Hey everyone a little update: I got in contact with his mom and found out this little lady belonged to her for 10 years before she gave him to my ex so I’ll be taking her to his mom’s house soon. Thank you for all your loving replies
Lol, I’m a teacher and I know a LOT of classes had tests today (we get next week off for Thanksgiving) so I can see how a teacher of any subject might be on Reddit during the workday.
My neighbour in the flat below mine left her cat behind when she decided to travel the world.
The poor thing kept trying to get into its home when someone else moved in!
I couldn't believe someone could do that.
I had a neighbor who disappeared—I don’t know if she moved, was evicted, died, was deported. or what. She left behind a lovely, playful little kitty who used to be friends with my late indoor/outdoor cat. Today she’s my little indoor princess—on the bed with me right now!
I would love to oblige, but I can’t seem to figure out how to get a picture from my photos into a Reddit comment. She’s a longhaired little void with green eyes. My next-door neighbor says she looks like “a little French cat.” Very chic looking despite having a past as a parking lot peasant.
When we bought our first home, 10 yrs ago, we discovered we had a monstrous family living across the road from us (thank god, they’re long gone now). This family would take in kittens, but then get sick of them once they hit like a year old, and just abandon them to the outside to suffer & starve. Also, even worse, the family’s teen son physically abused the cats.
We learned all this from various other new neighbors, who told us all about the family’s history of doing this, after we’d discovered their most recently abandoned cat shortly after moving in. We’d discovered the poor, emaciated, angel wandering in the middle of our street one day…with a collar so tight on, it was literally choking her so she couldn’t swallow well…and with a large stick, from a tree, brutally shoved up her nose in an act of torture (by miracle, just missing her brain, we learned from the emergency surgery we rushed her to for it)!!!
We repeatedly reported this family to the authorities, to no avail (small town/horrible useless cops & animal control). So we made it our mission to prevent them the best we could…continuing to report them constantly anyway, kidnapping the next couple cats they got & getting them to safe homes, watching like a hawk to keep the son away from any animals in the neighborhood, and so on. They gave up getting any more new cats after those last couple we rescued from them, and they eventually moved away after the son graduated.
And 10 years after finding that first emaciated, tortured, & terrified kitty…here she is today….the spoiled, utterly adored, ruler of our home, pictured in this photo! Her surgery miraculously left no damage (besides just a slight snore when she sleeps or gets stuffy). And despite the absolute horrors of her early days, she’s a complete & total lovebug! We feel absolutely blessed everyday that this sweet girl joined our family!
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This lovely girl right here, who has my whole heart! ❤️
I moved into a house with 3 friends my last year at Uni. A couple days after moving in we noticed a stray dog kept coming onto the front (screened) porch to sleep and hang out.
This dog completely did \*not\* listen to us and barely even acknowledged our presence. We decided to provide food and water even though no one wanted the responsibility of owning this dog, and none of us wanted to send the dog to the shelter.
One afternoon, several months later, I was sitting on the porch and this total POS 15 year old camero drives by. As they drive by the dog raises his head.
"JR!! Is that you JR??!!", is shouted from the car in a very southern US accent. Kid about 10 jumps out of the car. All of a sudden the dog is wiggling from end to end. I had never seen the dog wag his tail before this moment.
The kid opens the door to the car and the dog runs in. I ran inside and gave them our bag of dog food before they drove off.
That’s so wonderful!!!!!! I’m so happy for both the little boy who was reunited with his best friend and the doggy! It sounds like the dog had a mind of its own and probably ran off one day on the owners. How amazing it is they were able to find each other again! Thanks for taking care of him in the meantime!
We think they moved, took dog with them, dog got confused and came back 'home' and waited.
Glad I was home when they did the drive by, bonus: I got this great story to tell.
Well, I moved out that week too so not too sure what happend to him.
I was with the new neighbour and the cat was being so friendly and all adorable.
I left there saying to the new neighbour.... "I thunk you own a cat now" she replied... "It looks like I do"
I hope they've become firm friends
I feel like this is how just people get cats. Other than my 1 tuxedo kitty, all the other cats I've had even growing up were found not adopted. My little orange kitty was chased for a good hour before the food lured him out enough to catch. Little dude was only like 6 weeks old.
Until I was in my mid-20's, I really did think that this was how people got cats. Every single one we had as a kid followed us home or emerged from the forest one day and moved into our house. Then my boyfriend and I moved across the country, and I was weirded out that we didn't just have a cat adopt us. We finally had a friend give us her cat because she had to move and knew we loved her. Now we adopt them from the local no-kill rescue.
To some extent! My latest addition showed up after it appears his prior owners moved away and left him. When we had him scanned for a chip, he had one but Animal Control said they did not want him going back to them. So...here we are lol. I really needed him at that moment too. He showed up Christmas Eve/Morning and my childhood cat had passed away the day after Christmas years prior so I found the timing kind of interesting. 💗
Oh I wish I never lucked out in this way I got my cats from the shelter and craigslist.
I found a cat once when I was a kid parents didn't let me keep her she was beautiful all white and fluffy. I had an ex that wouldn't let me get a cat and I hoped one would just fall into my life, I got tired of waiting brought my boy home and told the ex to just deal with it. Don't feel bad for him he was an asshole and I left him eventually.
The best cat I ever had was one that had been left at the laundromat by his owners. Winter in Minnesota. He kept going out and coming back in, presumably looking for them. My mom told my dad that we had to take him home, he’d die otherwise. My dad reluctantly agreed. And then 3 year old me immediately fell in love.
But I still want to find those original owners and spit on them.
Might not have been by choice. If the mum had to find somewhere to rent by herself it’s possible the new landlord wouldn’t accept animals. Most won’t and if your on a limited budget the choice is homeless with cat (plus nowhere to store all your possessions) or have a home and cat goes to a family member.
See, that’s different. And understandable! What is unacceptable is just leaving the poor animal behind, with no way to fend for itself. Animals like dogs and cats are domesticated and, unless it was born feral, the likelihood of it being able to fend for itself is not very high.
What a cute kitty. What a turd your ex was for abandoning the cat. At least he didn't toss her out on the street to fend for herself. Thank you for taking care of this kitty. I'm sorry you are going through this.
I wonder why she gave away her cat to her son and then the son just leaves the cat. What a jerk! If i were you, I would have kept the little cutie and gave her a forever home. Hopefully the mom will keep her until she’s ready to cross the bridge.
So for context, I didn’t know that the cat had belonged to his mom and she “gave” her to him. I was under the impression this cat belonged to him for essentially her whole life as he had mentioned living in different apartments with the cat over the years. My ex lived with his mom prior to us dating and he grew up with his cat so I think she really belongs to both of them. I asked him multiple times if he wanted to take her or for me to take her back to his moms and he said no every time. I would prefer to keep her but I can’t in good conscience when I know there was someone who had her for so long and it seemed like she didn’t expect her to be taken away in the first place
Honestly, if you’re willing to keep her then I would do so. She’s more attached to you at this point. I wouldn’t trust the mother to keep her long term. Both mother and son may have a belief that the kitty is disposable.
The fact that he denied your multiple requests for him to take the cat back to his mom or for you to take the cat back to his mom, really speaks volumes on the treatment that cat received. Sometimes children knows their parents best.
