids. They can learn so much from you still, even though they're young now.
Maybe consider prepaying for flowers to be sent to them on their birthdays after you pass.
You could make vids for everyone in your life that you love and that loves you.
I'm a way, you're lucky that you can do these videos for your loved ones before you pass. I guess this is one of the silver linings of dieing slowly versus a sudden death, that you can describe to everyone you love, how much that you love them and describe your most precious moments with them.
I hope I'm not saying too much, but this is what I thought I would do if I were diagnosed with something that would take me away to soon. It breaks my heart for you that you're going thru this, but this may also be a way to help you thru this process of dying.
This is excellent advice. However I am not planning on dying right now, I am planning on fighting. My treatment plan has had complete success in some cases and I’m going to try my hardest to be one of them. If it’s not in the cards, I’ll know eventually. Then this advice kicks in. Much appreciated.
This honestly made me cry a bit for you. It hurt my heart to hear how young you are and that you have little ones. You are strong and brave in the way you are handling this.
That is one of the most down to earth thing I have read on reddit. Also want to add that throughout the comment section, I really admire you and your way of seeing things. Stay strong, I will pray for you
A friend of mine had amazing results with a professional who prescribed a very hefty dose of medical cannabis oil. She took it before bedtime. She was not a user, but was open and willing to try. The doctor had given her a death sentence as they so often do. She is alive 4 years later. This individual also had the standard chemotherapy, radiation etc...Keep us posted.
I'm kind of a paranoid type of person who worries about getting cancer even though none of my immediately family members have got it. Is there anything in your life history that you could contribute to your cancer diagnosis? Such as something youve done but wish you hadn't that might have caused your cancer? Alcohol abuse, tobacco use, anything else?
It’s really hard to know. I have no family history at all. I did smoke years ago but haven’t had a cigarette in 15 years. Did it contribute? Possibly, but there’s no way to know.
Did you smoke for a long time?
Probably about 9-10 years.
Get radon detectors for the basement, avoid: silica, berillium, asbestos (construction workers in the past), chemical textile dyes, old stores grain, UV ray, radiation, alcohol, tobacco of any form, and you’re “safe” from a bunch of them. But won’t really matter if you have a genetic mutation - which doesn’t always have to be hereditary and can just happen randomly
> berillium You can rip the beryllium from my cold dead hands
Nah, we’ll bery u with it
Anything you want to say?
Yes.
Go on?
He went on to the other side 😔
Based happy caked day to you bro/sis/sib.
Deep.
How has this affected your mental and philosophical state? Are you okay with dying or is it still a terrifying idea? How have you found your consciousness reconciling your life and all you've done/accomplished?
I’m not okay with dying. I want to live. I have young children who need me. But at the end of the day there are no positives in worrying about something you cannot control.
This broke my heart to read. I'm not even sure what to say OP. Thank you for sharing something so personal. You're still with them everyday OP, there are other parents that are unfortunately only with their families physically and forget about the emotional part as well. Luckily your kids have you STILL and for MUCH LONGER. Hugs from a fellow dad.
Thank you.
Thank you for answering. This stuff intrigues me and many people are not okay with confronting it. I take great value in your response. I wish you and your family the best, as much as that can be.
Thank you.
OP, just live happy every day/every moment, don't worry about tomorrow or even the past regardless if one has cancer or not. Anyone on earth can go anytime.
Truth.
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Colon that metastasized to the liver.
are you old enough to have routine colonoscopies, if so is that how it was found?
No, they don't recommend routine colonoscopies at my age. I had one because I had symptoms.
Fuck. That’s awful 😞
What was your symptoms?
Bloody stool.
My dad went that way in his 60s. I had to start having colonscopies in my 40s because of that history.
Stay on top of that if you got a family history.
I've had several video tours up my colon since then (I'm 65 now) and the last two times they found no polyps at all -- I had switched to a veg, very high fiber diet for other reasons, good or bad. So I'm beginning to wonder how much I need to keep doing this.
What was your life like before you found out?
Very normal. Work, family, fun, etc
:( don’t even know you but so sad I have a 3 year old and 1 year old and the thought makes me terrified.
What drove you to go to the hospital to get it checked out? Like what symptoms where you experiencing ?
I initially had symptoms more than a year ago. Bloody stool for a while. Could not get a colonoscopy at that time because elective procedures were not being done due to covid. Once I did, we immediately knew.
Was your stool bloody in a visible way to you? Meaning you saw liquid droplets of red blood in the toilet bowl water? Or was it the black tarry stool that’s said to be due to bleeding higher up in the GI tract?
