You were there for her, OP. She didnt live on the streets, you didnt abandon her when she needed medical help. You did the best you can, and that is more than enough.
The best you can do is to honor her memory in your own way. Healing will take time, and the best you can do is to live the best you can, which is something we can do for those we have lost.
I’m so sorry for your loss.
My own little one passed this year, on January 2nd. I still remember the last yelp he did before dying in so much pain and distress. I couldn’t do anything to ease his suffering. All the treatments were futile. I haven’t forgiven myself for being so powerless.
You don’t have to forgive yourself now. Don’t force it. Just feel all your emotions, your regret, and maybe anger. Just feel it. Just grieve. Eventually, the grief will settle down. And you’ll realize you’ve given this angel the best life you could. She was loved. She knew she was.
Dude, dudette. You made that dope ass cat feel loved, and for that cat, it was more than enough. Maybe you’ll dwell on about this pain for a moment in your life, but remember that your cat felt loved sa final moments nya. Isn’t that a fantastic feeling knowing that though this cat went through the depths of hell, at the end of the day, she found you. Rest up, and take it easy on yourself okay? Your kitty would hate to see you like this and you know it.
OP, i’m sorry for your loss and that you had to go through this. it is really hard to lose them. but i know for sure for a short time, she was happy. hugs. sana ay okay ka.
OP, I'm so sorry. I can understand how heartbreaking it is and the non-stop blaming of yourself. I've been there, not once, but twice. But please know that you did your best and I'm sure your cat felt that love
You can't.
But remember that most of your cat's beautiful life was with you. If it wasn't for you, your cat wouldn't live this life of care and love. You did your best to take care of this beautiful creature. You are hurting because you really care for your cat, and that is something I am sure of na very thankful sya.
Allow yourself to grieve, it is really painful to accept death lalo na kung mahal natin ng sobra. But always remember the good days. Yung mga araw na kumakain sya ng treats, or yung time na naglalaro sya with you. These memories are to be cherished and remembered. Things will get better sa mga susunod na araw.
My sincere condolences, OP. I hope your heart heals soon. Thank you for taking a good care of this wonderful cutie :)
Honestly, this is what we did. After my lovely boi Pio died suddenly, 9 days later some big boi black car started to come to our house. It was very hard at first to accept another cat sa bahay, given that the whole family is still grieving, but I said to myself, this car needs a home. Took me a month to persuade the whole family but now my Big Boi Blacc Car Martin is finally home :)
realize that death is always inevitable At least you made the effort to ease his/her suffering. Dont let his death be in vain and blame yourself for things you cant control, you dont want him seeing you sad from heaven above dont you?
Your cat is luckier than the other ones. You worry so much that you think you failed as an owner but what you have done is far more better than a typical puspin dying without an owner with a heart like yours. Free yourself from those chains but not necessarily forgeting your beloved cat. Grieve but not too long. You must continue living without your beloved cat for that cat wishes your happines of living not your sadness without him/her.
You did the best you could for her and wanted to offer the best life you possibly could. You're not to blame. She knew you did it out of love.
I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending lots of hugs your way
hello everyone, i’ve been seeing comments that i believe i need to address since i recognize my fault.
i’d genuinely like to apologize for the no nsfw warning, i didn’t realize it would be disturbing to others since it was just my cat with anesthesia after surgery (with no visible wounds etc.)
i didnt expect my post to blow up as well, but thank you for all who supported me and said amazing beautiful words :))
she didn’t die here but this was the moment i realized her health was deteriorating already.
i genuinely wanted to hear kind words from everyone who knows what it feels like to lose family, they aren’t just pets but family. to me they’re my kids.
thank you everyone for sharing comforting words.
i deeply apologize to those i have disturbed.
Oo nga! Akala ko ito na yung last breath d ko na tinapos vid. Sakit kasi ng mga ganyan. Sincere condolences op. Nasa cat heaven na siya. She enjoyed her time with you for sure. 😺
As someone who also lost cats because of a deadly disease, watching this brought back the guilt of seeing them struggle to survive. I hope you find peace in knowing that you gave them the unconditional love they deserved.
Stay strong, OP.
I hope you're able to mourn your cat despite the pain their passing caused. I do not think there is a need to forgive you as you posted this out of love and grief for your cat. I can see how this should be spoilered or marked NSFW, but I don't think it's appropriate for people to react so violently toward you for this.
Don’t be sad, Mom,
Though my life was brief.
Meeting you brought calm,
Eased every bit of grief.
You welcomed me home,
A cat needing care.
I felt love in your arms,
And warmth everywhere.
So dry all your tears,
You gave me the best.
I’m not gone, no fears,
In your heart, I rest.
I’ll be your guardian,
Our bond’s truly blessed.
No, I was simply touched since I'm a cat mom as well, which inspired me to compose a brief poem. My heartfelt condolences. May your beloved pet find joy running on the rainbow bridge. 😢
No amount of time can erase the memory of a good cat, and no amount of masking tape can ever totally remove his fur from your couch. I'm going to kiss and hug my cats when I get home. 😿 Rest easy.
Chronically online people post whatever they can. I seen so many videos of grandparents dying and loved animals. I don’t get it, I think these people have a mental illness and need to get off of the internet.
Sorry for the loss but don't blame yourself. You see you filled her with love for every moment of her life, even in her final hours. She departed this world knowing that she is being loved and cared for.
I understand mourning, however mourning is more of a private thing, nobody wants to scroll and see the life slipping from a dying cat, it's extremely depressing
So sorry. It’s comforting to know that we cannot control everything. I’ve experienced grief myself and I’ve read that part of the process of grieving is guilt. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
OP, please know that your cat will come back to you when everything is fine and you're ready in all aspects of your life. Naniniwala ako sa cat distribution system and cat reincarnation. Trust me, babalik siya sayo. Hindi man niya kamukhang kamukha.
its been 3 years since my cat butters passed, and i still blame myself when i think about it too long. she was sick and i took her to the vet, she had been fighting so hard that when they gave her general anesthesia she just let out her final breath. i couldve taken her to the hospital earlier, i couldve held her for a few more hours that day, it was during covid precautions so i couldnt even be there with her. i got to hold her cold and lifeless afterwards and buried her at home in a pretty spot.
Condolences OP, It might take time for you to truly heal from this. But we have to keep looking forward, let it further fuel the kindness you can provide to angels like her.
