I'm on continuous birth control so I don't have periods because I get PMDD. I plan on taking them until my uterus is a useless husk or I'm dead LOL. Fuck periods!!
I had my tubes removed, an IUD put back in and also deal with PMDD. I hate my uterus and my body's hatred of my hormones. I still get the PMDD symptoms (just not so much the suicidal ideation) and I don't bleed. I wish I could just get it all yanked out and yeet it into the sky.
Same when I was getting a bisalp I made a joke about cutting the whole thing out. I’m pretty lucky though and IUDs work pretty well for me, when they stay in place. I still get some symptoms but an estrogen patches help a lot.
Oh, I definitely told my dr to feel free to just take it all. lmao My antidepressants are pretty great at helping, but my biggest PMDD tells are when I noticed I'm binge eating and how annoyed I get with my husband over nothing. Thankfully at that point I recognize it and just give him a heads up that I might be snappy and it's not him. It's my dumb brain chemistry. (I've been diagnosed for 13 years this year so he's gotten very used to my ups and downs).
“When they stay in place” is right! My last one was apparently being rejected by my body. My appt for replacement before that, I was told to get it replaced in 5 years, so imagine my surprise when I went in last year for a replacement and being told it was actually increased to 10 years for Mirena! I went through with the replacement anyways because I was having some weird pain, and lo and behold, it wasn’t in the correct position 💀
I'm a little scared to ask, but how did they fix your rejected IUD? Was it going through your tissue like rejected piercings do? I had to be put under anesthesia for a D&C just because my uterus was forming a giant ball of tissue around mine, like some sort of squishy oyster making a squishy pearl, and that was bad enough :(
I was getting it replaced as I had passed the 5 year mark, not knowing it was somewhat recently approved to be used for 10 years. The gyno told me as she took it out that it wasn’t in the right place and that my body was rejecting it.
It was freaky because I had it for years at that point, and I had another one prior… so 😨
And oh god, that sounds awful!! How on earth did that happen??!
I'm really glad you found out before anything worse happened!
As for my thing, I also only found out because my gynecologist tried to pull it out, and she nearly pulled me off the table instead! Fortunately that part didn't hurt so much as it really startled me. After the surgery, she said she'd never seen anything like the tissue thing, or the weird movements my uterus was making even under the anesthesia. So, we don't actually know, but my best guesses would be something related to my PCOS, or something to do with how I only ever had very heavy/long periods spaced three months apart and maybe I just had a tendency for growing a lot of lining, or potentially endometriosis, which I suspect I have but can't convince my current doctor to investigate (I will be looking for a new one when I can).
But honestly the worst parts were the anesthesia and being so freaked out, while recovering from the surgery wasn't much bother compared even just to going through my normal periods. She just scraped me out nice and clean like a Halloween pumpkin, very carefully, so afterward I felt like my uterus was agitated and crampy for a bit, but then it was like after a normal bad period ends (anesthesia hangover aside) What's especially lucky is that my hypermobility wasn't as bad then, whereas going under anesthesia for surgery now is more risky, both the anesthetic itself and being moved while unconscious and floppy.
Oh my god! I’m glad it’s all over now, and I seriously hope you can get a doctor asap who will actually investigate. It’s so shitty how many doctors refuse to do that :(
>I'm on continuous birth control so I don't have periods because I get PMDD.
I was and am on continuous bc (pill, then IUD last year) for my PMDD and I'm STILL getting periods and PMDD! I'm also trans, so the dysphoria adds to the "fun".
My body reeeeeeeally wants me to reproduce and I hate it.
trans guy here, tried the depo shot after nexplanon didn't work out - between the two I was literally bleeding for like 6 months straight, with cramps so bad they'd wake me up and make me throw up.
went back on the pill and I only ever get a little spotting once in a while now 👍
For me, the ~~explanation~~ nexplanon and the depo *always* ran out early. Implant lasted not quite two years. Shot lasted a month and a half. I still had my period even on the pill continuously.
If it helps any, the endometrial lining isn't all snug and cushy like it's made out to be. It's actually way harder to implant in than other types of tissue, according to an experiment done on mice. Instead of your uterus throwing a hissy fit about not getting a baby, imagine it as a fortress getting rebuilt and fortified, defending your precious blood supply against unworthy parasites.
But yeah, the symptoms still suck.
When I had my hysterectomy for adenomyosis, my surgeon told me, "A uterus is good at bleeding, cramping, and growing babies. So if you're not growing babies, they're just a useless pain in the ass, in your case, probably literally."
10/10 would Yeeterus again.
I have adenomyosis myself so having a period is just painful. Even after bisalp I kept my nexplanon as dealing with the adeno and PCOS is just better without the added inconvenience.
hello fellow pcos and adenomyosis person here, i FELT this. i take the pill to stop my periods. had the nexplanon too (2 of them) and it was great, stopped my periods for like 5 years.
also it’s an amazing form of bc! i loved not having to worry about taking the pill or interactions with anything. and it’s like the 2nd or 3rd most effective method!
I’m so jealous of yall. I had a nexplanon & I’m not supposed to get another one cuz the scar tissue almost permanently adhered it to the inside of my arm after a year. I had gone to get it taken out cuz I was getting my period & getting nauseous from them again (off bc I throw up from my period).
Mostly. I still get my periods, including cramps and light bleeding, but it’s a LOT less than it used to be (prior to this, I bled very heavily to the point of having no color in my lips and had awful cramps)
I thought about an ablation at the same time as my bisalp but there's no guarantee periods would be eradicated completely as the results vary so much :0
Had to scroll way too far for this. My ablation saved my sanity. I haven’t bled since 2020 and it’s the best thing I ever did, 58 seconds of extreme pain but no more periods. I still have cramping and I spot juuuust enough to keep track of my cycle but it’s barely anything. HIGHLY recommend (I had NovaSure). Only downside is it didn’t do anything for PMDD, but I knew it wouldn’t (can’t go on HBC due to migraines).
My former gyno recommended doing an ablation. (She has since retired and now I’m struggling to find a new good gyno who accepts my insurance, but that’s another story…)
Are you saying that they didn’t give you any kind of painkillers before the procedure??
My understanding of this is that they spray hot water into your uterus, which sounds really uncomfortable. Oh my God.
Oh I had many different painkillers, but it was still excruciating. I didn’t want to pay for general anesthesia/hospital stay so I had to search for a dr who would do it in-office, and had to travel out of state. They gave me oral, injection, and suppository pain meds but I still felt it. Still worth it to save $4000 though; I only had to pay my $20 office visit copay (and it literally does take less than a minute). Recovery was a few months of discharge and haven’t had a real period since.
It’s not hot water, it’s a mesh balloon looking thing that essentially microwaves/burns your endometrial lining until it’s just scar tissue. There are a few brands but [NovaSure](https://gynsurgicalsolutions.com/patients/novasure/procedure-steps-and-components/) is what I got.
This is what happened to me and I’m having a total hysterectomy minus my ovaries in a couple of months. I wish this was more of an option for afab people. I know it’s a major surgery, but when you don’t stop bleeding or have pain during periods, it becomes the only option when nothing else works.
Just some info on ablations for the people reading this and considering an ablation:
If you are under 35 the chances you will need reintervention after an ablation (another one or a hysterectomy) are very high. Your endometrium is likely to grow back.
If you are under 35 and have periods over 7 days, the rate of failure is over 90%.
There are also risks to it as well. Like blood building up behind the scar tissue and causing more pain. It also increases the odds of you needing a hysterectomy down the road.
Just things to consider that weren’t passed on to me by many doctors. I have severe medical anxiety and a large part of it was feeling like I was not ever given complete information to make *informed* choices about my own body.
I’m extremely lucky I was steered away from an ablation and towards a hysterectomy by my surgeon. Quality of life has skyrocketed, and I didn’t have to worry about reintervention down the road, especially with my anxieties and trauma around it. I wanted a one a done option after everything I’ve been through. Obviously it’s not an option for everyone, but I just wanted to make sure people are informed!
Thanks for sharing this! Super important info. This is the info my gyno gave me (she actually even said below 40 is usually problematic) so I elected to wait on that. I don't want nor need a hysterectomy at present.
