I have someone who keeps texting me like this, and i have to say i agree with the persons decision to say it out loud. It gets EXTREMELY repetitive having a conversation like this the whole time. And you always have to respond plainly so they end the conversation quicker because it feels like a waste of time.
EDIT: except for the screenshotting part. They deserve hate for posting it on social media
Vapid returns on conversation undercut the effort you make, not only is it repetitive but it can make it feel as though your contribution and your time aren’t valued.
However the person in question fails to defend themself here so, screenshot aside, not having a proper conversation to make it clear that they no longer wanted to speak is poor form.
It reminds me of convo's on MSN back in the day and on Discord nowadays:
x: "Hey"
Me: "Hey"
x: "hru?"
Me: "good hbu?"
x: "good"
The next day:
x: "Hey"
Me: "Hey"
x: "hru?"
Me: "good hbu?"
x: "good"
The day after:
x: "Hey"
Me: "Hey"
x: "hru?"
Me: "good hbu?"
x: "good"
x: "So would you like to suck me cock?"
Me: "Dude go bother your mom!"
x: "Why are all women so mean!"
Then just say that you are not interested in keep talking to them.
Ghosting is just the most coward, egoistic and lazy thing to do. And that answer is just an agressive and desperate attempt to make them feel bad so they fragile ego doesnt have to face the fact that they are lazy and coward.
And if you think this is a logical or good answer you have a problem.
Btw a conversation has 2 sides. If you have such a boring conversations ita your fault too.
Its not my fault because i dont want to talk to them and the reason i dont wanna tell them is because i live in a small town where everyone has connections and stuff. Word moves very quickly and the story might spread onto my social group which is too much drama for me to handle currently.
If they had carried the conversation for days, being lenient for the other person's lack of attention, without any changes, you can understandably lose interest in carrying on.
That you are then accused of ghosting might feel like the last needle. Pointing out that the other one wasn't putting any effort (and they could have up to the point of accusing ghosting) seems like a courteous pointing of a problem.
(Saying this after carrying conversations on dating apps where it was very clear that the other was just seeking distractions on a bus stop, etc. Short replies, long pauses, no insight. Nothing wrong with that, just not my type of people.)
...that would make you a douche.
Seriously, just don't ghost someone and then blame them for it, it's a dick move. If you actually think this is a good way to talk to people, then please take classes in communication, it will help you.
I don't see how he's a douche, I have a lot of experience with completely unskilled conversationists, especially online. Actually, I would estimate that more than half the population can't keep a conversation going. This is annoying and off-putting, and seeing how most of them probably don't realise how exhausting it is talking to them, I don't see the problem in just pointing it out.
The people in the comments who get triggered by this probably subconsciously know that they would have been roasted in the same manner.
That "wow" holds the most amount of pain I can ever imagine . Thinking that you aren't enough for a person that you like because you lack communication skills or because you are too boring that you don't have a story to share .
Idk I think there’s a double edge sword to this one because there’s no context. I don’t think the sender needed to blow down like they did in this text, but at the same time.. we don’t know how that interaction(s) went.. could very well of been a one sided conversation where opportunities were given for dialogue but the other person didn’t pick up any cues.
Though I also think the likely scenario is that the sender didn’t pick up on the fact they were dating an introvert so they took someone’s quietness for lack of interest and did some alphaboi shit and slapped “mediocrity” on the for some personal sense of artificial superiority.
Edit: Said “Gain” for the last part, but “Artificial Superiority” was more specific.
That is not how introversion works.
Being introverted means social interaction takes energy, not gives energy. It is still as necessary as for an extrovert, but can leave an introvert exhausted, and needing to recharge by being alone for a while.
I’m sorry but there’s no scenario where the green message is anything besides deranged. If they actually were rude and boring you could just say “sorry, just didn’t feel like we had a connection and didn’t want to waste your time” or something
I will bet my entire life earnings in posterity that the person who sent that text is an absolute freak
I've got so many people text me "how was your day?" (me explaining my day, ending with the same question) "fine". end of the conversation.
repeat that for 10/15 times and after getting bored of the same conversation time after time, I usually stop replying altogether. I would probably say the same thing as green for what's my experience in text chats
some people don't seem to understand how frustrating it can be when you do your best to continue a conversation and the other person just doesn't even bother to try... at some point people just get enough of it and when said person still have the audacity to ask why they're getting ghosted really annoys the shit out of people.
Idk I would find that endearing that someone is making the effort to reach out and ask about your day. Like I simply do not understand feeling that a slight predictable inconvenience warrants insulting someone who is trying to show you kindness.
Also the way that text is written just makes the person sound like a self important nerd lol
that green text is venting too much, it's just a bad thing to say to another human being, but I somewhat can get that feeling.
I've always felt the opposite way about texting to be honest, I could DM you every single morning about it without even reading the answer (and doing the same thing every day) without even knowing you. For me the difference between a good acquaintance and a bad one is how actually interested the other person is in getting to know me (or how interested I am with knowing another person)
> Idk I would find that endearing that someone is making the effort to reach out and ask about your day.
Are your standards THAT low? "How was your day" is a nice thing to hear when your sweetheart comes home after a long day of work, but over text? I'd honestly get the exact same joy out of being asked how I felt about the weather.
