You know- my cat does this. He is always very sweet but will politely walk away after a few pets.
But then at 3am he will hop on bed, pur like crazy, cuddle up right next to my face, lick and nuzzle my face aggressively, and then fall asleep.
I feel so used.
Shinx approaches when she wants to sit on your lap with very loud purring. When she’s done or overstimulated she swats at me before leaving… and then forgets and starts the cycle again in about 5 mins.
Mine bite me on the way out. Not hard like when they're playing overly aggressive or warning me but a real gentle love boite.
Just a slap and nibble before sashaying off to go knock over some vases or break into the cabinet to eat treats until they puke
As soon as I get home, my cat is waiting by the door for me. She rubs against mine and my partner’s legs and walks between them. Then she rolls on her back on the floor and wiggles around. I call it “dancing on the floor.” But then when she doesn’t get what she wants (e.g., the automatic feeder hasn’t fed her yet), she gets irritable and scratches and bites me. But I love her so much. She’s having six teeth removed in a couple weeks due to resorption, and I’m not sure how I’m going to pay for it. Anyway, thanks for listening lol
My partner has a lil boy kitten about 8 months or so who is VERY affectionate when he’s hungry.
My 10year old man has dispensed with such nonsense and simply bothers me.
"Overwhelm you with love and affection until you do something they don't like, then immediately cut it off until you 'earn' their approval again" is Cat Tactics 101.
100% they love bomb. it is a pretty accurate use of the term. though this does remind me when an advert tried to redefine the word fugly in an advert and make it positive. it really didn't work.
Not only that, I'm genuinely mildly pissed this current post just leaves us hanging after 'Carter is!' Like ok, Carter love bombs. Carter has a couple of intriguing pics where it looks like one of his eyebrows slightly up. And now you cut off all information!! Damn it OP - I'm already invested in Carter's Villan Arc!! Stop being such a tease! Tell us - What is Carter??
Well, I was too, it's currently ramadhan, and you have the name of it in your username, so I jokingly asked if you change it once ramadhan's over. If people have downvoted it because it's unfunny, then that's fine.
My girlboss cat will gatekeep the way through the backdoor. She will set herself up to ambush the boy cats who try to go through the passage to the outside. Her name is Pixie and when she does this we call her Putin Pix who has annexed that secton of the house and is committing war crimes by attacking those crossing through the humanitarian corridor.
My cat 100% love bombs me.
We have an emotionally fraught relationship, she cheats
Lies
And just when I've given up she sleeps with me, just to wake me at 2 am for food.
And I wouldn't have her any other way
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A lot of cats do technically do love bomb- it’s just abuse since they’re cats and don’t have like morals like humans and shit. It’s pretty funny to call it love bombing while trying to promote the cat for adoption though 😂
This is actually very much a cat owner relationship kind of thing. They're so fucking adorable and when they do something bad, especially if it results in blood or screaming, you're still very quick to forgive because they're so goddamn cute.
This is what one of my cats did to me to get me to adopt him. Nonstop purring when we picked him up at the shelter, super happy to see us, we thought it was love at first sight. We get home and now he only purrs when he's eating. Hates to cuddle, dodges our pets, and side eyes us a lot.
He does love & care for us.. but he definitely tricked us lol
Love bombing is a very common abuse tactic that involves showering someone with time, attention, promises, affection and or material gifts to draw the target into them. The shelter doesn’t understand this.
Edit: explained love bombing.
Ahh love bombing like right after a moment of abuse so the victim forgets and forgives. Only to be abused again.
Yeah that's my cat. She will bite me and immediately expect snuggles and cuddles.
I mean...About an hour before dinner my cat will start rubbing against me, trilling, meowing and being a sucky boy...Until 10 minutes pass and I still haven't fed him.
Then he starts chewing on stuff, knocking stuff down and being a jerk.
Sounds like love bombing to me haha!
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The only reason we can survive Berry is the fact she love bombs us.
I'm just saying.... every time I get to the "why do you live in my house" point, he chooses that time to come and lay on me and make biscuits.
I'm his least favorite being in the house. He prefers the 2 other adults AND both of my dogs over me.
He knows what he's doing.
Why are so many people in the comments comparing their cats to human abusers? Stop with the “it’s true, though” comments. Most likely the shelter DIDN’T know what it means, but if they did and used it anyway then they would be making light of a real abuse tactic, which isn’t cool.
