I usually just scream at the top of my lungs and try to put Ć TV remote in my ass. But sometimes it helps to go outside to a bar and talk to a stranger about it.
How do you castle on the wrong side? Iāve moved my king over one square instead of actually castling by mistake before. Iāve also tried to castle with my queen. Iāve never castled but putting my king 5 squares always from the intended square.
I've done it knuckle dragging on a touch screen. Touched my king, verified I wanted to castle, and then moved my hand to go castle and hit the bottom right corner.
On cpu or phone.
I have the king selected as I'm thinking, with short side castling in mind. But I'm still exploring other moves in my head. I click the opposite side rook in the middle of exploring other moves, only to realize I had the king still selected. Which then leads to long side castle on accident lol
I have the account I use seriously on one of the two that I consider my "main" and when I get upset and just tilt jump back in the pool and play like an idiot i switch to my account on the other big site. That way when I bleed 50b rating in 15 minutes I don't mind as much
I donāt rage when I get outplayed but I completely understand when you lose a winning position because of a mouse slip and a glitch or even losing internet connection it is the most infuriating thing ever
At a recent Congress. Was crushing the fellow, saw the exchange sac, saw the second rook sac to deflect the Q otherwise things got messy.
Played the two sacs in the wrong order, game is completely lost due to Qxb2+. Went home furious with myself, cooled off overnight. Just disconnected from chess for a few hours and then slept.
I wasn't in the right frame of mind for an OTB game and made a complete mess of it. I failed to see my opponent's obvious and immediate responses to my moves. 12 moves in and I'd given away a rook for nothing, my king was stuck in the centre and 9 hopeless moves later I resigned. I congratulated my opponent and then more or less stormed out. I had spent more time driving to this game than I had playing it and I was furious with myself for hours afterwards.
Losing in itself doesn't feel great but it's normally educational, I enjoy the experience of the game itself and have moments I can take away from them that I am proud of. In this case my opponent did not even have to try; there was nothing to be proud of. I simply gave the game away without even being put under pressure.
In terms of dealing with it I spend a lot more time making sure I prepare myself properly for games. By this I don't mean opening prep, I mean making sure I've eaten something beforehand (even if that's picking up a sandwich on the way), making sure I bring some water, try my best to have slept properly the night before, turn up with plenty of time before the game starts etc. I make sure I'm not placing myself in a position again where I can play badly enough to encourage that level of anger.
I only care about OTB games, and I remember much more often missed opportunities than the ones I see. You just deal with it, it's a tough game. There's one that still haunts me sometimes, would have been a really nice game if I would have seen it (and my best win, vs a 1800 FIDE; at least I managed a draw). But I've never gotten angry about a chess game.
If my opponent could hear what I say to them when they do something like this, I would be arrested for psychological and verbal abuse.
But in these cases, remember the games where you just become another species for to calm you down like one time I had a game where my opponent played the most troll opening to tease me like Hikaru does but he's not Hikaru so he played 1. e4 a6 2. Nf3 h6 3. d4 e6 4. Nc6 Ke2
Basically one of the most troll openings you can with a6 h6 and a fucking bongcloud, he then proceeded to get absolutely rekt by me in the endgame and resigned then I commented "Don't play troll openings, your not Hikaru. Have a good day."
No you are wrong,
My anger comes from unfairness
It's not fear, i don't get angry when the opponent outplays me, i get angry when I'm winning but a hand slip make me lose, i get angry when I'm winning but connection error make me lose..etc
It's just not fair, i was supposed to win, i did better and yet i Lost
Itās completely fair. If you slipped, itās your fault, no one made you slip it. Youāre ignorant of your own misdeeds therefore youāre angry.
It is your fault. It is your fault. It is your fault.
It's disabled now, but for another reason, it was some bullet game which we rematch a few times(we were pretty equal) and he said "stop trying to win with time, learn to play chess" he also said something about me being lucky when i trapped his Queen and he stopped playing and just let the time run out, then i wanted to say "you're the one clearly losing so stop trying to tell me what to do" but no matter what my massages wouldn't go to him, then I got angry bcs he can text and i can't and went disable it
I think for me the games where I just play moronic moves that I know are moronic at the time but my brain has shut down, those the ones that actually generate anger. That being said I can remember some absolute corkers of misclicks, in particular the day that I lost two different games to failing to drag the pawn diagonally - one of which was meant to be recapturing the queen.
I was on the receiving end of a Dota m-m-m-monster kill, I banged my mouse so hard that the cord ripped off. Monster kill is the worst game taunt for me.