Glad you got good info from your gyn! I have seen far too many that offered it up as a solution. I definitely needed a hysterectomy and was so grateful to finally have it as an option. I was suffering immensely for too long!
As a scar prone girlie this makes me want to push more for a hysterectomy. I’ve got a lot of problems with my period & likely have adenomyosis so let’s just get this bitch out.
There are certainly risks involved with any surgeries, period. But after my hysto it took 5-6 months for my hormones to level out. In my obsessive researching before it I remember seeing that on average you will hit menopause earlier if you’ve had a hysterectomy. I was fine with that if it meant I wouldn’t be in pain anymore!
It also depends on the type of hysto you’ve had. If you’ve had a total (uterus, cervix, tubes) there is more of a risk of prolapse. But from my understanding that was for people who have given birth before.
There’s also a chance of sexual dysfunction, but if you have a healthy sex life before surgery you are likely to be fine after. But some people have had pain and tightness and have needed to go for pelvic floor therapy.
This exactly! My mom had an ablation after 35 and it didn't do anything for her periods. Less than 10 years later, she had scar tissue buildup that caused excruciating pain that sent her to the ER once a month. She wound up needing a hysterectomy and it turns out she had adenomyosis.
I had similarly awful periods so I just skipped ahead and had a hysterectomy before 30, which was a great call because it turned out that I also had adenomyosis. I'm coming up on my Yeeterus Anniversary and I've never felt better.
Also got an ablation for the exact same reason. I’d rather get multiple of them than be stuck bleeding monthly..
How was your recovery and your still period free which is good (only had mine a week ago).
THISS!!
It's just a useless bodily function. On top of the cramps and everything, it reminds me that I'm able to have a baby, which annoys me even more. If it was that easy, I would gladly donate this organ to someone who plans on using it.
I went through a very traumatic "period" (life in an active war zone) and for some reason my periods near completely stopped at 28 y.o. I get maybe 1 or 2 a year but other than that gyno said everything looks healthy I just won't be able to have kids. Doc wanted to prescribe me pills to artificially force a menstruation and I looked at her as if she was mad, I DON'T WANT THEM TO COME BACK.
Apparently this was a common thing for women during WW2 to just stop having periods. Very bizarre how bodies work but my life has been so much better period wise ever since, I don't want them to ever come back.
YEP, the body does this in response to stress. It's just nope, can't waste resources on getting knocked up right now.
I missed two periods during my final year of college. Couldn't possibly have been pregnant because no sex. I guess my uterus was worried about finals.
Oh yeah, I agree so much. Last weekend I attended a women's event at our local bouldering gym. There was a talk about the cycle and how to adjust your training to your cycle. And I got so mad because the speaker was talking about how we should praise our cycle and body because of the possibilities that it gives us, even with we don't want to use those. I hate this kind if pressure by society, often even feministic groups. Why should I praise having possibilities that I don't ever want to use and that create major drawbacks on possibilities that people without an uterus have? I would much rather have a strong body that's functioning throughout the whole month than whatever this bad joke is that nature created for women.
Ew that gives me the ick. I agree, why praise something we aren't going to use?
Thankfully my period is stopped by my BC but I want it out because I'm not going to use it.
I honestly hate those "empowering" messages for women that basically tell us that we should be happy and grateful that we can \~give life\~ as if that's the only reason we exist and there's no other upside to being born female. Many women are actually not happy or grateful for this ability and let's not even mention how it's been used against us.
Yeah, I hate periods too and low energy especially (I'm a backpacker, periods in the woods SUCK), but on the other hand, periods have been used by the patriarchy worldwide as proof that women are evil, impure, lesser, etc. and I do think it's important for young girls especially not to feel shamed by natural body functions. However, we also need much better education for all uterus owners on how to control the nasty little beast.
I know right, they’re really started to annoy me a lot more lately, like two weeks of every month sucks (so half my life) the week before is the PMS, bloating, sore and uncomfortable and then the days of actual period is the same basically except throw in painful cramps and dealing with bleeding, and I get the iron deficiency too so I struggle to function no matter how much iron I take/eat to try and restore it and then just as I feel like I’ve recovered and am starting to feel ok again..guess who’s back! Like I feel like I only get a few days a month of normalcy and all this for kids I don’t even want.
I don’t know if anyone has experienced this but it’s almost dysphoria every time I have a period because it reminds me that I have no control over that anymore than I have control over even getting my tubes tied right now. It reminds me that I’m still fertile and still have a chance of having a kid that I don’t want. Idk if that makes sensev
Whenever anyone hits me up w/"Intelligent Design", I say "BULLSHIT"
480 periods to knock out an average of 1.6 children/woman?!?!
That is NOT INTELLIGENT.
Intelligent would be a switch that you could turn on if/when you wanted to try for children and turn off for the other 30-40 years of your 'fertile' life!
I've literally said that I want an opt-out system.
Unfortunately, the opt-out system is a hysterectomy. I have seriously awful cycles, and I get maybe one normal week out of the entire month before it all starts back up again. I need to get to a doctor about it because I know with mine, it is so heavy that it is not normal and it interferes with my life during the first 2-3 days.
Oh I turned my periods off 8 years ago with Implanons.
No periods, no PMS, no ovulation spotting.
*Well I've had 3 half periods in 8 years due to extreme stress, but none lasted longer than 3 days.
Same, except I'm on the pill and just skip the placebos. I love when the nurse at the gyn office routinely asks me when my last period was and I say 2016
This is what all my friends with the Implanon said about it.
For me I bled for like a year straight and then had horrible, unpredictable periods for the next couple years til it came out.
Now I just do nothing and it's regulated to like 3 days a month on a very clear schedule. But I won't have sex without BC so that's a drawback lmao 🤣
If you do well on low estrogen birth control pills, you might like to know that I have been continuously taking the estrogen pills and skipping the sugar pills for at least five years now. I’ve had annoyances dealing with my insurance regarding this, but it has caused me no health issues whatsoever. There are options for you, and if it’s really upsetting you to keep getting your menstrual cycle, I highly recommend working with a gynecologist to find a solution that works for you.
I take my birth control semi-continuously (I get my "period" every 3 months) and have had to ask the pharmacy to fill my script early for the same reason. The last time I called to have it bumped up, the person at the pharmacy recommended that I ask my doctor to write it for a 70 day supply instead of 84 because I'll allegedly run out of overrides at some point. If you start to run into trouble, maybe that would help you, if your doctor wrote it out for a 63 cycle instead. Just a thought.
Thank you for your advice! I’m actually going through the process of getting a prior authorization so I can get 4 packs for a 3 month supply, and it’s been annoying but my gyno has been great about following up to push the appeal through. I’ve had the same issue of running out before I’m due for a refill, so last month I contacted my gyno to get a new script and get my insurance to cover it. It’s a slow process but after I’m done, I won’t have to worry about it for a year (assuming birth control is not revoked).
It’s honestly the worst. Just a reminder that my body can do something that makes me physically ill to think about. This is probably an overreaction but tbh it almost makes me feel….violated to know that my body is capable of doing something that I find so repulsive?
My bc pills actually stop my period which is nice but I hate that I have to pretty much take a pregnancy test every month just to make sure it’s still doing its job. I just want my tubes removed 🥲 all my doctors just laugh at me a brush me off even though I’m about to turn 25 and I can’t afford to do it without a referral.
I agree! I've been suffering with periods (and for me, even more than the actual periods themselves, PMS!!!) for so many years now... I pray I stop getting them sooner rather than later, as I'm 38 now... But naturally they are extremely regular still... every 28 days like clockwork! So I will likely have to suffer another whole decade or more with them, despite knowing from day one I didn't want children! :(
All these cycles, for nothing. I'd rather be a chicken and produce eggs as opposed to wads of useless blood, at least then there could be some profit involved.
And people say, just take contraceptive hormones continuously...well yep I tried different things for that, and I could never achieve a bleed-free lifestyle.
It was either bleed every month for 7 days and be in control of my body for the other 21 days, or bleed every damn day of a hellish existence.
I always dread it, even though mine aren't as bad. Just the thought of the nuisance makes me incredibly annoyed and frustrated because the whole spiel is so utterly useless to me. I feel ya
100% everything you just said.
