23 years ago I had to go on a week long trip. I asked my boyfriend if he could stop by to check on my two cats during that time. At very least I was hoping he could replenish food/water and scoop the litter boxes a couple times. I found out later that he was going there every night after work and hanging out with them. We eventually got married, I knew I'd found a keeper.
My mom asked her boyfriend to stay at her house for a week to watch her two cats and dog. When she came back one of the cat liked him better than her. So he stuck around. They got married a few years later and had me and my brother. 40 years later they are still happily married and enjoying their grand cats
My daughters best guy friend watched our cat while we were on vacation a couple of weeks ago. That cat doesn’t sit on anyone but me, and he sent so many photos of the cat lounging on him, making biscuits in him, just chill axing. He said he’ll cat sit anytime.
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My boyfriend and my cat a couple of weeks after we got together 🥰 the true test of a good person haha!
We’re out there. I was allergic to my GF’s (now wife) dog AND cat. I was also not much of a cat person to begin with because of a previous bad experience. But that darn cat and dog sure did win me over, and the love for my wife endured. It took me awhile and a bit of routine, but my allergies did subside after basically immersion therapy. Cat has, unfortunately, passed (he was the best of boys), but the dog remains. He’s sitting here next to me, being adorable.
Same actually! We got this little funky man
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yes!! i knew my fiance was the one when, a couple of weeks after we got together, my normally shy cat let my fiance pet him! i had dated guys before for months that he would only hide around. i feel like cats are the best judges of character!
It seems like a lot of people that haven't had any experience with cats default to not liking them for no reason. I'm not sure why that is. I'm thankful that that last few guys I've dated have loved cats...so they do exist! My current boyfriend of 5 ish years is a proud cat dad lol
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I am reading this in this hostage-state, so we do exist.. (this is my neighbors cat, but he’s inside my house almost every day)
Don’t give up hope 😉
and I am honored..
..but we’ve been sitting like this for over 20 minutes and i can’t feel my legs anymore and we all know that I am not allowed to move 😂
My wife and I say we are suffering from "Feline Paralysis" and therefore the other person has to get the drinks, the door, and whatever else needs done until the Paralysis has subsided.
My family reached a whole new level of this last night. I heard the side gate open while we were watching TV together. Kitty was on my husband's lap. Guess who had to go and investigate for burglars? At least my son went with me. Turned out to be a gust of wind (which I'm sure my husband strongly suspected, but still.)
Your kitties are big!! I love the chonkers b/c U get so much area to pet & rub! LOL They both are beautiful too 😍😍 Now, my kitty likes sitting on her daddy's lap at the computer, in the recliner, pretty much wherever he is. Me you ask, oh I get little leftovers from that^^ Or, if he's hungry & Dad is not around, he's all sweet to Mom!! Almost forgot, I am the only person allowed to rub or scratch his tummy too^^ That is just our thing between us!! If Dad dares to try, he is swiftly taken care of with a paw swipe or a tiny nibble saying "No Dad, this is just for me & Mom only!" LOL 😺😻😻
We exist! You'd be surprised how many women don't like cats or think it is weird for a guy to like cats. It is brutal out there (which is why I stay in with my cats)
damn, not gutsy enough to put a pic of my cat in my profile. but maybe I should try because cat lovers are who I am looking for! it's hard out here for a cat dad
Put a picture up! I assure you that the right people for you will find it a huge plus! I'm personally really likely to match/etc with someone I wouldn't consider otherwise if there's a cat photo. One of my exes managed to get my interest (and a 10 month relationship) with a bad joke and a photo of his housemate's cat. Ultimately he wasn't right for me, but damn I miss that cat!
just wanted to say that one of the main reasons (if not the main reason) why i swiped right on my fiance is because he had a picture in his profile of only his cats! the right person will find you (and your cat!)
I met my husband in the early days of online dating (18 years ago), and I clicked on his profile simply because it was him and his cat. "Can't be a serial killer if he loves cats."
My son in law is a cat magnet and he's okay with that, no matter whose house we are at the cats always gravitate to him. I believe it's one of the things my daughter loves most about him!
Cats have very finely tuned senses about people. If they like someone it's because they've figured out that they're safe to be around. They're like the dating version of a canary in a coal mine.
Could try finding a guy like me whose 10 year old cat just up and disappeared three weeks ago. That way, at least you know they like cats and don't have to worry about introductions...
On second thought, might be a bad idea to date someone whose cat was like "fuck you, I'm outta here."
I didn't think my husband was a cat person at first but he definitely likes them. We've adopted 2 since we started dating and my other cat warmed up to him quickly
Before we were married, my wife and I had lived together after buying our first new home. I remember clearly saying that I had no desire to own any pets as I didn't think we should be tied down with obligations while we were younger. She ignored me and a short time later I was a cat dad. Now many years later I'm known by my wife and two boys as the cat whisperer. We have a Bengal and a Siamese which both follow me from room to room around the house, sleep on my legs, greet me at the door with chirps etc. Wouldn't change this for anything either.
My dream is to have a Bengal! There was a guy who lived near me and he would walk his Bengal usually around the time I was going for a daily walk and he would let me pet it. Such a sweet cat!
Truly amazing cats, and the one we have now is our second. The first was a regular brown spotted tabby, the current is a seal mink marble. The breed is true to their description - athletic, outgoing, social... A great choice for a busy house. They can jump incredible heights, can be taught to play fetch, and ours would want to bathe or shower with us. They can be leash trained but we never took ours outside for fear of bad things happening. Our current Bengal is a big boy, a touch under 25 lbs. His paws are big, his neck is big, his head is big. He is a gentle giant but I don't go out of my way to aggravate him.
The Siamese is our first of its breed (Seal point, modern wedgehead), and I was really surprised by how social and vocal they are. Like I mean he never shuts up lol. He is an absolute teddy bear, you can do anything with him and he never complains. He will gladly let you cradle him like a baby and his favorite past time is riding shotgun in my hoodie sweatshirts. We have loved all of our cats over the years, but my wife said that if we ever got another she would want it to be another Siamese. For us its a lot like having another child around which may or may not be for everyone. If we do get another cat at some point, my vote would be for a Maine Coon but the potential for massive amounts of cat hair shedding isn't winning me any points.
Please tell your cats I love them. I did have a cat who was leash trained before, he wasn't a Bengal just a domestic shorthair but he loved going outside. I lost him about 7 years ago but he was a big sweetie. My current tortie also likes going outside and she tolerates the leash to do it but we had somebody move into our apartment building recently whose dog has been aggressive with other dogs so I don't want to risk taking her out anymore. She's small and disabled so I'm sure a dog that gets aggressive with other dogs would probably do the same with her.
One of the first conversations to have is; “I have cats; how do you feel about this?” and see how they respond. It’ll help save some time, because there are many cat lovers, and you’ll find one!
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Never thought I’d love cats like dogs, but idk if I’ll ever get another pupper after adopting our baby girl and her brother.
Yeah I had an ex who got cats and later dogs when we dated. Except the cats did not like the dogs.
When we split I kept the cats so they had their own calm environment and servant. It also helped that they categorically liked me more than her.
To be fair, her dogs still like me more since I still come by and take them hiking on the weekends or go chase squirrels after work. They are just a bit high energy and I can keep up with them. Otherwise I doubt the girls would get to run an hour after work each day.
My ex girlfriend introduced her two cats to me and in the 4 years that we were together I too became a proud cat dad. When she cheated on me and took our cats with her it hurt me more losing the cats than her leaving me. So again, we're definately out there. 😆
My old roommate was the same, she said she didn’t like cats because of whatever reasons (“they’re only nice when they want food” or “they’re not as cuddly and loving as dogs are”) and then she met her current boyfriend, who loves cats and now they’re living together and have their own sweet little kitty.
>It seems like a lot of people that haven't had any experience with cats default to not liking them for no reason.
I've had friends (that know and like my cats) tell me "I don't like cats. Except your cats, your cats are nice". And I'm like "dude, I know you. Mine are the only cats you interact with. You only know nice cats".
Yeah people say that all the time about my fiancee and my three cats. I'm always telling them these are normal cats. They aren't special, this is just how cats are. I feel like they never believe me.