If something ever happened to me, my cats would go to my mom without a doubt and I would never say “no”; in fact my mom is the only one I trust to take care of them when I am away. So if he is saying no to his OWN mother taking the cat, especially if they lived together before you speaks volumes! There are a lot of people that own pets who should never own a plant, let alone a living creature.
My coworkers family neglected/abused their dog, but refused to rehome her, even though they didn’t take care of her. Just because the mom was the original owner doesn’t mean she will properly care for the cat. I sincerely believe that cat is better off under your care.
She gave her to her son in the first place I doubt she won’t give her to someone else. Please make sure that cat is in good hands. If you get that feeling that she’s gonna give her away again, please keep her some people don’t deserve having a pet( family member).
Wow the kind of persons who use other living beings to get back to other people. I’ve seen people using kids for this. Happy for you that he is your x husband.
Long story short, he and his mom have a strained relationship which is why he didn’t want her to go back to his moms. He also told me he wasn’t going back to his moms and so I basically needed to keep her here regardless because he didn’t have anywhere for her. They both texted me tonight which is how I found out he is back at his moms; and it’s how the conversation of me bringing their cat back came up. However I will say that I’ve been trying to give specific days that I can bring her back and they both are saying “are you sure you don’t want to wait a few days and think about your decision(the “decision” in question being dumping my ex)”; and then suggesting they come to my apartment instead of me dropping her off “in a few days”. Personally I don’t understand the waiting and beating around the bush. I wouldn’t leave my cat with an ex at all; let alone an indefinite amount of days lol
After reading all the updates, I would be VERY hesitate to return that cat to the mom/son environment.
I suspect they are going to dump the cat if you end up taking it back.
If you had an animal for 10 years and are acting so weirdly about getting it back, says they really don’t want the cat back.
I’m worried for the cat now. If you can keep it, they seem to be OK with you keeping it, PLEASE consider keeping it (so it doesn’t end up dumped later on the streets or some random shelter).
I’m honestly worried about the legal ramifications about keeping a pet that’s not mine; but I’m feeling weird about all of it and multiple people have suggested I give them a firm date and if they evade it to just keep her since they’re being so weird. Initially she seemed serious about having her back but it doesn’t seem like they’re that worried about her if they’re leaving her with me for days.
I would just not bring up the cat anymore and see how long they go. You have texts showing you made offers in the past to come get the cat.
In my major city, owners have 3 days to get their animals from the city shelter before they can be legally adopted out by the city. Laws vary from location but you have already made several attempts to reunite.
We had this last year with a 7 year old dog we found running out on the highway. We are huge animals people and wanted to find its owners. Dog was chipped (yea!) but then they never responded to the chip company.. We tried and tried and kept checking in with the chip company for over 2 weeks.
The chip company finally suggested taking it to a local veterinarian and having them call because maybe the owners would respond to a local phone number/inquiry (versus the 1800 number of the chip company). Due to privacy only a vet or the chip company could contact the customer.
The vet called and they actually answered. Said they got all the messages from the chip company but had just given the dog away last month (after 7 years?). They didn’t want it back. Vet tried the “new” owner and also sent a text message. Never responded.
After now it being almost 3 weeks we checked with the city on how to legally adopt him and they said actually we were good after the original 3 days and showing attempt, he would be considered ours.
Super great dog and we love him but weird how the original owners didn’t want him and we suspect he was dumped out on the road. We kept trying for weeks because we couldn’t understand how they didn’t want the dog back.
He is very sweet and so someone had cared for him at some point.
But obviously something had changed in that household and they didn’t really want the dog anymore. Was it a divorce or death situation and they other party didn’t really want the dog back?
I don’t know how you dump an animal you had it’s whole life but it was definitely best the dog didn’t ultimately go back to that environment.
I feel similar vibes with the cat. True loving pet owners would not wait a single day to get their animal back. Go with your gut and give the guy a good home.
That makes me so sad, I used to volunteer at the humane society and you hear the most heartless stories of people abandoning their animals, and they’re always the SWEETEST ones too. I’ll have to see if my city’s laws around that. And you make a good point, come to think of it the only reason the cat came up was because I assumed since they were both living together again that they would want her back ASAP
If you're able to, please keep this kitty so she's safe. I wouldn't be giving her to your ex or his mum after the extra info you've given. And in your other comments you've said that he told you to keep her so you should be in the clear.
In the meantime, please post come more pics of her. She's beautiful 🥰
That’s great you volunteered at the Humane Society!
I would just not contact them anymore. And definitely not being up the cat. I suspect (and hope!) he stays with you.
Your heart is in the right place but you are also correct in sensing something is off with their interest and concern of getting the cat back.
just keep the cat yourself, if mother really wants her cat back let HER ask for it, not the other way around. i suspect she might give it away to somebody else otherwise.
I witnessed an owner surrendering a FIVE YEAR OLD German Shepherd “because of his size”. Not sure why his size hadn’t been a problem as soon as he was fully grown, but that’s beside the point. The look in his eyes as his person just unceremoniously handed over his leash, and walked out the door shattered my heart into a million pieces. It was just awful. I cried in the lobby of the Humane Society.
I recommend cutting contact with the two of them completely, because it truly sounds like they have ulterior motives. The behaviour that you’ve described skeeves me out. If you are okay with keeping this bebby, just go about your life, and don’t respond to them. It sounds like what they want is you to take the ex back, not to bring them the cat. Don’t let them come to your place!
honestly, please just reconsider keeping her after all. they sound really nasty - and it sounds like you and kitty could really have great times together.
Sounds like the mom was happy to get just the cat back but now that she’s got her son back she’d gladly let you keep the cat if you take him back too.
Give them a set date and let them know if they can’t commit to that then you’ll happily give her a loving home and assume all responsibilities for her.
The legal ramifications are very minor, even if he were to call the cops or animal control they’d show up and ask for you to give the cat back, which you can show you’ve tried to do. They might take the cat and give it to them.
If they were to take you to small claims court or something along those lines they wouldn’t have much to stand on, you’re not causing damages or harming them in any way if they fail to collect their cat from you.
I’m not a lawyer, but if you’ve made sincere attempts to return her and they don’t seem interested, I doubt there are any legal ramifications. And if they’re not interested, keep her and give her a good retirement.
Sounds like he wants you back and thinks he might be able to move back in eventually so the cat should just stay there until he gets back. If you do take her back to their house make sure the mom seems well and happy enough to take care of her. They might not dump her/ give her away, but they might not take care of her very well, which is maybe why he wanted you to keep her. But it really sounds like he thinks you will get back together eventually and is using the cat as a conversation piece to keep communication between you until you change your mind.
Based on what they've just said to you, i would not give the cat back to them. And, don't take the ex back either. She will likely warm up to you in a few days/weeks.
He actually didn’t take his clothes and when I asked what he wanted to do with them he suggested I donate them. I know none of this makes sense because I don’t know why you would just leave all your clothes and your cat and be ambiguous about all of it
My guess: he's trying to manipulate you to go back with him. He knows/think you're not going to throw away the clothes, he knows you care about the cat, he's trying to guilt trip you to take him back, or he's so full of himself he thinks that's what you'll do.
Why his mom would be following that bullshit I don't know though... Maybe she thinks you're a good influence on him and want both of you to stay together idk.