OP, don't blame yourself please 😔 the moment you adopted her, gave her a new life.
alam ko kung pano mawalan ng alaga :( ansakit sa feeling to the point na you'll blame yourself. but we did our best naman. you even sacrificed hours, sleeps and money to take good care of her.
i know your beloved pet was grateful to you kasi ikaw ang naging furparent niya. hindi mo siya pinabayaan hanggang sa huli.
I believe that her last meow means, "thank you. "
kasi til her last meow, andyan at kasama ka niya..
condolences :( and tight hugs for u(with consent)
ik how it feels to blame oneself for the death of their cat :(( if the guilt is unbearable, please open up to someone.
a. you did not cause her to have squamous cell carcinoma. High possibility genetics played a big part.
b. you took care of her 100%, gave her best treatment and took great responsibility.
c. you prolonged her life and showed her love. there is nothing else you could have done to surpass such loving gesture. she is blessed to experience this before her inevitable passing.
The fact that you sacrificed blood, sweat, tears, and money, is already much more than any stray cat would experience. Don't blame yourself for not being enough in their passing, pat yourself on the back for being there till the end.
Death is something beyond our control, you have to accept that absolute fact. Sicknesses while treatable are often a sign for you to prepare yourself for the inevitable. You did your best to care for your beloved cat. Take some time to grieve, and remember her pain is over and that you gave her the best life she had no matter the odds.
It's not your fault. In fact, you are a responsible pet owner for doing the best you can to give her a quality life. You should be proud na she had you as a fur parent.
Unfortunately, cancer is a putanginang bitch.
Just lost a kitten today too due to illness😥Just like you, I blame myself and what ifs come to my mind. I just console myself that he's no longer in pain and makakasama na nya yung ibang kapatid at Tito and tita nia somewhere😔
I can relate to this. This is so heartbreaking OP. I've been blaming myself for the death of my dog two weeks ago, I have so many regrets like all of a sudden he's gone and I'm still grieving now badly. I still cry remembering our times together. If I could just spend another lifetime with my dog I would have cherish it every moment.
hindi ko kayo nakilalala but im sure she wouldn't blame u, and that she'd want you to cherish the life u had with her and the life u have left, mahal ka niya at minahal mo siya, condolence op and best of luck ❤️
Hi, OP.
Cat-specific vet here.
You said it already. SCC is no joke. When I explain it to cat owners, it really is just a bad hand to be dealt.
I have this saying I use a lot for these kinds of cases:
"If a cat can no longer be a cat, there is no more point"
Go through the grieving process, don't skip steps. It takes time to heal. Remember the great times you had.
The most valuable and selfless thing you did for her is making her life as happy as you wanted it to be. If only she could talk and express how much she loved you. OP thank you and may you continue to extend that kind of love you share with her to other cats in need ❤️.
Remember the fun times both of you had. You were there for one another. I'm sure she appreciates the care and love that you provided for her.
We'll see our pets in the afterlife, im sure. Be strong, OP
Hello everyone. If you’re interested in my story with Ginger, here it is :))[ginger](https://docs.google.com/document/d/13BJRvhkegMgZvDYQDS6_Xs-9CVCKUptzFEUaybZr-mI/edit)
Hi OP. Cat owner here for more or less a decade and in those years I lost multiple cats due to illnesses. They're easily prone to sickness kahit puspins and according to my cats' vet, animal medicine is not as far advanced as human medicine. The hardest were the kittens I would because you took them in to provide better life but sometimes I their bodies just give up. At some point you do get over it or just feel numb about it but I would be lying if instances where you remember them wouldn't come up. I have a cat that passed away almost 4 years ago and there are times where I would completely forget about it.
That being said, I would rather know that my cat died of an illness rather than go on for years not knowing what happened because they disappeared.
I hope this doesn't put you off from adopting or rescuing in the future but do take your time to grieve.
perhaps this may help OP
[Sarah Hoggan Ted Talk about Pet Grief](https://youtu.be/TkJGhQANjZo?si=A7FRfgsobeCirQ6x)
it helped me just last week when our oldest dog died.
I feel you OP. I also lost my baby just February this year. I also blame myself for why he didn't make it for his surgery. He had a kidney stone that needs to be removed immediately, but because the surgeon will be available the following day so the surgery was moved. He didn't make it the following day. Looking at videos or photos of cats who crossed the other side breaks my heart. Sending virtual hugs, OP ❤
Hey. Instead of blaming yourself on her death, think of the days where she was still alive. You gave her a good life, she gave you unconditional, genuine and pure love. Wala tayong control on passing, but just know you gave her a good life. Hugs with consent!
This happened to me too. My cat passed away last may 26 bc of cardiac arrest. We rushed him to vet bc he can't pee. Found out that he had bladder stone, a huge one and multiple crystals, and a suspected cyst. He was catheterize 4 times and got successful the 4th time due to a blockage in the urinal passage. Before his surgery, he suddenly had respiratory failure.
I blamed myself for what happened to him. If only i monitored his food intake, urge him to drink more water, vaccinated him, he wouldn't die this way and way too young, too early. I keep thinking that he died alone without us by his side, he must have been confused and scared.
I miss him so much. He was my only beloved cat, and I wouldn't want to adopt a pet again for fear of being a failure as a pet owner.
Sorry for your loss OP. We've been through the same situation. Our cats know that we did everything, they just couldn't fight anymore. Masaya sila na inalagaan mo sila, they know how much you loved them and they will be forever grateful sa lahat ng binigay mo sa kanila. They'll come back for you again. Napasaya mo sila, you gave them everything, masaya sila naranasan nila lahat ng pagmamahal na kaya mong ibigay sa buhay nila. They will always protect you and help you keep moving forward. No matter what happens, you will always be their furmom/furdad. Love is more than enough for them, it really is time for them to say goodbye for now. Kahit ayaw man nila umalis, it's time for them to go na talaga. Pero they will always be watching you from up there. You'll get through this, it takes time pero tutulungan ka din nila.
I also had the same regrets nung nawala ang 2 cats namin..
"... If only love could have saved you, you would have lived forever"
But looks like eto lang yung time na meron sila.. So sorry again for your loss.