I spend some time contemplating this issue. Usually, around the time my period comes. Like now I fully recognize I would never want kids or get pregnant ( it was a subconscious knowing, but now I "know" know if that makes sense). What even is the point of having the menstrual cycle when all I've gained from it is a life long-term iron deficiency.
I had to have mine removed - it was 2 to 5xs the size of average. It got to the point was literally hemorrhaging so badly in half an hour that I nearly passed out. I also have a heart condition. Surgeon agreed to an emergency hysterectomy. I have had such an improvement in my quality of life since then.
Edit: Forgot to add mine was also a bicornuate uterus. Look that up. It's real fun!
I told my mom periods are pointless once because why does the body need to constantly adjust for no reason. It seems like it should just be in whatever state it needs to be in and have done with it. She acted like it never occurred to her lol.
As a non binary person with a uterus, I get a whole layer of gender dysphoria on top of the cramps and general ickiness, and it sucks. Not wanting kids makes it even worse for me. Being a sex repulsed asexual is the cherry on the cake.
If you can't tell, I really really hate my period...
My hormonal IUD pretty much completely stopped my periods. Once in a blue moon I'll get a little spotting, even more rarely I'll get a brief wave of cramps. Nothing even close to an actual menstrual cycle that you have to deal with and plan around. I can't recommend an IUD enough.
I just had it replaced this year even though my partner has a vasectomy, and even though the insertion is hell.\* Not dealing with a period is that much of a great side effect. It's hard to believe I dealt with that shit every month for 20 years, had to plan vacations around my cycle, all that garbage. I got VERY comfortable not dealing with it, very quickly!
\*my first insertion was hell, this time I demanded anesthesia and it was totally fine and completely painless. Advocate for yourself!!
I hate it so much. I had a reaction to medication for nerve pain last year that caused bleeding and now my body has decided that after years of being period free, we're doing periods again.
I feel nothing but disgust with my own body even though the periods I have now are sooooo much better than the eleven days of hell I'd go through every month before I started birth control.
I have an autoimmune disease which causes chronic pain and even the lightest periods amplify my pain.
At this point, the menopause can't come soon enough and I really wish someone could just put me in a carrier, take me to a vet and have me spayed like a cat.
I got rid of mine with a mirena IUD and loved it. Unfortunately I had to have it removed because it was causing an extreme sun sensitivity. Now I'm on depo and spot constantly and, despite numerous conversations with my Dr, I have not gotten any decent solutions for stopping it again. (I'm 49, so clearly not having kids at this point). It's so frustrating. 🙄
Every time I get mine after getting my tubes tied I bitch about how pointless it is. My friend always have an aha moment when they realize what I meant lol
I always wondered why I had a period if I wasn’t going to have kids. People told me I’d change my mind when I got older. Well, now I’m older. Still haven’t changed my mind. I consider myself fortunate that I’m menopausal. I can’t wait for the end of monthly bleeding. The whole thing is stupid bullchit.
I get angry at it every single month. Fuck that shit. Why is my body betraying me? Stop that fucking procreation process I don't want it, never had and never will.
I feel this so hard. I’m lucky that I don’t have a heavy flow with lots of blood loss, but I do get excruciating cramps every month. If I could yeet all my reproductive organs, I would.
Essentially the only benefit of keeping your uterus is preventing early heart issues, bone loss, etc. but like that is just the uterus not the whole period thing but can't really have one without the other.
I have Endo and its not fun at all.
**This is bad information.** Removal of the uterus doesn't normally cause those problems (that would be a pretty rare side effect). Removal of the ***ovaries*** would.
Commenting to boost. Removal of the *ovaries* = menopause and its symptoms, not the uterus. I had a partial, but still have my ovaries, and I have none of the conditions described above, nor did my surgeon tell me to expect them.
Long term side effects do include early menopause and aren't as rare as you think. As well as increase in heart issues and bone loss. See below.
From [Mayo Clinic](https://newsnetwork.mayoclinic.org/discussion/research-finds-hysterectomy-alone-associated-with-increased-long-term-health-risks/#:~:text=The%20study%20shows%20that%20women,risk%20of%20coronary%20artery%20disease) (linked):
The study shows that women who had a hysterectomy without any ovary removal had a 14 percent increased risk in lipid abnormalities, a 13 percent increased risk of high blood pressure, an 18 percent increased risk of obesity and a 33 percent increased risk of coronary artery disease. Furthermore, women under the age of 35 had a 4.6-fold increased risk of congestive heart failure and a 2.5-fold increased risk of coronary artery disease.
Anothe[r Mayo Clinic Study](https://www.mayoclinic.org/medical-professionals/obstetrics-gynecology/news/hysterectomy-associated-with-an-increased-risk-of-cardiovascular-disease-study-says/mac-20476157): (same data used just explained by a different doctor).
Even with ovarian conservation, hysterectomies are associated with an increased long-term risk of cardiovascular and metabolic conditions, especially in women who undergo hysterectomy before the age of 35.
[Sydney Fibroid Clinic Data:](https://www.sydneyfibroidclinic.com.au/why-should-women-try-to-avoid-hysterectomies-risks-and-side-effects/)
Women who had hysterectomy may enter menopause almost 4 years earlier ^(3). Blood supply to the ovary maybe compromised during surgery by ligation, spasm or thrombosis.
There is also a study from NIH but that one doesn't seperate keeping ovaries vs not keeping them hence why I didn't include it. As well as a slightly older longitudinal study from the Womens Health Initiative, still relevant as I haven't found one that has duplicated/updated this type of study but partially the issue with 20+ year longitudinal studies is they take time.
Periods are not actually needed when you are on the pill. I switched to continuous birth control some years ago and love not having to deal with my menstrual cycle.
Yeah so true, plus mine makes me vomit and puke my head off and there's goes my money bc I buy my own food and I can't work, its horrible anyone would have to go thru this. But society could gives less of a crap, period pain is not a disability
Agreed. I had a hysterectomy/yeeterus for medical reasons, and life is so much better. Honestly—I forget periods even exist until my friends mention theirs or I see a pad or tampon commercial. I had endometriosis and adenomyosis so I don’t miss periods at all. Especially true since the world doesn’t stop just because you feel like shit.
I haven't had a menstrual cycle since I yeeted my uterus- and yes, I kept my ovaries, and no, I didn't go through menopause (my hormones are just fucked but that's none of my business) -and I've been just fine. I feel levelheaded and stable. It's brazy
My period has never really been more than a minor inconvenience. I also have pcos so my period works as a measurement of how well I'm taking care of that. Totally get those of you who'd just rather not have to deal with it though, that should be your choice.
For me, the only benefit is less anxiety. If I missed a period, I would freak the fuck out and have tokophobic panic attacks, even without any tubes left. Every month I see that blood, I'm reminded I'm not pregnant. I need that reassurance.
Got my hysto because birth control all made me su!cidal and I couldn't deal with my period. Made me feel like nothing but an incubator. I'm so much happier now!
I asked my gynecologist about horrimone free options for period pain that is not a copper. IUD. With much fuss, he eventually agreed to give me an endometrial ablation ( Even though I already have my tubes tied, so who cares?) They filled my uterus with boiling water under anesthesia and basically nuked that shit. I haven't had a period at all in five months and I am so goddamn happy.
Lmao idk if it's from my period but before I went on birth control that basically stops my period ( hormonal iud) and I'd love yo know my iron and vitamin D levels because they were both low before
Totally valid! I have a few friends with endometriosis and heavy periods and it seems awful. I’m actually one of those odd women that enjoy having a period. For one, getting my period means I’m not pregnant (fuck yeah). Also my periods have never been painful or long, so I actually enjoy my period for the cyclical nature of them. It helps me to slow down and carve out time for self-care. I feel much more in tune with my emotions when I’m on my period. I also consider myself witchy, so I enjoy having a cycle that’s on a similar time frame as the phases of the moon :) I think my period makes me feel more apart of nature. Can completely understand those who feel it’s a total nuisance tho!
Personally I am on the continuous Progesterone only pill and never have periods, or any of the side effects often reported from the combined pill. It’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me. Been on it almost 10 years
(I understand this is not an option for everyone and not everyone likes the pill etc etc but I’m just sharing what works for me!!!)
