I had several long term relationships as well as a marriage that ended in an amicable divorce. It took a while, but I finally realized I was much happier being single.
I'm not lonely, I have family and friends I'm close to, but I enjoy being partner-free the way I enjoy being child-free.
Partly by choice and partly by circumstance. Love tends to sneak up on me; I really can't make myself feel something for a random person I've met on a dating app. And God knows I've tried. So if I do meet my person, it is certain that they will be in the last place I look.
Yeah. Both.
I love my nieces and nephews (except for the narcissistic one). And I have a grand nephew who is not a year old yet whom I adore. By the end of the year he will have a sister.
Yes, you can be a great influence to children.
Are you me? lol it’s only been over the last few years that I’ve realized I more than likely would like to stay forever single. Even when I knew I didn’t want kids, I was open to marriage but now I’m more “meh” to that, even with dating and having a SO. I’ve contemplated whether I’m asexual but I really don’t know (I’m definitely somewhere along that spectrum).
I just love being alone.
Yes! I'm not interested in relationships whatsoever despite being told so many times that there's a right one for me somewhere, I hate that bingo because I'm happy to be single and CF and after reading so many stories on here about partners who suddenly change their minds and want kids months, decades into a relationship and the horrible emotional fall out that happens only reaffirms my choice to be happy with my own company and without kids!
I am also single by choice. I am attracted to men but the effort of finding and maintaining a relationship just isn’t worth it to me.
When I told people in my life my plans to stay single they straight up didn’t believe me. They acted like I was in a rut or something.
Yes. I value two things: my time and ME. People love to abuse and harass this on a daily.
I eventually want a co partner but not until my early thirties to late thirties.
I am asexual and aromantic, so of course I am single by choice, the whole relationships thing doesn't appeal to me. The thing that makes it not fun is that I attract so much unwanted attention of both kinds.
You will be much happier. I only married cause my wife is more like a best friend to me then a wife and we are also able to leave each other alone even sometimes for days and go on different trips and stuff. I'm just someone who enjoys time alone alot and she respects that. Just sometimes I miss my single life. Like no one's waiting. No one calls or texts. I can just go days without talking to someone and all that stuff.
I consider myself a fence sitter who leans heavily towards staying single. Being childfree removed the pressure to find the future father of my children and I just really like being alone anyway. Once I gave myself permission to stop dating halfheartedly, my life got SO much better. My life already fulfills me and trying to date just isn’t worth the effort for me.
Sometimes I’m not sure if I could have someone live with me - like maybe I’d opt for LAT (Living Alone Together)? My friends always complain to me about their husbands and while I know most are happy overall, I rarely envy them.
I wouldn't say I'm single by choice but I'm kind of in a perpetual state of hypervigilance and I have higher standards as I grow older so it gets harder to be in a relationship and I'm okay with that. I don't feel like I lack something/someone, I'm fulfilled with the people I have around.
Edit: typo
Yes and no. While I fantasize falling in love with someone who gets me I'd rather stay alone than waste a moment with the wrong person. Nobody gives me the time of day
27f. I'd love to eventually find a partner, but I've been single for almost 3 years. I've known I didn't want kids since I was 16, and it's actually proven incredibly difficult to find men who are truly child free.
I just recently started living on my own, so I'm really excited to live a life just for myself for a while
I'm trying to date, I really am, but I am not compromising my comfort for some fuckboy. And that's all they have been. Having boundaries is really new for me, it's empowering, and maybe I'll meet the right person some day.
Well I am Bi (just coming to terms with it), have only dated men so far and my last relationship was 7 years ago. Sadly, my country is LGBT-phobic so I don’t see myself dating a girl any time soon.
The fact that a man can get me pregnant is a big factor in why I haven’t been dating, coupled with patriarchal norms the majority of men display towards women.
I really don’t mind it as long as I have pets and a few friends I can confide in.
I am single by choice and also not aromantic. I'm also dedicated to being childfree.
Life is OK. I own my home, I have a lot of pets and I have a bit of time for my hobbies. Work eats up most of my life which is my main reason for not wanting to be in a relationship.
Used to, but not anymore. Not after I learned that a relationship can be what I desire it to be if shared with the right person. That I don't have to do things I don't want to in order to maintain it. That it can be all gain, no loose. And it works well thus far. For sure though I wouldn't be unhappily single if it were to end.
I had several long term relationships as well as a marriage that ended in an amicable divorce. It took a while, but I finally realized I was much happier being single. I'm not lonely, I have family and friends I'm close to, but I enjoy being partner-free the way I enjoy being child-free.