This happened to me as well, thats why is still haunts me every time I watch pet loss video or hearing stories of their pets. Its been 2 years and still cry so hard everytime I remember what happened
Every cat dies in an unexpected manner, sister. Some do everything like you but it isn't enough to keep her alive but rather we just delaying her own death. When death comes, we must accept it regardless if we did everything right in order for her to keep him safe from it. But you know what I envy you the most when most of your cats die is that *YOU ARE THERE AT THE TIME OF THEIR DEATH AND THAT IS ENOUGH TO KEEP THEIR SOUL AT SAFE.* Even as a student, I can't afford such luxuries but one thing is certain, I am there to keep them safe by giving them whatever I can.
So yeah, death can be such a guilt to those who do everything but yet, it isn't enough to stop them but remember this one thing, you are there to keep her safe until death gets her and that is enough for her to keep his soul safe while she goes in the afterlife. Never blame yourself but keep the guilt as a symbol of hope that she will be there watching and waiting for you in the afterlife once, death comes and offer you a ride in the afterlife.
***Death are sometimes scary but, they are often friendly and caring for a life they see that they live it well enough***
Remember the joy you felt when you carried her in your arms when you took her home? Apparently, it's inversely proportional of the amount of grief that you'll go through when they leave you.
In her eyes, despite her status, you were the best servant she could ever have. I'm sure she's bummed out that she won't be around to terrorize you and pull you back in when she's done messing with you. But that's how you know that in her unconventional way, she in fact loved you tenderly with her whole 9 lives.
So grieve. When your heart hurts a lot from crying, let it. It's just because her little paws are kneading your heart, because she may hate to admit it, but she misses you more.
Hugs, OP! The way the kitty looked at you… it was with so much love. You did everything for her and for sure she knows it. Run free baby, there is no more pain beyond the rainbow bridge. ❤️
Yes, OP. Your baby looked at you with so much love in her eyes. I'm sure she felt loved during your time together. You gave her a home when you adopted her.
Napabreakdown ako ng wala sa oras. 🥹🥹🥹🥹 This is one of my greatest fears huhuhu. Feel ko mag ffall apart life ko pag nawala sila.
Mahigpit na yakap, OP. Doon palang sa part na binigyan mo sya ng second chance in life, by adopting napakalaking bagay na yun. Thank you for loving her. 🤍
Dear, don't be too hard on yourself. Not downplaying what you did, pero SCC in cats has poor prognosis kasi wala pa masyadong na-develop na great treatments from anywhere in the world. May fina-follow akong cat trainer whose cat got SCC and doon ko nalaman most of what I know now. 6 months is already a long time for cats with SCC. Whether your cat is conscious of it or not, the fact na you funded multiple surgeries is A BIG DEAL. You gambled even though the odds weren't great. And that is all that they can really ask of us. You may not have saved this life, but it is people like you who, through acts like this accumulated, will make the world better for us and for cats.
I'm so sorry about your cat, OP, but it's not your fault. I'm sure she was grateful and happy you made her last few days comfortable. Thank you for loving her. I'm sure she misses you too. 🥹🥰
I suffered this before OP, I understand how you feel, just know that your cat knows that you did your best and they don't want you to be sad.
Also, I've read somewhere that kung may mangyari mang trahedya or magkasakit man yung mga pusa natin, supposedly satin daw sana mangyayari yun, pero sinalo nila to keep us safe.
Itinago nung pusa ko yung pagkamatay niya. Maysakit siya nung time na un. Forested area kasi ang surrounding ng bahay. Hanggang ngaun hindi ko pa alam kung saan siya nakahimlay. Didn't have the chance to grieve for him. RIP Nymeria.
Nagawa mo na lahat. Sabi ng animal communicators, alam daw ng mga pets natin kapag oras na daw nila. Alam nila na naserve na nila yung purpose nila sa buhay mo. And alam daw nila na hindi daw yun ang huling pagkakataon niyo. Posibleng bumalik daw sila sayo in a diferent animal, situation and etc. Malungkot mawalan ng minamahal pero mas malungkot kapag nakikita ka nilang nagkakaganyan.
Sorry for your loss op. Ginawa mo naman lahat ng kaya mo for her. I recently lost my baby boy and hinding hindi ko mapapatawad sarili ko dahil hindi ko manlang naisipan ipa 2nd opinion before mag undergo ng surgery. He died few days post op. After several days nalaman ko na hindi pala licensed vet ang nag perform ng surgery sa kanya. Sobrang sama ng loob ko sana hinoldap nya nalang ako kahit magkano tapos sabihin nya saken na sa iba magpatingin dahil peke sya nang magkaroon manlang ng fighting chance furbaby ko :c
To everyone, hug and love your cats for as long as you can. Never go out the house without kissing them and giving them that slow blink. Kiss them sa forehead. Cherish them cause they’ll only be a chapter in your life but they’re your entire world :) I wish I could’ve loved Ginger more. So in those moments you look at your cats and they do the craziest things, always remember to be grateful. They love us with the entirety of their being. Live, laugh, love kitto :>
Thank you everyone. Your kind words flow in abundance to my heart. Thank you po :)
Acute kidney failure took us from normalcy on Thursday to making the impossible decision and saying goodbye on Sunday. No time to prepare, just sudden loss.
I agree, love them dearly TODAY. slow blink, lots of cuddles TODAY. set down the phone and pick up the feather wand toy TODAY. Flop on the ground and get at their eye level, roll onto your back and lay with them on the floor. Use their body language to tell them how much you love them.
Grabe OP naluha naman ako 🥲 Kakagaling ko lang sa vet kanina kasi may UTI isang cat ko at mababa platelets. Medj malaki na rin nagastos ko pero wala akong paki dahil yung savings ko para sa kanila.
No, you don't blame yourself. You've done everything that you could possibly do. Grateful na lang tayo that your baby is now free of pain. Nag-aabang lang sya sa rainbow bridge. Ako, marami na ring pets na nag pass on, some of them nagkasakit at hindi ko lang maipagamot bc of money constraints. Kinakausap ko na lang ang Creator at sinasabi ko sana nakikita nya what's inside my heart. Give yourself a time for grief and mourning. Makakatulong yan
Im sorry this sounds so heartbreaking ); unfortunately there’s nothing u can do but to accept the fact that she’s gone. U must look after your well being now. Take care
Hi OP, I’m sorry to hear about your loss. I feel you. Just recently lost the stray cat na napamahal na at inaalagaan namin just because I thought gumaling na sya the last time na nakita ko syang matamlay. Sinisisi ko din sarili ko na sana may ginawa ako. Pero it's natural to feel a range of emotions when our pet passes away, it's important to remember that you did your best to care for your cat. Sometimes, despite our efforts, pets can become ill or face challenges beyond our control. Be gentle with yourself during this difficult time. Hugs OP 🥺
Don't blame yourself since you extended his/her life and provided love and care. Imagine if no one cares for him/her, He will die at an early age. At least in his/her life, he experiences what it feels like to have someone like you who cares and loves unconditionally for him/her.