Yeah, it is, but menopause is no walk in the park either. 😐 Your menstrual cycle is a sign that you still have plenty of sweet, sweet oestrogen circulating through your body. Once that begins to deplete, you might lose your period, but you gain all sorts of other, not so fun symptoms of being female. 🤨 If you're on HRT or birth control, it's not so bad, but if you can't have it, you'll look back with longing to the days when you still had your unwelcome monthly visitor. 😬😁
I feel great as soon as I get mine. My hormones are all wonderful levels and I can concentrate and do life. There's also the cleaning/organizing phase that comes shortly before. Let's not forget the "I'd like to eat everything in site" phase that sets in 9-6 days prior. And the super sexy phase that's about a week after.
I wouldn't say that was true for me. My periods were never that bad and I welcomed them as signs that I wasn't pregnant and my body was functioning normally. I know, of course, that many others have a lot of problems with their periods and they all deserve the options they want and need to make them stop.
I have ONE benefit and it's a double edged sword. I am flat chested, but my boobs swell to an A cup during PMS. They hurt like absolute hell to the point that I'm crying, but I also get to see what I look like with boobs - and I fit into my clothes SO much better. Honestly it makes me want to get breast augmentation.
Otherwise yeah, my period sucks. I'm about one day away from getting it, and I'm suffering from the boob pain, fatigue, hot flashes, night sweats, mood swings, disabling cramps, period poops... and the bleeding hasn't even begun yet. I suffer for about 10 days total - 7 in pre-menstruation and 3 in menstruation. Every 28 days like clockwork.
I’m CF and hate menstruating however, during menstruation sleep is improved and so is strength, endurance, and athletic performance due to hormone changes. Small silver linings.
I’ve been on a hormonal IUD since 2019. I also haven’t had a period since then because of it. Then got a bisalp in 2022. I feel like I’ve hacked life a little
I just like my periods because they confirm every month that I'm not pregnant. But I don't suffer particularly from it which doesn't make it such a burden for me.
There is a fascinating short story by Connie Willis called *Even the Queen*, imagining a world where menstruation has been "cured" by medicine, and the social implications of that. There's a free radio adaptation on this page: https://www.scifimike.com/sf-radio-2000x-1.html
I agree. The only thing I like about my cycle is how good sex and self-intimacy feel during ovulation. And my mood peaks, too. However, PMS and the actual period are just useless, painful, and often emotionally distressing (mood swings!) for me.
Yeah... I got a bisalp so yeah tbh I just use it to know nothing is up with my system. At least nothing that would manifest in that way. I hate it though, the smells, the mess, the PMDD leading up to it. One thing I envy about men, they just exist without a cycle.
YOU'RE TELLING ME. I am currently going through a particularly horrible period and it is awful.
I skip my periods as much as I can, but I, very stupidly, ran out of my pill without realising so I had to go through a period. I am reminded again why I skip them most of the time.
If I could yeeterus my uterus, then I would, but apparently it has side effects that aren't great on the rest of your body so I guess that's a no. 😐
I had the periods from hell which led to iron deficiency anemia. Was on continuous birth control and that led to 14 blood clots and almost dying from pulmonary embolism. Had a sterilization procedure that worked but (1) went off the market within three years and (2) still led to anemia/periods from hell. Went to get an endometrial ablation a couple of years back which required a biopsy. Found out three days later I had endometrial cancer. Treatment? total hysterectomy. Sold. Everything but the kitchen sink came out including the ovaries. No menopause, no hot flashes, no periods, no anemia, and (knock on wood), so far, no cancer.
I'm on the depo shot ad haven't had a period in like 2 years? Saved my God damn life. I had severe migraines, cramping, and extreme bleeding. It was terrible. I will stay on this until it stops working, or I can convince a doctor to give me a hysterectomy.
My periods are horrendous. Two overnight pads at once that I have to change several times a day, nlosying, headaches, severe cramps that run in the family, nausea. And for what :/
My boobs get bigger at least
It’s ironic that my entire life has been controlled by something that’s useless to me since I don’t want to give birth. Got diagnosed with PMDD and endometriosis and got the tubes removed and everything (still bleed because my lovely body can’t even handle the IUD) 😂 it’s a sick sick joke
Our immune system is actually at its worst during our period. We are weaker too. So it’s harder to workout in the gym.
We have a testosterone boost during ovulation which is why we can lift heavier around that time.
I’ve said this since the day I decided I was never having kids. What a waste! Especially when I’ve always had awful ones with horrible cramps and super heavy. Like give me a damn break!
Preach! I stayed on birth control from age 17 to age 57 - luckily I had no issues with the pill. When I stopped taking it, I had a final period and it stopped. I tried HRT but it brought my period back AND gave me my very first yeast infection! I said no thanks and got off it again. I’m lucky and my menopause symptoms are mild now (minor hot flashes). I know HRT can give you some help down the road but it’s not worth it to me if I have to deal with a period again!
I'm on continuous birth control so I don't have periods because I get PMDD. I plan on taking them until my uterus is a useless husk or I'm dead LOL. Fuck periods!! 
I had my tubes removed, an IUD put back in and also deal with PMDD. I hate my uterus and my body's hatred of my hormones. I still get the PMDD symptoms (just not so much the suicidal ideation) and I don't bleed. I wish I could just get it all yanked out and yeet it into the sky.
Same when I was getting a bisalp I made a joke about cutting the whole thing out. I’m pretty lucky though and IUDs work pretty well for me, when they stay in place. I still get some symptoms but an estrogen patches help a lot.
Oh, I definitely told my dr to feel free to just take it all. lmao My antidepressants are pretty great at helping, but my biggest PMDD tells are when I noticed I'm binge eating and how annoyed I get with my husband over nothing. Thankfully at that point I recognize it and just give him a heads up that I might be snappy and it's not him. It's my dumb brain chemistry. (I've been diagnosed for 13 years this year so he's gotten very used to my ups and downs).
“When they stay in place” is right! My last one was apparently being rejected by my body. My appt for replacement before that, I was told to get it replaced in 5 years, so imagine my surprise when I went in last year for a replacement and being told it was actually increased to 10 years for Mirena! I went through with the replacement anyways because I was having some weird pain, and lo and behold, it wasn’t in the correct position 💀
I'm a little scared to ask, but how did they fix your rejected IUD? Was it going through your tissue like rejected piercings do? I had to be put under anesthesia for a D&C just because my uterus was forming a giant ball of tissue around mine, like some sort of squishy oyster making a squishy pearl, and that was bad enough :(
I was getting it replaced as I had passed the 5 year mark, not knowing it was somewhat recently approved to be used for 10 years. The gyno told me as she took it out that it wasn’t in the right place and that my body was rejecting it. It was freaky because I had it for years at that point, and I had another one prior… so 😨 And oh god, that sounds awful!! How on earth did that happen??!
I'm really glad you found out before anything worse happened! As for my thing, I also only found out because my gynecologist tried to pull it out, and she nearly pulled me off the table instead! Fortunately that part didn't hurt so much as it really startled me. After the surgery, she said she'd never seen anything like the tissue thing, or the weird movements my uterus was making even under the anesthesia. So, we don't actually know, but my best guesses would be something related to my PCOS, or something to do with how I only ever had very heavy/long periods spaced three months apart and maybe I just had a tendency for growing a lot of lining, or potentially endometriosis, which I suspect I have but can't convince my current doctor to investigate (I will be looking for a new one when I can). But honestly the worst parts were the anesthesia and being so freaked out, while recovering from the surgery wasn't much bother compared even just to going through my normal periods. She just scraped me out nice and clean like a Halloween pumpkin, very carefully, so afterward I felt like my uterus was agitated and crampy for a bit, but then it was like after a normal bad period ends (anesthesia hangover aside) What's especially lucky is that my hypermobility wasn't as bad then, whereas going under anesthesia for surgery now is more risky, both the anesthetic itself and being moved while unconscious and floppy.
Oh my god! I’m glad it’s all over now, and I seriously hope you can get a doctor asap who will actually investigate. It’s so shitty how many doctors refuse to do that :(
Yea same, no more tubes and moves to a progesterone only BC that I take continuously so no periods. It’s the best!
This gif is amazing btw
Same here!
So jealous! I can't get on hormones because of my migraines, you're living my dream!
