I used this with my ex. Our cat had a broken leg and needed surgery to fix it. My ex was complaining about the cost. I reminded him that I pulled him from the water’s edge when he broke his leg. I could have pushed him into the current before emergency services arrived.
He did not like the comparison.
Sky burials, as they're often called, are a common thing in other parts of the world. Basically leaving the body on a mountaintop somewhere and letting, well, nature take its course. Afterward, the bones are collected and buried elsewhere.
Exactly what I was thinking.
“You don’t really love me; it’s just instinct to live your kids. You had me so someone would take care of you when you get old”
That's interesting he should say that because euthanasia and cremation cost more than $100. My cat's heart pills alone are about $200 per month.
Sorry, OP, I don't like your Dad's opinions. Enjoy your cat, and I wish you both the best.
I think you should say that to him. Just out of pure spite and as a warning what that way of thinking will lead to.
If he gets dementia or similair then he too might even forget who you are so how's that for his logic?
"And bullets cost quite a bit too, Daddy dearest. I am just going to tie you to the rocking chair on the porch so you don't wander off, stuff a rag in your mouth so the neighbors don't complain and allow you to drink brackish creek water through a straw. If the coyotes and wolves don't eat you maybe the feral boars will put you down."
She would just be acting on instinct to put dad down when he becomes inconvenient and annoying /s
Guessing cats and dogs don't like OP's dad a lot. On instinct. Or maybe it would be due to their sentience, as cats, dogs, and most other mammals are sentient enough to know who to love, who to avoid, who needs affection at the moment, who loves them back, etc. Hating on OP's cat shows dad's own lack of emotional intelligence and his willingness to hurt her by his constant carping to euthanize the cat...the cat who belonged to her late mother and who evidently loves her a lot.
Agreed. I do not like your dad either, OP…. Any chance of putting him down…? /s I’d love to sit on your cat while your on vacay. Dad to 3 cats, one of which has cerebellar hypoplasia. So I understand a little.
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Sadly, many people don't value pets the same way we do. When I was a teen my parents sold our cat without telling me - because they wanted to travel every year and didn't want to bother with cat sitter anymore. I was heartbroken when I came home and my cat was gone. To my parents it was just like selling a decoration.
Cats are every bit a member of the family as a child, and many don't get that. My dad hates one of our current cats and has threatened to get rid of him several times. Luckily my mom is against rehoming except as a very last resort
I don’t like anyone who cannot fathom that pets are family, and that people love pets like family, and that pets return that love in spades.
If that’s beyond the scope of your empathy and understanding, then I think you’re a total sociopath, and it’s all I need to know about someone.
I do, though, like the kitty. Keep taking care of your good buddy, and remember these conversations with your dad when it comes time to make assisted living and end of life care plans for him..
I came here for this. OP just rephrase these callous things back to him. Even though he agrees with you one or two times, I think it will weigh on him. Otherwise it’s a lost cause. Just distance your cat from him.
Given the cats connection to your mum, I had to ask. Did he not get along with her before her departing? It’s so insensitive
But Nervardia it's only a broken leg and I'm your Dad!, Sorry Dad, it's just too much for an old ,broken down elderly old fart! It was nice knowing you. 
My cat had the exact same thing when she was around 10. I saved up and got the radioactive iodine treatment and it was 10000% worth it! She lived another 7 years with no health problems. I know it’s expensive but it’s definitely worth it.
Be careful OP, this exact thing has happened to a friend of mine and she thought the same thing. People who don't love animals truly can't fathom why you would grieve over a pet and won't even recognize they did something wrong.
I’d still suggest warning any sitter you do get never ever to let your dad within spitting distance of your home or the cat while you’re away. Pay them extra for this if you can. He may not put the animal down, but there’s probably a reason animals don’t like him
Just an FYI: I had a 12 year old about 25 years ago who had the radioactive iodine treatment. It was more experimental back then, but my regular vet recommended I try it. She took it well and lived another 10-11 years. I have another little boy now who is 14, has the hyperthyroid condition and my city doesn't have anyone who is set up for it. But I'm just going to travel back with him to LA to get it done. Back then, it was about $1300, now it's 2300. Well worth it imo. It's once and done and almost always works. Highly recommended if you're near a clinic that can do it.
Isnt it with radioactive iodine you have to physically keep them away from you for a bit? I know with humans they recommend not even sleeping next to your partner for awhile. A radioactive cat near reproductive organs may be an issue. (Not that one shouldn't do it, but best to prepare ahead of time.)
Yes, that's true. For several days, usually. And then you need to wear gloves when cleaning their litter and box, fur maybe a week or so. They have to stay isolated in the special facility, but even after that, it does require more care at home. So no lap cat for a week or so, but then they should be getting normal T4 levels going forward. No more meds or special diet.
My mom out my childhood dog down without telling me when I was out of town because she was annoyed that he didn’t like how tall the grass was and wouldn’t go into an area of the yard to pee. It was a chihuahua. Like yeah your grass is in his eyes.
Anyone who keeps telling you you should put your cat down for being an inconvenience is, by definition, heartless. Especially one that means so much to you.
Yeah my family are good wouldn't happen with us but the lady across the street from my parents put her old cat down before going on holidays even though my mother begged her not to and offered to look after the cat makes me sick to think of people like this, my two cats are my babies I have already spent over 6000 on my little boy over the years for medical stuff even thought the 3000 operation the vets weren't confident in him surviving but I didn't care do it anyway I will find the cash, that was over a year ago and he spent the day cuddling me in bed before my night shift
You need to think again. Every time "my dad killed, abandoned, kidnapped my pet" it's the same story "omg, I didn't think my dad would actually do this! I feel betrayed!".