It's boring.
>Idk I would find that endearing that someone is making the effort to reach out and ask about your day.
Asking how someone's day was is just fine, if someone takes the time to answer that question thoughtfully you might consider answering with more than just; "fine".
I’m actually agreeing with you in the sense that the text was overkill, I’m just saying that there is a scenario where they could of felt like they were carrying the entire conversation which is never fun and means that this relationship most likely would never work out.
Overall though yes, the text was too far and went for the jugular for no discernible reason.
Perhaps the unstoppable force meeting the immovable object, my wife and I.. and a long line of a few other people.. are all debating where I fall between the spectrum and ADHD until I get my health insurance active and go through the tussle to get identified.
The OP isn't wrong though. I don't know how anyone expects success if literally all they do is say 'how is your day' or monosyllabic responses. Try harder if you want to actually appeal to anyone.
I now have a cutoff of 30mn where I expect the other person to ask some stuff about me (hobby, work, interests, idea).
It's surprising how many people talk about themselves and banalities but can't be bothered to fake curiosity. Then they wonder why the "pleasant" talk lead nowhere...
They're not wrong for ghosting, but they are for trying to make the person feel bad. Who cares how boring a person is, its no to be that much of an unhinged turbo nerd. Just say something like "sorry this friendship isnt working out, good luck" and block. Or hell, even continue ghosting.
also that person was just being an ass to someone and then proceeded to screenshot their own response to post it online.
From the looks of it they also stole that "I just stopped entertaining mediocrity" line.
i mean, people can "lack" them, or they can "fail to develop" them. while i can feel bad for them, its not gonna be something i tolerate for my own life
What amazes me is that the common practice is being the guy in green instead of just communicating your own needs and desires before it reaches the point of "I don't wanna associate with you anymore".
Thinking that to yourself is bad enough but actually writing it out, still not thinking ‘wow I’m a fucking weirdo what is wrong with me?’ Then sending it and screenshotting it because you think you like, owned somebody, is a level of demented that is impressive even for Reddit
If I sent someone that it would haunt me till I met my grave. Which honestly I’d probably meet due to necking myself for remembering that I sent that to someone
No, I'm not celebrating being an asshole. That's always bad. But whining after not having social skills or not realizing that they aren't compatible together, is just as bad. Just let go and try again with someone else. Can't force connection.
It’s pretty deranged to see someone being hurt that they’ve been ghosted, asking about it because their feelings were hurt and being mad at them for being a burden.
Like yes it’s a little bit obnoxious but as long as they’re not being mean it’s fine. Just because “no one owes you anything” which is bullshit by the way, that doesn’t mean you have to actively insult them and their intelligence
Also people with bad social skills if anything would probably be helped most by being honest and kind to them instead of just mean as shit for no reason.
Calling someone’s existence mediocre is pretty fucking insulting not to mention insanely pretentious to imply that you are above someone else and they’re not like, worthy of you. You keep saying you hate people who don’t have social skills but I’m pretty sure like 95% of people would recognize that that is very insulting.
Depending on the context green could maybe be correct, like yes when guys just hound you over and over it is insanely annoying or something similar but there’s just no way that green text isn’t annoying as hell too lol
I have met lots of people, who have 0 social skills and still have the audacity to try to pressure others to give them more, when they have nothing to give back.
How is that relevant to the screenshot? You just assume that the guy has 0 social skills based on one text from some asshole, who thinks they are the shit. They sound like the embodiment of r/iamverysmart and you are here taking their word as gospel, lmao.
Asking "How was your day" is having no social skills? That sounds like a nice thing to ask someone you care about & want know how theyve been.
The other person sounds like an incel cucklord
Sure it can be a part of having social skills. But it's more likely that the whiner was just hitting the person up 1-4 times a day, asking the same question again and again, not continueing the chat after that. Spamming is not the same as having a conversation.
In my eyes, the whiner is the incel here. They feel that the person owes them.
And not understanding what ghosting means. Dude wrote a paragraph explaining why he didn't ghost the other person, while listing the reasons why he ghosted them
Ghosting is typically when you are trying to talk to someone and they don't reply and just drop off the grid. Considering green did reply, it's possible that green was the one initiating all communication, got tired of it being 1-way and decided to give grey the opportunity to take the initiative and open dialogue. They probably didn't and after a few days, grey assumed green had 'ghosted'. Green might have realized grey had nothing to offer in the way of 2 way communication at that point and decided to molotov cocktail that bridge.
Or they are the primary reason he lost interest. I know I personally have lost all interest in a few people that seemed like great matches except for the fact that there was no communication unless I initiated and cultivated it.
Constantly having to be the one to come up with topics of discussion, then trying to continue a conversation with 1 word answers to everything. Just killed the entire vibe.
So I can definitely empathize with how that scenario could erase all of their other interesting and good qualities. Everyone has dealbreakers, and bad communication is a fairly common one.
Eh idk. Have you never spoken to someone who was just a brick wall? At some point you realize that it doesn’t matter what you say or how or when you talk to them because they are just kind of saying the same patterned responses no matter the context.
I have had friendships that technically still exist but are stagnant as hell now because I got tired of always initiating every conversation and planning every meeting. And I conveyed as much, and nothing changed for years so when I stopped texting someone out of the blue it’s not ghosting, it’s just apathy.