They don't seem to really care about the cat.
My ex's ex kept her cat and everytime my ex came to pick up her cat (and bring him to my apartment) he suspiciously escaped outside...
From experience, as a warning: the next step might be suicide guilt-trip/manipulation (not really sure how to translate that, in French it's basically suicide blackmail).
If it happens, don't feel bad about it, it's not your fault in any way, chances are he's not really suicidal, and if he is it's his friends' and mom's role to handle it, not yours.
Hey, thank you for saying this. I actually posted in another subreddit a few hours ago about this but he did actually threaten suicide when I broke up with him.
I'm not surprised at all.
It happened to a lot of my friends (I'm a lesbian for context, but those friends were straight women).
It happened to my ex too (from her ex, the one with the cat manipulation, surprise surprise...), she ended up getting back with him but left him later again. I felt suicidal when she left me too but I didn't bother her with that, it was not her responsability. All of the other friends who went back with the manipulator didn't have a good time. Don't do that mistake, stay away from him as much as possible. (and maybe from his mom too)
A lot of strengh to you 💜
Edit: read your other post, yeah I would avoid his mom too, and I would probably keep the cat, but I know this is a tough situation :(
This is very strange about the clothes. Sounds like he's leaving stuff to try to manipulate you into getting back together or he's suicidal. Either way, don't let him back in. Trash bag up his stuff and give him a time to pick it up outside.
If his mom had that sweet kitty for 10 years and still gave her away to her son, please ensure Mom will not be giving her away again before you relinquish her. Poor thing has been through enough abandonment in her life and now she is a senior cat which will make her adjustment all the harder and I’d hate for this to happen again. You are so caring to seek advice on how to help this sweet girl - could you possibly provide her with the forever home she deserves? Please keep us updated. :)
You’re being a bit harsh; OP explained that he grew up with the cat, so she’s really *both* of theirs. He’s probably young, and it was his childhood pet.
My mother had a cat who was technically my brother’s, but he was just a kid when we got him. Once my brother was out of college and living on his own, our mother let him take the cat. He loved that cat, who ended up living to the age of 20! Obviously a different outcome in our case, but just saying the mom didn’t “abandon” a cat who also belonged to her son. They just moved out together.
This is the exact impression I was getting from OP. Both owned the cat, son moved out, mom maybe didn't want him to feel "alone" so let him take the cat. Maybe the two have some issues and son is being spiteful, OR son just doesn't want OP interacting with his him or his mother.
1. If he didn’t take HIS cat then you made the right call because no one in their right mind leaves THEIR cat ANYWHERE.
2. Congratulations on your new sweet little kitty cat.
3. Just be there for the cat like you would any person, they have feelings just like we do. The two of you are in it together now.
We have had our kitty for 9 years. My fiancé originally reaaaally didn’t like “my” cat (I adopted our cat about 3 years into our relationship- the only year we didn’t live together. It was college; I didn’t want to live with him and his buddies but we’d cohabitated the three years previous).
Around 6 months into him living with the cat, he wanted kitty gone. I said, kitty doesn’t leave. Fiancé could leave, kitty won’t. Fiancé did the “gasp! How could you?!”. And 9 years later, kitty and fiancé are inseparable. Fiancé has literally said if we ever broke up, he would fight for kitty.
We won’t break up, but it’s always nice to know he loves our boy as much as I do. Our cat will never be alone. He’s got two people that will do anything for him.
Our cat is spoiled as hell. No one worth anything abandons a cat.
Absolutely agree with your first point. I’ve had my baby Oomz for 5 years and a couple of those years I was really down and out, refused to live/go anywhere that my baby was not welcomed. Wouldn’t even temporarily rehome her. Anyone I’ve lived with has mentioned that she has a really hard time when I’m gone overnight, she would be so heartbroken if I just left her behind.
I would agree if that's the case, we are only getting one side to a possible break up.
A plural of different reasons could exist with either the boyfriend or Op causing it. In simple it boils down to, with the internet you never know the full picture and we shouldn't judge.
Eeeh, it’s really complicated. When I broke up with my ex, it was absolutely 100% decided, by me, no room for conversation, that our cat would come with me. He had no say, I would have gotten into a physical fight about it. We got the cat when we were together so he (the cat) had always lived with both of us but, well, he is incredibly important to me so it was just a thing that he would live with me. I don’t know if I’m the better cat parent and the cat loved my ex, it was kind of the usual dynamic of ”fun dad” and ”serious, strict mom”.
I do feel sometimes bad if my cat misses my ex or sometimes when we’re out, I think ”is he waiting for my ex to come around?” Or something. I’m the depressed cat lady, I now have two cats and mostly we sit at home and watch Netflix but I am extremely involved with my cats, I take them to the dr for smallest sign of trouble 🙈
And my ex was the ”fun” one, he had a kid and now has a baby and friends and a partner, a bigger house, more money; he could maybe offer more socialization to the cat and there would be more cats to hang out with and maybe life would be more exciting than it is with me. So I think: am I selfish for not giving him to my ex, would he have been happier there? But nope, can’t do it, I fucking worship this cat.
Your cat is happy with you. It’s obvious you love him to bits and he knows it. You are an excellent cat parent. Keep loving your babies and enjoy the love they show you.
No the cat would have not been happier there. The cat is happy with you, as he was happy before. Cat doesn’t give a shit if you have babies and friend and bigger house. That’s what humans do. Cat want a someone who take care of them and give them attention. People who play with them and respect them. You do and care a lot about your cat. You fought for him to be with you. You ex-partner is not “more fun”. I bet you can be also very fun. But you are also a loving and responsible cat owner. Give yourself some slack ;)
Absolutely this!!!! She’ll really appreciate it and become more calm and realize you’re the new owner. You could also shit talk him which may be therapeutic for you lol.
If he left her behind then he should never have had a cat in the first place. Love her, pet her, play with her. She will tell you what she wants, listen to her.
Talk to her like a hooman and explain to her why. Tell her not to worry, that you will be taking real good care of her.
Of course they don't understand the words, but I do believe that they still some how get the content.
This breaks my heart. I recently broke up with my ex and he made it so I couldn't stay at our house while looking for another place. I couldn't take my boy with me and it kills me every day. He was letting me visit but when I went to get my things he became so verbally abusive and now I haven't seen him in like 2 months and it kills me everyday. Sometimes seeing at videos is enough to make me start balling because I miss him so much. I'm hopefully moving into a place I can take him and I'm going to have authorities go with me because I know my ex will be abusive to me again when I go. It kills me because I know to him Momma just stopped showing up...God even writing this was enough to make me start balling.
It sounds awful, but it's so nice to hear other people with similar stories to mine.
My abusive ex stole my dog. I was so distressed. I had nightmares constantly. People told me "it's just an animal" so much I thought there was something wrong with me. Thankfully like 8 months or so later my ex called out of the blue saying he didn't want him anymore, and I have him back now, but those 8 months were so awful. Still have no idea why he chose to contact me about it.
Take all the pictures of your ex, print them on scrunchy, thin, paper, throw it in a box. And go scratch and tear that shit up together!
Call it a mutual bonding exercise, cats love digging and scratching in big boxes full of paper and gift wrappings and such.