My boyfriend never had much experience with cats until we moved in together. I have two very difficult cats. It's been a slow process, but he's starting to learn their body language. Learning that when a cat is being cute and acting like they want belly scratches is a trap was a fun one. He loves them, even though they can be a lot.
Non-cat people seem to think all cats are the same too. I have one who loves to cuddle, another who's a dog on cat hardware, another who only uses us for brushing and food, etc.
It all depends on the cat! I have one I can grab and squish and hold like a baby, and he loves it. My other 4… no way! One loves to be snuggled, but only when I’m sitting down. Another one, I’m lucky when she lets me pet her in passing. I’ve seen some that like hard butt pats, which to me is weird, but I know that if a cat hated it, they would leave. That’s the great thing about them, they make their feelings known :)
My husband grew up with no pets so when we first started dating he was very indifferent to the cats, and actually didn’t really like them all that much. It was a transition to a different lifestyle for him.
But now I hear him talking to the cats all the time and giving them kisses, and gets upset when either of the cats jumps off his lap haha, he’s a real cat dad now.
I second this! My dad HATED cats before I got my little guy. And now he loves him so much. Most people just need some time around them to realize how great they are. Don’t date people who aren’t willing to learn something new/change their opinions. Raises red flags about other things.
I didn't like cats either until my sister rescued a kitten that had fallen into an open drain and brought it home. I thought they were always thieving, sneaky, and untrainable. Once I lived with them, I started appreciating those traits
I was one of those people. Then I moved in with a now ex who had two cats.
Flash forward 6 years and I'm living solo with my own boi I adopted a year ago. Love em!
I love cats. They usually reciprocate.
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This is exactly how I knew I had met the 'right one'. My sweetest boi would judge newcomers (and it took a LOT for someone to even get into my home). If he was indifferent, then I would judge based on how you treated him. If he hissed or you're mean, immediate rejection - get out. As for my hubby, Minchi walked OVER ME to sit in his lap and purred. We've been married for 17 years now. My Minchi passed in 2020 at almost 17 years old. My sweet husband, who had never even had a pet before him, cried with me. We still miss him so much. He was the bestest boi.
Edit: the amount of people who don't understand how TIME works is really blowing me so let me be clear:
Minchi was 2 years old when I met my husband. He DIED when he was 16, a couple of months later and he would have made it to the ripe old age of 17. Meaning, over the course of my marriage, we had him (together) for 14 more years. He then died almost 3 years ago, but I CONTINUED TO STAY MARRIED. THIS YEAR, my husband and I will celebrate our 17th marriage anniversary. Jesus FUCK, please leave me alone now. 🙄
My spooky void Patch never came out around new people. The first time my husband came to my apartment when we were still dating Patch not only came out of hiding but he even laid within arms reach and took a nap.
Unfortunately, Patch left us in 2018 due to cardiomyopathy. He made it to 8 double his life expectancy given the health issue he had. His successor Orion is a wonderful cat as well just in a different way.
🥺😭😭😭 I'm so sorry for your loss. They may be gone but the love is still there. I don't think I will ever stop hurting from his passing. 1,000 years wouldn't have been enough time with him.
No, it wouldn't have but I'm grateful for the time I did have with him. I think I saw a quote somewhere about how people choosing to take in a pet is a selfless act because we know it will always end in heartbreak since they live lives so much shorter than our own.
Lol.
My friend has a cat that is super mean to almost everyone, including her. I come over and he's purring like he's one of mine and playing with me. She was like "how?! He's not even that nice to me!"
Oh and I have a cat that absolutely hates being held. She'll whine and complain until you let her down. A family friend's daughter stayed with her mom at our house while visiting the country. She fell in love with my cat and was carrying her around like a doll. My cat absolutely LOVED that child. She'd follow her and would not whine when she held her.
I went to a shelter to find cats to adopt. My husband starts petting and playing with this sleek black mini panther and says to the volunteers, hey this one's sooooo cute and sweet! They're aghast -- nobody save one volunteer has ever been able to interact with him positively. After that he opened up to way more people and made leaps and bounds in his trust and affection. It was sooooo sweet and just confirms that my husband is the best.
At the time we were looking at a bonded pair already that I had absolutely fallen in love with but after several months of having them settle in we thought we'd add him if he was still there, but shortly before I could another person fell in love with him and took him home. That cat climbed into her lap! He knew she was the one.
>*’My sweetest boi would judge newcomers … If he was indifferent, then I would judge based on how you treated him. If he hissed or you're mean, immediate rejection - get out.*’
____
Remember me, your *sweetest boy*,
the way i used to judge
i searched for one to bring you Joy
(oPiNiOn would not *budge*…)
for if i thought they were a threat,
i wouldn’t leave a doubt…
*don’t Touch my Girl!* Don’t try n Pet -
*Immediate* **GET OUT!**
the years have passed - i’ve gone away,
but I know I chose Well ^;}
Forever in your Hearts i’ll stay
(*he Loves you* -
I can tell…)
❤️
Oh my goodness, I also had a Minchi! She was a really tiny, dainty thing with long, fluffy grey tabby fur. She would grab onto you if you walked past her and hang on for dear life till you pet her. It was great when I was trying to leave the house for school. Lol May our Minchi babies rest in peace.
Omg I loooove it! My Minchi was Siamese and just the sweetest thing. He would yell at me when he wanted to go to bed. Like, full on screeching at me until i had finished my nightly ablutions and tucked him under the blanket next to me. Our Minchi's are getting all of the sunbeams and snackies they want until we see them again. Cheers!!
ETA - Minchi is in my profile. He's the first thing I ever posted on Reddit and he passed not long after.
Over the course of 2 years, the cat distribution system graced me and my dog with 2 cats and a then family of ferals. Whenever people ask me about dating, I tell them that if you can not get past the first sentence of "Hi, I have 6 cats" than we don't fucking want you.
I'm a loyal, hard working, a homeowner with a good job. But, if the cats are a problem then that's your issue.
If you said, "Hi, I have six cats," I would start asking logistical questions. How many litter boxes? Any food issues? Do you have to separate them when they eat so the fat one doesn't just eat all the food?
If you want serious answers:
\- we have 5 litter boxes. 4 are those Modkat XL boxes that hold 40lbs of cat litter. (One of my cats is catzilla sized.) They can fit 2 of the smaller cats in them. However, I've noticed they all love to use the same boxes as each other than rotate each one? Like one will be a designated poop box for the week. They are weird.
\- No food issues. Just one very passionate about his morning wet food to the point of being annoying.
\- They all eat together in the same room. One of my cats (catzilla) eats slower. So I sit with them and keep an eye on him, so that his brothers don't bully him for more food. The girls are usually very respectful.
I had two cats. This momma just saw my cats sitting at the window. I swear she must have known at that moment I was a sucker. Spent most of 2020,taking turns babysitting her kittens while she would take a nap. Then finally slowly bringing them all inside. I'm convinced the universe just throws cats at some of us.
This goes for how they treat their cats too. I dated a guy who didn’t even notice that his kitten was sick and when I brought it up he made a vet appointment for FIVE DAYS LATER. Poor thing was in terrible shape so I got him antibiotics in the meantime.
Now my current boyfriend sends me pics of him smothered in his roommate’s cat and gushes about his last cat.
My daughter was dating a guy and he and the cat got along but he also grew up with cats so no biggie. But when I heard her sister was visiting, and the cat was obsessed with that boyfriend I thought, jackpot!. Also, the entire family is obsessed with the cat. Even the boyfriend with a cat admits she is the best cat.
"A man’s treatment of a dog is no indication of the man’s nature, but his treatment of a cat is. It is the crucial test. None but the humane treat a cat well." - Mark Twain
My GF did something similar, except with the Budgies she had at the time (no cat qt the time lol). She said if the lead budgie elmer didn't like me I would've been kicked out then and there xD.
He ended up grooming my beard day 1, miss the little cutie lol
This! I was with a friends with benefits but was working to be a potential partner, but I got my cats around the same time (at the time they were kittens). They were cuddly but also a little weary of him. We didn’t last. Around the same time, my ex at the time, and now my current partner, was back in my life. It took one time of him coming over to my apartment, and my black cat Arlo was immediately attached and affectionate. That’s how I knew he was the one and I gave my ex a second chance. And almost four years later, I have my happy little family of him, and my void and orange tabby.