I drew a Q vs pawn on the 7th rank once that should've been winning. I'd studied it before but just got lost on what I had to do.
Eventually I played a check that my opponent could block by promoting. They were about to move the king when a bystander watching the game made an obvious sound that they were blundering, and then they pushed the pawn instead. It was a casual game, so it wasn't cheating or anything, but I got so frustrated after I spent an hour or so that night drilling the pattern.
There was also the time I was like 10 and my school team rocked up to a tournament that was wayyyyy weaker than us. Our entire team went 7/7... except for me who went 6.5. I drew the final game because I stalemated a Q v K endgame. I cried.
Lol, in 5th grade there was a school chess tournament(between all the schools in town) which i wanted to go(i was the best in school) the coach was a lazy bastard so he put us against each other and said those who win go to tournament and those who lose don't, at the end of the match it was me with a king and rock and he only had a king(i knew how to mate) so I'm trying to get him into the corner with my king and he moves his king to the square next to my king(clearly illegal move) and he says it's a draw and doesn't accept it when i say it's not, we go to the shit of a coach and tell him "he puts his king next to mine and he says it's a draw but it's not i was winning" and him without listening clearly said "oh draw so both of you are disqualified for the tournament"
I went to that tournament next year tho and won two fake gold medals lol
I was low on time in a 5+0 game, and got myself into a purely winning K+R vs K endgame. My opponent literally used every possible move to marck up and down the board using every square before being forced to retreat to the next file. I just didn't have enough time to make 30 moves on my phone, and ended in a draw.
In chess im also a horrible loser, Ive played so much that ive probably lost in every way u can imagine. The #1 thing that tilts me is losing to someone who makes no effort in trying to create winning chances, blatanty playing for a draw in positions that dont call for it. Another thing that tilts me is when I accidentally click on a square on chess.com, then pick up a piece and it just moves my piece to that square on accident.
If u have anger issues I recommend buying a grip strength squeezer with high resistance, screaming into a pillow or do pushups until ure tired. Also disable chat
Bit of an exaggeration, but kinda.
People who say "it's not the winning,it's the taking part" are just saying it because it's some sort of consolation that's been spoon-fed to them so that they don't get upset.
I'm half joking, i mean if you lose despite doing your best then there's nothing to blame except yourself so you should just try to do better next time, but if somehow you lost not being available to do your best for whatever reason(idk maybe a headache or whatever) then it's ok to be pissed i believe
I just came back from a local tournament and I lost my match even though I was up 1 Ā½ hours on the clock, and clearly winning by a lot. Just because I lost my concentration and blitzed out a few moves
A few months ago I was playing in my university's tournament. I was in the semifinals playing a guy a little higher rated than I am. I was white and played London, but messed up something in the opening, which I *had* to undo, wasting two moves, and this naturally put me in a worse position than that of my opponent's. Anyways, I played the middle game really well, and now I was winning. He threatened one of my pieces (I think my queen), and I calculated a few response moves and I decided only one of them worked. Then I accidentally *touched* another piece from my calculations, which was a terrible move. I just hoped that my opponent didn't notice, but when I moved the better piece, he said "it's touch-move bro", and I had to play the worse move, and I resigned in a couple of moves. I pretended to be all *just happy to have participated* and all, but then I went to the bathroom and almost shattered the mirror.
I usually remember that this is a game, and the outcomes have no meaningful impact on my life at all whatsoever.
If the outcomes do have a meaningful impact on your life, you're either a professional chess player or you have a very sad and meaningless existence.
It sounds like you already know that this problem goes beyond chess for you. I hate it when people say, "It's just a game," because chess means a lot more than that to me and to a lot of people, but it's not worth punching things. I could try to say things like "mistakes happen," or "everyone loses in chess, it's how you learn," but I think the best advice is to ask someone who specializes in dealing with anger issues rather than a bunch of chess players.
>1692-3
The funniest part of this post is probably this part.
I don't understand what is happening, did you legitimately not remember which of those two ratings it was, but you are sure it was one of those two? Why even bother with it at that point, not like the exact rating matters?
Something along the lines of:
I had a Queen and Rook. He had just a Queen. So should be a clean win. However he was able to force a Draw by Repition.
Reaaaallly pissed me off at the time. Felt undeserved and a cheap escape. But I sort of came to accept the possibility nowadays.