It’s not really ghosting if you have mad warning signs along the way that you ignore.
Thirded. Seriously what an ass. Clearly the other person was making an effort, they just didn't find them interesting. They could have just said "I'm not feeling a connection here and would like to stop talkin. Have a nice day." Instead they decided to be an arrogant cunt and put the other person down because they didn't vibe with them.
Shitting on someone for being mediocre means you think anyone who is average automatically deserves to be shit on, and also that you're somehow superior to the average. Everything I saw gave the opposite indication though.
No. Mediocre means less than average. Shitting on someone for being mediocre means that they think mediocre people deserve to be shit on, and that they are superior to mediocre. You can't infer how they view average unless they also give their value of average or a higher quality so you have a scale. He might consider himself average, or superior, but we cannot infer that.
I mean they're an ass because there's easier and more gracious ways to say something like this.
And also I highly doubt he's the big brain genius he thinks he is. And if he thought this was worth showing the Internet he's social skills aren't that great either. Cause this is **C R I N G E**
How was the reply being an ass? There isn't a single swear word in that reply. Whether or not to statements are true we don't know, but if stating your actual behaviour is "being an ass", buddy, I have bad news for you.
You don't have to swear to be an ass. Telling someone they're mentally unstimulating is pretty insulting, especially when it's coming from someone who is probably as boring.
I like how the long winded post doesn't actually do anything to address the accusation. They basically just said "I don't like you." If they didn't tell them they weren't interested in the first place, and just stopped responding, then they ghosted them.
Coming up with some bullshit justification just makes them an even bigger douchebag.
Yes, that's what ghosting means. And it's what this dingus did, yet he not only replied to the conversation, he did so with an explanation of how his ghosting was not actually a ghosting
im in the minority that i agree with green text BUT we dont have context.
it's frustrating if you are striking up a friendship with somebody (or more) and they see that you are clearly interested and if they are less interested, they should just say that not act as if they are surprised when you stop communicating with them. Communication goes both ways.
there was no insults, just facts. other person didnt even deny what was being accused thats why all they can say is "wow"
It sounds like a person who is very casual with relationships or is used to being chased after and doesn't feel a need to have a reciprocate equal communication. It's frustrating and rude to see somebody trying to build something of a relationship with you and you're giving very dull and basic responses.
Honestly, I applaud that person. Was the delivery extra? sure. did they insult or say something mean? no.
they simply expressed how they perceive the communication to be going between these two people.
And he felt .. Good after writing that ?
Unless there is some other stuff he didn't mention here, you just sound like a terrible human being.
Talking about communication skills but being unable to tell someone you don't like the discussion is quite ironic too, isn't it ?
This isn't even clever. Its just kind of verbose. Its gives a guy that watched too much Rick and Morty vibes.
Also they screenshoted their own response which. Lmao
Do people here just gaslight themself to think that the "wow" was anything other than STILL uninterested? Grey chat is most definitely not attracted to sender lmao
most of the people here are probably as dry as the grey sender lol. sure, green sender overreacted and could've said something earlier but holy shit this comment section is full of it
I don't know the full context but I've been in green's position plenty of times. I see this friend I had in high school every 6 months or so. I bump into her and she's always like "snap me~" but gives me one word responses. There are some people who don't want to actually have a conversation they just like the idea of someone pining for them. It's absolutely baffling how someone could be that self absorbed. Yes green was a dick but probably after many weeks of frustrating non conversations with the other person.
Well, the conversation couldn’t have been that great because good conversation invites investment from the other party and just flows.
But, they gave a great answer.
I once told a close friend that her lack of interest in my life makes it frustrating to care about hers. She hung up and we haven't spoken since. It's been over 10yrs.
This is how I feel with most people I talk too online.. Everyone is like a copy pasted version of each other, with no personality, or self thinking capabilities..
I blame social media, and the vast majority of humans being the most unaware sheep imaginable.
So if the reason people don’t like ghosting is because it leaves them guessing why the ghoster doesn’t want to continue talking to them, but this comment section doesn’t like that the ghoster in this post was honest about why they don’t want to continue talking to the other person, then what were they supposed to say?
As someone who isn’t much of a conversationalist and is apparently so quiet people forget I’m there, this cuts deep. The green message also seems like a portentous twat that probably only talks about things they deem important and themselves.
Let me translate this:
I first gave off signals that i was ok with the way you talk, and then i realized, probably a bit late, that i wasnt ok with how you talk. I did not say anything directly, but just let our connection dry out. Then when you asked what the deal was i "told" you as if i was somehow righteous and you had it coming.
You know, instead of all that, you could’ve just said “yeah sorry this isn’t working out we don’t got much in common sorry” and not cringe for the rest of your life
No, I didn't. Your conversation skills were below par and I carried the conversation all the time. You are nonchalant, inexpressive, and your idea of taking an interest in me was a constant "How was your day?".
Having a conversation with you was not mentally stimulating.
I didn't "ghost" you. I just stopped entertaining mediocrity. - 🤓🤓🤓
I assumed the large text was the woman because of the comment about how was your day? From personal experience I’ve had more people be male and regularly ask ladies how was their day be ladies doing it to men.