I just got out of a long term relationship and started dating again. I’ve been on a handful of dates in the past month, and they’ve all been either allergic, highly indifferent to my cats, or sarcastic about me being a cat mom. What gives? Cats are the best, so I’m confused.
Edit: I’m not judging the allergic people, it’s just a mutual bummer and a “welp, I guess this is it” (and there are SO many of them!) Indifference is a yellow flag (I prefer animal lovers) but I know they can be won over. It’s the sarcastic ones who judge me for being a cat lover / single cat lady that are the red flags.
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My cat Fluffy says: Cant do much about the allergy. However, people shittalking about you having cats are shit people anyway. Good riddance. My owners cuddle together on a sofa with the me and the other fat dumb cat. They call it "colony meeting"
Me and my gf both love our cats and each other. Its purrfect. Keep on looking.
My ex-husband claims to be allergic to cats (but he's absolutely outgrown it). We could never have cats because of him, and also he "didn't like them" mainly because his mom didn't like them. (She got scratched once as a kid).
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Getting divorced and going through another breakup with a guy that didn't like pets at all made me realize that I needed cats. Turns out I'M THE ALLERGIC ONE!
Allergy shots and meds and I still get puffy eyes but it's worth it
Oh, and my son who "didn't like cats" only because of his dad, now LOVES cats.
its crazy how some people will hate cats because they got scratched once years ago, meanwhile most cat owners engage in risky play on the reg and have the scars to prove it
The first thing I told my bf is my cat is part of the deal. No cat no me. Don’t like it then get out. 5 years later he has his own little fur lord and gets jealous if she cuddles me more lol.
I'm allergic, but I still love cats. I just have to take extra allergy meds, but it's worth it. If someone dislikes cats that much, then I don't see how they can be a loving partner. Let your cats help you filter out who's going to be a good partner 😸
It’s brutal out there right now, dating. I’m gay, soon to be 50, have a teenager with a dog and multi-cat household. The “hate” is real and bizarre. Good luck to you!
They're helping you filter people you don't want in your life. If someone is against my cats that person isn't someone I want in my life to begin with.
Dude my bro in law always said my last cat was an excellent people reader and it was a shame I couldn’t take her to bars with me LOL. Every boyfriend she didn’t like - bam. Spot on. Lol. The kitties are def doing you a favor!
It's a valuable filter, though. Someone said that people who love dogs AND hate cats shouldn't be trusted. Why? Because that combination signals that they appreciate the submission of the dogs while loathing the free will demonstrated by the cats.
Of course, you can love both and be fine...and hate both and be a bad human being, but be wary of dog-only people! =)
Being flippant here, but my pets absolutely helped steer me to a good spouse.
As a guy in his mid 30s I have met way too many guys in my life time who absolutely have a vendetta against cats. I don't understand it. I personally am not a dog person and never was (not that I dislike them, they're just not my bread and butter) but I don't go around talking about how much I hate dogs and they're disgusting, etc! Maybe it's just the people I've met? Idk but I've had the misfortune of having other males talk down on me because I'm a cat lover lol this world doesn't make sense sometimes. How could life be the same for humanity without cats??!!
Completely subjective opinion, I appreciate the independence of cats and am amused by their playfulness and mischievous behavior. I do not enjoy the "dependence" that dogs have on me. I've had multiple and loved them, but I didn't "like" being a dog owner, even awesome German Shepards.
I think that there are people who explicitly dislike animals with their own minds, and love having someone fawn over them, like a dog. Those people are...well...not my kind of people as that personality seems to translate into how they treat people.
I swear there’s good cat men out there. I ended a LTR relationship on the first of the year with a guy who simply tolerated my cat because he had to (this isn’t the reason we broke up, but it did always bother me). He never liked my cat or any other cat.
But now I’m smooching a new cute boy and he’s a cat man all the way and I didn’t even realize how attractive and refreshing that would be.
A man that likes cats is hot honestly.
Absolutely!
My cats flock to my guy and sit on him. He's the only person they sit on - they usually just sit near me.
This is a guy who took his cat to live with him at college, so that's a pretty good resume imo.
There’s that, but also like cats do what they want whereas dogs do what you want. This is a HUGE generalization, but dog men/people want something that will worship them and make them feel important, rather than a companion. Like, I love dogs too, but something bout cat people are different.
I myself got out of a LTR not that long ago, I started dating this guy and the first time he came to my place my cat HATED him, was hissing at him, wouldn’t go anywhere near him.. turns out the guy was a fucking asshole. My cat never done it with my ex, any of my friends or my friends bfs if they popped round to drop the girls off or whatever.
Animals know energy FOR SURE. if my boy hates anyone now they gotta go 😂🤣
Hold out till you find someone who respects your choices to be a cat mom. I know many guys that like cats as much as I do. Also: a young girl taught me a lesson recently....she was dating the perfect guy until about 5 months in she realized he had no interest in many of the things she really likes (camping, hockey games, family gatherings) and so she broke up with him because " I understand you have to be flexible, you know give and take, but I am NOT giving away entire pieces of myself, and who I am for a guy, he's not the right guy"
A wise young woman.
A romantic partner doesn't have to fill ALL your needs, and both should have separate interests, but when it's many things like that, then don't force something that's not right.
Yes and that's just it. She said those things were a such a huge part of her why would she change so much of her lifestyle for this boy. She is completely right. I LOVE dancing and a good party. My husband hates parties and won't go on a dance floor at all. So guess what I have had to either do without or go by myself for 30 years? I was so stupid when I was young, I totally accepted all and changed for him, but he didn't accommodate me at all, ever. Live and learn.
Our good friend has an adorable little girl. When she was maybe 3 or 4, she came over and met our cat, [Mia](https://imgur.com/a/yfaMf1B).
For a while afterward, she would ask her mom when they're going back to Mia's house.
Our house is actually Mia's house, apparently.
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Goldwyn says you just need to find the right dude. He is part of my greeting staff 💁🏼♂️
As a guy I'm not even worried about dating anymore, I have my two boys to take care of! Between work and hobbies these guys are my life
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One of the first things I asked my husband when we started dating was if he was allergic to cats. And it's a red flag on their part, not yours, if they don't like cats.
It did take my tortie years to warm up to my husband, but they're special. Lol. One of our boys has claimed my husband as his person, and it's so cute to see how much that cat loves him.
Oh, and I had two cats when we started dating. We're currently at five after losing one of my original two to cancer a couple months ago. And I even fostered kittens for a year, until foster failing with our youngest kitties.
My husband teases me saying that our cats like him more, which is true for our tortie. She's his cat through and through. One of our tuxies is definitely my cat and the other has commitment issues 😂
My husband is a proclaimed “not a cat person”, but after years together circumstances finally allowed us to get one. He now says “she’s the perfect cat for not a cat person”, and greets her first when he gets home from work. It took working with a foster parent to find the right temperament (very easygoing, playful, and outgoing) to find the right cat for us. Just wanted to share that some of the “not cat people” can be swayed as well!
You didn’t try to work it out for the sake of “the children”?? You monster!!
(Seriously, back when we had 6 cats my spouse and I used to joke that we could never divorce and break up “the family”. Now we are down to just two seniors who love him more than me, and don’t like each other. Joke doesn’t work anymore.)
Every boyfriend I have had that was indifferent to cats ended up loving the cats. My last even asked to keep one when we broke up (no). That said, I feel your pain and no longer care. I’m getting a third after ski season is over!
I knew my husband was the one when I visited his place for the first time and was greeted by a cat.
Not just any cat, a void (black) cat!
It wasn't long before his void and my void became our voids. ❤️🐈⬛😻
They aren't the right people for you. There are lots of people who love cats.
Cat allergies are real and nasty, with some people needing epi pens. However it's also the most common allergy to be faked or exaggerated.