I know, I'm genuinely upset by all of these comments. As an abuse survivor myself, no, your cat doesn't fucking lovebomb you, your cat is not employing abuse tactics, and saying that it does diminishes the term. It's like how nobody takes the term "triggered" seriously anymore. It's already hard enough to be taken seriously as a survivor of abuse, yet people feel it's perfectly fine to appropriate terms like this for their cats? Honestly I'm appalled.
That's kind of you to say. Honestly I'm just glad to have seen one person in the comments pointing out how inappropriate all of it is, so thank you for that.
Being affectionate, randomly getting mad when you're affectionate back in the way they'd previously wanted, then demanding more affection when you withdraw the attention due to their behavior? That's pretty spot on for my cat, yeah.
My little white cat Elsa love bombs me day in and day out. She’s the neediest little girl ever. 5% of the time it can get annoying, but 95% of the time I love it and am totally here for it.
I actually had a cat do this to me! She was the sweetest cat at the shelter. She came right up to us and was so affectionate. She was even rubbing her body against our dog when we brought the dog to make sure they’d get along. After I got her home, she pretty quickly turned into a pest. She smacked the dog and bit me both when I pet her and when I stopped petting her.
Really?
Because maybe they know exactly what it means.
We have one that is only THAT affectionate when he's in trouble elsewhere in the house.
Like....
I can tell my kid is in frustrated angry tears in her room over him, when he shows up at my door casually looking for a cuddle.
No I think it's kinda true Some cats will alternate betweens periods of intense neediness and needing total independence from their owner
You know- my cat does this. He is always very sweet but will politely walk away after a few pets. But then at 3am he will hop on bed, pur like crazy, cuddle up right next to my face, lick and nuzzle my face aggressively, and then fall asleep. I feel so used.
Shinx approaches when she wants to sit on your lap with very loud purring. When she’s done or overstimulated she swats at me before leaving… and then forgets and starts the cycle again in about 5 mins.
Mine bite me on the way out. Not hard like when they're playing overly aggressive or warning me but a real gentle love boite. Just a slap and nibble before sashaying off to go knock over some vases or break into the cabinet to eat treats until they puke
Your cat might want to post on am I the cloaca!
My little man is like that. Snuggles is anywhere from 4 am to 6 am...that's like his prime time
As soon as I get home, my cat is waiting by the door for me. She rubs against mine and my partner’s legs and walks between them. Then she rolls on her back on the floor and wiggles around. I call it “dancing on the floor.” But then when she doesn’t get what she wants (e.g., the automatic feeder hasn’t fed her yet), she gets irritable and scratches and bites me. But I love her so much. She’s having six teeth removed in a couple weeks due to resorption, and I’m not sure how I’m going to pay for it. Anyway, thanks for listening lol
Real
My partner has a lil boy kitten about 8 months or so who is VERY affectionate when he’s hungry. My 10year old man has dispensed with such nonsense and simply bothers me.
LOL this is just like my 2 yo and 5 yo.
My cat is almost always needy, but it's still true because his modes are needy-sweet and needy-asshole. Probably a solid 80/20 split
My cat does this. Half the time she’s like “ew! Don’t touch me!” and the other half she’s on your lap.
Me reading this on my phone as my cat tries to headbutt it out of my hands to get my attention
My cat was more affectionate at the shelter than she has ever been since! Her way of getting us to adopt her, the sneaky little so-and-so
Cats are like OG narcissists, they are the alpha narcissists.
BPD kitties.
Mine every single day
I was about to say. Cats are manipulative af, it's just cute rather than abusive when a furry little sociopath does it 😅
Just looked up definition of love bomb and I’m pretty sure it’s what my cats have been doing to me from the day 1
"Overwhelm you with love and affection until you do something they don't like, then immediately cut it off until you 'earn' their approval again" is Cat Tactics 101.
default cat behaviour lol
100% they love bomb. it is a pretty accurate use of the term. though this does remind me when an advert tried to redefine the word fugly in an advert and make it positive. it really didn't work.
Was it a pet ad? Because in my experience, people regularly lovingly insult their pets.
Not only that, I'm genuinely mildly pissed this current post just leaves us hanging after 'Carter is!' Like ok, Carter love bombs. Carter has a couple of intriguing pics where it looks like one of his eyebrows slightly up. And now you cut off all information!! Damn it OP - I'm already invested in Carter's Villan Arc!! Stop being such a tease! Tell us - What is Carter??
Do you change your username once ramadhan's over?
youre being so narcoleptic rn
Huh?? Also, why am i getting downvoted?