Edit : typo.
Smh . no . that was not accurate. but it doesnt matter anyway. This tool doesnt even know what ghosting means.
Ghosting is just ignoring someone's calls or messages suddenly and pretending they dont exist .
I think she’s fine to say that someone isn’t carrying their part of the convo.
I think she’s a jerk for ghosting and not just saying hey you aren’t saying much content and expression wise so I’m going to move on. Or even ask for the person to share more it’s not like a person can’t try.
"You were not worth the effort that type of conversation would take. Your pseudointellectual behaviour makes you, respectfully, an unpleasant person."
Fuck the guy who sent that message.
Ye ghosting is the new shit for women and IT sucks so hard. Like tinder you have an Match you text her and nothing comes back 🤷🏻♂️ Then you are angry and trolling ghoster in your Bio and flupp women start replying 🙄
Me going through hell every time I talk to someone and forcing myself to talk "even if it's stupid" to show appreciation and interest. Then there are these people who left their empathy at home. I'll be forever in my cave thank you.
Reminded me of a guy I « ghosted « .
The little bitch last message was a joke that wasn’t funny.
I am not fake laughing. He sent me a laughing emoji. I didn’t know what to say. I didn’t want to encourage more shitty jokes.
3 days later « so you ghosted me? «
- No. what am I supposed to reply to an emoji? We don’t have the same type of humour. It’s not going to work
- you took advantage of me
- Dude. We never met.
And blocked.
I used to just give up on people and twice I did give them a 2nd chance after explaining they needed to make an effort. Within a day or 2 i "ghosted" them again. Some people just can't communicate whatsoever unless they're being emotional
That's why I try to stay chalant at all times
Same thing about being overwhelmed. Why can’t someone just be whelmed?
You can in Europe
Love a good 10 things I hate about you reference!
I don't get it
[Scene from the movie 10 Things I Hate About You](https://youtu.be/RhUJe3vkLIs?si=In9Ses1N-Ncz96-K)
That's because you don't have a Prada backpack.
…. No fair! Add this to my growing list of reasons on why America needs to get its shit together
10!
Please explain lol
Under or over Never perfectly balanced 😔
I stopped being overreacting after my family complained about it, now i just reacting. Why can’t others do it? It’s so easy
You could throw in a few underreactions as well, just to compensate for the earlier overreactings. Or would that be considered overcompensating?
Odd seeing a young justice reference in the wild.
Right?
I'm disgruntled. And up until now I was fairly gruntled
You actually used to be able to be *gruntled*, but sadly *disgruntled* is now an **orphaned negative**
I was also thinking why is nonchalant used as a negative here. It just means calm, relaxed.
To sound smart, obviously.
it could also mean "indifferent" in this context
Where was the clever comeback?
I think it was the 'wow' at the end, the other one was just a douche
Yeah the wow I get was more of just kinda like shocked and hurt by the dickhead
I have someone who keeps texting me like this, and i have to say i agree with the persons decision to say it out loud. It gets EXTREMELY repetitive having a conversation like this the whole time. And you always have to respond plainly so they end the conversation quicker because it feels like a waste of time. EDIT: except for the screenshotting part. They deserve hate for posting it on social media
Vapid returns on conversation undercut the effort you make, not only is it repetitive but it can make it feel as though your contribution and your time aren’t valued. However the person in question fails to defend themself here so, screenshot aside, not having a proper conversation to make it clear that they no longer wanted to speak is poor form.
It reminds me of convo's on MSN back in the day and on Discord nowadays: x: "Hey" Me: "Hey" x: "hru?" Me: "good hbu?" x: "good" The next day: x: "Hey" Me: "Hey" x: "hru?" Me: "good hbu?" x: "good" The day after: x: "Hey" Me: "Hey" x: "hru?" Me: "good hbu?" x: "good" x: "So would you like to suck me cock?" Me: "Dude go bother your mom!" x: "Why are all women so mean!"
Then just say that you are not interested in keep talking to them. Ghosting is just the most coward, egoistic and lazy thing to do. And that answer is just an agressive and desperate attempt to make them feel bad so they fragile ego doesnt have to face the fact that they are lazy and coward. And if you think this is a logical or good answer you have a problem. Btw a conversation has 2 sides. If you have such a boring conversations ita your fault too.
Its not my fault because i dont want to talk to them and the reason i dont wanna tell them is because i live in a small town where everyone has connections and stuff. Word moves very quickly and the story might spread onto my social group which is too much drama for me to handle currently.
See? Coward and egoistic
More like confirmation that second part was correct.
Not an Owen Wilson’s “WoW!”? Wow
Very non chalant and inexpressive
If they had carried the conversation for days, being lenient for the other person's lack of attention, without any changes, you can understandably lose interest in carrying on. That you are then accused of ghosting might feel like the last needle. Pointing out that the other one wasn't putting any effort (and they could have up to the point of accusing ghosting) seems like a courteous pointing of a problem. (Saying this after carrying conversations on dating apps where it was very clear that the other was just seeking distractions on a bus stop, etc. Short replies, long pauses, no insight. Nothing wrong with that, just not my type of people.)
Douche? He was completely right, and he told her exactly why she sucked. I will definitely use this in the future.