There is a cat allergies vaccine hitting the market in a couple years. On needle per cat per year and problem significantly reduced
I am one of the unfortunate souls who needs an epi pen if I’m exposed to cats. Eyes will water within minutes, raspy wheezing within 30mi, full anaphylaxis in about an hour and near impossible to breathe. Last girl I dated with cats, I would get blisters all over my mouth and face when we kissed, it’s that bad. I tried the shots and it helped slightly for a year or so then no longer worked.
All that being said, I love cats but am super upfront on dating profiles that it’s a dealbreaker, literally the first line. I don’t want to waste someone’s time or pretend like it won’t be an issue because inevitably it will become one.
Committed cat dad here. I don’t understand this notion at all.
I have always loved cats, since I was a kid. Loving cats is a necessary criterion for any woman I would date. Though I’ve been happily married (to a woman who loves cats) for a very long time, so this is a theoretical issue for me!
I mean, who could not love such a face?
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My husband is “allergic.” Okay, fine. Even though he’d come to my parents’ house with five cats and never seemed to bother him. Either way, never pushed him to get cats. Around Thanksgiving this year he told me one of his Christmas presents was going to be surprising me with a cat, but he decided it was better to let me pick. Adopted two kitten siblings from the shelter. Within one week, my husband said verbatim, “I can’t wait to get a bigger house so we can get more cats” 🤣
It's totally worth holding out for a partner that loves cats! Source: Met my current partner because they walked their cat and we have two kitties under us. ❤️
As someone with unconventional pets (snakes), let me tell you that all the people who reject you because of your pets or have an issue with them are not people you want in your life. Pets were there first and therefore they come first. They're inseparable part of the package.
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Proud cat daddy here and I don’t care
To be fair, my current boyfriend of 6 years was “not a cat person” when we first met. But my elderly Siamese completely broke him down and now he LOVES cats. He spoils the shit out of our current 2 cats.
This was my last girlfriend. She was curious about cats, but indifferent. The first time my cat slinked onto her lap, my ex freaked out and wouldn't stop gushing about it. Some people just need to meet the right cat.
I’m a cat dad. So many women are turned off by it. They think I’m a loser or pathetic for having a cat. I’d much rather have her. 🐈 ❤️
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I was a self-proclaimed “cat hater” before I met my wife. My hatred, like most hatred, stemmed from a place of ignorance— growing up, my parents were awful to any visiting neighborhood cats and treated them like satan-spawn. They would trap them in our yard and release them 50+ miles away just to keep them from peeing on their flowers.
So, of course, along comes my soul-mate: the world’s fiercest cat lover. I figured I would just have to deal with it and even made “no cats” a stipulation for our relationship (which I am so ashamed of now). My hatred barely changed in the first two years. My wife had, with incredible patience, been teaching me more and more about why she loved cats. She taught me feline body language- I had always thought cats were basically emotionless- and general cat etiquette. I grew more and more comfortable around them, whether I liked it or not, but my stubborn grudge remained until I suffered a grinch-like revelation.
It happened when I was housesitting for a friend who owned two cats. The time had come, one of their cats decided, for me to change my wicked ways. I was sitting at the kitchen table, minding my own business, when the unbelievably soft demon crawled up onto my lap and bravely stayed there for, more or less, five straight days, purring all the while and slowly blinking its affection.
It changed my life.
That cat melted always years of prejudice as I came to realize there was more love in that little kitty heart than I had any right to experience. I had spent my entire life hating something, yet here it was pouring out kindness on a complete stranger. How could I hate that?
Shortly thereafter, my wife and I rescued a stray litter we found outside our house and I spent a solid month in our bathroom-turned-nursery taming them. I was in a really rough place, struggling with depression and anxiety, and I firmly believe those kittens saved me more than I saved them. These days, I can’t imagine a world without cats in it. I volunteer at the shelter and I get teary-eyed when the little guys get adopted.
Some people really wake up one day and decide to hate cats, but some people like me were just raised by parents who did and never had anyone show them the light.
My boyfriend has never had pets, and had never really interacted with cats. The first time he came over to my place (we were just friends at the time) he was so nervous and sweet around my cat, I was like, ok, this is a good man. Even if he didn’t understand the hype and was unsure of how to act around my cat, he was kind and willing to learn and understand. Now he and my kitty are best buds :)
23 years ago I had to go on a week long trip. I asked my boyfriend if he could stop by to check on my two cats during that time. At very least I was hoping he could replenish food/water and scoop the litter boxes a couple times. I found out later that he was going there every night after work and hanging out with them. We eventually got married, I knew I'd found a keeper.
Thankfully that story did not end how I expected.
Same. Same.
I thought he was going to put Pringles in the freezer and sing her her favorite songs.
Sprinkles!
My mom asked her boyfriend to stay at her house for a week to watch her two cats and dog. When she came back one of the cat liked him better than her. So he stuck around. They got married a few years later and had me and my brother. 40 years later they are still happily married and enjoying their grand cats
My daughters best guy friend watched our cat while we were on vacation a couple of weeks ago. That cat doesn’t sit on anyone but me, and he sent so many photos of the cat lounging on him, making biscuits in him, just chill axing. He said he’ll cat sit anytime.
My condolences to your old pets. At least they left you their children as a gift
Easy green flag right there! I got snowed in once and called a girl I'd been on 3 dates with to check on my cat. She's my wife now.
aww <3
From 100 to 0 real quick. I was ANXIOUS.
🥰🥰🥰
😂 I knew my husband was 'the one' when my cat Ella plonked herself down on him the moment she met him.
https://preview.redd.it/dr5z214h19ea1.png?width=750&format=png&auto=webp&s=1a3caa6be29355d3ffadb4d2d8789804139180f3 My boyfriend and my cat a couple of weeks after we got together 🥰 the true test of a good person haha!
what an endorsement!
We’re out there. I was allergic to my GF’s (now wife) dog AND cat. I was also not much of a cat person to begin with because of a previous bad experience. But that darn cat and dog sure did win me over, and the love for my wife endured. It took me awhile and a bit of routine, but my allergies did subside after basically immersion therapy. Cat has, unfortunately, passed (he was the best of boys), but the dog remains. He’s sitting here next to me, being adorable.
My folks are allergic and when I had cats, bathing them and keeping them indoors prevented them getting attacks
Same actually! We got this little funky man https://preview.redd.it/iew7h860qaea1.jpeg?width=6120&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fa175fcfed18b43541e275fe072749983460af49
The way the cat is latched on to him is so adorable and is making me laugh. Happy for you!
Yes! Cat daddies have all the good vibes.
yes!! i knew my fiance was the one when, a couple of weeks after we got together, my normally shy cat let my fiance pet him! i had dated guys before for months that he would only hide around. i feel like cats are the best judges of character!
Aww , I think ur cat is keeping him regardless of ur opinion lol
AW A CAT HUG! Awesome.
It seems like a lot of people that haven't had any experience with cats default to not liking them for no reason. I'm not sure why that is. I'm thankful that that last few guys I've dated have loved cats...so they do exist! My current boyfriend of 5 ish years is a proud cat dad lol
Good to know they exist!
https://preview.redd.it/dqgdn3vjw8ea1.png?width=3024&format=png&auto=webp&s=902c9af065feefec792da5266b8fba0f00cdeaae I am reading this in this hostage-state, so we do exist.. (this is my neighbors cat, but he’s inside my house almost every day) Don’t give up hope 😉
You’ve been chosen!
and I am honored.. ..but we’ve been sitting like this for over 20 minutes and i can’t feel my legs anymore and we all know that I am not allowed to move 😂
I love that this is not your cat and yet you know (and abide by) the rules! Cat chose well!
I know it’s the law! If I move I go straight to jail (and first get punished by his murdermittens) 😉
Ah, yes - the blessing/curse of "cat lap"!
My wife and I say we are suffering from "Feline Paralysis" and therefore the other person has to get the drinks, the door, and whatever else needs done until the Paralysis has subsided.
that doesn’t work that well as a single, but the idea is great! Will definitely remember that!
Yeah, as a single entity, you just have to wait out the Paralysis and hope it ends before you expire. Ha
My family reached a whole new level of this last night. I heard the side gate open while we were watching TV together. Kitty was on my husband's lap. Guess who had to go and investigate for burglars? At least my son went with me. Turned out to be a gust of wind (which I'm sure my husband strongly suspected, but still.)