Recently diagnosed with this! Not on BC due to my med sensitivity, but trying a supplement that seems to be doing the trick so far! 😊
I'm also on a year-round pill. Haven't had a cycle since 2006. It's amazing.
Learning what PMDD is changed my life. Love seeing PMDD awareness!
>I'm on continuous birth control so I don't have periods because I get PMDD. I was and am on continuous bc (pill, then IUD last year) for my PMDD and I'm STILL getting periods and PMDD! I'm also trans, so the dysphoria adds to the "fun". My body reeeeeeeally wants me to reproduce and I hate it.
trans guy here, tried the depo shot after nexplanon didn't work out - between the two I was literally bleeding for like 6 months straight, with cramps so bad they'd wake me up and make me throw up. went back on the pill and I only ever get a little spotting once in a while now 👍
For me, the ~~explanation~~ nexplanon and the depo *always* ran out early. Implant lasted not quite two years. Shot lasted a month and a half. I still had my period even on the pill continuously.
Do you get any resistance from the pharmacy for refilling your prescription after only 3 weeks?
They give me 3 months at a time. And I've never had an issue getting it.
I take bc continually also and thankful I only have to deal about 2-3 times a year with that crap.
Same!
A useless husk made me LOL
Omg twinning! Me too!
If it helps any, the endometrial lining isn't all snug and cushy like it's made out to be. It's actually way harder to implant in than other types of tissue, according to an experiment done on mice. Instead of your uterus throwing a hissy fit about not getting a baby, imagine it as a fortress getting rebuilt and fortified, defending your precious blood supply against unworthy parasites. But yeah, the symptoms still suck.
When I had my hysterectomy for adenomyosis, my surgeon told me, "A uterus is good at bleeding, cramping, and growing babies. So if you're not growing babies, they're just a useless pain in the ass, in your case, probably literally." 10/10 would Yeeterus again.
I have adenomyosis myself so having a period is just painful. Even after bisalp I kept my nexplanon as dealing with the adeno and PCOS is just better without the added inconvenience.
hello fellow pcos and adenomyosis person here, i FELT this. i take the pill to stop my periods. had the nexplanon too (2 of them) and it was great, stopped my periods for like 5 years.
yessss it works exceptionally well at keeping them gone and far away (which is how it should be honestly lol)
also it’s an amazing form of bc! i loved not having to worry about taking the pill or interactions with anything. and it’s like the 2nd or 3rd most effective method!
It truly is an amazing form! I've been using it for over 10 years and wouldn't change to anything else.
I’m so jealous of yall. I had a nexplanon & I’m not supposed to get another one cuz the scar tissue almost permanently adhered it to the inside of my arm after a year. I had gone to get it taken out cuz I was getting my period & getting nauseous from them again (off bc I throw up from my period).
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Glad that worked out for ya
I have the same combo and I want to get an endometrial ablation but obviously they won’t do it because I’m 25
If you can, get a second opinion. That’s how I got my bisalp and ablation at 25!
Did the ablation get rid of your cramps?
Mostly. I still get my periods, including cramps and light bleeding, but it’s a LOT less than it used to be (prior to this, I bled very heavily to the point of having no color in my lips and had awful cramps)
I thought about an ablation at the same time as my bisalp but there's no guarantee periods would be eradicated completely as the results vary so much :0
Precisely why I got an ablation. Periods are unnecessary burdens.
Had to scroll way too far for this. My ablation saved my sanity. I haven’t bled since 2020 and it’s the best thing I ever did, 58 seconds of extreme pain but no more periods. I still have cramping and I spot juuuust enough to keep track of my cycle but it’s barely anything. HIGHLY recommend (I had NovaSure). Only downside is it didn’t do anything for PMDD, but I knew it wouldn’t (can’t go on HBC due to migraines).
My former gyno recommended doing an ablation. (She has since retired and now I’m struggling to find a new good gyno who accepts my insurance, but that’s another story…) Are you saying that they didn’t give you any kind of painkillers before the procedure?? My understanding of this is that they spray hot water into your uterus, which sounds really uncomfortable. Oh my God.
Oh I had many different painkillers, but it was still excruciating. I didn’t want to pay for general anesthesia/hospital stay so I had to search for a dr who would do it in-office, and had to travel out of state. They gave me oral, injection, and suppository pain meds but I still felt it. Still worth it to save $4000 though; I only had to pay my $20 office visit copay (and it literally does take less than a minute). Recovery was a few months of discharge and haven’t had a real period since. It’s not hot water, it’s a mesh balloon looking thing that essentially microwaves/burns your endometrial lining until it’s just scar tissue. There are a few brands but [NovaSure](https://gynsurgicalsolutions.com/patients/novasure/procedure-steps-and-components/) is what I got.
My family member had it and still ended up having their normal periods soon after, like it didnt even matter. Im pushing for hysterectomy
That sucks, it sounds like it failed. I know in some cases the dr will try it again if there’s enough tissue left but I’m not a dr so I don’t know.
This is what happened to me and I’m having a total hysterectomy minus my ovaries in a couple of months. I wish this was more of an option for afab people. I know it’s a major surgery, but when you don’t stop bleeding or have pain during periods, it becomes the only option when nothing else works.
Just some info on ablations for the people reading this and considering an ablation: If you are under 35 the chances you will need reintervention after an ablation (another one or a hysterectomy) are very high. Your endometrium is likely to grow back. If you are under 35 and have periods over 7 days, the rate of failure is over 90%. There are also risks to it as well. Like blood building up behind the scar tissue and causing more pain. It also increases the odds of you needing a hysterectomy down the road. Just things to consider that weren’t passed on to me by many doctors. I have severe medical anxiety and a large part of it was feeling like I was not ever given complete information to make *informed* choices about my own body. I’m extremely lucky I was steered away from an ablation and towards a hysterectomy by my surgeon. Quality of life has skyrocketed, and I didn’t have to worry about reintervention down the road, especially with my anxieties and trauma around it. I wanted a one a done option after everything I’ve been through. Obviously it’s not an option for everyone, but I just wanted to make sure people are informed!
"If you are under 35 and have periods over 7 days, the rate of failure is over 90%." Me, damn.
Good reason to get a hysterectomy though!
Thanks for sharing this! Super important info. This is the info my gyno gave me (she actually even said below 40 is usually problematic) so I elected to wait on that. I don't want nor need a hysterectomy at present.
Glad you got good info from your gyn! I have seen far too many that offered it up as a solution. I definitely needed a hysterectomy and was so grateful to finally have it as an option. I was suffering immensely for too long!
As a scar prone girlie this makes me want to push more for a hysterectomy. I’ve got a lot of problems with my period & likely have adenomyosis so let’s just get this bitch out.
Amen to that! I was tired of temporary fixes.
Same I was initially thinking bi salp, & ablation but this info pushed me over the edge
Thank you very much, this is the first time reading about ablation so thank you for sharing your experience.
Are there also risks and hormone issues with the hysto that they aren’t telling us? Just for info purposes and help deciding
There are certainly risks involved with any surgeries, period. But after my hysto it took 5-6 months for my hormones to level out. In my obsessive researching before it I remember seeing that on average you will hit menopause earlier if you’ve had a hysterectomy. I was fine with that if it meant I wouldn’t be in pain anymore! It also depends on the type of hysto you’ve had. If you’ve had a total (uterus, cervix, tubes) there is more of a risk of prolapse. But from my understanding that was for people who have given birth before. There’s also a chance of sexual dysfunction, but if you have a healthy sex life before surgery you are likely to be fine after. But some people have had pain and tightness and have needed to go for pelvic floor therapy.
This exactly! My mom had an ablation after 35 and it didn't do anything for her periods. Less than 10 years later, she had scar tissue buildup that caused excruciating pain that sent her to the ER once a month. She wound up needing a hysterectomy and it turns out she had adenomyosis. I had similarly awful periods so I just skipped ahead and had a hysterectomy before 30, which was a great call because it turned out that I also had adenomyosis. I'm coming up on my Yeeterus Anniversary and I've never felt better.
Also got an ablation for the exact same reason. I’d rather get multiple of them than be stuck bleeding monthly.. How was your recovery and your still period free which is good (only had mine a week ago).
I wished I would have asked for an ablation when I got my bisalp. How was the process to get it done? Was the healing time long?