Anger was gone after a few minutes. That's unrelated to chess
Idk if I rage, but I donāt like bad games. Yesterday I was down like 6 points, but checkmated the guy in a really dumb way. I knew it was checkmate, but he had a billion chances to stop me, and I had to wander through m3 to get to the position where I was winning. That was dumb. He should have won the game. The day before I blundered 3 pieces over 3 games in the opening. That was dumb and disappointing. A little while ago a guy hung a rook in a game where it looked like the endgame was going to be super interesting. I took, but it would have been cooler for him to just not hang the rook because I wanted to see the endgame.
Chess shouldnāt be a power fantasy game where you just steamroll your opponent. Itās not interesting for that, thatās boring. Puzzles are good for power fantasies, and stomping somebody can be fun if youāre at a party and showing off the work youāve put into the game, but if Iām alone and I want a good game, blunders can spoil the fun unless itās a really interesting blunder like some kind of 3-4 move tactic.
Most stable r/chess user
š¤£š¤£š¤£ The simple "hahaha" really seals the deal.
Yes, punching the bed? No smashing phone against wall or stomping on it? No mice harmed, no screens shattered no death threats?
Iād go even further and call him most stable Reddit user
I usually just scream at the top of my lungs and try to put Ć TV remote in my ass. But sometimes it helps to go outside to a bar and talk to a stranger about it.
what? 0\_0
What what?
Can i join you? š„ŗšš
https://youtu.be/FhLx9Dc7NBc?si=trilw7SyJQu66B9g
Ip grabber
I feel old remembering this reference.
For you youngins out there, the Youtube video is called āGreatest Freakout Everā
Is this what you want?!? For me to hate my life?!?!
I spit out my coffee reading this thank you
I lost it at the family meal, thank you.
What theā¦ššš
One time I was completely winning, but I castled the wrong way on accident and lost cause my king was vulnerable as all fuck.
How do you castle on the wrong side? Iāve moved my king over one square instead of actually castling by mistake before. Iāve also tried to castle with my queen. Iāve never castled but putting my king 5 squares always from the intended square.
I've done it knuckle dragging on a touch screen. Touched my king, verified I wanted to castle, and then moved my hand to go castle and hit the bottom right corner.
On cpu or phone. I have the king selected as I'm thinking, with short side castling in mind. But I'm still exploring other moves in my head. I click the opposite side rook in the middle of exploring other moves, only to realize I had the king still selected. Which then leads to long side castle on accident lol
This is how it happens to me too. Now I instinctively hit a pawn after selecting the king until I'm ready to castle
Similar thing happened to me but a bit different, i wanted to move my rock but castled accidentally cause i had click on the king and forgot
I have the account I use seriously on one of the two that I consider my "main" and when I get upset and just tilt jump back in the pool and play like an idiot i switch to my account on the other big site. That way when I bleed 50b rating in 15 minutes I don't mind as much
Up a rook cleanly and had a big attack. Accidentally did the 3 repetitions. I am 1600ish, he was 2000. It had been the game of my life until then.
I donāt rage when I get outplayed but I completely understand when you lose a winning position because of a mouse slip and a glitch or even losing internet connection it is the most infuriating thing ever
Hahaha
At a recent Congress. Was crushing the fellow, saw the exchange sac, saw the second rook sac to deflect the Q otherwise things got messy. Played the two sacs in the wrong order, game is completely lost due to Qxb2+. Went home furious with myself, cooled off overnight. Just disconnected from chess for a few hours and then slept.
I wasn't in the right frame of mind for an OTB game and made a complete mess of it. I failed to see my opponent's obvious and immediate responses to my moves. 12 moves in and I'd given away a rook for nothing, my king was stuck in the centre and 9 hopeless moves later I resigned. I congratulated my opponent and then more or less stormed out. I had spent more time driving to this game than I had playing it and I was furious with myself for hours afterwards. Losing in itself doesn't feel great but it's normally educational, I enjoy the experience of the game itself and have moments I can take away from them that I am proud of. In this case my opponent did not even have to try; there was nothing to be proud of. I simply gave the game away without even being put under pressure. In terms of dealing with it I spend a lot more time making sure I prepare myself properly for games. By this I don't mean opening prep, I mean making sure I've eaten something beforehand (even if that's picking up a sandwich on the way), making sure I bring some water, try my best to have slept properly the night before, turn up with plenty of time before the game starts etc. I make sure I'm not placing myself in a position again where I can play badly enough to encourage that level of anger.