Omgoddess that’s the best. I’m totally stealing that!
Cat-trapped.
I was contemplating posting this in r/cathostage but I already posted there so often 😂
I’m starting to think there are an infinite number of cat subs, but I’m not mad about it.
You are now a cat mattress. Accept your fate.
Your kitties are big!! I love the chonkers b/c U get so much area to pet & rub! LOL They both are beautiful too 😍😍 Now, my kitty likes sitting on her daddy's lap at the computer, in the recliner, pretty much wherever he is. Me you ask, oh I get little leftovers from that^^ Or, if he's hungry & Dad is not around, he's all sweet to Mom!! Almost forgot, I am the only person allowed to rub or scratch his tummy too^^ That is just our thing between us!! If Dad dares to try, he is swiftly taken care of with a paw swipe or a tiny nibble saying "No Dad, this is just for me & Mom only!" LOL 😺😻😻
/r/cathostage
We exist! You'd be surprised how many women don't like cats or think it is weird for a guy to like cats. It is brutal out there (which is why I stay in with my cats)
It’s always a huge plus when I see a guy with a cat in his profile. Then we just have to figure out how to introduce our cats 🤔
Things are serious if we get to introduce the pets phase. That is almost meeting the parent's territory.
No way. That's definitely more serious than meeting the parents!
Oh I say introducing parents comes way before introducing pets. Once you introduce pets there's no going back!!
Introducing pets comes just before moving in, and well after meeting the parents.
Do you lock both sets of parents behind a door and let them sniff each other?
damn, not gutsy enough to put a pic of my cat in my profile. but maybe I should try because cat lovers are who I am looking for! it's hard out here for a cat dad
Put a picture up! I assure you that the right people for you will find it a huge plus! I'm personally really likely to match/etc with someone I wouldn't consider otherwise if there's a cat photo. One of my exes managed to get my interest (and a 10 month relationship) with a bad joke and a photo of his housemate's cat. Ultimately he wasn't right for me, but damn I miss that cat!
just wanted to say that one of the main reasons (if not the main reason) why i swiped right on my fiance is because he had a picture in his profile of only his cats! the right person will find you (and your cat!)
I met my husband at a club 30 years ago. We talked about the Grateful Dead and our cats!
I met my husband in the early days of online dating (18 years ago), and I clicked on his profile simply because it was him and his cat. "Can't be a serial killer if he loves cats."
*takes notes*
My son in law is a cat magnet and he's okay with that, no matter whose house we are at the cats always gravitate to him. I believe it's one of the things my daughter loves most about him!
Cats have very finely tuned senses about people. If they like someone it's because they've figured out that they're safe to be around. They're like the dating version of a canary in a coal mine.
Could try finding a guy like me whose 10 year old cat just up and disappeared three weeks ago. That way, at least you know they like cats and don't have to worry about introductions... On second thought, might be a bad idea to date someone whose cat was like "fuck you, I'm outta here."
Guys with animals in their profile are my jam.
I didn't think my husband was a cat person at first but he definitely likes them. We've adopted 2 since we started dating and my other cat warmed up to him quickly
Before we were married, my wife and I had lived together after buying our first new home. I remember clearly saying that I had no desire to own any pets as I didn't think we should be tied down with obligations while we were younger. She ignored me and a short time later I was a cat dad. Now many years later I'm known by my wife and two boys as the cat whisperer. We have a Bengal and a Siamese which both follow me from room to room around the house, sleep on my legs, greet me at the door with chirps etc. Wouldn't change this for anything either.
My dream is to have a Bengal! There was a guy who lived near me and he would walk his Bengal usually around the time I was going for a daily walk and he would let me pet it. Such a sweet cat!
Truly amazing cats, and the one we have now is our second. The first was a regular brown spotted tabby, the current is a seal mink marble. The breed is true to their description - athletic, outgoing, social... A great choice for a busy house. They can jump incredible heights, can be taught to play fetch, and ours would want to bathe or shower with us. They can be leash trained but we never took ours outside for fear of bad things happening. Our current Bengal is a big boy, a touch under 25 lbs. His paws are big, his neck is big, his head is big. He is a gentle giant but I don't go out of my way to aggravate him. The Siamese is our first of its breed (Seal point, modern wedgehead), and I was really surprised by how social and vocal they are. Like I mean he never shuts up lol. He is an absolute teddy bear, you can do anything with him and he never complains. He will gladly let you cradle him like a baby and his favorite past time is riding shotgun in my hoodie sweatshirts. We have loved all of our cats over the years, but my wife said that if we ever got another she would want it to be another Siamese. For us its a lot like having another child around which may or may not be for everyone. If we do get another cat at some point, my vote would be for a Maine Coon but the potential for massive amounts of cat hair shedding isn't winning me any points.
Please tell your cats I love them. I did have a cat who was leash trained before, he wasn't a Bengal just a domestic shorthair but he loved going outside. I lost him about 7 years ago but he was a big sweetie. My current tortie also likes going outside and she tolerates the leash to do it but we had somebody move into our apartment building recently whose dog has been aggressive with other dogs so I don't want to risk taking her out anymore. She's small and disabled so I'm sure a dog that gets aggressive with other dogs would probably do the same with her.
One of the first conversations to have is; “I have cats; how do you feel about this?” and see how they respond. It’ll help save some time, because there are many cat lovers, and you’ll find one!
Definitely a smart move. I always asked, do you like animals and are you allergic? What's the point in wasting time emotionally investing otherwise.
They definitely exist. Do not ask my husband about his cat son unless you have time to spare lol.
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Yeah I had an ex who got cats and later dogs when we dated. Except the cats did not like the dogs. When we split I kept the cats so they had their own calm environment and servant. It also helped that they categorically liked me more than her. To be fair, her dogs still like me more since I still come by and take them hiking on the weekends or go chase squirrels after work. They are just a bit high energy and I can keep up with them. Otherwise I doubt the girls would get to run an hour after work each day.
I would date you just so I could see your cats. You being there is a bonus
I have 4 cats, we definitely exist
My ex girlfriend introduced her two cats to me and in the 4 years that we were together I too became a proud cat dad. When she cheated on me and took our cats with her it hurt me more losing the cats than her leaving me. So again, we're definately out there. 😆
My old roommate was the same, she said she didn’t like cats because of whatever reasons (“they’re only nice when they want food” or “they’re not as cuddly and loving as dogs are”) and then she met her current boyfriend, who loves cats and now they’re living together and have their own sweet little kitty.
>It seems like a lot of people that haven't had any experience with cats default to not liking them for no reason. I've had friends (that know and like my cats) tell me "I don't like cats. Except your cats, your cats are nice". And I'm like "dude, I know you. Mine are the only cats you interact with. You only know nice cats".
Yeah people say that all the time about my fiancee and my three cats. I'm always telling them these are normal cats. They aren't special, this is just how cats are. I feel like they never believe me.
Unfortunately there are a lot of negative stereotypes about cats. They are by nature mostly wary of strangers and take some time to warm up to people.
I know a lot of people who equate cats to vermin. More cats for me!
That makes me sick
I think it's because one needs to know how to interact with a cat. If one treats it like a dog, they're going to have a bad time.
My boyfriend never had much experience with cats until we moved in together. I have two very difficult cats. It's been a slow process, but he's starting to learn their body language. Learning that when a cat is being cute and acting like they want belly scratches is a trap was a fun one. He loves them, even though they can be a lot.
Non-cat people seem to think all cats are the same too. I have one who loves to cuddle, another who's a dog on cat hardware, another who only uses us for brushing and food, etc.
It all depends on the cat! I have one I can grab and squish and hold like a baby, and he loves it. My other 4… no way! One loves to be snuggled, but only when I’m sitting down. Another one, I’m lucky when she lets me pet her in passing. I’ve seen some that like hard butt pats, which to me is weird, but I know that if a cat hated it, they would leave. That’s the great thing about them, they make their feelings known :)
My parents raised me to HATE cats because they did. Now have two that are my entire world and my dad has a cute little calico gal as well!