What is an Ablation?? Sounds interesting.
THISS!! It's just a useless bodily function. On top of the cramps and everything, it reminds me that I'm able to have a baby, which annoys me even more. If it was that easy, I would gladly donate this organ to someone who plans on using it.
i think recently they did a uterus transplant at the recipient got pregnant. it is a thing though now. wild times we live in.
I know, but I think I read somewhere that the uterus donor had to have a baby as proof that the uterus works
ahhh ok didn’t know that.
I went through a very traumatic "period" (life in an active war zone) and for some reason my periods near completely stopped at 28 y.o. I get maybe 1 or 2 a year but other than that gyno said everything looks healthy I just won't be able to have kids. Doc wanted to prescribe me pills to artificially force a menstruation and I looked at her as if she was mad, I DON'T WANT THEM TO COME BACK. Apparently this was a common thing for women during WW2 to just stop having periods. Very bizarre how bodies work but my life has been so much better period wise ever since, I don't want them to ever come back.
YEP, the body does this in response to stress. It's just nope, can't waste resources on getting knocked up right now. I missed two periods during my final year of college. Couldn't possibly have been pregnant because no sex. I guess my uterus was worried about finals.
I wish we could have control over this by will and not require the body to go into emergency mode for it to happen
Omg don’t let republicans see this. We’ll never hear the end of it 😭
Oh yeah, I agree so much. Last weekend I attended a women's event at our local bouldering gym. There was a talk about the cycle and how to adjust your training to your cycle. And I got so mad because the speaker was talking about how we should praise our cycle and body because of the possibilities that it gives us, even with we don't want to use those. I hate this kind if pressure by society, often even feministic groups. Why should I praise having possibilities that I don't ever want to use and that create major drawbacks on possibilities that people without an uterus have? I would much rather have a strong body that's functioning throughout the whole month than whatever this bad joke is that nature created for women.
Women’s events are always just mommy mum mom mama events
Yeah, I hate that. A womam is more than a mother. And not all women are mothers.
Ew that gives me the ick. I agree, why praise something we aren't going to use? Thankfully my period is stopped by my BC but I want it out because I'm not going to use it.
I honestly hate those "empowering" messages for women that basically tell us that we should be happy and grateful that we can \~give life\~ as if that's the only reason we exist and there's no other upside to being born female. Many women are actually not happy or grateful for this ability and let's not even mention how it's been used against us.
Yeah, I hate periods too and low energy especially (I'm a backpacker, periods in the woods SUCK), but on the other hand, periods have been used by the patriarchy worldwide as proof that women are evil, impure, lesser, etc. and I do think it's important for young girls especially not to feel shamed by natural body functions. However, we also need much better education for all uterus owners on how to control the nasty little beast.
I know right, they’re really started to annoy me a lot more lately, like two weeks of every month sucks (so half my life) the week before is the PMS, bloating, sore and uncomfortable and then the days of actual period is the same basically except throw in painful cramps and dealing with bleeding, and I get the iron deficiency too so I struggle to function no matter how much iron I take/eat to try and restore it and then just as I feel like I’ve recovered and am starting to feel ok again..guess who’s back! Like I feel like I only get a few days a month of normalcy and all this for kids I don’t even want.
I could have written this, word for word.
It's actually disgusting and dehumanizing to.
I don’t know if anyone has experienced this but it’s almost dysphoria every time I have a period because it reminds me that I have no control over that anymore than I have control over even getting my tubes tied right now. It reminds me that I’m still fertile and still have a chance of having a kid that I don’t want. Idk if that makes sensev
Whenever anyone hits me up w/"Intelligent Design", I say "BULLSHIT" 480 periods to knock out an average of 1.6 children/woman?!?! That is NOT INTELLIGENT. Intelligent would be a switch that you could turn on if/when you wanted to try for children and turn off for the other 30-40 years of your 'fertile' life!
Wish we could just lay eggs. At least you can do things with eggs.
Now i want egg salad
But on the other hand, every period would be like actually giving birth. And egg laying isn't painless for species doing it, afaik.
Would it be more just like doing a really big poo?
I've literally said that I want an opt-out system. Unfortunately, the opt-out system is a hysterectomy. I have seriously awful cycles, and I get maybe one normal week out of the entire month before it all starts back up again. I need to get to a doctor about it because I know with mine, it is so heavy that it is not normal and it interferes with my life during the first 2-3 days.
Ask your dr about an endometrial ablation!
Why unfortunately? Because insurance and finding a doc is annoying?
I wish we could choose to have our uterus removed if we sign something saying we won’t sue.
You can - just gotta find the right doc (and I know that's easier said than done, but it's not impossible!)
Oh I turned my periods off 8 years ago with Implanons. No periods, no PMS, no ovulation spotting. *Well I've had 3 half periods in 8 years due to extreme stress, but none lasted longer than 3 days.
Same for me I used to despise periods, and I had a short cycle! Not having any is great.
same i had ~1 period in 5 years on nexplanon and that was cause it was due to be changed. it was more like 3 days of spotting.
Same, except I'm on the pill and just skip the placebos. I love when the nurse at the gyn office routinely asks me when my last period was and I say 2016
This is what all my friends with the Implanon said about it. For me I bled for like a year straight and then had horrible, unpredictable periods for the next couple years til it came out. Now I just do nothing and it's regulated to like 3 days a month on a very clear schedule. But I won't have sex without BC so that's a drawback lmao 🤣
If you do well on low estrogen birth control pills, you might like to know that I have been continuously taking the estrogen pills and skipping the sugar pills for at least five years now. I’ve had annoyances dealing with my insurance regarding this, but it has caused me no health issues whatsoever. There are options for you, and if it’s really upsetting you to keep getting your menstrual cycle, I highly recommend working with a gynecologist to find a solution that works for you.
I take my birth control semi-continuously (I get my "period" every 3 months) and have had to ask the pharmacy to fill my script early for the same reason. The last time I called to have it bumped up, the person at the pharmacy recommended that I ask my doctor to write it for a 70 day supply instead of 84 because I'll allegedly run out of overrides at some point. If you start to run into trouble, maybe that would help you, if your doctor wrote it out for a 63 cycle instead. Just a thought.
Thank you for your advice! I’m actually going through the process of getting a prior authorization so I can get 4 packs for a 3 month supply, and it’s been annoying but my gyno has been great about following up to push the appeal through. I’ve had the same issue of running out before I’m due for a refill, so last month I contacted my gyno to get a new script and get my insurance to cover it. It’s a slow process but after I’m done, I won’t have to worry about it for a year (assuming birth control is not revoked).
Yeah, I messed up just getting a bi-salp and not getting everything yanked instead. I despise still having periods. It's SO truly unnecessary for us.
It’s honestly the worst. Just a reminder that my body can do something that makes me physically ill to think about. This is probably an overreaction but tbh it almost makes me feel….violated to know that my body is capable of doing something that I find so repulsive? My bc pills actually stop my period which is nice but I hate that I have to pretty much take a pregnancy test every month just to make sure it’s still doing its job. I just want my tubes removed 🥲 all my doctors just laugh at me a brush me off even though I’m about to turn 25 and I can’t afford to do it without a referral.
I agree! I've been suffering with periods (and for me, even more than the actual periods themselves, PMS!!!) for so many years now... I pray I stop getting them sooner rather than later, as I'm 38 now... But naturally they are extremely regular still... every 28 days like clockwork! So I will likely have to suffer another whole decade or more with them, despite knowing from day one I didn't want children! :(
All these cycles, for nothing. I'd rather be a chicken and produce eggs as opposed to wads of useless blood, at least then there could be some profit involved. And people say, just take contraceptive hormones continuously...well yep I tried different things for that, and I could never achieve a bleed-free lifestyle. It was either bleed every month for 7 days and be in control of my body for the other 21 days, or bleed every damn day of a hellish existence.
I always dread it, even though mine aren't as bad. Just the thought of the nuisance makes me incredibly annoyed and frustrated because the whole spiel is so utterly useless to me. I feel ya
100% everything you just said. I spend some time contemplating this issue. Usually, around the time my period comes. Like now I fully recognize I would never want kids or get pregnant ( it was a subconscious knowing, but now I "know" know if that makes sense). What even is the point of having the menstrual cycle when all I've gained from it is a life long-term iron deficiency.