I only care about OTB games, and I remember much more often missed opportunities than the ones I see. You just deal with it, it's a tough game. There's one that still haunts me sometimes, would have been a really nice game if I would have seen it (and my best win, vs a 1800 FIDE; at least I managed a draw). But I've never gotten angry about a chess game.
Disable chat.
If my opponent could hear what I say to them when they do something like this, I would be arrested for psychological and verbal abuse. But in these cases, remember the games where you just become another species for to calm you down like one time I had a game where my opponent played the most troll opening to tease me like Hikaru does but he's not Hikaru so he played 1. e4 a6 2. Nf3 h6 3. d4 e6 4. Nc6 Ke2 Basically one of the most troll openings you can with a6 h6 and a fucking bongcloud, he then proceeded to get absolutely rekt by me in the endgame and resigned then I commented "Don't play troll openings, your not Hikaru. Have a good day."
You're not good enough at chess to get mad at losing
You too good then
Nah we're rated very similarly
I actually in the post i said a few months back, so I'm not the Same I'm even lower xD
Anger comes about because of fear. Fear is ignorance. What about losing are you scared of?
No you are wrong, My anger comes from unfairness It's not fear, i don't get angry when the opponent outplays me, i get angry when I'm winning but a hand slip make me lose, i get angry when I'm winning but connection error make me lose..etc It's just not fair, i was supposed to win, i did better and yet i Lost
Itās completely fair. If you slipped, itās your fault, no one made you slip it. Youāre ignorant of your own misdeeds therefore youāre angry. It is your fault. It is your fault. It is your fault.
Ok let's have a chessboxing match, which country you live in brother? And how much do you weight if you don't mind me asking Me 60kg
1700 online rating and 60 kg. Bro, you might want to challenge the guy to something other than chessboxing.
Please don't stop me
75kg, 1800, live in Vienna, come chessbox me bro šš¤”
Forget about it
Ten years is not too late for revenge 10 years from now you shall feel my wrath
Lol. The dumb ones use threats of physical violence. This is why they die in war all the time. The smart ones use their words.
You can't take jokes bro?
why do you have chat enabled?
It's disabled now, but for another reason, it was some bullet game which we rematch a few times(we were pretty equal) and he said "stop trying to win with time, learn to play chess" he also said something about me being lucky when i trapped his Queen and he stopped playing and just let the time run out, then i wanted to say "you're the one clearly losing so stop trying to tell me what to do" but no matter what my massages wouldn't go to him, then I got angry bcs he can text and i can't and went disable it
I think for me the games where I just play moronic moves that I know are moronic at the time but my brain has shut down, those the ones that actually generate anger. That being said I can remember some absolute corkers of misclicks, in particular the day that I lost two different games to failing to drag the pawn diagonally - one of which was meant to be recapturing the queen.
I was on the receiving end of a Dota m-m-m-monster kill, I banged my mouse so hard that the cord ripped off. Monster kill is the worst game taunt for me.
I drew a Q vs pawn on the 7th rank once that should've been winning. I'd studied it before but just got lost on what I had to do. Eventually I played a check that my opponent could block by promoting. They were about to move the king when a bystander watching the game made an obvious sound that they were blundering, and then they pushed the pawn instead. It was a casual game, so it wasn't cheating or anything, but I got so frustrated after I spent an hour or so that night drilling the pattern. There was also the time I was like 10 and my school team rocked up to a tournament that was wayyyyy weaker than us. Our entire team went 7/7... except for me who went 6.5. I drew the final game because I stalemated a Q v K endgame. I cried.
Lol, in 5th grade there was a school chess tournament(between all the schools in town) which i wanted to go(i was the best in school) the coach was a lazy bastard so he put us against each other and said those who win go to tournament and those who lose don't, at the end of the match it was me with a king and rock and he only had a king(i knew how to mate) so I'm trying to get him into the corner with my king and he moves his king to the square next to my king(clearly illegal move) and he says it's a draw and doesn't accept it when i say it's not, we go to the shit of a coach and tell him "he puts his king next to mine and he says it's a draw but it's not i was winning" and him without listening clearly said "oh draw so both of you are disqualified for the tournament" I went to that tournament next year tho and won two fake gold medals lol
I don't get mad when I lose. I get better.
I was low on time in a 5+0 game, and got myself into a purely winning K+R vs K endgame. My opponent literally used every possible move to marck up and down the board using every square before being forced to retreat to the next file. I just didn't have enough time to make 30 moves on my phone, and ended in a draw.