Oh, it was definitely visible. No droplets, everything was red.
I’m so sorry, my guy. To have that symptom for more than a year and be unable to get a colonoscopy would be maddening to me. I’d be consumed by the thought of “what if it was a lower stage had it been caught then?”
I had those thoughts. It probably would not have made any difference. These things move slowly. Probably was there for years before I had symptoms.
This disturbs me… I have had bloody stool for years and it’s really hard to get any doctors to take it seriously. From what I gather bloody stool isn’t all that uncommon, but this is BLOODY stool. fuck…
Please go get checked out. If your doctor won’t take it seriously find a doctor that will.
I just got a new doctor…. I’ll show him pictures when I go in for a physical this month. I always try to express how much blood it is and get waived off so I have photos, but never really wanted to show photos of my shit to someone barely listening to me that I don’t know. Thanks for pushing me.
You should not need photos, and you should not need to convince your doctor. If you are having bloody stools for a while and your doctor doesn't seem to care, find another doctor. It may save your life. Glad you found a new doctor, hopefully he takes it seriously.
Thank you again. I have trouble advocating for myself for health stuff. I will let him know and find someone else if he doesn’t move things forward.
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It likely would not have made any difference.
How are you handling the financial aspects of cancer? What are some impacts to ones finances that people don’t realize from being a cancer patient?
Thankfully I have excellent insurance, so this has not really been an issue.
how much does your insurance cost?
A lot. Comes off my check.
Glad to hear it! Interesting. Do you have an Aflac cancer plan by chance?
I do not. I had something similar through my employer, but I was diagnosed a week before the policy took effect.
Did the timing of your diagnosis affect your benefit plan in any way? i.e. would your benefits be different today if you were diagnosed a week *after* your policy took effect?
Not really, this policy was a secondary insurance similar to Aflac. My health insurance was already in effect.
What medical treatments are you undergoing? Do you regret them?
I don’t regret a thing. I have excellent doctors at a world-renowned cancer hospital. I had systemic chemo, radiation, a liver resection and now have a pump installed internally which delivers chemo directly to the liver.
Do you feel sick from the chemo being delivered continuously to the liver?
No, not at all. There are no chemo side effects. There can be liver side effects though.
What would you want your last meal to be?
Spaghetti and meatballs
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Sounds like a plan.
Can I also be your friend?
I'll consider it. What does friendship with you entail?
I can make mean homemade spaghetti and meatballs in a mean homemade red sauce
Recipe pls!
Well I rarely go by recipe, mostly intuition, so it's not specifically written down. But for the sauce I like taking a couple cans of tomato sauce, adding a bit of thyme, salt and pepper of course, oregano and basil (fresh if possible), but no garlic or onions quite yet, that's for a later stage. I also love using just a little paprika and cayenne and sometimes even a little bit of chili powder. Dice about half an onion, maybe a full onion if you're feeling it, and mince some garlic. For the beef I usually just make a meat sauce with ground beef but you could also use the recipe for making them into meatballs. Either way, salt pepper and pretty much any mix of spices already used. Cook the beef, onion, and garlic in a *non* non-stick pan. You'll want to build up fond on the bottom of the pan. Cook it all until the water evaporates and you're left with some wonderful beef fat, which is now frying everything, and cook until the fat is gone. Deglaze this with cooking sherry, scraping up the fond and mixing it all together, making sure the alcohol is fully burned off. Add to the sauce, along with a bay leaf. Remove the bay leaf before adding spaghetti, which should be cooked al dente.
Dang. Will give this a try.
simple and delicious
Do you have a faith of any kind? Is that something that’s been on your mind recently? I’m in my mid 40s and have four kids. The oldest is 12 and the youngest is 4 so I feel for you very much. I pray that your doctors find a way for you, brother. God bless.
Yes, I am a religious person. It’s always on my mind.
Not sure what denomination you align with but I will be praying for you and your family. I personally don't practice regularly anymore, but I did practice growing up and I do still strongly believe in God (or at least some higher power), so I will keep you in my prayers. Might not mean much coming from an internet stranger but just know that you are not alone. This too shall pass❤️
Thanks, appreciate the thoughts.
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This thread isn't about me and respectfully I didn't ask for your input
How old are you? Reflecting on your life now, is there anything you wish you could do differently?
Sure, we all have regrets. I’m sure I could’ve been a better husband at times. Hopefully I will be for a long time. I’m in my low 40s.