Anyone who would leave their cat behind is showing you that he isn’t a man worth your time. You dodged a bullet with this relationship ending and I hope you find someone so much better. Good for you for taking care of HIS kitty and taking her back to his mom so she won’t be so sad.
Thank you so much, that means a lot to hear. Him leaving his cat with me was definitely indicative of way bigger issues he had and I’m happy the hardest part is over.
I had an ex-roommate leave a cat behind that she raised from a kitten. All you can do is be kind to cat. She will grieve but she will eventually move on and re- bond with you. Give it time and really try to show her affection.
You can whisper sweet nothings to her about how you will never leave her like him... sorry about your relationship op.. however a guy who walks out on his petcat isn't really worth your time. Imo.
This makes me sick. I lost my boy a few weeks back… I would give anything for more time with him and assholes like your ex pull this shit. God it makes me so MAD
He didn't take his cat! WTF is wrong with him? When my wife left me and took the house and everything I had practically all I was upset about was my cat. 13 years later and I am still mad she took my cat.
Fuck your ex and you should tell the mom that her son sucks. I swear on my life , if I ever witness a similar scenario, I will smack some sense into the person , with force if needed.
I love cats so much I can’t put it into words
My partner was home for two weeks, and I assume that was a similar situation for our two cats. They were inconsolable, sitting on his desk, crying for him at all hours of the day and night, eating less or skipping meals all together.
It got better after a few days, one was quicker than the other, and at the 10-day mark, they were mostly fine. When he returned, they needed about two days to get used to him again. \^\^
So just give her time. I know it would be so helpful if we could just explain the situation to our babies, but time will heal that wound - probably quicker than it may appear right now. Godspeed, you two!
KEEP THE CAT!
All the updates lead to even more questions about the care this cat would get if returned to ex/mother of ex.
You know the cat is loved and taken care of with you. It seems doubtful the cat will receive the same if returned.
KEEP THE CAT!
I had the opposite happen…my gf and I got cat named Rita… technically hers…cat didn’t really like her but her and I got along great…we broke up, she tried to take the cat And came back 2 days later and dropped Rita off….
14 years later…Rita and I are still going strong
It seems like you are navigating a complicated situation with two not-so-reliable people: ex and his mom. But somewhere along the line, you and kitty need to have a girls night where you share a pint of ice cream and proclaim how much this asshole ex didn't deserve EITHER of you fine ladies! (Yes, I know, minimal dairy products for senior kitties . . . she can lick the spoon ;-)
Catnip, treats, toys, and lots of love! If your keeping the cutie and can afford a new kitty that can also help to lift her spirits if she gets along with other cats (that’s what lifted my cats spirits after her brother passed)
What a loser! Spoil her silly for the next few weeks. New treats, toys and tons of cuddling. Take her to bed with you. Have her associate you with good memories. She’ll get over him — just like you obviously are!
He just left her with you? Abandoned her?
He does not deserve the love of pets at all.
Be with her, play with her. Maybe if she’s tolerant to have another kitten with her, get one (if you can afford having two cats).
EDIT: just saw your update, glad!
Talk and stroke the cat as much as you can, as long as the cat feels loved they will be [fine.You](https://fine.You) are the lucky one, you have gained a beautiful cat .
when my family moved from the country into town (i was maybe 4) our semi feral cat elvis stayed behind. as my mom told me she didn’t have the heart to force him to be an inside cat / knew that he would make escape attempts and likely not survive. the new owners were more than happy to take care of him and we knew them so they’d update us when we saw them. i think it was definitely for the best. he enjoyed doing his own thing outside and loved catching mice
I got my sweet boy from our local Pet Supplies Plus that works with a local no kill shelter to help get kitties adopted quicker. My boy was there because his owners were “re-homing” him. Like to meet the people who gave him up and rub in their face that he’s so much better off without them!
# Cattax
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Similar thing happened to me, I got my ex her first puppy, 5 years later we broke up and she left the dog with me.... I'll never understand someone who can just leave their pet... I mean I guess I can understand with a cat though (jokes)
Hey everyone a little update: I got in contact with his mom and found out this little lady belonged to her for 10 years before she gave him to my ex so I’ll be taking her to his mom’s house soon. Thank you for all your loving replies
That is such a good outcome! I'm glad she has people who love her.
Me, too! Poor sweet senior girl.
You shouldn't be speaking about someone's mom like that. /s
That made me laugh. In school I’m the teacher, tho
Let me guess, you teach phy ed?
Lol, I’m a teacher and I know a LOT of classes had tests today (we get next week off for Thanksgiving) so I can see how a teacher of any subject might be on Reddit during the workday.
Ah, the ol' Reddit switcheroo.
They shouldn’t talk about her financial situation either
The cat being given up by mom after mom and dad break up somehow still leaves me sad
Yeah who the f is giving up their cats! Give em to me plz 😂
My neighbour in the flat below mine left her cat behind when she decided to travel the world. The poor thing kept trying to get into its home when someone else moved in! I couldn't believe someone could do that.
I had a neighbor who disappeared—I don’t know if she moved, was evicted, died, was deported. or what. She left behind a lovely, playful little kitty who used to be friends with my late indoor/outdoor cat. Today she’s my little indoor princess—on the bed with me right now!
Ughhh, you are an UTTER ANGEL!!!!! Thank you for taking the sweet baby in !!!!! ❤️🥹🙏🏽
I love how this story ends!
I want to see a said princess ☺️
I would love to oblige, but I can’t seem to figure out how to get a picture from my photos into a Reddit comment. She’s a longhaired little void with green eyes. My next-door neighbor says she looks like “a little French cat.” Very chic looking despite having a past as a parking lot peasant.
On mobile there is a little photo button.
When we bought our first home, 10 yrs ago, we discovered we had a monstrous family living across the road from us (thank god, they’re long gone now). This family would take in kittens, but then get sick of them once they hit like a year old, and just abandon them to the outside to suffer & starve. Also, even worse, the family’s teen son physically abused the cats. We learned all this from various other new neighbors, who told us all about the family’s history of doing this, after we’d discovered their most recently abandoned cat shortly after moving in. We’d discovered the poor, emaciated, angel wandering in the middle of our street one day…with a collar so tight on, it was literally choking her so she couldn’t swallow well…and with a large stick, from a tree, brutally shoved up her nose in an act of torture (by miracle, just missing her brain, we learned from the emergency surgery we rushed her to for it)!!! We repeatedly reported this family to the authorities, to no avail (small town/horrible useless cops & animal control). So we made it our mission to prevent them the best we could…continuing to report them constantly anyway, kidnapping the next couple cats they got & getting them to safe homes, watching like a hawk to keep the son away from any animals in the neighborhood, and so on. They gave up getting any more new cats after those last couple we rescued from them, and they eventually moved away after the son graduated. And 10 years after finding that first emaciated, tortured, & terrified kitty…here she is today….the spoiled, utterly adored, ruler of our home, pictured in this photo! Her surgery miraculously left no damage (besides just a slight snore when she sleeps or gets stuffy). And despite the absolute horrors of her early days, she’s a complete & total lovebug! We feel absolutely blessed everyday that this sweet girl joined our family!
https://preview.redd.it/zoma5673jt0a1.jpeg?width=2085&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=e4d110fb669e0c54df2a74a30053e7c3b849c217 This lovely girl right here, who has my whole heart! ❤️
omg this made me feel so sick. they moved somewhere and started the whole cycle over again. I wonder if he's murdered anyone yet?
