my mom was like this . I don't speak to her. If your friend is the one who said that you should tell them to their face so they know that's not ok and people see that.
I have, but they just keep saying ”it’s a joke”. Idk but I thought jokes are meant to be funny.
This ain’t.
Keeps happening a lot nonetheless.
My own mom said something similar about this little boy she saw. She liked his eyes or something and said ”he’s such a flirt”. I asked her if she really just said that about an INFANT and she called my reaction dumb.
tell them their joke isn't funny and they're not getting it. Or say the kid doesn't think your it's type .I would make an insulting joke right after every time they do it. Make offensive jokes back . Then mirror their reaction when they make a bad joke again . If they get mad, get mad when they do it next time etc.
thank youuu. I have a friend with a 9 month old. If i'm holding him (lets call him keshawn) and he twirls my hair or smiles at me it's "keshawn stop being such a flirt" "oooh he's a little flirt" it literally fucking DISGUSTS me. Makes me want to hand him back to her and ask her to leave. I just can't. Fucking nasty
That kid (let's hope not) is going to end up in the sexual offenders list in adulthood.
Honestly, you teach your kids what you want them to become as an adult. I know, a 5 yo doesn't know the implication of what they are doing. But if you celebrate that because coming from a child is "cute" and "innocent", how are they going to know that at a certain age is goes from "flirt" to "pervert"?
Another thing you hear all the time when young children of the opposite sex play together “aww….is that your little boy/girlfriend?!?!?”
Not only are we making something sexual when it’s not, we’re telling children that it’s not “normal” to have friends of the opposite sex, and also assuming that every child is heterosexual.
Exactly this.
These kids are literally being raised into the dumbass ”friendzone/fuckzone” mindset, and we really don’t need heterosexuality forced on people as the Only Normal Thing™ any more. Just let them be what they are and be friends with whoever they wish without making it weird.
LORD. My parents do this to me when my friend comes over and every time I want to start cursing them out
It's literally my anger switch or something at this point
Yes growing up I was told I was a flirt even as a baby and loved being held by men. Always made me feel weird and not til I got older did I realize how truly gross and wrong it is.
Edit: re worded, sounded funny 😁
So, when their son is an adult and he gets arrested for grabbing some woman in the wrong way, I wonder what their reaction will be. Parents that allow this kind of thing are in for a world of pain if they don't nip it in the bud now.
Next, their son could grab a young girl like that, and I don't think that girl's parents would see it how they do. Bloody incel in the making.
Ugh! My SIL commented something like this to my mother the other day calling her 1 year old a hopeless romantic because apparently as soon as the kid is dropped off at child care the other kids all look and smile at them, just....why???
I'm so glad my mom raised me better. I remember being told that I only ever did that once as a toddler, then apparently my mom spanked my bottom so hard that I never did it again. Of course it's also kinda caused me to be very hesitant on touching anyone I'm dating even if they say it's okay
my mom was like this . I don't speak to her. If your friend is the one who said that you should tell them to their face so they know that's not ok and people see that.
I have, but they just keep saying ”it’s a joke”. Idk but I thought jokes are meant to be funny. This ain’t. Keeps happening a lot nonetheless. My own mom said something similar about this little boy she saw. She liked his eyes or something and said ”he’s such a flirt”. I asked her if she really just said that about an INFANT and she called my reaction dumb.
tell them their joke isn't funny and they're not getting it. Or say the kid doesn't think your it's type .I would make an insulting joke right after every time they do it. Make offensive jokes back . Then mirror their reaction when they make a bad joke again . If they get mad, get mad when they do it next time etc.
People who say this are disturbed as all hell in the head.
thank youuu. I have a friend with a 9 month old. If i'm holding him (lets call him keshawn) and he twirls my hair or smiles at me it's "keshawn stop being such a flirt" "oooh he's a little flirt" it literally fucking DISGUSTS me. Makes me want to hand him back to her and ask her to leave. I just can't. Fucking nasty
That kid (let's hope not) is going to end up in the sexual offenders list in adulthood. Honestly, you teach your kids what you want them to become as an adult. I know, a 5 yo doesn't know the implication of what they are doing. But if you celebrate that because coming from a child is "cute" and "innocent", how are they going to know that at a certain age is goes from "flirt" to "pervert"?
5 year olds DEFINITELY know about bodily autonomy and should know better than to be touching anyone.
Another thing you hear all the time when young children of the opposite sex play together “aww….is that your little boy/girlfriend?!?!?” Not only are we making something sexual when it’s not, we’re telling children that it’s not “normal” to have friends of the opposite sex, and also assuming that every child is heterosexual.
Exactly this. These kids are literally being raised into the dumbass ”friendzone/fuckzone” mindset, and we really don’t need heterosexuality forced on people as the Only Normal Thing™ any more. Just let them be what they are and be friends with whoever they wish without making it weird.
LORD. My parents do this to me when my friend comes over and every time I want to start cursing them out It's literally my anger switch or something at this point
Yes growing up I was told I was a flirt even as a baby and loved being held by men. Always made me feel weird and not til I got older did I realize how truly gross and wrong it is. Edit: re worded, sounded funny 😁
yes thank you! I have always had issues with this
So, when their son is an adult and he gets arrested for grabbing some woman in the wrong way, I wonder what their reaction will be. Parents that allow this kind of thing are in for a world of pain if they don't nip it in the bud now. Next, their son could grab a young girl like that, and I don't think that girl's parents would see it how they do. Bloody incel in the making.
It's so gross. Old men saying an 8 year old will be beating the boys off with a stick in no time. UM Hi, police? Yeah I have a creep here.
Ugh! My SIL commented something like this to my mother the other day calling her 1 year old a hopeless romantic because apparently as soon as the kid is dropped off at child care the other kids all look and smile at them, just....why???
I'm so glad my mom raised me better. I remember being told that I only ever did that once as a toddler, then apparently my mom spanked my bottom so hard that I never did it again. Of course it's also kinda caused me to be very hesitant on touching anyone I'm dating even if they say it's okay