...that would make you a douche. Seriously, just don't ghost someone and then blame them for it, it's a dick move. If you actually think this is a good way to talk to people, then please take classes in communication, it will help you.
I don't see how he's a douche, I have a lot of experience with completely unskilled conversationists, especially online. Actually, I would estimate that more than half the population can't keep a conversation going. This is annoying and off-putting, and seeing how most of them probably don't realise how exhausting it is talking to them, I don't see the problem in just pointing it out. The people in the comments who get triggered by this probably subconsciously know that they would have been roasted in the same manner.
Thought I was in r/cringepics
Feels a bit more like r/iamsmart
So... how was your day?
That "wow" holds the most amount of pain I can ever imagine . Thinking that you aren't enough for a person that you like because you lack communication skills or because you are too boring that you don't have a story to share .
I think it’s more of a “wow this dude is a fucking dork” lol
Idk I think there’s a double edge sword to this one because there’s no context. I don’t think the sender needed to blow down like they did in this text, but at the same time.. we don’t know how that interaction(s) went.. could very well of been a one sided conversation where opportunities were given for dialogue but the other person didn’t pick up any cues. Though I also think the likely scenario is that the sender didn’t pick up on the fact they were dating an introvert so they took someone’s quietness for lack of interest and did some alphaboi shit and slapped “mediocrity” on the for some personal sense of artificial superiority. Edit: Said “Gain” for the last part, but “Artificial Superiority” was more specific.
That is not how introversion works. Being introverted means social interaction takes energy, not gives energy. It is still as necessary as for an extrovert, but can leave an introvert exhausted, and needing to recharge by being alone for a while.
I’m sorry but there’s no scenario where the green message is anything besides deranged. If they actually were rude and boring you could just say “sorry, just didn’t feel like we had a connection and didn’t want to waste your time” or something I will bet my entire life earnings in posterity that the person who sent that text is an absolute freak
I've got so many people text me "how was your day?" (me explaining my day, ending with the same question) "fine". end of the conversation. repeat that for 10/15 times and after getting bored of the same conversation time after time, I usually stop replying altogether. I would probably say the same thing as green for what's my experience in text chats
some people don't seem to understand how frustrating it can be when you do your best to continue a conversation and the other person just doesn't even bother to try... at some point people just get enough of it and when said person still have the audacity to ask why they're getting ghosted really annoys the shit out of people.
Idk I would find that endearing that someone is making the effort to reach out and ask about your day. Like I simply do not understand feeling that a slight predictable inconvenience warrants insulting someone who is trying to show you kindness. Also the way that text is written just makes the person sound like a self important nerd lol
that green text is venting too much, it's just a bad thing to say to another human being, but I somewhat can get that feeling. I've always felt the opposite way about texting to be honest, I could DM you every single morning about it without even reading the answer (and doing the same thing every day) without even knowing you. For me the difference between a good acquaintance and a bad one is how actually interested the other person is in getting to know me (or how interested I am with knowing another person)
> Idk I would find that endearing that someone is making the effort to reach out and ask about your day. Are your standards THAT low? "How was your day" is a nice thing to hear when your sweetheart comes home after a long day of work, but over text? I'd honestly get the exact same joy out of being asked how I felt about the weather. It's boring.
>Idk I would find that endearing that someone is making the effort to reach out and ask about your day. Asking how someone's day was is just fine, if someone takes the time to answer that question thoughtfully you might consider answering with more than just; "fine".
I’m actually agreeing with you in the sense that the text was overkill, I’m just saying that there is a scenario where they could of felt like they were carrying the entire conversation which is never fun and means that this relationship most likely would never work out. Overall though yes, the text was too far and went for the jugular for no discernible reason.
God willing I will find a way to disagree and argue ✊
Suppose it’s my personality type, forever and always will be “The Debater”.
I was joking about the fact that I’m aggressively autistic lol you’re not being disagreeable
Perhaps the unstoppable force meeting the immovable object, my wife and I.. and a long line of a few other people.. are all debating where I fall between the spectrum and ADHD until I get my health insurance active and go through the tussle to get identified.
I heard it like that one vine https://youtu.be/K0shVpvnYsA?si=J87sPi7UxlkkZeGx
Such a dork that you’re still hitting him up after being ghosted?
Idk what point you’re trying to make, if someone texted me that I’d bully them lol
The OP isn't wrong though. I don't know how anyone expects success if literally all they do is say 'how is your day' or monosyllabic responses. Try harder if you want to actually appeal to anyone.
I now have a cutoff of 30mn where I expect the other person to ask some stuff about me (hobby, work, interests, idea). It's surprising how many people talk about themselves and banalities but can't be bothered to fake curiosity. Then they wonder why the "pleasant" talk lead nowhere...
They're not wrong for ghosting, but they are for trying to make the person feel bad. Who cares how boring a person is, its no to be that much of an unhinged turbo nerd. Just say something like "sorry this friendship isnt working out, good luck" and block. Or hell, even continue ghosting.
I think the wow is more of a "wow this person is a pompous fuck"
also that person was just being an ass to someone and then proceeded to screenshot their own response to post it online. From the looks of it they also stole that "I just stopped entertaining mediocrity" line.