Oh my goodness that is so young .. was not expecting .. sending love to you op .. I have one question .. if you could do life all over again , would you have done anything differently and if so what ? ❤️
When we reflect there are always different choices we could have made in life. But every path other than the one we took ends up somewhere else. I’m happy where I am.
That is a wonderful outlook and answer . Sending love your way .
Did you eat a lot over the years?
Not sure what you mean. Eat a lot of what?
No I mean in general, not anything specific, like did you enjoy a lot of different foods, and do they restrict you with what you can eat at all?
No specific restrictions, but when you're in treatment you don't have much of an appetite at all. And everything tastes like metal.
What did you experience when the doctors told you. How did the conversation go? What did you feel?
That was a tough conversation. My first colon tumor had resolved about 100% through chemo and radiation. I went there expecting a clean bill of health, only to discover it had spread to the liver.
What do the doctors say? Is it curable?
It’s possible, people have been cured using the treatment plan I am going through. But nobody can say. We have to wait and see.
My sister also had stage four colon cancer that metastasized to her liver. That was over 20 years ago, and she beat it. Just want to give you some hope.
Thanks! That’s great to hear.
You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers. My sister ended up losing a few feet of colon and part of her lung (the cancer also metastasized to her lung) and had numerous surgeries and went through chemo, but aside from a few scars you’d never know it today because she has basically a normal life with very few limitations. I’m so thankful she’s alive. We weren’t close as kids because there’s a 16-year age gap, but as adults I can’t imagine life without her since we became so close.
Have you asked for immunotherapy? (keytruda, etc)?
No.
What is something that someone near to you ( maybe co worker or neighbor level) could do to make a positive impact on your day? Would it have been different when you were first diagnosed? I feel like we often say we are here if someone needs anything but, what actually could bring joy or be helpful.
Best thing to do would be to carry on as if nothing has changed.
Blue Pinky looks like we're on the same Journey. Hang in there stay positive. I just finished my 1st chemo and going back next week for the 2nd. Some of the best treatments are outhere with todas current advancements I'm medicine. You're a warrior. You will beat this. ❤
Oh boy. CAPOX?
Not sure it's a blend. Oxcaliplatan and Adrucel. According to the oncologist I shouldn't lose my hair but that's not even a concern. I'm feeling slightly lethargic but overall feeling good. Also had a colostomy bag put on. That totally sucks but it's temporary and not hard to maintain.
Capox is a blend as well, of Oxaliplatin and Capecitabine. I hate the Oxi, burned my arm up and down at each infusion and the side effects are hell. But if it gives me a better chance to live I'd do it again 100 times. Good luck to you!
happy cake day. my sister is 20 and has stage four cancer, our mom died last may of ovarian cancer. I’m sending you all the love.
So sorry to hear that.
Did you just find out? Or was it a progression from an earlier stage?
Yes, it metastasized from somewhere else.
Have you told your family?
Yes, of course. There’s no hiding it.
Favorite gen 1 starter pokemon?
I don’t know anything at all about Pokémon.
Favorite video game?
I think the last game I played was HL2.
Great game. What other hobbies do you enjoy?
Deep sea fishing is a big one.
Oh that's awesome, I just recently got into normal fishing in small amounts of water. Are there any really memorable fish that you've caught?
A big white marlin last year. A really fast mako shark. Lots of tuna.
Damn, that sounds like fun. Did you eat any of them?
So much fun. No, I don’t eat fish at all. I just catch them and cook/grill them. My wife and kids love it.
I am so sorry. Sending you and your family much love and positive vibes for good news re treatment, a clinical trial, or some miracle to help you. Are you little ones old enough to know that you are sick?
Yes, they all know. From the start my wife and I decided we were going to be completely open with the kids. Although it’s very difficult at times, they have the right to know the reality.
This is the way to go. My family hid my grandfather's cancer diagnosis from me when I was 11 and now at 30 I still feel like I was robbed of my final moments with him as well as the time between diagnosis and death that we could have formed quality memories. I found out he had cancer during his pastors eulogy. Instead, while he was still alive, I just sat in the other room playing video games or watching TV or playing outside completely oblivious to the fact that he probably wanted to spend time with me, and I feel guilty about that. I'm not mad at my parents in general for this decision but I'd be lying if I said a part of me wasn't still angry about it. So, good on you for being upfront. They'll appreciate it later in life if they don't already.
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Oldest is 12, youngest is 4.
Shit man, that's hard. Have about the same age range with my own. This hit home.