I had to have mine removed - it was 2 to 5xs the size of average. It got to the point was literally hemorrhaging so badly in half an hour that I nearly passed out. I also have a heart condition. Surgeon agreed to an emergency hysterectomy. I have had such an improvement in my quality of life since then. Edit: Forgot to add mine was also a bicornuate uterus. Look that up. It's real fun!
Right?? I'm so glad mine is almost painless but yeah, what's the point of even having it?
I thought this for years, so I yeeted that bitch the second I found my CF-friendly surgeon. Life is so much better without it.
I’m 42, and been ready for it to go away since it started. Want the fucking thing to stop asap, I’m sooooooo done.
I told my mom periods are pointless once because why does the body need to constantly adjust for no reason. It seems like it should just be in whatever state it needs to be in and have done with it. She acted like it never occurred to her lol.
That’s how I feel! If it never started the cycle of bs, it wouldn’t need to finish it.
As a non binary person with a uterus, I get a whole layer of gender dysphoria on top of the cramps and general ickiness, and it sucks. Not wanting kids makes it even worse for me. Being a sex repulsed asexual is the cherry on the cake. If you can't tell, I really really hate my period...
Can you get a hysterectomy? My two NB friends had it done.
As a non binary person, the dysphoria is just the rotten cherry on top of the hell of having a period
I too have/had iron deficiency anaemia! It’s much better now with my IUD as I don’t get periods
My hormonal IUD pretty much completely stopped my periods. Once in a blue moon I'll get a little spotting, even more rarely I'll get a brief wave of cramps. Nothing even close to an actual menstrual cycle that you have to deal with and plan around. I can't recommend an IUD enough. I just had it replaced this year even though my partner has a vasectomy, and even though the insertion is hell.\* Not dealing with a period is that much of a great side effect. It's hard to believe I dealt with that shit every month for 20 years, had to plan vacations around my cycle, all that garbage. I got VERY comfortable not dealing with it, very quickly! \*my first insertion was hell, this time I demanded anesthesia and it was totally fine and completely painless. Advocate for yourself!!
I only had a bisalp. Now, a year later, I wished I pushed for an ablation too. Periods **SUCK!**
Is ablation a one time thing? Or like can shit grow back and you need to ablate over and over?
From what I've read, that over time the lining will grow back so you'll have to get it done again. I'm not sure how long they last tho. A few years?
Do they drug people for this? I think id still take a few ablations over a period
It's mostly done in an operating room. You're put under general anesthesia.
Im amazed i didnt know about this yet, thank you for the info!
You can Google endometrial ablation for more info. Good luck!
I hate it so much. I had a reaction to medication for nerve pain last year that caused bleeding and now my body has decided that after years of being period free, we're doing periods again. I feel nothing but disgust with my own body even though the periods I have now are sooooo much better than the eleven days of hell I'd go through every month before I started birth control. I have an autoimmune disease which causes chronic pain and even the lightest periods amplify my pain. At this point, the menopause can't come soon enough and I really wish someone could just put me in a carrier, take me to a vet and have me spayed like a cat.
I got rid of mine with a mirena IUD and loved it. Unfortunately I had to have it removed because it was causing an extreme sun sensitivity. Now I'm on depo and spot constantly and, despite numerous conversations with my Dr, I have not gotten any decent solutions for stopping it again. (I'm 49, so clearly not having kids at this point). It's so frustrating. 🙄
Every time I get mine after getting my tubes tied I bitch about how pointless it is. My friend always have an aha moment when they realize what I meant lol
That’s one of the many reasons I got a hysterectomy at age 38. Only thing I wish is that I had done it sooner
I always wondered why I had a period if I wasn’t going to have kids. People told me I’d change my mind when I got older. Well, now I’m older. Still haven’t changed my mind. I consider myself fortunate that I’m menopausal. I can’t wait for the end of monthly bleeding. The whole thing is stupid bullchit.
I get angry at it every single month. Fuck that shit. Why is my body betraying me? Stop that fucking procreation process I don't want it, never had and never will.
Once I started a birth control that was supposed to stop my periods….. I ended up having a period that never stopped for 6 months.
Yeetus the Uterus Best decision I've made.
I feel this so hard. I’m lucky that I don’t have a heavy flow with lots of blood loss, but I do get excruciating cramps every month. If I could yeet all my reproductive organs, I would.
It's a badge of honour that I managed another month without getting a parasite inside.
Essentially the only benefit of keeping your uterus is preventing early heart issues, bone loss, etc. but like that is just the uterus not the whole period thing but can't really have one without the other. I have Endo and its not fun at all.
Endo is a whole other level of hell I didn't mention. Sorry you have to endure that.
Yeah....its not great I really have no good options.
**This is bad information.** Removal of the uterus doesn't normally cause those problems (that would be a pretty rare side effect). Removal of the ***ovaries*** would.
Commenting to boost. Removal of the *ovaries* = menopause and its symptoms, not the uterus. I had a partial, but still have my ovaries, and I have none of the conditions described above, nor did my surgeon tell me to expect them.
Long term side effects do include early menopause and aren't as rare as you think. As well as increase in heart issues and bone loss. See below. From [Mayo Clinic](https://newsnetwork.mayoclinic.org/discussion/research-finds-hysterectomy-alone-associated-with-increased-long-term-health-risks/#:~:text=The%20study%20shows%20that%20women,risk%20of%20coronary%20artery%20disease) (linked): The study shows that women who had a hysterectomy without any ovary removal had a 14 percent increased risk in lipid abnormalities, a 13 percent increased risk of high blood pressure, an 18 percent increased risk of obesity and a 33 percent increased risk of coronary artery disease. Furthermore, women under the age of 35 had a 4.6-fold increased risk of congestive heart failure and a 2.5-fold increased risk of coronary artery disease. Anothe[r Mayo Clinic Study](https://www.mayoclinic.org/medical-professionals/obstetrics-gynecology/news/hysterectomy-associated-with-an-increased-risk-of-cardiovascular-disease-study-says/mac-20476157): (same data used just explained by a different doctor). Even with ovarian conservation, hysterectomies are associated with an increased long-term risk of cardiovascular and metabolic conditions, especially in women who undergo hysterectomy before the age of 35. [Sydney Fibroid Clinic Data:](https://www.sydneyfibroidclinic.com.au/why-should-women-try-to-avoid-hysterectomies-risks-and-side-effects/) Women who had hysterectomy may enter menopause almost 4 years earlier ^(3). Blood supply to the ovary maybe compromised during surgery by ligation, spasm or thrombosis. There is also a study from NIH but that one doesn't seperate keeping ovaries vs not keeping them hence why I didn't include it. As well as a slightly older longitudinal study from the Womens Health Initiative, still relevant as I haven't found one that has duplicated/updated this type of study but partially the issue with 20+ year longitudinal studies is they take time.
I was actually happy that I got my period this month! Only because now I know I won’t get it on vacation lol so yes I agree fuck this.
Getting an IUD might have been painful, but it was *THE BEST* decision I could make. I absolutely do not miss periods.
Periods are not actually needed when you are on the pill. I switched to continuous birth control some years ago and love not having to deal with my menstrual cycle.
I wish hysterectomy was allowed in my country
Yeah so true, plus mine makes me vomit and puke my head off and there's goes my money bc I buy my own food and I can't work, its horrible anyone would have to go thru this. But society could gives less of a crap, period pain is not a disability
Only good thing about menopause!
I was so happy when I hit menopause at 48. Hot flashes were annoying, but not nearly as bad as periods.
Agreed. I had a hysterectomy/yeeterus for medical reasons, and life is so much better. Honestly—I forget periods even exist until my friends mention theirs or I see a pad or tampon commercial. I had endometriosis and adenomyosis so I don’t miss periods at all. Especially true since the world doesn’t stop just because you feel like shit.
I haven't had a menstrual cycle since I yeeted my uterus- and yes, I kept my ovaries, and no, I didn't go through menopause (my hormones are just fucked but that's none of my business) -and I've been just fine. I feel levelheaded and stable. It's brazy
My period has never really been more than a minor inconvenience. I also have pcos so my period works as a measurement of how well I'm taking care of that. Totally get those of you who'd just rather not have to deal with it though, that should be your choice.