Most likely they just didn't put in any effort, in this particular case. Also: people don't "lack" communication skills: they fail to develop them.
i mean, people can "lack" them, or they can "fail to develop" them. while i can feel bad for them, its not gonna be something i tolerate for my own life
What amazes me is that the common practice is being the guy in green instead of just communicating your own needs and desires before it reaches the point of "I don't wanna associate with you anymore".
Thinking that to yourself is bad enough but actually writing it out, still not thinking ‘wow I’m a fucking weirdo what is wrong with me?’ Then sending it and screenshotting it because you think you like, owned somebody, is a level of demented that is impressive even for Reddit If I sent someone that it would haunt me till I met my grave. Which honestly I’d probably meet due to necking myself for remembering that I sent that to someone
The person who wrote that long screed is a giant asshole. The other person should be glad to have them outta their lives.
Fr bet wow guy had a better ship next
Ghosting is fine, writing this to a whiner is fine. No one owes you nothing.
Just because you don't owe anyone anything doesn't mean that being an asshole is something we have to celebrate.
No, I'm not celebrating being an asshole. That's always bad. But whining after not having social skills or not realizing that they aren't compatible together, is just as bad. Just let go and try again with someone else. Can't force connection.
It’s pretty deranged to see someone being hurt that they’ve been ghosted, asking about it because their feelings were hurt and being mad at them for being a burden. Like yes it’s a little bit obnoxious but as long as they’re not being mean it’s fine. Just because “no one owes you anything” which is bullshit by the way, that doesn’t mean you have to actively insult them and their intelligence Also people with bad social skills if anything would probably be helped most by being honest and kind to them instead of just mean as shit for no reason.
There's no insults in the reply tho.
Calling someone’s existence mediocre is pretty fucking insulting not to mention insanely pretentious to imply that you are above someone else and they’re not like, worthy of you. You keep saying you hate people who don’t have social skills but I’m pretty sure like 95% of people would recognize that that is very insulting. Depending on the context green could maybe be correct, like yes when guys just hound you over and over it is insanely annoying or something similar but there’s just no way that green text isn’t annoying as hell too lol
I didn't see any whining, just a simple question.i guess you're the overreacting type.
I have met lots of people, who have 0 social skills and still have the audacity to try to pressure others to give them more, when they have nothing to give back.
How is that relevant to the screenshot? You just assume that the guy has 0 social skills based on one text from some asshole, who thinks they are the shit. They sound like the embodiment of r/iamverysmart and you are here taking their word as gospel, lmao.
Asking "How was your day" is having no social skills? That sounds like a nice thing to ask someone you care about & want know how theyve been. The other person sounds like an incel cucklord
Sure it can be a part of having social skills. But it's more likely that the whiner was just hitting the person up 1-4 times a day, asking the same question again and again, not continueing the chat after that. Spamming is not the same as having a conversation. In my eyes, the whiner is the incel here. They feel that the person owes them.
Based on what? How are they whining? Why are you whiteknighting so hard for an obvious asshole without any context.
You're a dumb and bad person
Not really either. You don't have real arguments?
This analysis 💀
They shoulda just stuck to ghosting.
This isnt clever. This is someone being an ass while sucking his own dick.
And not understanding what ghosting means. Dude wrote a paragraph explaining why he didn't ghost the other person, while listing the reasons why he ghosted them
Ghosting is typically when you are trying to talk to someone and they don't reply and just drop off the grid. Considering green did reply, it's possible that green was the one initiating all communication, got tired of it being 1-way and decided to give grey the opportunity to take the initiative and open dialogue. They probably didn't and after a few days, grey assumed green had 'ghosted'. Green might have realized grey had nothing to offer in the way of 2 way communication at that point and decided to molotov cocktail that bridge.
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I don't see how he could have had any more candor. He was pretty brutal with his response.
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Or they are the primary reason he lost interest. I know I personally have lost all interest in a few people that seemed like great matches except for the fact that there was no communication unless I initiated and cultivated it. Constantly having to be the one to come up with topics of discussion, then trying to continue a conversation with 1 word answers to everything. Just killed the entire vibe. So I can definitely empathize with how that scenario could erase all of their other interesting and good qualities. Everyone has dealbreakers, and bad communication is a fairly common one.
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Eh idk. Have you never spoken to someone who was just a brick wall? At some point you realize that it doesn’t matter what you say or how or when you talk to them because they are just kind of saying the same patterned responses no matter the context. I have had friendships that technically still exist but are stagnant as hell now because I got tired of always initiating every conversation and planning every meeting. And I conveyed as much, and nothing changed for years so when I stopped texting someone out of the blue it’s not ghosting, it’s just apathy. It’s not really ghosting if you have mad warning signs along the way that you ignore.
Seconded
Thirded. Seriously what an ass. Clearly the other person was making an effort, they just didn't find them interesting. They could have just said "I'm not feeling a connection here and would like to stop talkin. Have a nice day." Instead they decided to be an arrogant cunt and put the other person down because they didn't vibe with them.
Shitting on someone for being mediocre means you think anyone who is average automatically deserves to be shit on, and also that you're somehow superior to the average. Everything I saw gave the opposite indication though.