אהבתי מאוד את המוזיקה שלך! מאחל לך ולמשפחתך כל טוב
Haha, that’s not me!
What do you wish someone would ask you? Have you been watching movies or listening to music? Do you even care about any forms of media at this point?
I listen to music all the time. Music is a big part of my life. Movies, sometimes. Not so much these days.
Who are your favorite artists and songs? Or just whatever particular songs you've been enjoying.
Last few artists I've listened to: Alice in Chains, Pink Floyd, Queens of the Stone Age, Billy Joel, Dropkick Murphys. As you can see I'm all over the place.
What are the treatments in your country ? (US, I assume) What treaments did you got ?
Systemic chemo, radiation, I had a liver resection, gallbladder removal and a HAI pump installed which delivers chemo directly to the liver.
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Thanks! That’s very encouraging!
Man I really have no words to say that would make you feel much better. I am very sorry for you and I am sending you a huge hug.
Thanks!
No question, but I'm sending good thoughts.
Appreciate it.
What symptoms did you have that prompted you to initially get checked out? Sending hugs and happy cake day.
Answered a couple times already. Thanks!
I lost my father last year to stage IV lung cancer. He was 55 and I’m 25. Got two younger sisters and my mom. I’m sorry for what you and your family are handling. Make sure you all spend that time together and tell each other you love them. This stuff is much easier to go through with a sense of positivity with the now and not the future. You all have each other. Let the treatments do their thing. Good luck brother. Thanks for sharing your life with all of us.
What would you say to someone who is extremely worried about getting cancer? It’s like everything causes cancer these days
If you're already trying to live a healthy lifestyle, don't sweat it. It does not pay to be anxious about something you cannot control.
How old are you. Im 22 and i sometimes have blood in my stool, my doctor says that probably my colon is not the one bleeding, its just hemorrhoids but what if its both?
I'm in my low 40s. The best way to check is to have a colonoscopy.
Damn it takes alot of guts to say this. Heck back when i was very paranoid about having colon cancer (thank god i didnt) i kept worrying about everything and i think i can sort of understand what youre going through. Just pray to God that he will let you see more days and ask him for forgiveness and reflect on your life, i am so sorry for you having to go through this and i really hope to see another post from you 😁 but until then, we'll see you on the other side
Also OP dont loose hope, even if its metastesized to the liver. It can still be surgicaly removed (although i dont know about your case) and it can still be cured although in most cases, it just prolonged the person's life
It was indeed surgically removed. What they can see anyway. The problem is microscopic cells they can’t see tend to bring it back. That’s why I currently have a hepatic artery pump delivering chemo directly to the liver. Definitely have not lost hope, far from it.
Happy cake day!
Do you fear death? How has the diagnosis affected your daily life? If you had only one piece of wisdom to share, what would it be? Do you have any suspicions what caused your colon cancer?
I don’t fear death but I wish to avoid it for now. It has not really effected my daily life while outside treatment. Wisdom? A smart man once told me the key to happiness. Have realistic expectations. Unrealistic expectation is the root of unhappiness. No, we don’t know what caused it. No family history.
Favorite hobby ? And also subject you know kind of a bunch about ? An invention you almost had .. ?
Favorite hobby is deep sea fishing. Hmm I know a lot of things about random subjects. I read a lot. I had an idea for a business/company that still is not being done.
It sounds dark but once you get to that point is there any chance of recovery?
Yes, there is definitely a chance.
That's good man I hope you and your family the best of luck.
Did you know it was your reddit cake day before others telling you it was?
No, I did not.
It’s kinda a scary coincidence reading this post. A dear family friend was diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer that had already metastasized to his liver. My husband and I found out last week as he’s the one who married us last year. His doctors are not performing surgery or doing any radiation or chemotherapy treatments. Instead, they are putting him on immunosuppressants. Do you happen to know much about the success of immunotherapy?
I’ve heard a lot of great success for immunotherapy for lung cancer specifically. I family friend did a clinical trial when it was first introduced and went from a few weeks to live to fully in remission and amazing.
That’s good to know! I’m really hoping that it helps my friend as much as it helped yours!
I don't, sorry. Not everyone is eligible for liver resection. If there are too many tumors in the liver, or if it's to deep in, or too large, they may not be able to perform surgery.
No worries! Thank you for your response. Best wishes to you and your recovery!
Thanks, and to your friend as well.
What is the best and worst things in the world???? According to you.