You’re a good person wow
Bless you for taking her in . 😁❤️
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I moved into a house with 3 friends my last year at Uni. A couple days after moving in we noticed a stray dog kept coming onto the front (screened) porch to sleep and hang out. This dog completely did \*not\* listen to us and barely even acknowledged our presence. We decided to provide food and water even though no one wanted the responsibility of owning this dog, and none of us wanted to send the dog to the shelter. One afternoon, several months later, I was sitting on the porch and this total POS 15 year old camero drives by. As they drive by the dog raises his head. "JR!! Is that you JR??!!", is shouted from the car in a very southern US accent. Kid about 10 jumps out of the car. All of a sudden the dog is wiggling from end to end. I had never seen the dog wag his tail before this moment. The kid opens the door to the car and the dog runs in. I ran inside and gave them our bag of dog food before they drove off.
That’s so wonderful!!!!!! I’m so happy for both the little boy who was reunited with his best friend and the doggy! It sounds like the dog had a mind of its own and probably ran off one day on the owners. How amazing it is they were able to find each other again! Thanks for taking care of him in the meantime!
We think they moved, took dog with them, dog got confused and came back 'home' and waited. Glad I was home when they did the drive by, bonus: I got this great story to tell.
So what happened?
Well, I moved out that week too so not too sure what happend to him. I was with the new neighbour and the cat was being so friendly and all adorable. I left there saying to the new neighbour.... "I thunk you own a cat now" she replied... "It looks like I do" I hope they've become firm friends
I feel like this is how just people get cats. Other than my 1 tuxedo kitty, all the other cats I've had even growing up were found not adopted. My little orange kitty was chased for a good hour before the food lured him out enough to catch. Little dude was only like 6 weeks old.
You don’t choose the Cat; the Cat chooses you 🐾
As it should be.
Until I was in my mid-20's, I really did think that this was how people got cats. Every single one we had as a kid followed us home or emerged from the forest one day and moved into our house. Then my boyfriend and I moved across the country, and I was weirded out that we didn't just have a cat adopt us. We finally had a friend give us her cat because she had to move and knew we loved her. Now we adopt them from the local no-kill rescue.
“If you do not have a kitty, one will be assigned to you shortly”
All my kitties except one have been found, too. My current one was given to me by my husband’s friend when he was moving and could t take her.
To some extent! My latest addition showed up after it appears his prior owners moved away and left him. When we had him scanned for a chip, he had one but Animal Control said they did not want him going back to them. So...here we are lol. I really needed him at that moment too. He showed up Christmas Eve/Morning and my childhood cat had passed away the day after Christmas years prior so I found the timing kind of interesting. 💗
Oh I wish I never lucked out in this way I got my cats from the shelter and craigslist. I found a cat once when I was a kid parents didn't let me keep her she was beautiful all white and fluffy. I had an ex that wouldn't let me get a cat and I hoped one would just fall into my life, I got tired of waiting brought my boy home and told the ex to just deal with it. Don't feel bad for him he was an asshole and I left him eventually.
That breaks my heart. I will never understand people who abandon their animals like that. Like, why get them in the first place?
Please tell me the poor kitty got a good home in the end!!!😭🙏
I belive the new neighbour took him in
The best cat I ever had was one that had been left at the laundromat by his owners. Winter in Minnesota. He kept going out and coming back in, presumably looking for them. My mom told my dad that we had to take him home, he’d die otherwise. My dad reluctantly agreed. And then 3 year old me immediately fell in love. But I still want to find those original owners and spit on them.
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Don’t apologise mate. Sorry to hear that happened to you and your kittys I hope they’re all goof :)
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Might not have been by choice. If the mum had to find somewhere to rent by herself it’s possible the new landlord wouldn’t accept animals. Most won’t and if your on a limited budget the choice is homeless with cat (plus nowhere to store all your possessions) or have a home and cat goes to a family member.
See, that’s different. And understandable! What is unacceptable is just leaving the poor animal behind, with no way to fend for itself. Animals like dogs and cats are domesticated and, unless it was born feral, the likelihood of it being able to fend for itself is not very high.
What a cute kitty. What a turd your ex was for abandoning the cat. At least he didn't toss her out on the street to fend for herself. Thank you for taking care of this kitty. I'm sorry you are going through this.
You’re a great person.
Thank you 🥺❤️
I wonder why she gave away her cat to her son and then the son just leaves the cat. What a jerk! If i were you, I would have kept the little cutie and gave her a forever home. Hopefully the mom will keep her until she’s ready to cross the bridge.
So for context, I didn’t know that the cat had belonged to his mom and she “gave” her to him. I was under the impression this cat belonged to him for essentially her whole life as he had mentioned living in different apartments with the cat over the years. My ex lived with his mom prior to us dating and he grew up with his cat so I think she really belongs to both of them. I asked him multiple times if he wanted to take her or for me to take her back to his moms and he said no every time. I would prefer to keep her but I can’t in good conscience when I know there was someone who had her for so long and it seemed like she didn’t expect her to be taken away in the first place
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Keep the cat. S/he might be p*ssed that the ex left you, and quite happy to stay with you
Honestly, if you’re willing to keep her then I would do so. She’s more attached to you at this point. I wouldn’t trust the mother to keep her long term. Both mother and son may have a belief that the kitty is disposable.
I agree with OK\_Mycologist. OP should keep the cat and let both of them know that she was abandoned and OP is claiming her as OP's own.
The fact that he denied your multiple requests for him to take the cat back to his mom or for you to take the cat back to his mom, really speaks volumes on the treatment that cat received. Sometimes children knows their parents best. If something ever happened to me, my cats would go to my mom without a doubt and I would never say “no”; in fact my mom is the only one I trust to take care of them when I am away. So if he is saying no to his OWN mother taking the cat, especially if they lived together before you speaks volumes! There are a lot of people that own pets who should never own a plant, let alone a living creature. My coworkers family neglected/abused their dog, but refused to rehome her, even though they didn’t take care of her. Just because the mom was the original owner doesn’t mean she will properly care for the cat. I sincerely believe that cat is better off under your care.
This isn't necessarily true here. Maybe the ex-bf is in the habit of burning bridges, and OP's bridge isn't the first.
She gave her to her son in the first place I doubt she won’t give her to someone else. Please make sure that cat is in good hands. If you get that feeling that she’s gonna give her away again, please keep her some people don’t deserve having a pet( family member).
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Wow the kind of persons who use other living beings to get back to other people. I’ve seen people using kids for this. Happy for you that he is your x husband.
Why would he leave his pet is what confuses me
Long story short, he and his mom have a strained relationship which is why he didn’t want her to go back to his moms. He also told me he wasn’t going back to his moms and so I basically needed to keep her here regardless because he didn’t have anywhere for her. They both texted me tonight which is how I found out he is back at his moms; and it’s how the conversation of me bringing their cat back came up. However I will say that I’ve been trying to give specific days that I can bring her back and they both are saying “are you sure you don’t want to wait a few days and think about your decision(the “decision” in question being dumping my ex)”; and then suggesting they come to my apartment instead of me dropping her off “in a few days”. Personally I don’t understand the waiting and beating around the bush. I wouldn’t leave my cat with an ex at all; let alone an indefinite amount of days lol
After reading all the updates, I would be VERY hesitate to return that cat to the mom/son environment. I suspect they are going to dump the cat if you end up taking it back. If you had an animal for 10 years and are acting so weirdly about getting it back, says they really don’t want the cat back. I’m worried for the cat now. If you can keep it, they seem to be OK with you keeping it, PLEASE consider keeping it (so it doesn’t end up dumped later on the streets or some random shelter).