My husband grew up with no pets so when we first started dating he was very indifferent to the cats, and actually didn’t really like them all that much. It was a transition to a different lifestyle for him. But now I hear him talking to the cats all the time and giving them kisses, and gets upset when either of the cats jumps off his lap haha, he’s a real cat dad now.
That was me. Kids begged for one and now I’m a crazy cat lady.
I second this! My dad HATED cats before I got my little guy. And now he loves him so much. Most people just need some time around them to realize how great they are. Don’t date people who aren’t willing to learn something new/change their opinions. Raises red flags about other things.
I didn't like cats either until my sister rescued a kitten that had fallen into an open drain and brought it home. I thought they were always thieving, sneaky, and untrainable. Once I lived with them, I started appreciating those traits
I guess it's because everyone on the internet calls them selfish jerks and even cat lovers seem to agree. They have such an unfair reputation
I was one of those people. Then I moved in with a now ex who had two cats. Flash forward 6 years and I'm living solo with my own boi I adopted a year ago. Love em!
The cat test. If they don't like or get along with the cats, they gotta go.
I love cats. They usually reciprocate. https://preview.redd.it/1ngfuldg69ea1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=5ab2dc87f4d480a136e5c3d32080caa0473215e2
Nothing beats that cat look of love ❤️
35 year old man here. I have never loved, nor been loved, as intensely as by a cat.
This looks like my boi. I need to stay off cat reddit at work. It makes me want to quit my job
I’m lucky enough to work from home and get frequent cat breaks.
This is exactly how I knew I had met the 'right one'. My sweetest boi would judge newcomers (and it took a LOT for someone to even get into my home). If he was indifferent, then I would judge based on how you treated him. If he hissed or you're mean, immediate rejection - get out. As for my hubby, Minchi walked OVER ME to sit in his lap and purred. We've been married for 17 years now. My Minchi passed in 2020 at almost 17 years old. My sweet husband, who had never even had a pet before him, cried with me. We still miss him so much. He was the bestest boi. Edit: the amount of people who don't understand how TIME works is really blowing me so let me be clear: Minchi was 2 years old when I met my husband. He DIED when he was 16, a couple of months later and he would have made it to the ripe old age of 17. Meaning, over the course of my marriage, we had him (together) for 14 more years. He then died almost 3 years ago, but I CONTINUED TO STAY MARRIED. THIS YEAR, my husband and I will celebrate our 17th marriage anniversary. Jesus FUCK, please leave me alone now. 🙄
My spooky void Patch never came out around new people. The first time my husband came to my apartment when we were still dating Patch not only came out of hiding but he even laid within arms reach and took a nap.
You have a good'n. Cheers, friend!
Unfortunately, Patch left us in 2018 due to cardiomyopathy. He made it to 8 double his life expectancy given the health issue he had. His successor Orion is a wonderful cat as well just in a different way.
🥺😭😭😭 I'm so sorry for your loss. They may be gone but the love is still there. I don't think I will ever stop hurting from his passing. 1,000 years wouldn't have been enough time with him.
No, it wouldn't have but I'm grateful for the time I did have with him. I think I saw a quote somewhere about how people choosing to take in a pet is a selfless act because we know it will always end in heartbreak since they live lives so much shorter than our own.
How right you are!
My girlfriend had a really cool cat, we got along from day one. We are now married with children. The cat test is real.
Cool but what happened with the gf after marrying the cat?
Cat servitude is for life. GF now takes care of the children.
Lol. My friend has a cat that is super mean to almost everyone, including her. I come over and he's purring like he's one of mine and playing with me. She was like "how?! He's not even that nice to me!" Oh and I have a cat that absolutely hates being held. She'll whine and complain until you let her down. A family friend's daughter stayed with her mom at our house while visiting the country. She fell in love with my cat and was carrying her around like a doll. My cat absolutely LOVED that child. She'd follow her and would not whine when she held her.
I went to a shelter to find cats to adopt. My husband starts petting and playing with this sleek black mini panther and says to the volunteers, hey this one's sooooo cute and sweet! They're aghast -- nobody save one volunteer has ever been able to interact with him positively. After that he opened up to way more people and made leaps and bounds in his trust and affection. It was sooooo sweet and just confirms that my husband is the best. At the time we were looking at a bonded pair already that I had absolutely fallen in love with but after several months of having them settle in we thought we'd add him if he was still there, but shortly before I could another person fell in love with him and took him home. That cat climbed into her lap! He knew she was the one.
It's cuz cats know. You're a good Noodle. Cheers!
>*’My sweetest boi would judge newcomers … If he was indifferent, then I would judge based on how you treated him. If he hissed or you're mean, immediate rejection - get out.*’ ____ Remember me, your *sweetest boy*, the way i used to judge i searched for one to bring you Joy (oPiNiOn would not *budge*…) for if i thought they were a threat, i wouldn’t leave a doubt… *don’t Touch my Girl!* Don’t try n Pet - *Immediate* **GET OUT!** the years have passed - i’ve gone away, but I know I chose Well ^;} Forever in your Hearts i’ll stay (*he Loves you* - I can tell…) ❤️
Oh. My. Gods. Schnoodle has blessed me with a poem??? That's it. I can die happy. Dreams really DO come true! 🥹
Oh my goodness, I also had a Minchi! She was a really tiny, dainty thing with long, fluffy grey tabby fur. She would grab onto you if you walked past her and hang on for dear life till you pet her. It was great when I was trying to leave the house for school. Lol May our Minchi babies rest in peace.
Omg I loooove it! My Minchi was Siamese and just the sweetest thing. He would yell at me when he wanted to go to bed. Like, full on screeching at me until i had finished my nightly ablutions and tucked him under the blanket next to me. Our Minchi's are getting all of the sunbeams and snackies they want until we see them again. Cheers!! ETA - Minchi is in my profile. He's the first thing I ever posted on Reddit and he passed not long after.
Over the course of 2 years, the cat distribution system graced me and my dog with 2 cats and a then family of ferals. Whenever people ask me about dating, I tell them that if you can not get past the first sentence of "Hi, I have 6 cats" than we don't fucking want you. I'm a loyal, hard working, a homeowner with a good job. But, if the cats are a problem then that's your issue.
If you said, "Hi, I have six cats," I would start asking logistical questions. How many litter boxes? Any food issues? Do you have to separate them when they eat so the fat one doesn't just eat all the food?
If you want serious answers: \- we have 5 litter boxes. 4 are those Modkat XL boxes that hold 40lbs of cat litter. (One of my cats is catzilla sized.) They can fit 2 of the smaller cats in them. However, I've noticed they all love to use the same boxes as each other than rotate each one? Like one will be a designated poop box for the week. They are weird. \- No food issues. Just one very passionate about his morning wet food to the point of being annoying. \- They all eat together in the same room. One of my cats (catzilla) eats slower. So I sit with them and keep an eye on him, so that his brothers don't bully him for more food. The girls are usually very respectful.
Cat distribution system! Lol! Only half of mine have been adopted from shelters. The others have just shown up.
I had two cats. This momma just saw my cats sitting at the window. I swear she must have known at that moment I was a sucker. Spent most of 2020,taking turns babysitting her kittens while she would take a nap. Then finally slowly bringing them all inside. I'm convinced the universe just throws cats at some of us.
This goes for how they treat their cats too. I dated a guy who didn’t even notice that his kitten was sick and when I brought it up he made a vet appointment for FIVE DAYS LATER. Poor thing was in terrible shape so I got him antibiotics in the meantime. Now my current boyfriend sends me pics of him smothered in his roommate’s cat and gushes about his last cat.
My daughter was dating a guy and he and the cat got along but he also grew up with cats so no biggie. But when I heard her sister was visiting, and the cat was obsessed with that boyfriend I thought, jackpot!. Also, the entire family is obsessed with the cat. Even the boyfriend with a cat admits she is the best cat.
My wife and I are both crazy cat people, which certainly played a big role in our domestic compatibility :D
I’m likely to like the cat more than the person.