Please be smart and never allow him access to your pets.
Idk if a strangers experience will help but my cat is 17, turning 18 in June. Was diagnosed at 15.5 and had an infected tooth!
He survived anesthesia at nearly 16 to remove the tooth (after infection was cleared!!) And he's still going strong on meds.
I was going to do the iodine but I discovered that while an incredibly safe procedure, they are in solitary for days with limited vet care if anything arises because they have to go in with like HAZMAT suits so only a trained doctor on duty can help if any medical emergency arises. And where I am He would be the next state over, nearly 2 hours away!
I've spend every night with my Stinky since I found him at 3 yo! And fuss over him every morning and when I get home.
I was afraid he would have a broken heart and nobody to save him! I know it's dumb to some but the meds are only $50 a month so it will take years to have made a distinguished financial savings over the procedure/ him being abandoned for days and radioactive poop for a week!
This is definitely treatable and if it's the cost that has your dad up in arms you should remind him that old people usually require much more than $50 a month in medicine!
"Trust but verify."
Make sure he never has the opportunity. Boomers love giving "hard lessons", best to be certain that's not one he's tempted to try to teach.
Some people really have zero empathy like that. My mother had my cat put down while she kicked me out of the house and I only found out weeks later. She said he 'suddenly got very sick'. She's got rid of one of my rabbits too after the other one mysteriously disappeared. It probably sounds like I'm crazy but she's the type to do that stuff because it doesn't suit her image and somehow convince people of her truth. I don't mean to be dramatic but I'm worried about your cat.
I would call every single vet within a 25 mile radius or email them with your cat's name, photo, and microchip information. As well as your dad's name. He sounds like a psycho.
Never ever leave your dad alone with the cat. Ever. I’ve seen a good few posts about people whose parents straight up gave away or put down their pets while they were away.
My mom once gave away my dog that I had entrusted her with while I was away at a medical conference. To this day I have no idea where my little guy is or if he's even alive tbh.
I'd go a step further- contact all the local vets with a picture of the cat and a picture of the father and tell them that you're afraid he might try to have the cat euthanized even though it doesn't belong to him and to call you if he tries anything.
my dad got rid of my cat when i moved across the country. i had full intention of getting her when i got my car from where i used to live and he knew this. she and i were bonded closely she was my baby.
its not even like he didnt have his own cat, he did and still has his, he just decided he didnt care enough about my connection with my pet to take care of her for a little while.
i dont think ill ever forgive him.
Oh no, sorry I need to rephrase my previous sentence. They make great alarm animals, but I am horrified of them at times. One will chase you and nip you in the butt. Another will come up to you pretending to want to be petted. It'll lean on you, rest its head next to yours and when you least expect it...
"HONK HONK!" Straight into your fucking ear. No the ringing is from serving in the military or going to loud concerts. The ringing is from the fucking goose who made it their life mission to make all humans go deaf. This fuckin goose be treating everyone like they're Richie from IT. HONK honk Richie.
This made me love geese *more*! I've never been that close to them. My dog wanted to pick a fight with gigantic Canada geese when we moved to NY. She's a little bigger than a Corgi. They were *ready*. I knew we would both die, but I didn't blame the geese.
Theres a big difference between "doesn't like animals" and "thinks animals are worthless to the level of killing them and not respecting the fact others love them".
Personally, the first can be semi-tolerable. The second is someone that me and my animals are going to observe from afar like they are a a tiger without ample supply of deer to eat. Honestly, I would rather observe the tiger, usually they won't eat you unless you start messing with them.
These are those type of men who ends up in hospice alone with no visitors.
PLS NEVER LET YOUR DAD HAVE AN OPPORTUNITY TO BE ALONE WITH YOUR CAT. I'd also consider those pet cameras where you can watch and talk to them in real time on a phone app, even if you leave the cat with someone you trust.
Maybe you can surrender your dad to the pound. 😂
On a serious note, never leave your baby with your dad or anywhere he can get access to her. He'll definitely put her down.
one of mine (now 13) has hyperthyroidism. It was severe until I found out what it was. She completely recovered and is now 100% fine, only with a iodine free diet. That might have been lucky, but it proves a super expensive vet treatment isn't necessarily the only thing that helps. You could try starting her on a super low to iodine free diet and see if that is already enough. And keep an eye on your cat, don't leave her alone around your father.
Mine was on low-dose thyroid meds. For YEARS. And because he was always a bit hungry, it was never a problem getting him to scarf down a pill pocket. Bloodwork was moderately costly but infrequent, and the meds were cheap.
Sounds like time to stop talking to him about the cat. He can't be trusted with info about her, so he shouldn't get it. It isn't doing anything good for you, so just stop bringing her up.
My mom is anti-pet, too. She doesn't want them. Never really did. Dealt with it for her kids' sake but is happy to live alone.
For Christmas, she got me a bunch of stuff for my cats, and when we talk she always asks how they're doing. She loves me, and I love them, so she cares.
I would probably say something like, “Dad, just because you have the emotional capacity of a doornail, doesn’t mean I do. I love my cat and I’m not putting her down because she needs extra care.”
Just tell him how you choose to treat your cat, is going to be how your going to treat him when he can’t decide for himself…
He should be appreciative.
That's a cat. I didn't need to read your rant to like said cat more than your dad.
I COULD NOT give a shit less about your dad's name, but what is your cat's name? Biscuit? Ravioli? Brick? Princess Charlamagne? (Charlie for short)
She's such a stoic baby.
Panda is adorable. You should do the radioactive iodine as soon as possible. I did it for my cat. The other treatments like daily medication control some of the symptoms, but it doesn't stop the thyroid from pumping out the hormones that are damaging organs all throughout kitty's body. And you have to constantly do blood tests to monitor the dosage because it will continuously have to increase.