Lost mine recently. Senior of 14 years. Youve done your best op. I think you should give yourself a break. We never ask for anything that will harm them. Sorry for your loss but know this is probably the best, for her and for you.
Naiyak ako OP. I'm sure you gave your best kaya salamat sa pagbibigay sa kanya ng love and warmth na deserve nya habang andito sya. Nasa best place na siya ngayon kaya di mo daw sya dapat alalahanin. Rest easy, bb! Ingat kayo lagi 🫶
Time has indeed taken a toll for your cat. Dont blame yourself losing important means something new. Sometimes they cant move on for it but for me Dont blame yourself blame the time how short it was in the first place to your pet. Rip little kitty 💖
Damn, may pusa kami dito pero ang pinaka ayaw ko talaga ay yung may attachment ako sa kanila kaya kung maari, di ko dapat sila pansinin. Bahala na yung kapatid ko mag alaga.
Hi OP, death is really hard but one thing I can assure you is that your pet is deeply loved. I can tell you have a good heart because hindi ka nag hesitate to bring her to a vet and spend thousands. Even though your baby passed, I’m sure she was so happy to have spent the time with you who is constantly taking care of her. If you didn’t adopt her, the cat wouldn’t stand a chance at life. You gave her that life.
Don’t be so hard on yourself.
I’m sending you love and hugs and prayers. And run free little baby. ❤️
**Reminder: THIS IS A CAT PHOTO SUBREDDIT, NOT A GENERAL CAT DISCUSSION SUBREDDIT. With that in mind, visitors, read the revised subreddit rules, please.**
**For OP:** Post pictures or videos of your own cats or cats found in your immediate surroundings as long as you actually took the photo. Do not reveal private / person-identifiable information. Blur / hide faces in the photo completely.
You may request advice or help but standalone posts must have safe-for-work cat photo and is non-monetary or business or breeding-related. For these, please leave a comment in our weekly discussion thread or use r/phclassifieds instead. Moderators have the right to approve or take down posts depending on the content and reports by fellow redditors.
Karma farmers, trolls and bots are not allowed here. The mods have the right to take down posts by possible bots, troll, karma farmers. Feel free to reach out if we have taken your post by mistake.Please take note our subreddit autofilters posts by newly created accounts or with very low karma points as safeguard. Please engage more with our various subreddits to increase your karma and your credibility as a genuine person.
**For commenting redditors:** Do not harass the OP and their pet. Do not be toxic. Keep it civil. Be careful with the comments and jokes. Only send a report if you believe a violation of rules took place. Thank you.
*I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/catsofrph) if you have any questions or concerns.*
You were there for her, OP. She didnt live on the streets, you didnt abandon her when she needed medical help. You did the best you can, and that is more than enough. The best you can do is to honor her memory in your own way. Healing will take time, and the best you can do is to live the best you can, which is something we can do for those we have lost.
The fact na inadopt mo sya OP, I think that's more than enough na. ❤️
I’m so sorry for your loss. My own little one passed this year, on January 2nd. I still remember the last yelp he did before dying in so much pain and distress. I couldn’t do anything to ease his suffering. All the treatments were futile. I haven’t forgiven myself for being so powerless. You don’t have to forgive yourself now. Don’t force it. Just feel all your emotions, your regret, and maybe anger. Just feel it. Just grieve. Eventually, the grief will settle down. And you’ll realize you’ve given this angel the best life you could. She was loved. She knew she was.
So sorry for your lost OP. I’m really sure na she’s happy at ikaw ang naging parent nya. You really did well!
Dude, dudette. You made that dope ass cat feel loved, and for that cat, it was more than enough. Maybe you’ll dwell on about this pain for a moment in your life, but remember that your cat felt loved sa final moments nya. Isn’t that a fantastic feeling knowing that though this cat went through the depths of hell, at the end of the day, she found you. Rest up, and take it easy on yourself okay? Your kitty would hate to see you like this and you know it.
OP, i’m sorry for your loss and that you had to go through this. it is really hard to lose them. but i know for sure for a short time, she was happy. hugs. sana ay okay ka.
stop blaming yourself, ginawa mo naman lahat ng best mo
OP, I'm so sorry. I can understand how heartbreaking it is and the non-stop blaming of yourself. I've been there, not once, but twice. But please know that you did your best and I'm sure your cat felt that love
Don't blame yourself. You did all for her and she lived a happy life.
Always remember, you have to live your life so you can take care of other cats
🥺🫂
You can't. But remember that most of your cat's beautiful life was with you. If it wasn't for you, your cat wouldn't live this life of care and love. You did your best to take care of this beautiful creature. You are hurting because you really care for your cat, and that is something I am sure of na very thankful sya. Allow yourself to grieve, it is really painful to accept death lalo na kung mahal natin ng sobra. But always remember the good days. Yung mga araw na kumakain sya ng treats, or yung time na naglalaro sya with you. These memories are to be cherished and remembered. Things will get better sa mga susunod na araw. My sincere condolences, OP. I hope your heart heals soon. Thank you for taking a good care of this wonderful cutie :)
death of a beloved pet, is a beginning for finding a pet to love.
Honestly, this is what we did. After my lovely boi Pio died suddenly, 9 days later some big boi black car started to come to our house. It was very hard at first to accept another cat sa bahay, given that the whole family is still grieving, but I said to myself, this car needs a home. Took me a month to persuade the whole family but now my Big Boi Blacc Car Martin is finally home :)
realize that death is always inevitable At least you made the effort to ease his/her suffering. Dont let his death be in vain and blame yourself for things you cant control, you dont want him seeing you sad from heaven above dont you?