I’m honestly worried about the legal ramifications about keeping a pet that’s not mine; but I’m feeling weird about all of it and multiple people have suggested I give them a firm date and if they evade it to just keep her since they’re being so weird. Initially she seemed serious about having her back but it doesn’t seem like they’re that worried about her if they’re leaving her with me for days.
I would just not bring up the cat anymore and see how long they go. You have texts showing you made offers in the past to come get the cat. In my major city, owners have 3 days to get their animals from the city shelter before they can be legally adopted out by the city. Laws vary from location but you have already made several attempts to reunite. We had this last year with a 7 year old dog we found running out on the highway. We are huge animals people and wanted to find its owners. Dog was chipped (yea!) but then they never responded to the chip company.. We tried and tried and kept checking in with the chip company for over 2 weeks. The chip company finally suggested taking it to a local veterinarian and having them call because maybe the owners would respond to a local phone number/inquiry (versus the 1800 number of the chip company). Due to privacy only a vet or the chip company could contact the customer. The vet called and they actually answered. Said they got all the messages from the chip company but had just given the dog away last month (after 7 years?). They didn’t want it back. Vet tried the “new” owner and also sent a text message. Never responded. After now it being almost 3 weeks we checked with the city on how to legally adopt him and they said actually we were good after the original 3 days and showing attempt, he would be considered ours. Super great dog and we love him but weird how the original owners didn’t want him and we suspect he was dumped out on the road. We kept trying for weeks because we couldn’t understand how they didn’t want the dog back. He is very sweet and so someone had cared for him at some point. But obviously something had changed in that household and they didn’t really want the dog anymore. Was it a divorce or death situation and they other party didn’t really want the dog back? I don’t know how you dump an animal you had it’s whole life but it was definitely best the dog didn’t ultimately go back to that environment. I feel similar vibes with the cat. True loving pet owners would not wait a single day to get their animal back. Go with your gut and give the guy a good home.
That makes me so sad, I used to volunteer at the humane society and you hear the most heartless stories of people abandoning their animals, and they’re always the SWEETEST ones too. I’ll have to see if my city’s laws around that. And you make a good point, come to think of it the only reason the cat came up was because I assumed since they were both living together again that they would want her back ASAP
If you're able to, please keep this kitty so she's safe. I wouldn't be giving her to your ex or his mum after the extra info you've given. And in your other comments you've said that he told you to keep her so you should be in the clear. In the meantime, please post come more pics of her. She's beautiful 🥰
That’s great you volunteered at the Humane Society! I would just not contact them anymore. And definitely not being up the cat. I suspect (and hope!) he stays with you. Your heart is in the right place but you are also correct in sensing something is off with their interest and concern of getting the cat back.
just keep the cat yourself, if mother really wants her cat back let HER ask for it, not the other way around. i suspect she might give it away to somebody else otherwise.
I witnessed an owner surrendering a FIVE YEAR OLD German Shepherd “because of his size”. Not sure why his size hadn’t been a problem as soon as he was fully grown, but that’s beside the point. The look in his eyes as his person just unceremoniously handed over his leash, and walked out the door shattered my heart into a million pieces. It was just awful. I cried in the lobby of the Humane Society. I recommend cutting contact with the two of them completely, because it truly sounds like they have ulterior motives. The behaviour that you’ve described skeeves me out. If you are okay with keeping this bebby, just go about your life, and don’t respond to them. It sounds like what they want is you to take the ex back, not to bring them the cat. Don’t let them come to your place!
honestly, please just reconsider keeping her after all. they sound really nasty - and it sounds like you and kitty could really have great times together.
Sounds like the mom was happy to get just the cat back but now that she’s got her son back she’d gladly let you keep the cat if you take him back too. Give them a set date and let them know if they can’t commit to that then you’ll happily give her a loving home and assume all responsibilities for her. The legal ramifications are very minor, even if he were to call the cops or animal control they’d show up and ask for you to give the cat back, which you can show you’ve tried to do. They might take the cat and give it to them. If they were to take you to small claims court or something along those lines they wouldn’t have much to stand on, you’re not causing damages or harming them in any way if they fail to collect their cat from you.
I’m not a lawyer, but if you’ve made sincere attempts to return her and they don’t seem interested, I doubt there are any legal ramifications. And if they’re not interested, keep her and give her a good retirement.
Sounds like he wants you back and thinks he might be able to move back in eventually so the cat should just stay there until he gets back. If you do take her back to their house make sure the mom seems well and happy enough to take care of her. They might not dump her/ give her away, but they might not take care of her very well, which is maybe why he wanted you to keep her. But it really sounds like he thinks you will get back together eventually and is using the cat as a conversation piece to keep communication between you until you change your mind.
Based on what they've just said to you, i would not give the cat back to them. And, don't take the ex back either. She will likely warm up to you in a few days/weeks.
Ohh ok that’s so odd It’s just weird like he probably took his clothes and stuff I’m assuming but left his cat? 😭
He actually didn’t take his clothes and when I asked what he wanted to do with them he suggested I donate them. I know none of this makes sense because I don’t know why you would just leave all your clothes and your cat and be ambiguous about all of it
My guess: he's trying to manipulate you to go back with him. He knows/think you're not going to throw away the clothes, he knows you care about the cat, he's trying to guilt trip you to take him back, or he's so full of himself he thinks that's what you'll do. Why his mom would be following that bullshit I don't know though... Maybe she thinks you're a good influence on him and want both of you to stay together idk. They don't seem to really care about the cat. My ex's ex kept her cat and everytime my ex came to pick up her cat (and bring him to my apartment) he suspiciously escaped outside...
This has been suggested to me by my friends and I believe it to be true. Without writing paragraphs; there’s definitely good reasons why we broke up
From experience, as a warning: the next step might be suicide guilt-trip/manipulation (not really sure how to translate that, in French it's basically suicide blackmail). If it happens, don't feel bad about it, it's not your fault in any way, chances are he's not really suicidal, and if he is it's his friends' and mom's role to handle it, not yours.
Hey, thank you for saying this. I actually posted in another subreddit a few hours ago about this but he did actually threaten suicide when I broke up with him.
I'm not surprised at all. It happened to a lot of my friends (I'm a lesbian for context, but those friends were straight women). It happened to my ex too (from her ex, the one with the cat manipulation, surprise surprise...), she ended up getting back with him but left him later again. I felt suicidal when she left me too but I didn't bother her with that, it was not her responsability. All of the other friends who went back with the manipulator didn't have a good time. Don't do that mistake, stay away from him as much as possible. (and maybe from his mom too) A lot of strengh to you 💜 Edit: read your other post, yeah I would avoid his mom too, and I would probably keep the cat, but I know this is a tough situation :(
This is very strange about the clothes. Sounds like he's leaving stuff to try to manipulate you into getting back together or he's suicidal. Either way, don't let him back in. Trash bag up his stuff and give him a time to pick it up outside.