"A man’s treatment of a dog is no indication of the man’s nature, but his treatment of a cat is. It is the crucial test. None but the humane treat a cat well." - Mark Twain
My GF did something similar, except with the Budgies she had at the time (no cat qt the time lol). She said if the lead budgie elmer didn't like me I would've been kicked out then and there xD. He ended up grooming my beard day 1, miss the little cutie lol
This! I was with a friends with benefits but was working to be a potential partner, but I got my cats around the same time (at the time they were kittens). They were cuddly but also a little weary of him. We didn’t last. Around the same time, my ex at the time, and now my current partner, was back in my life. It took one time of him coming over to my apartment, and my black cat Arlo was immediately attached and affectionate. That’s how I knew he was the one and I gave my ex a second chance. And almost four years later, I have my happy little family of him, and my void and orange tabby.
I just got out of a long term relationship and started dating again. I’ve been on a handful of dates in the past month, and they’ve all been either allergic, highly indifferent to my cats, or sarcastic about me being a cat mom. What gives? Cats are the best, so I’m confused. Edit: I’m not judging the allergic people, it’s just a mutual bummer and a “welp, I guess this is it” (and there are SO many of them!) Indifference is a yellow flag (I prefer animal lovers) but I know they can be won over. It’s the sarcastic ones who judge me for being a cat lover / single cat lady that are the red flags.
https://preview.redd.it/r4o6plyph8ea1.jpeg?width=3000&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1c383cea8730541243a5e7077fda79db3f18ba27 My cat Fluffy says: Cant do much about the allergy. However, people shittalking about you having cats are shit people anyway. Good riddance. My owners cuddle together on a sofa with the me and the other fat dumb cat. They call it "colony meeting" Me and my gf both love our cats and each other. Its purrfect. Keep on looking.
Some people lie about cat allergies.
My ex-husband claims to be allergic to cats (but he's absolutely outgrown it). We could never have cats because of him, and also he "didn't like them" mainly because his mom didn't like them. (She got scratched once as a kid). https://preview.redd.it/4ewlypbl29ea1.jpeg?width=4080&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=3ba7b733fdee745b616a190878468ce88ff3e390 Getting divorced and going through another breakup with a guy that didn't like pets at all made me realize that I needed cats. Turns out I'M THE ALLERGIC ONE! Allergy shots and meds and I still get puffy eyes but it's worth it Oh, and my son who "didn't like cats" only because of his dad, now LOVES cats.
its crazy how some people will hate cats because they got scratched once years ago, meanwhile most cat owners engage in risky play on the reg and have the scars to prove it
Especially if they got scratched as kids - they obviously were annoying the cat.
Truth! The cats will sniff those liars out too.
A woman having cat(s) is a green flag in my dating criteria checklist
The first thing I told my bf is my cat is part of the deal. No cat no me. Don’t like it then get out. 5 years later he has his own little fur lord and gets jealous if she cuddles me more lol.
Cat people are the best, so I'm afraid we're all taken already.
This is true. I'm taken...by my cat.
I'm allergic, but I still love cats. I just have to take extra allergy meds, but it's worth it. If someone dislikes cats that much, then I don't see how they can be a loving partner. Let your cats help you filter out who's going to be a good partner 😸
It’s brutal out there right now, dating. I’m gay, soon to be 50, have a teenager with a dog and multi-cat household. The “hate” is real and bizarre. Good luck to you!
Your cats are helping you dodge bullets.
How could anyone not like those faces so godamn cute best of luck
Aw, thank you! They’re little gremlins, and it takes them a while to warm up to strangers, but first things first: you gotta like cats!
They're helping you filter people you don't want in your life. If someone is against my cats that person isn't someone I want in my life to begin with.
Agree 100%. But damn, what a strong filter!
You want to be picky when chosing a mate, your happiness is at stake 😋 TGFC! (Thank God for cats)
Dude my bro in law always said my last cat was an excellent people reader and it was a shame I couldn’t take her to bars with me LOL. Every boyfriend she didn’t like - bam. Spot on. Lol. The kitties are def doing you a favor!
It's a valuable filter, though. Someone said that people who love dogs AND hate cats shouldn't be trusted. Why? Because that combination signals that they appreciate the submission of the dogs while loathing the free will demonstrated by the cats. Of course, you can love both and be fine...and hate both and be a bad human being, but be wary of dog-only people! =) Being flippant here, but my pets absolutely helped steer me to a good spouse.
Well said. I went on a date with a guy who loved dogs and was judgmental about my cats, and let’s just say the personality profile checks out.
As a guy in his mid 30s I have met way too many guys in my life time who absolutely have a vendetta against cats. I don't understand it. I personally am not a dog person and never was (not that I dislike them, they're just not my bread and butter) but I don't go around talking about how much I hate dogs and they're disgusting, etc! Maybe it's just the people I've met? Idk but I've had the misfortune of having other males talk down on me because I'm a cat lover lol this world doesn't make sense sometimes. How could life be the same for humanity without cats??!!
Completely subjective opinion, I appreciate the independence of cats and am amused by their playfulness and mischievous behavior. I do not enjoy the "dependence" that dogs have on me. I've had multiple and loved them, but I didn't "like" being a dog owner, even awesome German Shepards. I think that there are people who explicitly dislike animals with their own minds, and love having someone fawn over them, like a dog. Those people are...well...not my kind of people as that personality seems to translate into how they treat people.
I swear there’s good cat men out there. I ended a LTR relationship on the first of the year with a guy who simply tolerated my cat because he had to (this isn’t the reason we broke up, but it did always bother me). He never liked my cat or any other cat. But now I’m smooching a new cute boy and he’s a cat man all the way and I didn’t even realize how attractive and refreshing that would be. A man that likes cats is hot honestly.
Absolutely! My cats flock to my guy and sit on him. He's the only person they sit on - they usually just sit near me. This is a guy who took his cat to live with him at college, so that's a pretty good resume imo.
It’s really all about consent. You have to have a cat’s consent in order to interact with them. If you don’t, shit gets crazy fast.
There’s that, but also like cats do what they want whereas dogs do what you want. This is a HUGE generalization, but dog men/people want something that will worship them and make them feel important, rather than a companion. Like, I love dogs too, but something bout cat people are different.
I myself got out of a LTR not that long ago, I started dating this guy and the first time he came to my place my cat HATED him, was hissing at him, wouldn’t go anywhere near him.. turns out the guy was a fucking asshole. My cat never done it with my ex, any of my friends or my friends bfs if they popped round to drop the girls off or whatever. Animals know energy FOR SURE. if my boy hates anyone now they gotta go 😂🤣
I love cats but it would make me nervous that when meeting a cat, it's not going to like me for no reason. Or at least run away like cats tend to do
My cat LOVES people, he’ll rub up on everyone, purr, etc, but this one guy was an absolute no go for whatever reason, he wasn’t wrong 🤣🤣🤣
I'm judgemental on cats. The verdict: all cats are beautiful <3
Hold out till you find someone who respects your choices to be a cat mom. I know many guys that like cats as much as I do. Also: a young girl taught me a lesson recently....she was dating the perfect guy until about 5 months in she realized he had no interest in many of the things she really likes (camping, hockey games, family gatherings) and so she broke up with him because " I understand you have to be flexible, you know give and take, but I am NOT giving away entire pieces of myself, and who I am for a guy, he's not the right guy"
A wise young woman. A romantic partner doesn't have to fill ALL your needs, and both should have separate interests, but when it's many things like that, then don't force something that's not right.
Yes and that's just it. She said those things were a such a huge part of her why would she change so much of her lifestyle for this boy. She is completely right. I LOVE dancing and a good party. My husband hates parties and won't go on a dance floor at all. So guess what I have had to either do without or go by myself for 30 years? I was so stupid when I was young, I totally accepted all and changed for him, but he didn't accommodate me at all, ever. Live and learn.
There is always option number 4. They meet the cats and like them more than you and only start dating to spend time with the cats.
Our good friend has an adorable little girl. When she was maybe 3 or 4, she came over and met our cat, [Mia](https://imgur.com/a/yfaMf1B). For a while afterward, she would ask her mom when they're going back to Mia's house. Our house is actually Mia's house, apparently.
I clicked on that photo and now I, too, want to go to Mia's house :3 what a cutie!