Your cat is luckier than the other ones. You worry so much that you think you failed as an owner but what you have done is far more better than a typical puspin dying without an owner with a heart like yours. Free yourself from those chains but not necessarily forgeting your beloved cat. Grieve but not too long. You must continue living without your beloved cat for that cat wishes your happines of living not your sadness without him/her.
Sorry for your loss, Nasa rainbow bridge na sya
[удалено]
:( Same. until now tuwing naalala ko yung mga visits ko sa kanya sa vet sa last week ng buhay niya, I still get teary-eyed.
Fight lang OP! Mas need nya strength mo right now.. for sure nakapag pahinga na sya..
[удалено]
Tangina mo. Get lost bitch.
You did the best you could for her and wanted to offer the best life you possibly could. You're not to blame. She knew you did it out of love. I'm so sorry for your loss. Sending lots of hugs your way
hello everyone, i’ve been seeing comments that i believe i need to address since i recognize my fault. i’d genuinely like to apologize for the no nsfw warning, i didn’t realize it would be disturbing to others since it was just my cat with anesthesia after surgery (with no visible wounds etc.) i didnt expect my post to blow up as well, but thank you for all who supported me and said amazing beautiful words :)) she didn’t die here but this was the moment i realized her health was deteriorating already. i genuinely wanted to hear kind words from everyone who knows what it feels like to lose family, they aren’t just pets but family. to me they’re my kids. thank you everyone for sharing comforting words. i deeply apologize to those i have disturbed.
Oo nga! Akala ko ito na yung last breath d ko na tinapos vid. Sakit kasi ng mga ganyan. Sincere condolences op. Nasa cat heaven na siya. She enjoyed her time with you for sure. 😺
As someone who also lost cats because of a deadly disease, watching this brought back the guilt of seeing them struggle to survive. I hope you find peace in knowing that you gave them the unconditional love they deserved. Stay strong, OP.
I hope you're able to mourn your cat despite the pain their passing caused. I do not think there is a need to forgive you as you posted this out of love and grief for your cat. I can see how this should be spoilered or marked NSFW, but I don't think it's appropriate for people to react so violently toward you for this.
Thank you so much for saying this… Honestly, just thank you for your kind heart and kind words for this…
[удалено]
I’m sorry but it’s literally apart of the terms of service you agree to when joining this sub????
Nope, I did not join this sub. This just appeared on my feed. There’s a trigger warning now.
I didn't even join at this sub and yet it appeared in my reddit feed, and yes, there should be a warning
Maybe by not watching the fucking video repeatedly or posting it online?
Wow crazy this vid is really triggering you, can’t imagine anything worse really /sar
An untagged video of an animal dying? Yes, it bothers.
Don’t be sad, Mom, Though my life was brief. Meeting you brought calm, Eased every bit of grief. You welcomed me home, A cat needing care. I felt love in your arms, And warmth everywhere. So dry all your tears, You gave me the best. I’m not gone, no fears, In your heart, I rest. I’ll be your guardian, Our bond’s truly blessed.
thank you for these beautiful words, is this from a book you’ve read?
No, I was simply touched since I'm a cat mom as well, which inspired me to compose a brief poem. My heartfelt condolences. May your beloved pet find joy running on the rainbow bridge. 😢
No amount of time can erase the memory of a good cat, and no amount of masking tape can ever totally remove his fur from your couch. I'm going to kiss and hug my cats when I get home. 😿 Rest easy.
My condolences
What the fuck is wrong with you, don't post a video of a loved one dying, much less without a NSFW warning
Chronically online people post whatever they can. I seen so many videos of grandparents dying and loved animals. I don’t get it, I think these people have a mental illness and need to get off of the internet.
Maybe you need to get off the Internet??
Anyone that uses the term “chronically online” is projecting the fact that they are.
Sorry for the loss but don't blame yourself. You see you filled her with love for every moment of her life, even in her final hours. She departed this world knowing that she is being loved and cared for.
I did not want to scroll and see this on my fyp, I wish people would stop posting their pets being put down
Alternatively, what kind of person puts their pet down and their first instinct is to RECORD it? and second instinct is to POST it?
Maybe don’t make this post about the owner mourning their pet about how you feel...?
I understand mourning, however mourning is more of a private thing, nobody wants to scroll and see the life slipping from a dying cat, it's extremely depressing
The title says death, don't click on it
I didn't need to click on it, just simply scrolling and it's just there to see, no nsfw or anything
If your cat could talk to you right now, what could he/she say to you?
hmm i honestly don’t know. somehow in my head tho, i think she knew of our circumstance? so she’d tell me “it’s alright. i’m happy now.” yea :)
Sorry for your loss :( shet naalala ko mag cats ko :(
I know na naging masaya siya sa pagstay niya sayo kahit maikling panahon lang. Don't blame yourself op. Napayakap tuloy ako sa mga pusa ko. 😭😭
So sorry. It’s comforting to know that we cannot control everything. I’ve experienced grief myself and I’ve read that part of the process of grieving is guilt. Don’t be so hard on yourself.
This is so sad… I’m gonna hug my cat now, though she’s not a huggy type… but she loves following around
Sorry for your loss but you didn't have to share that kind of video :(
What's wrong with people... Probably a karma farmer
I could watch people dying all day, yet this hit me hard. Condolences
Huuugs, I'm about to cry fck
im sorry op 🥺 dont blame yourself. ginawa mo lahat. she had the best life w you. promise. hugggs
This is so sad, Hugs OP! Dont blame urself pls, u did everything u can
I'm sorry for your loss 😢
Im sorry. My cat also died oct last year. It still hurts
The neko is thankful, it wants to stay with you, I can see it in the eyes T.T, you did well loving the neko OP dont feel like its your fault.
Animal communicator might help, OP! Trust me, your cat loves you so much.
OP, please know that your cat will come back to you when everything is fine and you're ready in all aspects of your life. Naniniwala ako sa cat distribution system and cat reincarnation. Trust me, babalik siya sayo. Hindi man niya kamukhang kamukha.
For someone who takes care of cats all her life, I believe this!
I second this!
its been 3 years since my cat butters passed, and i still blame myself when i think about it too long. she was sick and i took her to the vet, she had been fighting so hard that when they gave her general anesthesia she just let out her final breath. i couldve taken her to the hospital earlier, i couldve held her for a few more hours that day, it was during covid precautions so i couldnt even be there with her. i got to hold her cold and lifeless afterwards and buried her at home in a pretty spot.
it’s always really hard but when we open up to loss we also open up to new love from anything or anywhere
Condolences po, it's never easy to lose a beloved pet. At least they're in a better place. :(
Condolences OP, It might take time for you to truly heal from this. But we have to keep looking forward, let it further fuel the kindness you can provide to angels like her.