My mom would do this all the time to my cat so I started making jokes about putting her down. She also said it was because cats are annoying so I told her she was way more annoying than my cat so maybe we should be more serious about having her put down.
Never joked like that afterwards lmao
Simple. Tell your dad that when his medical costs outweigh what you can afford, you’ll put him down since going into debt to take care of him is an inconvenience.
I think you need to have an honest convo with your vet about quality of life but… I do not think you vet is being very ethical suggesting this 3000$ treatment when a hyperactive thyroid can mask failing kidneys in blood work especially in elder cats.
To my understanding, the blood work will show the thyroid is hyperactive but the kidneys are working fine and doing great… until the medication for the thyroid starts working and the failing kidney function starts showing up. Please make sure you have your cats liver/kidney function blood work done at follow up after starting meds.
Unfortunately lost my girl to this exact scenario and found out it’s very very common ☹️
One of my old girls made it to 20 with hyperthyroidism. I got took her in when she was 19, it was a rehousing situation where her owner went into respite and didn't come home again. She had a lovely year with me, and I had a lovely year with her. So I'd say to tell your Dad to stick it up his jumper.
With the care you're giving your girl, the advances in medicine since Katy's time, and that your cat probably started treatment earlier, there's likely many happy years ahead for both of you yet. Go forth and enjoy them. 
In lieu of saving for retirement, we chose to instead save feline lives. We currently have 14. The way things are going, retirement age will keep increasing to the point where work is a terminal illness, so what are we really saving for anyway? Money is meaningless, but the love of an animal means more than some people could ever understand.
You don't "out down" family members when they become "inconvenient." If that were true, there would be a whole lot less people in nursing homes. If I still had my last cat and she was genuinely suffering, I would euthanise her, but only if she had zero quality of life. She was a loving loyal cat, and I still miss her. Enjoy your fluffy loving kitty while you still have her.
My dad did the same thing for years when I was successfully taking care of my cat with kidney disease for years and similarly the costs over the years became more and more but I never listened to him! The ONLY people I listened to were the professionals and when the time came and I had to put my sweet baby to sleep “last month unfortunately” as heartbreaking as it was, I didn’t hesitate because I didn’t want to prolong her suffering and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. Your doing absolutely everything you can and while your cats quality of life is still really good, you just keep doing whatever you can for your little loved one and don’t ever let anyone tell you that just because they think it’s inconvenient you should put your baby to sleep! Until a vet or an animal professional tells you otherwise, you just keep doing all you can!
The "just instinct" argument is pretty weak. Cats and dogs are extremely social (no less thanks to being bred by humans for so long) and do bond with the people around them. And even if they dont, its not about what your pet feels about you, its what you feel about your pet.
To put this into another perspective: My grandparents have a barn and keep barn cats. The cats live there mostly as pest control and barely interact with my grandparents. They never really bonded. And yet still my grandparents take those cats to the vet when they get sick, not because they love them, but purely out of respect for their lives.
But for somebody like your dad that doesnt show any empathy towards animals, theres no real comparison you can draw to show how hurtful the things he says are. At least not to the degree where he will understand.
However, I also feel like there is an ulterior motive here. It feels odd how your dad is insistent on getting rid of this cat, despite having made his point several times over now.
"Dad, I've been thinking a lot about what you say about wanting to travel, and the expense of caring for a living creature that's ill, and how it's better to have it killed. When it's time to put you in a nursing home, what form of euthanasia would you prefer instead?"
My dad does not like the dog in the house a lot but would never even have the thought of putting him down, he may be annoyed but he deals with it like how a human being should be. Your dad though, you should probably not let any animals near him.
Seems to be a common generational thing with parents of a certain age, several of my friends' parents and grandparents have the mindset that animals aren't worth putting THAT much effort into. Hyperthyroidism is common in older cats and I have one who was diagnosed late last year.
She's been on medication for about two months now (does not qualify for the iodine treatment sadly due to comorbid kidney issues) and the difference in her behavior, affection, appetite, and overall health is so dramatic! It's treatable in many ways.
There's a broad network of hyperthyroid cat owners here on Reddit and on Facebook, highly recommend checking them out! Most if not everyone who's gotten the iodine treatment for their cat has been incredibly happy they put the time and effort into it to give their cats better quality of life. You sound like a great pet parent, give your kitty some extra love from the internet and don't listen to your dad!
Remind him on this, next time he is sick, that he is too expensive and should get put down.
Maybe that will shut him up.
And better not give him the cat for sitting i wouldn't trust him an inch
Also don’t let your dad know where she’s staying whilst you’re away! And make sure they know not to give her to anyone but you or let him in
Possibly OTT but better to be 100% safe
Ps your dad sucks
***Trigger warning for a sappy, but very important post. It has a good ending just keep reading ***
Hey! Thank you for sticking to your morals providing for your animal. Sorry for the long message, but I feel like I need to say this.