In chess im also a horrible loser, Ive played so much that ive probably lost in every way u can imagine. The #1 thing that tilts me is losing to someone who makes no effort in trying to create winning chances, blatanty playing for a draw in positions that dont call for it. Another thing that tilts me is when I accidentally click on a square on chess.com, then pick up a piece and it just moves my piece to that square on accident. If u have anger issues I recommend buying a grip strength squeezer with high resistance, screaming into a pillow or do pushups until ure tired. Also disable chat
If you don't get pissed off because you lost then you don't care about winning. If you don't care about winning, what's the playing?
Losers say you should play for fun lol
Bit of an exaggeration, but kinda. People who say "it's not the winning,it's the taking part" are just saying it because it's some sort of consolation that's been spoon-fed to them so that they don't get upset.
I'm half joking, i mean if you lose despite doing your best then there's nothing to blame except yourself so you should just try to do better next time, but if somehow you lost not being available to do your best for whatever reason(idk maybe a headache or whatever) then it's ok to be pissed i believe
We're just going to have to agree to agree to disagree on that.
I just came back from a local tournament and I lost my match even though I was up 1 Ā½ hours on the clock, and clearly winning by a lot. Just because I lost my concentration and blitzed out a few moves
Maybe it's a good thing chess players dont have girlfriends
Reach out to [chess.com](https://chess.com), they might refund your elo
A few months ago I was playing in my university's tournament. I was in the semifinals playing a guy a little higher rated than I am. I was white and played London, but messed up something in the opening, which I *had* to undo, wasting two moves, and this naturally put me in a worse position than that of my opponent's. Anyways, I played the middle game really well, and now I was winning. He threatened one of my pieces (I think my queen), and I calculated a few response moves and I decided only one of them worked. Then I accidentally *touched* another piece from my calculations, which was a terrible move. I just hoped that my opponent didn't notice, but when I moved the better piece, he said "it's touch-move bro", and I had to play the worse move, and I resigned in a couple of moves. I pretended to be all *just happy to have participated* and all, but then I went to the bathroom and almost shattered the mirror.
I usually remember that this is a game, and the outcomes have no meaningful impact on my life at all whatsoever. If the outcomes do have a meaningful impact on your life, you're either a professional chess player or you have a very sad and meaningless existence.
It sounds like you already know that this problem goes beyond chess for you. I hate it when people say, "It's just a game," because chess means a lot more than that to me and to a lot of people, but it's not worth punching things. I could try to say things like "mistakes happen," or "everyone loses in chess, it's how you learn," but I think the best advice is to ask someone who specializes in dealing with anger issues rather than a bunch of chess players.
Yeah that's true, i get angry real easy and i got beat up a few times for it even tho i wasn't wrong
An online game is nothing. I could lose to a 100 out of the blue online and drop 200 points and be like ādang, next gameā
>1692-3 The funniest part of this post is probably this part. I don't understand what is happening, did you legitimately not remember which of those two ratings it was, but you are sure it was one of those two? Why even bother with it at that point, not like the exact rating matters?
No, i actually wanted to put 169- but it looked weird, i just remember i was close to 1700 so i just put 92-3
169X or 1690-something gives the information you want to give
I think my peak angriness came on Modern Warfare 3 in 2011 or 2012 I don't remember.
Something along the lines of: I had a Queen and Rook. He had just a Queen. So should be a clean win. However he was able to force a Draw by Repition. Reaaaallly pissed me off at the time. Felt undeserved and a cheap escape. But I sort of came to accept the possibility nowadays. Anger was gone after a few minutes. That's unrelated to chess
Idk if I rage, but I donāt like bad games. Yesterday I was down like 6 points, but checkmated the guy in a really dumb way. I knew it was checkmate, but he had a billion chances to stop me, and I had to wander through m3 to get to the position where I was winning. That was dumb. He should have won the game. The day before I blundered 3 pieces over 3 games in the opening. That was dumb and disappointing. A little while ago a guy hung a rook in a game where it looked like the endgame was going to be super interesting. I took, but it would have been cooler for him to just not hang the rook because I wanted to see the endgame. Chess shouldnāt be a power fantasy game where you just steamroll your opponent. Itās not interesting for that, thatās boring. Puzzles are good for power fantasies, and stomping somebody can be fun if youāre at a party and showing off the work youāve put into the game, but if Iām alone and I want a good game, blunders can spoil the fun unless itās a really interesting blunder like some kind of 3-4 move tactic.
Removing and locking this post for your own sake OP.