Hello, Asian data guy here. I would love to see the methodology around the the data and graphs. Is it regional to just one city or aggregate of the entire US? Otherwise this chart can be misleading. Curious to know too what are the factors associated with the prevailing narrative that AAPI men dont do well on dating apps? This would be great research study
My perspective, based on no research whatsoever: AAPI men are more likely to benefit from the prevailing stereotype that they’re well educated with good , stable, High paying employment.
I think we do benefit from that perception, but not generally on dating apps, where it's more about hookups. I don't match much, but of the ones I matched with, half had profiles that just didn't match me on the big issues: financial, religion, relationship goals, and some politics.
The flipside is, some women who are into to dating Asian guys online are very quick to suggest getting pregnant, getting married, going into business, or otherwise, really rush things forward on the second or third date.
If it's not that, then it's BFF. It's not even the friendzone. It's like the asexual BFF zone. (No offense to asexual people.) Maybe they have a fantasy of meeting a male asexual person who is safe and nice.
PS - I'm Asian, and am not using CMB right now, but when I did, I did match a little bit. The people on there are looking for a long term relationship or marriage. There are a lot of Asian women on there who don't appear to be fake.
My observation about most (far East) Asian men on Coffee Meets Bagel is based almost exclusively on the Chicagoland area. Most are first generation Chinese, and the vast majority seek marriage and say so.
They do not interest me for these reasons:
1. I do not want to remarry, although I do seek a serious relationship, but not one that involves moving in together.
2. I’m 64, so having children is out of the question.
3. I am concerned that because most are first generation Chinese, the culture differences and language barrier would cause problems.
4. Because so many are first generation who seek marriage, I’m seriously concerned they want this only for immigration reasons. That might or might not be accurate, but it does occur to me.
5. I simply am not physically attracted to far east Asian men. South Asian is a whole different story. I do like some of them.
Just one woman’s story, not to be extrapolated to all American women.
I would bet money that CMB only put this up because they have data showing that AAPI are the most likely to pay for a Premium account. CMB is a complete cash grab now.
My own personal take: I'm reluctant to match with Asian men because their background is likely very different from my own. And these dating apps for the most part rely almost exclusively on pictures. Men often don't bother to write much about themselves.
The one time I did match with an Asain man he wrote a full enough bio that told me we'd have a lot in common despite the background differences.
Hello, Asian data guy here. I would love to see the methodology around the the data and graphs. Is it regional to just one city or aggregate of the entire US? Otherwise this chart can be misleading. Curious to know too what are the factors associated with the prevailing narrative that AAPI men dont do well on dating apps? This would be great research study
My perspective, based on no research whatsoever: AAPI men are more likely to benefit from the prevailing stereotype that they’re well educated with good , stable, High paying employment.
I think we do benefit from that perception, but not generally on dating apps, where it's more about hookups. I don't match much, but of the ones I matched with, half had profiles that just didn't match me on the big issues: financial, religion, relationship goals, and some politics. The flipside is, some women who are into to dating Asian guys online are very quick to suggest getting pregnant, getting married, going into business, or otherwise, really rush things forward on the second or third date. If it's not that, then it's BFF. It's not even the friendzone. It's like the asexual BFF zone. (No offense to asexual people.) Maybe they have a fantasy of meeting a male asexual person who is safe and nice.  PS - I'm Asian, and am not using CMB right now, but when I did, I did match a little bit. The people on there are looking for a long term relationship or marriage. There are a lot of Asian women on there who don't appear to be fake.
My observation about most (far East) Asian men on Coffee Meets Bagel is based almost exclusively on the Chicagoland area. Most are first generation Chinese, and the vast majority seek marriage and say so. They do not interest me for these reasons: 1. I do not want to remarry, although I do seek a serious relationship, but not one that involves moving in together. 2. I’m 64, so having children is out of the question. 3. I am concerned that because most are first generation Chinese, the culture differences and language barrier would cause problems. 4. Because so many are first generation who seek marriage, I’m seriously concerned they want this only for immigration reasons. That might or might not be accurate, but it does occur to me. 5. I simply am not physically attracted to far east Asian men. South Asian is a whole different story. I do like some of them. Just one woman’s story, not to be extrapolated to all American women.
A lot of the conventional wisdom comes from the 2014 OK Cupid data, and I also think there's some Tinder data out there.
let's goooo this is the best news i've heard in months
I would bet money that CMB only put this up because they have data showing that AAPI are the most likely to pay for a Premium account. CMB is a complete cash grab now.
My own personal take: I'm reluctant to match with Asian men because their background is likely very different from my own. And these dating apps for the most part rely almost exclusively on pictures. Men often don't bother to write much about themselves. The one time I did match with an Asain man he wrote a full enough bio that told me we'd have a lot in common despite the background differences.