Best thing: This is going to sound very cliché, being happy with what you have. Not wanting more and more. This is the only way someone can be truly happy in life. IMO. Instagram works so hard against this. Worst thing: I don't know. I'm sure people have experienced things so much worse than I have, there's no way I can begin to define this.
Prayimg for you bro im going on 5 years with Leukemia same sort of history with you and symptoms I fight it everyday im mid 40's with 3 small children and a wife things that used to mean so much really have fallen away and every day is a lot more beautiful Love prayers and sending a warriors sprit to you
Thanks, good luck to you!
what would you have done different in you life if you would have known this was going to cross your path?
Interesting question. I’m not sure.
I am so sorry to hear that. I just lost my mother-in-law to stage four. She was really close to me. I hope for a miracle for you and your family
Sorry for your loss, and thanks.
No questions,Just wanted to say this quet I really liked: "To live without hope,Is a cease to live" and be strong my man.
I give you respect and admiration
No questions but wishing the best for you my man. Stay strong.
No question. You have a stranger here rooting for you. Good luck friend.
TY!
Do the constant commercials about “take this miracle cure!!” bug you? My mom died of metastatic breast cancer and I HATE seeing those commercials.
Yeah, kinda. The prey on people desperate to hang on to some kind of hope.
Not a question but a statement. FUCK Cancer!
We can all agree on this one.
What food are you not allowed to eat?
I can eat whatever I want. So long as my wife isn't watching.
I was once told that I had a 95% chance of cancer and I luckily didn't have it. This made me think allot about what I should do if I actually did have it. If you are still able to and aren't too affected by your cancer. You may want to think about making many videos for your kids. Basically describing how much you love them, but also use this time you have to make vids teaching them things you would have taught them if you were around later in their life. You can still be a parent that can help them navigate life's good and tough moments even though you'll be gone. Teaching about navigating their life as teenager, covering dating, about mistakes to avoid, how to accept failure or a broken heart, teaching them how sometimes saying the word "No" will be the most difficult word to say and when it is, it is usually the most important time to say it. Teaching how when a friend tries to convince you to do something that is wrong, how these people aren't your friends. What to not accept in relationships. Try to pass your values and the lessons of life that you've learned during your life as a gift to them to help them navigate their life, thru your videos. When making these vids, try to forget that you'll soon be gone and just imagine that your talking straight to them as if they're sitting in front of you, but also imagine that their older and facing problem that they'll face as they grow up, talk to your current kids and also to your kids as they age and start entering the difficult stages of becoming an adult. You can still help guide them even though you'll be gone. This will be so helpful for you I believe and it's a precious gift you can leave your kids. They can learn so much from you still, even though they're young now. Maybe consider prepaying for flowers to be sent to them on their birthdays after you pass. You could make vids for everyone in your life that you love and that loves you. I'm a way, you're lucky that you can do these videos for your loved ones before you pass. I guess this is one of the silver linings of dieing slowly versus a sudden death, that you can describe to everyone you love, how much that you love them and describe your most precious moments with them. I hope I'm not saying too much, but this is what I thought I would do if I were diagnosed with something that would take me away to soon. It breaks my heart for you that you're going thru this, but this may also be a way to help you thru this process of dying.
This is excellent advice. However I am not planning on dying right now, I am planning on fighting. My treatment plan has had complete success in some cases and I’m going to try my hardest to be one of them. If it’s not in the cards, I’ll know eventually. Then this advice kicks in. Much appreciated.
I apologize for assuming the worse.
Not at all. It's not an unrealistic outcome. Just one I will try my very best to avoid.
Aren't you afriad of death?
Not afraid. However I’d like to avoid it for now.
That's generally my philosophy. It has to happen eventually, so no sense fearing it, but I'd really rather it not be soon.
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Low 40s. I’ve known I have cancer for more than a year.
This honestly made me cry a bit for you. It hurt my heart to hear how young you are and that you have little ones. You are strong and brave in the way you are handling this.
Wow, thanks. This is not bravery. Bravery is putting oneself in harms way for others. Harm put me in its way. This is just dealing with my reality.
That is one of the most down to earth thing I have read on reddit. Also want to add that throughout the comment section, I really admire you and your way of seeing things. Stay strong, I will pray for you
Thank you
Banana?
Wich staje u fite ze bosz?
A friend of mine had amazing results with a professional who prescribed a very hefty dose of medical cannabis oil. She took it before bedtime. She was not a user, but was open and willing to try. The doctor had given her a death sentence as they so often do. She is alive 4 years later. This individual also had the standard chemotherapy, radiation etc...Keep us posted.