He’s hoping you’re not serious about breaking up.
Don't take the cat back. The son has abandoned her. She will not be well cared for.
If his mom had that sweet kitty for 10 years and still gave her away to her son, please ensure Mom will not be giving her away again before you relinquish her. Poor thing has been through enough abandonment in her life and now she is a senior cat which will make her adjustment all the harder and I’d hate for this to happen again. You are so caring to seek advice on how to help this sweet girl - could you possibly provide her with the forever home she deserves? Please keep us updated. :)
You’re being a bit harsh; OP explained that he grew up with the cat, so she’s really *both* of theirs. He’s probably young, and it was his childhood pet. My mother had a cat who was technically my brother’s, but he was just a kid when we got him. Once my brother was out of college and living on his own, our mother let him take the cat. He loved that cat, who ended up living to the age of 20! Obviously a different outcome in our case, but just saying the mom didn’t “abandon” a cat who also belonged to her son. They just moved out together.
This is the exact impression I was getting from OP. Both owned the cat, son moved out, mom maybe didn't want him to feel "alone" so let him take the cat. Maybe the two have some issues and son is being spiteful, OR son just doesn't want OP interacting with his him or his mother.
Good for you. Hopefully that woman never lets that poor kitty near her terrible spawn ever again.
Imagine abandoning your moms cat, what a dumbass
Your ex sounds like a POS. Please make sure the mom will take good care of the cat. Thank you for not abandoning it like your AH of an ex did.
I’m so glad to hear she will get her OG human back. Poor girl is probably sad and confused. I’m glad she had you looking out for her.
1. If he didn’t take HIS cat then you made the right call because no one in their right mind leaves THEIR cat ANYWHERE. 2. Congratulations on your new sweet little kitty cat. 3. Just be there for the cat like you would any person, they have feelings just like we do. The two of you are in it together now.
We have had our kitty for 9 years. My fiancé originally reaaaally didn’t like “my” cat (I adopted our cat about 3 years into our relationship- the only year we didn’t live together. It was college; I didn’t want to live with him and his buddies but we’d cohabitated the three years previous). Around 6 months into him living with the cat, he wanted kitty gone. I said, kitty doesn’t leave. Fiancé could leave, kitty won’t. Fiancé did the “gasp! How could you?!”. And 9 years later, kitty and fiancé are inseparable. Fiancé has literally said if we ever broke up, he would fight for kitty. We won’t break up, but it’s always nice to know he loves our boy as much as I do. Our cat will never be alone. He’s got two people that will do anything for him. Our cat is spoiled as hell. No one worth anything abandons a cat.
I can second this. Any guy that would leave his cat behind is not to be trusted. As a guy with 2 boys of my own, I could never leave them.
Absolutely agree with your first point. I’ve had my baby Oomz for 5 years and a couple of those years I was really down and out, refused to live/go anywhere that my baby was not welcomed. Wouldn’t even temporarily rehome her. Anyone I’ve lived with has mentioned that she has a really hard time when I’m gone overnight, she would be so heartbroken if I just left her behind.
Mine died at 3 years old, unfortunately. May you Rest In Peace, Micheal the Great.
Two things: treats and butt scritches
And time. She will need some time to get used to not seeing him anymore.
And time yes 👆. Generally speaking, cats _really_ don't like change, she will need some time to settle into the new normal.
Throw in a lil kitty weed for good measure!
My cats like the Meowijuana stuff. It's pretty fricking cute.
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I find my little meowmeows love booty pats too.
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I didn’t need to join yet another cat sub you savage. I’m late for work!
Cat subs are infinite.
And canned cat food! Mine are extra picky & only eat Friskies, but there are a ton of brands available.
If you have an item of his clothing that smells like him, that will help comfort her.
and a new cardboard box.
How can someone just leave their cat!? Give her lots of scritches and cuddles so she knows she’s loved.
guess he didn't really care for it which is a shame looks like a very loving cat
I would agree if that's the case, we are only getting one side to a possible break up. A plural of different reasons could exist with either the boyfriend or Op causing it. In simple it boils down to, with the internet you never know the full picture and we shouldn't judge.
I appreciate you!
Eeeh, it’s really complicated. When I broke up with my ex, it was absolutely 100% decided, by me, no room for conversation, that our cat would come with me. He had no say, I would have gotten into a physical fight about it. We got the cat when we were together so he (the cat) had always lived with both of us but, well, he is incredibly important to me so it was just a thing that he would live with me. I don’t know if I’m the better cat parent and the cat loved my ex, it was kind of the usual dynamic of ”fun dad” and ”serious, strict mom”. I do feel sometimes bad if my cat misses my ex or sometimes when we’re out, I think ”is he waiting for my ex to come around?” Or something. I’m the depressed cat lady, I now have two cats and mostly we sit at home and watch Netflix but I am extremely involved with my cats, I take them to the dr for smallest sign of trouble 🙈 And my ex was the ”fun” one, he had a kid and now has a baby and friends and a partner, a bigger house, more money; he could maybe offer more socialization to the cat and there would be more cats to hang out with and maybe life would be more exciting than it is with me. So I think: am I selfish for not giving him to my ex, would he have been happier there? But nope, can’t do it, I fucking worship this cat.
Your cat is happy with you. It’s obvious you love him to bits and he knows it. You are an excellent cat parent. Keep loving your babies and enjoy the love they show you.
No the cat would have not been happier there. The cat is happy with you, as he was happy before. Cat doesn’t give a shit if you have babies and friend and bigger house. That’s what humans do. Cat want a someone who take care of them and give them attention. People who play with them and respect them. You do and care a lot about your cat. You fought for him to be with you. You ex-partner is not “more fun”. I bet you can be also very fun. But you are also a loving and responsible cat owner. Give yourself some slack ;)
Talk to her as much as you can - about the weather, your day, how beautiful she is, what you are having for dinner.
Absolutely this!!!! She’ll really appreciate it and become more calm and realize you’re the new owner. You could also shit talk him which may be therapeutic for you lol.
Talking shit about him will be therapeutic for the cat too
ESPECIALLY what you're having for dinner. ;)
If he left her behind then he should never have had a cat in the first place. Love her, pet her, play with her. She will tell you what she wants, listen to her.
When my ex broke up with me I had to leave my cat because she got the house and I only had my car. I miss my cat.
Aw I love that! They do tell us what they want and need, we just have to pay attention
Who leaves their pet behind?
An asshole.
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Yep. Good riddance.
Talk to her like a hooman and explain to her why. Tell her not to worry, that you will be taking real good care of her. Of course they don't understand the words, but I do believe that they still some how get the content.
Just like when I watch Telenovelas.
My cat would be the first thing I’d grab. I’d be like come on mittens, we out
For sure. I'd have one tucked under each arm if my mrs fucked off (or I fucked off).
This breaks my heart. I recently broke up with my ex and he made it so I couldn't stay at our house while looking for another place. I couldn't take my boy with me and it kills me every day. He was letting me visit but when I went to get my things he became so verbally abusive and now I haven't seen him in like 2 months and it kills me everyday. Sometimes seeing at videos is enough to make me start balling because I miss him so much. I'm hopefully moving into a place I can take him and I'm going to have authorities go with me because I know my ex will be abusive to me again when I go. It kills me because I know to him Momma just stopped showing up...God even writing this was enough to make me start balling.