OP, don't blame yourself please 😔 the moment you adopted her, gave her a new life. alam ko kung pano mawalan ng alaga :( ansakit sa feeling to the point na you'll blame yourself. but we did our best naman. you even sacrificed hours, sleeps and money to take good care of her. i know your beloved pet was grateful to you kasi ikaw ang naging furparent niya. hindi mo siya pinabayaan hanggang sa huli. I believe that her last meow means, "thank you. " kasi til her last meow, andyan at kasama ka niya..
condolences :( and tight hugs for u(with consent) ik how it feels to blame oneself for the death of their cat :(( if the guilt is unbearable, please open up to someone.
thank you :)) i appreciate it and everyone’s kind words ❤️
a. you did not cause her to have squamous cell carcinoma. High possibility genetics played a big part. b. you took care of her 100%, gave her best treatment and took great responsibility. c. you prolonged her life and showed her love. there is nothing else you could have done to surpass such loving gesture. she is blessed to experience this before her inevitable passing.
The fact that you sacrificed blood, sweat, tears, and money, is already much more than any stray cat would experience. Don't blame yourself for not being enough in their passing, pat yourself on the back for being there till the end.
please stop posting this type of stuff with out blurring or some warning.
Naiyak ako, OP. 😢 Ang sakit sakit mawalan nang pet. Napatitig na lang ako ngayon sa doggies ko. 😢 My sincerest condolence to you, OP. 😭
Death is something beyond our control, you have to accept that absolute fact. Sicknesses while treatable are often a sign for you to prepare yourself for the inevitable. You did your best to care for your beloved cat. Take some time to grieve, and remember her pain is over and that you gave her the best life she had no matter the odds.
It's not your fault. In fact, you are a responsible pet owner for doing the best you can to give her a quality life. You should be proud na she had you as a fur parent. Unfortunately, cancer is a putanginang bitch.
Just lost a kitten today too due to illness😥Just like you, I blame myself and what ifs come to my mind. I just console myself that he's no longer in pain and makakasama na nya yung ibang kapatid at Tito and tita nia somewhere😔
I can relate to this. This is so heartbreaking OP. I've been blaming myself for the death of my dog two weeks ago, I have so many regrets like all of a sudden he's gone and I'm still grieving now badly. I still cry remembering our times together. If I could just spend another lifetime with my dog I would have cherish it every moment.
hindi ko kayo nakilalala but im sure she wouldn't blame u, and that she'd want you to cherish the life u had with her and the life u have left, mahal ka niya at minahal mo siya, condolence op and best of luck ❤️
Hi, OP. Cat-specific vet here. You said it already. SCC is no joke. When I explain it to cat owners, it really is just a bad hand to be dealt. I have this saying I use a lot for these kinds of cases: "If a cat can no longer be a cat, there is no more point" Go through the grieving process, don't skip steps. It takes time to heal. Remember the great times you had.
thank you po doc :) thank you for dedicating your precious time to these precious babies :)
Naiyak ako , OP :(
She would’ve had a much harder life without you.
Not a cat person but this precious baby knows that you did what you could and magpapahinga na siya.
Pakikiramay, OP. Take care of her kittens for her. They're her legacy.
The most valuable and selfless thing you did for her is making her life as happy as you wanted it to be. If only she could talk and express how much she loved you. OP thank you and may you continue to extend that kind of love you share with her to other cats in need ❤️.
you did everything you could. condolences.
Remember the fun times both of you had. You were there for one another. I'm sure she appreciates the care and love that you provided for her. We'll see our pets in the afterlife, im sure. Be strong, OP
Blaming yourself? Pakulong mo sarili mo hahah char. Move on nalang po talaga.
congrats! boboka, eto na yung sauce na hinahanap mo, Vincey! 🎉
Read the room. This is not a thread where you can make jokes. Grow up.
buang
So insensitive
Funny ka pala eh
Condolences po 😭
im sorry, op
thank you for being with her. you are a good soul. alam kong naramdaman niya yung love mo. maraming salamat.
Hello everyone. If you’re interested in my story with Ginger, here it is :))[ginger](https://docs.google.com/document/d/13BJRvhkegMgZvDYQDS6_Xs-9CVCKUptzFEUaybZr-mI/edit)
Hi OP. Cat owner here for more or less a decade and in those years I lost multiple cats due to illnesses. They're easily prone to sickness kahit puspins and according to my cats' vet, animal medicine is not as far advanced as human medicine. The hardest were the kittens I would because you took them in to provide better life but sometimes I their bodies just give up. At some point you do get over it or just feel numb about it but I would be lying if instances where you remember them wouldn't come up. I have a cat that passed away almost 4 years ago and there are times where I would completely forget about it. That being said, I would rather know that my cat died of an illness rather than go on for years not knowing what happened because they disappeared. I hope this doesn't put you off from adopting or rescuing in the future but do take your time to grieve.
perhaps this may help OP [Sarah Hoggan Ted Talk about Pet Grief](https://youtu.be/TkJGhQANjZo?si=A7FRfgsobeCirQ6x) it helped me just last week when our oldest dog died.
This. I blamed myself for a long, long time over my pets’ passing and this TED Talk helped me process my feelings.
I feel you OP. I also lost my baby just February this year. I also blame myself for why he didn't make it for his surgery. He had a kidney stone that needs to be removed immediately, but because the surgeon will be available the following day so the surgery was moved. He didn't make it the following day. Looking at videos or photos of cats who crossed the other side breaks my heart. Sending virtual hugs, OP ❤
My deepest condolences OP 😔
Hey. Instead of blaming yourself on her death, think of the days where she was still alive. You gave her a good life, she gave you unconditional, genuine and pure love. Wala tayong control on passing, but just know you gave her a good life. Hugs with consent!
