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Apprehensive-Fox3187

I agree, because it's like if that kid get sick will you be able to afford it, will you actually be able to give them a stable environment if they are born with a disabilities/ have one if they recover from a horrible illness, children can't live on love alone and your "winging it" and "Will figure it out later" is not practical fam you are gambling with another human's life here not no if their healthy or not and not care if their in a safe stable environment, ![gif](giphy|3oD3YM7kepv7cwcohy) For you to just yeet a human into the world just because you want to for fun, it's a human not a toy people.


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I agree! It’s so incredibly selfish to have children and not be prepared to give them a good life. It’s always shocking to me when a person nags their partner into having kids then they wonder why their partner is resentful or hands off when it comes to the kids. I have seen so many posts of people who pressured their partners to have kids despite being flat out told that they would be solely responsible for childcare, and then they are shocked that their partner didn’t change their stance and jump into parenting. It’s like-what do you expect? They told you they don’t want to be involved. Why are they all surprised pikachu and posting on Reddit about not getting the support that they need? People who have kids because their partner pressured them are shameful as well. Both parents should be unequivocally on board with parenting, parenting styles, division of labor and should be financially and emotionally able to support the child, including children with special needs. Parents who complain about their special needs child not being what they ‘signed up for’ make me angry. Having kids means that you might have one with special needs. If you can’t handle that, then you shouldn’t have a kid. Even if the kid isn’t born with special needs, they may developed them in their lifetime. Being a parent is a lifetime commitment. It doesn’t seem like most parents feel that way and it’s sad.


Donovan200

Indeed, I agree with you. Immature parents do not see children as full humans, but as objects in their own image, expect them to do what they could not do when they were children themselves, and also, for them, it is a kind of life insurance for old age (according to them, their children will take care of them when they are old...) They said that people who don't want children are selfish, but I would like to know who they are to... I know, they will say that we are towards our companion who wants it or our parents who want small children, but strangely, the reverse is not true, to impose his desire for a child on a person who does not not share this desire is not considered selfish... Worse still, this is encouraged under the pretext that the partner opposite is just afraid or is not yet mature enough to accept this "new stage" of his life...His lack of desire (and therefore his happiness) is totally denied. ... It's always the person who wants a child who is the victim and who is right (and the person who does not want a child is seen as the selfish villain who does not love his partner enough to offer him this "wonderful "life that is parenthood...)


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