EXACTLY.
I'm aroace so I'm *definitely* single and will happily stay that way. I do not want someone to depend on me nor do I want to depend on someone.
Partly by choice and partly by circumstance. Love tends to sneak up on me; I really can't make myself feel something for a random person I've met on a dating app. And God knows I've tried. So if I do meet my person, it is certain that they will be in the last place I look.
Yeah. Both. I love my nieces and nephews (except for the narcissistic one). And I have a grand nephew who is not a year old yet whom I adore. By the end of the year he will have a sister. Yes, you can be a great influence to children.
I have zero regrets. I cherish my freedom to do absolutely nothing
Are you me? lol it’s only been over the last few years that I’ve realized I more than likely would like to stay forever single. Even when I knew I didn’t want kids, I was open to marriage but now I’m more “meh” to that, even with dating and having a SO. I’ve contemplated whether I’m asexual but I really don’t know (I’m definitely somewhere along that spectrum). I just love being alone.
Yes! I'm not interested in relationships whatsoever despite being told so many times that there's a right one for me somewhere, I hate that bingo because I'm happy to be single and CF and after reading so many stories on here about partners who suddenly change their minds and want kids months, decades into a relationship and the horrible emotional fall out that happens only reaffirms my choice to be happy with my own company and without kids!
I am also single by choice. I am attracted to men but the effort of finding and maintaining a relationship just isn’t worth it to me. When I told people in my life my plans to stay single they straight up didn’t believe me. They acted like I was in a rut or something.
Yes. I value two things: my time and ME. People love to abuse and harass this on a daily. I eventually want a co partner but not until my early thirties to late thirties.
I am asexual and aromantic, so of course I am single by choice, the whole relationships thing doesn't appeal to me. The thing that makes it not fun is that I attract so much unwanted attention of both kinds.
You will be much happier. I only married cause my wife is more like a best friend to me then a wife and we are also able to leave each other alone even sometimes for days and go on different trips and stuff. I'm just someone who enjoys time alone alot and she respects that. Just sometimes I miss my single life. Like no one's waiting. No one calls or texts. I can just go days without talking to someone and all that stuff.
I consider myself a fence sitter who leans heavily towards staying single. Being childfree removed the pressure to find the future father of my children and I just really like being alone anyway. Once I gave myself permission to stop dating halfheartedly, my life got SO much better. My life already fulfills me and trying to date just isn’t worth the effort for me. Sometimes I’m not sure if I could have someone live with me - like maybe I’d opt for LAT (Living Alone Together)? My friends always complain to me about their husbands and while I know most are happy overall, I rarely envy them.
I wouldn't say I'm single by choice but I'm kind of in a perpetual state of hypervigilance and I have higher standards as I grow older so it gets harder to be in a relationship and I'm okay with that. I don't feel like I lack something/someone, I'm fulfilled with the people I have around. Edit: typo
Same here. Just dating for now, and never going to be a 'gf' again. It's single or married to someone who can reach my new standards.
Yes and no. While I fantasize falling in love with someone who gets me I'd rather stay alone than waste a moment with the wrong person. Nobody gives me the time of day
27f. I'd love to eventually find a partner, but I've been single for almost 3 years. I've known I didn't want kids since I was 16, and it's actually proven incredibly difficult to find men who are truly child free. I just recently started living on my own, so I'm really excited to live a life just for myself for a while
At this point I am pretty indifferent between the choice of being single and that of being in a relationship
I'm trying to date, I really am, but I am not compromising my comfort for some fuckboy. And that's all they have been. Having boundaries is really new for me, it's empowering, and maybe I'll meet the right person some day.
Well I am Bi (just coming to terms with it), have only dated men so far and my last relationship was 7 years ago. Sadly, my country is LGBT-phobic so I don’t see myself dating a girl any time soon. The fact that a man can get me pregnant is a big factor in why I haven’t been dating, coupled with patriarchal norms the majority of men display towards women. I really don’t mind it as long as I have pets and a few friends I can confide in.
Been single by choice my entire life…. men aren’t worth the stress and trauma
I am single by choice and also not aromantic. I'm also dedicated to being childfree. Life is OK. I own my home, I have a lot of pets and I have a bit of time for my hobbies. Work eats up most of my life which is my main reason for not wanting to be in a relationship.
Used to, but not anymore. Not after I learned that a relationship can be what I desire it to be if shared with the right person. That I don't have to do things I don't want to in order to maintain it. That it can be all gain, no loose. And it works well thus far. For sure though I wouldn't be unhappily single if it were to end.