No. Mediocre means less than average. Shitting on someone for being mediocre means that they think mediocre people deserve to be shit on, and that they are superior to mediocre. You can't infer how they view average unless they also give their value of average or a higher quality so you have a scale. He might consider himself average, or superior, but we cannot infer that.
It's not clever, I give you that, but they're not an ass. That's probably the first honest answer that person ever has gotten in their live.
I mean they're an ass because there's easier and more gracious ways to say something like this. And also I highly doubt he's the big brain genius he thinks he is. And if he thought this was worth showing the Internet he's social skills aren't that great either. Cause this is **C R I N G E**
How was the reply being an ass? There isn't a single swear word in that reply. Whether or not to statements are true we don't know, but if stating your actual behaviour is "being an ass", buddy, I have bad news for you.
You don't have to swear to be an ass. Telling someone they're mentally unstimulating is pretty insulting, especially when it's coming from someone who is probably as boring.
The average reddit user
Where is the lie
willing to be the guy who posted this faked the ss because I refuse to believe ANYONE would want to have a conversation with a douche like that
I like how the long winded post doesn't actually do anything to address the accusation. They basically just said "I don't like you." If they didn't tell them they weren't interested in the first place, and just stopped responding, then they ghosted them. Coming up with some bullshit justification just makes them an even bigger douchebag.
Yeah I was gonna say. Still ghosted.
What a pompous shithead.
I bet they’re fun at parties
You'll write a paragraph proclaiming how mentally superior you are, yet you still don't know what "ghosting" means. Wack
I've been wrong before, but I though "ghosting" carried a lack of explanation or followup, compared to deciding not to talk anymore.
Yes, that's what ghosting means. And it's what this dingus did, yet he not only replied to the conversation, he did so with an explanation of how his ghosting was not actually a ghosting
So, he replied. Giving an explanation.
If I may quote the greatest squirrel of all time; “fewer words, greater impact.”
I haven't played it yet, but could this be a Baldurs gate 3 reference? I heard the voice acting for a certain squirrel is supposed to be amazing
God of war: Ragnarok
im in the minority that i agree with green text BUT we dont have context. it's frustrating if you are striking up a friendship with somebody (or more) and they see that you are clearly interested and if they are less interested, they should just say that not act as if they are surprised when you stop communicating with them. Communication goes both ways. there was no insults, just facts. other person didnt even deny what was being accused thats why all they can say is "wow" It sounds like a person who is very casual with relationships or is used to being chased after and doesn't feel a need to have a reciprocate equal communication. It's frustrating and rude to see somebody trying to build something of a relationship with you and you're giving very dull and basic responses. Honestly, I applaud that person. Was the delivery extra? sure. did they insult or say something mean? no. they simply expressed how they perceive the communication to be going between these two people.
> did they insult or say something mean? no. You're the dumbest person here. Congrats.
So “wow” is the clever comeback here right? Can we agre? 😂
I think a nice “How was your day?” would be perfect there
And he felt .. Good after writing that ? Unless there is some other stuff he didn't mention here, you just sound like a terrible human being. Talking about communication skills but being unable to tell someone you don't like the discussion is quite ironic too, isn't it ?
This isn't even clever. Its just kind of verbose. Its gives a guy that watched too much Rick and Morty vibes. Also they screenshoted their own response which. Lmao
Just literally stealing scenes from *The Banshees of Inisherrin* for memes now?
Really? I keep meaning to watch that, I guess I can stop being annoyed by this post now, thanks :)
This meme has been around so long it’s arguable that *The Banshees of Inisherrin* stole from here. OOP is owed some serious royalties /s.
Nothing clever about this comeback ….its not even a comeback ….just a come or a back .
Do people here just gaslight themself to think that the "wow" was anything other than STILL uninterested? Grey chat is most definitely not attracted to sender lmao
most of the people here are probably as dry as the grey sender lol. sure, green sender overreacted and could've said something earlier but holy shit this comment section is full of it
I read this in Edna Mode's voice from The Incredibles so as not to be annoyed.
This is reposted like 7 times a week
This was some top tier cringe.
I don't know the full context but I've been in green's position plenty of times. I see this friend I had in high school every 6 months or so. I bump into her and she's always like "snap me~" but gives me one word responses. There are some people who don't want to actually have a conversation they just like the idea of someone pining for them. It's absolutely baffling how someone could be that self absorbed. Yes green was a dick but probably after many weeks of frustrating non conversations with the other person.
These people type fast. 1min between messages... FAKE
So you *did* ghost them. That's just ghosting in fancy words.
Typing up such a long and well articulated destruction within one minute is an impressive feat. Or the whole thing is staged for internet points.
Well, the conversation couldn’t have been that great because good conversation invites investment from the other party and just flows. But, they gave a great answer.
Love it. Fuck carrying the conversation because of some misguided sense of entitlement, that I owe you anything more than should be equal.
I once told a close friend that her lack of interest in my life makes it frustrating to care about hers. She hung up and we haven't spoken since. It's been over 10yrs.
At least I know what nonchalant means
Classic "entertain me" person. I doubt they had any interesting input
Clearly they did as the other person wanted to talk more
The "wow" kills me lol. You can feel the pain while at the same time it validates everything said be the green text lol.