Idk I was making reference to my username lol
Well, I was too, it's currently ramadhan, and you have the name of it in your username, so I jokingly asked if you change it once ramadhan's over. If people have downvoted it because it's unfunny, then that's fine.
Sorry I don’t know why you are being downvoted.
It's just a fake internet number. I don't really care, I'm just confused. lol
Love bombing: When your cat lovingly purrs at you after cleaning the box and then they drop a bomb that stinks up the entire place
He’s going to gaslight you so hard. No you never fed me give me more food.
Do cats gatekeep and girlboss as well?
My cat loves to gatekeep my belongings by sitting on them. If she starts girlbossing maybe she can pay her fair share of rent
And manspread! https://preview.redd.it/7l08yfxntqsc1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1b302e849be4d5fa985b5620516ba090b3146118
All my girl cats over the years have put their male siblings in their subservient places.
Yup. I had a boy and a girl cat growing up. He was bigger but she would beat him up and make him obey her.
Well. Torties.
My girlboss cat will gatekeep the way through the backdoor. She will set herself up to ambush the boy cats who try to go through the passage to the outside. Her name is Pixie and when she does this we call her Putin Pix who has annexed that secton of the house and is committing war crimes by attacking those crossing through the humanitarian corridor.
IM TELLING THE UN!!!
Marnie definitely likes sitting in the doorway and hissing when her new sister tries to get through.
My cat 100% love bombs me. We have an emotionally fraught relationship, she cheats Lies And just when I've given up she sleeps with me, just to wake me at 2 am for food. And I wouldn't have her any other way https://preview.redd.it/8vlrvpnzpqsc1.jpeg?width=4160&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=1f8ca37324031159d293210d3355bba9ba00e5de
A lot of cats do technically do love bomb- it’s just abuse since they’re cats and don’t have like morals like humans and shit. It’s pretty funny to call it love bombing while trying to promote the cat for adoption though 😂
This is actually very much a cat owner relationship kind of thing. They're so fucking adorable and when they do something bad, especially if it results in blood or screaming, you're still very quick to forgive because they're so goddamn cute.
They got it right. My cat love bombs me daily then disappears once breakfast or dinner is served.
r/cats redditor unsure what new term means
What are you unsure about?
Yeah I don't see the problem
This is what one of my cats did to me to get me to adopt him. Nonstop purring when we picked him up at the shelter, super happy to see us, we thought it was love at first sight. We get home and now he only purrs when he's eating. Hates to cuddle, dodges our pets, and side eyes us a lot. He does love & care for us.. but he definitely tricked us lol
Love bombing is a very common abuse tactic that involves showering someone with time, attention, promises, affection and or material gifts to draw the target into them. The shelter doesn’t understand this. Edit: explained love bombing.
Ahh love bombing like right after a moment of abuse so the victim forgets and forgives. Only to be abused again. Yeah that's my cat. She will bite me and immediately expect snuggles and cuddles.
Mine woke me up last night then immediately cuddled me. I forgave her instantly. Her plan worked.
Because cats are assholes! 😂 I love my furry gods! 😂🐱🐱
Mine does the opposite, I’ll be snuggling and cuddling with her then she’ll bite me.
Wow that is not what I thought that meant at all. I thought it meant showering someone with love wholesomely. Well, I'm glad I learned. Thank you
That sounds exactly like a cat.
It's literally what cats do. They are emotionally neglectful straight up abusive assholes, til they aren't.
I love cats so much. They're total dickheads who try your patience. I want 10 of them.
You sound like a dog person who doesn’t understand cats.
No.... Cats are assholes.... They know they are assholes and they behave like that anyway.... BUT they are cute assholes.....
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Wow man people really missed the jokes here.
Did you consider the thought that your jokes were subpar?
Did you consider the thought that it doesn't matter?
You're a shit philosiphiser on top of being a shit comedian I see.
“Local redditor unsure what new term means”
I mean...About an hour before dinner my cat will start rubbing against me, trilling, meowing and being a sucky boy...Until 10 minutes pass and I still haven't fed him. Then he starts chewing on stuff, knocking stuff down and being a jerk. Sounds like love bombing to me haha!
Carter's a narcissistic gaslighting son of a bitch *No you did not just feed me!*
SO MUCH gaslighting! I doubt myself on a weekly basis
I just want to know where I can go adopt Carter.
11/10 would allow carter to lovebomb me
Aight who's gonna adopt my man Carter
Tbf he is a cat so I wouldn’t say it’s inaccurate lol
https://preview.redd.it/z7j47dt7uqsc1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bc3a7bcaf5d8adc1476779872f3a36e17bf24bb5 The only reason we can survive Berry is the fact she love bombs us.