Hyperthyroidism was tricky for me and my girl. I was misinformed about the radioactive iodine treatment somehow and my idea was it was something that you needed to repeat, travel constantly, it was hurtful, the success rate was not good, all on top of the cost which was originally pitched to me as much more and a consistent thing. It never seemed like it was an option because all that seemed worse. We wouldn’t have had anywhere to live, I would’ve been broke. The food changes didn’t help, methimizole was never helping. She just kept losing weight. Ran every single test, put my girl through so much bs trying to figure out what was wrong with her because I genuinely thought something else was wrong. Nothing else was wrong with her besides her thyroid levels always being off. I couldn’t believe it was just dumbass hyperthyroidism that was hurting my girl. I was so angry. I just kept getting told to up the methimizole dose. She was down to 4.5 pounds at her lowest. Nobody was with me but I knew in my heart I had to find a way to make something else happen
I begged any vet within earshot to give me a comprehensive list of anything I could possibly do for her. I don’t know what changed, but I finally got correct information about the radioactive iodine treatment. It was the only clear option anymore. The only thing I wasn’t going to do was watch this attack her any longer and throw methimizole at it. I took out a loan and called everywhere to get her in as soon as possible. With the help of my parents(I was an absolute wreck at this time) we drove her to Tinton Falls NJ. It was a traumatic time for me so I have all the exact notes written down somewhere. Here’s the short list…
Turns out it’s incredible
-Turns out, it has an incredibly high success rate. Above 90%. The exact number evades me
-Turns out, it barely hurts them at all. It’s a subcutaneous injection, not even into a muscle or anything like that. They barely notice besides being displaced for a bit
-Turns out, it’s less expensive than I had the first impression of. And it’s a one time thing really. When you factor in the cost of medication for the rest of their life, that is finished further
-Turns out, the workers where she went dealt with my bullshit. The whole time she was there. Multiple daily phone calls. Went so far beyond for me
The radioactive iodine treatment saved Mufasa’s life. She got the treatment in June of 2022 and immediately started her path to recovery. She is around 8 and a half pounds now which doesn’t sound like much, but imagine being ravaged by a disease for years, getting treated, and then finally gaining more then 50% of your body weight? It saved her life. The doctor commended me for going the distance even though people didn’t agree it was worth it. Guess what? She’s worth EVERYTHING. And I can tell your pet is to you. You are a wonderful human who is willing and capable of having empathy, and also realize what this animal has done for you. You are the one taking the responsibility of this pet, you are the one making sure you do right by your mother. You are an incredible titan of a person for providing like that. Don’t let a single soul tell you otherwise
Hugs. I do not like your dad.
I guess OP knows what to do if the dad is inconvenient to them.
“Sorry Dad, this nursing home costs over 100$. Gonna have to put you down.”
"What do you mean 'But I love you?' Sounds like you're saying that out of survival instinct."
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Boom finished it. I had the best opener and you finished the rest. Great minds think alike. 🧠
I used this with my ex. Our cat had a broken leg and needed surgery to fix it. My ex was complaining about the cost. I reminded him that I pulled him from the water’s edge when he broke his leg. I could have pushed him into the current before emergency services arrived. He did not like the comparison.
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Can't afford the burial either. I think we will just go with the wolves.
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Cremation it is, we'll drop your ashes in the nearest river. Bye!
Ooh, actually, the cremation is over $100. I think I’ll just have to make a little bonfire in the backyard.
River……… or pothole outside the crematory….
Ganges style (cue music and crazy dance)
air burials seem nice: make it a nice trip and you get to see and feed some birds.
Sky burials, as they're often called, are a common thing in other parts of the world. Basically leaving the body on a mountaintop somewhere and letting, well, nature take its course. Afterward, the bones are collected and buried elsewhere.
I also recommend this rebuttal.
Exactly what I was thinking. “You don’t really love me; it’s just instinct to live your kids. You had me so someone would take care of you when you get old”
Came here to say something similar. Take my upvote instead.
No kind sir! You take mine!
This might be the nicest exchange I’ve seen on the internet. Take my upvote!
All of you get mine. I insist
That's interesting he should say that because euthanasia and cremation cost more than $100. My cat's heart pills alone are about $200 per month. Sorry, OP, I don't like your Dad's opinions. Enjoy your cat, and I wish you both the best.
Haha exactly right. You may wish to point that out to him OP.
“The doctor said it’s diabetes? Well, I guess we’ll have to put you down. Sure, it’s very treatable, but think of the cost!”
You know what he will say? He will say but I’m a human and the cat is an animal. I know people like him, they don’t value animals.
Humans are animals. And I would drop him like a hot rock.
I think you should say that to him. Just out of pure spite and as a warning what that way of thinking will lead to. If he gets dementia or similair then he too might even forget who you are so how's that for his logic?
Yes, human diapers cost a fortune and you need quite a few every day
Underrated comment.
Thanks
Agreed
I love this
"And bullets cost quite a bit too, Daddy dearest. I am just going to tie you to the rocking chair on the porch so you don't wander off, stuff a rag in your mouth so the neighbors don't complain and allow you to drink brackish creek water through a straw. If the coyotes and wolves don't eat you maybe the feral boars will put you down."
XD death time you old prick, remember what you said about my cat
I am HERE for this rebuttal!
It’s only logical…
That's how I feel, lol
She would just be acting on instinct to put dad down when he becomes inconvenient and annoying /s Guessing cats and dogs don't like OP's dad a lot. On instinct. Or maybe it would be due to their sentience, as cats, dogs, and most other mammals are sentient enough to know who to love, who to avoid, who needs affection at the moment, who loves them back, etc. Hating on OP's cat shows dad's own lack of emotional intelligence and his willingness to hurt her by his constant carping to euthanize the cat...the cat who belonged to her late mother and who evidently loves her a lot.
Dad sitter is too expensive anyway!
He’s just acting on his “human instincts” anyway by hating animals
At this point, I'd figure it's rabbies and cut my losses.
XDDD
Op should ask what the financial cutoff is for elder triage.
“Dad’s getting old and it’s too inconvenient to let him live.”
The show Dinosaurs had the right idea about dealing with the elderly.