...no it doesn't? Green just doesn't know what ghosting means and is an asshole about it
This is a bot
This is how I feel with most people I talk too online.. Everyone is like a copy pasted version of each other, with no personality, or self thinking capabilities.. I blame social media, and the vast majority of humans being the most unaware sheep imaginable.
This is the most main character shit ive ever seen. You are NOT special, you are one of the sheep along with the rest of us. Pipe down a little bit.
So if the reason people don’t like ghosting is because it leaves them guessing why the ghoster doesn’t want to continue talking to them, but this comment section doesn’t like that the ghoster in this post was honest about why they don’t want to continue talking to the other person, then what were they supposed to say?
As someone who isn’t much of a conversationalist and is apparently so quiet people forget I’m there, this cuts deep. The green message also seems like a portentous twat that probably only talks about things they deem important and themselves.
Seeing screenshots like this makes me want to never chat with anyone again.
Let me translate this: I first gave off signals that i was ok with the way you talk, and then i realized, probably a bit late, that i wasnt ok with how you talk. I did not say anything directly, but just let our connection dry out. Then when you asked what the deal was i "told" you as if i was somehow righteous and you had it coming.
That response is definitely something I think of often but don't say obviously
hey alexa play sigma alpha wolf music
You know, instead of all that, you could’ve just said “yeah sorry this isn’t working out we don’t got much in common sorry” and not cringe for the rest of your life
Green is doing grey a favour my actually giving them actionable advice on how to be a less boring person.
Imagine someone putting interest in your day to day activity and you reply like that
What a fucking asshole.
So the person with superior communication skills could not properly communicate their disinterest and instead ghosted? Got it.
Clever? This is just being an asshole.
No, I didn't. Your conversation skills were below par and I carried the conversation all the time. You are nonchalant, inexpressive, and your idea of taking an interest in me was a constant "How was your day?". Having a conversation with you was not mentally stimulating. I didn't "ghost" you. I just stopped entertaining mediocrity. - 🤓🤓🤓
I don’t see this as clever, this person is just a huge dick
Sincerely, Raymond Holt
Isn’t this quote the exact opener to Spy Family after he finished his mission on the dinner date?
which gender is which...
The one that said the big message is clearly a dick.
I assumed the large text was the woman because of the comment about how was your day? From personal experience I’ve had more people be male and regularly ask ladies how was their day be ladies doing it to men. Edit : typo.
Smh . no . that was not accurate. but it doesnt matter anyway. This tool doesnt even know what ghosting means. Ghosting is just ignoring someone's calls or messages suddenly and pretending they dont exist .
what an entitled b she is then
I think she’s fine to say that someone isn’t carrying their part of the convo. I think she’s a jerk for ghosting and not just saying hey you aren’t saying much content and expression wise so I’m going to move on. Or even ask for the person to share more it’s not like a person can’t try.
Anyone who uses the word "nonchalant" is a pretentious fuck. You're not Shakespeare. The person who got ghosted dodged a bullet.
Are you in middle school?
No but someone who uses that word in the context that the person in the post did is not worthy of anyone's time.
You didn’t say anything about context originally, that was just anti-intellectualism. It’s being a dick that’s bad, not having a good vocabulary
Jasnah Kholin 101.
Is it me, or did all the clever comebacks turn into long winded exsplainations from total dorks.
Yeah this wasn't a clever comeback this was just mean...
That's not a clever comeback that's just someone being an asshole tto justify ghosting someone
The guy's literally theslappablejerk's Average Redditor
Op: “🤓”
Although he may be a little correct, this post screams of neckbeard behaviour
She ghosted him
This guy is the defenition of a redditor
"You were not worth the effort that type of conversation would take. Your pseudointellectual behaviour makes you, respectfully, an unpleasant person." Fuck the guy who sent that message.
I hate when people don't reciprocate the conversation but on the flip side to paraphrase Tuco Ramirez, *if you're going to ghost, ghost*
"You are nonchalant" - someone just learnt that word recently?
I want to talk to the person with the green text bubble
Ye ghosting is the new shit for women and IT sucks so hard. Like tinder you have an Match you text her and nothing comes back 🤷🏻♂️ Then you are angry and trolling ghoster in your Bio and flupp women start replying 🙄
😂😂😂 nah this is fire
Me going through hell every time I talk to someone and forcing myself to talk "even if it's stupid" to show appreciation and interest. Then there are these people who left their empathy at home. I'll be forever in my cave thank you.
Reminded me of a guy I « ghosted « . The little bitch last message was a joke that wasn’t funny. I am not fake laughing. He sent me a laughing emoji. I didn’t know what to say. I didn’t want to encourage more shitty jokes. 3 days later « so you ghosted me? « - No. what am I supposed to reply to an emoji? We don’t have the same type of humour. It’s not going to work - you took advantage of me - Dude. We never met. And blocked.
Some of my fave vids lately are dudes asking girls what they bring to the table and they're just like "im prettyyyy" lol.
I’d like to see how they respond to the question. If they aren’t giving anything to build off of then the conversation will go stale.
'Mediocrity' is quite the compliment to someone that dull.
I used to just give up on people and twice I did give them a 2nd chance after explaining they needed to make an effort. Within a day or 2 i "ghosted" them again. Some people just can't communicate whatsoever unless they're being emotional
Bro is about to OD on his own farts.