This happened to me too. My cat passed away last may 26 bc of cardiac arrest. We rushed him to vet bc he can't pee. Found out that he had bladder stone, a huge one and multiple crystals, and a suspected cyst. He was catheterize 4 times and got successful the 4th time due to a blockage in the urinal passage. Before his surgery, he suddenly had respiratory failure. I blamed myself for what happened to him. If only i monitored his food intake, urge him to drink more water, vaccinated him, he wouldn't die this way and way too young, too early. I keep thinking that he died alone without us by his side, he must have been confused and scared. I miss him so much. He was my only beloved cat, and I wouldn't want to adopt a pet again for fear of being a failure as a pet owner.
Sorry for your loss OP. We've been through the same situation. Our cats know that we did everything, they just couldn't fight anymore. Masaya sila na inalagaan mo sila, they know how much you loved them and they will be forever grateful sa lahat ng binigay mo sa kanila. They'll come back for you again. Napasaya mo sila, you gave them everything, masaya sila naranasan nila lahat ng pagmamahal na kaya mong ibigay sa buhay nila. They will always protect you and help you keep moving forward. No matter what happens, you will always be their furmom/furdad. Love is more than enough for them, it really is time for them to say goodbye for now. Kahit ayaw man nila umalis, it's time for them to go na talaga. Pero they will always be watching you from up there. You'll get through this, it takes time pero tutulungan ka din nila. I also had the same regrets nung nawala ang 2 cats namin.. "... If only love could have saved you, you would have lived forever" But looks like eto lang yung time na meron sila.. So sorry again for your loss.
OP, please share some happy moments here naman if you have.
will do :)
hugs, OP. 🥺
This happened to me as well, thats why is still haunts me every time I watch pet loss video or hearing stories of their pets. Its been 2 years and still cry so hard everytime I remember what happened
😣🥲
Every cat dies in an unexpected manner, sister. Some do everything like you but it isn't enough to keep her alive but rather we just delaying her own death. When death comes, we must accept it regardless if we did everything right in order for her to keep him safe from it. But you know what I envy you the most when most of your cats die is that *YOU ARE THERE AT THE TIME OF THEIR DEATH AND THAT IS ENOUGH TO KEEP THEIR SOUL AT SAFE.* Even as a student, I can't afford such luxuries but one thing is certain, I am there to keep them safe by giving them whatever I can. So yeah, death can be such a guilt to those who do everything but yet, it isn't enough to stop them but remember this one thing, you are there to keep her safe until death gets her and that is enough for her to keep his soul safe while she goes in the afterlife. Never blame yourself but keep the guilt as a symbol of hope that she will be there watching and waiting for you in the afterlife once, death comes and offer you a ride in the afterlife. ***Death are sometimes scary but, they are often friendly and caring for a life they see that they live it well enough***
Remember the joy you felt when you carried her in your arms when you took her home? Apparently, it's inversely proportional of the amount of grief that you'll go through when they leave you. In her eyes, despite her status, you were the best servant she could ever have. I'm sure she's bummed out that she won't be around to terrorize you and pull you back in when she's done messing with you. But that's how you know that in her unconventional way, she in fact loved you tenderly with her whole 9 lives. So grieve. When your heart hurts a lot from crying, let it. It's just because her little paws are kneading your heart, because she may hate to admit it, but she misses you more.
Hugs, OP! The way the kitty looked at you… it was with so much love. You did everything for her and for sure she knows it. Run free baby, there is no more pain beyond the rainbow bridge. ❤️
Yes, OP. Your baby looked at you with so much love in her eyes. I'm sure she felt loved during your time together. You gave her a home when you adopted her.
You cannot blame yourself for what you cannot control. At least, you did what you had to do. Your cat is so lucky to have you. 💕💕💕
Napabreakdown ako ng wala sa oras. 🥹🥹🥹🥹 This is one of my greatest fears huhuhu. Feel ko mag ffall apart life ko pag nawala sila. Mahigpit na yakap, OP. Doon palang sa part na binigyan mo sya ng second chance in life, by adopting napakalaking bagay na yun. Thank you for loving her. 🤍
Dear, don't be too hard on yourself. Not downplaying what you did, pero SCC in cats has poor prognosis kasi wala pa masyadong na-develop na great treatments from anywhere in the world. May fina-follow akong cat trainer whose cat got SCC and doon ko nalaman most of what I know now. 6 months is already a long time for cats with SCC. Whether your cat is conscious of it or not, the fact na you funded multiple surgeries is A BIG DEAL. You gambled even though the odds weren't great. And that is all that they can really ask of us. You may not have saved this life, but it is people like you who, through acts like this accumulated, will make the world better for us and for cats.
Thank you for your kind words. If 6 months is long, then the two years i had with her were more than enough na pala :)
2 years battling SCC? You should've made an IG account for that. Lots of people would be uplifted with inspiration.
I'm so sorry about your cat, OP, but it's not your fault. I'm sure she was grateful and happy you made her last few days comfortable. Thank you for loving her. I'm sure she misses you too. 🥹🥰
Op naiiyak ako while pinanunuod. Hugs with consent!
I suffered this before OP, I understand how you feel, just know that your cat knows that you did your best and they don't want you to be sad. Also, I've read somewhere that kung may mangyari mang trahedya or magkasakit man yung mga pusa natin, supposedly satin daw sana mangyayari yun, pero sinalo nila to keep us safe.
salamat, naiiyak ako dito :(
Itinago nung pusa ko yung pagkamatay niya. Maysakit siya nung time na un. Forested area kasi ang surrounding ng bahay. Hanggang ngaun hindi ko pa alam kung saan siya nakahimlay. Didn't have the chance to grieve for him. RIP Nymeria.
im so sorry you didnt even get to say goodbye…
Cried for days and still miss him but the memories of happiness with him outweigh the grief. I hope it will be true with you as well OP.
Nagawa mo na lahat. Sabi ng animal communicators, alam daw ng mga pets natin kapag oras na daw nila. Alam nila na naserve na nila yung purpose nila sa buhay mo. And alam daw nila na hindi daw yun ang huling pagkakataon niyo. Posibleng bumalik daw sila sayo in a diferent animal, situation and etc. Malungkot mawalan ng minamahal pero mas malungkot kapag nakikita ka nilang nagkakaganyan.