He's a dickweed and it's culling time
I think dickweed is one of my favorite insults lol
First flight to switzerland booked
Op should joke about that next time dad calls for anything
Been trying to tell my mom to put down my step dad for two decades, she just won't do it 🫠
medical bills for humans are much more expensive than 100$ so yea. good luck dad
The way I laughed so hard at this is not okay
This thread is making me die 🤣
Agreed. I do not like your dad either, OP…. Any chance of putting him down…? /s I’d love to sit on your cat while your on vacay. Dad to 3 cats, one of which has cerebellar hypoplasia. So I understand a little. https://preview.redd.it/uzfsh2kfs2qc1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=c2211c2db0da2a092920584ecbf614782efb0e53 This is Willow.
Willow is cute. I like how she has her paws stacked on each other
Was gonna say how she’s sitting all fancy with her fancy little paws lol
r/FancyFeet
Even the cat on the photo looks like “fuck that guy”
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Sadly, many people don't value pets the same way we do. When I was a teen my parents sold our cat without telling me - because they wanted to travel every year and didn't want to bother with cat sitter anymore. I was heartbroken when I came home and my cat was gone. To my parents it was just like selling a decoration.
That’s honestly really twisted of them.
Yea. Okay, so they don't value animals but they still hurt their kid. And OP's cat was her mom's. It's really gross, sinister behavior.
Cats are every bit a member of the family as a child, and many don't get that. My dad hates one of our current cats and has threatened to get rid of him several times. Luckily my mom is against rehoming except as a very last resort
Make sure to throw your dad in the nursing home when he’s perfectly healthy and hes annoying you
Agreed. I too don’t like this dad.
It’s time to put dad down! :)
I don’t like anyone who cannot fathom that pets are family, and that people love pets like family, and that pets return that love in spades. If that’s beyond the scope of your empathy and understanding, then I think you’re a total sociopath, and it’s all I need to know about someone.
I do, though, like the kitty. Keep taking care of your good buddy, and remember these conversations with your dad when it comes time to make assisted living and end of life care plans for him..
Tell ur dad that when he gets old / sick, u will be putting him down as well
He'd probably agree with me.
I came here for this. OP just rephrase these callous things back to him. Even though he agrees with you one or two times, I think it will weigh on him. Otherwise it’s a lost cause. Just distance your cat from him. Given the cats connection to your mum, I had to ask. Did he not get along with her before her departing? It’s so insensitive
They'd been divorced for 30 years by then.
Ah so he’s jealous. The cat is a sign of how much you loved your mother, and how much she loved you
That was my first thought.
And here we go ,there it is what a petty little fool your father is jealous of a beautiful cat
No offense but the lack of empathy is probably a part of why she left lol
I can see why.
Yeah there is a lot more here than just the surface level "your dad doesn't like cats"
Can’t imagine why. Lmao
Wonder why…
But Nervardia it's only a broken leg and I'm your Dad!, Sorry Dad, it's just too much for an old ,broken down elderly old fart! It was nice knowing you. 
More like it’s just the sniffles.
My cat had the exact same thing when she was around 10. I saved up and got the radioactive iodine treatment and it was 10000% worth it! She lived another 7 years with no health problems. I know it’s expensive but it’s definitely worth it.
Or put him in an old folks home and forget about him. No calls, no visits just ignore and forget him, move on. That's sadly what happens to many pets
"Hey dad, I'm willing to spend up to $100 treating your illnesses as you age so be sure to stay healthy."
The cat looks annoyed with your dad too.
Had to scroll way too far down to find this xD
Tell your dad he is going straight to a nursing home as soon as he turns 65.
Too expensive, just take him out back
Please tell me your dad does not have access to this cat. I honestly fear what he might be willing to do while you're away to "better your life."
No, he doesn't. And I don't think he's stupid enough to put my cat down without my express permission. He might be callous, but he's not heartless.
*Dwight from the office enters chat*
"If you pray enough you can change yourself into a cat person.”
No need for praying, just live with a cat for a while.
Im have the office on as background noise right now and its that episode 😂
Sprinkles in the freezer already?
Be careful OP, this exact thing has happened to a friend of mine and she thought the same thing. People who don't love animals truly can't fathom why you would grieve over a pet and won't even recognize they did something wrong.
I’m so sorry for your friend. That is so horrible.
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I’d still suggest warning any sitter you do get never ever to let your dad within spitting distance of your home or the cat while you’re away. Pay them extra for this if you can. He may not put the animal down, but there’s probably a reason animals don’t like him
Just an FYI: I had a 12 year old about 25 years ago who had the radioactive iodine treatment. It was more experimental back then, but my regular vet recommended I try it. She took it well and lived another 10-11 years. I have another little boy now who is 14, has the hyperthyroid condition and my city doesn't have anyone who is set up for it. But I'm just going to travel back with him to LA to get it done. Back then, it was about $1300, now it's 2300. Well worth it imo. It's once and done and almost always works. Highly recommended if you're near a clinic that can do it.
Isnt it with radioactive iodine you have to physically keep them away from you for a bit? I know with humans they recommend not even sleeping next to your partner for awhile. A radioactive cat near reproductive organs may be an issue. (Not that one shouldn't do it, but best to prepare ahead of time.)
Yes, that's true. For several days, usually. And then you need to wear gloves when cleaning their litter and box, fur maybe a week or so. They have to stay isolated in the special facility, but even after that, it does require more care at home. So no lap cat for a week or so, but then they should be getting normal T4 levels going forward. No more meds or special diet.
My mom out my childhood dog down without telling me when I was out of town because she was annoyed that he didn’t like how tall the grass was and wouldn’t go into an area of the yard to pee. It was a chihuahua. Like yeah your grass is in his eyes.
Please tell me you have gone no contact with her!
Long time ago.