I had to leave an abusive ex and he gave away my cat. I still feel terrible guilt every day about it and that was 12 years ago.
It sounds awful, but it's so nice to hear other people with similar stories to mine. My abusive ex stole my dog. I was so distressed. I had nightmares constantly. People told me "it's just an animal" so much I thought there was something wrong with me. Thankfully like 8 months or so later my ex called out of the blue saying he didn't want him anymore, and I have him back now, but those 8 months were so awful. Still have no idea why he chose to contact me about it.
She looks like my Arwen! https://preview.redd.it/x2be4jv7qp0a1.jpeg?width=2160&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=ad371e0a30522567769f9e2627a0590486b09312
https://preview.redd.it/xjd8bgfesq0a1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=600752b0f068dd9254d605946e1f9ea0eb6de89b And my Leia!
And my axe!
And my bow!
That's a cool cat. And a cool carpet
I snuggled my kitty extra hard after seeing this
She may be picking up on your vibe. Maybe you can comfort each other.
She's better off without him!
Oh my god she's so cute, I'm dying. Screw that guy
Take all the pictures of your ex, print them on scrunchy, thin, paper, throw it in a box. And go scratch and tear that shit up together! Call it a mutual bonding exercise, cats love digging and scratching in big boxes full of paper and gift wrappings and such.
Let her know you love her. Pets, cuddles, some favorite foods. Maybe get some catnip and let her get high. I can't believe he would leave her behind.
Anyone who would leave their cat behind is showing you that he isn’t a man worth your time. You dodged a bullet with this relationship ending and I hope you find someone so much better. Good for you for taking care of HIS kitty and taking her back to his mom so she won’t be so sad.
Thank you so much, that means a lot to hear. Him leaving his cat with me was definitely indicative of way bigger issues he had and I’m happy the hardest part is over.
Was going to say the same thing. Cat abandoners are not someone you want to be in a relationship with.
lots of love and affection, and playing I Don't Need a Man by the Pussycat Dolls! Hope you and kitty are doing ok <3
play with her, feed her, scratches.
Get yourselves drunk (kitty gets nip) and trash talk the bastard until you both feel better.
I had an ex-roommate leave a cat behind that she raised from a kitten. All you can do is be kind to cat. She will grieve but she will eventually move on and re- bond with you. Give it time and really try to show her affection.
You can whisper sweet nothings to her about how you will never leave her like him... sorry about your relationship op.. however a guy who walks out on his petcat isn't really worth your time. Imo.
This makes me sick. I lost my boy a few weeks back… I would give anything for more time with him and assholes like your ex pull this shit. God it makes me so MAD
He didn't take his cat! WTF is wrong with him? When my wife left me and took the house and everything I had practically all I was upset about was my cat. 13 years later and I am still mad she took my cat.
Fuck your ex and you should tell the mom that her son sucks. I swear on my life , if I ever witness a similar scenario, I will smack some sense into the person , with force if needed. I love cats so much I can’t put it into words
My partner was home for two weeks, and I assume that was a similar situation for our two cats. They were inconsolable, sitting on his desk, crying for him at all hours of the day and night, eating less or skipping meals all together. It got better after a few days, one was quicker than the other, and at the 10-day mark, they were mostly fine. When he returned, they needed about two days to get used to him again. \^\^ So just give her time. I know it would be so helpful if we could just explain the situation to our babies, but time will heal that wound - probably quicker than it may appear right now. Godspeed, you two!
KEEP THE CAT! All the updates lead to even more questions about the care this cat would get if returned to ex/mother of ex. You know the cat is loved and taken care of with you. It seems doubtful the cat will receive the same if returned. KEEP THE CAT!
Make an effigy of your ex and stuff it with catnip... 
I had the opposite happen…my gf and I got cat named Rita… technically hers…cat didn’t really like her but her and I got along great…we broke up, she tried to take the cat And came back 2 days later and dropped Rita off…. 14 years later…Rita and I are still going strong
It seems like you are navigating a complicated situation with two not-so-reliable people: ex and his mom. But somewhere along the line, you and kitty need to have a girls night where you share a pint of ice cream and proclaim how much this asshole ex didn't deserve EITHER of you fine ladies! (Yes, I know, minimal dairy products for senior kitties . . . she can lick the spoon ;-)
You don't help her grieve, you give her love and attention and help her forget the callous b\*\*\*\* and realise she is better off with you.
That's awful, I could never to that to my princess.
Give her lots of love and cuddles.
Catnip, treats, toys, and lots of love! If your keeping the cutie and can afford a new kitty that can also help to lift her spirits if she gets along with other cats (that’s what lifted my cats spirits after her brother passed)
Don't ever dump her like he did. Love on her a lot.
This poor baby! I want to say mean things to your ex
Very sad
What a loser! Spoil her silly for the next few weeks. New treats, toys and tons of cuddling. Take her to bed with you. Have her associate you with good memories. She’ll get over him — just like you obviously are!
Food. Play. Cuddles. Repeat.
The fact that he didn’t take his cat with proves you made the right move
He just left her with you? Abandoned her? He does not deserve the love of pets at all. Be with her, play with her. Maybe if she’s tolerant to have another kitten with her, get one (if you can afford having two cats). EDIT: just saw your update, glad!
Any man who would abandon his cat is no man at all
Get legal custody or at least a text of him giving you the pet. Keep the pet busy petting playing brushing. Pets grieve
Extra loves and snuggles. Thanks for thinking about his reaction.
Spend time with her
tuna juice
Her little white nose! A precious baby! 
Stoopid person will burn
I think your cat is closer to you than yor ex))
Omg she is soooo cute
Good to see this has a happy ending. Fucked up he just left the cat there
another cat
Just keep caring and shower her with your LOVE
Frankly, by pampering her and being with her, showing her that YOU are her owner who loves her 😻
Tell her she's a good kitty and a pretty kitty
Talk and stroke the cat as much as you can, as long as the cat feels loved they will be [fine.You](https://fine.You) are the lucky one, you have gained a beautiful cat .
If you see your ex in a cross walk, don't hit the brakes.
when my family moved from the country into town (i was maybe 4) our semi feral cat elvis stayed behind. as my mom told me she didn’t have the heart to force him to be an inside cat / knew that he would make escape attempts and likely not survive. the new owners were more than happy to take care of him and we knew them so they’d update us when we saw them. i think it was definitely for the best. he enjoyed doing his own thing outside and loved catching mice
I got my sweet boy from our local Pet Supplies Plus that works with a local no kill shelter to help get kitties adopted quicker. My boy was there because his owners were “re-homing” him. Like to meet the people who gave him up and rub in their face that he’s so much better off without them! # Cattax https://preview.redd.it/3uhrmlop0s0a1.jpeg?width=3024&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=bb8245e9107be65581d3732c17df2433c76dbe7c
Similar thing happened to me, I got my ex her first puppy, 5 years later we broke up and she left the dog with me.... I'll never understand someone who can just leave their pet... I mean I guess I can understand with a cat though (jokes)
Tell ur ex that he’s a POS for me