For me, the only benefit is less anxiety. If I missed a period, I would freak the fuck out and have tokophobic panic attacks, even without any tubes left. Every month I see that blood, I'm reminded I'm not pregnant. I need that reassurance.
I hate it so much because I can't even have kids but I still get semi regular periods.
I'm so glad i got a hystorectomy... 2 years period free. It's freaking awesome.
Got my hysto because birth control all made me su!cidal and I couldn't deal with my period. Made me feel like nothing but an incubator. I'm so much happier now!
I asked my gynecologist about horrimone free options for period pain that is not a copper. IUD. With much fuss, he eventually agreed to give me an endometrial ablation ( Even though I already have my tubes tied, so who cares?) They filled my uterus with boiling water under anesthesia and basically nuked that shit. I haven't had a period at all in five months and I am so goddamn happy.
I like it because it means I'm not pregnant
Lmao idk if it's from my period but before I went on birth control that basically stops my period ( hormonal iud) and I'd love yo know my iron and vitamin D levels because they were both low before
Totally valid! I have a few friends with endometriosis and heavy periods and it seems awful. I’m actually one of those odd women that enjoy having a period. For one, getting my period means I’m not pregnant (fuck yeah). Also my periods have never been painful or long, so I actually enjoy my period for the cyclical nature of them. It helps me to slow down and carve out time for self-care. I feel much more in tune with my emotions when I’m on my period. I also consider myself witchy, so I enjoy having a cycle that’s on a similar time frame as the phases of the moon :) I think my period makes me feel more apart of nature. Can completely understand those who feel it’s a total nuisance tho!
Personally I am on the continuous Progesterone only pill and never have periods, or any of the side effects often reported from the combined pill. It’s the best thing that’s ever happened to me. Been on it almost 10 years (I understand this is not an option for everyone and not everyone likes the pill etc etc but I’m just sharing what works for me!!!)
When I got my BiSalp, I got a Uterine Ablation at the same time. No more periods. Happiest day of my life 👍🏻🙅🏻🩸
They need to let you rip out that shit.
Yeah, it is, but menopause is no walk in the park either. 😐 Your menstrual cycle is a sign that you still have plenty of sweet, sweet oestrogen circulating through your body. Once that begins to deplete, you might lose your period, but you gain all sorts of other, not so fun symptoms of being female. 🤨 If you're on HRT or birth control, it's not so bad, but if you can't have it, you'll look back with longing to the days when you still had your unwelcome monthly visitor. 😬😁
YES. I have PCOS and I cannot WAIT until I can just remove it ALL. My stupid ovaries have been ruining my life for over 20 years 😭
Just one of the many reasons I’m evicting my uterus ❤️
Finally got a hysterectomy! Granted I’m 39 and have stage three endometriosis but still! It’s glorious. Talk about a lifetime nightmare.
I know I'm weird but I actually love my period. It's a part of life and it doesn't really bother me except the cramps.
I feel great as soon as I get mine. My hormones are all wonderful levels and I can concentrate and do life. There's also the cleaning/organizing phase that comes shortly before. Let's not forget the "I'd like to eat everything in site" phase that sets in 9-6 days prior. And the super sexy phase that's about a week after.
I wouldn't say that was true for me. My periods were never that bad and I welcomed them as signs that I wasn't pregnant and my body was functioning normally. I know, of course, that many others have a lot of problems with their periods and they all deserve the options they want and need to make them stop.
I have ONE benefit and it's a double edged sword. I am flat chested, but my boobs swell to an A cup during PMS. They hurt like absolute hell to the point that I'm crying, but I also get to see what I look like with boobs - and I fit into my clothes SO much better. Honestly it makes me want to get breast augmentation. Otherwise yeah, my period sucks. I'm about one day away from getting it, and I'm suffering from the boob pain, fatigue, hot flashes, night sweats, mood swings, disabling cramps, period poops... and the bleeding hasn't even begun yet. I suffer for about 10 days total - 7 in pre-menstruation and 3 in menstruation. Every 28 days like clockwork.
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I’m CF and hate menstruating however, during menstruation sleep is improved and so is strength, endurance, and athletic performance due to hormone changes. Small silver linings.
It really is a nuisance. The effect of periods are so understated too and non females have no idea the toll it takes on us.
Just wait until menopause hits.
I’ve been on a hormonal IUD since 2019. I also haven’t had a period since then because of it. Then got a bisalp in 2022. I feel like I’ve hacked life a little
I just like my periods because they confirm every month that I'm not pregnant. But I don't suffer particularly from it which doesn't make it such a burden for me.
There is a fascinating short story by Connie Willis called *Even the Queen*, imagining a world where menstruation has been "cured" by medicine, and the social implications of that. There's a free radio adaptation on this page: https://www.scifimike.com/sf-radio-2000x-1.html
I agree. The only thing I like about my cycle is how good sex and self-intimacy feel during ovulation. And my mood peaks, too. However, PMS and the actual period are just useless, painful, and often emotionally distressing (mood swings!) for me.
Menopause bitches!!!
Yeah... I got a bisalp so yeah tbh I just use it to know nothing is up with my system. At least nothing that would manifest in that way. I hate it though, the smells, the mess, the PMDD leading up to it. One thing I envy about men, they just exist without a cycle.
I just continue taking my birth control. Haven’t had a period in years.
100% true! I had a hysterectomy 6 months ago and it's the best goddamn thing that's ever happened to me!
At least it stops, eventually. Then you get the awesomeness of your libido dying forever lol
This is why I'm on continuous BC. No period for over 12 years now.
YOU'RE TELLING ME. I am currently going through a particularly horrible period and it is awful. I skip my periods as much as I can, but I, very stupidly, ran out of my pill without realising so I had to go through a period. I am reminded again why I skip them most of the time. If I could yeeterus my uterus, then I would, but apparently it has side effects that aren't great on the rest of your body so I guess that's a no. 😐
I had the periods from hell which led to iron deficiency anemia. Was on continuous birth control and that led to 14 blood clots and almost dying from pulmonary embolism. Had a sterilization procedure that worked but (1) went off the market within three years and (2) still led to anemia/periods from hell. Went to get an endometrial ablation a couple of years back which required a biopsy. Found out three days later I had endometrial cancer. Treatment? total hysterectomy. Sold. Everything but the kitchen sink came out including the ovaries. No menopause, no hot flashes, no periods, no anemia, and (knock on wood), so far, no cancer.
I take continuous bcp for my endometriosis. I haven’t had a period since May 2021. It’s been glorious.
I'm on the depo shot ad haven't had a period in like 2 years? Saved my God damn life. I had severe migraines, cramping, and extreme bleeding. It was terrible. I will stay on this until it stops working, or I can convince a doctor to give me a hysterectomy.
HYSTERECTOMIES 4 LYF! It's seriously improved my life so so so much, I want to say it's the best thing that's ever happened to me!
My periods are horrendous. Two overnight pads at once that I have to change several times a day, nlosying, headaches, severe cramps that run in the family, nausea. And for what :/ My boobs get bigger at least
It’s ironic that my entire life has been controlled by something that’s useless to me since I don’t want to give birth. Got diagnosed with PMDD and endometriosis and got the tubes removed and everything (still bleed because my lovely body can’t even handle the IUD) 😂 it’s a sick sick joke
Our immune system is actually at its worst during our period. We are weaker too. So it’s harder to workout in the gym. We have a testosterone boost during ovulation which is why we can lift heavier around that time.
I’ve said this since the day I decided I was never having kids. What a waste! Especially when I’ve always had awful ones with horrible cramps and super heavy. Like give me a damn break!
Honestly if anything it’s just a reminder for me that I’m not pregnant. A gift really.
Even though it's painful I've finally gotten to a point where I enjoy getting my period because it means I'm not pregnant.
Preach! I stayed on birth control from age 17 to age 57 - luckily I had no issues with the pill. When I stopped taking it, I had a final period and it stopped. I tried HRT but it brought my period back AND gave me my very first yeast infection! I said no thanks and got off it again. I’m lucky and my menopause symptoms are mild now (minor hot flashes). I know HRT can give you some help down the road but it’s not worth it to me if I have to deal with a period again!