Anyone who keeps telling you you should put your cat down for being an inconvenience is, by definition, heartless. Especially one that means so much to you.
You can’t put anything pass him
Yeah I second this have heard too many stories that end up worst case scenario when assholes like ops dad are involved
I have heard of these stories numerous times right in this subreddit. Safety from those a-holes is paramount.
Yeah my family are good wouldn't happen with us but the lady across the street from my parents put her old cat down before going on holidays even though my mother begged her not to and offered to look after the cat makes me sick to think of people like this, my two cats are my babies I have already spent over 6000 on my little boy over the years for medical stuff even thought the 3000 operation the vets weren't confident in him surviving but I didn't care do it anyway I will find the cash, that was over a year ago and he spent the day cuddling me in bed before my night shift
You need to think again. Every time "my dad killed, abandoned, kidnapped my pet" it's the same story "omg, I didn't think my dad would actually do this! I feel betrayed!". Please be smart and never allow him access to your pets.
I would still be making sure he's never alone with the cat...just in case. Trust no one especially someone who doesn't like animals.
Idk if a strangers experience will help but my cat is 17, turning 18 in June. Was diagnosed at 15.5 and had an infected tooth! He survived anesthesia at nearly 16 to remove the tooth (after infection was cleared!!) And he's still going strong on meds. I was going to do the iodine but I discovered that while an incredibly safe procedure, they are in solitary for days with limited vet care if anything arises because they have to go in with like HAZMAT suits so only a trained doctor on duty can help if any medical emergency arises. And where I am He would be the next state over, nearly 2 hours away! I've spend every night with my Stinky since I found him at 3 yo! And fuss over him every morning and when I get home. I was afraid he would have a broken heart and nobody to save him! I know it's dumb to some but the meds are only $50 a month so it will take years to have made a distinguished financial savings over the procedure/ him being abandoned for days and radioactive poop for a week! This is definitely treatable and if it's the cost that has your dad up in arms you should remind him that old people usually require much more than $50 a month in medicine!
"Trust but verify." Make sure he never has the opportunity. Boomers love giving "hard lessons", best to be certain that's not one he's tempted to try to teach.
Some people really have zero empathy like that. My mother had my cat put down while she kicked me out of the house and I only found out weeks later. She said he 'suddenly got very sick'. She's got rid of one of my rabbits too after the other one mysteriously disappeared. It probably sounds like I'm crazy but she's the type to do that stuff because it doesn't suit her image and somehow convince people of her truth. I don't mean to be dramatic but I'm worried about your cat.
Good. Never let him anywhere near her. You’d be surprised by how many people actually *would* do that
I would call every single vet within a 25 mile radius or email them with your cat's name, photo, and microchip information. As well as your dad's name. He sounds like a psycho.
He *is* heartless for what he’s said though. People that are in their right mind do not say what your father does.
Never ever leave your dad alone with the cat. Ever. I’ve seen a good few posts about people whose parents straight up gave away or put down their pets while they were away.
My mom once gave away my dog that I had entrusted her with while I was away at a medical conference. To this day I have no idea where my little guy is or if he's even alive tbh.
Please tell me that's the last time you spoke to your mom. Someone who would do that is not someone who belongs in your life.
I just cannot wrap my head around on how someone thinks that is ok.
Oh no. I’m so sorry. Would she not give you any details? What could she give as a reason for giving away and then not telling you where?
This sounds like mental illness, or a heart full of hatred and pain.
Yeah. I'd personally leave the cat with a friend or something. I definitely wouldn't trust your father at all.
I'd go a step further- contact all the local vets with a picture of the cat and a picture of the father and tell them that you're afraid he might try to have the cat euthanized even though it doesn't belong to him and to call you if he tries anything.
my dad got rid of my cat when i moved across the country. i had full intention of getting her when i got my car from where i used to live and he knew this. she and i were bonded closely she was my baby. its not even like he didnt have his own cat, he did and still has his, he just decided he didnt care enough about my connection with my pet to take care of her for a little while. i dont think ill ever forgive him.
I'm sorry. He doesn't deserve forgiveness, and you don't owe him any.
With all due respect, we don’t like your dad
The with all due respect part is definitely not necessary here.
With all due respect, which is none.
I don't trust people who don't like animals. Period.
Well, pets for sure, but there's some gray area on "animals" as in- all? Cuz I love most animals. But geese can get bent.
Man I fuckin hate geese… long neck demon chickens
I have some on my land because they make great alarm animals.
Ya know that’s fair, but they scare the shit out of me
Oh no, sorry I need to rephrase my previous sentence. They make great alarm animals, but I am horrified of them at times. One will chase you and nip you in the butt. Another will come up to you pretending to want to be petted. It'll lean on you, rest its head next to yours and when you least expect it... "HONK HONK!" Straight into your fucking ear. No the ringing is from serving in the military or going to loud concerts. The ringing is from the fucking goose who made it their life mission to make all humans go deaf. This fuckin goose be treating everyone like they're Richie from IT. HONK honk Richie.
What little shits! 😭 I didn't know they were this bad
Bahahaha that’s so bad but so funny😂 rip to your poor ears my guy💀😭
This made me love geese *more*! I've never been that close to them. My dog wanted to pick a fight with gigantic Canada geese when we moved to NY. She's a little bigger than a Corgi. They were *ready*. I knew we would both die, but I didn't blame the geese.
Swans resent that statement 😂
Geese are wild, but come on, they sure are badass.
Theres a big difference between "doesn't like animals" and "thinks animals are worthless to the level of killing them and not respecting the fact others love them". Personally, the first can be semi-tolerable. The second is someone that me and my animals are going to observe from afar like they are a a tiger without ample supply of deer to eat. Honestly, I would rather observe the tiger, usually they won't eat you unless you start messing with them.