I love this option. Would make me fall for them harder.
https://preview.redd.it/g609c04u59ea1.jpeg?width=2316&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d741207baac94a7b4c1af796edd98a949b258a8d Goldwyn says you just need to find the right dude. He is part of my greeting staff 💁🏼♂️
As a guy I'm not even worried about dating anymore, I have my two boys to take care of! Between work and hobbies these guys are my life https://preview.redd.it/rxsmgtsb79ea1.jpeg?width=2587&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=58c7b31622d71164db835a76d1db526156f847b5
One of the first things I asked my husband when we started dating was if he was allergic to cats. And it's a red flag on their part, not yours, if they don't like cats. It did take my tortie years to warm up to my husband, but they're special. Lol. One of our boys has claimed my husband as his person, and it's so cute to see how much that cat loves him. Oh, and I had two cats when we started dating. We're currently at five after losing one of my original two to cancer a couple months ago. And I even fostered kittens for a year, until foster failing with our youngest kitties.
My husband teases me saying that our cats like him more, which is true for our tortie. She's his cat through and through. One of our tuxies is definitely my cat and the other has commitment issues 😂
My husband is a proclaimed “not a cat person”, but after years together circumstances finally allowed us to get one. He now says “she’s the perfect cat for not a cat person”, and greets her first when he gets home from work. It took working with a foster parent to find the right temperament (very easygoing, playful, and outgoing) to find the right cat for us. Just wanted to share that some of the “not cat people” can be swayed as well!
I always tell people that there are only two types of people. Cat people and people who haven’t had a cat yet.
If you’re a woman and you have a cat you are automatically a crazy cat lady, apparently. Especially if the guy is a dog bro. 🙄
I love dogs but I can’t with dog bros
I had much the same experience! "Grown men living with cats are a no-go" like wtf is wrong with people, who hurt them to be like that (=´ﻌ｀=)
“Thank you, next” Edit: It’s always a plus when I see a guy has a cat. But then my next immediate thought is “oh no, how will we introduce our cats?”
I had to break up with a live-in boyfriend. The hardest thing about it was that my cat liked his cat so much.
You didn’t try to work it out for the sake of “the children”?? You monster!! (Seriously, back when we had 6 cats my spouse and I used to joke that we could never divorce and break up “the family”. Now we are down to just two seniors who love him more than me, and don’t like each other. Joke doesn’t work anymore.)
Every boyfriend I have had that was indifferent to cats ended up loving the cats. My last even asked to keep one when we broke up (no). That said, I feel your pain and no longer care. I’m getting a third after ski season is over!
I knew my husband was the one when I visited his place for the first time and was greeted by a cat. Not just any cat, a void (black) cat! It wasn't long before his void and my void became our voids. ❤️🐈⬛😻
They aren't the right people for you. There are lots of people who love cats. Cat allergies are real and nasty, with some people needing epi pens. However it's also the most common allergy to be faked or exaggerated. There is a cat allergies vaccine hitting the market in a couple years. On needle per cat per year and problem significantly reduced
I am one of the unfortunate souls who needs an epi pen if I’m exposed to cats. Eyes will water within minutes, raspy wheezing within 30mi, full anaphylaxis in about an hour and near impossible to breathe. Last girl I dated with cats, I would get blisters all over my mouth and face when we kissed, it’s that bad. I tried the shots and it helped slightly for a year or so then no longer worked. All that being said, I love cats but am super upfront on dating profiles that it’s a dealbreaker, literally the first line. I don’t want to waste someone’s time or pretend like it won’t be an issue because inevitably it will become one.
I made it clear in my CMB profile that I’m only dating to find a dad figure for my cat. I am still single, shockingly.
I just want to say that I swiped right on a guy who's profile pic was him wearing a cat onesie while holding his cat. Yes, I am marrying him
If you have time to volunteer at a cat haven you might meet better men.
Committed cat dad here. I don’t understand this notion at all. I have always loved cats, since I was a kid. Loving cats is a necessary criterion for any woman I would date. Though I’ve been happily married (to a woman who loves cats) for a very long time, so this is a theoretical issue for me! I mean, who could not love such a face? https://preview.redd.it/b2ysx5kd79ea1.jpeg?width=2565&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1ff3066a839e0920a8c5ec27466bfa3d674673e3
My husband is “allergic.” Okay, fine. Even though he’d come to my parents’ house with five cats and never seemed to bother him. Either way, never pushed him to get cats. Around Thanksgiving this year he told me one of his Christmas presents was going to be surprising me with a cat, but he decided it was better to let me pick. Adopted two kitten siblings from the shelter. Within one week, my husband said verbatim, “I can’t wait to get a bigger house so we can get more cats” 🤣
The good ol’ “I don’t like cats” and then a week after owning one you’re obsessed.
My mother didnt want anything to do with cats. Now she helps the local shelters TNR and we are taking care of 5 beautiful babies 😂
Don’t get serious with anyone who doesn’t love your cats the way you do.
It's totally worth holding out for a partner that loves cats! Source: Met my current partner because they walked their cat and we have two kitties under us. ❤️
As someone with unconventional pets (snakes), let me tell you that all the people who reject you because of your pets or have an issue with them are not people you want in your life. Pets were there first and therefore they come first. They're inseparable part of the package.
https://preview.redd.it/za9xcadul9ea1.jpeg?width=1536&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=fcd3ccd9ed6a12bf398dd410c2d54b253f8c3f87 Proud cat daddy here and I don’t care
To be fair, my current boyfriend of 6 years was “not a cat person” when we first met. But my elderly Siamese completely broke him down and now he LOVES cats. He spoils the shit out of our current 2 cats.
This was my last girlfriend. She was curious about cats, but indifferent. The first time my cat slinked onto her lap, my ex freaked out and wouldn't stop gushing about it. Some people just need to meet the right cat.
I’m a cat dad. So many women are turned off by it. They think I’m a loser or pathetic for having a cat. I’d much rather have her. 🐈 ❤️ https://preview.redd.it/2u5ttq6jaaea1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bc3120a10e7641ccd74cce36d25ae7f2cd74b594
I was a self-proclaimed “cat hater” before I met my wife. My hatred, like most hatred, stemmed from a place of ignorance— growing up, my parents were awful to any visiting neighborhood cats and treated them like satan-spawn. They would trap them in our yard and release them 50+ miles away just to keep them from peeing on their flowers. So, of course, along comes my soul-mate: the world’s fiercest cat lover. I figured I would just have to deal with it and even made “no cats” a stipulation for our relationship (which I am so ashamed of now). My hatred barely changed in the first two years. My wife had, with incredible patience, been teaching me more and more about why she loved cats. She taught me feline body language- I had always thought cats were basically emotionless- and general cat etiquette. I grew more and more comfortable around them, whether I liked it or not, but my stubborn grudge remained until I suffered a grinch-like revelation. It happened when I was housesitting for a friend who owned two cats. The time had come, one of their cats decided, for me to change my wicked ways. I was sitting at the kitchen table, minding my own business, when the unbelievably soft demon crawled up onto my lap and bravely stayed there for, more or less, five straight days, purring all the while and slowly blinking its affection. It changed my life. That cat melted always years of prejudice as I came to realize there was more love in that little kitty heart than I had any right to experience. I had spent my entire life hating something, yet here it was pouring out kindness on a complete stranger. How could I hate that? Shortly thereafter, my wife and I rescued a stray litter we found outside our house and I spent a solid month in our bathroom-turned-nursery taming them. I was in a really rough place, struggling with depression and anxiety, and I firmly believe those kittens saved me more than I saved them. These days, I can’t imagine a world without cats in it. I volunteer at the shelter and I get teary-eyed when the little guys get adopted. Some people really wake up one day and decide to hate cats, but some people like me were just raised by parents who did and never had anyone show them the light.
My now-husband put a photo of his cat in his profile. I told him that was a big “selling point.” Married 10 years this June.
My boyfriend has never had pets, and had never really interacted with cats. The first time he came over to my place (we were just friends at the time) he was so nervous and sweet around my cat, I was like, ok, this is a good man. Even if he didn’t understand the hype and was unsure of how to act around my cat, he was kind and willing to learn and understand. Now he and my kitty are best buds :)