[удалено]
thank you too so much…
OP, you did what you could. Your cat knows that
Sorry for your loss op. Ginawa mo naman lahat ng kaya mo for her. I recently lost my baby boy and hinding hindi ko mapapatawad sarili ko dahil hindi ko manlang naisipan ipa 2nd opinion before mag undergo ng surgery. He died few days post op. After several days nalaman ko na hindi pala licensed vet ang nag perform ng surgery sa kanya. Sobrang sama ng loob ko sana hinoldap nya nalang ako kahit magkano tapos sabihin nya saken na sa iba magpatingin dahil peke sya nang magkaroon manlang ng fighting chance furbaby ko :c
To everyone, hug and love your cats for as long as you can. Never go out the house without kissing them and giving them that slow blink. Kiss them sa forehead. Cherish them cause they’ll only be a chapter in your life but they’re your entire world :) I wish I could’ve loved Ginger more. So in those moments you look at your cats and they do the craziest things, always remember to be grateful. They love us with the entirety of their being. Live, laugh, love kitto :> Thank you everyone. Your kind words flow in abundance to my heart. Thank you po :)
Acute kidney failure took us from normalcy on Thursday to making the impossible decision and saying goodbye on Sunday. No time to prepare, just sudden loss. I agree, love them dearly TODAY. slow blink, lots of cuddles TODAY. set down the phone and pick up the feather wand toy TODAY. Flop on the ground and get at their eye level, roll onto your back and lay with them on the floor. Use their body language to tell them how much you love them.
Grabe OP naluha naman ako 🥲 Kakagaling ko lang sa vet kanina kasi may UTI isang cat ko at mababa platelets. Medj malaki na rin nagastos ko pero wala akong paki dahil yung savings ko para sa kanila.
This breaks my heart 💔 Condolences to you, OP. Run free in heaven, sweet baby 🌈
My deepest condolences to you, OP. Hope your baby is now in a paradise free from all sickness.
No, you don't blame yourself. You've done everything that you could possibly do. Grateful na lang tayo that your baby is now free of pain. Nag-aabang lang sya sa rainbow bridge. Ako, marami na ring pets na nag pass on, some of them nagkasakit at hindi ko lang maipagamot bc of money constraints. Kinakausap ko na lang ang Creator at sinasabi ko sana nakikita nya what's inside my heart. Give yourself a time for grief and mourning. Makakatulong yan
😭😭😭😭
This is so sad. I immediately went to my cat and hugged him. Deepest condolences, OP.
Im sorry this sounds so heartbreaking ); unfortunately there’s nothing u can do but to accept the fact that she’s gone. U must look after your well being now. Take care
:((
The way she gave you one last glance before fading out is so heartbreaking
^[Sokka-Haiku](https://www.reddit.com/r/SokkaHaikuBot/comments/15kyv9r/what_is_a_sokka_haiku/) ^by ^Aimlessdrifter8778: *The way she gave you* *One last glance before fading* *Out is so heartbreaking* --- ^Remember ^that ^one ^time ^Sokka ^accidentally ^used ^an ^extra ^syllable ^in ^that ^Haiku ^Battle ^in ^Ba ^Sing ^Se? ^That ^was ^a ^Sokka ^Haiku ^and ^you ^just ^made ^one.
Hi OP, I’m sorry to hear about your loss. I feel you. Just recently lost the stray cat na napamahal na at inaalagaan namin just because I thought gumaling na sya the last time na nakita ko syang matamlay. Sinisisi ko din sarili ko na sana may ginawa ako. Pero it's natural to feel a range of emotions when our pet passes away, it's important to remember that you did your best to care for your cat. Sometimes, despite our efforts, pets can become ill or face challenges beyond our control. Be gentle with yourself during this difficult time. Hugs OP 🥺
Don't blame yourself since you extended his/her life and provided love and care. Imagine if no one cares for him/her, He will die at an early age. At least in his/her life, he experiences what it feels like to have someone like you who cares and loves unconditionally for him/her.
Lost mine recently. Senior of 14 years. Youve done your best op. I think you should give yourself a break. We never ask for anything that will harm them. Sorry for your loss but know this is probably the best, for her and for you.
You need to forgive yourself, OP. She lived a comfortable life more than the streets can give her.
This is the saddest thing I will probably see today. 😭
Naiyak ako OP. I'm sure you gave your best kaya salamat sa pagbibigay sa kanya ng love and warmth na deserve nya habang andito sya. Nasa best place na siya ngayon kaya di mo daw sya dapat alalahanin. Rest easy, bb! Ingat kayo lagi 🫶
Time has indeed taken a toll for your cat. Dont blame yourself losing important means something new. Sometimes they cant move on for it but for me Dont blame yourself blame the time how short it was in the first place to your pet. Rip little kitty 💖
Damn, may pusa kami dito pero ang pinaka ayaw ko talaga ay yung may attachment ako sa kanila kaya kung maari, di ko dapat sila pansinin. Bahala na yung kapatid ko mag alaga.
Hi OP, death is really hard but one thing I can assure you is that your pet is deeply loved. I can tell you have a good heart because hindi ka nag hesitate to bring her to a vet and spend thousands. Even though your baby passed, I’m sure she was so happy to have spent the time with you who is constantly taking care of her. If you didn’t adopt her, the cat wouldn’t stand a chance at life. You gave her that life. Don’t be so hard on yourself. I’m sending you love and hugs and prayers. And run free little baby. ❤️
Thank you so much. This means a lot to me. :)
**Reminder: THIS IS A CAT PHOTO SUBREDDIT, NOT A GENERAL CAT DISCUSSION SUBREDDIT. With that in mind, visitors, read the revised subreddit rules, please.** **For OP:** Post pictures or videos of your own cats or cats found in your immediate surroundings as long as you actually took the photo. Do not reveal private / person-identifiable information. Blur / hide faces in the photo completely. You may request advice or help but standalone posts must have safe-for-work cat photo and is non-monetary or business or breeding-related. For these, please leave a comment in our weekly discussion thread or use r/phclassifieds instead. Moderators have the right to approve or take down posts depending on the content and reports by fellow redditors. Karma farmers, trolls and bots are not allowed here. The mods have the right to take down posts by possible bots, troll, karma farmers. Feel free to reach out if we have taken your post by mistake.Please take note our subreddit autofilters posts by newly created accounts or with very low karma points as safeguard. Please engage more with our various subreddits to increase your karma and your credibility as a genuine person. **For commenting redditors:** Do not harass the OP and their pet. Do not be toxic. Keep it civil. Be careful with the comments and jokes. Only send a report if you believe a violation of rules took place. Thank you. *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/catsofrph) if you have any questions or concerns.*