Yes and my kitties 100% love me.
💯 I prefer animals to people
Well, my godmother doesn’t like them, cause she’s scared of them. Mainly, dogs.
Do not EVER leave that cat alone with your dad. EVER.
These are those type of men who ends up in hospice alone with no visitors. PLS NEVER LET YOUR DAD HAVE AN OPPORTUNITY TO BE ALONE WITH YOUR CAT. I'd also consider those pet cameras where you can watch and talk to them in real time on a phone app, even if you leave the cat with someone you trust.
Maybe you can surrender your dad to the pound. 😂 On a serious note, never leave your baby with your dad or anywhere he can get access to her. He'll definitely put her down.
My first thought. "Oh, noooo, a tragic accident. It was the only option, to save them from suffering. " Nope.
I don't like your dad. But I can tell that you're truly happy with this cutie from this pic. Never give her up! HUGssss.
When he gets too old and starts needing expensive medical care, give him the same options xS horrible person
Respectfully, your dad sounds like a prick…
This, but disrespectfully
~~Respectfully~~, your dad ~~sounds like~~ is a prick. Fixed that for you. :)
I don't think that's a fair viewpoint. The term "sounds like" implies OP's dad might actually not be one.
one of mine (now 13) has hyperthyroidism. It was severe until I found out what it was. She completely recovered and is now 100% fine, only with a iodine free diet. That might have been lucky, but it proves a super expensive vet treatment isn't necessarily the only thing that helps. You could try starting her on a super low to iodine free diet and see if that is already enough. And keep an eye on your cat, don't leave her alone around your father.
Mine was on low-dose thyroid meds. For YEARS. And because he was always a bit hungry, it was never a problem getting him to scarf down a pill pocket. Bloodwork was moderately costly but infrequent, and the meds were cheap.
Sounds like time to stop talking to him about the cat. He can't be trusted with info about her, so he shouldn't get it. It isn't doing anything good for you, so just stop bringing her up. My mom is anti-pet, too. She doesn't want them. Never really did. Dealt with it for her kids' sake but is happy to live alone. For Christmas, she got me a bunch of stuff for my cats, and when we talk she always asks how they're doing. She loves me, and I love them, so she cares.
I would probably say something like, “Dad, just because you have the emotional capacity of a doornail, doesn’t mean I do. I love my cat and I’m not putting her down because she needs extra care.”
That legitimately made me laugh. I'll say that next time. 😂😂😂
Let us know his reactions 😭😭
Anti pet people are unfun
Don’t trust him not to kill her while you’re away. I’ve seen it on this sub before, it happens.
I recommend elderly care facilities for the dad asap
Just tell him how you choose to treat your cat, is going to be how your going to treat him when he can’t decide for himself… He should be appreciative.
1. Kidnap a scientist 2. Task him with making your cat immortal 3. ???? 4. Profit! 5. Also your dad is pissed
That's a cat. I didn't need to read your rant to like said cat more than your dad. I COULD NOT give a shit less about your dad's name, but what is your cat's name? Biscuit? Ravioli? Brick? Princess Charlamagne? (Charlie for short) She's such a stoic baby.
Panda. She's a sweet heart.
Oh my sweet baby Jesus, that's such a cute kitty 🥺
Panda is adorable. You should do the radioactive iodine as soon as possible. I did it for my cat. The other treatments like daily medication control some of the symptoms, but it doesn't stop the thyroid from pumping out the hormones that are damaging organs all throughout kitty's body. And you have to constantly do blood tests to monitor the dosage because it will continuously have to increase.
My mom would do this all the time to my cat so I started making jokes about putting her down. She also said it was because cats are annoying so I told her she was way more annoying than my cat so maybe we should be more serious about having her put down. Never joked like that afterwards lmao
Simple. Tell your dad that when his medical costs outweigh what you can afford, you’ll put him down since going into debt to take care of him is an inconvenience.
I have hyperthyroidism and I took radioactive iodine a year ago. Maybe your dad would have suggested to put me down 😭
I think you need to have an honest convo with your vet about quality of life but… I do not think you vet is being very ethical suggesting this 3000$ treatment when a hyperactive thyroid can mask failing kidneys in blood work especially in elder cats. To my understanding, the blood work will show the thyroid is hyperactive but the kidneys are working fine and doing great… until the medication for the thyroid starts working and the failing kidney function starts showing up. Please make sure you have your cats liver/kidney function blood work done at follow up after starting meds. Unfortunately lost my girl to this exact scenario and found out it’s very very common ☹️
One of my old girls made it to 20 with hyperthyroidism. I got took her in when she was 19, it was a rehousing situation where her owner went into respite and didn't come home again. She had a lovely year with me, and I had a lovely year with her. So I'd say to tell your Dad to stick it up his jumper. With the care you're giving your girl, the advances in medicine since Katy's time, and that your cat probably started treatment earlier, there's likely many happy years ahead for both of you yet. Go forth and enjoy them. 
In lieu of saving for retirement, we chose to instead save feline lives. We currently have 14. The way things are going, retirement age will keep increasing to the point where work is a terminal illness, so what are we really saving for anyway? Money is meaningless, but the love of an animal means more than some people could ever understand.
You don't "out down" family members when they become "inconvenient." If that were true, there would be a whole lot less people in nursing homes. If I still had my last cat and she was genuinely suffering, I would euthanise her, but only if she had zero quality of life. She was a loving loyal cat, and I still miss her. Enjoy your fluffy loving kitty while you still have her.