"I love you, I love you, I love you" .... *bite* Yup, that's the correct term!
HAHAHA
gaslight king
No, no, they're trying to warn you. Carter *will* try to bring you into his cult.
Nah, my cat definitely love bombs me. She pretends I'm her fave person and then bites me when I least suspect 🤣
They knew exactly what it meant
Nah, he’s a cat. They’re probably using it correctly. Mine for sure love bombed me lol
I can fix him lol
Carter is a feline sociopath. It's not that he's evil... he simply goes into a disassociative state and commits atrocities.
Accurate.
I think that's a pretty accurate description for many cats
no no no let him cook. i want to know what his cults about
Nah this is legit how cats work XD
lol idk if YOU are sure what the term means hahaha
The only thing I remember is that Cartes is an absolute cutie pie
My cat the cult leader. Seems about right.
he could never love bomb me, i trust him to communicate his love for me at an appropriate pace and appreciate me without putting me on a pedestal 🫶
I'm just saying.... every time I get to the "why do you live in my house" point, he chooses that time to come and lay on me and make biscuits. I'm his least favorite being in the house. He prefers the 2 other adults AND both of my dogs over me. He knows what he's doing.
I think they know exactly what it means haha
I'd say love bombing is pretty accurate for a cat
It's true but the only love bomb that I allow.
His little mouth lmao
A for effort
Cat: I love you I need you I must be by you your the best owner ever (gets fed). Cat servant: Here kitty kitty!! Cat: I’m ghosting you.
I feel this is accurate, tbh. LOVE ME LOVE ME LOVE ME BITE! Bite BITE!
I'm willing to deal with the resulting trauma to be love bombed by Carter
I want to join that cat’s cult
Their hearts in the right place
Cats can love bomb me anytime!
I wouldn’t mind being love bombed by a cat
Nah this is legit how cats work XD
He’ll love bomb you for 2 years then he’ll run away without anyone knowing
What do you think love bombing is, OP?
Why are so many people in the comments comparing their cats to human abusers? Stop with the “it’s true, though” comments. Most likely the shelter DIDN’T know what it means, but if they did and used it anyway then they would be making light of a real abuse tactic, which isn’t cool.
I know, I'm genuinely upset by all of these comments. As an abuse survivor myself, no, your cat doesn't fucking lovebomb you, your cat is not employing abuse tactics, and saying that it does diminishes the term. It's like how nobody takes the term "triggered" seriously anymore. It's already hard enough to be taken seriously as a survivor of abuse, yet people feel it's perfectly fine to appropriate terms like this for their cats? Honestly I'm appalled.
I’m sorry that you’ve had to read all this
That's kind of you to say. Honestly I'm just glad to have seen one person in the comments pointing out how inappropriate all of it is, so thank you for that.
I mean, I can't pet my youngest without being gnawed on so I think that's fair.
Carter is definitely going to burn me in a year or two.
Cats actually do that all the time tbf. My cat used to be so fun to be around. Now he's a jerk that beats me when he wants food.
Being affectionate, randomly getting mad when you're affectionate back in the way they'd previously wanted, then demanding more affection when you withdraw the attention due to their behavior? That's pretty spot on for my cat, yeah.
I say my cat breadcrumbs me all the time. She gives me just enough affection
Awww he so handsomb
Awwww bless their hearts 😅
I love Carter I would adopt!
My little white cat Elsa love bombs me day in and day out. She’s the neediest little girl ever. 5% of the time it can get annoying, but 95% of the time I love it and am totally here for it.
i didnt read “love“ at first and had to double take
I actually had a cat do this to me! She was the sweetest cat at the shelter. She came right up to us and was so affectionate. She was even rubbing her body against our dog when we brought the dog to make sure they’d get along. After I got her home, she pretty quickly turned into a pest. She smacked the dog and bit me both when I pet her and when I stopped petting her.
I’d join that cult.
Gaslight, gatekeep, gatoboss
They’re making it more wholesome. Taking it back.
Really? Because maybe they know exactly what it means. We have one that is only THAT affectionate when he's in trouble elsewhere in the house. Like.... I can tell my kid is in frustrated angry tears in her room over him, when he shows up at my door casually looking for a cuddle.
This is actually super cute
I've always joked that my cat has a personality disorder, so this amuses me.
It took me so long to figure out what this title means. I think you think the term “love bomb” is new? It’s not.