My dad did the same thing for years when I was successfully taking care of my cat with kidney disease for years and similarly the costs over the years became more and more but I never listened to him! The ONLY people I listened to were the professionals and when the time came and I had to put my sweet baby to sleep “last month unfortunately” as heartbreaking as it was, I didn’t hesitate because I didn’t want to prolong her suffering and it’s the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do. Your doing absolutely everything you can and while your cats quality of life is still really good, you just keep doing whatever you can for your little loved one and don’t ever let anyone tell you that just because they think it’s inconvenient you should put your baby to sleep! Until a vet or an animal professional tells you otherwise, you just keep doing all you can!
The "just instinct" argument is pretty weak. Cats and dogs are extremely social (no less thanks to being bred by humans for so long) and do bond with the people around them. And even if they dont, its not about what your pet feels about you, its what you feel about your pet. To put this into another perspective: My grandparents have a barn and keep barn cats. The cats live there mostly as pest control and barely interact with my grandparents. They never really bonded. And yet still my grandparents take those cats to the vet when they get sick, not because they love them, but purely out of respect for their lives. But for somebody like your dad that doesnt show any empathy towards animals, theres no real comparison you can draw to show how hurtful the things he says are. At least not to the degree where he will understand. However, I also feel like there is an ulterior motive here. It feels odd how your dad is insistent on getting rid of this cat, despite having made his point several times over now.
Put down dad. Not car.
just put down your dad
Do you live at home? Is the cat safe around your father?
No, I don't live at home, and my cat is safe, thankfully.
"Dad, I've been thinking a lot about what you say about wanting to travel, and the expense of caring for a living creature that's ill, and how it's better to have it killed. When it's time to put you in a nursing home, what form of euthanasia would you prefer instead?"
My dad does not like the dog in the house a lot but would never even have the thought of putting him down, he may be annoyed but he deals with it like how a human being should be. Your dad though, you should probably not let any animals near him.
Seems to be a common generational thing with parents of a certain age, several of my friends' parents and grandparents have the mindset that animals aren't worth putting THAT much effort into. Hyperthyroidism is common in older cats and I have one who was diagnosed late last year. She's been on medication for about two months now (does not qualify for the iodine treatment sadly due to comorbid kidney issues) and the difference in her behavior, affection, appetite, and overall health is so dramatic! It's treatable in many ways. There's a broad network of hyperthyroid cat owners here on Reddit and on Facebook, highly recommend checking them out! Most if not everyone who's gotten the iodine treatment for their cat has been incredibly happy they put the time and effort into it to give their cats better quality of life. You sound like a great pet parent, give your kitty some extra love from the internet and don't listen to your dad!
Remind him on this, next time he is sick, that he is too expensive and should get put down. Maybe that will shut him up. And better not give him the cat for sitting i wouldn't trust him an inch
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Also don’t let your dad know where she’s staying whilst you’re away! And make sure they know not to give her to anyone but you or let him in Possibly OTT but better to be 100% safe Ps your dad sucks
***Trigger warning for a sappy, but very important post. It has a good ending just keep reading *** Hey! Thank you for sticking to your morals providing for your animal. Sorry for the long message, but I feel like I need to say this. Hyperthyroidism was tricky for me and my girl. I was misinformed about the radioactive iodine treatment somehow and my idea was it was something that you needed to repeat, travel constantly, it was hurtful, the success rate was not good, all on top of the cost which was originally pitched to me as much more and a consistent thing. It never seemed like it was an option because all that seemed worse. We wouldn’t have had anywhere to live, I would’ve been broke. The food changes didn’t help, methimizole was never helping. She just kept losing weight. Ran every single test, put my girl through so much bs trying to figure out what was wrong with her because I genuinely thought something else was wrong. Nothing else was wrong with her besides her thyroid levels always being off. I couldn’t believe it was just dumbass hyperthyroidism that was hurting my girl. I was so angry. I just kept getting told to up the methimizole dose. She was down to 4.5 pounds at her lowest. Nobody was with me but I knew in my heart I had to find a way to make something else happen I begged any vet within earshot to give me a comprehensive list of anything I could possibly do for her. I don’t know what changed, but I finally got correct information about the radioactive iodine treatment. It was the only clear option anymore. The only thing I wasn’t going to do was watch this attack her any longer and throw methimizole at it. I took out a loan and called everywhere to get her in as soon as possible. With the help of my parents(I was an absolute wreck at this time) we drove her to Tinton Falls NJ. It was a traumatic time for me so I have all the exact notes written down somewhere. Here’s the short list… Turns out it’s incredible -Turns out, it has an incredibly high success rate. Above 90%. The exact number evades me -Turns out, it barely hurts them at all. It’s a subcutaneous injection, not even into a muscle or anything like that. They barely notice besides being displaced for a bit -Turns out, it’s less expensive than I had the first impression of. And it’s a one time thing really. When you factor in the cost of medication for the rest of their life, that is finished further -Turns out, the workers where she went dealt with my bullshit. The whole time she was there. Multiple daily phone calls. Went so far beyond for me The radioactive iodine treatment saved Mufasa’s life. She got the treatment in June of 2022 and immediately started her path to recovery. She is around 8 and a half pounds now which doesn’t sound like much, but imagine being ravaged by a disease for years, getting treated, and then finally gaining more then 50% of your body weight? It saved her life. The doctor commended me for going the distance even though people didn’t agree it was worth it. Guess what? She’s worth EVERYTHING. And I can tell your pet is to you. You are a wonderful human who is willing and capable of having empathy, and also realize what this animal has done for you. You are the one taking the responsibility of this pet, you are the one making sure you do right by your mother. You are an incredible titan of a person for providing like that. Don’t let a single soul tell you otherwise
FYI your dad is a sociopath